My God her story is my story❤ and I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, I can see the pain in her eyes of why me and I asked and questioned God until God answered why not you and I found my purpose. If I can meet her one day I would give her a hug 🤗 of comfort and peace. Your story is your testimony for other women that is not brave enough to speak 🗣️. ❤ keep healing baby girl 🫶🏽💫
If he's black he definitely will and most likely is. This isn't as common with other groups of men and when they are BI they have the maturity and confidence to let women know. BM are selfish and hide it for selfish reasons.
I was very very upset when I first started watching her because he was in prison and you hadn’t met him and you had your daughter calling him dad I don’t can’t date no man doing years in prison your mom tried to tell you about him. I’m glad you found out sooner than later before you was going to marry him. You’re a beautiful woman you can do better. God knew what was going on that’s why he got exposed.
MY SENTIMENTS!! 💯 TOO DESPERATE&JUST DYING TO BELONG. MY MOMMA WOULD NEVERRRR. I LOOOVED& RESPECTED MY FATHER TOO MUCH TO EVERRR& I DAMN SHO KNO MY KIDS DID'NT EVERRRR. SOME PPL JUST DON'T HAVE A CLUE. & MIXED THAT SWEET, PRECIATE, INNOCENT, BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL UP N THAT MESS. HOW AWFULLY EGREGIOUS THAT IS? HIS BUBBLE EYE BLIND AS A BAT, BU++ PIRATE ,BOO BOO DIGGIN ASS KNEW BETTER.
I’m sorry, but this is why you don’t entertain men who’ve been in prison for 8 years! Shavell had a daughter and even her daughter wasn’t feeling Quaylon! This wasn’t a karma situation, it was the desperation for a man, that she wasn’t willing to see the red flags and rushed into things like she said!
That don't mean nothing . I went through a similar experience years ago with someone that never been to jail or prison . A lot of these men are just curious asf and can't be honest about it . He prolly was curious way before jail and acted on it when he was there
Exactly plenty of men that done been to prison longer than that aint NEVER had a homosexual experience that shit just in you if youre willing to go that way period! @hazelmonroe7725
I understand what you're saying! Anything can happen to someone anywhere. Everything is possible , but the probability. There is absolutely truth to what you are saying!! For sure.
She isn’t responsible for him lying and risking her life. Placing blame on women and not holding men accountable is the reason why black women have the highest HIV/aids due to “heterosexual” relationships. These men are lying about their sexuality and HIV status. That’s not on her that’s on him.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. People can say what’s they want,but just learn from your experiences that’s all. I’m glad you’re okay and in good health.
The ignorance smh this can happen to someone who is with someone who wasn’t in jail for that long but to put everyone who been in jail for over a certain amount of time I’m the same category
EXACTLY THATS WHAT I SAY AN I ALWAYS WATCHED LOVE AFTER LOCK UP AN I KNEW QUAYLEN WASSNT RIGHT I DIDNT EVEN LIKE HIS NAME AN REMEMBER HER CUZZIN DIDNT LIKE HIM AN TRIED TO TELL HER HE WAS NOT RIGHT TRULY PRAYING SHES OK 🫢🫢🫢🫢💯💯💯💯💯💯
The fact that she never met him and had him around her daughter made me sick. How didn’t you know ? That’s why her Mother and cousin were coming at him like that.
Judging her from the show, you would never think that she spoke like this or that she thought like this. I'm actually very impressed with this interview. She's taken accountability and being very mature about everything. God bless you. ❤
I’m going through something similar but we’re married with children, I’m currently in counseling because it is a lot especially if kids and marriage and assets are involved but even though we’re not on television it still doesn’t make it better it’s embarrassing and have me questioning any and everything, prayers to you and thank you for being transparent because this is something no one wants to talk about but it happens all over the world young, old, black or white ladies continue to pray for discernment🙏 because it can happen to anyone don’t judge ❤PS my husband has never been to prison or didn’t show any flamboyant signs he’s a manly man, I’m glad God told me when to look and that was enough for me and yes this is a deal breaker for me we’re getting a divorce, for safety reasons he still don’t know that I know, at this point I just want to safely exit to the left and continue to pray over our children (they are teenagers and young adults)
Also, the interviewer did a phenomenal job of creating a peaceful, open atmosphere while asking the right questions to really lift her voice. Props to the interviewer for actually making this a therapeutic experience for Shavel !
Shavel was one of my favorites, Monique too. I hate she had to endure this,BUT this is why I tell women do NOT date men who’ve been to prison. Majority of them have messed with other men (whether they want to admit that or not).
