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Few Tipps: Your Eye Contact appears more natural if you switch between the Eyes of the other Person. So just look into the left, then the right, then the left ect. he/she will barely realize it and you can hold eyecontact 100% of the time and you dont look like starring at him/her. You can add a more sensual touch by adding the mouth to the cycle. 100% of the time eye contact is what you want if you listen to someone. If you talk youre fine with 75%. The other 25% you can look around, just make sure you dont focus something else, especially not something which is behind the person you talk to. If you look someone into the eyes and he/she breaks eye contact by looking to the ground its a sign of submission. If a Girl does this its an invitation to aproach on her. All this basic rules of body language are universal. Breaking Eye Contact by looking to the ground is always submission. Holding Eye Contact is always a sign of dominance and confidence, the difference between asian and North American/European Culture is just that Asians abuse this subcounsious body language to activly show respect, while in Europe a lack of Eye Contact is considered "too submissive", unsteady or anxious.
Franz Ferdinand if you look at a girl and she looks down that means “ please don’t come talk to me”. She’ll hold eye contact if she wants you to approach
@@Dannndyy no it means she's uncomfortable with the stare, not necessarily uninterested. If I see a young attractive guy walking towards me in the street, I automatically look down, it seems to be innate. If a woman is uninterested, approached in a club, it is pretty obvious, she will move more towards her friends, possibly turn away from you all those body language cues.
@@zizi133 I completely agree. My gave my crush a gift, but was too nervous to watch his actual reaction, but he was excited about it and said how cool it was and when I turned to face him he had a genuine smile and held his arm out for me to give him a hug. I looked him in his eyes and smiled, but I was still shy and nervous and instinctually looked down as I stepped toward him. Eventhough I was happy he was smiling at me and wanted to hug me and we always had super intense eye contact before, I was overwhelmed with emotion in a good way.
Good Eye Contact Tip: It really depends on your verbal content. Example, if you're naturally a funny person, be sure to look "away" after saying something funny. Don't look at the person for a reaction & don't smile or laugh until they have smiled or laughed. The reason is simple, if you're not funny and you're looking at them for a reaction, then what you're really doing is forcing a smile or laugh.
I actually searched for this because I always look in eye when talking no matter who I an speaking to and guys most of the times get embarrassed and shy, trying to keep the eye contact but they feel kind of awkward so now I try not to keep eye contact for long than a few seconds I just think of eye contact as respect and also to tell them"hey I am listening"
In Malaysia, for the Malay,If you're listening attentively, look at the speaker with warmth in your eyes , looking while nodding means you're focus and very much appreciated. when you're sorry, looking down for a moment is a gesture of regret. rude gestures such as rolling eyes and staring, is pretty much unacceptable just like in other cultures. Btw, with a lot of advises, this is a very helpful video.
So beneficial. . It all about basic information. Most of the people all around the world still not aware of this. . Once they understand that's great. .any way great job thanks very much
Hey Antonio... I'm from India and have been following your videos for quite some time now. I too have to travel overseas on business and this is something I've noticed a lot. I think Indians are raised in a culture where we are taught to respect their elders...a respect we show by bowing to them and listening to them. Even to women, historically, men were not supposed to have long direct eye contacts... It was considered vulgar. We've come a long way since then but even today, direct eye contact is usually considered aggressive and disrespectful in our culture, period. I think when it comes to eye contact, people should consider cultural differences as one of the most important factors and adapt accordingly.
Ever since I started to look into people's eyes more often I realized that it's normal for most people and some people won't even take off their eyes off of mine when we're talking! Sometimes I find it super uncomfortable but it's kinda cute that they do it without thinking lol
Am Tega from Nigeria in West Africa, l really do love ur lecture on Eye contact. In culture where l hail from, children dont steer into the eyes of the adult talking to them ,this is to show a sign of respect. Good work.
I am Magda from Poland. You have helpful tips. Eye contact is so simply that everybody forget about how to do and they stressed because someone looked at them. thank you!
im from colombia but live in the philly and i learned that when we're talking and u look at the person with precision it makes them want to respect you more
I really admire the tips and tricks you presented in this video. I feel like I'm showing to much affection while making eye contact when really, I am trying to have a conversation. Also, i feel like eye contact is something hard to master due to insecurities or the fear that someone will notice some type of flaw about you. If I had the most perfect teeth in the world, that would really boost up my self confidence in social skills.
Thank you very much. It's the first time I hear someone with understanding of diversity about this topic. I have seen very shy people who avoid eye contact at all cost. It does not mean they're hiding anything or lying like is though in the US. Other cultures can perceive it as deferential, or even rude, or intrusive. You are a very nice man, and your channel is awesome. Thank you for all your tips.
Antonio, one of the things I trully appreciate about your videos is that you are devoted to helping men become Real Men with style. I'm brasilian, but I grew up in here in the united States of America. Although my parents thought me great values, I also had great male mentors, I learned a great deal from them. After learning and mastering this true art of attention. I have seen amazing results. I'll recommend beginning with your family first. Start with your wife, It will bring you great joy :-)
Thank you for the tips! This video just makes me realize how important of eye contact is. In my country, we don't care much about eye contact so every time I gave my presentation or talking with foreigners, I still feel awkward to have eye contact and sometimes I feel like westerners have so strong eye contact that make my brain blank even though I am studying English major and the country is starting to be international haha. I think I have to keep practicing. Thanks for sharing your experience From Thailand
had a conversation with someone, the other day, who said it freaked them out that I only looked into one of her eyes and didn't alternate between each eye. wasn't a lengthy conversation... no more than a couple of minutes. what are your thoughts on looking into one eye versus alternating eyes when making eye contact?
