Interviewing A Trans Elder (“I Knew At Age 10!”)

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  • Опубліковано 27 чер 2024
  • Interviewing a Transgender Elder | "I Knew At Age 10"
    Samantha Lux Interviews Trans Elder Mardi Pieronek
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    #transgender #lgbtq

КОМЕНТАРІ • 531

  • @Rising_Pho3nix_23
    @Rising_Pho3nix_23 4 місяці тому +553

    When Mardi said there's an entire generation that isn't here because of violence, that shook me. Imagine wiping out an entire generation.

    • @petervizzini4006
      @petervizzini4006 4 місяці тому +1

      Considering the push to secsualize children its only gonna get worse

    • @rissahoo
      @rissahoo 4 місяці тому +10

      It explains some stuff, right?

    • @phoebegee54
      @phoebegee54 4 місяці тому +14

      ​@@rissahooyep indeed it does, explains why growing up is so scary

    • @DorianPaige00
      @DorianPaige00 4 місяці тому

      Those days of being tossed out of college and employment unfortunately are coming back under the guise of "freedom" lead by Republicans.

    • @sabias3932
      @sabias3932 4 місяці тому +1

      Yeah sex work is a high risk lifestyle. But y’all don’t care about female sex workers being at risk. Just the scandalous anecdote of a generation of trans sex workers being “wiped out.”

  • @oonamorrioghanblackthorne
    @oonamorrioghanblackthorne 4 місяці тому +229

    I’m 63 came out at 5 and put in a mental hospital for kids because of it. When I was finally old enough and tried to live openly I was attacked sexually by 6 guys so I became a “Punk Dude” because it was scary. Now I’m back to living my true self though I’m not so brave to have UA-cam channel. I love how so many can be themselves now.

    • @janeannchristensen3808
      @janeannchristensen3808 4 місяці тому +40

      I'm 54 and intersex. They gave me SRS at eight years old, and they got it wrong. It's been a long hard life to get to where I can live as myself. Stay safe sister ❤🫂🏳️‍⚧️

    • @naomivought9317
      @naomivought9317 2 місяці тому +3

      Wow I’m sorry that life was so horrific back then for you. I truly applaud your reliance.

    • @juniorpowers8785
      @juniorpowers8785 2 місяці тому +2

      I know this is putting it mildly, but I don't understand why people will treat others like shit for being different. The way you were treated is horrendous and nobody deserves that for any reason. I hope you're doing better now. One step at a time

  • @Elisabeth_Kron
    @Elisabeth_Kron 4 місяці тому +129

    Haven’t watched the video yet but it’s up next in my queue. As another trans elder that transitioned as a teenager in the early 70s who is familiar with Mardi’s story, I wanted to jump in and say not all of us had to go through all the hard things she did and that I had a very different experience thanks to confused but compassionate and understanding parents.
    I will be 70 my next birthday. I started living as a girl at 15 in 1970 everywhere except at school where I was still supposed to be a boy, albeit a very strange one. In retrospect, at the time those were the most emotionally difficult years of my life but I actually had it pretty easy compared to others. I started HRT at 17 in ‘72 before my senior year of high school and after graduating, never looked back. I lived a normal life in the straight world and had normal above board everyday jobs. I’d never even met another trans person until I checked into the hospital to have SRS in 1977 when I was 22. I was married by the time I was 30 and have had an incredibly amazing and satisfying life and I ain’t quite done yet!
    Props to Mardi for the representation and to Samantha for providing the platform. I’ve never had the courage to be out and open in the real world but just wanted it noted some of us old timers are still alive and kicking and that not everyone’s journey was filled with trauma and hardship. I know that’s uncommon for those of my generation - I was just lucky and fortunate to have the support that I did for which I am eternally grateful.

  • @NeonJ1
    @NeonJ1 4 місяці тому +163

    I love the LGBT elders, they really put in perspective that they actually had it hard and how far we’ve came.

    • @BecomingTera
      @BecomingTera 4 місяці тому +17

      As Mardi said, suffering is relative. It's not necessarily *easy* today, but it has been and could be so much worse.

    • @mummytrolls
      @mummytrolls 2 місяці тому

      Yes pro LGBT laws are written in the blood of those who fought for our rights and were killed for it

  • @CorwinFound
    @CorwinFound 4 місяці тому +85

    I really appreciate Mardi's openness about her initial "pick me" attitudes around gatekeeping being transgender when she came out of stealth. Growth isn't a one and done situation, especially for trans/non-binary people. Being willing to acknowledge problematic attitudes after they've been dealt with leaves the door open for others to grow that way as well. I had a similar attitude when I first came out and some pointed words from a more experienced friend set me on the right path. Thanks so much for your perspective, honesty and advocacy Mardi!

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 4 місяці тому +2

      Well said! I don't knock anyone unless they are hurting others.

