The Story Of A Girl Who Stood up For Emotional Intelligence in Nigeria.
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My name is Oluwaseun Bamgbade, The themes that stood out for me in the video is Depression, Low self- esteem, inferiority complex, Identity crisis and Self awareness.
The theme that resonates with my story is IDENTITY CRISIS &SELF AWARENESS.
As a girl child I was born with a disease called (genu varum ) , growing up with the stigma where people will rather call me and identify me with the disease affected my identity and sub consciously made me feel different from other children in my environment. Getting to know about chirst helped me to gain emotion stability later in life because I learnt that I can't be defined by how I look, feel or what people say about me or their perception about me , what matter the most is who I am in Christ and how I translate this identity to people around me.
Thank you ED for being such a delight and blessings to the world, I can tell that you've put so much work into this. I also want to let you know that you inspire me to be a better person. Anticipating the full documentary because I know it definitely touch lives. We are delighted, honoured and privileged to have someone like you in our generation for such a time like this.
I like that i could feel the emotions through the screen...every word spoken, gesture, smile, tears...
Emotional Intelligence is key and cannot be overemphasized
Building Emotional intelligence been the main course of this video was being on these themes
1. Theme on Communication: Communication between parents and children, partners, even positive communication with one's self. The lack of proper and healthy communication and how it adversely affects everyone.
2. Theme on the Place of Healthy and Positive Relationships: People will always be there to pull down and distabilize you, but there is also SOMEONE, ALWAYS there to help you back up.
3. Theme on Education: Even a 9month old child is emotionally expressive. The subject of Emotions is vastly un-understood, so you have children that grown up to become emotionally illiterate adults.
These are subject matters I can relate with, especially the issue of communication. I grew up in a family where the words breast, pant, bra, vagina, etc were like sinful words, never to be mentioned. Even to have normal conversations with your parents or relations, you'd have to think about the subject matter for two days before bringing it up. Lol, I remember i couldn't tell my mom when I started seeing my period. Had to browse the internet to be sure I wasn't about to die😅. Till this day, I have so much to say, but hardly say them. So much to heal from.
The theme of identity crisis, which was as a result of lack of self awareness and also, "saying words like vagina and penis is like a sin", further doesn't want to make one associate with their gender, an identity crisis.
The theme of inferiority complex/low self esteem "I grew up with my father calling me a bastard", leaving him never feeling good enough. This part resonates with my story so much, I grew up with a father who constantly attacks you with words but not "bastard", words that depicts you are a child and children are fools. Adults are wiser, adults are never wrong, when an adult misbehave to you as a child , it is your fault as the child because adults would never do that. I was subtly bullied, gaslighted by my Dad. And all I ever wanted as a child was to be an adult so I can prove that I am wiser, and not have to go through anymore subjugation and control from adults.
The theme of ignorance sums everything up because no sane person knows better and not do better. No human with an healed inner child would spread toxicity. And like the beautiful white woman said, Knowledge/emotional intelligence has to be imbibed at an early age.
The theme of deliverance/redemption. These beautiful humans and ancestors stripping their souls of the accumulated what nots in their upbringing and how it has affected their inner child is a great foundation for deliverance, encounter.
The song sure added a deliverance effect. ED this is the best thing that has happened to the world!!! Thank you so much for doing this 🤗. Bless your heart 💜.
I came in with the motive to search for a theme.
But I feel at peace.
I am happy! I had a rough life and am still going through healing.
And the passion through Christ I see! I whispered a prayer.
God help me be a change maker.
You are a change maker!
Thank You for heralding this movement.
No Child should suffer lasting trauma.
“Introduce EI in the early years of life”
Break the barrier Nigerians.
Change is here.
And it’s here to stay.
The ripple begins… ❤️
The fact that I can’t stop thinking of this. I wish one day, I’ll get a platform to share my experiences.
It’s unfair dealing with issues that affect your life. Marriage, job and relationships.
I lost my job, almost lost my marriage and never met half my potentials.
But mercy found me.
I had the best therapist who is a friend and sister now.
Still on the path of total healing and my self discovery is amazing!
NOBODY needs to go through what I experienced.
The inability to identify emotions will cripple the decisions we make on daily basis
Low self-esteem resonates with me more while growing up as a teenager.. because my classmates back in high school spoke down on me making me to think less of myself...thank God for growth...
