Mom's Facebook Shaming: Whoopi Goldberg says "That's what stops it!"
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- Опубліковано 20 тра 2015
- "As the mother of a daughter who may have been provocative in her youth, that's what stops it," said Whoopi Goldberg on the mom who shamed her 13-year-old daughter on Facebook for pretending to be 19-years-old online. Do you agree?
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This should not be called shaming, its called DISCIPLINING.
Smith A exactly
Good job mom!!!!!!!! There are too many softy parents out there these days.
This mother made it very clear that she isn't going to stand for this type of behavior. She did it to protect her daughter & that's all that matters. Tuff love is the best love of all, even though the child might not think so.😢
Timelessmusic Familymusic u mean she did it to save all these brothers from getting prosicuted
The mother was perfectly right to do what she did. Parents are too scared of what neighbors, strangers, etc say about how they are raised. Tough love is the perfect solution. Some of us older folks were raised to respect everyone or pay the consequences. I am happy I grew up with strict parents. Children in today's day and age are out of control because parents don't want to handle the situation !!!
Christopher Rayburn the mom is an old school parent that’s good
The daughter shouldn't have acted a fool on Facebook, then the mom wouldn't have acted a fool on her. Just saying
disgusting mother!! to shame her young daughter like that is abuse. You can speak with your child & punish without shaming!!
@@violeta8626 , as a mother that would have been embarrassing for me.
I'm with Whoopi on this one. the mother did this as a last resort.
I also think that this was the mother's way of protecting her 13 year old daughter. Because now, when any grown man looks at her Facebook page, they KNOW she's 13. There is NO excuse, no pleading ignorance. This sends a clear message to the predators out there, she's OFF LIMITS.
Whoopi... smartest one on the panel. 👏🏾
Back then....now....eh...🤔😑
Whoopi better preach!
TheShowBoy Love .
She is
Raven's shade at Ariana Grande was perfect I'm dying
100%.
I'm with Whoopi all day
caiahinstyle Whoopie wasn't even home when her daughter was growing up, and let her get pregnant at 15.
I'm not okay with parents publicly shaming their kids AT ALL. That is NOT parenting, that is bullying. Honestly, by 13 you are too late. You need to instill the proper morals and behavior into your child before then.
***** Besides letting someone crash in my hotel room after senior prom and giving someone rides to school senior year, yeah. Why? Because I never really had the chance to sneak around and the few times I could have done something inappropriate I didn't because I either didn't want to get in trouble or just knew it wasn't the right thing to do.
Pooh Bear You've obviously never had teenagers...
"I'm not the one". My favorite saying!!! Yessss, mom, YAAAAASSSS!!!!👍👍👍
I'd shame my child in a new York second. We live in dangerous times and there are some nasty perverts out there. HIGH FIVE MOM YOU GO GIRL SHAME THE CHILD. Teens are sneaky
Her mom did right! my sister is 16 she had friends of friends who are grown men on facebook but never talked to them but my parents sat her down and told her she has to delete them all and if she didn't they would!
AWESOME MOM!!! That girl is going to thank her in the future!
Kat maybe maybe not?
pilgrims proress yes she will
Oh yeah
Virtually high-fiving the mom!!!!!
TheUltimateLady me too
The mom got that old school parenting thing going good job #MotherOfTheYear
If it was okay for that video to be made public ... why was that girl's face censored? That tells you all you need to know right there. Whether you're a child or you're an adult - you have the right to privacy. Want to punish your kid for acting out? Awesome - as long as you aren't physically or emotionally harming them, go for it. Public shaming falls within emotional abuse. All that parent has done is broken the trust with her child - that child will never go to her mother with a problem if she thinks it will upset her, because now she knows what her reaction will be.
Many seem upset with the mother but this was a last resort. Some mentioned seeing a therapist because 13 yr olds do not sexualize themselves. For such individuals i think you are out of touch with the progressive nature of sex among pre-teens, highest growing rate of stds transfer second only to senior citizens. Our media, our music, our culture tells these girls to act a certain way and the message is reinforced by their peers and accessibility to technology. I applaud this mother for taking what it takes. This coversation would be different if the end results of this girl's action resulted in tragedy. Then we would be asking where is the mother?
louisanna30 I completely agree. The sad thing is that the media today is pretty much glamorizing the sexualization of women and young girls see that as the norm. Therefore they adopt this mentality that the only way to attract the opposite sex is to behave and dress like prostitutes. These kids need to learn to enjoy their childhood while they still have it because being an adult is not as fun as they tend to think it is.
