I forgot where I heard it, but the funniest thing I ever heard was a guy saying, "Dude, I'm so deep in the friendzone that I've met her boyfriend's parents."
Little Oven I have preferences (as a lady person) and I don't have that much trouble. Just don't get too caught up on one individual.
+LicoriceLain
a lot of people frown upon leaving the friendship. a lot people assume that if the dude leaves he was just in it for sex/romance.
Also some say "if you really like her then you would be happy that she is happy with someone even if it isn't you."
Crush: No, we're just friends.
[V-Sauce music kicks in]
**Or are we?**
came here to know how to escape friendzone and got a lesson on how important friendship is
Women friendzoning men is an abusive behaviour. If that's your concept of friendship, seek therapy.
@@redrosin99a therapist would tell you thinking women owe you any type of romantic relationship when they don’t feel the same way is deluded and selfish. If you can’t handle rejection to the point where you need to lie about what healthy is, YOU need therapy
"Bateman's Principle"
Uh oh
"Named after Angus Bateman"
Hoo boy, dodged a bullet there.
Michael as a kid
Girl: I just wanna be friends
Michael: well actually...
It’s incredible how Vsauce videos from 9 years ago still looks like 2022 videos; the quality of the video and the density of the content aged very well.
Yeah, when he shows other people videos like jenna marbles, there is a huge contrast which feels like as if he is mentioning past
"how did you guys get married?"
"yeah he used the Ben Franklin effect on me"
"video title*
reccomended for you
gonna need some ice for that burn
"The Science Of The Friend Zone"
Me : You know , I am something of a scientist myself
Wow, I actually feel pretty great now about being friend-zoned … Thank you, Vsauce, for stretching my self-delusion to even greater heights.
Hahahahaha! At least you are cool enough to have fun. In contrast to all these people who want to keep their delusion and even pass it to others.
Good luck man!
@@godnyx117
“You can use your illusion,
Let it take you where it may;
You live n learn, and then, sometimes,
It’s best to walk a-way …”
(Before you become Mayor of Friendzone Town)
why does all vsauce videos look like they were made in 2018 even if it was actually made in 2012 or 2013? like damn, that quality
He has been doing this for a while so hid equipment is top of the line so he doesn’t need to upgrade.
I really like that recontextualization at the end. Where friend zone isn't a knock down but instead an outside 3rd party that can give you insight on yourself. This can give step ahead of finding a mate as you may finally realize who is really compatible with you rather than who think is.
Vsauce: makes a video about beds
Vsauce at the end of the video:
"And that is how nuclear fusion is created"
Girl: I like you.. but as a friend. I'm sorry..
Guy: Am i getting friendzoned?
Girl: Umm yes... i think so..
Michael: *OR AM I?*
**Vsauce music plays**
a very rare phenomenon- A vsauce video where he actually stays within 10% of the actual topic
there is only one in which he stays on topic for the entire time
prime numbers for 3 hours
You can tell he’s definitely speaking from experience ... especially the “nice guys finish last” comment
I can't believe this was made 9 years ago. The last 2 minutes feel eerily current more than ever.
Michael’s son in the future asking for relationship advice:
Michael: ah yes, but first, what exactly IS a relationship?
Naming something the friendzone is so sad because it diminishes the value of friendship. Platonic love is still very valuable and fulfilling. Plus, you can’t date everyone.
If you start viewing all of your relationships as “what value can I add to their life, and what value can they add to mine?” Instead of, “why don’t they like me?” Then you start seeing life more as passive positive experiences less that the labels matter.
What can you do to make your situation better? And, part of that is understanding your boundaries. People can’t be available 24/7 and you can’t be either, etc. it’s much better to have a friend or partner who is honest with things like that, too. A true loving relationship is balanced between what each person can contribute.
i don't think the problem is being "friend zoned" the one time lol, it comes from the consistent act of it, not to mention holding the bonds one already has with their friends.
Men have already friendships and it's witg other men. We see women as mates not friends.
You went so deep on this even though there was no reason to. Seems like you just wanted to write an essay. I already have friends. I want a girl to be even greater than a friend,someone i can confide in,talk about everything to,be one with. And if they then make me just a friend,its coz they are doing it as a last resort. Its an insult basically
@@niranjanrajesh1058 so they either go out with you or they are being rude? wtf haha
me with some friends at a party : wow that girl is hot af
Vsauce : *Or is she? And what is even beauty?* _(starts talking about quantum physics)_
Vsauce: How many men a day spend time in the comments of my video telling strangers they go to parties and objectify women? Hmm...