The humble and humility in your tone presents so much strength and maturity. Even seeing the person interviewing her pause in his tracks...her pain is felt.
Wow I remember this story with Shavel she was such a loyal, supportive woman to him…plus her daughter really loved him,this 💩 isn’t fair how these men live these secret downlow lives,instead of just living their truth and leaving women out of it!!!Im praying for her I know this has mentally tore her down 🙏🏼
YESSSS THE MASS MAJORITY OF EM DO THAT BECAUSE THEY'RE ALL IN IT 2GETHA& NOT GUNNA TELL ON EACHOTHER. BUT LET 1 GET OUT THAT GIVES ZERO FKS ABOUT IT, HE'S GONE TELL IT ALL. BEST BUHH'LEEE DAT !!
This happened to me! I understand and can feel her pain. And yes, it took a psych hospitalization and continued therapy. I’m so sorry this is even a thing.
@@uberflex6943you and the other person above you sound goofy 😂 men who are attracted to men should tell women before having a whole family that will effect the kids ( not saying hers) it’s wrong for men to live â double life and not be open and honest.. yo silly comment made zero sense.. it’s 2024 get real.. they have some chicks don’t mind bi men and some don’t agree with it. Now go sit down
It’s been so many years since I watched that show. But I am almost certain on the show he admitted that he went to jail so young that he had never had a woman.
She didn't know him at all. He used her and she put her daughter in a horrible situation. Even purchased a truck for this man. I am hoping she gets the peace she needs. Women stop putting your children's safety before a man's. Doesn't have to be a prisoner. Be vigilant about who you let into your life. Lady Karma will handle him.
Over Shavel, She acted like a desperate woman for a kid that was locked up. You allowed your daughter to call him daddy, you allowed your day 1 to get into a fight with that loser, you allowed his family to hook him up with other women and he took the bait. YOur mother tried to tell you, and you said you were going to do what you wanted to do.The thing is blind people could see that boy was off and his family was off, and you insisted on being with that low life criminal. Now, you on here playing the victim, trying to sound intelligent, repeating things you probably heard other people say and still mixing up the words. This interview just doesn't come across genuine. Embarrassed, I believe that, but you did what you wanted and no one could tell you differently. You chased a jailbird, and fame all at the cost of your downfall and embarrassment to your child and your family. I hope you truly have learned a lesson from all of this, and never place your child in this type of situation again.
I pray healing towards you Shavel, God has a mighty plan for you. They judged the woman in the Bible too, and Jesus said, whoever is without sin step over. So keep pushing love, God is with you ❤
You’re a good woman, you didn’t deserve that. I enjoyed you on my tv, one of my favs on that show. Consider yourself lucky to have found out at all. Loyalty matters in relationships. Going forward you will be rewarded with your freedom
I did too but he always seemed like her brother or cousin. I wasn’t getting romantic vibes between them. He did seem to enjoy being in her daughter life
The fact that you’re sitting up here, in full transparency- shows me how strong you are. I’m sorry you had to go through that humiliation, but we all do baby. You’re not alone. Your story is a lesson and a warning for many women. I also want to add that there are many women who are with DL men. I suspect few of the men I’ve been with are…I just don’t have proof, but my intuition tells me so.
Yes she could get an std from anyone but based on numbers "Men who have sex with men (MSM) are disproportionately affected by sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) compared to oth 11:39 er groups". By her not knowing that he was sleeping with men this increased her chances of contracting an std.
When these guys go to prison at a very young age and stay there for years, what do u expect.... women have to stop being so excited to find a man and try to make him her husband or her project to attempt to make into what she wants......MOST times it will not end well......😢😮
It's crazy how people give others so much power over them that it would make them suicidal. Self love should be taught more cause mental health is serious🦋
Not every man in jail is gay or on the downlow Regardless this man should have been honest and told her about his lifestyle he put her life at risk this is one of the main reasons why the hiv rates are high because people are not being honest and not using protection because they don't hand out condoms in jail.
