HOW I DEAL WITH POST DECLUTTER GUILT AS AN EXTREME MINIMALIST😩
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- I’ve decluttered thousands of things over the past decade, and while it’s gotten easier and easier to let things go, guilt can still definitely show up when letting big things go. Here’s how I handle it.. ✨
That was me! Lol. I am the former artist. The way you explained letting go of old identities was so perfect. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders since I gave up creating art. For me, I now see that I held onto it for the external validation it gave me. Now I am working to find that validation within myself.
Yay hello!! Thank you for sharing your story 💙🩵💙
Love this video, Alicia. I have been decluttering, and I am guilty about getting rid of things I spent a lot of money on. These are things I bought because friends or co-workers had. Just to keep up. I am a young senior and want a simple life. I just get upset about how much money I have spent in my life on STUFF.
Oh, me too! But, at least we now know to stop the cycle.♥️🇨🇦
Thanks for opening my eyes Alicia.
We cannot change the past, but we can always learn from it. Bless the things you are releasing for the time they served you, but know that guilt does not serve anyone. You are armed now to make better decisions moving forward, and that is what is most important 💚
I love the idea of treating minimalism as a spiritual practice of letting go and preparing the strength for the difficult goodbyes that can’t be avoided. I’d been thinking that decluttering is a practice in decision making, but what you said makes it much deeper! Sometimes there is guilt when getting rid of something but holding on to that thing just to avoid the short uncomfortable moment of decluttering usually brings more stress. I feel that many things we hold on to are to give comfort or distract from discomfort. It’s always liberating to remove something that doesn’t resonate anymore. Great video😊🌸💖
Very well said thank you for sharing ✨ Glad you enjoyed 🙏🏻
Well to me minimalism IS a spiritual practice. If I wasn't on a spiritual journey I wouldn't be a minimalist, or an "essentialist" as I call myself.
This is just what I needed to hear today!😭
My best friend passed away last year and shortly before he died, I donated some of his old shirts that I had. Now I wish I had them and have been feeling guilty and mad at myself for letting them go. But thank you for the reminder that physical things are just things and not as important as my memories. ❤️
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. Yes hold dear to the love you have for him in your heart as that is real and will always be there 💜🦋💜
@@Exploravore thanks for your response! I love your content and you’ve quickly become one of my fav UA-camrs!!
@marisssawalton Thank you 🙏🏻✨🦋
You are so wise thank you for starting your channel I am constantly learning new and better ways to deal with this life, you have been a wonderful blessing the past few months. I really needed this specific topic today.
So glad you are finding resonance here to help you find your answers within. 🙏🏻✨🩵
When I started decluttering my material things, I started to rethink some of my friendships also, so I "decluttered" people who were sort of toxic for me.
One of those friends was someone that I knew all of my life.
I felt so guilty for a while, but now I feel so free and so differnt without her.
I really hope she feels the same way too.
Thank you for your thoughts!
Yes it’s very important to set boundaries with toxic people. You can love them from a distance, but you are not obligated to put up with people who do not really see and value you 🩵
I have decluttered some friendships as well. I had two friends who were pretty toxic and disrespectful. They were the sorts to backbite about everyone and I have no doubt they were backbiting about me as well. Decluttering the negative energy of others is definitely so freeing!
I left a few "friends" behind too and never been happier! Have known them for over 25 years but they're no longer friends to me, we're too different and evolved in totally different ways. Good riddance.
@robinanoor17 not always easy to do but definitely important ✨
@Prizzy999 It’s natural as you evolve for people to come and go out of your life and that is okay 💜
Your hair looks so beautiful. Thankful for your content, as always. I really look forward to it!
Thank you 🙏🏻 And you are most welcome 🦄✨
Wow, Alicia, thank you for a thought provoking video.
"We dont own our things, but rather our things own us." Your explanation of number 2 really bears out how we are slaves to these things. They even evoke emotions like guilt even when they are gone from our presence.
Impermanence is certain, maybe our pursuit of accumulating and hoarding things is our attempt to make life permanent and predictable. Its even harder to get rid of something that belonged to or was given to you by someone you lost and loved. Getting rid of something like that seems like betrayal of that person.
Thanks again. I hope all is going well with you and your apartment hunt.
Btw, your hair looks beautiful.
Thank Mark- very well said. Yes we absolutely hold onto things to feign security, but nature is always moving, always changing..