I think I would make it a point to keep the technology to an absolute minimum when I have children. Of course it's everywhere and it's unavoidable, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to allow my kid access to certain things.
Amen to that! That should be a hashtag.
***** #unplugged!
How is this a last resort? I don't understand.
good job to the mom, because i have kids of my own and there's no way in hell that they are going near getting a facebook page or anything else of that sort
Michelle Mooney that’s good do what you gotta do as a parent
so shaming & mental abuse is okay with you. If you can't punish your kids without shaming or physical abuse, then you shouldn't be a mother!!!!
@@violeta8626 I didn’t say it was at all, what I’m saying is that NO CHILD should have a Facebook Page or ANY Social Media Platform and if that what working for her child I’m not going to judge her because that’s Not my child but that’s not how I’m going to parent my children in that situation
that girl in the middle all like take her computer away im pretty sure she would've found another way to get online.
The mother did a great job
This is a good example to show young girls if they post provocative shit online that is embarrassing why should they be embarrassed to be called out on it? The world will see them either way
Where is the dady?
That mother did a good job. Yeah the girl was shamed but she will get over it. Shit is different from back then and some of u said something along the lines of it also deals with how she was raised bc no 13 yr old sexualizes themselves. Well guess what if u raised kids not all kids r gonna turn out the same and exactly do everything u said. Kids r sneaky, if they can do something and get away with it guess what THEY WILL DO IT so stop being ur kids friends and parent them bc believe it or not a lot of kids like that. I can't tell u how many kids come to me and tell me I'm their mother figure bc their moms r trying to be their friends and I don't even have kids except I do have a bunch of god-kids though. So stop with the mother should be tried and all that bc she did what she had to do as a mother and doesn't want anything to happen to her daughter. I bet if she knew about it and just kept letting her daughter do the samething yall would have something different 2 say!
+Octavia Ewing-Harris Let's hope she doesn't grow to hate her mother and eventually becomes estranged to her. Kids remember these things, these terrible emotions for the rest of their lives. The mother has undoubtedly done psychological damage. I don't think she realized how much damage she could have done by simply trying to "help" her daughter
+lucas5665 Well true that can happen but if her mother isn't a bad mother but you know acts like a decent mother like when she does stuff she know it's wrong and her mother disciplines her. She doesn't go over board buy she still does it in a respectful manner....that's how I see this. I know and teach kids who never get disciplined by their parents or grandparents and believe it or not they crave that kind of parenting bc it shows you care for them enough to teach them right from wrong and to be a better person and to better yourselves in life. She might get a bit embarrassed by this but trust and believe me she might get mad at first but when she see other girls her age fall for predators bc they put older ages and do and say things on the Internet they are not suppose to she will be glad her mom did what she did and will not hate her mother!
+Octavia Ewing-Harris You are so right, my grandmother raised two daughters, one got pregnant at 17 and was a mom at 18, the other didnt even know what sex was till she was 15. I was also raised by my grandmother and I knew what sex was, but I didn't get pregnant at 17. My grandmother is a wonderful parent but sometimes kids figure things out on their own and don't really care about what their parents say.
AMEN. :).
As a parent you need to TEACH and EDUCATE your kids NOT HUMILIATE them, that's not parenting. Thirteen is also a fair age to start experiencing sexual drives so you need to teach them right from wrong and how to be responsible and safe. And if she is already 13 and doing this it is because she hasn't been raised well already.
That table is too small...
I can't belive they are ok with this
Amen mom♥♥♥♥
That moment when she goes to ur school....😂
To the mother, FABULOUS JOB!!!!!!