It’s not from your past or anything BEAUTIFUL.. that’s deception on his part.. you are blessed things wasn’t worse And you have a beautiful daughters to protect ❤❤
I wish I could talk to her bc I had something very similar happen to me and I wonder if they served time together. My ex spent 30yrs in prison, dangerously violent offender, pathological liar and I'm sure he's on the DL. We live close to each other and he served in Lansing. Never apologized to me either. Not to mention he lied about his identity to cover the fact he's a convicted murderer
Ask yourself why do you keep going with men in jail for long periods of time. Why can't you find a man that's not in jail and what are you teaching your daughter? Do you want her to grow up and do like you and go with prisoners. Please try a relationship with a man not in jail.❤❤ Get the book that Steve Harvey wrote about think like a man but act like a women. This book can help you learn about men.❤❤
I hurt for her. As a human there are just something’s that you should not have to go through. And he should have been a real man and just been who he was and lived him life
ouuuuuuu that 🤕 hurts.... Everyone stay strapped up married, single, or mingling Strap Up Please for life and get regular monthly check up IDGAF how you feel!!! #Loveisblind😢 It could've been you! 😔
Out of ALL the women on the show, I love you best Shavel because you have a great heart and God fearing, you're an amazing Mother and Woman, I pray 🙏🏼 God bless you and keep you and your family safe and Quaylon too no need for hatred, live your beautiful life ✌🏼🫶🏼🙌🏼☝🏼💐😘
I don’t feel sorry for her after how he treated her she still held him down! I was shocked when she said they were back together and he’s shaming her publicly. I don’t know how she thought this monster loved her.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
Most men that get long prison sentences come out of prison liking both sexes! Why is she shocked? Is she getting tested on a regular basis? I am praying for her physical health & mental health! 🙏🏾😢
All I have to say is THAT THERE IS LOVE OUT THERE FOR YOU SHAVEL. It’s not your fault when you have been looking for real love your entire life and you become vulnerable in the worst ways … lesson learned and moving forward trust God and that’s it! Shavels time will come 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Yeah but Why get with a dude that did 12 yrs? And been locked up since 17 you honestly think he wasnt doing anything in Prison????? I don't feel bad for these Woman at all!!!!!!!
I been to prison and i could never understand women who met a dude in prison and made a life outside of prison with them. All the women I had knew me before I went to prison.there is a difference.
This issue is a trigger for me because I personally know situations where a man that really loves men and ocassionally will go the female way but is really a gay at heart. They are however not comfortable in their skin so they pretend to the public to be straight so save face with friends and family that does not accept them being gay or bisexual. What happens however is the gay man marries a woman to put on a facade and includes a lifetime plan to cheat on her to appease his real sexuality. So because they are uncomfortable with their life they are going to take another persons life down with them. This is messing up someone's life! I go by the bible on this issue and cheating on your spouse is never acceptable. If you are not happy being gay maybe talk to your religious leader and seek God's guidancebut don't use someone else as a cover.
Poor girl i just wanna hug you. If you need a break away you're welcome to come to our house. We live in PA. It's cold but I promise I'm a good listener.
I brought her book after their season had aired. Now she’ll have to make a movie. I will be praying for her. We all take chances on love, Quaylon was locked up for along time. Sorry for all parties involved.
@niashawna7645 get out your feelings she knew now wants to cry about it.... Move on, pick better and stop trying to take care of a man like a child I said what I said
Girl, I can't feel sorry 4 u b/c u may not have known that he was "on the other team", but U COULD TELL THAT THE MAN DIDN'T WANT U! He never looked at her "with love", he was never affectionate towards her, genuinely, he NEVER displayed genuine emotions towards her and she NEVER once felt that? She wanted Quaylon soooooo badly that she overlooked ALL of that and then some! A LOT of u ladies don't know what it truly means when a man loves u and it shows!
True she may have made mistakes (new to this situation so idk full story) but ANYBODY can fall victim to a DL man. The problem isn’t the victim the problem is people not being honest about who they are and their intentions. Victim shaming only brings bad fortune your way.
Quaylon should've been honest from the jump. If you like men you like men but give that other person the choice of if she wanted to indulge or not. That was very selfish. He won't have any good luck.
I remember her. This woman was successful, young & single & thirsty for a man so much she overlooked all the red flags even though they kept flapping her in the face. This wasn't a "blindsided" circumstance, Shavel chose an obvious loser & chose to buy his love, so she thought. Everyone could see he was not in love NOR a husband or boyfriend material. Everybody EXCEPT her. He went to prison so young he never really had a woman. How did she miss this? We live & learn & strive to do better 🙌
My God her story is my story❤ and I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, I can see the pain in her eyes of why me and I asked and questioned God until God answered why not you and I found my purpose. If I can meet her one day I would give her a hug 🤗 of comfort and peace. Your story is your testimony for other women that is not brave enough to speak 🗣️. ❤ keep healing baby girl 🫶🏽💫
Her mother kept trying to tell her something wasn’t right
Her mama and her cousin
I hate that lady was right.. 😂 smh
And her daughter!
I did not see this coming. He looked straight
That's the sad part
A lot of men are bisexual today. It's always the "my man would never"....yes yo man will sis
If he's black he definitely will and most likely is. This isn't as common with other groups of men and when they are BI they have the maturity and confidence to let women know. BM are selfish and hide it for selfish reasons.
