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  • @KathyMcDowell1
    @KathyMcDowell1 2 роки тому +104

    The last 5 years I have been really going through it. I'm learning to be more authentic. Less people pleasing. More Jesus pleasing. I really want to help people but I've found I need to heal 1st. Thanks for the video

    • @powerofloveism
      @powerofloveism 2 роки тому +11

      I am learning to be more authentic , I was afraid to be completely authentic before and not because I have anything to hide, it was that I was new to the area where I had moved to and had not made many friends and I was afraid I would lose the couple friends I had made, and my fears were founded because as soon as my authentic self began talking about the Bible and my love for Christ , both friends disappeared or suddenly became to busy for my company. Authenticity comes with a Price. Makes me wonder how many friendships are based on lies and deception.

    • @rexmarco1
      @rexmarco1 Рік тому

      True, be real to yourself

    • @cassiasolverson4475
      @cassiasolverson4475 Рік тому

      ​@@rexmarco1a e

  • @faithmasix5845
    @faithmasix5845 2 роки тому +51

    Joyce's Meyer testimony heal so many people. She is a gift from God that the world needed. You help me to learn a lot.

    • @reginaclaiborne627
      @reginaclaiborne627 Рік тому +1

      Yes so true she helped me tremendously ❤❤❤❤

    • @anthonyvega33
      @anthonyvega33 Рік тому

      1st CORINTHIANS 14: 34 Let your woman keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; read your Bible .

    • @mrmrsji7877
      @mrmrsji7877 Рік тому +2

      ​@@anthonyvega33 please apply the art of interpreting the bible.

    • @kellyadams79
      @kellyadams79 9 місяців тому

      ​​​@@anthonyvega33 that was when the time when the wife would ask what something meant. And was just saying ask after the preaching was done. Back then you have to remember women didn't go to school.

  • @57msdeb
    @57msdeb 2 роки тому +18

    I have learned that people pleasing is a form of control and manipulation. Those of us with the problem are trying to change our behavior to elicit the response we desire from other people. I never realized this and it has really changed my perspective on the problem.

  • @ChiefCedricJohnson
    @ChiefCedricJohnson 2 роки тому +31

    John 14:27
    Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

  • @Mwohai
    @Mwohai 2 роки тому +61

    I had to pause this video to come brought this comment. I have struggled so long with people pleasing and being worried about what people think of me because I do not love myself I come from a very traumatic childhood that I’m still working over come all while trying to prevent my children from having trauma but this message released something inside of me and for the first time in my life, I feel like I can be me and I don’t have to worry because God loves me and forgives me thank you

    • @kyliemcdermott4538
      @kyliemcdermott4538 2 роки тому +2

      You are so special Whitney, God has a plan for you that He specifically made for you and only you. You are so precious and God watches you all day. He loves you so much, you don’t have to please anyone Whit. You got this girl❤

    • @michelledu2
      @michelledu2 Рік тому +1

      Amen, you’re right, I love your comment Kylie!

    • @maureenbackstrom6683
      @maureenbackstrom6683 Рік тому

      Me too, and I still struggle with it

    • @shj221-m2y
      @shj221-m2y Рік тому +1

      God will always love you. He is always with u! Praying for u!!!

    • @ritaceron7329
      @ritaceron7329 Рік тому

      24 /7 God has been working here overtime ❤✝️✝️✝️🙏🤗🤟🏻 6:43

  • @islaridland7508
    @islaridland7508 2 роки тому +21

    “He knew everything we were going to do before he invited us into relationship with him, so he is waiting for what ever he knows is already going to happen”❤

    • @Dooguy
      @Dooguy 2 роки тому

      Then why pray if the plans already in place.?

  • @iviesco
    @iviesco Рік тому +23

    I did not think about her voice until she mentioned it, but we just don’t know what everyone is going through or people doesn’t see us as we do or we think they do. ❤love you all she is right

  • @athenasimmers1986
    @athenasimmers1986 Рік тому +8

    WOW.. @ 25:48 that stopped me in my tracks.. I really needed that . To hear someone say exactly what I've been starting to finally notice myself doing for most of my life is comforting . Not that I wish it upon anyone. It's a sickening feeling when you don't know how to tell someone no and just do what they want because you can't say no(too afraid).