Boundaries set and I move with people the same value with me... it's only Grace , determination and consistency that brought me this far..🙏🙏🙏🙏
The word that resonate with me most was the speech of Akinola Akinropo in quote: He said the most spoken word my Dad spoke to me is the word bastard. When I was young, several people have hurt me a lot with their cruel words. The word that hurt me most is the one said to me by my step mom and my loved ones.
This exhibit the habit of inferiority complex, anxiety, identity crisis and lack of self awareness. Thanks for this movie and kudos to the entire team. This movie is going to help a lot of us and prepare the new mind of this generation over emotional crisis, as a this crisis shape most of our behavior and life perspective as we grow.
The theme that stands out for me is the words the father said to his son calling him a bastard!!!! It's unimaginable how that must have affected his mental health and his behavioral pattern.
The identity crisis resonates with me because for a very long time, I was not aware of my emotions and personality type.
Well-done to the team.... Emotional Intelligence is here to stay
The themes that stood out for me were. Identity crisis/low self-esteem, friendship, depression, family, loneliness, and complexity!
This trailer features these themes! And it tends to deal with experiences in an individual's life that lead to a loss of innocence and/or a fundamental change in their minds.
Thank you, for putting this together, ED!
We are waiting and rooting for this...
Remilekun Kehinde-Philip.
The theme that resonates with me is Self-awareness. Without self-awareness in this generation you will be lost.
The themes that stood out for me are:
1. (recanting) the horrors of a faulty upbringing, and
2. Emotional intelligence as the panacea to combating childhood trauma
Thank you.
Weldone ma, thank you for taking our emotions into consideration. God bless you
The job was directed by the best man for it, knowing him personally I'm sure he didn't just work the features I'm certain he reached out to their souls. 👏 Weldon team
Identity crisis resonates with me more. For so long I've been trying to know WHO I AM. Who God has called me to be and what He wants me to do to be able to achieve this. This documentary is what we need at this time. Diverse ways by which our emotions can "fixed". Thank you ED for all you do and for this we appreciate your works even more. 🙏
Childhood trauma is a thing menh. What stood out and resonate with me was trauma. A lot of us, our trauma and brokenness happened as a child. And until we identify the monster with the right people and the right channel, we will have broken people for generations to come. Well done mama, you're an inspiration to me specifically. God bless you and may your well of wisdom never run dry. ♥️
Inferiority complex, low self esteem, Identity crisis,Low self awareness are the themes that stands out. Low self esteem resonates with my story on "The story of a girl that stood up for Emotional intelligence in Nigeria"
I was DEFLATED just like a balloon while growing up because of low self esteem that I had.
The theme that stood out for me is Self Awareness.It takes a lot of pride breaking effort to know our true selves inside out.If trauma from the past is not noticed and well managed,it can play a part in who we become,how we react to certain situations.We have to strive to learn emotional intelligence and self awareness..Thank you ma for this wonderful documentary.
I am happy about this because I suffered from depression last year and I had low self-esteem and an identity crisis issue growing up. I'm still on the journey of recovery and discovery myself. I am waiting patiently for the full documentary to drop because I know I and many others will be strongly impacted.💥
same here,it never get easy , presently making sure i watch one nice movie every night, Depression can be very hard ,
Themes: inferiority complex, identity crises, parental verbal abuse. At some level in my life, I struggled with most of the themes mentioned. I still need to be more emotionally aware. I read books now on the said subject and I pray asking the Holy Spirit to help me. Thank you for everything you do, ED.
Low self esteem, depression, inferiority complex and identity crisis are the four themes. Personally I have dealt with these four at different stages in my life. Low self esteem is the one theme I would say resonates with my story. Having enough and not feeling enough. Doing alot for people and still not feeling enough. Not seeing all the greatness inside of me because I made a mistake or someone thought I wasnt fit or good enough. And allow that eat so deeply into my mind, especially in the area of relationships where you believe you have done all u can but its as though what you do or say will never Be great for them. But what I love is how God shows me daily that I am enough, I am his and he is pleased with me. The more I spend time with God, the more he shows me how I can be better and he uses even people like emotions doctor to open your eyes to see that we can come out of this, we don't have to stay. A mix of Jesus and real life gems to support one, is really the "jackpot"
The themes that stand out for me are depression, identity crises, and inferiority complex. The theme that resonates with me is that of the man that was called a bastard by his dad. Words are powerful. Growing up, words hurt me a lot. In fact, it's better I'm flogged than rebuked. Now, I'm learning to shrug it off.
