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HEY GUYS! Hope you guys are enjoying my Korea vlogs so far! I've been spending a lot of time at home cooking and watching Netflix😅. (My next vlog will definitely be more of me exploring Seoul!) I also have a semi- heart to heart talk about the topic of loneliness. I hope you guys enjoy! ❤️
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As far as loneliness goes, I really agree with you that being comfortable with yourself is the most important thing. I'm an only child so I've always been sort of alone in most situations and I had to make myself be my best friend. It took a long time and I still get lonely sometimes, but being at home in yourself does wonders. I also have noticed that being on social media less actually makes me feel less alone! When I'm constantly on Instagram I feel like I'm missing out on things or not doing enough, but when I take a step back from it, I feel that way less and less. Hope you're doing okay
cari cakes hey cari, happy to be internet friends so feel free to message me 😊❤️
I totally agree with you about being comfortable with yourself is the most important thing! When I was in gr7 (freshman) I tried SO hard to make friends and surround myself with friends all the time. I also felt the need to constantly be on snapchat, facebook, insta, etc. By senior year I was fucking exhausted and so done with pretending and trying to fit in. I was exhausted with keeping friendships that weren't real and felt so much pressure when I'm on social media like I always needed to post content for people that probably don't even give a shit about what I'm doing. I stopped using snap and fb completely and THANK JESUS, it was probably one of the best decisions in my life. I also started skipping classes that were useless and a waste of time just sitting in class not learning, but I still did the work and showed up for tests. I graduated with 4.0 even though I wasn't at school half the time. I spent that time really taking care of myself and setting my priorities straight. Now, two years later and I'm the master of being alone. Its freakin great, I work on myself, I take care of myself, I treat myself, I make sure I'm happy. I still go out and have fun with close friends, but I'm my own best friend.
I agree, social media is the worst thing for people who struggle with loneliness. People choose what they show on there and we all seem to forget that sometimes.
I agree! Even though I had half-siblings I was never really close to them since they were way older then me and I always struggled with making friendships.
I AGREE!!!!!
I honestly had an emotional breakdown a few days ago about exactly this. I’ve been feeling lonely even though I am constantly surrounded by people. venting to someone I am close to and just putting my feelings out there was really helpful, since those negative feelings aren’t inside anymore. Secondly, another thing that helped me was to pin point when I started feeling this way, because for me I felt that acknowledging the reason of my loneliness is a step in over coming it. Since you mentioned you aren’t the type to talk about your feelings I can totally relate because I’m the exact same way but I think you should talk about it. I keep a diary for when I am feeling extremely down and don’t feel like talking to anyone about my feelings. It helps to write it down. If you ever wanna talk you can always message me!! :)
This was so heart warming and uplifting😭 thank you...🙆🏻♀️❤️
i actually cope w my loneliness by watching yt vlogs lol when youtubers take us along, it makes us feel like we're actually there w you guys :)
Anne Ameer it will be okay ❤❤❤❤❤❤
True.. Its almost like having a virtual friend.
I don't understand why some people like us feels so lonely even though we are surrounded by friends and family? Probably,like Michelle said perhaps its because we do not talk about our true feelings often.
yes 😌✊
Coming from a girl who has been homeschooled for nearly all of her life, because of health problems it gets extremely lonely. I have no friends. When I tell people this, they don't believe me. I cope with loneliness by somehow keeping myself busy like, ready, listening to music, watching a movie, journaling, cooking, cleaning, all of those simple things. If I don't do anything at all, I start to have thoughts like, what if I wasn't sick and actually went to public school, or what does it feels like to have friends? When I'm not doing anything, I feel bad about myself, which I shouldn't be because, I'm born like this. Thats why I always have to keep myself distracted with the simplest things.
Let's be friends
I study in public school. Haha it isn't much different. I am always alone too. I found most if friends in interest groups. You can search for groups around your area. Easier to make more friends there .
That's okay you're not alone 😊 let's be friend
Lets be friends ❤️
Lets be friends💕💕
Your eyes look so sad even when you went out with your friends. I hope you are doing great 💖🙏
Sometimes I get shocked by how observant some of you guys are!!😳 but thank you so much🙏🏻❤️
what does that even mean
I realised that too! She doesnt seem as much cheerful(?) as her vlogs last time so I hope youre doing well Michelle! Even though we have never met just remember that all of us can be your listening ear/virtual shoulder to cry on!
Michelle Choi - YES! We can be your internet friends!! 💕
I think because they’re just so out there and crazy and she doesn’t really seem like that. Also when people patronize you it makes you uncomfortable. She’s also very observant so I can tell she’s quite guarded with them. It’s a good thing to be observant of people even your own friends.
I was incredibly depressed and dependant on my ex for over a year and only had a couple of friends and I struggled a lot and I was so scared of breaking up because I though I would have no one, instead breaking up opened my world, I found that I actually did make friends easily and now I have many, I try to keep my days super busy and plan everything so I'm never bored or feel unfulfilled. This usually means seeing at least 1 other person everyday and being productive as I can. I've found that I rarely have depressive episodes anymore and feel incredibly supported, but sometimes that takes stepping outside your comfort zone, whatever that may be for you.
