Editing this episode had us both sloppy messes, and we struggled with whether we were going to show this footage at all. We know a lot of you watch us for some much needed escapism, but we also felt like this story is still so relevant after all these years that we couldn't not show it. The security warning at the vigil was really what opened our eyes to how some of those in our community are forced to live. For those of you out there, we see you, we're working hard to make life better. Much love creeps.
No thank YOU for showing all of your trip. It's very important that we remember the world is still a scary place. Also the fact FREEDOM is not always free. Sending Love, Light, Blessings and Prayers to you both and people who understand that hate is not always visible. We have to protect one another...... Thank you again for protecting the people at the vigil. ❤️❤️❤️
If we don’t talk about the heavy stuff how will the next generation know about the beautiful souls like Matthew and Marsha… Thank you for showing this. I was 17 when Matthew was murdered and living in a tiny central Texas town with my GF. We paid for a two bedroom apartment because no one would rent us a one bedroom. Because “y’all can’t share a room, what would your neighbors think.”
I'm a white, straight white male. Father of 6, contractor from the back wood hills of WV. And I cried like a baby watching this video. And seeing the emotions and fight you go through. Just know there are some of us country folks that love to LOVE. REGARDLESS of sexual orientation or anything else. What happened to this poor child is horrendous. But, please know that you are loved and adored by many of us out here watching.
The fact that after 24 years they still have to give that safety disclaimer and that they have a plan if anything happens. I'm bawling this whole time. My heart hurts. It's 2022 how can people still be so hateful
@Dana Compton ya it's something I struggle with every day. My daughter is pansexual and I worry about how the world will treat her. She's 17 and so far so good but as her mother I worry
Thank you for visiting my hometown and paying respects to Matt. He died while I was in college with him . Now my vision of Laramie, of Wyoming, of the world …is colored by my experiences with hate and love that was shown in that event and it’s aftermath.
omg this got me so bad. As a straight man I teach my 4 boys to be respectful and understanding of everyone no matter what. I love you guys so much thank you.
It is disheartening that my state is known for what happened to Mathew. It is a blessing that his voice is still heard. I took my children there to see the bench, and told them all what had happened to him. No one should be judged by who they are and who they love. It really helped my one son learning his story. He said that learning his story somehow made it easier to tell us he is bisexual. This was many years ago he was just becoming a teen. I was raised and raised my kid's that it doesn't matter where a person is from, what color of their skin or their religion and political beliefs are, all that matters is if they are good people. 🥰🥰🥰
In tears… I was 18 when Matthew was taken, as well, and I remember thinking “just for being gay? Why does that matter so much?” I was also from a little farming town in Indiana and VERY naïve of the level of hate that still existed. I think this was an amazing inclusion, and I just adore your stinkin’ hearts 💖
I’m a queer brown woman that’s disabled and living in Texas. The hate, homophobia, etc is all so very real now more than ever. Sending love and solidarity to all of us fighting the good fight.
I'm transgender F to M & can't tell anyone in my family because they're all phobic & believe people like us will turn their kids like us. In other words they believe people like us are contagious. I know stupid. It is depressing I can't be whom I am supposed to be. I'm also disabled & a Texas Native.
Unfortunately Texas is one of those States full of racist bigoted anti-Americans. It's unbelievable how Texans are full of hate and fear for anybody or anything different. It's a shame that they keep electing disgusting pathetic things like abbott. Unfortunately the people here in Texas will go to extremes to protect their racism and bigotry.
I'm from rural Iowa and I'm queer -- the unease and fear you felt in this part of the US is valid. It wasn't on you, Jer. That feeling you had picking up dinner. I'm not sure if you're still traveling around the US, but if you find yourself feeling uneasy in rural US again, trust your gut. Love you both, thank you for the touching episode. 💜
I'm 70 and have spent a life never fitting in and suffering from the verbal and mental abuse that went with it. Back as a kid no one cared if parents were abusive. It has taken me a long time to like me. I have now accepted I am odd. So now I am delightfully odd. I am suffering from horrible jealousy of your relationship. I wish I had found someone to love me as you two love each other. Thank you
I haven't watched yet, but thank you soooo much for the "be kind to your mind" way of putting it. I am worn out by the guilt of *temporarily* avoiding hard stuff when I am having a hard time myself. I appreciate that little kindness (that I'm going to try and start giving to myself) sooo much! Having said that, it breaks my heart that you didn't feel safe. I'm so sorry for whatever happened. I will be watching soon, but not today.