Waooo....!!!this is epic. Everyone sure needs emotional intelligence but one thing that stand out for me is, our parents/guidance don't know any better and they only offered what they know best and invariably that informed our mind set. Haven't said that, l realized my self worth and l deployed it in all spheres of life but refuses to apply it in my marital journey until recently. Anyways, this documentary has shown depression, low self esteem, fear , struggles and identity crisis. The earlier we understand what emotional intelligence is all about the best of life we will get. Thank you my ED. Cheers
Go ED...Go! ED....This is so beautiful to watch....You have done well and doing well....You are celebrated
"Growing up in a home where the mention of penis, vagina, sex, was a sin"...this got me. I believe this is the basis that enables sexual abuse in our society. Abuse victims cannot report and since sexuality cannot be discussed, it's left to chance and anything can happen.
The part that resonates with me most, is that lady who said, she couldn’t identify emotions before Emotional intelligence. I remember not knowing what a lot of things I felt then meant, but it didn’t change the fact that I felt them. Thank God for awareness, thank God for people like you ma, 🙌🤗
In today's world of digitalization, human interaction is diminishing. Humans are interacting with apps, computers, and TVs instead of other people. It's no wonder that depression and loneliness are growing at an exponential rate.
I am a girl who refuses to let technology control her life as it does for most people in modern society.I Google different articles and write-ups which teaches me to identify the different emotions that I have been feeling but unable to express out loud. And also finding a mentor who will guide and teach me about my emotions inside of me.
Alas,I found my mentor, Mrs.Oyinkansola Alabi. Please Ma, will you take me in as your mentor.
We need more documentaries like this. A lot of adults are a walking trauma house. And that is a major theme I noticed. The circle of trauma. Kids raised by damaged adults, who spit venom from their own self hate or lack of emotional intelligence. People have to sort through layers and layers of childhood trauma which is another theme. Akinropo's interview resonates with me when he said his father uses the word bastard. I was raised by an aunt who used words or did things to me she could never do to her kids. I grew up with so much pent up anger and hated being around family or people. And the first chance I got, once I graduated I left and I've never gone back till date. Mentally I have to condition myself that I am not those things done or said to me. Some days are rough, other days I pull through. Words used due to lack of emotional intelligence sink deep through the skin and leaves an imprint on the soul. It takes years of therapy to wipe it off. Maybe one day, I will be ready to sit on a therapist's couch and work through it. But till then we soldier on.
Themes that stand out for me Depression, Low self esteem and introducing emotional intelligence at a young age is so relatable
The Theme that stood out for me is “SELF AWARENESS”,”IDENTITY”.
I see God using you to fulfill your purpose on earth with this vision. The theme that stands out for me is the insulting of children by parents. I experienced it growing up and it affected my growing up as I battled with low self-esteem and identity crisis. Thank you for helping and equipping us with your knowledge of emotional intelligence.
This is such a beautiful video. Well done ma.
The themes that stood out to me are Depression, Low self esteem, Inferiority complex, Identity Crises , No self awareness, Inability to identify emotions and the use of derogatory terms.
I don't know if it's weird but I did resonate with all. Growing up, my parents used derogatory terms when they were annoyed. All though they didn't mean it but as a child it sunk in and it affected my self esteem and the way I saw my self.
All through secondary school, because I didn't find acceptance at home, I was seeking validation from people, playing victim all because I didn't know myself (identity crises and lack of self awareness )
All through this period I lacked confidence and I always felt inferior to others. When I entered school, I was this close to depression but I am grateful I found God.
While I was working on my self confidence and rebuilding myself, one thing I struggled with was identifying my emotions because growing up, we were made to understand our emotions do not matter.
So expressing it was an issue , talk less of identifying it. Thank God for growth and development.
Well done ED
All these themes mentioned in this trailer resonates deeply with me, but towing down the line backwardly, i see a theme that i can hold on strongly and tie to every of these themes mentioned in the video, which is ENVIRONMENT as it relates to my childhood and nurturing either by nature(Traits and Genes) or by nurture(these environments -Physical, Social, Emotional and Economic).
Now I can connect many dots after my conversation with my parents yesterday when *They called me and said* "Did we offend you(In Yoruba), Try to call us *nau". I see that issue from my social environment being malnourished and starved.
