I def agree. Polygamy not for everyone. Some muslim men see us like were supposed to be their carpets or sum. Not every woman sees or feels an experience the same way
Another thing I forgot to mention sister, I’m not sure if you work or contribute any money to the household or not, but if my man was gonna take a 2nd, be sure I won’t be contributing a cent to the house! He better provide for me and my kids AND her and her kids! He can’t have his cake and eat it too lol. That’s a huge factor in polygyny-money! Esp with the cost of living right now, how’s he gonna afford two rent/mortgages, two car payments and insurances, along with all the other little things like food and clothing? Maybe if he’s a rich man, but most men are not going to be able to do this.
I really dont wish for my husband to marry again, but if I would get any hint from him (even jokingly) I would be honestly concerned. Men are not like women and they may truly have the need to marry again. This could have many reasons, not just the s*xdrive. There should be room to discuss this topics honestly from BOTH sides. We're often caught up in our emotions and forget about our husband's needs and emotions.
That red pill movement is very harsh, it’s funny how men are willing to do that and still expect 💯 love and more act of service from the wife, smiles His love also is divided also, everything Truly, there is nothing we can do really if they decided to to do that😅 that is why it s very very very bad to put all your love, emotions, strength one a person except Allah because when they choose to…. It can break you
Salam alaikum Sisters ...Allah swa gave this chance to men. it is not easy for some woman to bear i understand very well. We all are looking for Jannah inshallah. Allah swa promise to women who can bear poligamy to considerate it as jihad alhmdulillah ❤ As niqabbist inshallah we together can be strong in Allah swa obeying Allah ❤
Asalamulaykom sis, just a kind word of advice when gesturing sometimes your forearms show. Not sure if it’s something u realized so just wished to let u know
Hey sis, I'm just curious. You said none forced you to wear the niqab. So are you going to force it on your daughter (if you have one) when she grows up? Just curious
You can do things like buy her a niqab, teach her about the beauty of wearing it to obey and get closer to Allah, make her love it inshaAllah before she reaches puberty. I know girls like this who wore it on their own alhamdullilah….who her friends are is also super important
You can talk about this with your husband. I know many women don’t like this but Allah has ordered we should respect him Subhana wallahu ta’ala. it’s okay to say to your husband how you feel about this but saying things and opposing the idea of polygamy which Allah has ordered can create fitnah. Be aware of what you post
A husband is not obliged asking the wife (wifes) their opinion on that. Sharia is not an option It could not be easy, I really know . Only in Allah the strength 💪
Is your husband the same culture as you and did you guys discuss this prior marriage? I’m sorry he’s even joking with you about that, I would tell him it’s not something to joke about-either he is serious and does it or he keeps quiet and has a happy life with one wife! Also, you mentioned a husband falling in love with another woman…what I wanna know is, under what halal circumstances is a man gonna fall in love with a non mahram woman?! That would be cheating and is a sin! If he wants a second wife he has to go through a third party to find her with clear intentions of marrying. No water cooler romance at work or falling for the barista is gonna cut it! You are still young and men do take time to emotionally mature, so in sh Allah as life throws more lessons at him he’s gonna learn to respect you and not mess with your emotions by joking about another wife. It’s one thing to be serious and want one, quite another to play with a wife’s heart by trying to upset her. It is honestly earth shattering when you find out your spouse is talking to another female, I just can’t imagine being able to cope. I do understand it’s halal for the men who can do so fairly, but it’s not haraam to want monogamy, and that is happily what I will practice.
Like it or not.. polygyny is very crucial for Muslims right now. There r so many misconceptions regarding this topic, not to mention the feminist indoctrination in women. And ofcourse It is recommended in Islam. But your response was very good.. unlike many other feminist Muslim women.
