Met my hubby in December got engaged in March and got married the first week in January. We've been married for ten plus years with 4 beautiful kids. Before then I was in a two year relationship that got nowhere. After that heartbreak I just focused on myself and put God first. I got so busy with church, cleaning the house of God and finished university. I'm here to encourage anyone going through this to put God first and all other things will be perfected ❤
Great lessons in this movie. This is all about practicing discernment. Femi was never in love with his ex. There were many red flags in that relationship. 8 years together and no marriage, he asked her to abort twice, and never bought her anything. She was a place holder and a safety net. She refused to accept the red flags and stayed. I like the contrast of how they showed how a man acts with a woman who he is in love with vs. a woman who he is not in love with. It's teaching you what to look for from a man in a relationship. But, most importantly, it teaches both men and women about how to act with integrity and decency towards other human beings. Yes, she should have practiced better discernment, but he should have never been with her for 8 years knowing he was never in love with her. Also, when she came back around, he should have been honest with her and never used her for sex and chores knowing he moved on. He literally cheated on the fiance and the ex at the same time. Red flag. No remorse for what he did. Red flag. Even if he was in love with his current fiance, his character is poor and who knows how he would act in a relationship when times got hard in their marriage or he was tempted by another woman.
No..many if us are Wise because we've experienced heartbreak and have learned to see the red flags and not ignore them. We've tapped into our discernment and make wiser choices.
I was in an eight years relationship with a maniac. I did everything for him. Luckily, I never got pregnant for him. Dude was ashamed of me and treated me like trash all those times. Thank God I found the courage to leave him and I met my now fiance 2 months later. He proposed to me after 3 months of dating and this man is the best thing that ever happened to me. If you find out you are the only one doing everything in the relationship, please leave.
the dude wasn't ashamed of you but rather you were ashamed of yourself, he didn't do you anything rather what he did was himself and what you did was to yourself period stop blaming people for your actions and take responsibility and believing that there is someone out there to save you. deal with your issues first and accept it has it is and move forward.
Moral of the story NEVER give all of yourself to ANYONE. Leave some of you for you. When they decide to leave they will not even consider your feelings.
I don’t even know why I support this with all my life. Give another human being all of you? What will you use ? Are you playing with your life? I love men o but you see my life ? It’s my own. If you’re not marrying me, buy bread biko and I mean it, buy bread ! Kupu !😂
I've said this before and I will still say it again!! One year is enough to marry someone. Don't be too glued to leave. Men knows what they want and ready to invest in it no matter how soon. Sending love to anyone going through this 🖤🌹
so are you suggesting ladies should not have a relationship untill one tear when thay are ready to get married. I don,t really agree with that, what i would say is be truthful about your feeling the whole time especially to yourself. There will always be break ups in life but being truthful to each other is critical
What he is saying is that it doesn't take forever for man not a boy to know who he is ready to settle with it, and honestly speaking 3 to 6 months in a relationship a man will know if he wants you for a life time.
I can never revenge .... If you loose me it's your lose because I know I'm a very good and respectful person..... I will just pray 🙏 for God to give me peace not to feel so much pain...
It’s very easy to say so. 8 years is a really long time and it was riddled with sin upon sin; for ovation and murder of an innocent baby in the name of abortion.
The comments I see here break me more than the movie itself, I literally shed tears reading comment... 8 years was too much for a date, but u see when a woman is in love, hmm, everything bad from the person she is in love with bcoms good, u accept nonsense without knowing... It not easy to move on from oo... My experience lead me into depression...but I thank for life, even if getting into another relationship has been difficult 👇Read if u care
I understand you. It's when you leave and make a conscious effort to heal and get better, you will realize that you were truly fool!sh 😂 I was a victim too
Same experience… 8 years, entertained rubbish through out until I had the courage to leave… I’m now realising how stupid I was being vulnerable… but in all this it is better to be alone with your peace of mind than being with a toxic person. May we all find the one we deserve
Swears I was so happy after and sometimes I will punch myself and ask why I took all those rubbish from someone that obviously doesn't deserves me and when he came back I am already done@@jenniferekwuru9048
This is exactly my story, this guy treatment me badly I had to call off the relationship because of the love I had for him I called him month later for we to makeup this guy told me he's seeing someone else that we can't make up.... Just a month of break-up but thank God am doing fine, I pray a better man comes my way soon. This guy in question had nothing when I met him just because of the appointment the gave him in government everything changed about him. This is a wake up call for me, I don't blame this girls who says dey can never date a broke guy.
He has been seeing that person for more than a month and it was the reason for his change of attitude towards you. Just keep your hands clean, God gat you 💯
He's not yours my dear Everything and anything that happens in our lives is never a mistake and when God gives you your own then you will understand that he was never yours. Stay safe life goes on❤
Very interesting movie with life lessons..cold attitude of Femi, he thought the world revolved around him. Jessica was so real and had a nice friend in Brenda. Chioma was so reasonable. Some ladies will still fight to keep the likes of Femi just for the sake of getting married. Thumbs up to the cast and crew of this wonderful movie!
You know what pains me more? Is the friends of such guys, I keep saying this, no matter how loyal I am to a friend if you deceiving a girl or a guy, stringing them along for years and I’m aware of it I cannot keep quiet I will tell the Person especially when I know they genuinely love my friend I will expose my friend, call me whatever I will do it, I will snitch
LoL how are you better if you're friends with such a person? Mind your business and let people live their lives. Sheyi didn't need to confirm that Femi was cheating to leave. The mere fact that he was an ass whole to her all a long was enough. The moral lesson is not to snitch on people because you my dear are not a saint. The moral lesson is to love yourself first. Choose yourself. Protect yourself. Never allow yourself to love another human more than you love yourself. Invest in yourself. Your love for someone should never cause you to neglect yourself and understand that no body owes you love. It's not a commodity that can be borrowed. People can change at anytime. Don't allow yourself to be so attached to someone you're not married to. Get a life. Let people live their lives, make their mistakes and learn from them. Snitching on people makes you look dumb. I'm just saying 🌚💀
A man who loves you will not be ashamed to marry you. I was in this Seyi shoes oo..the guy told me he was not ready to settle (stupid excuse)..thank God He delivered me and few months later i met my husband, we are happily married with kids now
I went through the same thing...imagine being with a man, helping him get a car, apt etc and he tells you hes no longer interested after 4 years smh a year later i met my husband...been married for 3 years now...God is good! Ladies love yourself first and never help build a man
We live and we learn. Never give too much of yourself to someone until you have the ring. Life teaches us the toughest lessons. So happy love and happiness found you!!!