  • @chrislaustin
    @chrislaustin 4 місяці тому +320

    WOW, Mardi looks amazing for 62, I would have never guessed she was that old. And Samantha, your hair slayed at the start of your video during the introduction, you look amazing.

    • @EuphoricDan
      @EuphoricDan 4 місяці тому +2

      Men age better than women 🙃🙃🙃

    • @alex.a0071
      @alex.a0071 4 місяці тому +38

      ​@@EuphoricDanbut bro, she hasn't even aged, she looks so good

    • @rythiecat
      @rythiecat 4 місяці тому +66

      ​@EuphoricDan men dont age better than women, women just dont talk to you ❤

    • @lord_xylozdoomsday959
      @lord_xylozdoomsday959 4 місяці тому +41

      ​@@EuphoricDanmost dudes are raisins at 40

    • @kavitadeva
      @kavitadeva 4 місяці тому +4

      Chris, saying I never would have thought she was that old. Oops that is a bit of ageism.

  • @MxFourhournes
    @MxFourhournes 4 місяці тому +212

    I love Mardi. She is one of my guiding lights when I’m worried about my transition and my overall happiness. THANK YOU Samantha, and thank you Mardi.

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 4 місяці тому +2

      Good luck with your transition!

    • @MxFourhournes
      @MxFourhournes 4 місяці тому +1

      @@monicadaniels784 THANK YOU 😊!!

    • @MxFourhournes
      @MxFourhournes 4 місяці тому

      @@MetalCrowd-je2bv I really appreciate that. You’re really sweet

  • @el3aleyle
    @el3aleyle 4 місяці тому +105

    I'm a transwoman and working as a physician. All of the love to Mardi for paving the way! ❤❤❤

    • @maryann2970
      @maryann2970 2 місяці тому

      @@PanzarInthelake Mark Foley would like a word, you pervert. You have no moral high ground after you guys circled the wagons around that guy.

  • @chloeplaysdrums
    @chloeplaysdrums 4 місяці тому +41

    As a Metis trans woman I really appreciate Mardi bringing up the unequal abuse and discrimination experienced by trans POC - I'm white passing and don't experience it myself but it's worth speaking on

  • @kayleigh1991
    @kayleigh1991 4 місяці тому +89

    Lovely seeing a trans elder like this ❤ especially seeing older trans people like Buck Angel around

    • @AW-sx8hm
      @AW-sx8hm 4 місяці тому +23

      Yeah I sometimes get his stuff in my recommendations... he seems to think Florida is on to something. 😑

    • @NeonJ1
      @NeonJ1 4 місяці тому +10

      It’s funny how the elders are like, all you people complaining, try living in the 80s. 😂

    • @jayfalcon-rw3qc
      @jayfalcon-rw3qc 4 місяці тому +18

      ​@NeonJ1 you have to keep complaining, never settle, or else nothing improves

    • @J2nce
      @J2nce 2 місяці тому

      ​@@NeonJ1you realize trans people are still harrased, hurt, and killed, right? The 80s was worse but the 2020s isn't perfect, especially with us being known more and considered "propaganda" and "groomers", we're still a big target of hate.

  • @mdccxcii6340
    @mdccxcii6340 4 місяці тому +17

    Trans elder is a term that has me emotional. I believed for a time that we didn't live long enough to be elders.

    • @PlutosAsleep
      @PlutosAsleep 13 днів тому

      i hope you live a long happy and healthy life ❤

  • @raistlinmajere7149
    @raistlinmajere7149 4 місяці тому +46

    I couldn't imagine trying to transition back then. I would be so scared of my life just coming out saying "I like dating men" LGBT people back then were so brave.

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 4 місяці тому +1

      I think so many things are on a continuum. The ability to hide oneself for self protection is one of those things. The thought of losing every relationship one has or being sent to a mental hospital caused many a person from her age bracket to hide in secret pain. Comparing different types of pain is something I don't think is productive. (Not saying you are saying this.) You are correct, coming out then was probably horrendously hard for most. Those who hid, dealt with a different kind of trauma.

  • @morganmightbeok...
    @morganmightbeok... 4 місяці тому +86

    Oh I love Mardi! I follow her over on Threads💜

    • @AW-sx8hm
      @AW-sx8hm 4 місяці тому +6

      Wow this is the first time I've ever seen anyone mention being active on threads!
      I feel like I've just spotted a unicorn.

    • @NikaHollywood
      @NikaHollywood 4 місяці тому

      @@AW-sx8hm I also follow her on Threads. Pretty cool trans community there.

    • @morganmightbeok...
      @morganmightbeok... 4 місяці тому

      @@AW-sx8hm oh ya, there’s a nice little trans and queer community on threads. I’ve been there from the start cause I was so tired of Xitter

    • @RobisonRacing68
      @RobisonRacing68 4 місяці тому

      @@AW-sx8hm Threads is great. Much better than that X place.

