Fascinating stuff, thanks for making! I hadn’t thought about the personal / systemic miscommunication in the ‘not all’ arguments in terms of inbetweeness. I would say as an enby and someone attempting to locate themselves on bisexual spectrum inbetweenness is definitely something I experience.
Brilliant! Patriarchy is bad for men too, indeed. Having felt quite uncomfortable in "male and masculine circles" all my life and despite the fact of feeling emotionally closer to women thus befriending more easily women rather than men, I also experienced in certain moments, mostly related to professional issues, the discomfort of being bullied and unwelcome in predominantly female environments. And the hardest part was no giving it a voice. Thanks, Jaya.
As amab, now self describing as trans-fem, non binary, queer I was very much aware from being very young that I was not what I was 'supposed' to be. One of the things I found very distressing was being tarred with the same brush in terms of the expectations of how males are, their shortcomings and failings due to being born male, like having a suffocating weighted blanket constantly over me, having to play the game as much as possible whilst screaming inside this is not me. Now into my 60s I'm still wrangling the cptsd that persists in my life. There's a lot of violence, unseen violence against a person's beingness perpetrated against in between people, and other minority groups by projection onto them of attributes they must then pretend to perform to avoid being outed and punished for their 'heresy' against society.
Nice one! I also found the personal/systemic distinction very useful and well-explained here. Thanks for that. Got me wondering: I wonder which is a bigger issue, that distinction or convincing privilege-sceptics that there are systemic issues in the first place? I guess probably both are similarly important? Although it might be easier to get potential allies to understand the personal/systemic distinction than to convince sceptics of the existence of privilege (for now at least)!
Fascinating stuff, thanks for making!
I hadn’t thought about the personal / systemic miscommunication in the ‘not all’ arguments in terms of inbetweeness.
I would say as an enby and someone attempting to locate themselves on bisexual spectrum inbetweenness is definitely something I experience.
Brilliant! Patriarchy is bad for men too, indeed. Having felt quite uncomfortable in "male and masculine circles" all my life and despite the fact of feeling emotionally closer to women thus befriending more easily women rather than men, I also experienced in certain moments, mostly related to professional issues, the discomfort of being bullied and unwelcome in predominantly female environments. And the hardest part was no giving it a voice. Thanks, Jaya.
As amab, now self describing as trans-fem, non binary, queer I was very much aware from being very young that I was not what I was 'supposed' to be.
One of the things I found very distressing was being tarred with the same brush in terms of the expectations of how males are, their shortcomings and failings due to being born male, like having a suffocating weighted blanket constantly over me, having to play the game as much as possible whilst screaming inside this is not me.
Now into my 60s I'm still wrangling the cptsd that persists in my life.
There's a lot of violence, unseen violence against a person's beingness perpetrated against in between people, and other minority groups by projection onto them of attributes they must then pretend to perform to avoid being outed and punished for their 'heresy' against society.
Nice one! I also found the personal/systemic distinction very useful and well-explained here. Thanks for that.
Got me wondering: I wonder which is a bigger issue, that distinction or convincing privilege-sceptics that there are systemic issues in the first place? I guess probably both are similarly important? Although it might be easier to get potential allies to understand the personal/systemic distinction than to convince sceptics of the existence of privilege (for now at least)!