I thank God for a Timeless Voice in a generation such as mine, I'm now fully persuaded that I can be whole and alive once more.
Thanks ED😊
Self Awareness: That's the the theme. Knowing who I was so I could follow the path to who I am to become.
My early years didn't witness the kindness of life, but not for once did I blame anyone for it, not even my parents,. I accepted all as my growth process, my journey to "becoming".
Bonding my environment and my journey was more of a herculean task too. But it was not inevitable, I needed to harness my weakness and feed my strengths. Curated my own world, and I am on a path to becoming.
Someday when life is fairer, I'd tell my story, for now I'll "become"...
This trailer has a very delicate content - Encouraging one to embrace their fears and conquer them.
Emotional intelligence for me - is identifying what drains one emotionally and swapping them with what lightens one up. This transition must be rooted in God because He created us and knows us better than we know ourselves.
Conclusively, this trailer brings to fore that I can make a difference in my world after mastering Emotional Intelligence just like Dr. Oyinkansola Alabi has done.
I found myself tearing up as I watched, this is really beautiful and soul stiring. I can't wait to watch the full documentary, truly inspiring! AMVCA loading....Well done to you and your team
Inferiority complex
Depression
Low self esteem
Inability to identify emotions; theses themes stand out, 2 out of every 10 person can resonate with it.
For me it has always been low self esteem, I think the lowest of myself even when it's glaring that I'm not on the bright side, I've been able to deal with these through reading psychological books and reaffirming positive words to myself. I look forward to the full documentary. Nice work ma'am I'm definitely subscribing to these channel.
Still in tears need a section its damn cool can't wait for d full documentary
I type this with tears in my eyes. Inferiority complex, Depression, Identity Crises and low self esteem. Identity Crises resonates so much with me. I came across Soul Stripper at a point I was at my lowest low. God bless you ED. I can't wait to watch the complete documentary. I can hear you saying "I'm rooting for you"😭
I can relate with Olawunmi's story. I grew up in a lot of chaos, thank God for healing through the years
Low self esteem resonates with me the most. It’s still somewhat a struggle for me. I don’t have a research for it but typical Nigerian homes (in the 90s) were filled with parents beating down the esteem of their children by words and action. That’s why children trained in those days may seem to be over compensating for the things they went through. Though our parents cared for us, a lot of them have left children battling with low self esteem and giving rise to other things. I look forward to the whole 6yards.
The theme that stood out for me is "the ripple effect of words spoken and unspoken".
I had a narcissistic and absent Father, who used curse words on us, I understand where alot of negative thoughts about myself came from.
Definitely, it's the scene of the man that spoke about how his father always refered to him as "bastard"
In my case, it was "useless".
I am slowly leaving behind those negative belief I had about myself.
The themes that resonate with me-depression and identity crisis. I am patiently waiting for the full documentary. Emotional Intelligence should be drafted into our educational curriculum right from elementary class. Thank you ED for this timely documentary.
The outstanding theme in the documentary is the effects of traumas and pains that has been bestowed on our inner child as adults which has resulted in constant depression,inferiority complex,emotional unintelligence and constant anxiety in our everyday life.
The documentary also resonates with me in particular areas of my which I'm still battling with like not believing that I'm worthy of great things and even when they do come i still battle with the anxiety that they won't last,always second guessing my abilities,not being able to trust anyone enough to confide in them and still fighting to let go of the childhood baggages I always carry with me.
Meanwhile this is a great documentary Doctor and I felt relieved knowing that someone somewhere must haven't understood how I feel and was able to put this master piece together
I resonate with the 2people that had low self awareness and identity crises.
This is indeed a movement. Phenomenal ED…Oyinkansola Alabi is raising standards and setting paces🙌🏾💪🏾👏🏾 Congratulations mama
Standing out for the right thing ❤
The themes that stand out are self awareness, inferiority complex, ldentity crisis and traumatic childhood. The theme that resonates with me is self awareness, being able to identify my emotions. If I can do this well, it means I have the secret sauce. I can handle any situation at home, at work and with friends with maturity and emotional intelligence 😄.
Low self-esteem and introduction of emotional Intelligence at the early stage of childhood stand out for me. Look forward to the full video. ❤️
Other themes that stood out were Depression, Identity crises, inferiority complex, low self esteem, self discovery, sexuality
Hmmm. I don't know how to identify my emotions is it for me by Adenike Oyetunde. My growing up years is neither here or there. I was just existing without living for a purpose. I couldn't figure out my emotions but now I know better. Though, am not yet there but still work in progress day by day. Thanks for sharing the tip of the iceberg, ED. Can't wait for the full thriller to surface. God bless and replenish you abundantly. Love from Olatunji (King Tj).