DAAAAAMN SHO WILL . JAIL OR NO JAIL, #@PE OR NO #APE. THEY WANNA BE WITH A MAN OR A TRANS, THEY'RE GONE DO IT. BUHHHHHH'LEEEE'DATTT
That's America,africa we don't play that shit
😅😅😅 stop
& your man is sis ! Lol
I was very very upset when I first started watching her because he was in prison and you hadn’t met him and you had your daughter calling him dad I don’t can’t date no man doing years in prison your mom tried to tell you about him. I’m glad you found out sooner than later before you was going to marry him. You’re a beautiful woman you can do better. God knew what was going on that’s why he got exposed.
This is due to low self esteem.. you have to think about you daughter. How is she feeling.. it’s about her too
Crazy you applaud her for irresponsible decisions
MY SENTIMENTS!! 💯 TOO DESPERATE&JUST DYING TO BELONG.
MY MOMMA WOULD NEVERRRR. I LOOOVED& RESPECTED MY FATHER TOO MUCH TO EVERRR& I DAMN SHO KNO MY KIDS DID'NT
EVERRRR. SOME PPL JUST DON'T HAVE A CLUE. & MIXED THAT SWEET, PRECIATE, INNOCENT, BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL UP N THAT MESS. HOW AWFULLY EGREGIOUS THAT IS? HIS BUBBLE EYE BLIND AS A BAT, BU++ PIRATE ,BOO BOO DIGGIN ASS KNEW BETTER.
Talk about it..... 🤦🏾♀️ You can be delulu as an adult, but to drag your child into that is top tier crazy.
They did get married and brought a house
The best I ever seen her look period😂❤
Yes Shavell got rid
Of that stress 😈
Right! I had to look twice to make sure that was her.
Her head is still big af
Who is she?
😂😂😂
People was saying he was gay when the show was airing
Yesss cuz I most definitely seen it.. no judgement tho 😊
She knew. She thought she could turn him.
Damn 😫 I didn't see that
Right. I knew he was gay while watching the show
I mean I think most mem who been to jail for years have done something with another man.. so I’m not surprised
Girl you should’ve listened to your MAMA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And be cautious of dating a person straight out of PRISON?
He was getting❤ in the club!😐
You mean.... "gay outta prison".🙁
As a former jail officer they all have sex with each other in jail/prison. Don't let them fool u
It had nothing to do with straight out of PRISON, it was this woman desperation that got her here
They're the same outside tho
I’m sorry, but this is why you don’t entertain men who’ve been in prison for 8 years! Shavell had a daughter and even her daughter wasn’t feeling Quaylon! This wasn’t a karma situation, it was the desperation for a man, that she wasn’t willing to see the red flags and rushed into things like she said!
That don't mean nothing . I went through a similar experience years ago with someone that never been to jail or prison . A lot of these men are just curious asf and can't be honest about it . He prolly was curious way before jail and acted on it when he was there
Exactly plenty of men that done been to prison longer than that aint NEVER had a homosexual experience that shit just in you if youre willing to go that way period! @hazelmonroe7725
Jail didn’t make him 🌈 😂 u either are or u aren’t
I agree plus people who never been in jail or prison can be gay to @noname4621
I understand what you're saying! Anything can happen to someone anywhere. Everything is possible , but the probability. There is absolutely truth to what you are saying!! For sure.
I love how she's taking responsibility for her portion. May God cover, protect, heal and restore her ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
❤❤❤❤❤I SECOND THAT EMOTION.
She isn’t responsible for him lying and risking her life. Placing blame on women and not holding men accountable is the reason why black women have the highest HIV/aids due to “heterosexual” relationships. These men are lying about their sexuality and HIV status. That’s not on her that’s on him.
Her whole family told her that quay was not right !!! Even her cousin fought him in the hotel .
I thought that was sus as well…..cause her cousin looked sweet too 🤔🤔🤔 just me??
@ me to I wouldn’t be suprised if they did hook up i got that vibe
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I forgot about the hotel fight. I'm screaming
@@j.a.kcre8tions😂😂😂😂
I’m sorry this has happened to you. People can say what’s they want,but just learn from your experiences that’s all. I’m glad you’re okay and in good health.