When Vsause overthinks why he's in the friendzone
Intelligence is attractive to some people just as fame is. He's got both. What about you?
Seems to be a euphemism for unrequited love or general incompatibility. The tricky thing is that it cannot progress if it's one sided, or if only one person is sexually attracted and not the other. So it's fairly common, but it shouldn't be viewed as the end of the world. Even in the most stable of long term romantic bonds, friendship represents the foundation. I think part of the solution is that we have to start valuing friendships again.
but it is not real friendship the friend zone is a place they put a guy so they can use the guy he bad guy if want to leave because he respect the woman that does not want or he is a creep for trying to get more then she want to give him
Another major problem is that people, guys especially, either believe that a relationship should happen when sexual attraction is present, *or* they confuse sexual attraction with a romantic one. People who are sexually attracted to each other can be, and often are friends
@@bnhalemon7098exactly! Wanting to have sex with someone and being in love with someone are completely different things 😅
I am back, I watched this 6 years ago. I fell in love, we dated twice just last year but ultimately it's the friendzone for me, time to rewatch.
How to get a friend:
1. Tell a girl you like her
2. She tells you that we can only be friends
Bammm You got a friend!
Instructions unclear theres a miniature human thingy that's been walking around in my house im scared help!!
But.... what about the "brother zone" where they tell you "you're like a brother to me"?
well thats even worse than the friend zone... good luck bout getting outta that bruh
being recommended this video on valentines is incredible. thanks youtube
Put this on my watch later list 12 years ago. Feel like it's time to watch it
the "friend zone" more like palcatraz.
my soul..............
and the official definition of my dating life
Micheal on his marrige-
The priest: Do you agree with this marriage
Micheal: I do......or do I?
Its for some reason so satisfying to hear "or, is it?" And then the iconic vsauce music
Birth control effectiveness:
Condoms: 97%
Birth control pills: 98%
Talking about physics on parties: 100%
If a hot guy talked about physics at a party, the girls would be all over him, take the black pill my friend and enjoy it.
@@maximilianthomas3006 well some people chill on parties and try to forget about school. But in most *cases* you decrease the probability of getting your chances with a girl.
@@nathaniellancaster2 not true, if anything, depending on the type of people there, it increases the chances.
I just got friend zoned a week before this, and it actually made my mood about it by watching this, keep up the great work!
His videos really ARE timeless, amazing!
So Harvard university recently published a new way to get out of the friendzone
Step 1: Be attractive
Is this what you tell yourself to justify your lack of girlfriends?
Explains it to a certain extend, since attractive people will get chosen instead of brushed aside, no matter how incompatible they might be. The relationship won't last, but attractive people are much less likely to be friendzoned I'd imagine
The last thing I need is a scientific explanation as to why I can't get a girl goddamnit
+Reps ForJesus then i guess you dont want to change something about it. which is great if that makes you happy. rock on ;)
it was a slightly true comment but mainly said it to try and be funny. im doing better. just being friendly and outgoing can do a lot. im talking to a girl right now that may or may not go somewhere but its progress.
Theirs no getting out of it.. if your meant to be in the friend zone its all you will ever be
There will always be vsauce videos I haven’t seen yet
Doctor: you’re in the hospital, Michael.
Michael: *oR aM i?*
Doctor: yes...yes you are.
BNH DELUXE Michael: So first, we have to understand the meaning of “hospital”, and what it actually means to be in a hospital. *Starts talking about quantum physics and questioning the universe as a whole*
But what IS a hospital? You see, a hospital is a place, designated to cure the ill, but who decides the designation? Back in 1679 the famous British doctor...
Use the Ben Franklin effect
*strolls into room wearing wig*
ladies ;)
You forgot that he asks them to do him a favor...
"Ladies, my garter has become loose, would any of you care to tighten it for me?" At the very moment his garter has been tightened, he farts and cuts the cheesy tension...
**gets killed by a lightning bolt while flying a kite with a key on it during a storm**
**omg Rebecca no he’s mine**
This video is more helpful than any video on relationships I've ever seen, and this one just randomly showed up in my recommended. It's a gift from God.