  • @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn
    @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn Рік тому +4

    Be Yourself and don't be selfish share your talent...let your light shine....Joyce is the bomb😊🍇

  • @amaliaamian
    @amaliaamian Рік тому +4

    I feel like Joyce is a doctor of the church!

  • @evajade6404
    @evajade6404 2 роки тому +1

    For same pass years ago I been unbelievable..but I thank God that am nah a full born again...and also preach the gospel please help me and thanks the Lord
    Friends

  • @jennifermann6068
    @jennifermann6068 Рік тому +3

    I haven't watched the video yet but Joyce looks so beautiful!!!!! Love her so much!!!

  • @kellykim3684
    @kellykim3684 2 роки тому +16

    Thank you Joyce I’m not a reader but I’ve really benefited so much from her books that I actually finished and her online sermons I watch daily has helped me so so much last couple of years. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @dianneholt6671
    @dianneholt6671 Рік тому +5

    I’m back listening to you. I like quiet to focus not a lot of hype. I need God’s help because of self sabotage. I need to learn to like myself. I need to learn every minute of the day to love myself from God’s love. “My who is different than my do” I’ll post this in my positive aspirations. I’ve slipped backwards. Stuck back “me too”.

  • @manjularanathunga5855
    @manjularanathunga5855 Рік тому +1

    Our lord is our saviour. Please give us freedom to live WHRE ever we want live and peace.. Your are our like a morther.. God bless you too.. Good speach.. Thank you gave advices encourage elders like this with friend.. Good advice for new generation.. We proud like you women madam.. Amen thank you.. God is your faith.. Your side always.. Thank you..

  • @viawilderness
    @viawilderness 2 роки тому +7

    Lord had to almost completely pull me away from people altogether, because I was so bad at people pleasing. The process took about 15 years. It's not easy when you're young and in the social approval phase of life.

  • @adrianoc1456
    @adrianoc1456 Рік тому +1

    Give me a hug grandma Oscar Meyer ❤ 😊

  • @tinaworley5584
    @tinaworley5584 2 роки тому +2

    My sister I study with, questioned herself with her teaching the bible truth by with her job as a nurse. I guess that was a personal conflict and she prayed privately, someone at work noticed her stressed, and kindly let her reason for herself of the reasoning of the need for others to understand God's word and live by faith .

  • @jeaninerichardson7179
    @jeaninerichardson7179 2 роки тому +22

    Oooooh Praise Jesus 🙌 Joyce much love because you tell it to us straight so we can be free, not a parrot nor mechanical, we've got to be transparent. Honestly it'll really exacerbate any sort of mental illness because the LORD is the SPIRIT of TRUTH although it can be incredibly painful but uncovering all that infection, debris, & residue that's smothering us underneath how else can we submit our personality although shattered and even frayed we're in the perfect posture to receive our healing. I'm speaking from personal experience 😌. I've experienced childhood/adulthood abuses including my having been a co-conspirator seeped in self-hatred & low self worth. I've always been an incessant people pleaser even to endangering my life.. But that's never really the end of the story. The Holy Spirit is a Keeper even 🙌 in times internally when 🤔 I didn't want to be kept and dealt with a spirit of suicide since I was 8 & 1/2... But GOD has delivered 🙌 me but its also daily we've got to recognize and acknowledge those mini sized victories to actually appreciate the progress within the process. He's delivered me also from deep-seated shame, abandonment issues, incessant fears, and feeling sorry 😞 4 myself because those pity parties are toxic and draining. He surely does provide us a plethora of means of escapes, a Holy Spirit filled church, a support system of accountable christians, our own personal relationship with JESUS, and also a good therapist and if needed medication. There's absolutely no shame in this I've had a couple of therapist that are also strong believers in Christ. While we're yielding to the LORD and being perfected we're Blessed 🙌 to strengthen and encourage others to finally unmask so that they also can be delivered & freed in JESUS mighty name 🙌

  • @lewis83
    @lewis83 Рік тому +1

    One of the greatest of the female con-artists of American-flavored Christianity.

