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  • @eraticdreamer
    @eraticdreamer Місяць тому +283

    as a former people pleaser , my favorite thing to do is say no !! bc i don’t want to !!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +18

      love the growth

    • @Datb2
      @Datb2 Місяць тому

      That’s it that’s all
      I don’t feel like it
      Don’t wanna
      Fk off

    • @Finesista
      @Finesista Місяць тому

      This still soo hard for me to do &’ then when I do I feel bad and they always make it so hard to do! &’ then they sprung it on me last minute so I don’t got no option but to do it 😭

  • @Thatghostlydinosaur
    @Thatghostlydinosaur Місяць тому +170

    Deleting all socials is so real. I did the same thing because I didn’t want to live in social media anymore 🤧

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +20

      exactly its terrible if you're in it for too long there's never a good outcome

  • @GodsChildBri
    @GodsChildBri Місяць тому +89

    "No" is truly magical. "No" clears away what we don't want so we have plenty of clean space to welcome in what we do want. "No" is like an energetic eraser.

  • @AnEmpress
    @AnEmpress 21 день тому +31

    Girl just saw the title, clicked the video, saw your gorgeous self, and immediately liked and subbed LMAOOO

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  16 днів тому +4

      bae STAWP im bluuuushingggg hehe so happy you're here :)

  • @Shay.bae92
    @Shay.bae92 Місяць тому +48

    I love your outfit. Yess to ppl have their own style and personality instead of following trends blindly ❤

  • @khalildiallo4359
    @khalildiallo4359 Місяць тому +47

    man im not gonna lie i truly needed this i almost said yes to sm shit i know i would regret

  • @addymaxxing
    @addymaxxing Місяць тому +28

    i ALWAYS learn from you. i love that about you, you’re unafraid to teach

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +2

      well shucks i’m blushing !! 🤭🤭🤭🥰🥰🥰🙈🙈🥹🥹🥹 thank you beautiful

  • @sweetlikehoney5216
    @sweetlikehoney5216 Місяць тому +59

    Omfg!!! I just told my cousin yesterday that for the past 2-3 week I have been asking everyone around me “ do you feel this,am I the only one feeling this?” I felt so strange everyday, then BOOM! Monday the 18th I felt the best I have in decades😂😂😂😂. Life been feeling so blessed and hopeful everyday I wake up since Monday, like anything is possible. 😂

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +5

      im telling u people are rising, we're abt to continuously experience luck

  • @MuseoftheGarden
    @MuseoftheGarden Місяць тому +19

    You’re ethereal ❤ thank you for the message!

  • @chaniyaaafaithhh
    @chaniyaaafaithhh Місяць тому +16

    The tangle analogy is sooooooo true and it’s funny because i had this same incident with one of my necklaces and i let the little knot be and im finee and all is well. lol it’s official your my new bestieee🤝🏼💕.

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +2

      YESSS heyy bestie boo 🤭🤭

  • @Rishe-vg1xx
    @Rishe-vg1xx Місяць тому +12

    GIRL! I just found your channel and your energy is so heavenly, spitting some shit I really needed to hear today. Keep being you, it's amazing!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +2

      MWAH thank you babe & happy merc retrograde !

  • @amourashari
    @amourashari Місяць тому +12

    girl you is just so tea omg 😍

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +3

      girlll stawppp thank youuu 🤭🤭💗💗

  • @alexuscokley
    @alexuscokley Місяць тому +5

    immediately yes. we LOVE the outfit

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      EEEEE okay okay so glad 🤭🤭🤭🤭

  • @electrocup1834
    @electrocup1834 24 дні тому +3

    5:23 I had to pause the paper I was writing when u said “why is it called spelling” I was gagged to say the least… 😭 it really helped me shift my perspective on why what we say, write or put out into this world truly does have an effect, (for clarity, I was already aware to a degree but this helped further my understanding!) this is the first video I’m watching from your channel and I know I’m sticking around fs!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  23 дні тому

      so happy you’re here love 🤎🤎

  • @pepijimin7084
    @pepijimin7084 7 днів тому +1

    mama you're TAPPED tf IN. beautiful energy

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  6 днів тому

      eeeeee thank you baybeeee 🤭🤭🩷🩷

  • @natividadramirez4696
    @natividadramirez4696 Місяць тому +3

    Love this pure truth my mom struggles with boundaries & has a similar pattern of traits to what you describe I’m sharing this with her!!

  • @julesalegre9894
    @julesalegre9894 Місяць тому +4

    this entire video was beautifulllll. life changing, loving beautiful words that the universe kindly delivered to me through this vessel. ugh blessed be keep making art, keep being art! much love

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      🥹🥹 i will i will thank you love bug

  • @runak7901
    @runak7901 20 днів тому +1

    wow i really needed this. thank you for sharing your light.