I having difficulties on looking at people's eyes I find it so uncomfortable now.. when I was growing up looking at peoples eyes while their talking is as natural as breathing. but I notice when I grew up I feel more conscious about people when their looking at me directly in the eye. I like this video because it's explaining how important it is to look at people's eyes while having a conversation. not telling you some technique how to fake it. thanks :)
Well, It was very helpful to me because I come from India and live in Europe. Many people have misunderstood me with my intentions because I didn't understand the eye contact rules in the west. And many times I don' even understand what they were thinking about my conversation with me. So, this series is helpful. I learnt the difference between staring and proper eye contact. Thanks.
Hey Antonio, I appreciate your stand about being sensitive to other cultures as we become a more global community. Also, great suggestions about eye contact; I wasn't taught the importance of eye contact when I was young.
I think about eye contact a lot however, I have nerve damage in my face while I have some facial expressions they are very limited. Sometimes I am wonder if my eye contact is taken as a stare rather than a sign of respect and paying attention. I think people take me to seriously when I'm saying something humorous or lighthearted.
I have been looking for a trustworthy channel concerning style and manners here on UA-cam for a while now. After watching this video I gotta say you have convinced me and I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos!
I think it all boils downs to how sincere and honest your are about the message you want to convey, & our subconscious mind will relay that body language/eye contact to sincere person willing to accept the meaning of the message..... every other act you are going perform for the rest of the audience is just waste of time....
I've always been one to not make much eye contact with others but have been doing so more often over the years. Forcing oneself to make more eye contact feels awkward but it helps to try your best. Something that I also noticed is that many people just arn't interesting to me and what others may be saying is unappealing or boring. I find that I naturally make more eye contact with interesting people that I want to engage with.
I recently came across these videos as i'm 34 and not a kid anymore and would like to dress sharper and give a better outward appearance than my usual jeans and running shoes with some kind of shirt. I will keep tuned in to these videos.
Antonio, you're spot on regarding cultures playing a part with eye contact. I was brought up in India and it was rude to make eye contact with elders. I live in the UK now and see the difference. I do find all your presentations helpful especially in the mens clothing area. Thanks so much.
Same! I suddenly thought about eye contact one day and looked it up on the internet, i found conflicting ideas that it was a dominance thing, or that it was a positive attention thing. I dunno wtf is going on any more so i just do whatever i feel comfortable with but still make an effort to make a lot of eye contact. Its a weird thing isnt it. But I do like it when someone gives me a lot of EC just as long as they dont make their eyes too large or intense when they do
Hey thanks for the advice, I'm a 16 year old (Minnesota) considering going into business for a career in Sales and Marketing and just being able to hear tips and ideas of how to make it and improve my skills is always something I enjoy :) great video.
@TheMax8900 Great to hear and thank you sir for your comment sir. Curious - what part of India are you from? I found that with such a vast country you all have a wide range of culture differences as well!
Great advices! One more thing to add is that never stare down towards your feet or any body part of the person you are speaking with. You may seem uninterested thus perceived as rude.
Hi! I am Hanna from New Zealand and we are a very multi-cultural country. At school we learn a lot about multiculturalism but some teachers see it as rude when a person does not keep eye contact.
I'm South African, and was raised to know that when an adult is talking to you, its rude to look at them in the eye, you must look on the floor but agree to show that you are listening. But the school I went to is a multiracial school and our teachers were mostly English, they would tell us to look at them when they spoke to us. so it was a bit confusing, I learned to act different depending on who I'm speaking to. I like this video, you make good points. :D
You are so right I am Chinese and actually we really don't pay attention to eye contact because when we talk with people we didn't really make eye contact it is not so important. And I just realise that eye contact is important because I made a friend that makes a lot of eye contact so Thankyou for your video it helps me to understand more about that.
I am from China but I lived in Japan and US for several years. I agree that cultures do make differences in eye contacts. Speaking from my opinion about eye contacts in Japan and China, I would say eye contact are usually avoided when you and others don't a officially agreed interest such as business partner or potential client because people don't want to be misunderstood as having sexual interest. but if you and the person have a common interest or working toward a same goal
I have another point of view...shoot from the hip and see who's standing in the end, then collect their contact info. But I am also an artist, which means that my goal isn't necessarily to be all inclusive, but instead highly effective to a target audience that will remain over time. Great videos. I'm learning a lot. Love the suit.
I'm from India and eye contact does has impact on our culture .but there are do's and dont's . For any serious discussion,compliment, convincing someone we need to make eye contact . With elders specially in families we aren't advised to make eye contact . P.S. Thanks for the video .please keep uploading such videos .
I am the Asian of Hmong people. I have learned for talking without eye contact since I know how to communicate. We consider talk with eye contact is in-respectful. We make eye contact when we mad each other. I leaned this from my childhood. Now when I came to American, it's hard for me because it became my habitual. But I learn every for this culture when I talk to my boss. I got many people judge with my eye contact in this western world. However thanks for your post and direct. If you see Asian people don't make eye contact, it doesn't mean that they don't pay attention or don't trust. I think we need to understand for what of their culture to define about their eye contact.