  • @MxFourhournes
    @MxFourhournes 4 місяці тому +60

    10:19 perfect point. I always say that identity doesn’t create community;shared values creates community.

  • @ZyanoseBiggestFan
    @ZyanoseBiggestFan 4 місяці тому +17

    Just wanna say I just started testosterone today and it’s very awesome to see elder trans people being happy and gives me so much hope for the future can’t wait to watch this!

  • @michaelf1955
    @michaelf1955 4 місяці тому +67

    Hello Samantha you always have content on your channel. I also grew up in the 60's and 70's and had gender dysphoria since around 6 years old. And iI never even heard of transgender but always crying myself to sleep praying to God wishing I could be a girl. I wish I was born in the 90's or a little later so it would be easier to transition. Now I'm taking Spironolactone and will be on estrogen in October. I have a trans doctor and psychologist to help me out. Thans for having this channel and speaking for all of us transgender female's. I just got Instagram and am following you but how can I get alerts when your live.
    Thanks,
    Michaela

  • @guapodesperado2822
    @guapodesperado2822 4 місяці тому +23

    The trans-exclusionary transwomen really need to hear this message.
    Ok, any member of any minority group that punches down on more marginalized minority folks really needs to hear this.
    Love, don't judge.

  • @michellec3558
    @michellec3558 4 місяці тому +65

    As a teen transitioner, these stories make me tear up because I have had it very easy compared to all the dolls who transitioned back in the 80’s/90’s. But I’m so thankful for them for paving the way for us and walking so we could run 🏃‍♀️💗 we need to collectively keep fighting so the future trans kids have it way easier than all of us now.

    • @cartergomez5390
      @cartergomez5390 4 місяці тому +1

      I'm a trans guy and I don't approve of kids transitioning. Their brains are not developed enough to go through the process. People just want instant gratification.

  • @leilaniaileenlove
    @leilaniaileenlove 4 місяці тому +150

    Things have changed a lot for the good but it's definitely still not safe at all for most of us.

    • @XEzomoX
      @XEzomoX 4 місяці тому +5

      Especially real women

    • @Alexandra_Westheart
      @Alexandra_Westheart 4 місяці тому +6

      ​@@XEzomoXthere is no such thing as a "real women"

    • @XEzomoX
      @XEzomoX 4 місяці тому +3

      @@Alexandra_Westheart yes there is. One that is conceived at birth.

    • @CarinaPrimaBallerina
      @CarinaPrimaBallerina 4 місяці тому +1

      @@XEzomoX Wrong! Did your teachers ever succeed in teaching you about adjectives, kid?

    • @lizadeeza
      @lizadeeza 4 місяці тому

      At the end of the day the most vulnerable are biological women. What she neglected to say is that most of her friends were sex-workers. And sex-work is extremely dangerous. Not just for trans-women but women as well.

  • @trixytoni1527
    @trixytoni1527 4 місяці тому +15

    Mardi is a treasure! Gotta give her props for telling her story. Many trans elders just wanna live their lives in peace but people need to hear what trans elders like Mardi have to say. Thankyou & love you Mardi. 😍🏳️‍⚧️❤️❤️❤️

  • @charliehole9403
    @charliehole9403 4 місяці тому +33

    This is the final thing that i needed to see to say confortably that I am trans. I have been looking at your videos Samantha and some trans memes and i was always like am I or am I not. but thanks to you Samantha I can now be happy

    • @xotbirdox
      @xotbirdox 4 місяці тому +8

      Congrats!!! Well done on finally saying it. 💖🥰 I'm proud of you. Please know that, as tough as things may seem, there are cis women out here on your side. Don't listen to TERFs saying we cis girlies hate you bc we don't. Sending lots of love and positivity your way. 💙🩷🤍🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 4 місяці тому

      @@xotbirdox What a lovely comment, like a hug!

    • @monicadaniels784
      @monicadaniels784 4 місяці тому +1

      I had a hard time stopping dismissing who I was too. I watched myself at every step, thinking when is it gonna fall apart. Now years later, life is good. Best of luck and happiness to you.

  • @680x0
    @680x0 4 місяці тому +8

    Things were tough when I transitioned in the early 90's, but wow! I can't imagine how tough they were in the 70's!

    • @MagicBus-ct7fe
      @MagicBus-ct7fe 4 місяці тому

      It's weird how you keep surviving despite transgenders saying that they are hunted Abbott family in quite place. it's almost as if they full of bs and acting as drama queer

  • @Wr0ngNumb3r
    @Wr0ngNumb3r 4 місяці тому +16

    I'm also 62 but did not transition until the mid-1990s and had my surgery in 2000. I've been married to my husband for just over 20 years now (married 2003). While I was big in the community back in the day, I faded into the background after my marriage. That is, until the last two years when, same as Mardi, felt I had to speak up again because of the lies and hate being spread. I was happy before feeling the shit I went through made a difference, but now worry it will all be undone here in the US. As Mardi said those few of us that were lucky enough to survive need to speak up and I'm happy that Samatha did this great interview to help spread the word. This is not new or a fad and has been around as long as humans have.