  • @ruthraimo7966
    @ruthraimo7966 Рік тому +1

    Wow thankyou Joyce, help me Jesus to be authentic n real, no more people pleasing...

  • @ConnyGermangirl
    @ConnyGermangirl Рік тому +5

    Love your message Joyce, I'm an recoverd people pleaser, praise God.❤❤

  • @Sweet2kiss1
    @Sweet2kiss1 2 роки тому +14

    I like myself but I don't like what I do sometimes.... Thank you for that.... Because it's so easy to just say I hate myself and that is covers everything

  • @ElvisSonicMaverick
    @ElvisSonicMaverick Рік тому +2

    Receieving, accepting and loving the life i was blessed with. Not alot of people made it to today ❤ AMEN!!

  • @christineaiyu6477
    @christineaiyu6477 Рік тому +2

    THANK GOD FOR HIS LOVE GRACE AND MERCY!!!!!!!

  • @Jairus2015
    @Jairus2015 Рік тому +1

    Wow.
    I always try to please man . I hope Jesus will set me free. 🙏

  • @bonnieashlock2158
    @bonnieashlock2158 2 роки тому +6

    When people ask if your ok they honestly don't want to know..... So I answer them when I'm not ok, God's got me and I'm going to be ok.... Some people ask not wanting you to be ok!!

    • @haileykuhn3208
      @haileykuhn3208 2 роки тому +1

      I agree that some ppl do only ask when they want to pry into your business or they don’t want things to be ok bc they heard already your struggling. It’s like they need to confirm it.

  • @missymandelstein8582
    @missymandelstein8582 Рік тому +2

    She is the real deal. Love her!

  • @MH-uz3tk
    @MH-uz3tk Рік тому

    Oh Joyce, this is exactly what goes on in my Church. I’m getting so tired of it. I wish they could hear this message. Yes trust is the problem. Huge!

  • @JenniferNowlin-fv8qz
    @JenniferNowlin-fv8qz Рік тому +1

    God in Heaven is amazing I love him and trying my best to get my life back

  • @DanielleBraiden
    @DanielleBraiden 2 роки тому +5

    Honestly you are so relatable Joyce. Thank you for doing what the Lord has asked of you. I’m so inspired by your wisdom from the Lord.

  • @nnnnnnnnnataliem
    @nnnnnnnnnataliem Рік тому +4

    To love another is to will their good, to love yourself is to will your own good. ❤️

  • @annabellaboyer643
    @annabellaboyer643 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for Joyce Meyer?I am trying to get there, as long as I have life?Amen. Thanks to your collega's as well?God is a good God. Amen.

  • @jenniferlewis5508
    @jenniferlewis5508 Рік тому +1

    Over coming people who are adults acting like a child,I need prayers for bcus it gets on my nerves

  • @ruthdaniel8249
    @ruthdaniel8249 2 роки тому +2

    Same for TBN. Money is there God

  • @yusufalsanad
    @yusufalsanad 2 роки тому +3

    God is our only witness, audience, and judge who we should please and do right by, NO ONE else! \m/

  • @susankeeley1733
    @susankeeley1733 2 роки тому +5

    Joyce is glowing on here , growing younger in spirit.

  • @beckie5202
    @beckie5202 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for Teaching! I love the woman Jesus grew me into

  • @sylviamarques4822
    @sylviamarques4822 Рік тому +1

    God deliver me from people pleasing.Amen

  • @vou5u
    @vou5u 11 місяців тому

    You can only do what God annoints you for

  • @TheEAGLE1911
    @TheEAGLE1911 Рік тому +1

    Separate the who from the do!!!🔥🙌🏼♥️

  • @jimmygriego6882
    @jimmygriego6882 Рік тому +1

    Great video just be who you are

  • @niketaramos777
    @niketaramos777 Рік тому

    Amen ..... speaking the truth about both genders and the reality of ego.... that actually leads to silent depression because they don't want to be judged as complaining rather than communicating.