6:10
2020: *Drops to Zero*
You know it's bad when you turn to Michael Stevens for relationship advice
You kidding? Michael is the best at this! I'd turn to him even if I wasn't desperate.
Primerprime 5 😂😂 I mean yeah, he is pretty good at understanding things us plebs don't and the first time I watched this video I was binge watching vsauce videos, so I was just desperate for vsauce knowledge tbh 😂 but fast forward like 3 years and now it's back in my recommended... yt's really tryna tell me something eh 🤔
Did Michael just spoil the whole plot of Friends?
I finished Friends way before watching this. But that's not what this is about. Not all people have seen all things. No one was born having watched Friends. I hate people like you who say 'well it's out so doesn't matter if you're spoiled, your fault'. And then there's the improper grammar...
Who gives a fuck, if you think him saying Ross getting Rachael is a spoiler you my friend need some new hobbies
Beautifully said. A video from 11 years ago and still on point
Watching all that older youtube content...feels so vintage. And makes me feel so old...
what if you get gayzoned
Eduardo A. Iñiguez oh shit i just realized lmao. that went right over my head
i never got why being in the friendzone was made out to be worse than never seeing the other person again.
every romantic relationship ends in either breaking up or dying, and if in your culture you tend to have only 1 romantic partner at a time, then every single one of your relationships apart from one (if you are the first to die in a couple, or they die and you don't date again) ends in breaking up. Can't say that about friendship!
Yes, but the friendzone is worse because you suffer throughout that friendship, for the reason that you can't have what you love, or worse - you see that person loving someone else.
Friendship is great if that's what you want. But if you want more and can't have it; not so great. So leaving the person is ideal.
Friend zone is pretty easy to understand. The person likes to be around you but for some reason isn't attracted to you. That could be physically, lifestyle, some other fundamental incompatibility. So it's not something you are put into. That person offers you friendship and it's your decision to take it or leave it. The only person who puts you in the friend zone is you.
Yeah but its more insulting to a guy who has genuine feelings for a girl because whenever she eventually finds a bf he's just gonna have to sit and watch them make love from the side lines, knowing she's getting her back blown out. It's like a form of cuckoldry, it's better for his own mental state to let him go and not put him through that if she really cares about him.
And the guy she chooses alot of the times treats her badly so eventually she's gets her heat broken and comes running back to mr friendzone guy but will never give him a chance.
Thats like if a girl really likes a guy and they have so much fun togther and she really enjoys his company, he gives her butterflies in her stomach and she really loves him and she cooks and cleans for him, yet he ignores all that and goes to be with some trashy bimbo slut who treats him like crap, then complains about it all the time but then tells this female friend, she's so special any man would be lucky to have her yet, he would never do it and they can only be friends while he only goes after trashy women then keeps complaining about.
Sounds kinda stupid doesn't it?
@@panthornberry do you even know what you're talking about? No one said they shouldnt have the ability to say no 🤡
The op was insinuating that it is some how a good thing to be friends with a guy thats romantically interested in her
@@panthornberry bruh🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ (reading comprehsion is needed)
Thats not what it's talking about... or atleast that not what _I'm_ talking about here
But Papa Franku said there's no such thing as the Friendzone and that im just fat and gay
He's right. Not necessarily about you but the friend zone is a toxic idea that doesn't exist and more people should research it before latching onto it as an excuse for their shortcomings or lack of communication.
why is this recommended to me on valentines day? 😭
Last time I had a picnic was 2014 in Alaska with family. There was no snow. We ate subway pizza. It was also the first time eating subway
"wish I had a guy like this"
"Sup"
"Ew no"
"I'm literally the guy in the pic, or am I?"
Me: "would you like to be my friend"
Girl: "sorry I only see you as a boyfriend.... wait"
Me: Task failed, successfully
@@simsonchin you're like that one nerdy kid that tells other kids that the "no yes no yes no yes yes no" doesn't happen
Love the expectation flip at the end. Thanks Michael
One thing I find concerning/funny about my experiences on dating apps is that I’m not interested in making friends because I tell myself “I don’t want any friends,” but deep down inside I know I need them.
Michael has always been so good at explaining things even a genius can understand.