    • @MagicBus-ct7fe
      @MagicBus-ct7fe 3 місяці тому

      Oh, it will be undone 😇😇😇.
      I managed to convince 5 of my relatives to vote conservatives. just yesterday I manged to convince 2 more thanks to Biden and democrats reaction to Laken Reilly.
      my aunt was literally crying after she heard about her .

    • @Faus4us_Official
      @Faus4us_Official 23 дні тому

      ​@@MagicBus-ct7fe Haha! You're delusional

  • @bellarosethorne
    @bellarosethorne 4 місяці тому +100

    damn if the internet didn't exist..I don't think I would have made it this far. I certainly wouldn't have figured out I was trans.

    • @ad8447
      @ad8447 4 місяці тому +3

      Seriously???? Coz if you are truly trans, you would know with out the internet. U are just confused

    • @0kamar189
      @0kamar189 4 місяці тому +12

      @@ad8447‘truely trans’ how are you even suppost to know what trans means if you’ve never heard of it before, and if you have, it’s probably not in the positive sense

    • @bellarosethorne
      @bellarosethorne 4 місяці тому +15

      @@ad8447 oh I'm definitely not confused.
      The brain is good at misdirection. I can think of many good examples in my life of what is distinctively trans and would have most people asking "how could you not know?!" but the honest truth is I was ignoring all the times I'd outright tell myself what I wanted, and then was surprised I couldn't figure out why my mental health was spiralling downwards. And you do that for enough time, you get good at brushing off certain thoughts. It took 5 years from actually seeing a trans woman in person, and asking myself what made them different from me (I just wished I was a girl, they actually crossed those bridges, there must be something differing between us........ Right?), to breaking down in tears of absolute emotional agony, realising there wasn't a difference, that all this pain I'd been holding for decades actually had an identifiable source. And wouldn't you know it, in the years since, my mental health has finally been on the up. Transitioning did what SSRIs and talking to therapists couldn't do.. It made me a happier person.
      To put a long story short, I wasn't confused, I was in denial.
      And besides, what's wrong with being confused? People can take time to figure their problems out. Sometimes they need the right tools. Or to be looking in the right place. How is my Internet-based realisation any different than picking up a magazine, and putting two and two together from that? If it weren't for the Internet.. I wouldn't have had the chain of events that lead to me realising when I did. And my mental health was so bad getting through puberty... I'm not joking when I say that if it weren't for the Internet I wouldn't have lasted long enough to figure it out.
      When you don't give people the tools to figure something out, you don't help them down a path you approve of... You just make their life more miserable.
      But again. I'm not confused. I've never been more sure in my life. Oh and ad? Don't try and define who is truly trans based on 24 words in a UA-cam comment. Especially when your idea of what makes someone trans is so clearly faulty. Perhaps one day you'll be able to live a more joyful life, than wasting it yelling at trans people that they are confused. That just seems rather... Sad. Criticising how others live theirs rather than actually living your own.

    • @ArAsDeCos
      @ArAsDeCos 4 місяці тому +3

      ​@@ad8447Yes. Because without knowledge of the terms to describe the feelings, you would have these feelings you didn't have names for.

    • @matt-603
      @matt-603 4 місяці тому

      @@ad8447always the turds online who speak trash wouldn’t dare in real life.

  • @ericah6546
    @ericah6546 4 місяці тому +6

    I really love this. Conversations like this are so important and we all learn from them. Yelling back at haters does nothing good for anyone. Calm, nuanced discussion is everything.

  • @xavierathorne
    @xavierathorne 4 місяці тому +136

    I’m glad that the trans community is finally finding our community. I wish the judging would stop between trans women though. Passing versus non-passing, those who transition early versus those who transition later in life, those with money to transition versus those who don’t have a lot to do it. We all have to stand together. The same thing with all of the LGBTQ plus community. We cannot let the LGB cult separate us.

    • @NeonJ1
      @NeonJ1 4 місяці тому +6

      What I’ve learned is that divide is human nature and in the end, you can’t fully stop it. We just have to make sure we give eachother enough respect to live together.

    • @SeinIshamiado
      @SeinIshamiado 4 місяці тому

      ​@MetalCrowd-je2bv excuse me. The term is LGBT. Don't do that splitting shit.

    • @ryn2844
      @ryn2844 4 місяці тому +2

      Yes, and the I and A too, all together.

    • @SeinIshamiado
      @SeinIshamiado 4 місяці тому +2

      @@ryn2844 no. It's LGBT. No separation. You're destroying what is a full community that always has been.