Wow...this is a beautiful movement.Words have power.We may claim to be unaffected but in reality,those negative words and feelings germinate and bear seeds and fruits.This can affect our actions,thinking,reactions,etc in so many ways without our knowledge.May we have the courage to see and make efforts to get help.Emotional intelligence is a necessity for life.
The themes that resonate anytime I watch this are Closet (several people have secrets eating them up since childhood that they need to let out so they could be free, free to be a new being, free to not repeat their past in their present), and THE NEW DAWN ( Emotional intelligence is the new dawn to set people free from their closet, ED is the driver of the new dawn) God bless you ma
This is awesome. A well done to the emotion doctor and the crew.
Many things resonate with me in the video. Word is powerful. Word is life and the seed when planted can journey with one through a lifetime except such a word is unseated by another word more impactful than the first.
Words from parents and handlers during childhood, words by spouses etc have proven to be responsible in this regard leading to low self-esteem and identity crisis even though we show some form facade externally.
It takes self-awareness and consciousness to embark on the journey of self-discovery.
Really looking forward to this. This looks very emotional.
Thank you so much ED.. Dolapo Agbede Love you Mama 💓💓💓💓💓💓
This is amazing ma. Keep the good work up
Wow! I can't wait to watch the full documentary.
Thank you for not giving up on this. Thank you for pushing for emotional intelligence
This is really inspiring. Well done Best!
Congrats to the work you do. Emotions are really something to be talked about! I appreciate your efforts, may the good Lord guide you.
Look forward to watching it 🙌🏾🔥.
The themes that i can relate with are Communication in the home, Low self esteem and identity crisis. Due to how my childhood trauma and some words spoken to me as child it affected my self esteem, which in turn led me to having identity crisis cause it made me second guess my self and had to seek validation for people, it also led to having anxieties sometimes.As i grew up i dealt with my self esteem, because i realized i was more than what was said to me even though i get anxiety attacks sometimes im better than before, i met people who made me realise im more than enough and can do whatever i put my mind to
The theme that really stood out for me in the video is the importance of emotional intelligence both for the parent and the child right from their early years even as they grow up to become adults (language has a lot of deep seated influence on children even as they grow up to become adult). The other strong one for me is self awareness, it's being a game changer for me since I embraced introspection and journalling.
As someone in my mid twenties most of the other themes like(self esteem issues, identity crisis, (I use to think I was extremely introverted till I recall there was little conversation with anyone during my childhood years at home, I had no choice but to stay quiet.) went far back as my childhood years.
Other themes present includes; physical abuse, inferiority complex, importance of sexual education.
I look forward to the full documentary, thanks for sharing this gift with us.
This is the story of a girl who stood up for Emotional Intelligence in Nigeria, the story of Oyinkansola Alabi, who has created several platforms to help individuals become self aware, emotionally intelligent, care for their mental health and overcome suicidal thoughts.
This video shows that every individual has a story to share, howbeit summarized. The themes that stands out in this video includes:
1. The theme of diversity : This reflects in the capturing of different personalities, from Neena Mishra to Dolapo Agbede to Olawunmi Akindipo to Rahmah Zakareeyah and everyone who was featured in the video. There were all different individuals from different backgrounds, tribes, age, race and gender, which butresses the fact that emotional intelligence cuts across borders and it is important for every individual to be emotionally intelligent.
2. The theme of redemption and survival: The video shows a balance of where each individual used to be and where they are now. These people no longer identify as victims instead, they stand out as survivors who have experienced some form of abuse in their early lives but are now self conscious, self aware and emotionally intelligent.
3. The theme of masked pain and hurt: This can be seen in the facial expressions and features of some casts especially the woman on low cut, who eventually broke down in tears and was given a tissue. It shows that she had kept in so much pain and hurt and therapy gave her an opportunity to let it all out and feel better
4. The theme of music: Music is a powerful tool that can be used to evoke emotions, the video started with a song, and we also saw a woman singing at some point in the video. The right songs can create an atmosphere for healing and for reflection too
5. The theme of storytelling: A story was told, a story of the pains, hurts and childhood traumas different individuals have been going through and a story of hope, of survival. Towards the end of the video, the narrator told us the story of a girl, of an advocate for mental stability, the story of Oyinkansola Alabi, her journey thus far and her achievements.