Kind of going through the same thing right now and I totally get what you mean about being around a lot of people and have many good relationships but still feeling lonely. For me at least, I feel like those moments of loneliness stem from not being 100% authentic with people or not allowing myself to be myself. Sometimes, it’s just because I just don’t vibe that great with who I’m around. And that’s ok. It’s not a reflection of me. It’s just the current circumstances. I’m definitely an introvert but after a long period of being by myself, I get very restless. So I make plans with my friends and try my best to have real connections. For example, going to a movie is fine but how have you really strengthened your connection with that person? Going to a cafe and having a cup of tea with a friend? Those convos are the best. I could talk about this for much longer but I’ll cut it here. Love the vlogs, Michelle! Keep up the great work 🙌
Love your vlogs. I really like how comfortable and casual you are on this platform and figuring life out without editing imperfections. I think you’re a smart cookie and incredibly brave for venturing out to Korea to complete your college education there. Going through loneliness in the beginning of the transition and eventually reaching the point of being okay after two years I’m sure wasn’t easy. Looks like you made good friendships but with loneliness wouldn’t you agree that you also feel powerful, bold and empowered from your independence and what you have accomplished? Maybe that motivated you to go back to Korea too knowing how capable you are. It’s not always about having fun with friends and good they make you feel. In the end, it’s you and how you can carry on with your own endeavors, goals, and the ebbs and flow of life.
I saw another comment talk about keeping a diary and I do as well. I think writing down your feelings and pin pointing exactly how your feeling, sorts out your brain. Some more things I do is getting off my phone and drawing or reading a book. Something where you’re off social media and doing something that you enjoy or gets your mind off of things. I can relate to you on a level because I hate sharing my feelings with other people but just trying to be in the moment and make everything the best it can be is a way to feel more present and less alone. I don’t know where this comment went lol but I love your videos and if you’re feeling lonely, you’ve got a big fan right here. You can always vent to us💜
I totally agree with you... being honest with yourself and pin pointing your true feelings can be tough but has to be done. Thank you soso much for sharing😭❤️
I literally just posted on my blog about that the other day. When you’re alone but surrounded by people it’s the weirdest thing and it’s so hard to put into words...but like practicing being alone with yourself and keeping a diary is a literally so helpful because then you can go back and reflect on it.
Same! I a diary entry whenever I feel sad lonely or any other negative thoughts or feelings I might feel that day. I’ve been doing it almost three years now and it definitely helped thought a lot of hard times.
Your hair looks so perfect 😍
4:16 GASP you look so pretty!!
The hair, the makeup, the black coat, everything!!! So pretty omg shook 😍😍😍
you really sound cute when you speak korean, michelle!! hehe i hope you show us more of you speaking korean in your vlogs :)
I also have issues with feeling lonely lately. I just graduated college trying to figure out where my future is heading. I'm also in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and have a handful of close close friends. When I feel lonely I mostly just think to myself. I always think, appreciate the time you have with yourself and try to find activities that you enjoy doing even if its by yourself. I didn't think I would enjoy doing a lot of things without people but its very enlightening. You really feel empowered, confident and independent. I think its mostly just keeping yourself active and stimulated when you're alone or not alone which can be difficult. And just meeting new people and keeping people in your life that you know make an impact on who you are. But I know how it feels. Hopefully you find a healthy way to cope ❤
jessica zhu hey jessica, i’m actually in the same boat! Just graduated and moved away so it’s difficult not being in the same city as where all my friends and boyfriend were as they’ve moved away too and doing their own thing. Not sure where you’re based but i’m actually from the UK and always down to make internet friends so feel free to msg me 😊❤️
@@xxsuggiexx hey annie! Yeah youre basically living my life but in the UK lol. I'd love to be internet friends if you wanted haha. I can't find a DM option on youtube though Dx
crazy how im actually in the same situation as you! also recently graduated and ldr too 🙁
michelle posted !!! day is MADE
I felt the loneliest when I moved to a big city for uni. It took me a long time to deal with it and I'm pretty sure I became depressed. But through that loneliness I found God :) I was never a religious person So I believe that I was meant to go through those struggles to find my true purpose. So I say, just talk to God :)
the way I cope with my loneliness is keeping a strong relationship with God because he's with you everywhere, loves u the most and is always protecting you
I have struggled with loneliness for a long time. It took me about 2 years to discover that to cope I had to come to understand myself and then share with others that true self. Also helping people struggle through issues similar to this helped me push forward.
I'm not sure entirely myself how to deal with loneliness. I've recently moved back home and haven't spoken to anyone from where I live in years. But I've found that reaching out to current close friends that I do have and taking the time out of my day to either see them in person or to just facetime them for 30 min is really helpful. I think it's so easy to get stuck into your own thoughts especially when you spend so much time alone, so getting out is really important. I spend A LOT of time at home so I try to make the effort to go out by going to group workout classes, getting food with people, and getting out of my comfort zone. Sometimes even going outside alone has been helpful for me. I know that kind of contradicts the whole point about "being alone," but I found that even seeing people and being surrounded by people in general has helped with my loneliness. I feel you so much on the lonely part, feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to :D Cause I wouldn't mind having someone to talk to either :D
I feel you. I have been feeling lonely for years now and I'm pretty much used to it, to be honest. I am a really close person. I may have people to talk to but I don't really consider them friends. Sometimes people really confuse me by how they act.