  • @priscilladevi9705
    @priscilladevi9705 Рік тому +3

    There should be a movie made of Joyce. It will be so interesting to watch ❤

    • @robb1761
      @robb1761 Рік тому

      Plastic surgery all over lol

  • @carmenclarke4688
    @carmenclarke4688 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing God's word a lot of people needs to hear this message

  • @karenkeith5970
    @karenkeith5970 2 роки тому +1

    And that’s why you were so usable God knows thank you for being you Joyce Meyers

  • @carrietapia4623
    @carrietapia4623 10 місяців тому

    I have been in a season for about 7 years but I am making it only because of The Lord Grace 🙏🙏🙏

  • @eastlondonfrancophoneltdja5132

    Thank you very much for the rich message love and believe your self very important message that can encourage other people.
    Let GOD bless you and this conversation.
    Amen!!!

  • @jaylaw.7660
    @jaylaw.7660 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful setup! 🎀🎁💐

  • @jeepgirl639
    @jeepgirl639 2 роки тому +2

    :) Thank you, God!!! Amen to Joyce!!

  • @godsgirl1984tl
    @godsgirl1984tl Рік тому

    I have that peace and calm. I have peace in God's sovereignty but my couselor last week told me that I have positive toxicity and it affects everyone around me and isn't a good thing.

  • @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn
    @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn Рік тому +1

    Love this!!!!

  • @ulzaniacbcs1975
    @ulzaniacbcs1975 Рік тому +1

    This is all so true!!!

  • @_blk_daria_
    @_blk_daria_ Рік тому

    Thank you!!!!! The “hand delivered by god, to your mothers womb” truly resonated…this was my confirmation through you. This video is a blessing to hear. Thank you for obeying god’s commandment for you, and in turn the world.

  • @ronda4094
    @ronda4094 2 роки тому +1

    God bless you Joyce. Thank you for being a beautiful obedient child of God. Thank you for teaching us to be our unique selves, as you are doing. Only one Joyce we are all unique to Jesus, as she is. She is such a beautiful Christian. 🙏🏼❤

  • @angelabardo8820
    @angelabardo8820 Рік тому +1

    Love your transparency

  • @carriezimmerman7700
    @carriezimmerman7700 Рік тому

    Great interview with Joyce!! She is so inspirational!! God Bless you, Joyce!

  • @jirehpatel
    @jirehpatel Рік тому

    I love you Joyce meyer l pray one day l get to see you😊. I live in Uganda Africa

  • @mrscaldwell3147
    @mrscaldwell3147 Рік тому

    Thank you for your wonderful truthful teaching Joyce, God bless you and all your loved ones.

    • @BelgroveKevin-er4bl
      @BelgroveKevin-er4bl Рік тому

      Acts 4:10-12
      Before the original scriptures were changed this is how they read;
      Acts ‪4:10-12‬
      10 then know this, you and all the people of Yisra'el: It is by the name of Yahushua Ha'Mashiach of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom Yahuah raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed.
      11 Yahushua is
      “‘the stone you builders rejected,
      which has become the cornerstone.’
      12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is NO OTHER NAME under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.”
      No other also name means the 400 year old name Jesus Christ.
      There is no salvation in the name jesus or yeshua; you have been tricked!
      Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of YAHUAH shall be saved.
      Thats the NAME YAHUAH not the fake titles God or the Lord.
      Yahuchanon 4:23 (Jn)
      23 Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Ruach AND IN TRUTH, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks.
      Is the name Jesus christ truth? NO!! Or Yeshua? No!!
      Hos4:6
      My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
      Because you have rejected knowledge,
      I also will reject you..
      973 times the true name
      “Yahushua” was taken out of your bible.
      And the counterfeit name Jesus Christ was added to the scriptures.
      The name “Yahuah” was taken out of your bible over 7,000 times and “the Lord”
      was added to the your counterfeit scriptures.
      The title of Yahuah is "Elohiym" and it was taken out of your bible 4,473 and God was added to your counterfeit scriptures.
      Ruach Ha'Qodesh was taken out over 100 times and Holy Ghost was add added to your counterfeit scriptures.
      Christ was added 75 times and Ha'Mashiach ( meaning The Messiah) was taken out.
      May Yahuah bless you with insight, knowledge, understanding and give you discernment so that YOU can discern truth from error in the Bible you read and the teachers you listen to. ❤️🙏🙏