The truth remains that a man knows if he wants to marry a lady even within the first 3 weeks of meeting the lady. He only needs between 1 to 3months to do a proper check and confirmation. If he doesn't like or want you, it will be easy to detect early enough. Don't force yourself on anyone who is not interested in you. Guys should also stop leading the ladies on. What do you derive in deceiving your fellow humans. If all you want is a "friends with benefits" make it clear enough to her. Be wise! Be honest
If a man tells you it’s over please let it go, you will be hurt but with times you will be fine. Revenge is not yours, God is not blind he sees everything, he doesn’t need help.
We should never attempt to revenge. First of all, it’s way too much energy involved. Secondly, the man truly isn’t worth it. Use the time to heal and prepare for the good man that you deserve.
@@Ms.Baidoo199and God was blind when he lead your path to fornication that he despise and still harden the heart of the man from properly wifeing the lady after so much committtment and sacrifice ..same God knows the heart will be crushed and shattered from ao much pain for years even after hooking with another and bearing children hmmm...There are alot of women that never ever wish they are fucked with another penis how much more more than 5 failed relationship hmmm.. GOD INDIERECTLY DOESNT hate fornication and adultery is human that is making up sins for God... to God he wrote it as a process in your destiny..if you say human make their own choice then you automatically say God never exist and he doesn't have a say in marriages and so on... expect prosperity that is not gotten from sins
This happened to me and mine was 9 years. If i am being truthful, the signs were there but i ignored them and the most important conversation was never had. We always see the handwriting on the wall but ignore it just because we don't want to start all over again. When truth is not in relationships damage happens. And we should not always blame the spouse cos it is not easy for them to break up with you after about 3 to 4 years of relationship. My advice is to take stock regularly and truthfully
As women we've been groomed to believe "it'll get better, he'll change etc" narrative and it's destroying alot of women. Imagine seeing all this from a man and still want to marry him
I'm Femi. But I must say there's something special and Unique about that name. But in all sincerity I've never played on the Emotions of Lady. Rather revere is the case for me
I’m telling you. This movie frustrates me as the girl made it seem that it was better to be with this guy who wasted her time for eight years and didn’t want her, than for her to be alone.
Honestly, my pride too much to come dey beg one mumu man, I have built with 2 before and once they hit the jackpot, they move, not me building with anybody ever again, I am now a gold digger, I dig gold for life
Sometimes u don't have to revenge 🤦🤦🤦 I went through something worst than this 💔😢 something that still puts me in an emotional trauma till date, but I still let it go, though not happy on how it ended 💔😢 but in all, thank God
I actually don't see any revenge anywhere. She was just struggling to understand why or how the 8 yrs relationship came to an abrupt end. She found her answer & understood more by interacting with the new girlfriend. She did not harm her or destroy her business. I see a woman who was simply struggling to come to terms with the loss of 8 yrs. Femi was the master of games & mixed signals. That conversation they had on the sofa is what he should have had with her after the breakup. But instead he gives her his house keys & continues to string her along because he was enjoying the benefits taking advantage of the fact that she was still inlove with him. Some men are scum. All they do in life is use people to achieve their own goals. He never loved her. Never. Chioma saw that in him and dumped him immediately.
Women are really something... you don't go all out for man you are just dating... cooking, cleaning,sex, splitting bills and all those other things couples do...when you give your all it will be regarded as "see finish" and you'll have nothing to offer even if he marries you...add spice to your life, make a difference,place value on yourself and don't go all out for a man who hasn't made you his wife...❤️
Whether wife or not, a bad person would always be a bad person. Most men would jump at the slightest opportunity to be frivolous and to take advantage of women if given
Thank you. Women need to be girlfriends when they are girlfriends and stop acting as wives. Why would you continue to spend money on a man who is not your husband and who even had the temerity to make you abort your baby? This movie is so very true, and is upsetting to watch.
When a man is giving you the bare minimum, just know you are just not the girl he wants to go all out for.. because what you will ask for from him and he wil say you are asking for a lot is something he will do willingly for another woman and more without her even asking...
It is as if someone that knows me wrote this script. This was exactly what I went through. After dating him for a good 8 years, he couldn't have the decency to tell me that he had done an introduction with some other lady. It took one of his brother's domestic staff to tell me. I was broken but I leave him to God. He will surely meet his karma. Ladies don't you ever date a broke guy. They don't ever remember who was there for them when they had nothing.
It however hurts when those who hurt us on most occasions end up living happily with those they choose over us. We only hold on and hope for judgement day😂 and those who would genuinely love us
Women need to value themselves more. The essence of our lives is not to be loved and/or used by men. We should be able to tell that a man doesn’t want you if after 8 years he hasn’t married you. And please stop spending money on a man who is not your husband. When will we ever learn?
Absolutely. Low self esteem can lead to death and destruction. Women have God given Intuition they must tap into...it can save time, aggravation and money and heartache.
@@asionyekennedy2028 Life is indeed a Large part about women. God knew that and created one especially for Man who could have survived without a woman but what a lifeless existence that would have been. God knew it and acted accordingly but that's another deeper conversation many aren't ready for.