The ignorance smh this can happen to someone who is with someone who wasn’t in jail for that long but to put everyone who been in jail for over a certain amount of time I’m the same category
EXACTLY THATS WHAT I SAY AN I ALWAYS WATCHED LOVE AFTER LOCK UP AN I KNEW QUAYLEN WASSNT RIGHT I DIDNT EVEN LIKE HIS NAME AN REMEMBER HER CUZZIN DIDNT LIKE HIM AN TRIED TO TELL HER HE WAS NOT RIGHT TRULY PRAYING SHES OK 🫢🫢🫢🫢💯💯💯💯💯💯
@@thegemzone4138 Exactly
@@MichelleWilliams-rd4is Right and lol
@MichelleWilliams-rd4is OKAYYYY!! HIM,HIS MAMMY NOR HIS SISTERS MESSY ASS NAMES. QUA THIS & QUAY THAT. QUAMESSY,
QUAMESSIER& QUAYMESSIEST.
The fact that she never met him and had him around her daughter made me sick. How didn’t you know ? That’s why her Mother and cousin were coming at him like that.
IT'S CALL DESPERATION!! LK INVITING HIM TO HER DAUGHTER TO DO WHAT EVER HE WANTED TO DO. THN GOD THE SITUATION HAPPEN THE WAY IT SHLD HAPPEN.
Judging her from the show, you would never think that she spoke like this or that she thought like this. I'm actually very impressed with this interview. She's taken accountability and being very mature about everything. God bless you. ❤
Not karma!
He had other red flags that everyone saw and warned her about... she wouldn’t listen!
What red flags i did not see them this is a surprise
Who Haven't BEEN fool before?if not 🚫 KEEP Living ❤
Shavel you are a beautiful spirit. Be strong, it will pass.
The way I literally gasped when I saw this title😮
Me tooo , I hadn't heard
Right holy ish ☕
My mouth is still on the floor. 🙁
I’m going through something similar but we’re married with children, I’m currently in counseling because it is a lot especially if kids and marriage and assets are involved but even though we’re not on television it still doesn’t make it better it’s embarrassing and have me questioning any and everything, prayers to you and thank you for being transparent because this is something no one wants to talk about but it happens all over the world young, old, black or white ladies continue to pray for discernment🙏 because it can happen to anyone don’t judge ❤PS my husband has never been to prison or didn’t show any flamboyant signs he’s a manly man, I’m glad God told me when to look and that was enough for me and yes this is a deal breaker for me we’re getting a divorce, for safety reasons he still don’t know that I know, at this point I just want to safely exit to the left and continue to pray over our children (they are teenagers and young adults)
Remain safe and I’ll be praying for you. ❤
Praying for your healing and strength this sounds awful ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾
Wow! This is tough. I pray for your healing and that you and your children will be ok.
Divorce period the end of
This interview really struck me. Shavel is so graceful in confronting such a complex heartbreak PUBLICLY. She’s so strong. Bless her
Yeah I've always liked her, I pray she finds love and peace
Also, the interviewer did a phenomenal job of creating a peaceful, open atmosphere while asking the right questions to really lift her voice. Props to the interviewer for actually making this a therapeutic experience for Shavel !
Shavel was one of my favorites, Monique too. I hate she had to endure this,BUT this is why I tell women do NOT date men who’ve been to prison. Majority of them have messed with other men (whether they want to admit that or not).
The humble and humility in your tone presents so much strength and maturity. Even seeing the person interviewing her pause in his tracks...her pain is felt.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Never a good idea to date a convict who has been in jail for years. What do you think they do for sex in there?
Not all do gay shit chill out
You're right about that!!!
Prison got nothing to do with it he was sweet before he went in
Yuppp
@@WALITV23 IF U BELIEVE PRISON HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT MEANS U KNOW A DL PUNK OR YOU ARE ONE.
Wow I remember this story with Shavel she was such a loyal, supportive woman to him…plus her daughter really loved him,this 💩 isn’t fair how these men live these secret downlow lives,instead of just living their truth and leaving women out of it!!!Im praying for her I know this has mentally tore her down 🙏🏼
I’m so sorry Shavel- prayers
I would be be cautious of a man thats been to prison and for multiple years. Also its a thing for them to consider it "not gay" while in prison.
YESSSS THE MASS MAJORITY OF EM DO THAT BECAUSE THEY'RE ALL IN IT 2GETHA& NOT GUNNA TELL ON EACHOTHER. BUT LET 1 GET OUT THAT GIVES ZERO FKS ABOUT IT, HE'S GONE TELL IT ALL. BEST BUHH'LEEE DAT !!
This happened to me! I understand and can feel her pain. And yes, it took a psych hospitalization and continued therapy. I’m so sorry this is even a thing.
It's 2024 we gotta start holding these down low men accountable for using these women.
I know a fair amount of women who blindly chase men that like men and have children with them. It's usually a codependent type of relationship.