  • @sarahtwitty1013
    @sarahtwitty1013 Рік тому

    I lovedthis segment she is so down to earth. Learning to embrace and accept ourselves is important. Learning to not be so hard and forgiving ourselves. We are all on journeys I am in school right now I am going to do the very best I can we are all still learning .Love you Pastor Joyce I am going read the book.

  • @karenkeith5970
    @karenkeith5970 2 роки тому +1

    You understood the assignment

  • @JenniferNowlin-fv8qz
    @JenniferNowlin-fv8qz Рік тому

    Please keep me in your prayers

  • @badwolf-xy5xg
    @badwolf-xy5xg Рік тому

    Yes she's one of a kind 🙏

  • @resellingandcaliforniadrea8210

    She was ministering to Laura and Matt ..whether they know it or not..

  • @joannaroberts6496
    @joannaroberts6496 Рік тому

    This video made me smile and at peace god bless everyone 😊

  • @Becai-0306
    @Becai-0306 2 роки тому +3

    ❤❤ I love this message and I love 😍 hearing it daily

  • @lmccauley7319
    @lmccauley7319 Рік тому

    You looks so pretty in that color Joyce! Love all of your videos.

  • @mike-xf7th
    @mike-xf7th Рік тому +1

    Can we get a sermon on Timothy 2:12 from Ms Meyers?

  • @lindiwemalindi1278
    @lindiwemalindi1278 Рік тому

    Needed this,thank you Lord.

  • @monicap8208
    @monicap8208 Рік тому +1

    I am so happy Joyce is exposing people. Pretending

  • @melanieclinkston4597
    @melanieclinkston4597 2 роки тому +1

    We are supposed to speak over ourselves wholeness

  • @CKww32
    @CKww32 2 роки тому +2

    I love her so much

  • @jillbieber3383
    @jillbieber3383 2 роки тому +1

    Amen Joyce!!

  • @ninacandiotti3170
    @ninacandiotti3170 Рік тому

    Choose your hard! Yessss

  • @kimberly1868
    @kimberly1868 Рік тому

    Great discussion!!😊

  • @tinaworley5584
    @tinaworley5584 2 роки тому

    What I am hearing is, from this ivory tower I must be pleasant , or, if I am not pleasant All of the time , I am needing medicine. But I had a friend that said " that's on you" meaning don't blame me for your problems or attitude. This will be on my mind my next prayer, accept me for me. Thank you in Jesus name.

  • @carlaspringer9759
    @carlaspringer9759 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Joyce, I love your teachings ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tracyrogers7074
    @tracyrogers7074 2 роки тому +1

    So true , it's so hard

    • @tracyrogers7074
      @tracyrogers7074 2 роки тому

      "God was trying to teach me how to be me " Love that , so true too

  • @pouhsrrozy-ct2tk
    @pouhsrrozy-ct2tk Рік тому

    Omg really listening to this

  • @angelabardo8820
    @angelabardo8820 Рік тому +1

    Love mama Joyce

  • @ammcgowan
    @ammcgowan 2 роки тому +2

    Amen. Powerful.

  • @jameskeating4719
    @jameskeating4719 Рік тому

    Thank you 🙏

  • @Futhimk
    @Futhimk Рік тому

    So good !!!👏👏

  • @mountainpearlmystics
    @mountainpearlmystics 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you 🙏🏽 this is so beautiful ❤

  • @jamiesanchez29
    @jamiesanchez29 2 роки тому +1

    Need prayers 🙏 please god knows why thank u

  • @karenkeith5970
    @karenkeith5970 2 роки тому

    And there is a difference I’ve gotten a lot of yours without giving two cents about myself but that has changed and it’s a good feeling