Also, I don't even open up to my parents. I always try to find a solution to any problem/thought by myself. So I don't really do something to distract myself because I have already accepted this feeling and I am really familiar with it. But sometimes when I feel really sad, I try to cheer myself up with listening to music. Music does wonders. Sometimes I may watch a movie. If I happen to be in the countryside, I will go for walking.
I hope you feel better and I love your content and your personality ♥ Have a nice day!
What you said “ being surrounded by a bunch of people and still feel alone” I can relate to that so much .. when my best friend and my friends went away for college that was my breaking point .. i felt really alone even though I had friends around but they more like mutuals , somehow I’ve gotten used to being alone when my friends go away for school and I recently went to Korea , saddest thing is that it’s an amazing country but I really didn’t get to experience due to me feeling so alone and scared to go and venture on my own ... it got to the point where I was willing to travel to 3hrs to stay with my moms family in Daegu until I had to go back home to America. It’s weird because I used to love being around people and family / friends but now since I’ve gotten so used to being alone I rather just stay alone
I think it’s such a human feeling to experience loneliness. There are many times I feel alone even if I’m constantly surrounded by people. Luckily, the feeling passes. But hopefully it doesn’t ever stay.
I have also learned to be comfortable with being alone. When life is hectic with school and work, I am always around people and it can become tiring. I honestly have learned that when my life feels like it is out of control, I just need to take a step back and be alone. When I'm by myself I don't always sit in front in my laptop watch videos, I go out to lunch or go on a walk. Idk as I've gotten older I guess I have learned to appreciate and love myself more to a point where I am no longer dependent on other peoples company to make me happy.
Hi Michelle!
I'm following you from the beginning and have watched all your videos, but honestly this is the best one🌼 this vlog kinda showed me, that you're also a human, like us(your followers)😊also being puffy in the morning, having some hangover, obviously we asians can't deal well with alcohol😅enjoying sometimes anhealthy food and struggling with loneliness...i appreciate that you talk about these kind of things and that in your videos you are just the way you are 😇 please keep in the mind that you make thousand of your subscribers happier and keep going😍
Thank you💕
I could feel that something is off with your emotional health through this vlog bcs it is too relatable with my life. Maybe I am wrong, but hey you look so happy with the glazed krispy kreme donut. I hope you’ll get through this phase. I have no suggestion but what I know is that you will find joy with doing what you love to do. Maybe go out to yr favourite places and be in the moment, be with yourself and ‘speak to yourself’. Nourish them with good thoughts tell yourself that you will be okay. Love you MC 💛 Thank you for sharing with us this side of you.
한국어 하시는모습 너무 귀여우세요ㅎㅎ오늘도 영상 잘봤습니다
I've just left home a few months ago and came to Australia for college. It's such a new experience especially since I don't know anyone here and I've just been alone a lot lately. I was so keen on making a bunch of friends when I just got here but after a while, being surrounded by people still made me feel lonely. So I decided to just be alone and adapt to this life where surprisingly, I don't feel as lonely when i'm alone than when I'm with people. But I'll usually just play some chill songs, turn on the humidifier and look at the city at night, things that make me happy.
Hi Michelle! I have been living by myself in Beijing for a few years and I came here for grad school right after graduating from my undergrad in America. Loneliness is inevitable regardless of where you are and how many people you may be surrounded by. I think what really helps is having a routined schedule but also just being extra consistent with you bed/ waking up time. I say this because some days, you're out drinking/ playing till late one night and the next you may be home all by yourself. Having many days in your week that are so extremely different in terms of dynamic and out of balance can make the feeling of loneliness worse. Its not to say that you shouldn't have fun. But I think setting up a curfew for yourself and just not being hungover/ too tired the next day can really balance your mood in the right direction. I really love watching your videos and just want to wish you good luck!
I watch your videos. And it gives me a comfortable feeling. I can find myself in your place. I have been following for more than a month and I enjoy watching all your videos.
Honestly I completely understand, I’ve been dealing with loneliness for the past few months, as a matter of fact I’ve gone through a couple of breakdowns but I’ve been working through them and learning to be on my own... the way I usually cope with these things is watching UA-cam videos or shows on Netflix tbh
I think self care is one of the best ways to cope with loneliness. Someday you might not be so lonely, so it’s important to not take this time for granted
is it just me or others also wanna see you do a full vlog speaking in korean only???
Agreee!!
But with engsub please!!!
Yes plz!!!!