I'm 18 and from Romania - I am so glad I came across your videos They are so helpful and I can really just learn so many things from them because they are so easy to understand and follow. and I've just subscribed :D
hi i am from INDIA.... i always had this problem of not knowing when to have an eye contact and when not to.... i found the video very useful.... thanks a lot...... i have implemented and tried your tips.... what i found or learnt rather is, it all depends on the person with whom i communicate..... i can see myself improving...... thanks a lot........
Very good point about keeping up gestures and such while listening, in case your paying attention comes off as a stare; will have to pay attention and see if I'm guilty of it! Another Irishman here. I've found that when you're talking, eye-contact could be kept up a bit longer than you've mentioned in the video, making sure it's split up evenly throughout the group. When you're being spoken to, however, you tend to keep eye contact the same length of time as the speaker, if you catch my drift.
Hi, I'm a male viewer from Singapore. We do not have any specific rule to having eye contact. Personally, I have problems having eye contact with my male friends, whereas I try my best to maintain eye contact with the women in my life, especially those I have interest in. Anyway, keep doing these videos, I love them.
frankly i wanna be like you....you give such good advice...i'm from maldives and i'm living in bangladesh..and here i think it's one of those places you can't make eye contact...but i try to...and i feel the same too...making eye contact while talking is very important...thank you for the awesome video
I'm from the Philippines Eye contact is very important every time you talking to someone to get his trust, we believed if you talking to someone without Eye contact it means you telling I lie , And that's what I learned from my parents..
I live in North Carolina but I'm from Nicaragua. Eye contact in my culture is very fundamental, especially when a person is in a higher hierarchy than you (father, son; professor, student). I believe that you don't have someone's full attention until they look at you in the eyes as you speak. When talking to women, though, there are many things to consider: body language, blinking, and hand gestures. It is also seen as disrespectful to fixate your eyes below their chin. Cheers!
It's important to point out that eye contact works best when you ears are on and listening well! again begin practicing this at home, and your family will love yoh for it! Try adding some open ended questions to your such as: Wow, really?, tell me more about that? Be sincere, not sarcastic! your friends and family will love you for it! Soon you will become a King among nations! Antonio, Thanks for all the great material you have been putting out this year! Wish you great success for 2013!
Hey Antonio, hope you're doing great. I just started to watch all of your videos and I must confess i'm learning a lot and in a very positive way. I'm from Brazil and I'm working really hard improving my eye contact and other aspects of my behaviour and I already feel more comfortable when talking to people, specially women. Thanks for everything keep up the great work. Greetings from Brazil!
I too live in the states but it being a diversely cultured place, some eye contact rules change situationally, The best way to determine what the person prefers is to be able to read other facial and body language gestures, for example if you give someone the respectful eye contact gesture they may show a bit of anger or discomfort if it is the wrong gesture for what they are saying or just to that person. The entire thing is based on feedback, so if someone doesn't give any kind of inappropriate feedback then feel free to maintain the eye contact you are currently displaying
Australia. We're half way between the US and the UK. The big difference I think is that avoiding eye contact either indicates fear or means that person is ignoring you depending on body language.
I think eye contact is very important not just in the USA but in many other culture specially here in Europe. thank for the video very helpful and interesting!
Thanks for your PS tips. They are really great. On many occasions in our culture (Ganda) when you are not confident with your eyes, it is a sign of fear and mistrust we even have a legend proverb that says "Fearful eyes greet the host or the house lord". In this case, of PS any speaker is always the host. Once you are given the chance to speak, you are given the power to take over.
Here in Chile it's very like the same than over there mister. The people from little towns is very friendly and make a lot of eye contact. Even if you are unknown they will look at your eyes, smile and say "good evening". But if you go to big cities people almost think of you as a creep if you look at an unknown person and say hello. I'm from the capital, but my manners are very kind, and people is impressed when you have manners and are educated.
In persian (Iranian) culture having eye contact is very rude, especially if you are talking to an elderly people you should look on the ground. (Which is really bad, now that I am living in USA I know how great it is to look at others people's eyes and talk to them, I LOVE IT!
Forgive me for my bad english. I would like to thank you for the advice I have a lot of trouble having a good conversation with people in general and it helped me a lot, many "4" people complimented me on the way I look at them during conversations. Thanks
Hahaha I mess with my teachers by "staring" at them with out blinking I know it makes them feel some type of way, it's funny when they try to hold eye contact with me because they notice I don't blink and they feel again some type of way and look away and back at me and away quickly hahah it's fun. Alpha looks away last.
Great video , i‘m from Egypt ..and here most of the people learn how to use eye contact , back in the days it wasn‘t really that important here but now it‘s very important to eye contact with people so thanks for the video it‘s really been a great help to me
I'm from Sudan ,, we really don't make an eye contact with some people , as you said it's a sign of respect there , we look at the ground when we shake hands with the people who we respect !
Hi. I am from South East Asia, Cambodia. I can tell that your video is very helpful for me and even for all the people. Hmm....but I still have a problem that whenever I did a presentation in class and when I tried to use the eyes contact to my classmates, It was like I forgot all the words that I was about to say when I looked into their eyes. And till now I still couldn't find the way to fix it. Hope you can tell me some more tips. I really appreciate it.