Jesus Christ, a Vsauce video fully on topic, very coherent and informative. Thank you Michael!
This guy could literally tell me about mud for 15 hours and I'd still be entertained
“Mud is so boring, it’s just mud…. Or is it? You see, mud comes water mixing with dirt. And little bacteria inside that mud….”
“…..which is why, fossils solidify…”
“….so therefore, dinosaurs went extinct, except for birds. And as always, thanks for watching”
well, he has a 40 min long video about do chairs exist so knock yourself out
Everyone else:
is sad about being friend zoned
Me who usually has no friends:
it is... acceptable
Wow we kinda same I want to have experience like going with a group of friends to some place someday , or I'll go alone probably 😂
Oh my god. 8 years later and yet so up to date
Top 3 most populated places in the world :
1. Friend zone
2. China
3. India
4. I said top 3
AbstracTAssassin 30 he’s joking it says number 4, because people expect the lost to be longer
I have no luck with women they put me into friendzone and then ignore me in society
I bet he always got an A on his essays
On essays you need to stay with the topic, he strays away from the topic
@@technoultimategaming2999 when you think about it, what is considered straying away from a topic?
i think there are 2 ways you can end up in the friendzone.
one is not stating your intentions in the early stages of getting to know someone meaning they never got a chance to reject you to begin with while you are still just acting just really friendly that's all you really did so they never got to see you as anything else for anything else.
the other is falling in love with an already established friend who most likely doesn't feel the same because they never developed feelings for you because it's quite rare to develop feelings between already established friends.
so the friendzone is in one case inevitable, the other is simply just being afraid of rejections or just lacking knowledge into how to actually approach someone with a romantic interest in mind thinking it's the same thing as making friends when it really isn't.
Friend: "Is that your maid?"
Me: "No, it's my wife"
Friend: "But why is she doing everything?"
Me: " *THE BEN FRANKLIN EFFECT* "
Is it my imagination or did he actually stay on topic this time.
Well he kind of did when we went on to discuss the social statistics of how much time people spend with friends. The topic I would've thought was attraction (or lack thereof)
Why don't you get any maidens? **Vsauce music plays**
out of all vsauce videos, this one applies to me the most
you'd think i'd know a lot more about it, living in atleast 5 of them at a time
I actually prefer people who are very kind, chill and dont play hard to get. They bring much less conflict into a relationship
Yea without conflict there is no growth. Soon you're just gonna get bored of each other
Yea I met this girl two years ago and she’s chill and very kind and doesn’t play hard to get. I told her how I felt about her and all she did was find it adorable. And till this day she knows that I like her but to her it’s like it’s a normal thing so we’re just really good close friends. But here’s the thing she likes some other dude sadly 😔😪. I think he’s too cocky because he likes another girl and he can’t like two girls and expect to be with my crush. My crush is going for the wrong guy. Literally because of him she got in trouble and got all her things taken away, not only that her stepdad was all up on her face screaming at her and since she was frustrated she cried for three hours long. She didn’t do nothing wrong. She got in trouble just because the dude she has a crush on kissed one her friends and she told one of the teachers through messages and her parents thought the teacher had bad intentions so it’s really the dudes fault for playing with her feelings. If he truly liked her. He wouldn’t have done what he did behind her back. They don’t even go out they’re just friends but it’s whatever. And I’m like, “Hello I’m here waiting for you to see that I’m the right guy for you.” (In my mind) But no she still likes him even though it’s his fault that her life right now sucks. 😢 I hate not being her favorite boy 😪.
@@angelcortesjr5063 tell her directly. Do NOT help her to get with him at all. Tell her the problems he causes and why she needs to snap out of it before its too late. Be bold amd harsh, she would be mad at first but eventually she will thank you for that in the future. Outcomes could include:
- Her agreeing with you
- Her Disagreeing with you
- Her getting mad for a short while before things are patched up
- her realising that you're a great person and maybe even leading towards feelings
So this is how my grandpa has so many friends
I do find some potentially have another option, not quite friend zone but also not interested, buts knows your interested and uses that to their advantage.
it was in my recommended section....youtube understands me better.
This man made the Friend Zone seem like a good thing....someone give him a prize FFS.
it _is_ a good thing. who doesnt want new friends???