    • @ryn2844
      @ryn2844 4 місяці тому +9

      @@SeinIshamiado The I and the A have also always been part of the community. Just ask Magnus Hirschfeld and Alfred Kinsey. Just cuz they've been largely erased and forgotten by the mainstream doesn't mean they weren't there. We do have some records left. It would be good if more people were interested enough to actually look into it.
      I'm the B and the T by the way, so you're going to have to do more thorough trimming of the acronym if you want me out.
      Division and erasure destroys communities. Inclusion doesn't.
      I wish you a very nice day

  • @thatlocaltransmasc
    @thatlocaltransmasc 4 місяці тому +46

    I never heard of Mardi befiore. Everything about her is so inspiring
    Im 14 and recently started testosterone. Its hard to believe that we can live this long.
    Its incredible to see older trans people, and I hope that some day younger trans kids can look up to me the way u do to you both

    • @ad8447
      @ad8447 4 місяці тому +1

      Just out of curiosity, your parents know about you taking testosterone?

    • @thatlocaltransmasc
      @thatlocaltransmasc 4 місяці тому +15

      @ad8447 uh yeah? I spent about a year going through different doctors and therapists before i got a prescription.
      I didnt like get it in a back alley or smt 💀

    • @isabelbelem9062
      @isabelbelem9062 4 місяці тому +6

      ​@@ad8447 what, do you think we just get hormones that easily? Lol if it was this way, every trans people would take hormones by now

    • @ad8447
      @ad8447 4 місяці тому +1

      @@thatlocaltransmasc whatever. I hope you are eventually happy with the decision. Lot of detransitioners story out there.

    • @thatlocaltransmasc
      @thatlocaltransmasc 4 місяці тому +8

      @ad8447 about 1% of trans people detransition. Ive been living as a guy for 3 years before i started t.
      So yeah, im pretty happy with my decision :]

  • @VioletJewel1729
    @VioletJewel1729 4 місяці тому +8

    holy crap ........... I can't even make it eight minutes without bawling my eyes out ......................................... I cannot believe it was that bad. I am eternally grateful to her and to you for disseminating this message.

    • @Itzpapalotl.
      @Itzpapalotl. 3 місяці тому

      So dramatic

    • @VioletJewel1729
      @VioletJewel1729 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Itzpapalotl. alright. thanks for your uplifting comment. have a great day.

  • @mparantha
    @mparantha 4 місяці тому +52

    she looks absolutely incredible for 67

    • @pjaypender1009
      @pjaypender1009 4 місяці тому +11

      She said 62, but she looks good for that too.

    • @mparantha
      @mparantha 4 місяці тому +3

      @pjaypender1009 I thought I heard that and then later 67 but my hearing is garbage

    • @Petrichorus-
      @Petrichorus- 4 місяці тому +1

      At 49:26 she says she got a facelift ^^

  • @iamerica7887
    @iamerica7887 4 місяці тому +10

    Wow look at you Samantha interviewing a trans elder! This is soooo cool. Please do more interviews like this!!! 😍🥰♥
    I've known since the age of 4 years old that I was supposed to have been born a girl and had to hide my gender dysphoria for 40 years before I found the courage to come out and begin my transition. Now I get to live as the woman i've always wanted to be and the best version of myself.🙏

  • @paigekutz8539
    @paigekutz8539 4 місяці тому +8

    Seeing our elders brings me so much joy and reverance. Tiggy's story made my heart hurt but im so glad that her story can be shared as well. Thank you both 💓 Mardi is so beautifully warm and has a lovely energy ❤️

    • @mardipantz
      @mardipantz 4 місяці тому +2

      🧡 🪶 🙏🏼💜

  • @astranaut3967
    @astranaut3967 4 місяці тому +6

    Thank you Mardi for coming out of stealth. I honour and admire your perseverance and strength. I am Canadian too, I had no idea people who were trans were denied a college education 😱. I am so glad we have protected Trans Rights and I hope we continue to true equality and equity in Canada ❤

  • @TricksterModeEngaged
    @TricksterModeEngaged 4 місяці тому +4

    Mardi gives off such comforting "your friend's mom who kids know they can talk to when things are tough at home" energy (Everyone should have at least one adult like that in their life growing up)

  • @RomeroRomeral
    @RomeroRomeral 4 місяці тому +7

    Really happy to have watched you talk about non-binary people and passing, specially with someone from an older generation who we often deem as "unteachable". People can learn if they WANT, so the people who don't need to be held accountable for it.

  • @maxsimic6
    @maxsimic6 4 місяці тому +10

    I’m so glad you brought Mardi on! She’s so wonderful

  • @VAFrias
    @VAFrias 4 місяці тому +4

    Seeing trans elders gives me hope. Loved this!