Maybe the secret to truly being human is the admission that we don't know anything and that everything is impermanent. And we really have no control over much in our lives. Then we can live anywhere and go through any situation because of the impermanence.
It's so interesting, I'm a minimalist, everything I own fit in my car, but I never thought about letting go of my diploma. I'm holding them for some reasons and I never used them ever, so now I can let them go because it doesn't even represents who I'm anymore.Thank you again for your beautiful sharing💖💖
Be freeeee! ⚡️⚡️
Thank you for your kind words of wisdom. Right now I am going through a proccess of acceptance and letting go as I care for my Mother who has stage 4 lung cancer. She has such clarity on what matters and had been doing Swedish death decluttering (unknowingly). It really puts perspective on what matters. You articulated the process of letting go really well. 💗
I am so sorry to hear about your Mother- sending light as you go through that journey✨ That must be incredibly difficult, but that you are open to embracing it is a very big step 💜
@@Exploravore thank you🙏💗
You hit the nail on the head on so many points! We lost just about everything in fire years ago. At first I missed so much stuff, but our lifestyle changed and those lost things wouldn't have fit in the new life we created. Plus I also think your hair looks great but your skin is amazing! You look like you are wearing blush and lipstick and your eyes ❇
Thank you so much for your kind words and wow that must have been so intense to lose everything in a fire. Kudos to you that you were able to transform that pain into spiritual growth 🩷🩷
Powerful message. Thank you. As I go through guilt in letting go I sit with whoever gave it to me be it a deceased parent or friend or pet. I thank them or I thank the experience of the privilege of having had it in my home. I thank all the joy it brought me . I acknowledge the presence and being of the thing and how blessed I was in its presence. Then I say goodbye. I say I love you but now I need to let you go. Of course I’m crying so deeply but it’s healing. You know when we come into this world we need so many things to survive, live and grow but now in my 70’s it’s time to let it all go. Why should I burden anyone else to do it for me. And actually it ultimately brings me great joy to say goodbye to all the things and all that surrounded those things. And you my dear have helped me do all of it more than you will ever know. You gave the perfect guidance I really needed. I thank you so very much for all your videos. I don’t feel alone. I seem to go through what you talk about too. And I feel loved. 🙏🏽❤🤗 Thank you thank you. 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for sharing these beautiful words. I’m so glad you are finding peace in all of your releases. Sending light and love ✨💚✨
Thank you so much 🙏🏽💖
This video was right on time and it made me go back into my closets and declutter because even though I thought it I got rid of everything, I was still holding on to items that I needed to let go. Thank you for your videos. Your awesome and amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you and so glad you are finding inspiration here 😊🌟💕
Amen to everything that you said . “Love people not things “ as the minimalist often say. Your hair looks beautiful fuller 👌That’s helpful when you put things into perspective as it does make letting go easier . I will remember what you said as I continue in this journey of decluttering. You are awesome 👏
Thank you for these kind words Carmen 🙏🏻💕
1000% guilt is really powerful, letting go makes things SO easy... when in doubt, go to nature, really gives perspective and presence and makes letting go easier. 💫
Yes 💯 Nature is our best teacher and healer ✨💚✨
The only things I have felt regret about decluttering were sentimental type items. I think if the item is common place - like a charging chord, mug, bath towel etc... you can let go without having to feel worry or guilt. If later you did realise you needed one of these it would be very easy to replace. But I would advise to be careful with irreplacable sentimental items. Once they're gone you can't get them back. Set them aside for a while to think about and make sure you're in the right mental space before you let them go. A few times I decluttered sentimental items when I was in a really bad place mentally, feeling really depressed and thinking I would end my life. Later when I felt better mentally I regretted getting rid of a few of those sentimental things, and they can't be replaced. I'm trying to detach from physical things and tell myself they're not that important. Still, I think its good to be careful before getting rid of something sentimental.
For sure- setting aside to really meditate on whether it’s right to part with something is a good thing 🩷
about the college piece of paper that usually define us, was the greatest thing to hear. from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for share.
You are most welcome 🙏🏻🌸
So helpful!! You really understand how the process works. Thank you ! I definitely needed this!
Glad you found some resonance here today 💙🌟
Your hair is so dreamy ❤🇦🇺
Thank you 🦄💕
Girls your hair is so on point today! Great topic. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you 🙏🏻🌟💕
My favourite video thus far, and will watch it again.