6. The theme of symbolism: This is a dominant theme in the video as there were different scenes that symbolizes pain, loneliness, depression, therapy, hurt, low self-esteem, childhood trauma, and emotional meltdown.. These scenes reflects a deeper meaning beyond what we see.
The theme I identify with the most is the theme of redemption and survival as it speaks to me specifically and nudged me into reflecting on how far i have come despite all odds, how much i have survived and tolerated, it gives me hope , a ray of sunshine, showing that i am not alone, the future is bright and someday I can tell my story too.
I am the woman that sang 😁. I have a single called MY STABILITY and you can watch it on my channel.
Wow Powerful song.ma.
I'm excited, about to watch.
The team that stood out for me was emotional awareness, childhood traumas, dysfunctional family, low self esteem and inferiority complex. The lack of sex education for children, and girl child to be exact. Low self esteem, depression and inability to voice out one’s emotions are also themes mentioned here.
Can’t wait for this to come out because everyone can relate. As a girl child and growing teenager, couldn’t really express myself growing up and I feel I’m already conditioned and whined to keep how I feel to myself. It leads to a point where I feel I have no one but me here in this world until recently I learned to use journaling to let a few of it out.
Kudos to the team👏
Growing up with my dad who was a divorcee always had me scared as he was quick to lash out with abusive words and beatings at any given opportunity, a lot of times, when it seemed like he shouldn’t have any reasons to, he’d vent all the same.
For a long time, I wondered if I’d ever have a happy family life.
Thank God for people like you who teach us that we can be better.
Depression, low self esteem and inferiority complex are themes that resonate with my story.
Normalization of abuse: a society that largely consents to intimate partner abuse, especially misogyny but hides under warped religious beliefs and faux cultural superiority.
A dysfunctional education: a system of learning that teaches you everything and everyone except yourself. It guilt-trips you for daring to own your sexuality and empowering yourself with the right beliefs.
The production line of trauma: the typical African parent's philosophy of discipline to a great extent is actually an enabler of childhood trauma. Many adults almost never recover from the mental assaults they were subjected to as children and young persons.
The fierce urgency for safe spaces: Emotions City is the metaphor for the need for hurting people to find the right personnel and environment that helps them heal and repurpose their pain. The normalization of therapy cannot be over-emphasized. This foe me, is the overarching theme that touches base with me on a personal note. Thanks.
The themes that stood out for me are as follows;
-Depression
-Low self-esteem
-Inferiority complex
-Identity Crisis
- Low self awareness
- Imbalanced Emotions (not being able to identify your emotions per time and seasons how to handle the extreme ones )
- Terrible Childhood (Emotional Trauma)
- Emotional abuse by Parents.
The one that resonates with my story as as follows in this particular order
-Terrible Childhood ( emotional trauma)
-Imbalanced Emotions
- Identity Crisis
- Inferiority complex.
I grew up with parents that were never at peace with each other not till when one of them was about to die did they reconcile to an extent . My 15 year old self had gone through so much trauma even at secondary school, I also got involved with an older guy who was emotionally abusive. After which because of mThe themes that stand out for me are as follows;
Low self-esteem
Unbalanced Emotions
Depression
Self Hate
People
I grew up with parents that were always fighting and arguing with each other. My 15 year old self had gone through a lot of emotional trauma even in secondary school. I also got involved with an older guy still at this same age who was emotionally abusive. I sought validation from what people said to me and the reactions they gave and that made me really unstable as an individual I have been hospitalized twice at the Mental health care unit of different hospitals. Liberation is finding me and I am holding on to it which is why I am so stoked on this emotional intelligence movement you have started ma'am!!!!!!!!!
Wow! This is worldclass. Indeed, it is a movement. Congratulations ma. It will keep getting better and greater for you.
I love how you and God are making a name out of yourself 😭❤️. I am in tears. This documentary is about to be the next big deliverance and I love you so much 🥰.
This is world class ma'am. Thank you so much for raising this standard ED.