  • @4lovebysara
    @4lovebysara 4 місяці тому +8

    Not 6 mins in & Mardi has me crying already. She's so amazing. ❤

  • @O-pm8bb
    @O-pm8bb 4 місяці тому +4

    What a beautiful, strong and well spoken woman. I got so emotional listening to her story and her friend's. Bless her and all the trans people that crawled so we could walk. ❤️ And her talking about her recovery felt really personal since I'm a trans person struggling with substance abuse.

  • @originalsolarchic
    @originalsolarchic 4 місяці тому +4

    Thank you, to both of you wonderful and beautiful ladies for sharing and opening up about your experiences. I am 57 and I statrted my transition after decades of putting it off. Mostly because of self induced denial, internal negotiations, and a want to not loose all connection with my daughter. Whom by the way she and I have an amazing relationship. i Finally came out and started transition in 2001 and after a couple of detours I was finally able to live, and work as myself. i then as now, was working in the construction industry as i had been since I was 18. I will tell you it was no easy journey, from attepts on my person to outright denial of employement and my families attempt to have me declaried
    I am not famous nor do i have a platform to share my story but I promise I have a happy outcome so for in my life. I am now one of the most sought after professionals in my field.
    Anyway I have such great respect for you both and thank you again for sharing.
    Rachel

  • @froggang_allert9370
    @froggang_allert9370 4 місяці тому +14

    Thank you so much for this interview❤

  • @tatsf
    @tatsf 4 місяці тому +3

    Thank you both so much for this content!! As an elder gay man I feel that it is so important that those of us who are still here are heard and seen, tell our stories. As someone who came out as gay in the early-mid 70s I loved and related to the stories about how things tended to be back then! I also really appreciate how both of you think and talk about concepts. I was not at all surprised to hear Mardi talk about being in "recovery", whatever that looks like for each person (and, as you pointed out Samantha, that doesn't have to just be sobriety from substances). It makes perfect sense. Thank you again! Loved this interview!

  • @citrineelephant6576
    @citrineelephant6576 4 місяці тому +5

    i love how she says "ciz" lol. wonderful talk!!

  • @brodieorr5393
    @brodieorr5393 4 місяці тому +5

    I don't know how possible it would be to get ahold of her, but I would absolutely love it if you could get an interview with Laura Jane Grace. She was not only my introduction to punk music when I was like 13, but also my introduction to trans existence. Her book is so incredible, and it's kinda of the opposite story from this one. She came out as an adult who was already in the public eye

  • @vampmoon
    @vampmoon 4 місяці тому +6

    Both these women are so beautiful wow

  • @deathsheep25
    @deathsheep25 4 місяці тому +8

    Thanks so much for this video Samantha! I find it so easy to feel scared or depressed these days but seeing you and Mardi thriving gives me hope that we're going to be ok ♥

  • @kitanamonroe2689
    @kitanamonroe2689 4 місяці тому +4

    I'm passable enough to not get a lot of the harassment on the street and still terrified whenever I leave the house.

  • @rissahoo
    @rissahoo 4 місяці тому +3

    Wow wow wow wow wow, Samantha and Marty, thanks so much for this.

  • @hungrytroodontid
    @hungrytroodontid 4 місяці тому +2

    This made me cry a couple times. A beautiful interview. Thank you for sharing. There’s a special kind of hope and security at seeing trans (and gay) elders.

  • @FrankensteinsMom
    @FrankensteinsMom 4 місяці тому +4

    I’m from Alberta and I go to school in Victoria now, when I heard the news about the trans healthcare being taken away from youth in Alberta my heart went to a very dark place, but hearing Mardi speak was such a sigh of relief. She restored hope for me. And I’m not even trans 😂

  • @SarastistheSerpent
    @SarastistheSerpent 4 місяці тому +6

    Mardi is such a delight! As a fellow Canadian LGBTI (albeit cis) person, she is a role model to me

  • @RobisonRacing68
    @RobisonRacing68 4 місяці тому +5

    Mardi is the queen of us elders... She's good people.

  • @kasumisminkey7192
    @kasumisminkey7192 4 місяці тому +1

    I've been following both Mardi and Samantha for a couple years now, so it was wonderful to see you talking together! Love you both! Thanks for all you do for spreading light throughout the world!

  • @davisbrowne1906
    @davisbrowne1906 4 місяці тому +2

    It wasn't all in vain!!!
    How beautiful a sentiment, so candidly expressed.
    I was really moved by the ability and agility both of you showed in transcending the mechanics of two radically different eras to show a very basic commonality... and in doing so, you finally imparted a message that I have been resistant to hearing - that trans people are here.
    (I don't mean I didn't know that, but I hadn't received the message, if you know what I mean)
    You've made an ally.

  • @immaperson321
    @immaperson321 4 місяці тому +7

    I just got accepted into my college today, as a trans nonbinary person. I'm glad that what I have been wondering has been validated: that I am honoring my trans elders and transcestors by being myself and existing in the spaces they fought to create for me. I'm proud of myself. I'm happier as myself. I'm honoring their fight. I feel very fulfilled.