Glad you enjoyed 😊💕
I rewatched this video at least 3 times :D Thank you so much you helped me to declutter a lot of clothes and gifts I was just not emotionally able to get rid of. Now a huge Ikea bag filled with stuff will get donated. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
You are most welcome and congrats on having the courage to let go of those things you were stuck on!! I’m sure that feels awesome 🩵⚡️
Thank you very much for this video. So many important lessons you've woven in this one. I really needed your view while being in this proces now. I realised yesterday that every item I have difficulty with, feels like giving up on the old dreams that I associate with it now.
Ah yes that can be a very tough one. Take your time with it and be gentle with yourself, but try to unpack those associations. Is it still something you could pursue? If so, then maybe give it a go. If for whatever reason it’s not, then have a release ceremony and let it go to open the door for new dreams.. ✨💜
I absolutely loved this!! When you said" will this cause you to lose your job, home. It all just made such sense. I haven't had anyone else say this like you did. I put clothes back last night, and I knew I was wrong, and angry with myself. Now I can go back and ask myself these questions. It's going to make such a difference. Thank you❤
You are most welcome 🙏🏻 Happy Decluttering! ⚡️⚡️
Change is the only constant. I'm usually so rigid with my routines, I follow certain things so strictly, this rigidity prevents me from flowing through change. Through your video I realized that for me to live fully I need to accept changes and not fight against them.
It’s a hard practice for all of us! Constant surrendering.. ✨
I had three things that I decluttered and regretted enough that I rebought them.
A cardigan that I went to goodwill to buy back. Got it home put it on. Realized that it still was not a flattering color on me and not as like new as I thought it was. Took it back to goodwill.
A phone with answering machine. It had a voice message from the mom of a good friend of mine. The mom had died years ago. About eight years after she died I had played it for my friend and he thanked me and said it was great to hear her voice again. It accidentally got donated. I panicked and went to goodwill to rebuy it because I was sure I was going to use it. Realized it had already served its purpose and redonated it.
A book on gardening in Virginia. I had bought it when I lived in Virginia but had moved to Ohio. Donated it and then ten years later moved back to Virginia. Found a used copy on Amazon and rebought it. I’ve been in Virginia six years and haven’t used it yet. I know all the plants in our yard and don’t need the book.
From this I learned that for me at least when something gets decluttered it can suddenly become more useful in my mind, but it isn’t. I remind myself of this when I start regretting or feeling guilty about decluttering something. I appreciate your reminder that it is all just stuff.
Cute story- thank you for sharing 😄 The ego loves to clutch on…
Beautiful video- I am a volunteer chaplain and always tell people that it’s just temporary and soon they will be back home/back to routine etc :) also a fan of last of the mohicans my dad watched it all the time! Will apply those questions to my decluttering :)
It’s such a good movie 🥰 And that is wonderful you volunteer! Happy decluttering 🩵🩵
Such a lot of good advice here! I remember having a bunch of correspondence, which had very negative associations for me. I had kept for some years, then one day, decided to let it go, and it was such an emotional release. On the other had, I have things that I struggle to declutter because I spent good money on them, even though it’s unlikely I will use them again. So hard!
Expensive things can be hard. When I went Vegan 10 years ago I had some very expensive leather designer hand bags that I couldn’t stand to wear anymore but felt guilt because I had spent so much money on them. I gave them all to really good friends and they were so happy to be gifted them- this more than made up for the guilt 💙
@@Exploravore a great idea. It’s so nice when someone is happy to receive something you want to prt with. I’m always trying to give stuff to my family, but they often don’t want it 😂 Luckily I volunteer for a women’s charity and can always donate good quality clothes, shoes etc there. What I struggle with most is the sense that I should hang onto things in case I need them in the future
New sub here. Excellent take on these things. I have been decluttering for years now, aspiring minimalist but still have soooo much stuff. I’m at the point now where everything left that I have is kind of emotional. I will try to look at it all in a different way now.
Welcome to the family here! Change is often emotional, but on the other end of it is new life and liberation. For the extra sentimental items you can take a picture of it to commemorate it- this helped me with some big ones. Keep going on your journey ⚡️
Wow, I've never considered decluttering the college framed diplomas hanging in my office. If anything, whenever I've looked at it (which is seldom), I feel like it overwhelms me visually. I don't need paper proof of that experience or certification of my study. My career and job is proof. My photos are proof. I think I will consider letting this go in my next declutter. Ty for always being a light of support and guidance in my minimalist journey.❤
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Great video. I had a mass declutter about 20 years ago (I'm in my 50s now) and one thing I got rid of was a beautiful but old ragdoll handmade by my grandmother, and journals I wrote when I used to be a dancer. I regretted it badly and have felt a lot of pain over losing these things in the years since. I knew I didn't really 'need' them and if I had them I wouldn't have much use for them. But, I am haunted by the thought of that doll crushed in a rubbish dump somewhere rotting away 😢. I meditate daily and sometimes use this as a good practice to ponder on our impermanence... and also the fact that the wonderful memories, people and connections associated with these things are not held in the things themselves.