  • @xgnoochix
    @xgnoochix Місяць тому +1

    your energy feels so healing and soothing

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      that warms my heart i’m so happy to hear that

  • @the_sunshinesunflower
    @the_sunshinesunflower 17 днів тому +1

    Hey girl🤍
    I came across your video today and after listening, I love your energy.
    You are authentic and in tune with yourself and the universe.
    I know girls like us are spread far apart. You are the kind of girl I would accept to be a friend to☺️
    Also, I love your aesthetic 🌟

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  16 днів тому +1

      you are the sweetest evaaa thank you so deeply divine reflection

  • @milkman4743
    @milkman4743 Місяць тому +2

    Your outfit and whole vibe is gorgeous

  • @tooyana3771
    @tooyana3771 15 годин тому

    clicked on the video bc i saw a beautiful ethereal goddess stayed for ur energy i luvvv

  • @itzelvazquez5864
    @itzelvazquez5864 Місяць тому +2

    i immediately loved your energy girl 💕💕

  • @chironsthea607
    @chironsthea607 Місяць тому +1

    thank you musical guru for everything you have ever done!

  • @musicbynush
    @musicbynush Місяць тому +1

    I love love LOVE your energy and video format omfg 😤😤😤 your narrative is so refreshing.
    All I’ve been seeing on my feed are *men* and white women 😂😭😩 and it’s not giving the kinda energy I’m here for.
    But you? Yeah I’m invested in your message and your vision 🥹💕💕💕

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      literally i love you, your comment will forever float around in my mind you are such a kind soul !! 💗💗💗💗

    • @musicbynush
      @musicbynush Місяць тому

      @ aww heehee that warms my heart 😭💕 I honestly wish people would feedback more often to creatives 🥹 it makes such a difference 😩💕 I get it

  • @jordangems
    @jordangems 12 днів тому

    I respect the video it helps. I just want to add some people had their right of saying no being taken away from them (abuse, rape). I just want us to be more kinder to those people so they realize that their right of saying can NEVER be taken away.

  • @potaetoooo
    @potaetoooo Місяць тому +4

    i have never seen you before and this popped up so im taking it as a sign that i should know of you

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      hey bae heyyyy

    • @potaetoooo
      @potaetoooo Місяць тому

      @ hiii thank you so much for the video tho genuinely helped me i have been struggling with saying no

  • @moonlitvxn
    @moonlitvxn Місяць тому

    you are so comforting i could listen to u go on and on

  • @raysoraw
    @raysoraw Місяць тому +1

    I’m like 30 seconds in and I’m subscribed hey girlyyy💫

  • @ryinbailey
    @ryinbailey 17 днів тому

    I found my people, I’m obsessed with this channel 💗

  • @kaylani.bonilla
    @kaylani.bonilla Місяць тому

    Wowwwww I’ve been feeling this energy as well ! 🥺 accepting everything for what it is

  • @markeishajordan4396
    @markeishajordan4396 6 днів тому

    You are so beautiful 👑! VERY MUCH NEEDED TO SEE THIS. Thank you.

  • @mehere1482
    @mehere1482 Місяць тому +1

    I needed this this morning.. thank you booka

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      of course pookie, have the most amazing morning 🧡

  • @jaylenedasleeze
    @jaylenedasleeze 10 днів тому

    from the title alone i followed

  • @TutuGoldd
    @TutuGoldd 25 днів тому

    The title, the outfit, I was moved ❤

  • @SashaAmora
    @SashaAmora 25 днів тому

    Omgggg I love everything about this video!!

  • @chaniyaaafaithhh
    @chaniyaaafaithhh Місяць тому +3

    GURLLL, i am here for it all. so glad your video popped up out of the blueee😂🥰🫶🏼💫. i loveeee your energy, your creativity, your aesthetic, and your whole vibeee. Definitely subscribing and this is exactly what i needed because this people pleasing tendencies have to GO. thank you beautiful soul for this video😌🫶🏼🤍.

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      thank YOU beautiful soul for your words :)))

  • @11jayma11
    @11jayma11 Місяць тому +2

    I was scrolling through yt while I was on break at work and booooooooooooooooi! I needed it this, clock back on my break with a different mentality😛, new sub! 🤍🥰

    • @11jayma11
      @11jayma11 Місяць тому

      also I deleted social media as well it’s been 4 months without not just the apps but also deleted the account only X. But the difference is insane I don’t feel like going back nor do I miss it

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      right ?! even when i take the smallest break i’m like “dang i h8 instagram” and i wish the app would be permanently deleted lols

  • @jasminefinney2799
    @jasminefinney2799 27 днів тому +1

    Yes, I love your outfit! 😊❤

  • @marajones1828
    @marajones1828 Місяць тому

    I needed to hear every single word in this video. Thank you sister ❤️✨️🦋

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      of course my divine reflection !