    • @87eargasm
      @87eargasm 4 місяці тому +2

      congratulations! what a nice thing to read. I'm glad you're proud of yourself and enjoying your achievement - it's a healthy thing to cultivate. I wish you every success at college :)

    • @immaperson321
      @immaperson321 4 місяці тому +1

      @@87eargasm thank you so much, genuinely. :)

    • @NeonJ1
      @NeonJ1 4 місяці тому

      It’s almost like being LGBT isn’t as bad. It’s great when elders put things in perspective.

    • @immaperson321
      @immaperson321 4 місяці тому +1

      @@NeonJ1 Being LGBTQ isn't bad, and I don't know that I ever felt it was. I just know the outside world is bad, and think we are bad. There is a lot of things that have gotten better, but we still have a fight to keep putting up. That being said, seeing more trans elders is important representation and to hear them speak because it reminds me being trans isn't a death sentence, that I can survive and grow old. We don't just disappear when we get older. We are always here. Now it's just easier to see. I'm so grateful for this video for that.

    • @NeonJ1
      @NeonJ1 4 місяці тому

      @@immaperson321 I’m not saying being LGBT is bad, more that if you put things in perspective we are actually lucky. It isn’t a trans genocide like people are saying. The infighting isn’t new in the community and prolly a lot better. It’s almost like we overblow a lot.

  • @Anya-Prime
    @Anya-Prime 4 місяці тому +4

    This was super touching🥲 I wasn’t expecting this video but it was enlightening and simultaneously hopeful and sad. You hear how bad it was and how many trans people didn’t make it, but hearing Mardi’s story is another thing altogether. I wouldn’t have the bravery to leave home and pursue transition so young and have to work terrifying jobs to survive. Am I ever glad to be transitioning in this day and age, even with how polarized the politics are becoming. It’s hard to have hope right now but if it got so much better in the past few decades, maybe it’s possible to imagine a world where we are just allowed to be people and the issues we deal with aren’t as life or death all the time.

  • @cecybellard1
    @cecybellard1 4 місяці тому +2

    such a beautiful interview, thank you

  • @BecomingTera
    @BecomingTera 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this powerful conversation. I didn't know how much I needed to see this! I think stories like Mardi's gives us all hope for a brighter future.

  • @matronofsquirrels
    @matronofsquirrels 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤ So Grateful for this conversation. Really needed this today.

  • @twiiii1
    @twiiii1 4 місяці тому +1

    This is the best most informative program you have had in a very long time. You need to do more work like this in the future.

  • @Em.9306
    @Em.9306 4 місяці тому +6

    I came out at 30 but I had an idea when I was 6. Im glad to see videos like this ❤

  • @progressive_beard
    @progressive_beard 3 місяці тому +1

    exceptional interview. Loved the genuine connection you two clearly have, and the honest, frank conversation. Thank you for what you do!

  • @Tylevision_
    @Tylevision_ 4 місяці тому +2

    This video is like being wrapped up into a nice blanket while talking to a family friend about life. Mardi's words are really insightful and inspired

  • @janealace
    @janealace 4 місяці тому +2

    Great interview. Thank you.

  • @VesperEmm
    @VesperEmm 4 місяці тому +3

    I've followed both of you for a while, so this interview is like the best crossover ever. I love Mardi's content, and it's amazing to learn more about her!!

  • @ophiescurse
    @ophiescurse 4 місяці тому +2

    this conversation was amazing! mardi is such a beautiful soul, thank you and well done to you samantha for this insightful interview ❤

  • @ReigneWolvenshire
    @ReigneWolvenshire 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I don't have the words for how wonderful it is. Love y'all

  • @Soulwildxlovex
    @Soulwildxlovex 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this, both of you ❤❤❤❤❤❤ so so so important for people to hear

  • @mythornshaveroses6472
    @mythornshaveroses6472 4 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for this wonderful interview. It was fun at times, a bit sad at others but, so informative throughout. ❤

  • @ZukiTV
    @ZukiTV 4 місяці тому +2

    The way I squealed when I saw this! I’m so happy you interviewed her!!!

  • @moondropsofjuno
    @moondropsofjuno 4 місяці тому +2

    Omg i love Mardi's content over on tiktok documenting her life experiences as an elder

  • @Butterfly-sj6wy
    @Butterfly-sj6wy 4 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤❤ the interview. Thank you both for being such an inspiration

  • @la_leek8917
    @la_leek8917 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank u for sharing this beautiful conversation with us.

  • @pricelessprebolus
    @pricelessprebolus 4 місяці тому +3

    I love Mardi! I got so excited when I saw her in the thumbnail!

  • @alicemaltais5414
    @alicemaltais5414 4 місяці тому +3

    i can’t express with words samantha how your content is healing me ❤ keep the good work!