PLEASE MICHELLE PLEAAAAASE
Yes plz!!! You’re so cute when you speak Korean lol
One thing I hate the most is feeling of loneliness because I'm a type of a person who just loves to communicate with people and making jokes so I can see people laughs and smile but, I think that during the time period of loneliness, (well for me) I found out more things about myself and growing to become a better person. Even looking back couple months ago, I cried all the time because I just hate being alone so much and whenever I go to school, I see people laughing and hanging out with there friends which made me feel more and more lonely. But as days went by, I just got used to it and became independent. I think it's different for everybody since some people are used to being around a lot of people that it gets suffocating when you're alone. I just ranted about how I felt about being lonely, hope it helps in any kind of way!
btw I really love your channel a lot, it always inspires me!!!
한국일상 브이로그 너무 반가워요💗💗 앞으로도 많이 올려주세용😊😊
어머어머 한국말(통문장) 하시는거 첨 듣는거같아요~~ 완전 귀여우세요😇😇😇 되게 잘하셔요😍
Feeling lonely is perfectly normal and ironically not something that any friend or lover can fix permanently.
I see people who are married or have tons of friends and fans and still feel bouts of loneliness. It’s apparent even from these comments that literally everyone feels this way at least some of the time; it’s just human nature.
For me I think feeling lonely is a sign that I need to build a stronger relationship with myself. Having a creative outlet with dance and videography helps build that relationship and distract me from loneliness. At the same time, it’s equally important to meet people as well. Because while working on yourself and being self reflective is important, being alone with your thoughts too much can have a very real and negative impact on your mind.
I want to say that I used to feel very very lonely all the time. But now I don't, because I focus on knowing that I have my family and my best friends that I can rely on, instead of focusing on always trying to make new friends and fit in. The funny thing is, with my current mindset, I've met and have so many new friendships with others that I can call close to. It's all about what you value in life and what do you really want to focus your time and energy on. I know it sounds so cliche but yeah it's really simple once you change that mindset, and this is coming from someone who experienced many years of loneliness. :)
im from malaysia and im studying in the uk but i get whatchu mean about being lonely. i kinda holed myself up and became content about being that way, esp since i was in a LDR as well and i'd always want to skype with my boyfriend so i'd end up staying home so much. i got a waitressing job in the end and met some really good people there! other than that, i got into journaling as well. writing down my thoughts and feelings helps in a way where you can keep track of them and jot down how to improve your negative thoughts. i know sometimes things are sooo rough that you get so down (trust me, i've been there honey! still slightly there too) but one thing i've learnt is to slowly embrace being comfortable with the uncomfortable and rmb that the best way to make future self happy is to start by being happy now. you probably dont know me but i sincerely hope you do feel better. sending you incredibly warm hugs from a 4ft 11inch 21y/o gal
I've been feeling lonely for the past year now, leaving highschool and starting college was a struggle as I disconnected with all my old friends. However was able to connect deeply with the new people I have met at college. And even though we speak everyday that feeling of being lonely comes back. Before I never really knew how to deal with it so I just left it. I now deal with it by putting some sort of calming music on and just sit or lie down and think about what I'm feeling in that moment and why. I have also recently started to write down these feelings too at the end of the day. I think being lonely is always going to be a problem I face but I know that the people around me care for me. People deal with loneliness in all sorts of different ways but I think the best way is to accept it in that moment and move on, do something active to take your mind off it. Hope I've been helpful and I hope that you'll feel better soon Michelle. Lots of love from England 💖
Hi michelle ... yea i know EXACTLY how you feel about being lonely. I started my phase during highschool when i went through a breakup and my parents started getting busy so i was home alone most of the time , it sucked . Even untill now , i get that feeling most of the time . For me , i try to keep myself distracted from the fact that im lonely , i watched alot of youtube and listened to music day and night . Sometimes when im in the mood i write down my thoughts like a journal , it helps me to kinda filter the negative thoughts towards life out of my mind and the next day i think positive , wake up and tell myself : today i will make myself feel more happy . It can get really bad sometimes but if i can control then i know im improving . I believe you can too michelle ! I found your channel at the start of this year and it made me want to improve myself more . So thank you and i love you , im here for u 💛
I was struggling with loneliness until I accepted the fact that I am the only person who's obligated to make myself happy. Of course, I'm happy when I'm out with my friends but I've learned to enjoy myself even when I'm alone. I started going out to movies alone, eating out alone, and realized that there's nothing wrong about it. :)
I often find myself feeling lonely as well. I try my best to keep my mind occupied, whether it's planning things out or doing something that requires a lot of thought (working, reading, researching...etc). Lately I've been trying to keep busy by cleaning and organizing around the house. Sometimes I just enjoy playing video games. I also enjoy reading articles on topics I find interesting so I can learn more. I find that my busiest moments tend to keep the feelings at bay, because I don't have time to think about being lonely lol.