  • @veahamadi
    @veahamadi Місяць тому +3

    Girl I loveeeee ur vibe 😂

  • @chelseybrown2334
    @chelseybrown2334 Місяць тому +1

    From the title alone A+ video 👌🏽

  • @Gibraltarleg
    @Gibraltarleg 16 днів тому

    I think the energy is group dynamics falling apart for most peoples, but especially black and white. Now more people who were asleep are experiencing the numinous

  • @Zarria777
    @Zarria777 19 днів тому

    you just get it!!❤ ty for this

  • @Willie-v1u2x
    @Willie-v1u2x 19 днів тому

    You're so pretty!! I love the outfit! 🩵

  • @Ginagoldstar
    @Ginagoldstar 24 дні тому +1

    You’re a gem!💎 🥂

  • @jeni6112
    @jeni6112 Місяць тому

    You are so cool i feel so safe and heard here i love ur atmosphere sm 😭

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      omg stawp im so glad you do that is the energy i want to foster !!

  • @ElDaCreatrix
    @ElDaCreatrix Місяць тому

    Uhhhh, you vibe and energy is angelic like a real life fairy. For some reason this video reminded me of my higher purpose and how much BIGGGER it is than me. Also deleted all my socials except UA-cam cause I’m tired of the performance of living. I want to actually be in my life. I could rant on and on about that but thank you for delivering this message
    Sending much luv

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      sending so so so much love to you thank you deeply happy to know we vibe on the same plane :)))

  • @HealingFairy1212
    @HealingFairy1212 Місяць тому

    I’m so grateful for your channel! Just found you today ❤

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      welcome lovebug i hope you stay !

  • @nyiaaaszn
    @nyiaaaszn Місяць тому

    needed to see this honestly, and your very beautiful i love your energy!

  • @bougiegyall
    @bougiegyall 11 днів тому

    thank u queen, needed this

  • @SashaAmora
    @SashaAmora 25 днів тому

    Most definitely tuning in!

  • @southernbelle111
    @southernbelle111 Місяць тому

    This video has came up twice on my homepage, so I guess the message is for me! Also, I really do love the outfit 🩷

  • @aqua3890
    @aqua3890 26 днів тому

    YOU SLAY SO HARD ✨✨✨

  • @90s_baby222
    @90s_baby222 Місяць тому +2

    Very needed,
    Thank you...!!!!
    💜💜💜💜💜🤍

  • @earthfa333
    @earthfa333 Місяць тому

    you and your channel are GOLD ♡

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      EEEEEE thank you SO much means so much 💛💛

    • @earthfa333
      @earthfa333 Місяць тому

      @harshrealist of course sunshine!!!!!

  • @LACHRYMA
    @LACHRYMA Місяць тому

    i cant even lie i clicked on this vid because i just wanted to say your outfit is BEAUTIFUL!! your style looks exactly like my pinterest board omg i love it. you are gorgeous :3
    also the title is so real

  • @isaliyah
    @isaliyah Місяць тому

    i love your aura & vibes 😍 just subbed i can’t wait to see more of you!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      EEEEE so excited for our journey !!!

  • @preshicebarnes5179
    @preshicebarnes5179 Місяць тому

    ate this whole vid up

  • @d0uceurpunk
    @d0uceurpunk 22 дні тому +1

    OH WAW I LOVE YOU

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 Місяць тому

    I'm in that knot right now but I have God and I call on him. I love this video you look beautiful!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      amen, àse! may God guide you through 😌❤️

  • @anyashade
    @anyashade Місяць тому

    Love your vibe, girl!!!!

  • @SoulAndShe
    @SoulAndShe Місяць тому

    I appreciate your energy so much. ✨🙌🏾

  • @jazzthejawnn
    @jazzthejawnn Місяць тому

    First of all, are you a goddess? 😍I’m loving the fit, hair, accessories, aura everything from the first minute of this video!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      eeeee BAEEEEE thank you so much !!

  • @sharese3939
    @sharese3939 13 днів тому +1

    My Ghanaian sister, I love your outfit! 🇬🇭💞 Please let me know where to get pieces like this 😍

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  11 днів тому

      hiii !! ete sen !! i actuallt made my fit from a dress & everything was thrifted lover :))

  • @septemberjai5216
    @septemberjai5216 28 днів тому

    Not the bone crack 😂 me af 😭

  • @Jamy1ah
    @Jamy1ah Місяць тому +1

    ty for these videos sm!!