I am realizing that Whoopi has always been that way. She thinks her opinion is Fact. As an educator who has been in the field of child development and teaching parenting skills, the more strict you are the farther your child will stray. Yes it is about the relationship between this mother and daughter and you can not bully or humiliate your child into making better decisions. You just teach the how to hide it from you.
Raven made me sick
Can someone tell me where the full version of this is?
Thanks Mom...
Tell her whoopi
I am glad that twitter and Facebook and instagram where not around when i was 13 teenage boy........ as a man of 30+ years, i understand where this mother is coming from, if i was a parent, i would have done exactly what this mother did, that problem with the western world, the power to discipline kids has been take away by authority and government. that child is damn lucky that her mother caught her shenanigans before it was to late.
The mother was just as much calling the men her daughter was talking to as she was her daughter. When the stakes are so high sometimes tough love is needed. Too often abuses happen in part because the parents are too afraid and too passive to step up and do what they need to to protect their children. She did the right thing. The daughter is growing up and that should be allowed but there's a reason the age of consent isn't in the early teens. People are still figuring out who they are and what they're boundaries are so yes, it's a vulnerable time and the daughter did need to be protected from her actions but even more so from potential predators. Better to be embarrassed for a while than scarred for much longer. She's doing this now so that her daughter will be strong, empowered and able to make her own, informed decisions later. She did the right thing.
a girl back when I was a junior committed suicide after her mom posted a video like this.. the harassment from kids was horrible. plus mom found out after her daughter had been getting raped by her uncle for yrs.
If my mom would have done something like this to me at 13, I would have no relationship with her as an adult today.
Probably not, however I've heard of mother's humiliating daughters for "dancing provocatively" at school dances. -- If you don't let your kids discover themselves as they grow up, they will not want you around when they are adults.
***** I still fail to see in your argument how the proper response should be to humiliate her.
But, why is the humiliation necessary?
***** OK, so since she was humiliated already, what should the mother do when she does it again or does something even worse??
🙌🙌🙌 YESS!!!!!
Too far? She could have done so much worse. Public shaming works much better than jailing them in their rooms
" it's not cOoL" 🤣okay ma'am! This type of thinking creates the problems we see in growing kids these days.
Raven and Whoopi 🙌🏾
God I miss this panel on The View. Except Rosie, I loved all of them on there.
The only difference thing is social media! My mom would show up at my school all the time everybody knew, that's Trina Mama! Had me scared to do anything wrong! So I say to this Mom! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾👍🏾
mom was right
No facebook for minors. Sad they think being tarty is how to behave.
Now this girl is a grown woman who graduated from high school just because of what her mom did . Bravo mom for doing what you did . You did a great job here .
good mom. mortifying for the girl but a lesson well-learned
I think the mom did right!!! She stepped up!
Raven said prosecute the child.... WTF she's a child girl! you need to Chile ma'am
hell yah i would do that to my kid
I feel like maybe, educate your daughters on why it’s bad to participate with that kind of behavior. Not shame them and humiliate them into behaving.
Sigh, the military men are so handsome! I want one of my own.
a 13 years old acting foolish ? What a surprise ? We are the adults! The mom did the right thing . We are not their friends , we are their parents .
That's right it is what stops it!!! July 2021
children are that until they are 18, afterwards they can move out and live on their own and by their own rules..
I don't really think public shaming works - especially in this case. If that girl was bold enough to put naked pics online, I don't really see her mom blasting her making a whole hell of a lot of difference. I think that tactic may have worked with a different kid but with this girl I'm not so sure.
this was Whoopi's best in along time..
Let Rosie talk please!!!!
i don't regard ravens opinon EVER
I believe some drama should be kept in the privacy of the home. Never would I put my child on a blast and say hey world my daughter was a freak. lmaoooooo Yes it made her stop but second she has that scar for life cause millions of eyes know who this girl is. Like making a porn film for the world to see. So I will give it 40/60
She's 18 but not a real woman she needs her mother no matter what she feels your not grown yet just a number thank God you have a mother that loves you a mom
Stop making believe this is the only way. And shaming a kid doesn’t teach anything. Not healthy. (French comment)
Public shaming, public humiliation, emotional abuse and manipulation is not the last resort for a good parenting nor it is to be consider an okey method to use on your kids. The mother could've handled this in a better way, her daughter is a teen, she's bound to do stupid shit. the only thing a parent could do is to guid their children in the right direction, enlighten them, not threaten them!!