self care definitely helps with loneliness. Simple things like skin care, exercise, diet, cleaning up, taking yourself out on dates provides routine and purpose. it’s important to take breaks from ur phone also.. the worst parts of my life is when I fall out of my routine of exercise and self care. I truly felt disconnected from everyone and mostly myself. If u don’t love urself, it’s difficult to love others
I’m a first year student at college. I don’t live far away from home, I have friends that live near me but I feel the same way. I’m lonely all the time. I honestly don’t know how to cope with it and I feel like even if time goes by, I’ll still feel loneliness. But I appreciated that you mentioned this at the end because it has got me thinking ❤️
i also deal with these kind of thing lately, i always thought that i was so lonely and there's nobody can help me with it. but by the time that ive reached the limit of the loneliness, i feel like its one of the most relaxing moments in life because you don't have to deal with anyone or anything, you can just be with your own self and just do you. we all have our ups and downs in life, and there'll always be an option to solve every single one of it. keep going on with something youre doing now, youve got this more than you think you are. love you michelleeeeee! i dont know if this comment gonna help you out but i hope that you'll feel much better than before ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I totally understand what you are saying about loneliness. I have always considered myself a lonely person, I used to struggle to talk about my feelings as well, but I have overcomed that by working on my self steem and confidence. I consider a have some good friends and I meet with them as often as we can, but we are all adults, so our schedules don't match as much, so I try to meet them and talk to them but I do feel like I feel lonely often. Social media can be a blessing or a curse sometimes, because even tho it helps me reach out to people quicker, it also plays with my mind in a why that I don't feel like I'm living my potential as they are? I know it's not true, because at the end of the day we all show our best side on social media, but those are some of my thoughts sometimes.
Also, I appreciate these heart to heart talks on your blogs! Keep shinning!
you know im really really glad u opened up discussion on the topic of loneliness - one of my fave authors haruki murakami talks about the notion of 'contemporary alienation' basically how even tho we have social media, and still have lots of connectoins people in the modern age feel lonely. personally for me, i also dont like opening up so when i feel like i want to get thoughts out of my brain i journal it out and just writing something on a page like u cant edit it and its just literally whatever u want to write and get out so thats really helpful for me. i also invest time in myself whether its taking a relaxing bath or doing my nails or going to the gym or putting on a face mask like enjoying time to myself and like u said really getting comfortable with yourself is key to not feeling lonely bc at the end of the day we only have ourselves. this is getting bit long but thank u for reading michelle i love ur videos and i also struggle with pcos u commented on one of my comments before and i was so touched, im always supporting u thank u for this lovely community uve created here on utube :)
I have a lot of friends around me, too but somehow I end up feeling alone. For me I think it's because I don't have constants, and I don't have someone I can call my very best friend. My friends are fun and they're thoughtful, and they're willing to listen, but sometimes we can distinguish someone who just says it and someone who's really there for you. I don't know, sometimes I think I just need to be more open and look at the world more positively and try to connect more, because admittedly I am pretty much a loner and a pessimist. And I think editing videos and planning to start up my own channel has helped a lot. I've thought about it a lot before, but after watching youtubers like you, I am really making it happen now. I wanted to thank you for that, Michelle ❤️
Whether I am lonely or not, as long as I am healthy, I am good to go. Loneliness is a natural part of our existence and it comes and goes. So, don't worry too much if you are lonely. Just love yourself no matter who you are and always be yourself.
I have friends but tbH I enjoy my own company being along does not mean its a lonely thing, being alone and enjoying my own company makes me more happy cause sometimes we need to be alone inorder to learn. And I always see the beauty of being alone and I love it but I also love hanging out with my friends but I love being alone more cause I learn more and Ive always seen beauty of being alone😀
we need more michelle talking in korean 😣✊
Aaaah you’re too cute when talking with Korean. We want to hear it more often thehehe I just went out and came home, I was fine an hour ago, but I feel so lonely when I’m home. I’m still learning how to deal with loneliness but sometimes I’ve overcome with it, but sometimes don’t. I just live with it.
I'd love to be friends with you i feel that you are such a nice and humble person. Your vlogs give me chill vibes
❤️❤️❤️ love you~
Love you too Michelle ❤️❤️❤️
sometime i feel lonely too, but always say in myself if i have a lot things good. i have family, bf and friends, my bussiness going good and all its going good. the key is say thanks to your self and say thank to cause you can strong like this. just feel blessing and said thank you for everything. i just do something i love the most to make me busy if i feel that. i have one person too, he is personality nice, maybe he's be my mood booster. i love him more tbut yeah... i hope its help, enjoy your time and make positive things, you'll get the same in your life.
You are so relatable and can I just say you are so prettyyy even without makeup
Honestly. i like all videos miss michelle choi. i get some motivasion for daily live and healty life
hm i think personal connections with however many ppl won't matter bc it's up to you make smth out of those or choose to stay lonely. you can have friends but still feel empty when you come home at the end of the day & think it must be the loneliness. i used to think like this until ive embraced the fact that ive just matured into the mindset of liking my independence and having genuine friends but ultimately knowing & relying on yourself the most bec you know you can. i used to freak out abt being alone but now i value & even pride myself in my ability to be able to function perfectly well (and even sometimes prefer) being on my own but still be with friends. huge respect for you ♥️
I noticed that number of people you are surrounded with in not matter as much as the way you are related to them, and also some people are not comfortable with the idea of living alone. It might sounds funny but it is true that some people do not dare to face their emotions and feelings and don’t understand themselves. Just give yourself a time to simply live those emotions because it is part of your humanity and that’s how people grow and became stronger.