Yes it can be extra hard to let go of things that look personified- (dolls, teddies or other stuffed animals), but it can for sure be a practice of letting go. Giving them away to a youngster that will enjoy can be helpful, but if they are too ratty then they do just need to pass on.. 💚
My mom gave me a ragdoll doll that she hand-made for me when I was 28 years old. I never knew what to do with it. Because I was a grown woman and I didn't want a doll lying on my bed. I hung on to that doll for a few years and finally sent it to the goodwill. Fast forward to 2024 andI just lost my mom a few months ago to Alzheimer's and I think about that doll and how she put her heart and soul into making it for me and I just gave it to the goodwill. If I still had that doll today, I would give it to my granddaughter. I'm 60 years old now and it's just a sad memory for me. 😢
@chellejack3480 I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. Hopefully the doll is giving love to its new home. Remembering your mother’s love for you as she made the doll is more important than the doll itself- her act of love and love for you are always available in your heart 💜
I also threw away my diploma. Ripped it apart haha. So sick of stupid grades defining people. Felt so good!
Haha awesome 😄
Thank you for this video! After 5 min watching I took my jewellery box and declettured it ❤ nice motivation speak 🙏🏻
Haha nice good work! 🌟
What excellent questions to ask yourself. I agonize over getting rid of some things like antique family heirloom jewelery, even though I know that I will NEVER wear it. I want to downsize to a wedding ring and gold earrings that don't need to be constantly cleaned like silver does. I plan on giving all of my jewelry to my grand daughter to sell and simplifying my clothing to plain t shirts and jeans and easy to mix and match capsule wardrobe. I used to dress like hoochie Mama 20 years ago too, and am now most comfortable and feel most beautiful in a simple white t shirt and jeans in my sixties.I had two heart attacks and a mini stroke last year from Covid and Long Covid and don't want to worry about stuff. I plan on living each day as though I might die next week, because now I know that you never know. I don't want to feel remorse or guilt anymore over anything more than I already do-especially over stuff.. Life is (and can be) too short so we can't waste it on emotions that aren't helpful.. P.S. I threw away my Master's degree too. I don't need a piece of paper to remind me that I have a Masters and I threw my wedding ring off of the George Washington bridge after a failed marriage. That felt so freeing. Being a minimalist for me, is all about freedom.
So glad you came out of those very scary health battles well and with new perspective. Yes life is what matters- not our things 💚
Hahaha, "I dressed like a little ho." BTW, it's wonderful to hear this as I say "minimalism is my religion" because it's my holistic principle that applies to everything. Also, I decluttered 4 bookshelves of books because my PhD degree was much smaller and said the same thing. I was just trying to prove I was smart. And now I sorta don't want the degree on the wall either.
The ego loves to boast. That is an incredible accomplishment you don’t need to diminish, but it can show itself in how you show up in the world in positive ways vs just being “displayed.” Also I agree 💯 minimalism is a holistic spiritual practice for me 🩷
Thank you 🦋
You are welcome 🙏🏻🌸
I still feel some guilt after getting rid of most of my dad’s belongings after he passed. I had this weird and scary feeling that he was actually mad at me for it, in the afterlife. I’m still moving through that. Thank you
I’m sure those are very difficult and intense feelings. Take your time sorting through them, but remember you can honor your father in your heart and love for him and how you speak of him 💜
So much valuable information on this vid🌿 thank you!
You are most welcome 🙏🏻✨🩵💙
I just wanna say thank you for this vedio. Im so happy im here before your channel become to explode bcoz for sure your youtube channel will be well known.. you deserve a million subscriber 🎉 😊.
Thank you so much for these well wishes 😊🌟🩷
The way I’ve been thinking lately is “I didn’t have this item when I was a little kid, and I was fine and perfectly happy without then”. It seems to help.