Thank you so much for all your videos. I have watched quite a few of them by now and I must say they have really helped me out a lot of times, especially when I first started to wear a suit, and a lot when it comes to my body language. Thank you so much Mr. Centeno
Good video. I m from China ,eye contact is more or less the same important as your country. Some times only a few of them could do it well.thanks 4 sharing .Peace
Sounds like those were just interactions with some people that weren't very good about eye contact! You don't want to really stare someone down, of course, but keeping eye contact is polite and definitely shouldn't be taken as rude. If someone seems really uncomfortable, try turning your posture a bit so you're not squared off directly with them -- that might help them relax a little.
@DecmanReturns Great to hear I won't have to adjust my eye contact habits in Ireland! And I have a similiar story with a girl back in college - that relationship only lasted till morning if I remember correctly. Haha!
I grew up in the Philippines but live in Hawaii now. I was being told by my parents that eye contact with men is not good because it's like you flirt at them so I avoid eye contact with men. When I work as a Representative of the Home And Health Education Service and I need to talk to people I found out that Eye contact is very important because we showed our interest and they can understand me in a better way through eye contact. Eye contact with a smile on your face can easily help you for a
I think that's one you'll have to figure out for yourself -- though I gotta say, I know more guys who've THOUGHT someone was falling in love with them (when they actually weren't) than have missed it when someone really was. Don't read too much into the little things!
Hello Antonio, how are you? I am from Brazil and I live here... we think exactly the way you guys think about speeches, conversations and signs of interests between man and woman. I love your speech the way you talk and the most important, I liked the content you´ve said. Congratulations!!! I would love to learn how to speak in front of a public, that scares the hell of me!!!
I have been watching these videos about eye contacts only recently. I am scared to death and insecure when it comes to looking into someone's eye. I feel like they will find my thoughts of them in my eyes lol... However I do look either at the nose or the point between the eyebrows or the lips to show interest and usually it works. But I am trying to do as I learn from these vids! Thanks
Hi Antonio. I was readin through the coments earlier. And i saw that you replied to almodt every coment. And I really like that you are comunicating with your viewers. You deserve a sub😊
At first I thought this was about eye contacts, like eyewear. But the whole idea of making eye contact is really interesting and I agree with Antonio, time to put it to the test and change it up.
Hello sir, Greek dude here as well, really nice videos, I found your channel at the time I was looking for speaking tips because I am trying to improve my GameHistory series :) You 've helped me a lot so far, thank you :)
I know some people have a hard time making eye contact in the western world, I suggest that if they have a hard time making direct eye contact. I suggest looking at someone's ear lobe or cheek bone, Alternating between the two every so often.
right ,i work in sales i always make eye contact from afar and they come to me .of course you must pay atention to the person and understand him and make the expresion of face true .
I avoid eye contact because I tend to think I am being rude with people just by staring at them, also is complicated because I tend to think I am being judged and don't wanna get the signals of that. Would be nice you can post a video about how to overcome those problems. Thank you very much.
Great video on an important topic. I come from latin america and here in montreal I get a sense that strangers really make an effort to avoid eye contact. As for people I just met here, I get sense that they do not make eye contact as frequently as people back home. I attribute differences in "eye-contact time" to perceptions of status. As a foreigner I think I am perceived as having low status, thus people I just met only look at my eyes for only a few seconds.
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Few Tipps:
Your Eye Contact appears more natural if you switch between the Eyes of the other Person. So just look into the left, then the right, then the left ect. he/she will barely realize it and you can hold eyecontact 100% of the time and you dont look like starring at him/her. You can add a more sensual touch by adding the mouth to the cycle.
100% of the time eye contact is what you want if you listen to someone. If you talk youre fine with 75%. The other 25% you can look around, just make sure you dont focus something else, especially not something which is behind the person you talk to.
If you look someone into the eyes and he/she breaks eye contact by looking to the ground its a sign of submission. If a Girl does this its an invitation to aproach on her.
All this basic rules of body language are universal. Breaking Eye Contact by looking to the ground is always submission. Holding Eye Contact is always a sign of dominance and confidence, the difference between asian and North American/European Culture is just that Asians abuse this subcounsious body language to activly show respect, while in Europe a lack of Eye Contact is considered "too submissive", unsteady or anxious.
Franz Ferdinand if you look at a girl and she looks down that means “ please don’t come talk to me”. She’ll hold eye contact if she wants you to approach
@@Dannndyy no it means she's uncomfortable with the stare, not necessarily uninterested. If I see a young attractive guy walking towards me in the street, I automatically look down, it seems to be innate. If a woman is uninterested, approached in a club, it is pretty obvious, she will move more towards her friends, possibly turn away from you all those body language cues.
@@Dannndyy that's not true I'm sorry. If I look down as a girl, it means I'm shy and you make me nervous
@@zizi133 I completely agree. My gave my crush a gift, but was too nervous to watch his actual reaction, but he was excited about it and said how cool it was and when I turned to face him he had a genuine smile and held his arm out for me to give him a hug. I looked him in his eyes and smiled, but I was still shy and nervous and instinctually looked down as I stepped toward him. Eventhough I was happy he was smiling at me and wanted to hug me and we always had super intense eye contact before, I was overwhelmed with emotion in a good way.
Your eyes are the windows to your soul... So I wear sun glasses.