Honestly, a lot of times I enjoy being along. HAHA, it just makes me feel more comfortable comparing with doing all the unnecessary social interaction, just my personal feeling. But spending time with good friends, people you care about or people who truly love you are great!
HAHAHAHA so cute! That face time call!
For me it goes like this. When I feel down or lonely either because of external or internal circumstances I try to combat it by focusing on myself and improve on myself. For example eating healthier going to the gym and Skin care etc, basically to feel beautiful and of worth. However at the end of the day humans are social beings and we do need validation on some kind of level. So after all our self improvements we still hope people can see how much we worked how much effort we put in. The problem might be that not a lot of people genuinely see your effort in trying to live your best life and tell you you are doing a good job. Either from our parents friends etc I feel like we just want to be told that we are doing great as it is very motivating and healing and makes us feel like our efforts are worth it. Most times it isn't anyone's fault bc again ppl are busy etc, but I think loneliness is a modern day problem that requires everyone's effort to love more and care more about others. And stop competing with others.
I used to feel so lonely when i first transferred to my university. It's a commuter school so people go to campus, get their stuff done, and then leave which was so different for me since i came from a smaller university where I couldnt even walk to the cafe without seeing someone i knew. I don't know what clicked for me one day but for the first time in my entire life i started feeling comfortable being alone.. and actually craving it. I also have been out of a relationship for a year and a half now so ive really gotten time to myself to learn how i am on my own and what my interests are as a person. And yes diaries help soooo much.
same... despite being surround by great and loving family and friend at the end of the day its sad and lonely but i think thats the way life is and we should learn ‘HOW TO ACE IT’ . LOVE YOU MICHELLE ♥️♥️♥️stay strong
Oh ok I posted that last comment before seeing the end discussion on loneliness. Personally, I struggle with this like, quite badly ahahaha. And I also have a personality that makes me incredibly hard on myself, so if I socialise and still feel alone, I really question my own ability to develop connections and relationships. But I think what I have found over time and just experience is that a few things have TRULY helped me overcome this emotion.
1. Being in college was a huge factor in me developing these emotions and insecurities. It is such a social time for so many people and yet I personally always preferred to be alone. I love my friends, I love our humour and I love our talks, but I think I push myself to go out more and conform to social norms more simply so I can try and gain that romanticised illusion of what college is meant to be and how it is portrayed in media. In a weird way, trying less to please others has made me feel less lonely, because I've made friends who genuinely like me for myself and I don't feel like those relationships are built on a false identity or foundation!
2. Communication and talking. It just helps a lot to open up more and be honest. It isn't weak, it isn't weird, it's brave and smart and NECESSARY. Humans are truly social creatures at our core and that does not mean we love fickle, empty, meaningless conversations, it means we DEPEND on others for our own mental health and well being. This was a HUGE thing that I made myself ashamed of for the longest time, but all it took was one friend thanking me for allowing them to open up and actually talk about the real struggles we have in our minds, for me to realise that we all need to get things off of our chests sometimes.
3. This kind of goes hand in hand with the last point, but if I was ever too worried to discuss certain things just with friends, I found therapy the ACTUAL BEST for helping me cope with my social anxiety and general stresses in life. It's just a safe space and there is nothing daunting about it once you get started, the same as everything, the hardest part is getting there in the first place. But I promise it becomes addictive after a while lmao.
4. Simply becoming more comfortable with myself was my personal biggest help in overcoming loneliness. The last year for me was pretty tough, I live with my sick grandmother who becomes less and less like herself everyday while my parents are in the UK having my mother treated for her autoimmune disease with chemotherapy and I changed colleges three times in my life just to try and find a course that didn't feel too tough or too easy, as well as cutting off many toxic relationships that were making me even more miserable, such as my boyfriend of two years (now ex) and two of my best friends for the past 8 years. Again, with my personality, I found ways to blame myself for why these relationships failed even though I chose to cut them off as they were negative and selfish people to me. I am still a very relationship orientated person and still get struck with moments where I wish I could share the experience with ANYONE, but it is almost as though faking it till I made it has been the biggest help ahaha. I go get coffee alone, I eat meals alone, I study alone, and I am currently volunteering at a dog rehoming and rehabilitation centre with no friends or anyone I know working there. These are some of the most simple yet fulfilling things I have done in a LONG time, and now I am in my final year of college, I feel like I genuinely have great friends who truly care, I have a love for myself I lacked for the longest time, and though I still have evenings where I question myself and my worth - all stemming from my loneliness - I remember that tomorrow is a new day to become the best version of myself possible and I am the only person I owe anything to.
Ok that was so long lmao I apologise to anyone if they read all of that!! But I also hope I helped some people too, because if you are lonely, nothing might help more than AT LEAST feeling understood. Take care everyone and thank you MICHELLE for encouraging me to open up about this!! I have too many thoughts and opinions in my mind that I never share hahaha so thanks (or sorry lol) for enabling me to type this up 💗💗 xxxx
I actually mostly enjoy being alone. But sometimes I crave human connection and then I tend to meet up with family or friends and just grab something to eat and I feel better.