I def agree. Polygamy not for everyone. Some muslim men see us like were supposed to be their carpets or sum. Not every woman sees or feels an experience the same way
Another thing I forgot to mention sister, I’m not sure if you work or contribute any money to the household or not, but if my man was gonna take a 2nd, be sure I won’t be contributing a cent to the house! He better provide for me and my kids AND her and her kids! He can’t have his cake and eat it too lol. That’s a huge factor in polygyny-money! Esp with the cost of living right now, how’s he gonna afford two rent/mortgages, two car payments and insurances, along with all the other little things like food and clothing? Maybe if he’s a rich man, but most men are not going to be able to do this.
I really dont wish for my husband to marry again, but if I would get any hint from him (even jokingly) I would be honestly concerned. Men are not like women and they may truly have the need to marry again. This could have many reasons, not just the s*xdrive. There should be room to discuss this topics honestly from BOTH sides. We're often caught up in our emotions and forget about our husband's needs and emotions.
Walikum Salam sister
That red pill movement is very harsh, it’s funny how men are willing to do that and still expect 💯 love and more act of service from the wife, smiles
His love also is divided also, everything
Truly, there is nothing we can do really if they decided to to do that😅 that is why it s very very very bad to put all your love, emotions, strength one a person except Allah because when they choose to…. It can break you
agree! They are truly lost! Very contradicting and honestly unhappy overall.
Salam alaikum
Sisters ...Allah swa gave this chance to men. it is not easy for some woman to bear i understand very well. We all are looking for Jannah inshallah.
Allah swa promise to women who can bear poligamy to considerate it as jihad alhmdulillah
❤
As niqabbist inshallah we together can be strong in Allah swa obeying Allah ❤
Asalamulaykom sis, just a kind word of advice when gesturing sometimes your forearms show. Not sure if it’s something u realized so just wished to let u know
Hey sis, I'm just curious. You said none forced you to wear the niqab. So are you going to force it on your daughter (if you have one) when she grows up? Just curious
Oh i will not do that. Especially the niqab because i follow the opinion that its not fard
@@Niqabisista Thank you for answering. I'll take your advice if I become a girl mom in the future. May Allah bless you & give you jannah.
You can do things like buy her a niqab, teach her about the beauty of wearing it to obey and get closer to Allah, make her love it inshaAllah before she reaches puberty. I know girls like this who wore it on their own alhamdullilah….who her friends are is also super important
You can talk about this with your husband. I know many women don’t like this but Allah has ordered we should respect him Subhana wallahu ta’ala. it’s okay to say to your husband how you feel about this but saying things and opposing the idea of polygamy which Allah has ordered can create fitnah. Be aware of what you post
Exactly sister!
A husband is not obliged asking the wife (wifes) their opinion on that.
Sharia is not an option
It could not be easy, I really know .
Only in Allah the strength 💪
Assalamualakum
Is your husband the same culture as you and did you guys discuss this prior marriage? I’m sorry he’s even joking with you about that, I would tell him it’s not something to joke about-either he is serious and does it or he keeps quiet and has a happy life with one wife! Also, you mentioned a husband falling in love with another woman…what I wanna know is, under what halal circumstances is a man gonna fall in love with a non mahram woman?! That would be cheating and is a sin! If he wants a second wife he has to go through a third party to find her with clear intentions of marrying. No water cooler romance at work or falling for the barista is gonna cut it! You are still young and men do take time to emotionally mature, so in sh Allah as life throws more lessons at him he’s gonna learn to respect you and not mess with your emotions by joking about another wife. It’s one thing to be serious and want one, quite another to play with a wife’s heart by trying to upset her. It is honestly earth shattering when you find out your spouse is talking to another female, I just can’t imagine being able to cope. I do understand it’s halal for the men who can do so fairly, but it’s not haraam to want monogamy, and that is happily what I will practice.
Like it or not.. polygyny is very crucial for Muslims right now. There r so many misconceptions regarding this topic, not to mention the feminist indoctrination in women. And ofcourse It is recommended in Islam. But your response was very good.. unlike many other feminist Muslim women.