There are about 4 themes here that stands out for me on this trailer of "THE STORY OF A GIRL WHO STOOD UP FOR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN NIGERIA" 2 of which resonates with my story are "Self awareness" and "How to identify my emotions" The other 2 that stands out for me are Dysfunctional family/childhood trauma and Low self esteem. I have a very close friend that battled with low self esteem. I had to introduce her to your page on Instagram because I know how in charge and in control I've become due to the knowledge I've gained from reading your post. And yes EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE should be introduced from the early stages of childhood. Thank you so much ED for putting this together. I can't wait to watch the full documentary...
Self awareness and the ability to identify emotions stood out for me.Waiting patiently for the documentary.Thank you so much for the sacrifice.
The part that Stands out and Resonate with me is the Part of "Emotional Intelligence" ( where the Lady says it should be inculcated at an early age), I feel parents need to do more on that ( not only to a particular gender but to both), they should also teach their children Sex Education, not just telling their daughters that "if a man touches them, they will get pregnant", I mean going deep and telling them the whole truth. I had "Virginismus" up untill last year ( this was due to my parents constant warning s about me avoiding Men, all I kept hearing was if a man touches me, I will get pregnant and they would disown me), this made me so scared that I developed "Virginismus". Therapy helped me got over it. Another part that reasonated with me, is the part of "Speaaking Up" a problem shared is a problem half solved. Learn to speak to people who are experienced/well learned in the area you need help( trust me, it will help you greatly). ED thank you so much for putting this together, I sincerely can't wait to see the full documentary and what you will do with it. Thank you Momma ❤️
Superb 👌👍💯
We should always take into account, possible unknown burdens and emotional damage that many carry mostly from adverse childhood experiences. When we do this, we would start to understand why many would never act or behave as we except or as we do and this would in turn, help us to be kinder to others.
Thank you so much ED, this is so emotional and beautiful to watch. The themes that stand out are Depression, Identity crises, low self esteem (derogatory terms used from childhood contributes a lot to this) inferiority complex, enough communication not had on sex and emotions. The ones relatable for me is the inferiority complex and identity crises,and I totally agree! Emotional intelligence should be introduced right from the early stages of childhood 💕💕
Great job Doc. The outstanding themes are: adverse effect of absence of good parenting and adequate childcare and training, dysfunctional family, childhood trauma, psyche destruction, self rediscovery and determination to rise above all limitations, against all odds . The ones that resonate with me are: the need to "unmask" sexuality, through adequate education from childhood and the "possibility of all things" with self rediscovery, determination and faith in God, which you portrayed in the song of "who and what God is to you".
I’m waiting earnestly for the full documentary! God bless and replenish your soul mama. Thank you
In this, I see salvation, redemption, a chance to live life to the fullest in the most impactful way. Being emotionally intelligent is an awareness that we must enforce and it must be done in the early stages of life. Well done ED!!
I am a Gen Z and the theme that stands out most for me is that of Rahmah Zahareeyah(lack of proper sex education During upbringing). During childhood, it was a taboo to talk about sex or anything related. I had to learn sex education outside the four walls of our home and this almost went out of control because when the use of something isn't known, abuse is inevitable. However, I am certain that the future of emotional intelligence is bright with amazing coaches like Emotions Doctor. I am glad that a girl who is an African saviour exists and also believes that Africans need to save Africans. I will teach my kids sex education unashamedly and guard them through by properly feeding them with knowledge, one step at a time.
I'm seriously a fan of this movement, what you do and what you stand for.
You inspire me a lot.
Thanks ED for doing this.
The themes that stood out encompasses depression, lack of emotional awareness, low self esteem, insecurities, identity crises, self awareness, traumatic experiences from the past.
Growing up in a society where emotional intelligence isn't given the right attention, I've battled with depression, low self esteem, insecurities tapered with anxiety and most of the times traumatic experiences from there past which leads to melancholy. These are the ones I've gone through and still going through. I believe that learning about emotional intelligence is continuous and one needs to have control over the mind.
Thanks for putting this out
I seriously can't wait for it
The themes that stand out are; the story of the man whose dad called him a bastard, such word coming from a family especially the person one is supposed to look up to can dampen ones self esteem to the zero, whew! I can imagine a young sad boy who might probably become rebellious. Another is the woman who suffered depression, low self esteem, inferiority complex and identity crises. It stands out because it's relatable and it resonates with me. Another is the story where words like penis, vagina and sex was like a sin in their home, this one is also relatable being a Nigerian.