  • @samanthatermizi
    @samanthatermizi Рік тому

    Thank you

  • @melaniehubbard3646
    @melaniehubbard3646 Рік тому

    LOVE ❤️ JOYCE

  • @taryntickell4479
    @taryntickell4479 Рік тому

    Praise God

  • @raulmartinez429
    @raulmartinez429 2 роки тому +2

    Living a pleasing life to GOD can be hard because we have to be like JESUS to people that crucified us like they did JESUS but he gives peace,love,mercy,compassion etc. To endure it and we eventually will go to heaven😁 in the other hand if you live without GOD your life will be hell in this world then hell forever🔥 easy choice, I choose to please the LORD😇

  • @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn
    @RonaldRatkevitch-qx1zn Рік тому +1

    Tell the truth and shame the devil!🦄

  • @larsdreser6730
    @larsdreser6730 Рік тому

    You cant be authentic until you accept your own uniqueness. I dont have to accept my own uniqueness I am created perfect I believe in individuality

  • @ruthwafula4147
    @ruthwafula4147 Рік тому

    You can't give away what you don't have

  • @joannaroberts6496
    @joannaroberts6496 Рік тому

    ❤brings me peace and made me smile thids

  • @Stacy-gt7kc
    @Stacy-gt7kc Рік тому

    I can relate Joyce...

  • @Reginald-m9w
    @Reginald-m9w Рік тому

    AMEN AMEN AMEN AND AMEN TO THAT WOW STAYING BLESSED MY FRIENDS ETERNALLY STRONG IN GOD 💪💪💪💪😀🌞😀

    • @BelgroveKevin-er4bl
      @BelgroveKevin-er4bl Рік тому

      Acts 4:10-12
      Before the original scriptures were changed this is how they read;
      Acts ‪4:10-12‬
      10 then know this, you and all the people of Yisra'el: It is by the name of Yahushua Ha'Mashiach of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom Yahuah raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed.
      11 Yahushua is
      “‘the stone you builders rejected,
      which has become the cornerstone.’
      12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is NO OTHER NAME under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.”
      No other also name means the 400 year old name Jesus Christ.
      There is no salvation in the name jesus or yeshua; you have been tricked!
      Romans 10:13 For whosoever shall call upon the name of YAHUAH shall be saved.
      Thats the NAME YAHUAH not the fake titles God or the Lord.
      Yahuchanon 4:23 (Jn)
      23 Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Ruach AND IN TRUTH, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks.
      Is the name Jesus christ truth? NO!! Or Yeshua? No!!
      Hos4:6
      My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
      Because you have rejected knowledge,
      I also will reject you..
      973 times the true name
      “Yahushua” was taken out of your bible.
      And the counterfeit name Jesus Christ was added to the scriptures.
      The name “Yahuah” was taken out of your bible over 7,000 times and “the Lord”
      was added to the your counterfeit scriptures.
      The title of Yahuah is "Elohiym" and it was taken out of your bible 4,473 and God was added to your counterfeit scriptures.
      Ruach Ha'Qodesh was taken out over 100 times and Holy Ghost was add added to your counterfeit scriptures.
      Christ was added 75 times and Ha'Mashiach ( meaning The Messiah) was taken out.
      May Yahuah bless you with insight, knowledge, understanding and give you discernment so that YOU can discern truth from error in the Bible you read and the teachers you listen to. ❤️🙏🙏

  • @JeanPierre-wo6ws
    @JeanPierre-wo6ws Рік тому

    In Jesus's love! I love you in His love,l l appreciate your advice from the Lord,!My name is Jean Pierre Herold, please keep me in prayers for to be obedient b let God my reemer n my spirit! One!
    Mrs
    Joyce

  • @larsdreser6730
    @larsdreser6730 Рік тому

    Uniqueness. Everyone is unique. You can be an Unicorn

  • @ChiefCedricJohnson
    @ChiefCedricJohnson Рік тому

    Revelation 22:12
    And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.

  • @dskurth
    @dskurth 2 роки тому +4

    When your blood relatives don’t accept your uniqueness … it Jo’s extremely hard