As long as it's not a university degree, I'm not giving any man 1 year of my life. As a human being, if you do not have sensitivity, develop one, it will help you read the room where you are not needed, and always accept rejection, it's part of life! Don't seek revenge, you might not live to share the story!❤
What buffles me is how most men are oblivious to there wrongs and think you will have a peaceful life, sooner or later it all catches up to you. Am happy she found herself the worst part is not the hurt but the losing of yourself to the point of no return,at the end of it all there is a light at the end of the tunnel, amazing movie with good lessons of life.❤🙏🏽
Some men are so selfish and good is never enough for them! As women we need to always take care of ourselves! Stay healthy and fit and participate in things away from our partners! We need to never ever let a man see us cry and like my sistar once said if you meet him on the bus make sure he puts himself into a car without using you as a stepping stool! I’ve been here! Omgnessss this broke my heart💔
Everyone advising pipo to move on and all that are saying it because you are not in that situation. Until u are in a person's shoes, you can never know how u would deal with the hurt. Not everyone is strong enough to move on. Please and please love the way you want to and always pray for the strength to move on when it doesn't go the way you planned it.
This movie reminds me of the traumatic emotional experience I had earlier this month 😢omo this guy did me dirty,understanding gf cancelled I’m never dating any broke guy again cause in the end they will see you as the fool
You don’t have to be swimming in cash but also need to be able to hold your own and those who know me know I never expect anything from anyone which makes it worst so yea I’m not dating anyone not on my level and I’m definitely not going out of my way to help you with money!
Mine told me that a man of God told him that we're not compatible😅😂 men eh. To think i even believed and was hoping i ddnt have any spiritual problem😂. Not until i heard from a mutual friend that he never really wanted to marry me in the first place omo i broke down. I listened to the voice note he ddnt know that this friend of our would let me know. This happened when i was preparing for my final exams and passing my exams through out that period was just God's grace
I was in Seyi's shoes once. I kept asking where I went wrong. What was so special about the other girl that made him love her just in weeks. I was loyal, encouraging, shared everything, and did everything perfectly. He even said I was too good for him. I doubted my sanity, and I lost my confidence. Seyi's story resonates so much with me because I have been there and it didn't taste good. But it was then God came through for me. He didn't give me my blessing in the form of another man, but he blessed me with a job that pays in hard currency. Now, I'm so comfortable without any man. Now, I have seen that I can never settle for less, even if I get married someday. I also learned that my true happiness comes from knowing God and from inside me not from a man.
I feel this pain in my heart and soul cos this the exact thing that happened to me or mind was even painful cos he married my staff I employed the pains 😢 still lives in my heart 😢
I come into agreement with this prayer sister!!! May God deliver my daughters and my son from all such treatment and all such behavior in Jesus Mighty Name!!!!!! Amen❤
Greetings from USA great job well done I really enjoyed kudos to the entire team kept me interested from the beginning to the end keep up the great work! Be blessed!💯💯💯💯
Swears... That guy is so heartless.he doesn't even feel remorse,I am sure he can do the same to any lady anytime he get tired of the lady too.the fact that he is not remorseful makes it hurts more.
I practically cried with Seyi when she was crying about the break up. I felt it was me. All my mistakes and foolishness in love. Now I am divorced, no kids,( it's been difficult) but I am still hoping God blesses me with a child and a man to hold my hand at 44
I don't know how it feels to date a guy that long, bcoz I have always being a celibate to avoid getting hurt in the name of being in a relationship... But how can someone be this wicked. Dating a woman or a man for 8 solid years, almost a decade just to delete him/her for someone else? How is this even possible? I can't fathom this long time dating thing, it becomes a pattern, bcoz in 8 years will be going through same issues repeatedly until it becomes a norm, boring and tasteless... To an extent that you will find it even more difficult to move on. That's why people do commit suicide so easily after the break up, bcoz they are attached to you, emotionally, mentally, physically, Psychologically and spiritually...
In the case in this movie there could be 2 main reasons 1 either he never loved he but stayed cos he was benefitting from her financially since in the early days when he was broke and it had become a couple of years and breaking up had become difficult to break up 2 or he knew that this lady had helped him so much and knew him, i mean what we call see finish and therefore would not get the admiration , worship and respect he would have wanted with his wife. This is a very common reason for long year relationship break ups with the men
This movie has just made realize that am stupid am still in a relationship where I have aborted and continue with the relationship. like if he truly loves me he wouldn't want to kill our first child 💔
Get out wile you can. It will get better. I know being alone is hard, but it hurts more when you realize how much you have lost being in such a relationship.
Everytime God God God then God support and overlook fornication and adultery then is just human that are laying down rules and controlling peoples destiny
So yeah, let's just agree that this only happens in movies. In real life; Chioma will still go ahead with the wedding, Seyi would be arrested and charged with impersonation and Brenda gets to feel the heat for agreeing to Seyi's crazy plan. No one is really worth all of this stress, at the end, you'll be so glad and proud of yourself that you LET GO.
Everyone saying Seyi should have let go, it's easier said than done. You think it’s easy to let go of a relationship of one year let alone eight years!!! Especially if you were blindsided? Haba let's tell ourselves the truth. Revenge will definitely be your next action as a sort of compensation. You will feel justified because nothing prepared you for it. It will only take the grace of God to just let go. Biko these things happen in real life and people will always act differently to situations. It was not okay, but if you ask her she feels justified. Femi on the other hand didn't see anything wrong because of the kind of person he is. In his mind, she forced herself and he felt obligated. Meanwhile, he would have told her that he had moved on and so she should. Would she have accepted is the question. There are many ways to look at it, at the end of the day it was just really messy. Last last ehn, may we not meet this type of Femi in our lifetime...
Who even dates one for 8years,when we're not highschool lovers?That was quite so long please,this story is relative...U meet them when they're Goldless,pennyless,struggling yet love them unconditionally with every of u only to get betrayed,it's really unfair especially when they easily move on forgetting the early beginning...Well,i would say nothing is wrong in having high expectations in a defined relationship...Lessons learnt.
Great morals! Mistake that I have made in my past relationship. I gave my all and we broke up because he cheated. Guess what, he got married in less than 6 months of our break up. I really trying hard to work on myself to learn and never allow myself to be used like that. Every lady should know this!