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no it doesn't. the stuff before is helpful
Good Eye Contact Tip:
It really depends on your verbal content. Example, if you're naturally a funny person, be sure to look "away" after saying something funny. Don't look at the person for a reaction & don't smile or laugh until they have smiled or laughed. The reason is simple, if you're not funny and you're looking at them for a reaction, then what you're really doing is forcing a smile or laugh.
PCProphecy thanks for sharing your tips
I look people in the eyes all the time and I usually see their eyes divert away.
That's the same with me. I make eye contact anyways haha
that's happens to me either when I look at the people
Honestly, it's probably because they're not as confident as you, bro.
@@Valor06 yes that's what I think. Confident people look people in the eye when speaking
I actually searched for this because I always look in eye when talking no matter who I an speaking to and guys most of the times get embarrassed and shy, trying to keep the eye contact but they feel kind of awkward so now I try not to keep eye contact for long than a few seconds
I just think of eye contact as respect and also to tell them"hey I am listening"
In Malaysia, for the Malay,If you're listening attentively, look at the speaker with warmth in your eyes , looking while nodding means you're focus and very much appreciated. when you're sorry, looking down for a moment is a gesture of regret. rude gestures such as rolling eyes and staring, is pretty much unacceptable just like in other cultures. Btw, with a lot of advises, this is a very helpful video.
So beneficial. . It all about basic information. Most of the people all around the world still not aware of this. . Once they understand that's great. .any way great job thanks very much
shabeer p thank you!
Hey Antonio... I'm from India and have been following your videos for quite some time now. I too have to travel overseas on business and this is something I've noticed a lot.
I think Indians are raised in a culture where we are taught to respect their elders...a respect we show by bowing to them and listening to them. Even to women, historically, men were not supposed to have long direct eye contacts... It was considered vulgar. We've come a long way since then but even today, direct eye contact is usually considered aggressive and disrespectful in our culture, period.
I think when it comes to eye contact, people should consider cultural differences as one of the most important factors and adapt accordingly.
Hardik Roy That's true!
"We've come a long way"... so you're saying your culture is wrong and another is right? It's merely a change in culture.
Ever since I started to look into people's eyes more often I realized that it's normal for most people and some people won't even take off their eyes off of mine when we're talking! Sometimes I find it super uncomfortable but it's kinda cute that they do it without thinking lol
Eye contact is very important in the modern world as now it is a sign of respect
Am Tega from Nigeria in West Africa, l really do love ur lecture on Eye contact. In culture where l hail from, children dont steer into the eyes of the adult talking to them ,this is to show a sign of respect. Good work.
Tega Shone Great to know! :) Thanks
Really amazing I used to do that But I later felt it was awkward now that I know that I can add a smile to it I got it back thanks
I am Magda from Poland. You have helpful tips. Eye contact is so simply that everybody forget about how to do and they stressed because someone looked at them. thank you!
im from colombia but live in the philly and i learned that when we're talking and u look at the person with precision it makes them want to respect you more
I hate eye contact for more than 5 consecutive seconds... It disturbs me and makes me think they don't blink or that their neck is stuck.
jason200912 Haha! I see!
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Islander, Dominican Republic: Eye contact is a sign of respect towards the people you are talking to.
I really admire the tips and tricks you presented in this video. I feel like I'm showing to much affection while making eye contact when really, I am trying to have a conversation. Also, i feel like eye contact is something hard to master due to insecurities or the fear that someone will notice some type of flaw about you. If I had the most perfect teeth in the world, that would really boost up my self confidence in social skills.
Aaron Le Thank you!
I'm a business Ad student and this video is a real help
tnx
finally i have problems with eye contact and i'm working on it daily but feels as if i'm getting better at it so i'm going to keep trying.
Thank you very much. It's the first time I hear someone with understanding of diversity about this topic. I have seen very shy people who avoid eye contact at all cost. It does not mean they're hiding anything or lying like is though in the US. Other cultures can perceive it as deferential, or even rude, or intrusive. You are a very nice man, and your channel is awesome. Thank you for all your tips.
Cesar Landeros You are welcome sir! Appreciate your enthusiasm :)
Antonio, one of the things I trully appreciate about your videos is that you are devoted to helping men become Real Men with style. I'm brasilian, but I grew up in here in the united States of America. Although my parents thought me great values, I also had great male mentors, I learned a great deal from them. After learning and mastering this true art of attention. I have seen amazing results. I'll recommend beginning with your family first. Start with your wife, It will bring you great joy :-)
Thank you for the tips! This video just makes me realize how important of eye contact is. In my country, we don't care much about eye contact so every time I gave my presentation or talking with foreigners, I still feel awkward to have eye contact and sometimes I feel like westerners have so strong eye contact that make my brain blank even though I am studying English major and the country is starting to be international haha. I think I have to keep practicing.
Thanks for sharing your experience
From Thailand
You are welcome.
had a conversation with someone, the other day, who said it freaked them out that I only looked into one of her eyes and didn't alternate between each eye.
wasn't a lengthy conversation... no more than a couple of minutes.
what are your thoughts on looking into one eye versus alternating eyes when making eye contact?