Loneliness is a big issue today, and it was even higher when I studied by myself at Ewha University, so I know what you mean! Since then, I've learned that having a larger friend group helps, as well as keeping myself busy, but the main thing that helped so much was learning to love myself. I put a lot of time and care into taking care of myself and my body, and I noticed that the more I got past insecurities the more comfortable I felt when I was all alone. I even started to enjoy my alone time! Mixing this with getting enough sleep, seeing your friends and face timing loved ones often was what got me through a full year abroad, and even helps me now! Hope this helps someone
So excited everytime you posted. Especially when you speak korean cause it’s rare to hear that. Stay warm in Korea Michelle. Love you 😘
Thanks for another video, Michelle!! I am now in my final year of uni but have not made any friends. That’s why I feel lonely all the time. I eat alone I go shopping alone and basically I am alone 24/7. I mean I don’t really mind that cuz sometimes it’s important to have some me time but then I always wonder why I don’t get to make any friends. I guess it’s because of my personality. I find it really hard to open up to other people and I am an introvert. I am also studying abroad so I feel homesick all the time. But I am glad that I am graduating soon!! And watching your videos has definitely made me feel better and calm❣️ Love ya!!!
I have really bad social anxiety. So bad in fact I have not been to school in 3 weeks. What i find helpful against loneliness is to write down exactly how i feel and what i think is the cause of my feelings. i know it sounds dumb and boring but it can really help trying to figure out why you feel lonely.
Thank You Michelle for posting this video, and to discuss this matter, recently I started working on an internship after I sat for my a/ls so I am away from home for 9 working hours and then four extra hours for travelling and I have never felt more alone,lonely and isolated in this world. In the morning I see people rushing to work with their own agendas and at night I see people getting back home and I now I am one of them(civil workers). Now we don't pause to enjoy and take a break, everything has become monetary and everyone values money and slowly the relationships we have with people feels mutually disconnected. The reason for this is the world is more competitive and we all want to achieve more and more. It's sad and lonely. I am glad that you left this space for discussion because this is something I really wanted to discuss.
Thank You again and I hope you got what I meant
This feeling occurs in all people and I would love to know how people cope with this. As for me I do meditation in the morning and listen to songs but I would love to hear more coping methods.
Thanks for sharing your feelings, Michelle!!! I love your videos. ^^ I'm sure you're helping so many people who feel the same way. After moving to Korea, I feel like I became more extroverted and sociable but I also felt more lonely and pessimistic whenever I came home. I think a major cause for this is my tendency to compare myself with others, esp. on social media. Lately, I've been trying to spend less time on it by disconnecting my phone's wifi for a bit. Drawing, listening to music, taking a walk outside, and communicating how I feel to my closest friends are ways I cope with loneliness. I left Korea momentarily to exchange in LA and the lack of contact from my friends really hit me hard. But I've been reminding myself that some friends can't be there for me as much as I am for them--and that's ok. I'm sure everyone, especially in a busy city like Seoul, feels left out because we are so connected yet lack the time to build our relationships. I guess what everyone needs to start doing is send a message of appreciation to the people they care about. :'))) You're not alone, Michelle! 힘내요~
Rewatch this video just to see you speak in korean!😍 Can we see full korean vlog?🙏✨
i'm so early wowza, you look sooo good and you always motivate me to work out somehow
You’re so fast!!😂
I really enjoy being alone, but I still think it‘s really important to have friends even if it‘s just one that you‘re really close with, which wouldn‘t mind to meet up whenever they‘re free and you feel lonely, same goes the other way.
soo glad you posted! i was curious how things in Korea were going. i just finished watching your video and i relate so much to the loneliness thing. it seems like i have everything i want but at the end of some days i feel really lonely, and honestly when i feel that it’s not the best feeling,, i usually work out or listen to my favorite music and do things i love when i feel that to get my mind off of it and get a lottt of sleep haha:) hope your adjusting well to bring Korea and just know your not alone!!
When I feel lonely and sad I do some meditation and it really helps my mind reach a stable and balanced state!
OMG you are so cute when you talk to your mom in Korean >.< Really wanna see a full vlog in Korean!!
I love your Vlogs, really give me a chilly feeling. Please do more Vlogs and cooking too ^^ Idk, watching u cook is relaxing
honestly? when i feel lonely, i keep myself busy. doing anything so that i don’t have enough time to just sit down and think and make myself upset hehe
i can totally relate, my first 2 years of college i didn't really have friends since i moved away from home, and i became so comfortable with just myself, but after just attempting to "step out my comfort zone," my third year by joining an organization i was really lucky to meet good friends who i can hang with once in a while! i still don't have friends where for example, i can call randomly to hang out comfortably here but i think thats just me LOL i then went to study abroad to "get away" and i really learned then that i really enjoy being just alone, but then at a point my "being comfortable with my own company" got a little too much where I have to rework on stepping out and meeting friends, etc. and i feel that i use enjoying my own company as an excuse to like, not get out of it ? i really don't know if i made any sense but I FEEL YOU !!