When a man doesn’t love you , he doesn’t you can do all the sacrifices you can for him , he will never care about your love , man are wicked, always think about yourself, I really like this movie , because mum has been through the same thing in the past and the pain was so much 🥺
The movie got me so emotional and mad at the same time. You want to pay her off because you hurt her. What the effrontery. I will just advice ladies not to be doing house chores and warming a man’s bed before he gets married to you.
My only question is why will such a good movie not having 1million views? Nonsense movie you will see. a million views in 2 days with no moral sense. The world is truly going upside down.
This is the real meaning of ‘’when a guy loves a lady he will do anything to keep and make her happy no matter how small it is “ no matter how poor Femi was,there are many little things he would do to make seyi happy when Dey were dating
when he was poor he used her . he was never in love with her. We really need to understand what love is. we sometimes we think true love is the beautiful warm feeling we have when we are with someone but it is much more than that.
Met my hubby in December got engaged in March and got married the first week in January. We've been married for ten plus years with 4 beautiful kids. Before then I was in a two year relationship that got nowhere. After that heartbreak I just focused on myself and put God first. I got so busy with church, cleaning the house of God and finished university. I'm here to encourage anyone going through this to put God first and all other things will be perfected ❤
Great lessons in this movie. This is all about practicing discernment. Femi was never in love with his ex. There were many red flags in that relationship. 8 years together and no marriage, he asked her to abort twice, and never bought her anything. She was a place holder and a safety net. She refused to accept the red flags and stayed. I like the contrast of how they showed how a man acts with a woman who he is in love with vs. a woman who he is not in love with. It's teaching you what to look for from a man in a relationship. But, most importantly, it teaches both men and women about how to act with integrity and decency towards other human beings. Yes, she should have practiced better discernment, but he should have never been with her for 8 years knowing he was never in love with her. Also, when she came back around, he should have been honest with her and never used her for sex and chores knowing he moved on. He literally cheated on the fiance and the ex at the same time. Red flag. No remorse for what he did. Red flag. Even if he was in love with his current fiance, his character is poor and who knows how he would act in a relationship when times got hard in their marriage or he was tempted by another woman.
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As a married man, I learnt a lot from this movie. Look for good movies with lessons, such as this and thank the producing team later. Thumbs up.
I did love this but there should be part 2😅
Pp
Everyone is wiser till is you. U will never understand how hurtful it is till u see urself in the same situation
No..many if us are Wise because we've experienced heartbreak and have learned to see the red flags and not ignore them. We've tapped into our discernment and make wiser choices.
My first breakup was 2010
Till then my heart is super glue u no fit try am make i see weda u get 3 heads i de laugh sef
I was in an eight years relationship with a maniac. I did everything for him. Luckily, I never got pregnant for him. Dude was ashamed of me and treated me like trash all those times. Thank God I found the courage to leave him and I met my now fiance 2 months later. He proposed to me after 3 months of dating and this man is the best thing that ever happened to me. If you find out you are the only one doing everything in the relationship, please leave.
Honestly...
Also with guys,abi.
the dude wasn't ashamed of you but rather you were ashamed of yourself, he didn't do you anything rather what he did was himself and what you did was to yourself period stop blaming people for your actions and take responsibility and believing that there is someone out there to save you. deal with your issues first and accept it has it is and move forward.
@@nicolajames5037 seems you are the dude she talked about. What's ur issue?
@@ugbedeyakubu7105 the thing tire me oo😂
Jessica Obasi-Nze can act!!!!
10/10 every single movie!
I totally agree, she always delivers
@@laurachao6580 she's just on point!
Any movie I see her in like this, I dey wan watch am ni. She's so good.
She was born to be an actress
She and her husband are good
Mrs Nze, you are so good with your roles. The crying scenes look so real that I was crying with you......wow! You girl are good🎉❤
Cry cry baby 😂🖤
Seriously, she gave it her all. The emotions were wild
Awww! Bless
She deserves an award for that scene
Moral of the story NEVER give all of yourself to ANYONE. Leave some of you for you. When they decide to leave they will not even consider your feelings.
Don’t stay long in relationships and no wifey roles in relationships 👌
I don’t even know why I support this with all my life. Give another human being all of you? What will you use ? Are you playing with your life? I love men o but you see my life ? It’s my own. If you’re not marrying me, buy bread biko and I mean it, buy bread ! Kupu !😂
Heart breaking with many lessons to learn. Close the legs before the wedding. You can never lose by living with this mantra
You can still loose a man even after getting married..... after closing your legs 🦵 for 5 years......
Close leg dey play
Aswear 💯💯
Yep. It hurts because you gave your body, your time and your money.
💯!!!!!!
I've said this before and I will still say it again!! One year is enough to marry someone. Don't be too glued to leave. Men knows what they want and ready to invest in it no matter how soon. Sending love to anyone going through this 🖤🌹
so are you suggesting ladies should not have a relationship untill one tear when thay are ready to get married. I don,t really agree with that, what i would say is be truthful about your feeling the whole time especially to yourself. There will always be break ups in life but being truthful to each other is critical
What he is saying is that it doesn't take forever for man not a boy to know who he is ready to settle with it, and honestly speaking 3 to 6 months in a relationship a man will know if he wants you for a life time.
Beautiful movie
Thank u
Even 3months is enough if he truly wants to be with you
I can never revenge .... If you loose me it's your lose because I know I'm a very good and respectful person..... I will just pray 🙏 for God to give me peace not to feel so much pain...
Truly
My sister is true ooo,Revenge is not the solution, just make sure you take care of yourself and you will find yourself a good person
It’s very easy to say so. 8 years is a really long time and it was riddled with sin upon sin; for ovation and murder of an innocent baby in the name of abortion.
Amen!
Honestly I don't think that anyone would or could have played this role better than blessing nze.❤❤ keep up the originality.