  • @k4ayl3333
    @k4ayl3333 20 днів тому

    didnt watch the video yet but just need to say that you're gorgeous mashaAllah, and i love ur room, i need a room toor omg

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  20 днів тому +1

      thank you so deeply !! i gotta give u guys a room tour huh 😼

  • @BeniMovie
    @BeniMovie Місяць тому

    LOVE THIS SMM THANK YOUUU

  • @niy909
    @niy909 Місяць тому +3

    18:47 had to come back to this video to comment that I am now drinking a nice warm beverage that is appropriately spiced and I wish u could try it

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      are u FWEAKING kidding i need some what is it 😞 & its appropriately spiced !

  • @stormnuage
    @stormnuage 6 днів тому

    Wow too beautiful and the look is gorgeous ❤

  • @simpllydee
    @simpllydee Місяць тому +1

    the necklace analogy 😮‍💨😮‍💨

  • @Unwana-abasiFavourSamuelLFA
    @Unwana-abasiFavourSamuelLFA Місяць тому

    Preach on sisturrrrrr!!!!!!🎉

  • @1unearthed
    @1unearthed Місяць тому

    I love this video!!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      so so happy we crossed paths !! :))

  • @lojain333
    @lojain333 Місяць тому +1

    omg ur divine

  • @CosmicSpark24
    @CosmicSpark24 24 дні тому

    YOU LOOK AMAZING ❤🎉

  • @etherealgangster
    @etherealgangster Місяць тому

    thank you sis 💜

  • @eyes1168
    @eyes1168 Місяць тому +3

    my spirit guides sent me this, wassup :)

  • @Chimaoges_Comments
    @Chimaoges_Comments 25 днів тому

    ✨🌴✨Wonderful Video! It Was Very Nice To Listen To As I Thought🙏🏿 ✨🌴✨

  • @Datb2
    @Datb2 Місяць тому

    I wish I saw this last year this time

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому

      you see everything in divine timing ! maybe this is preparing you for something :)

  • @neicy006
    @neicy006 Місяць тому

    I have the pillow case to that sheet😭

  • @Filmeddbynaee
    @Filmeddbynaee 14 днів тому

    FIT ATE BOWW 👏🏾 ❤❤

  • @ladybug_56
    @ladybug_56 20 днів тому

    oh so we were all a bit shaken up
    good to know im not alone !

  • @shaemoore7169
    @shaemoore7169 Місяць тому

    New subscriber❤ love the outifit❤❤❤ giving Lauren hill

  • @etherealgangster
    @etherealgangster Місяць тому

    the outfitttttt

  • @namelast440
    @namelast440 2 дні тому

    I will always trust a pretty baddie on the internet

  • @cajunbay8085
    @cajunbay8085 22 дні тому +1

    This outfit, the whole look, girl u look like a Nubian Princess❤❤❤❤❤I love it girlll.

  • @pompomasmr_0
    @pompomasmr_0 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you so much :(

  • @TheWitchlover333
    @TheWitchlover333 Місяць тому +1

    Noice outfit 😁

  • @suvi1756
    @suvi1756 22 дні тому +1

    This may be really off topic but I wanna know where you get your clothes girl bc ur outfit is so cute!!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  22 дні тому

      thank you bae !! i usually thrift & the top n skirt i made from a dress !!

  • @FelicitysAngle
    @FelicitysAngle Місяць тому

    Seven of the major planets are aligning this month and the astrological effects that are changing are going to last the next 20 years certain planets are moving into different zodiacs and they're going to stay there for the next 20 years that's what I mean

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      yuppp pluto in aquarius! its really bringingg that energy

  • @milesss111
    @milesss111 Місяць тому +2

    hamilton mentioned omg

  • @Somurtimeee
    @Somurtimeee 23 дні тому

    We just met and I already love youuu 😂❤

  • @zymjackson8146
    @zymjackson8146 Місяць тому +1

    clock it!!!

  • @liadenis
    @liadenis Місяць тому +1

    f ck yeah. subscribed.

  • @lyhnsayyang8752
    @lyhnsayyang8752 Місяць тому

    You are so gorgeous!!

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  Місяць тому +1

      oh stawppp !! thank you divine reflection !!

  • @MsUngodly
    @MsUngodly Місяць тому +1

    heyyy osun!

  • @Novatalksbeauty
    @Novatalksbeauty Місяць тому

    They truly are so domesticated in this matrix that y we do what we do

  • @Lululu-yp3co
    @Lululu-yp3co 16 днів тому

    I NEED TO KNOW THE NAME OF YOUR AESTHETIC/STYLE.

    • @harshrealist
      @harshrealist  16 днів тому

      eee im not really sure tbh i just put ts on fr lol jk but not jk but i'd say maybe neo-soul :)

  • @unautn
    @unautn Місяць тому +1

    999th subscriber 😛