EDIT:
in general, the friendzone is a sexist concept. if you become friends with someone bc you want them to have sex with you, that's manipulative. the friendzone puts the blame on the woman for the man's feelings. like no, you're responsible for your own feelings for someone and they dont owe you shit for liking them. women arent a vending machine where you give friendship and they give you sex. the kinds of people who complain abt the friendzone just dont see women as people.
if you're genuinely friends and then you fall for someone, thats fine. you can go a couple different routes: you can keep your feelings quiet, or you can confess. both are valid. personally, i wouldnt want to risk the friendship, but to each their own. if you keep quiet about it, then you continue being their friend and that's it. if you confess and get rejected, then again, that's it. you're rejected. you can continue your friendship like before (but slightly more awkward now, probably). or you could decide that you need a break from your friendship to get over them. sometimes its just too painful to be around them but not _with_ them, so you can end the friendship. that's a valid option too. but the key here is that 1) you didnt enter the friendship in order to manipulate them into a relationship, and 2) you dont put the blame on them for not returning your feelings. its not your fault you fell for them, but its your feelings that ultimately ended the friendship. which isnt a bad thing, necessarily, but its important to acknowledge that its not their fault.
It is a good thing if you wanna emotionally support a girl you like while she gets smoked out by other dudes
@@ponternal just because she doesn't want to fuck you, doesn't mean the friendzone is bad.
She is never going to fuck you, either be friends or fuck off. She doesn't owe you anything you fuck head
@@Broxalax I agree with you im just saying that you dont owe her anything either. It is much better to move on from a girl you like than to be her "friend" and orbit her.
First friend i ever had that worries about me if she don't hear from me for a week cant ghost her she always finds me
I can't see him in the same way after seeing him on a filthy Frank episode
On 6:52
2013: we're also now spending time on this new thing called the Internet.
Now : Tiktok takes over the humanity.
,,dude, the worst she can say is no”
And then she sends this video back
In soviet russia, girl doesn't put you in friendzone. Friendzone puts you in girl.
ziyad ibrahim
woah woah woah what? I was thinking friendzone put you "in" girl I was not hearing anything about rape I WITHDRAW MY OFFER *runs*
How to escape the friendzone
Gym.
Go to the gym.
"But, women appreciate a sense of humour and.."
Gym
"But, its too superficial, we are humans not obj..."
Gym
"But, .."
NO! Gym!
"Character and social interactions in multiple levels, gender stereotypes, societal pressure..."
Bro, do you even want to get laid?
***** It is quite safe to assume that if friendzone meant sex, men wouldnt mind it.
@Vsauce Great video as always, but I did think you left a couple things out. What I've realized from watching Love Is Blind, is that generally the couples who waited longer to have romantic relations wound up getting friend zoned much more likely than those who just went for it. I had a couple theories that may have explained it. My first was that they didn't feel romantically interested in the first place, so they put physical pursuits on the back burner. Many times, they wound up deciding it was a "mutual decision," however I think that may have either been a way to protect their own ego's, they simply believed it was true because they didn't have the expectation of exploring each other when going into the relationship, or it was a ploy for the camera's, to protect their external image. My second was that as they mentioned, they wanted to take time to develop their emotional connection before they explored a physical one, however due to the fact that they spent so much time "being friends" it wound up manifesting into only feeling platonic to one another. I also believe you left out how much physical attraction is important when being friend-zoned. If you watch the UA-cam series "The Button" you will see that almost every time you see a pair, and think "so and so is not in the other one's league" they wind up nexting them, or that person nexts the other as a defense, and every time a couple wins The Button, you notice they're a "good match" and are in each others leagues. This plays a big part in being friend-zoned. Let me know if I got any of this wrong, or slightly off. I didn't explain this in the best way I could, but I hope you can understand where I'm coming from :)
I suppose this leaves out a couple of things that I think are important in the "friendzone" issue:
Good looking or not to the other person
financial status
Vsauce : talking about friends
Me : zones out
Vsauce : CYBERBALKANIZATION
The thing is
Is zoned in at the moment where he said cyberbalkanization me too lol
Wife: I'm leaving you.
Vsauce: *OR ARE YOU?*
lmao why am I imagining a psycho serial killer vsauce now?
Vsauce music intensifies
*Wife Orgasm
nebulaCHRIS
Wife: Oh dear
*Grabs the baseball bat*