The comments I see here break me more than the movie itself, I literally shed tears reading comment... 8 years was too much for a date, but u see when a woman is in love, hmm, everything bad from the person she is in love with bcoms good, u accept nonsense without knowing... It not easy to move on from oo... My experience lead me into depression...but I thank for life, even if getting into another relationship has been difficult 👇Read if u care
I understand you. It's when you leave and make a conscious effort to heal and get better, you will realize that you were truly fool!sh 😂 I was a victim too
I feel you mine was even worse
Same experience… 8 years, entertained rubbish through out until I had the courage to leave… I’m now realising how stupid I was being vulnerable… but in all this it is better to be alone with your peace of mind than being with a toxic person. May we all find the one we deserve
Me Getting snother relationship has been also difficult since 2016 till date 😢
Swears I was so happy after and sometimes I will punch myself and ask why I took all those rubbish from someone that obviously doesn't deserves me and when he came back I am already done@@jenniferekwuru9048
Wow when matured and talented people are at work, you get perfect and a well educative lessons. I've learnt so much. Kudos to the crew 🥰🥰
Mrs Nze our Lolo never disappoints ❤❤
Brenda you are what we call "Friend in deed and in need" When they ask the definition of a friend, you are!!!
This is exactly my story, this guy treatment me badly I had to call off the relationship because of the love I had for him I called him month later for we to makeup this guy told me he's seeing someone else that we can't make up.... Just a month of break-up but thank God am doing fine, I pray a better man comes my way soon. This guy in question had nothing when I met him just because of the appointment the gave him in government everything changed about him. This is a wake up call for me, I don't blame this girls who says dey can never date a broke guy.
So sorry dear a better man will find u someday okay..
He has been seeing that person for more than a month and it was the reason for his change of attitude towards you. Just keep your hands clean, God gat you 💯
He's not yours my dear
Everything and anything that happens in our lives is never a mistake and when God gives you your own then you will understand that he was never yours. Stay safe life goes on❤
It’s well
Am telling you
I love how her friend stood up for her at all times🥺❤️
Very interesting movie with life lessons..cold attitude of Femi, he thought the world revolved around him. Jessica was so real and had a nice friend in Brenda. Chioma was so reasonable. Some ladies will still fight to keep the likes of Femi just for the sake of getting married. Thumbs up to the cast and crew of this wonderful movie!
You know what pains me more? Is the friends of such guys, I keep saying this, no matter how loyal I am to a friend if you deceiving a girl or a guy, stringing them along for years and I’m aware of it I cannot keep quiet I will tell the Person especially when I know they genuinely love my friend I will expose my friend, call me whatever I will do it, I will snitch
femi's friend is the reason he went to tell her indirectly they needed to break up,I think he was a good friend
I’m a snitch on that type of friend too
I love real friends
LoL how are you better if you're friends with such a person? Mind your business and let people live their lives. Sheyi didn't need to confirm that Femi was cheating to leave. The mere fact that he was an ass whole to her all a long was enough. The moral lesson is not to snitch on people because you my dear are not a saint. The moral lesson is to love yourself first. Choose yourself. Protect yourself. Never allow yourself to love another human more than you love yourself. Invest in yourself. Your love for someone should never cause you to neglect yourself and understand that no body owes you love. It's not a commodity that can be borrowed. People can change at anytime. Don't allow yourself to be so attached to someone you're not married to. Get a life. Let people live their lives, make their mistakes and learn from them. Snitching on people makes you look dumb. I'm just saying 🌚💀
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This movie is lovely may we not meet a Femi amen, I never expected less from the movie, it’s not pride we nzerians are addicted to good movies
A man who loves you will not be ashamed to marry you. I was in this Seyi shoes oo..the guy told me he was not ready to settle (stupid excuse)..thank God He delivered me and few months later i met my husband, we are happily married with kids now
I went through the same thing...imagine being with a man, helping him get a car, apt etc and he tells you hes no longer interested after 4 years smh a year later i met my husband...been married for 3 years now...God is good! Ladies love yourself first and never help build a man
We live and we learn. Never give too much of yourself to someone until you have the ring. Life teaches us the toughest lessons. So happy love and happiness found you!!!
@@elenam9435 very true never again
I'm so glad you found your person!
@@graceorshio8962 same
You can't raise a man
The truth remains that a man knows if he wants to marry a lady even within the first 3 weeks of meeting the lady. He only needs between 1 to 3months to do a proper check and confirmation. If he doesn't like or want you, it will be easy to detect early enough. Don't force yourself on anyone who is not interested in you.
Guys should also stop leading the ladies on. What do you derive in deceiving your fellow humans. If all you want is a "friends with benefits" make it clear enough to her. Be wise! Be honest
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Can we just say how great of a friend Brenda is
Seriously, I thought the same thing. I pray to have a friend as genuine and kind as her because WOW 😢❤
She’s awesome 👏 ❤
If a man tells you it’s over please let it go, you will be hurt but with times you will be fine.
Revenge is not yours, God is not blind he sees everything, he doesn’t need help.
Walking away silently itself is a revenge. The truth is that even his own conscious will hurt becoz he will be expecting you to cry n beg
We should never attempt to revenge. First of all, it’s way too much energy involved. Secondly, the man truly isn’t worth it. Use the time to heal and prepare for the good man that you deserve.
@@Cinta_92 I agree away "silently" alone is revenge in itself
This is the comment."God is not blind,he sees everything, he doesn't need help"
@@Ms.Baidoo199and God was blind when he lead your path to fornication that he despise and still harden the heart of the man from properly wifeing the lady after so much committtment and sacrifice ..same God knows the heart will be crushed and shattered from ao much pain for years even after hooking with another and bearing children hmmm...There are alot of women that never ever wish they are fucked with another penis how much more more than 5 failed relationship hmmm..
GOD INDIERECTLY DOESNT hate fornication and adultery is human that is making up sins for God... to God he wrote it as a process in your destiny..if you say human make their own choice then you automatically say God never exist and he doesn't have a say in marriages and so on... expect prosperity that is not gotten from sins
Bolaji is so pretty.. awwwwww❤❤❤❤❤. All these actors and actresses brought their game.