When I was quite younger, I was on the quiet side, I wished I was other people who could talk and relate freely with people, I low-key envied them, but growing up I realized all I need is just to be me, understand the advantages and disadvantages of having a temperament like mine, (though I'm not really that quiet anymore), I do not expect to gain what others who are more outgoing than me gain, been more at peace and happier since identified this.
This is so beautiful. Looking forward to the full documentary. The themes that stood out to me is ignorance from parents on the need for investment in the emotional well being of their child(ren). The longing for acceptance that every human has, to belong to something is evident. The home therefore should be the first place that that thirst is quenched. Another thing that stood out to be is the fact that there is still that child inside all of us. Until we go back and heal that inner child, we may never really be able to truly move forward to wholeness.
The themes that resonate with my story are low self esteem, self awareness and depression. Having a mum who constantly transferred the hatred she had for my late father to us because she wasn't treated well in marriage.
I'm grateful for my healing process, grateful to be a mum who's loving her child unconditionally ❤ I'm also grateful for my emotional growth since I found your page on IG.
Emotional intelligence is so underrated in our society, I anticipate the full documentary. God bless you ED🙏 You're such a treasure❤
Can't wait to see the full episode 💯
Wow! Welldone Oyinkan. I love this. Well-done
Thanks babe
You see name-calling, I can relate well to it. That is the theme that made me shed tears. And then, unable to identify my emotions. Low self-esteem has eaten deep into me. I don't know how to work or out. I am 25 years old but I can't enter anywhere filled with people without fidgeting. I can't even control my emotions at all. I get angry easily and also my tone when angry is something else. My emotions are a mess that I can't even go to my father confidently. I can't even pray. I feel so weak when it comes to praying. So I only see these themes: Child abuse (name calling can kill any child emotionally), Low self-esteem, emotional illiteracy (can't even control my emotions, I can't even identify them), and then emotional & physical abuse by people we love.
Oh! How could I forget SELF-AWARENESS? I must be the most confused human on earth because I don't even know my purpose. I don't even understand myself. I don't know my values.
@@chinyeredoris2451 hello ,
There is hope. Identifying all these is the first step towards healing. You are not alone.
I had goose bumps watching this video❤️🥰🥰. Please where is the rest of the video😰
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This is Powerful, really felt impacted by this....I am attracted to Emotional Intelligence, Self awareness, Overcoming depression and Early Childhood education
This is beautiful and well put together. I await the full documentary. Well done ED 👏
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Can't wait to see the complete clip. Good job ED!
i really need to subscribe and pay attention
The theme that stands out for me and I can relate to personally children emotions. We are a product of our childhood and once you missed it as a child getting it as an adult becomes difficult. They are challenges I'm still battling with as a results of my childhood. I agree that children emotions should be given serious consideration to enable them became better adults.
Congratulations Dr. Oyinkasola. This is such a beautiful initiative. The themes that stood out for me are inferiority complex, and low self esteem.
And especially the call for the need for emotional intelligence to be taught early enough. As a young girl, I struggled a lot with low self esteem/inferiority complex because kids like me were always teasing me about the way I spoke. Their words took a huge toll on me as I had to hide inside a shell, it took me a while the become expressive with my opinions.
I absolutely endorse the need for emotional intelligence to be taught early enough to children because the cycle continues even until today; a child goes to school and makes fun of another kid. That kid suffers that effect for a long time. That's why we have a lot of dysfunctional kids who grow up to become dysfunctional adults.
What Neena Mishra said about Emotional Intelligence been inculcated into the curriculum for children, right from an early is profound. Going forward we want wholesome beings, and that is where it should start from. Instead of us trying to fix broken adults 😢. How many can we fix, and for how long?
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This actually helps to bring the awareness of emotional instability in people and this would also be good in thought early to young ones to help them not only communicate their feelings and emotions well, but not to grow to be damaged adults. This just reminds me of my whole breakup process and how it made me dislike the other gender. Thank God for pure spec community that brought me out of that mess. Well done ma’am @oyinkansola Alabi ❤️
Bastard!!! That word jumped out and began to scream at me as I watched this over and over again. Haaaaa, that word should never be spoken to anyone.l how much more a child from one's loins or womb. That word is capable of irreparable damage.
My eyes laced on tears as I watched. Low self esteem, inferiority complex, depression... Let me not even start on these. Hmmmmm....
Then that music of absolute surrender to a being higher than us. I listened again and again; I unconsciously raised my hands in absolute surrender to The Deliverer.
I am one of many, looking forward to the full documentary.