I having difficulties on looking at people's eyes I find it so uncomfortable now.. when I was growing up looking at peoples eyes while their talking is as natural as breathing. but I notice when I grew up I feel more conscious about people when their looking at me directly in the eye. I like this video because it's explaining how important it is to look at people's eyes while having a conversation. not telling you some technique how to fake it. thanks :)
Same this is why I researched a video like this one because I realise how much eye contact is important but at the same time so weird
Well, It was very helpful to me because I come from India and live in Europe. Many people have misunderstood me with my intentions because I didn't understand the eye contact rules in the west. And many times I don' even understand what they were thinking about my conversation with me. So, this series is helpful. I learnt the difference between staring and proper eye contact. Thanks.
"pay attention to culture"- i like it very much
Hey Antonio, I appreciate your stand about being sensitive to other cultures as we become a more global community. Also, great suggestions about eye contact; I wasn't taught the importance of eye contact when I was young.
Falcor, Defender of the Alliance Thank you sir!
i'm learning so much from these comments wow. so many cultures and so many differences. thanks for this!
I think about eye contact a lot however, I have nerve damage in my face while I have some facial expressions they are very limited. Sometimes I am wonder if my eye contact is taken as a stare rather than a sign of respect and paying attention. I think people take me to seriously when I'm saying something humorous or lighthearted.
I have been looking for a trustworthy channel concerning style and manners here on UA-cam for a while now. After watching this video I gotta say you have convinced me and I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos!
I think it all boils downs to how sincere and honest your are about the message you want to convey, & our subconscious mind will relay that body language/eye contact to sincere person willing to accept the meaning of the message..... every other act you are going perform for the rest of the audience is just waste of time....
I've always been one to not make much eye contact with others but have been doing so more often over the years. Forcing oneself to make more eye contact feels awkward but it helps to try your best.
Something that I also noticed is that many people just arn't interesting to me and what others may be saying is unappealing or boring. I find that I naturally make more eye contact with interesting people that I want to engage with.
I recently came across these videos as i'm 34 and not a kid anymore and would like to dress sharper and give a better outward appearance than my usual jeans and running shoes with some kind of shirt.
I will keep tuned in to these videos.
dave martin Thanks! :)
Antonio, you're spot on regarding cultures playing a part with eye contact. I was brought up in India and it was rude to make eye contact with elders. I live in the UK now and see the difference. I do find all your presentations helpful especially in the mens clothing area. Thanks so much.
Same! I suddenly thought about eye contact one day and looked it up on the internet, i found conflicting ideas that it was a dominance thing, or that it was a positive attention thing. I dunno wtf is going on any more so i just do whatever i feel comfortable with but still make an effort to make a lot of eye contact. Its a weird thing isnt it. But I do like it when someone gives me a lot of EC just as long as they dont make their eyes too large or intense when they do
Hey thanks for the advice, I'm a 16 year old (Minnesota) considering going into business for a career in Sales and Marketing and just being able to hear tips and ideas of how to make it and improve my skills is always something I enjoy :) great video.
@TheMax8900 Great to hear and thank you sir for your comment sir. Curious - what part of India are you from? I found that with such a vast country you all have a wide range of culture differences as well!
You are welcome!
Great advices! One more thing to add is that never stare down towards your feet or any body part of the person you are speaking with. You may seem uninterested thus perceived as rude.
Hi! I am Hanna from New Zealand and we are a very multi-cultural country. At school we learn a lot about multiculturalism but some teachers see it as rude when a person does not keep eye contact.
I'm South African, and was raised to know that when an adult is talking to you, its rude to look at them in the eye, you must look on the floor but agree to show that you are listening. But the school I went to is a multiracial school and our teachers were mostly English, they would tell us to look at them when they spoke to us. so it was a bit confusing, I learned to act different depending on who I'm speaking to. I like this video, you make good points. :D
Nicky Horwood thanks for sharing your story Nicky - appreciate it
You are so right I am Chinese and actually we really don't pay attention to eye contact because when we talk with people we didn't really make eye contact it is not so important. And I just realise that eye contact is important because I made a friend that makes a lot of eye contact so Thankyou for your video it helps me to understand more about that.
@SMmusicband Glad this one's really reaching out to folks -- we enjoyed going a little bit beyond the usual clothing focus, and I think we will again!
I am from China but I lived in Japan and US for several years. I agree that cultures do make differences in eye contacts. Speaking from my opinion about eye contacts in Japan and China, I would say eye contact are usually avoided when you and others don't a officially agreed interest such as business partner or potential client because people don't want to be misunderstood as having sexual interest. but if you and the person have a common interest or working toward a same goal
Practice makes perfect. I find that as a shy person, eye contact is one of my most effective means of flirting.
I have another point of view...shoot from the hip and see who's standing in the end, then collect their contact info. But I am also an artist, which means that my goal isn't necessarily to be all inclusive, but instead highly effective to a target audience that will remain over time. Great videos. I'm learning a lot. Love the suit.
I'm from India and eye contact does has impact on our culture .but there are do's and dont's . For any serious discussion,compliment, convincing someone we need to make eye contact . With elders specially in families we aren't advised to make eye contact .
P.S. Thanks for the video .please keep uploading such videos .
I am the Asian of Hmong people. I have learned for talking without eye contact since I know how to communicate. We consider talk with eye contact is in-respectful. We make eye contact when we mad each other. I leaned this from my childhood. Now when I came to American, it's hard for me because it became my habitual. But I learn every for this culture when I talk to my boss. I got many people judge with my eye contact in this western world. However thanks for your post and direct. If you see Asian people don't make eye contact, it doesn't mean that they don't pay attention or don't trust. I think we need to understand for what of their culture to define about their eye contact.