That’s a great mantra 🌟🌟
Fear is the mind killer... ;)
YESSS ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
It has been wonderful to let a lot of stuff go.
I have a few 'just in case' items that aren't life or death related (lol) to declutter and all of them aren't 'just put in the trash' friendly, so for some reason it's more guilt inducing then if they could fit or just go in the bin.
It's a toy buggy, a unpumped basketball, 3 Ikea peg board storage, a desk fan, a very big bed guard, and a very colourful and very annoying toot toot garage and road and absolutely not connectable mangatile set rip off, all for the toddler. So basically mostly toys or huge, heavy things. I'm waiting for a coat rack to sell, but I'm tempted to sell it for nothing just to see it go. 😂
Try Facebook marketplace! It’s easy and reliable, and that way you know things indirectly going to a good home of someone that wants it, and you can get paid!
@@Exploravore I made a fb account again just to sell or donate the big stuff [and join the EM group] lol.
Wow. Just beautiful.
Thank you 🙏🏻
This is a brilliant video. BTW, your hair and skin is absolutely stunning in this video, can you share your full hair care routine please? I know you've starting using the buddha thing but could you do a vid on everything you do please. I have hair similar to yours but do wash and condition, I have shampoo and con bars but still any info would be lovely. thanks.
Thank you 🦋 I do have a vid titled “my ultra minimalist haircare routine” if you want to check that out 💙
Ok, so I just paused the video and went in and got rid of half of my decorator pillows. It's a start. 😅
Haha hell yeah awesome ⚡️⚡️
And then I paused again through your video and went and cleaned out the linen closet 🤣
Going to the goodwill tomorrow.
@chellejack3480 👊🏻💥😸
How do you with getting rid of photographs?Have you touch on this subject before am New to your post pardon me.Keep up the good work.
Welcome to the fam here! So about 8 ish years ago I went through all my photo albums and took pictures of the ones that were worth keeping and then let go of all the physicals. I have drop box which holds all of those plus my newer digital ones from iPhones in the cloud (I don’t have a laptop or computer.) 💜
What is the movie you mentioned @15 minutes
Last Of The Mohicans- my favorite movie of all time :)
Do jobs require proof of your college degree? I’m not sure since I’ve been in the same job for 18 years, but I’d love to get rid of my diplomas. The only thing that would hold me back is if I got a new job and they required me to send them proof of my degree. I guess there are other ways to show proof. I’m sure the university keeps a record. Sorry if I’m a total idiot for thinking this.😜😜😜😜
The system loves to program us with these thoughts.. Honestly I’m so far out of the normal job circuit that I’m not sure. Any job that requires proof is probably not a job I’d want anyway lol. But colleges always keep records of your transcripts, which is proof enough xx
I think less stuff/simple life is good. I would not like to live in a shell of a house. Things and treasured items make it a home. One can go from a minimalist to "stark" mad.
Are you implying I am mad? Everyone will have their own level of comforts, and I support that. For extreme minimalists like myself we find joy and liberation in not having possessions, and have different parameters of what “makes a home.” It’s not for everyone, and that is ok.
I don't feel guilty about decluttering objects. To me objects have never been important or really valuable and I even left my family picture albums in my ex's house as I never look at them, don't need to. I told him to get rid of them whenever he'll feel like it but I know he never will, he's always been more attached to sentimental items than me 😊 don't want them back anyway.
I know most people think this is strange & unacceptable but I don't care. One day I'll go live in a fisher's house by the sea or sthg similar and will only have one bag containing all my belongings. I simply don't want nor care about owning more stuff than I need, it makes me feel trapped and I have all the people and pets I love in my heart, the only place worth keeping full of stuff.
I really enjoyed the video and think that stuff like this needs to be talked about much more as we live in a society suffocating in consumerism and materialism that I'll never ever understand.
You have gorgeous hair here 😊❤
Thank you 🙏🏻🦋 And yes you are definitely a rare breed for having little care for possessions- I’m right there with you 🩵
My issue is that I feel guilty if I don't use things up until they are completely worn down or finished because 80-90% of the donations end up in land fills. How to get over this? I buy very few things, but I feel the things I have last forever🥲
If it still has usefulness in your life then you do not need to force yourself to let go of it. But if it has no value, it will either end up in a landfill now, or end up in one later after you pass on when it is someone else’s problem to deal with… If you do not want it but it still could be useful, try giving directly to a friend that would need/enjoy it 💙
@@Exploravore thank you for you wise words, I am slowly learning to let go of guilts and fears, it takes time... Your hair looks amazing btw🥰
Just when I think you can't possibly come up with another subject that is so mindful and relative to so many of us, you amaze with your insight. Bravo and Thank you.