Am I the only one that watched this movie with so much pain in my heart??🥺🥺 Chaii im broken all over again 😭😭😭😭
I did too 😢 , men are wicked let’s not lie
Me too, moving on isn’t easy but it’s needed
@@anitaeke5936 very oh and must 😢
I’m dying slowly
So heartbroken 💔
@@blessingadorsu5486so sorry dear
I hope you heal from whatever pain you’re facing or just came out from
This happened to me and mine was 9 years. If i am being truthful, the signs were there but i ignored them and the most important conversation was never had. We always see the handwriting on the wall but ignore it just because we don't want to start all over again. When truth is not in relationships damage happens. And we should not always blame the spouse cos it is not easy for them to break up with you after about 3 to 4 years of relationship. My advice is to take stock regularly and truthfully
This is the most honest comment cause really, she’d have been able to tell from his body language that he had checked out from the relationship.
On point!
Oh honey I am so sorry
As women we've been groomed to believe "it'll get better, he'll change etc" narrative and it's destroying alot of women. Imagine seeing all this from a man and still want to marry him
Her friend is a fantastic actress ❤
Everyone needs a friend like brenda ❤
The minute i heard Femi,i knew this was going to be tears everywhere😂😂
I swear 😂
😂😂😂😂 and I just to where she said Femi and I saw your message 😢😂
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I'm Femi. But I must say there's something special and Unique about that name. But in all sincerity I've never played on the Emotions of Lady. Rather revere is the case for me
I swear.. premium tears I tell you
I can never beg a man to be with me.. My pride is too worthy deserving than all the men alive.. Poor women! Some of you have seen days!
Am telling u
Exactly 💯
I’m telling you. This movie frustrates me as the girl made it seem that it was better to be with this guy who wasted her time for eight years and didn’t want her, than for her to be alone.
Honestly, my pride too much to come dey beg one mumu man, I have built with 2 before and once they hit the jackpot, they move, not me building with anybody ever again, I am now a gold digger, I dig gold for life
@@Oge_Chudi😂😂😂😂
Sometimes u don't have to revenge 🤦🤦🤦 I went through something worst than this 💔😢 something that still puts me in an emotional trauma till date, but I still let it go, though not happy on how it ended 💔😢 but in all, thank God
I actually don't see any revenge anywhere. She was just struggling to understand why or how the 8 yrs relationship came to an abrupt end. She found her answer & understood more by interacting with the new girlfriend. She did not harm her or destroy her business. I see a woman who was simply struggling to come to terms with the loss of 8 yrs. Femi was the master of games & mixed signals.
That conversation they had on the sofa is what he should have had with her after the breakup. But instead he gives her his house keys & continues to string her along because he was enjoying the benefits taking advantage of the fact that she was still inlove with him. Some men are scum. All they do in life is use people to achieve their own goals. He never loved her. Never. Chioma saw that in him and dumped him immediately.
People need to know & accept when a relationship is over!
Too much sense of entitlement.... Not like Femi was generally bad to all ladies.
FACTS stop Forcing it
Women are really something... you don't go all out for man you are just dating... cooking, cleaning,sex, splitting bills and all those other things couples do...when you give your all it will be regarded as "see finish" and you'll have nothing to offer even if he marries you...add spice to your life, make a difference,place value on yourself and don't go all out for a man who hasn't made you his wife...❤️
Thank you
Whether wife or not, a bad person would always be a bad person. Most men would jump at the slightest opportunity to be frivolous and to take advantage of women if given
Thank you. Women need to be girlfriends when they are girlfriends and stop acting as wives. Why would you continue to spend money on a man who is not your husband and who even had the temerity to make you abort your baby? This movie is so very true, and is upsetting to watch.
I no kukuma get strength for relationship. I pay for cooking cleaning and grocery shopping. No energy to do anything for anybody🤣😄😄😄😄
Thank you
What a movie! To think I stumbled on it out of boredom and it blew my mind.
I loveeee this movieee and I love her friend sooo much.... The type of friend I want in my corner... Lovee the movieee....huge lesson learnt
When a man is giving you the bare minimum, just know you are just not the girl he wants to go all out for.. because what you will ask for from him and he wil say you are asking for a lot is something he will do willingly for another woman and more without her even asking...
BIG #wisdom
If Tiktok brought ypu here, please gather here for selfie and popcorn while we enjoy this eye opener of a movie ❤
Men like this never learn until you give them a taste of their own medicine.
Finally a movie with sanity well and good we don't get to see a man get away with his nonsense.
Mrs Nze herself. You are doing really well. Wow.
It is as if someone that knows me wrote this script.
This was exactly what I went through.
After dating him for a good 8 years, he couldn't have the decency to tell me that he had done an introduction with some other lady. It took one of his brother's domestic staff to tell me. I was broken but I leave him to God. He will surely meet his karma. Ladies don't you ever date a broke guy. They don't ever remember who was there for them when they had nothing.
It however hurts when those who hurt us on most occasions end up living happily with those they choose over us. We only hold on and hope for judgement day😂 and those who would genuinely love us
Honestly the keyword don't date a broke guy coz they would play humble use you to save up and dumb the person.
Women need to value themselves more. The essence of our lives is not to be loved and/or used by men. We should be able to tell that a man doesn’t want you if after 8 years he hasn’t married you. And please stop spending money on a man who is not your husband. When will we ever learn?
Absolutely. Low self esteem can lead to death and destruction. Women have God given Intuition they must tap into...it can save time, aggravation and money and heartache.
But a man can spend on a woman who is not his wife
Life is not all about women . Men can say the same thing too .
@@asionyekennedy2028 Life is indeed a Large part about women. God knew that and created one especially for Man who could have survived without a woman but what a lifeless existence that would have been. God knew it and acted accordingly but that's another deeper conversation many aren't ready for.
@@SaintJoseph_001 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣hewooo
When a man says he doesn't want you anymore respect yourself and leave... befriending his fiance and "digging" out things only makes you hurt yourself
It's not that easy
Easier said than done
@@fadasonrachel9715While it may not be easy, it's NECESSARY.