What?!?! How about holding women accountable for thinking they can turn a man?? She knew. She just wanted a man.
How about make men feeel comfortable so they can express them selves with out being judged or bashed & then forced to be DL.
@@uberflex6943you and the other person above you sound goofy 😂 men who are attracted to men should tell women before having a whole family that will effect the kids ( not saying hers) it’s wrong for men to live â double life and not be open and honest.. yo silly comment made zero sense.. it’s 2024 get real.. they have some chicks don’t mind bi men and some don’t agree with it. Now go sit down
we gotta hold these down low desperate women for choosing men in prison
She is just talking in circles 😂😂😂 just say it
Thank you cause even when this first came out they have gotten back together
I swear. It's driving me crazy 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@Agntculboik9are THEY back together??
It’s been so many years since I watched that show. But I am almost certain on the show he admitted that he went to jail so young that he had never had a woman.
Bingo
Same! I automatically assume any man with a long stint in prison has been with other men. I'm not sure why these women are surprised tbh
@@brianal7143 same here!
‼️💯
Yep! That’s what he said
It’s not karma. You just ignored so many red flags.
She didn't know him at all. He used her and she put her daughter in a horrible situation. Even purchased a truck for this man. I am hoping she gets the peace she needs. Women stop putting your children's safety before a man's. Doesn't have to be a prisoner. Be vigilant about who you let into your life. Lady Karma will handle him.
I forgot she bought him a F150. Hell nah!!!!
When someone takes away your choice, it’s truly devastating! 🙏🏽
😮 i did not see this in the blogs about Quaylon. Poor Shavel
Over Shavel, She acted like a desperate woman for a kid that was locked up. You allowed your daughter to call him daddy, you allowed your day 1 to get into a fight with that loser, you allowed his family to hook him up with other women and he took the bait. YOur mother tried to tell you, and you said you were going to do what you wanted to do.The thing is blind people could see that boy was off and his family was off, and you insisted on being with that low life criminal. Now, you on here playing the victim, trying to sound intelligent, repeating things you probably heard other people say and still mixing up the words. This interview just doesn't come across genuine. Embarrassed, I believe that, but you did what you wanted and no one could tell you differently. You chased a jailbird, and fame all at the cost of your downfall and embarrassment to your child and your family. I hope you truly have learned a lesson from all of this, and never place your child in this type of situation again.
Low self-esteem is a m.f.er
As women, sometimes we are so good at hiding it from others that we hide it from ourselves too.
I know she not talking about that ninja from jail. You weren’t around him for 7 years he was in jail…..
I pray healing towards you Shavel, God has a mighty plan for you. They judged the woman in the Bible too, and Jesus said, whoever is without sin step over. So keep pushing love, God is with you ❤
Dang she got on my nerves because I felt she was forcing it but I wouldn’t wish this on anyone!! I just happened to scroll on this, wow
Dayummm!!!!!!! She looks Totally Different from the Show!!!!!! She Upgraded!!!!!! ❤️🔥
You’re a good woman, you didn’t deserve that. I enjoyed you on my tv, one of my favs on that show. Consider yourself lucky to have found out at all. Loyalty matters in relationships. Going forward you will be rewarded with your freedom
damn i remember really liking Quaylon😂
I did too but he always seemed like her brother or cousin. I wasn’t getting romantic vibes between them. He did seem to enjoy being in her daughter life
Same! They actually seemed like one of the few couples that would make it!
I never liked him for her I always knew he was using her from jump 🤦🏽♀️
Thanks for giving us your time DuuuvvvaaL county Jax FL USA 💞❤️ no judgement zone
The fact that you’re sitting up here, in full transparency- shows me how strong you are. I’m sorry you had to go through that humiliation, but we all do baby. You’re not alone. Your story is a lesson and a warning for many women.
I also want to add that there are many women who are with DL men. I suspect few of the men I’ve been with are…I just don’t have proof, but my intuition tells me so.
MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY ‼️ 💯 👌🏿
Thank goodness her hair is finally cute im here for it
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😳But the bang is coming from out of the top of the pony tale? 👀
Facts 😮😂😂
😒🥴😂😂
Head still huge asf!!
Shavel honey, you got this! Keep shining Queen 👑🩷
I remember she wanted Q to adopt her daughter 🤦🏾♀️
😂 like girl at least make the man get a job first
She lost me when she said she could’ve caught something from him being gay… you can catch something from anyone cheating gay or 100% straight
Exactly woke chose her. Girl ain't got a full deck.