@Ratatouilles Thank you.. and you will get there 💙
@melaniegodwin8791 thank you for these kind words 🙏🏻✨
Good speech . Inspiring. Mindful . 😊
I have guilt when I get rid of kids stuff, art work, letters to Santa (I just threw out today). I also find I have guilt of getting rid of material things, but for me at this point it is more that I feel guilty or I am mad ay myself that bought that item or allowed that item come into my home in the first place, and I know I should have not bought it or in some instances, accepted it for free. I think I also feel guilt having to add broken things into the environment, like if I had not bought that item, I would not have had to add that to the landfill eventually.
Guilt over past actions is not very helpful- the past is our teacher. We can’t erase mistakes, but we can learn from them to make better choices in the future 💙
Ok - I have not even started the video... but ooooh pretty hair! My hair used to do this, but it’s been lackluster lately.
My hair never did this until I ditched shampoo and conditioner. Coconut oil bar soap for the win 😉🩷
@@Exploravore please tell me what brand! I swear it’s because it’s not so overly weighed down with “moisturizing agents”. I’ve ditched conditioner and only wash my hair once a week now, but I’m still using up my bottle of shampoo - I mix a few tablespoons of shampoo in an old sriracha sauce bottle and fill it with water. It dilutes the shampoo and makes it work so much better with less. When my bottle is gone - I’m switching to a bar soap! So please tell me which one you use!
@katiejon17 It’s called Coco Fiji- pretty much pure coconut oil and some lime zest :) I have a vid titled “my ultra minimalist haircare routine” if you want to check it out 💙
@@katiejon17I started using that Coconut bar soap she is talking about and can confirm…my hair loves it!
@@Exploravore I’m sure I’ve seen that video... I guess I thought your were describing the shampoo instead of naming it! LOL. Thank you, I’ll go look for it online.
I think My journey so far went like this 1: rapidly decluttered absolute trash, this actually took many many passes, just like when you sweep the floor and then sweep again you find more dust. I got rid of all of the trash (meaningless, useless stuff) I realized a lot of the things that I did not think of as trash in the first pass were actually to me trash. I advise everyone to do this first because it is a lot easier to get rid of the trash, and your life gets enough more efficient that you have more time to spend on the less trash like items. 2. Got rid of old clothes I would never wear and held no sentimental value. 3. I got rid of old hobby stuff that I knew I would never participate in again or teach the kids to do. 4. Very slowly considered the things that I have strong emotional attachment to but does not bring joy or serve a real purpose in my daily life.
Emotional attachment items there are 2 types: 1. When there is no rational reason to be attached to it. Think a bunch of coat hangers just incase you want to buy more clothes. 2. Things that most people would clearly understand the emotional attachment, think a photo album or your granddads watch. For the first type in my declutter passes I mentally convert those coat hangers into trash in my mind. For the 2nd type, I go much more slowly.
I tend to have more of a problem with fear of letting go of the item than regret once I let it go, but truly sentimental items, although I do slowly let some of those items go, that is one I take my sweet time considering before letting go. It is fear of guilt that keeps me holding on to some of these items: A deck of cards that my grandad gave me.... I still have a couple of those decks of cards, but I have gotten rid of most of them slowly over the years. My grandad clock, I will probably never get rid of that. Maybe if one of my kids gets it and they are a minimalist, they will find the courage to get rid of it.
For me I see it as the process of deciding what is the best decision I can make about keeping what I should keep, and letting go of what I should let go of. I will make some mistakes letting go, but it is definitely a mistake to keep everything.
You spent some time talking about the hard good byes we will need to do as our love ones leave. One, not the only, but one of the reasons I am into decluttering and minimalism is the same thing but from the other side of the door. I know someday, someone will need to take care of my effects, and I think about what will this person need to deal with, will it be a few items that speak loads about who I was, or ton of junk that they are going to need to haul to the dump. That matters to me.
Sounds like you are on quite the journey, but taking your time in the right way. Keep going 🙏🏻✨
I’m a vintage and thrifted clothes hoarder. I cry about items I got rid of years ago and it’s still tough. It’s a long journey. Taking photos of items before I give them away really helps.
It will get easier with time 🙏🏻
It's a brilliant message. Thanks❤
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