Thank you for your comment!
I'm 18 and from Romania - I am so glad I came across your videos
They are so helpful and I can really just learn so many things from them because they are so easy to understand and follow.
and I've just subscribed :D
hi i am from INDIA.... i always had this problem of not knowing when to have an eye contact and when not to.... i found the video very useful.... thanks a lot...... i have implemented and tried your tips.... what i found or learnt rather is, it all depends on the person with whom i communicate..... i can see myself improving...... thanks a lot........
+Vishal Krishna You're very much welcome! :)
Very good point about keeping up gestures and such while listening, in case your paying attention comes off as a stare; will have to pay attention and see if I'm guilty of it!
Another Irishman here. I've found that when you're talking, eye-contact could be kept up a bit longer than you've mentioned in the video, making sure it's split up evenly throughout the group. When you're being spoken to, however, you tend to keep eye contact the same length of time as the speaker, if you catch my drift.
Hi, I'm a male viewer from Singapore. We do not have any specific rule to having eye contact. Personally, I have problems having eye contact with my male friends, whereas I try my best to maintain eye contact with the women in my life, especially those I have interest in. Anyway, keep doing these videos, I love them.
frankly i wanna be like you....you give such good advice...i'm from maldives and i'm living in bangladesh..and here i think it's one of those places you can't make eye contact...but i try to...and i feel the same too...making eye contact while talking is very important...thank you for the awesome video
I'm from the Philippines Eye contact is very important every time you talking to someone to get his trust, we believed if you talking to someone without Eye contact it means you telling I lie , And that's what I learned from my parents..
Thanks for your helpful comment!
Great advice Tracy - thank you!
I live in North Carolina but I'm from Nicaragua. Eye contact in my culture is very fundamental, especially when a person is in a higher hierarchy than you (father, son; professor, student). I believe that you don't have someone's full attention until they look at you in the eyes as you speak. When talking to women, though, there are many things to consider: body language, blinking, and hand gestures. It is also seen as disrespectful to fixate your eyes below their chin. Cheers!
It's important to point out that eye contact works best when you ears are on and listening well! again begin practicing this at home, and your family will love yoh for it! Try adding some open ended questions to your such as: Wow, really?, tell me more about that? Be sincere, not sarcastic! your friends and family will love you for it! Soon you will become a King among nations! Antonio, Thanks for all the great material you have been putting out this year! Wish you great success for 2013!
I love how you do all your videos on 1 take!!! wow there are no cuts or anything
Hey Antonio, hope you're doing great.
I just started to watch all of your videos and I must confess i'm learning a lot and in a very positive way. I'm from Brazil and I'm working really hard improving my eye contact and other aspects of my behaviour and I already feel more comfortable when talking to people, specially women.
Thanks for everything keep up the great work.
Greetings from Brazil!
Pedro Paschoal Glad to know. Thank you!
I too live in the states but it being a diversely cultured place, some eye contact rules change situationally, The best way to determine what the person prefers is to be able to read other facial and body language gestures, for example if you give someone the respectful eye contact gesture they may show a bit of anger or discomfort if it is the wrong gesture for what they are saying or just to that person. The entire thing is based on feedback, so if someone doesn't give any kind of inappropriate feedback then feel free to maintain the eye contact you are currently displaying
Australia. We're half way between the US and the UK. The big difference I think is that avoiding eye contact either indicates fear or means that person is ignoring you depending on body language.
I think eye contact is very important not just in the USA but in many other culture specially here in Europe. thank for the video very helpful and interesting!
I shared a lot of your videos to some of my friends, And we learned so many skills. Thank you so much Sr.
marine4Legion thank you for the support! :)
Thank you Antonio. I am learning with your support !!
Freddy Ramirez Gallardo glad it helped
Thanks for your PS tips. They are really great. On many occasions in our culture (Ganda) when you are not confident with your eyes, it is a sign of fear and mistrust we even have a legend proverb that says "Fearful eyes greet the host or the house lord". In this case, of PS any speaker is always the host. Once you are given the chance to speak, you are given the power to take over.
Here in Chile it's very like the same than over there mister. The people from little towns is very friendly and make a lot of eye contact. Even if you are unknown they will look at your eyes, smile and say "good evening". But if you go to big cities people almost think of you as a creep if you look at an unknown person and say hello. I'm from the capital, but my manners are very kind, and people is impressed when you have manners and are educated.
Francisco Arcos Good for you! :)
5:11 eye contract ahhaha, good video though
Myth Kid Thanks! :)
My father taught me a strong handshake and eye to eye is the right way to start a friendship or business-regards from Brazil!
+Renato Nogueira Your father has taught you well! :)
I'm from Kenya, and I have learned the hard way that you need to give everyone in a group equal attention.
In persian (Iranian) culture having eye contact is very rude, especially if you are talking to an elderly people you should look on the ground. (Which is really bad, now that I am living in USA I know how great it is to look at others people's eyes and talk to them, I LOVE IT!
nasim khamooshian its for elders inly to show them respect
Well I won’t have any problems in Irania then!
Forgive me for my bad english. I would like to thank you for the advice I have a lot of trouble having a good conversation with people in general and it helped me a lot, many "4" people complimented me on the way I look at them during conversations. Thanks
You are welcome
Hahaha I mess with my teachers by "staring" at them with out blinking I know it makes them feel some type of way, it's funny when they try to hold eye contact with me because they notice I don't blink and they feel again some type of way and look away and back at me and away quickly hahah it's fun. Alpha looks away last.
joe corpus haha :)
Haha....