And I hope she’s tested every 6 months
Yes she could get an std from anyone but based on numbers "Men who have sex with men (MSM) are disproportionately affected by sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) compared to oth 11:39 er groups". By her not knowing that he was sleeping with men this increased her chances of contracting an std.
She didn’t say cause he was gay
Anal sex poses a significantly higher risk for sexually transmitted diseases, and the risk is even greater for anal sex between two men.
When these guys go to prison at a very young age and stay there for years, what do u expect.... women have to stop being so excited to find a man and try to make him her husband or her project to attempt to make into what she wants......MOST times it will not end well......😢😮
Patience is a virtue
Amen ❤
Something about how she is telling this story does not sound sincere- like maybe she already knew he was gay??
She probably knew. So many women know but keep quiet.
She probably knew and trying to “fix” him.
@@starrjohnson1327yes out of desperation to have a man and if he's really good looking women will completely overlook that he has red flags.
I agree
It's crazy how people give others so much power over them that it would make them suicidal. Self love should be taught more cause mental health is serious🦋
Not every man in jail is gay or on the downlow Regardless this man should have been honest and told her about his lifestyle he put her life at risk this is one of the main reasons why the hiv rates are high because people are not being honest and not using protection because they don't hand out condoms in jail.
He wasn’t in jail. He was in prison.
It’s not from your past or anything BEAUTIFUL.. that’s deception on his part.. you are blessed things wasn’t worse
And you have a beautiful daughters to protect ❤❤
I wish I could talk to her bc I had something very similar happen to me and I wonder if they served time together. My ex spent 30yrs in prison, dangerously violent offender, pathological liar and I'm sure he's on the DL. We live close to each other and he served in Lansing. Never apologized to me either. Not to mention he lied about his identity to cover the fact he's a convicted murderer
Ask yourself why do you keep going with men in jail for long periods of time. Why can't you find a man that's not in jail and what are you teaching your daughter? Do you want her to grow up and do like you and go with prisoners. Please try a relationship with a man not in jail.❤❤ Get the book that Steve Harvey wrote about think like a man but act like a women. This book can help you learn about men.❤❤
I hurt for her. As a human there are just something’s that you should not have to go through. And he should have been a real man and just been who he was and lived him life
Alls ima say is she knew
She damn sure act like she knew, don’t it?
@ girl she got her body done and got a lil self esteem because in the first season it was given slow and pissy
I wouldn't be surprised. Sometimes we women think we can love a man out of anything.
She didn't know and at the end of the day he's responsible for telling his truth to the women he pursued. NO excuses Ray Ray
How couldn’t she 🤦🏾♀️. I seen it from UA-cam 👀
She was desperate for a man and ignored all the signs🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Everyone in the world has she not thee only one who wanted/wants love
7 years what where did that come from
Right?!
@@Queen_EL11 I don’t think she knows that we’ve all been watching
ouuuuuuu that 🤕 hurts.... Everyone stay strapped up married, single, or mingling Strap Up Please for life and get regular monthly check up IDGAF how you feel!!! #Loveisblind😢 It could've been you! 😔
Yes Shavelle rushed it. She was SO trying to prove her mom wrong that she couldn't see who Quaylon really was.
Out of ALL the women on the show, I love you best Shavel because you have a great heart and God fearing, you're an amazing Mother and Woman, I pray 🙏🏼 God bless you and keep you and your family safe and Quaylon too no need for hatred, live your beautiful life ✌🏼🫶🏼🙌🏼☝🏼💐😘
a woman choosing a man in prison over her child ....nothing God fearing ..that's being naive and foolish
I don’t feel sorry for her after how he treated her she still held him down! I was shocked when she said they were back together and he’s shaming her publicly. I don’t know how she thought this monster loved her.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
2:50- the betrayal really sank in with the interviewer
Most men that get long prison sentences come out of prison liking both sexes! Why is she shocked? Is she getting tested on a regular basis? I am praying for her physical health & mental health! 🙏🏾😢
All I have to say is THAT THERE IS LOVE OUT THERE FOR YOU SHAVEL. It’s not your fault when you have been looking for real love your entire life and you become vulnerable in the worst ways … lesson learned and moving forward trust God and that’s it! Shavels time will come 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Her cousin knew and he warned her about him, thats why quaylon didnt like him cause he knew that he knew
Yeah but Why get with a dude that did 12 yrs? And been locked up since 17 you honestly think he wasnt doing anything in Prison????? I don't feel bad for these Woman at all!!!!!!!
I think his mom knew to because she kept saying he will never be with you! He used her. I hope she gets that truck back.
I been to prison and i could never understand women who met a dude in prison and made a life outside of prison with them. All the women I had knew me before I went to prison.there is a difference.