  • @casperdegroot7758
    @casperdegroot7758 4 місяці тому +2

    TWO OF MY FAVORITE LADIES AHHH

  • @olivevillanelle3524
    @olivevillanelle3524 4 місяці тому +1

    Such a great discussion and now Mardi has a new fan/follower. She's so sweet :-)

  • @geezergo7186
    @geezergo7186 4 місяці тому +1

    Great interview, Samantha! - I have followed Mardi for several years, and I think it is so important that she continue to tell her story.
    The challenges, and gate-keeping of finding gender-affirming care decades ago, and especially the darkness of trying to navigate it, is the reason so many of us her age (I am just a few years younger than her) were not able to transition when we were younger, and are now trying to navigate it later in life.
    Both Samantha and Mardi are such wonderful and articulate role models and advocates for the trans community.
    Thank you for sharing this interview! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @meeguelangelo
    @meeguelangelo 4 місяці тому +1

    Girl thank you so much for this, love you both 🥹💞🫰✨! Mardi is SUCH a font of wisdom and knowledge 😊❤️

  • @galacticastrologist
    @galacticastrologist 3 місяці тому +1

    Two of the most creative, phenomenal and gorgeous!

  • @PerksJ
    @PerksJ 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this interview. I really needed this today 😊

  • @3bah4y
    @3bah4y 4 місяці тому +2

    One of the most important videos on this app❤ thank you mardi and samantha

  • @liftalotl4266
    @liftalotl4266 4 місяці тому +1

    wow, what an interesting interview. thank you mardi! and thank you samantha!

  • @erikaj4655
    @erikaj4655 4 місяці тому +2

    omg i love mardi i've seen her on tiktok this is such an iconic collab

  • @SirShyBoi
    @SirShyBoi 4 місяці тому +3

    Omg i already love this!!💖

  • @Pheenixswann
    @Pheenixswann 4 місяці тому +1

    Yay I love Mardi so much so glad you had her on your channel she deserves the world

  • @greedbun
    @greedbun 4 місяці тому

    this was such a beautiful conversation about identity. It's so important to have a conversation like this, it can be so easy to get lost in the mainstream. Much respect to Mardi, it was awesome to hear her story.

  • @jameswalker9248
    @jameswalker9248 4 місяці тому +6

    This was such good interview. As an ally, I always learn a lot from hearing about other people's experiences. Much love to you and to Mardi. ❤🏳️‍⚧️

  • @StephMcAlea
    @StephMcAlea 4 місяці тому +2

    Hi Sam, I've been a fan of yours for a long while. Thank you for having Mardi on as I didn't know she existed. I'm 55, jn the UK, and am attracted to women, so my experiences are almost identical to Mardi's.
    Her lessons and experiences were so helpful, and you gave elders a voice today. I sometimes feel a bit weird being older and watching trans youtubers who are all young, but because you had Mardi on, that disappeared for me.
    Thank you, darling xx

  • @KimDrewTheLine
    @KimDrewTheLine 4 місяці тому

    Thank you, this was a great video. You're both awesome! ❤

  • @morgeduid
    @morgeduid 4 місяці тому +1

    i live in the same town as mardi and somehow have never heard of her. this is why i need to actually go to pride this year!!!

  • @cvntyspicedlatte
    @cvntyspicedlatte 4 місяці тому +4

    Such a beautiful interview, you both give so much light to the world and we need that more than anything in these dark times. Trans people are valid and beautiful and I love you all ❤️

  • @zelrex4657
    @zelrex4657 4 місяці тому +1

    Omg I needed this 😭♥️

  • @lovatic_101
    @lovatic_101 4 місяці тому +14

    Hi Samantha!!! I love you so much! You have literally helped me so much. You are amazing 🧡💚🩵

  • @breekolean2758
    @breekolean2758 4 місяці тому +5

    Had my surgery with Toby at OHS 1995

  • @wanyasworld8914
    @wanyasworld8914 4 місяці тому +2

    Love Mardi such a great voice in the world, showing how important it is to know our history. To know where we come from to see where we are going.

  • @Necrophyllis.
    @Necrophyllis. 3 місяці тому

    The collab I didn't know I needed!!

  • @katie2858
    @katie2858 4 місяці тому +3

    Great interview. Thanks so much for creating this and putting it out there. I love both Samantha's and Mardi's UA-cam channels. They are both amazing women and awesome role models for trans people of all ages. I know there is an age differential but Samantha and Mardi both look like they are in their 20s. Wow! Nice one, sisters! 🙂x

  • @snuzzle
    @snuzzle 4 місяці тому +2

    I would LOVE more positive videos like this. Mardi is a gem

  • @EsmeraldaGarcia-vp5xo
    @EsmeraldaGarcia-vp5xo 4 місяці тому +10

  • @Observette
    @Observette 4 місяці тому +2

    What a lovely lady. She looks incredible too! 😮