Awww the friend played a very good role in her life 😊.. I think we all need friends like brenda
This movie is 100/10!!! Everything is on point, superb acting as well❤❤❤🎉 Excellently done🥇🥇🥇
As long as it's not a university degree, I'm not giving any man 1 year of my life. As a human being, if you do not have sensitivity, develop one, it will help you read the room where you are not needed, and always accept rejection, it's part of life! Don't seek revenge, you might not live to share the story!❤
Yes!
Correct my sister
😂 university degree isn't even up to 4 years except one wants 2 degrees
😂😂😂😂 8 years, that’s bachelors’ Masters’ and doctorate degree - 1 years 😂 is it apprenticeship ?
@@yomide_naturalsin Nigeria, the standard university degree is 4 years
What buffles me is how most men are oblivious to there wrongs and think you will have a peaceful life, sooner or later it all catches up to you. Am happy she found herself the worst part is not the hurt but the losing of yourself to the point of no return,at the end of it all there is a light at the end of the tunnel, amazing movie with good lessons of life.❤🙏🏽
Mrs Nze u killed this movie
Imagine shading tears with u
This movie is superb
Some men are so selfish and good is never enough for them! As women we need to always take care of ourselves! Stay healthy and fit and participate in things away from our partners! We need to never ever let a man see us cry and like my sistar once said if you meet him on the bus make sure he puts himself into a car without using you as a stepping stool! I’ve been here! Omgnessss this broke my heart💔
😢😭😭😭😭😭😭this is sooo my situation right now
I so much love watching ds movies it’s giving me more strength to move on
But it feel so good to have a bad experience 😂in relationships
Sorry. Move on. Work on your self esteem
Her Friend is giving me chills
The love is just so beautiful
We all went through this, I am hurt but then life goes on, I only pray we find the right person🙏
Lost my fiancee , 7 months ago. I pray I find the kind of love him& I had, I miss him every day
I hope you feel better soon. May God heal your broken heart, amen.🫂🫂🫂
Everyone advising pipo to move on and all that are saying it because you are not in that situation. Until u are in a person's shoes, you can never know how u would deal with the hurt. Not everyone is strong enough to move on. Please and please love the way you want to and always pray for the strength to move on when it doesn't go the way you planned it.
This movie reminds me of the traumatic emotional experience I had earlier this month 😢omo this guy did me dirty,understanding gf cancelled I’m never dating any broke guy again cause in the end they will see you as the fool
Women play themselves when they date these broke men,they are so ungrateful, as a lady u have to be selfish and look out for yourself
You’re very correct they not worth it 👍🏾
So sorry you have to go through this, believe me when i say not all broke guy's see you as a fool... sending you love ❤❤❤🎉
You don’t have to be swimming in cash but also need to be able to hold your own and those who know me know I never expect anything from anyone which makes it worst so yea I’m not dating anyone not on my level and I’m definitely not going out of my way to help you with money!
Mine told me that a man of God told him that we're not compatible😅😂 men eh. To think i even believed and was hoping i ddnt have any spiritual problem😂. Not until i heard from a mutual friend that he never really wanted to marry me in the first place omo i broke down. I listened to the voice note he ddnt know that this friend of our would let me know. This happened when i was preparing for my final exams and passing my exams through out that period was just God's grace
When a man truly loves u, he wouldn't waste time to make u his wife.
The best part about the movie is the ending. At least he didn’t get to live a happily ever after life.
😂 Jesus
I was in Seyi's shoes once. I kept asking where I went wrong. What was so special about the other girl that made him love her just in weeks. I was loyal, encouraging, shared everything, and did everything perfectly. He even said I was too good for him. I doubted my sanity, and I lost my confidence. Seyi's story resonates so much with me because I have been there and it didn't taste good. But it was then God came through for me. He didn't give me my blessing in the form of another man, but he blessed me with a job that pays in hard currency. Now, I'm so comfortable without any man. Now, I have seen that I can never settle for less, even if I get married someday. I also learned that my true happiness comes from knowing God and from inside me not from a man.
Untill one experience this kind of man, one cannot really explain the hurt. Chioma made the right decision to leave Femi.
Femi didn't even know what he did wrong, what a human!
Asin no remorse or pity atleast, for someone u dated for 8yrs! Haba where is the conscience
Where is the conscience or love the once shared?
I am sure pe any film from Desperanza media is a top notch. Let me sit back and enjoy
This is a must watch. Weldone to the amazing actor.
I feel this pain in my heart and soul cos this the exact thing that happened to me or mind was even painful cos he married my staff I employed the pains 😢 still lives in my heart 😢
O Lord deliver us from the wicked and evil men Psalms 140
The friend, true friend....she had no idea of what her friend was up to but she just came up with exact idea of what the girl was doing
O Lord deliver all my granddaughters from the likes of Femi of this world in Jesus name
I come into agreement with this prayer sister!!! May God deliver my daughters and my son from all such treatment and all such behavior in Jesus Mighty Name!!!!!! Amen❤
I connect with these prayers in Jesus name
Amen!
I bring myself under this prayer too.
Ameen
Amen and amen
Greetings from USA great job well done I really enjoyed kudos to the entire team kept me interested from the beginning to the end keep up the great work! Be blessed!💯💯💯💯
Wow ! The fact that he didn’t even know what he did wrong till the end of the movie till baffles me !!!
He still doesn't understand or accept it sef, he is just hurt that he is loosing the fiance he loves presently
Swears... That guy is so heartless.he doesn't even feel remorse,I am sure he can do the same to any lady anytime he get tired of the lady too.the fact that he is not remorseful makes it hurts more.
I practically cried with Seyi when she was crying about the break up. I felt it was me. All my mistakes and foolishness in love. Now I am divorced, no kids,( it's been difficult) but I am still hoping God blesses me with a child and a man to hold my hand at 44
If you are in a relationship just work with your head and not your ❤️ heart…..men no send you once they are done…..
Why is it so hard for some folks to love those who actually truly love them??? 😢
If there is a way kindly show me cos i need it asap
@@nanapeabamokwah2327 just be kind and appreciate those who loves you that’s a starting point
Hmmmm.....