+ODdm3 If the girl had killed herself like that other girl who was humiliated by her father, then this women would be labeled a monster for the rest of her life just like that man and people would be hard fixed to defend her. Let's hope that this actually achieved something, instead of pushing them further apart, because let's face it the mother can never be truly innocent of her daughter's actions. This women doesn't know the true meaning of family, you are supposed to have your children's back, when the world seems like a crazy and hard place least a kid should have their family to turn to. This was the wrong way to go about it, humiliation only further weakens familial bonds. It's not about being your kids' friends, its about being a proper and respectable parent, and this is definitely not the method
*****
Well I think there are better ways. I had a healthy fear for my parents which pretty much kept me and my siblings in line for the most part, and if you can't develop this early on then you're probably going at it the wrong way. Let's face it, kids aren't stupid, they know how to play the game. Even if you think you completely know what's going on in your kid's life, there is probably a world of things that they are doing or have done that you are not aware of. If this girl even has the gall to do what she did at her age then I'm not sure this kind of "last resort" punishment can be really effective. We are only assuming that this will make her stop, maybe it'll just make her even more secretive. In my opinion these methods will more likely bring out resentment. I'm sure it would work for some children but remember as a kid words and even passing phrases can haunt you, perhaps sticking with you your whole life. Do you think this girl is really gonna look back on this one day and say "I'm glad I was made a laughing stock, all that slut shaming online and bullying was definitely worth it. Thanks Mom!"
and not to mention that this will probably make it harder to apply for jobs, especially if she becomes a local celebrity of sorts
*****
Well all her mother is doing is bringing even more attention to her, so I'm not sure if it's the most effective method to get the results she is looking for. "I can't believe you are humiliating yourself online, I better take action and humiliate you online" If she had to resort to something so drastic, I suspect her parenting wasn't all that great in the first place. Although that's just my view and what I can gather
I love that mom!
I love it
I didn't use social media until 12 & 13. I was careful with my content and now that I'm an adult, I'm extra careful.
My mom believed I was ready for a FaceBook profile after I turned 14 and I normally use it to keep tabs with family and old friends. Both my parents did school me on social media and my mom did most of the social media schooling
Whoopi and I are in agreement. That's how you handle that. Stop being snowflakes, liberal parents. You have to make the lesson STICK. Otherwise, the child will brush it off, and get into SERIOUS trouble. Peace.
this is one debate im actually understanding and agreeing to what Raven is saying lol that girl knew what she was doing and i think her mom taught her a good lesson cause little girls these days wanna be grown and that's why you have to stop it because she could seriously hurt if she would've met one of those old men so her mom was being strict but also caring for her daughter.
Years ago when Whoopi was having trouble with her daughter did she put her on blast?? Think about it. And if Raven had a child she would not do this to her children.
Think about it.
That is a parent , i love u mom u discipline her .she feels she is an adult so what u did was right she will never do it again In Trinidad and Tobago the parents would deal with that effectively 😁
Thats why we are seeing all this brothers in prison. Yung girls lying about their ages. My mans got locked up for almost 10 yrs for this exact thing. Shawty was 15 lying saying she bout 18
I 100% agree with Whoopi.
That was so bad for her to do. She should have her daughter taken away from her. That's not called parenting it's called devaluing your kids.
She was talking foul about her not knowing how to wash her a... at the end of the video. Now your just being publicly ratchet instead of being a disciplinarian.
What about what she said devalued her daughter?
Zavior Mo'ne she devauled her daughter by revealing something so personal which only she and her daughter knew in terms of improper washing and having a deadbeat father to people who don't have the right to know that. As it is, her daughter doesn't value herself enough to give value to HERSELF. The mother is making her low self esteem even worse without realizing it. But, I'm sure that was not her intent. She just blacked out in anger. She probably does love her daughter and just wants to save her by any means necessary. She just needs to go about it in more healthy ways.
Sherri Solomon I dont know about any of that. All I've seen is this clip about facebook.