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Same here❤
What if youre a cyclop and a person wont look you in the eye?
99ontguy1 Haha! Good one. :)
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Lool
You mean cyclopse
Great video , i‘m from Egypt ..and here most of the people learn how to use eye contact , back in the days it wasn‘t really that important here but now it‘s very important to eye contact with people so thanks for the video it‘s really been a great help to me
Glad it helps.
I'm from Sudan ,, we really don't make an eye contact with some people , as you said it's a sign of respect there , we look at the ground when we shake hands with the people who we respect !
Hi. I am from South East Asia, Cambodia. I can tell that your video is very helpful for me and even for all the people.
Hmm....but I still have a problem that whenever I did a presentation in class and when I tried to use the eyes contact to my classmates, It was like I forgot all the words that I was about to say when I looked into their eyes. And till now I still couldn't find the way to fix it. Hope you can tell me some more tips. I really appreciate it.
Join the club Chris! Haha - I think men are designed this way - but perhaps you should start wearing sunglasses more?
Thank you so much for all your videos. I have watched quite a few of them by now and I must say they have really helped me out a lot of times, especially when I first started to wear a suit, and a lot when it comes to my body language.
Thank you so much Mr. Centeno
Tarllark You are welcome. Thank you for the kind words. I wish you the best on your style journey.
Good video. I m from China ,eye contact is more or less the same important as your country. Some times only a few of them could do it well.thanks 4 sharing .Peace
javen king You're welcome! :)
very informative Antonio. The best video about eye teqnicues I have seen. It really reminded me ot the importance of eye contact. thank you.
Sounds like those were just interactions with some people that weren't very good about eye contact! You don't want to really stare someone down, of course, but keeping eye contact is polite and definitely shouldn't be taken as rude. If someone seems really uncomfortable, try turning your posture a bit so you're not squared off directly with them -- that might help them relax a little.
Came across this video randomly but what a masterpiece of a video
@DecmanReturns Great to hear I won't have to adjust my eye contact habits in Ireland! And I have a similiar story with a girl back in college - that relationship only lasted till morning if I remember correctly. Haha!
I grew up in the Philippines but live in Hawaii now. I was being told by my parents that eye contact with men is not good because it's like you flirt at them so I avoid eye contact with men. When I work as a Representative of the Home And Health Education Service and I need to talk to people I found out that Eye contact is very important because we showed our interest and they can understand me in a better way through eye contact. Eye contact with a smile on your face can easily help you for a
I think that's one you'll have to figure out for yourself -- though I gotta say, I know more guys who've THOUGHT someone was falling in love with them (when they actually weren't) than have missed it when someone really was. Don't read too much into the little things!
Hello Antonio, how are you? I am from Brazil and I live here... we think exactly the way you guys think about speeches, conversations and signs of interests between man and woman. I love your speech the way you talk and the most important, I liked the content you´ve said. Congratulations!!! I would love to learn how to speak in front of a public, that scares the hell of me!!!
Happy to be of help sir!
I have been watching these videos about eye contacts only recently. I am scared to death and insecure when it comes to looking into someone's eye. I feel like they will find my thoughts of them in my eyes lol... However I do look either at the nose or the point between the eyebrows or the lips to show interest and usually it works. But I am trying to do as I learn from these vids! Thanks
Do good and be yourself practice constantly being a humble do things for elders guy. It’ll find you. Repeat
Hi Antonio. I was readin through the coments earlier. And i saw that you replied to almodt every coment. And I really like that you are comunicating with your viewers. You deserve a sub😊
QuaD StorM thanks for the feedback - appreciate it :)
At first I thought this was about eye contacts, like eyewear. But the whole idea of making eye contact is really interesting and I agree with Antonio, time to put it to the test and change it up.
What if you're interviewing someone, is it ok to nod, blink and smile or is that considered being biased toward the applicant?
Hello sir, Greek dude here as well, really nice videos, I found your channel at the time I was looking for speaking tips because I am trying to improve my GameHistory series :) You 've helped me a lot so far, thank you :)
I know some people have a hard time making eye contact in the western world, I suggest that if they have a hard time making direct eye contact. I suggest looking at someone's ear lobe or cheek bone, Alternating between the two every so often.
Your videos are great and informative.You really have catchy tone.
Thank you sir
right ,i work in sales i always make eye contact from afar and they come to me .of course you must pay atention to the person and understand him and make the expresion of face true .
I just realize that eye contact is so important , not in business but also in social live also
Thanks for the video man :)
rudy tjhia You're welcome!
I avoid eye contact because I tend to think I am being rude with people just by staring at them, also is complicated because I tend to think I am being judged and don't wanna get the signals of that. Would be nice you can post a video about how to overcome those problems. Thank you very much.
Chorofonfilo Thanks for your new topic suggestion. I'll make sure to add this to the queue.
Great video on an important topic. I come from latin america and here in montreal I get a sense that strangers really make an effort to avoid eye contact. As for people I just met here, I get sense that they do not make eye contact as frequently as people back home. I attribute differences in "eye-contact time" to perceptions of status. As a foreigner I think I am perceived as having low status, thus people I just met only look at my eyes for only a few seconds.