Listen to God Shavel, you’re doing the right thing, I know you’re exhausted, I admire you for not giving up. ❤
No one should judge her all women with good heart can get caught up in glad she’s speaking on how she should have waited and not rush 🌸🌸🌸🌸🖤
You have to start expressing when your going through something. Silence is the killer.
Quaylon never wanted you but you were desperate for love. Your cousin tried to warn you 😔
This issue is a trigger for me because I personally know situations where a man that really loves men and ocassionally will go the female way but is really a gay at heart. They are however not comfortable in their skin so they pretend to the public to be straight so save face with friends and family that does not accept them being gay or bisexual. What happens however is the gay man marries a woman to put on a facade and includes a lifetime plan to cheat on her to appease his real sexuality. So because they are uncomfortable with their life they are going to take another persons life down with them. This is messing up someone's life! I go by the bible on this issue and cheating on your spouse is never acceptable. If you are not happy being gay maybe talk to your religious leader and seek God's guidancebut don't use someone else as a cover.
She wanted him the handle what situation? Sounds like she wanted him to find a way to keep it from coming out.
I don’t understand why people think the Internet means public you’re still privately in your house you choose to care about what others say is on you
Poor girl i just wanna hug you. If you need a break away you're welcome to come to our house. We live in PA. It's cold but I promise I'm a good listener.
I want a clear story on what happened
Wait, is she speaking about Quaylon???!!!
Yes
Yes
@@indelibleartsnetwork😮😮😮 I wonder how his mother handled the news.
The way she tried to force him to marry her so fast...
How come women always say “somebody” is trying to ruin their family? 🤔 Ladies the “somebody “ is the “man “ YOU are with!
I brought her book after their season had aired. Now she’ll have to make a movie. I will be praying for her. We all take chances on love, Quaylon was locked up for along time. Sorry for all parties involved.
Yikes! She looks great though in spite of the bs. 😫💯
Umm he was sending him cards and everything
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@ yup crazy work
I almost didn't recognize her. She looks way better now. Hair making such a big difference in ur looks
@6:04. I got scared and thought she was saying that about herself.
Strange way to say that.
I never found her to be attractive and Im straight as hell but Im sorry she wasted her time because time is something she can never get back. Sad
What does you not finding her to be attractive have to do with her story?
Let it go girl..... He was in prison you were desperate what did you expect
Very mean heartless
@niashawna7645 get out your feelings she knew now wants to cry about it.... Move on, pick better and stop trying to take care of a man like a child I said what I said
Girl you didn’t know..her cousin tries to tell her❕🤏🏾
I thought her and her cousin relationship was little weird ,like he was in love with her maybe it was just me
Them men be In prison or jail doing strange things
Girl, I can't feel sorry 4 u b/c u may not have known that he was "on the other team", but U COULD TELL THAT THE MAN DIDN'T WANT U! He never looked at her "with love", he was never affectionate towards her, genuinely, he NEVER displayed genuine emotions towards her and she NEVER once felt that? She wanted Quaylon soooooo badly that she overlooked ALL of that and then some! A LOT of u ladies don't know what it truly means when a man loves u and it shows!
I hate when ppl act like victims like they didn’t literally bring all this on themselves foh
True she may have made mistakes (new to this situation so idk full story) but ANYBODY can fall victim to a DL man. The problem isn’t the victim the problem is people not being honest about who they are and their intentions. Victim shaming only brings bad fortune your way.
@@RqediSahleer I get that but as grown ppl gotta make better decisions n stop rushing things
3+7 does not equal 9🙄😐
STOP🛑,
. THAT'S NOT NICE 😏
Its not karma you just didn't listen to your woman intuition listen 👂👁️ the signs be there just pay attention and move accordingly
She finally found someone to style her
Im so shocked !!! I watched them on Love After Lockup 🤦🏾♀️
Quaylon should've been honest from the jump. If you like men you like men but give that other person the choice of if she wanted to indulge or not. That was very selfish. He won't have any good luck.
The moment I saw him I said “zestyish” he was just giving off that vibe.
I remember her. This woman was successful, young & single & thirsty for a man so much she overlooked all the red flags even though they kept flapping her in the face. This wasn't a "blindsided" circumstance, Shavel chose an obvious loser & chose to buy his love, so she thought. Everyone could see he was not in love NOR a husband or boyfriend material. Everybody EXCEPT her. He went to prison so young he never really had a woman. How did she miss this? We live & learn & strive to do better 🙌
My problem is why women be choosing them guys that been in Prison for years and they knows what be going down behind bars sad but true