Good job mom!
Where is the dad in all of this the child need proper role models teaching her to 1. value herself, 2. the predators out there, 3. to be tech savvy, 4. the ripple effects like how things can remain in cyber space for a lifetime. so my question is does the whole family need to go to family counciling and see what they need as a family and as individuals? I fear this girl will eventually abuse drugs, relationships and became an unwitting victim of the sex slave industry if this behaviour keeps up. I really hope she learns from this and becomes a better person, a beautiful woman from the inside and out, but atm all i see is a child trying to grow up too fast
I agree with Whoopi %100.
OMG Raven! She is 13 years old! Read a book. The part of your brain that understands and expects consequences isn't finished developing. Not until your 21ish. So no, she's not thinking about the future, not next week, and not next year. She shouldn't have done it, but she should be prosecuted for it either!
I don't think she should have posted that because it could make the problem much worse. However I am not a parent don't want to be one so how am I to judge. I hope she decided to do this with the purest of hearts and it was in fact her last resort but adolescent teens tend to have a way of hating their parents especially if those teens feel wronged.
How did she learn about such behaviour in the first place?
That's what the mother need to find out. Why does her child seem to wa to be validated by men on social media. They are bigger issues
Publically shaming a 13 year old is irresponsible. One father did the same thing to his daughter and she killed herself soon after. Don't mess with the emotions of a psychologically volatile person!
i disagree with this method
I agree this is a form of degradtion and if my mom did this to me I would stay mad at her and probs resent her.
How is she shaming her daughter. That's the problem people victimize everything. This is discipline and what these ignorant critics dont get is we cannot solely use having a talk or taking phones away as discipline in this new age. You have to adjust with the times. People can adjust in any other area of life but not when it comes to children? Really. No that means we have to take drastic measures because these children are living in a drastic world. Social Media is a tool that produces so much information and we cannot control it. I dont agree that children should be on social media sites but the problem is they somehow are or will be exposed to it. I commend thismother. I would rather identify my child this way rather than identifying her dead body after she has met up with some creep that rapes and kills her. Criticize her all you want but I'm not just going to give my child to this world, I will fight till I'm gone to make sure I give her the best of me as a Parent. If that requires drastic measures so be it!
the mother did the right thing shaming her daughter, because she has repeatly done the same thing without consequences until now, she needed to be stopped, also kids these days get away with everything no parent is strict anymore, they let their kids run riot all over the place, not this mom
Being a parent of 3 females I'm dammed if I do and dammed if I don't do something.
Hence the white hair LOL
Gm edagdwg thanks for sharing this is what a real mother say what you want I'm your mother don't do what you want this girl is ready to have sex and get paid sad Linda j ☮️ a mom pay attention to what to your children are doing age is a real reason check your daughters
SHE DID EXACTLY WHEN SHE SHOULD HAVE DONE. PUBLIC SHAMING U DON'T THINK THIS MOTHER IS SHAMED BY WHAT HER DAUGHTER DOES ? SO WHY SHOULDN'T SHE HAVE TO FEEL THE SHAME OF HER ACTIONS AS WELL. U DON'T THINK THE KIDS IN SCHOOL WHO SEEN HER PAGE AREN'T ALREADY MESSIN WITH HER , U A FREAK U A HO. SO WHAT HAS THIS MOM DONE THAT SHE HASN'T ALREADY DONE TO HERSELF.
i dont like what the mother did. if raven is right (and what she said arguably did not make sense) why not do it in private if they have such a great relationship? i dont like the shaming and its very humiliating for the girl to make that public like that in front of her friends etc.
Oh and Raven was smarter before she started being so verbal! She should shut up!
That's what I'm talking about! Old school parenting!
It's not rape rape - goldberg
Looks like Whoopi was 100% with the mother in the video!
Squirrel36 who isn’t she was right
A thing se need yo understand as parents guardians and people in char of these kids is we are the ones in charge stop trowing shade ar the parents with strong opinions of they were more parents like that kids would know beter
Yeah but that shamin was need it .cause she was doing to much .
Pooopi garbageville 😢
I agree on Goldberg's points about mother of 13's decision.