I m here for Bolaji and Blessing obasi ❤❤ from 🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲
I don't know how it feels to date a guy that long, bcoz I have always being a celibate to avoid getting hurt in the name of being in a relationship... But how can someone be this wicked. Dating a woman or a man for 8 solid years, almost a decade just to delete him/her for someone else? How is this even possible? I can't fathom this long time dating thing, it becomes a pattern, bcoz in 8 years will be going through same issues repeatedly until it becomes a norm, boring and tasteless... To an extent that you will find it even more difficult to move on. That's why people do commit suicide so easily after the break up, bcoz they are attached to you, emotionally, mentally, physically, Psychologically and spiritually...
In the case in this movie there could be 2 main reasons
1 either he never loved he but stayed cos he was benefitting from her financially since in the early days when he was broke and it had become a couple of years and breaking up had become difficult to break up
2 or he knew that this lady had helped him so much and knew him, i mean what we call see finish and therefore would not get the admiration , worship and respect he would have wanted with his wife. This is a very common reason for long year relationship break ups with the men
Don't take break in a relationship , that's the goal. Nothing good will come out of it
This is so me
It's called lord of the rings 😂
This movie has just made realize that am stupid am still in a relationship where I have aborted and continue with the relationship. like if he truly loves me he wouldn't want to kill our first child 💔
Get out before it’s too late.
Better live now,
That's not a relationship
U will get hurt
My darling please end it now
Get out wile you can. It will get better. I know being alone is hard, but it hurts more when you realize how much you have lost being in such a relationship.
I have seen that when a guy dumps a girl.
It might be God saying, I have a better plan.
Everytime God God God then God support and overlook fornication and adultery then is just human that are laying down rules and controlling peoples destiny
Moral lesson: Never take care of a man you are not married to.
Even the one you are married to, be cautious
Ah!!! 😂😂😂😂
All this need to be recited to a girl child ontime right from her tender age ..parents needs to recite this as a tale to her
Great movie 🎥
Lolo u are a great actor!!! Plus this movie is so interesting and educative.. keep up d good work
So yeah, let's just agree that this only happens in movies. In real life; Chioma will still go ahead with the wedding, Seyi would be arrested and charged with impersonation and Brenda gets to feel the heat for agreeing to Seyi's crazy plan.
No one is really worth all of this stress, at the end, you'll be so glad and proud of yourself that you LET GO.
Everyone saying Seyi should have let go, it's easier said than done. You think it’s easy to let go of a relationship of one year let alone eight years!!! Especially if you were blindsided? Haba let's tell ourselves the truth. Revenge will definitely be your next action as a sort of compensation. You will feel justified because nothing prepared you for it. It will only take the grace of God to just let go. Biko these things happen in real life and people will always act differently to situations. It was not okay, but if you ask her she feels justified. Femi on the other hand didn't see anything wrong because of the kind of person he is. In his mind, she forced herself and he felt obligated. Meanwhile, he would have told her that he had moved on and so she should. Would she have accepted is the question. There are many ways to look at it, at the end of the day it was just really messy.
Last last ehn, may we not meet this type of Femi in our lifetime...
FACT sis
True
Amen and amen ooo and our children too ooo in Jesus name
Reality is that there are a lot of Femis out there.
It is not easy to let go, I hate those words. Yes, eventually one does let go but let it not be the first you hear.😢
It was a non stop tears for me dis movie is actually speaking about me😢😢😢😢 wow it is well, great films ❤.
Who even dates one for 8years,when we're not highschool lovers?That was quite so long please,this story is relative...U meet them when they're Goldless,pennyless,struggling yet love them unconditionally with every of u only to get betrayed,it's really unfair especially when they easily move on forgetting the early beginning...Well,i would say nothing is wrong in having high expectations in a defined relationship...Lessons learnt.
She's studying law degree in dating a guy
My own very Jessica nze, u r blessed indeed
Red flags dey but we ignore it a lot nice storyline
Great morals! Mistake that I have made in my past relationship. I gave my all and we broke up because he cheated. Guess what, he got married in less than 6 months of our break up.
I really trying hard to work on myself to learn and never allow myself to be used like that. Every lady should know this!
When a man doesn’t love you , he doesn’t you can do all the sacrifices you can for him , he will never care about your love , man are wicked, always think about yourself, I really like this movie , because mum has been through the same thing in the past and the pain was so much 🥺
The movie got me so emotional and mad at the same time. You want to pay her off because you hurt her. What the effrontery. I will just advice ladies not to be doing house chores and warming a man’s bed before he gets married to you.
The lady that acted Brenda, i mean seyi's friend. She's a 10/10 for me 🔥
Blessing never disappoints.Great movie.❤❤❤
My love for blessings,I like your T _shirt❤
Waiting for backfiring part. Don't joke with a woman's tears after all the sacrifices she made for you
Love,respect,care for self is the key,choosing you 1st is the best way to go.
I’m seeing all the testimonies here oo😊 Hope I find my soulmate soon ❤
Fun fact: Men don’t like women that were there for them when they had nothing 😂 so sis dig your goal with pride if you must😅
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Nothing but the truth
Ododo Oro!
Or a woman that start afresh with them
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Very educative movie. Once bitten twice shy
My only question is why will such a good movie not having 1million views? Nonsense movie you will see. a million views in 2 days with no moral sense. The world is truly going upside down.
This is the real meaning of ‘’when a guy loves a lady he will do anything to keep and make her happy no matter how small it is “ no matter how poor Femi was,there are many little things he would do to make seyi happy when Dey were dating
Which he never did
when he was poor he used her . he was never in love with her. We really need to understand what love is. we sometimes we think true love is the beautiful warm feeling we have when we are with someone but it is much more than that.
Hmm...you and I watched 2 different movies😂. Where in the movie did you see that?
True...love is more than the feelings. Its sacrifice, its going out of your way to make your partner, happy
As a women I would never beg a man to stay with me when he told me he had move on, no matter how long we had been together