I also live by myself.. I also just graduated from college last June and since then ive been supporting and living by myself... my life right now would be home - work - home. I feel really lonely whenever i go home. But i do like being alone.... so i tend to make myself busy in order to scape that loneliness
I think getting a productive/fun hobby is one way to cope with loneliness. Also, although staying at home is comfortable, it's important to enjoy nature and feed your body with exercise and being active. Going outside and doing an activity or joining some type of club can also be beneficial. :)
When I feel lonely I force myself to go out or move or talk to my dad (I can talk to him abt sooo much) or call my best friend and then we talk for like 4 hours and I feel so much better. And I read. Reading is so good to distract yourself. I listen to my favorite music, watch eat pray and love or lost in translation (I love these movies so much♥️) or just watch yt videos like michelles.
Hi Michelle! It's just my personal opinion, but I think the feeling of loneliness really do come in our lives inevitably. Like there are times where we feel just okay and sometimes, we don't. I think it's a balance to maintain in our lives. There's for sure a lot of reasons when we come to the point of feeling lonely, but I do think it's a good thing (please don't get me wrong i like you and your vlogs). We just come to appreciate the people who stay in our lives and at the same time, appreciate ourselves more. Idk, I think I just had to say it because I also felt what you just said. The part where we have so many friends around us but at the end of the day, we just feel extremely lonely. I'm in my 4th year of college, and I really struggled with that matter for a long time, but as I grow old, I just come to accept the fact that me being alone doesn't equate to loneliness. Like you said, I became comfortable with being alone.
Just to end up my super duper long comment, I do think it's good to have a journal with you? A very personal journal, where you just feel okay and open and comfortable to write all your feelings down. It's kind of hard to maintain, but it will be worth it.
I hope you see and read my comment and I also hope I somehow helped. Always supporting you, Michelle!! Fighting!!
Music is my near constant companion. Singing helps for me too. ♥️
Love you Michelle Choi ❤️
Whenever I'm sad, I get some food that I like then be alone and listen to music write down what makes me sad and think about why I'm sad then I'll breath in and out and then I would watch funny videos
you really sound cute when you speak korean, michelle!! hehe i hope you show us more of you speaking korean in your vlogs~
first off... you're so brave eating kimchi jjigae with a white shirt. as for loneliness, i find that practicing gratitude helps a lot. sometimes being grateful for the smallest things that make you happy can replace or leave little to no room for loneliness. it's easier said than done and i personally need to work on it, but romanticizing the small details of life can make a big difference. you should look into the concept of ikigai. there's a lot of books and articles on it!
Hi, Michelle! I've noticed in your videos that you have a great family, a great partner, great friends and definitely a more productive life than most of us. So, if you're still feeling extremely lonely, maybe it's because you're pressuring yourself too much to be "truly happy"? Because I get that pressure too which stemmed out of a lot of holistic, TED talk, self-help material which are the trend nowadays. Sure, these things help me be a better person but also pressured me to the point where I'm not even sure my "productivity" made me truly happy or I'm just relieved I was able to follow that certain self-help video I've watched.
So now I'm still working on not trying too hard to be happy and acknowledge the loneliness that I am feeling. (Have you watched Inside Out?) Like a lot of people say, when you're down, there's no other way but to go up.
I wish you happiness, Michelle ❤
appearance, you are the cutest/prettiest thing I’ve seen in my life.
scalp treatment and good food. im down
Me too , i have been someone else for 2 years now , it’s actually so stressful cause i had to go through this kind of situation till i finish up my degree . So far I still can hold up with this situation.
If your feel lonelyness that is the sign of deprestion so stay happy be busy do work dont think to much
Love your videos Michelle! 😁 I wish you could upload more often like every other day or so! 😘
its so satisfying when u cook or make juice ♥️
The whole vlog I was staring at your nails I am obsessed with red lately which is odd for my neutral aesthetic but I LOVE THEM!!! And also that Follain walkthrough/sponsor is great!! Environmental and cruelty free 😍😍And finally, Kristen is so cute!! 😂😂💗
i love ur korea vlogs the most and i'm glad they are back!!! 😂
you may feel lonely, but remember that you're not alone. we're always here for you
YOU MUST FEEL GRATEFUL
At first i thought that keeping yourself busy will kinda make you forget about how lonely you actually feel inside. But it still catches you at any moment, like you are out laughing with your friends and that thought just pops up in your head and ruins your mood, then you wished you have stayed at home rather than 'not feeling like yourself' out in the world. You are right, this may happens around our age, not exactly sure why or more precisely what is the thing that makes us feel that way and what is the thing we need. Maybe we should just let things happen naturally, there is not always a way to work on to to feel better, only if those thoughts doesn't start to eat you up seriously to the point you end up being in the cage of depression. I guess day by day will bring kinds of ways to cope with it until it we finally feel complete, even for a short period of time.
Btw, I'm glad that you opened up about things like that! ♡♡♡ if not in another way, we can always try to comfort you here.
Omg i really love this vlog ! i love you so much Michelle !💕
i deal with loneliness by watching yt and vlogs. it helps me a lot. also what do your parents think about you staying in korea instead of the states??