Hi Darcy & Jer, I recently stumbled upon your UA-cam Shorts, and I must say, I’ve become a huge fan of your content. The dedication and effort you both put into your work is truly commendable, and it’s evident in the captivating videos you create. The genuine love and connection between you two is not only beautiful, but also incredibly inspiring. I can personally relate to the challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community, as my brother came out a few years ago. Witnessing the pain and struggle he’s experienced without our father’s support has been heart-wrenching. Your content provides a shining example of love and acceptance that the world desperately needs. My hope is that, eventually, society will progress to a point where people can express their love without fear of judgment or discrimination. Please continue to share your incredible journey and love story with the world. Your inspiring work is making a difference and bringing hope to countless individuals. Thank you for being a beacon of light in a sometimes dark world. Keep up the amazing work!
Thank you for sharing Matthew’s memorial with us. His murder changed me from a passive “none of my business”ally to an active “fuck around and find out, leave LQBTQ+ people alone” Ally long before I realized I was queer myself.
This tragedy was such a massive catalyst, and I'm really grateful that this incident hasn't been forgotten. Much love comrade ✊️ (also, Dorner Tactical on Etsy has some great Fuckaroundandfindout type merch that I really dig, hope u enjoy! 😊🫂🪻)
This episode hit me hard I was in highschool in northern Colorado when Matthew Shepard was attacked the hospital he died in was down the road from my high school me and my friends stood vigil at Poudre Valley Hospital everyday. So many of us found the strength to come out at that time I turned 40 in June of 2022 and recently moved to Louisville KY and it's the first time in a long time that I haven't felt safe, mind you I'm a 6'3" 250lb white dude. I can't find the words to tell you how much your guys content has meant to me and my state of mind here.
I was brought up in a homophobic family, i'm so sorry for that. I have to tell you i love you both so much, you have taught me to be more open and loving of all people around me. what you two do is teach us to love one another, and accept ones differences. You make and have made a difference in my life. Thank you
You were right to warn folks about this episode. It was tough and touching. Thank you for first going to pay respects and for encouraging louder voices and more to be done to stop the hate. I love you two and appreciate you too!! God bless and safe travels!
Straight white Christian (but also liberal) mom here, I was so moved by this! I love & have been following your happy videos, & this one was unexpected but definitely appreciated & valued. You are such an inspiration, thank you!! May the blessings & Peace of God keep you safe & well always!! Love you guys!💖💯🙏🏼🤟🏼✌🏼
I was born and raised in Cheyenne, Wyoming and have lived in Laramie now for many many years. It's not a perfect town by any means, but as someone who is bisexual, Laramie has a very strong and connected LGBTQIA community. Laramie PRIDE is a wonderful group and I'm so happy that you were able to be there for the vigil. 💜 And Sweet Melissa's is the absolute best!
Laramie looks really cute! And the volume of supporters at the vigil speaks to the strength of the queer community there, as well as the love from the town as a whole. I really hope to visit Matthew's memorial someday, along the way to see Brandon Teenas grave in Lincoln. Thank you for sharing about your town 🫂🪻
At the top of the video when you said you were going to Laramie, I knew how heavy the episode would be. I performed in The Laramie Project ten years ago, and it’s one that has stuck with me all this. Thank you for sharing your experience in Wyoming and being open about how you felt. Much love to you both, and Yuma.
I'm a straight 67 yr old woman. I first met you on Tyler n Todd. Been watching them for years. Now I get to watch you too. I'm so sorry you have to feel fear for being you. Maybe someday the hate will end...Balled my eyes out over Matthew. Love you guys.
Aww this made me cry. I have like no words right now to put into perspective of how blown away I am. Poor Matthew. He deserved so much better. I can't believe they had a safety protocol type of thing at a vigil. Thats just ridiculous that people has made it to where they don't feel safe when honoring someone's life. Ugh. Thank you for the video you guys
As a mum of a gay young man, this is my greatest fear for him. My beautiful, loving thoughtful son, is worth 100% than those vile bigots, who want to harm him. Thank you both for showing me that there is so much love out there too.
You sound like a really loving mother, and reading this comment lightened my heart despite the sad topic. Thank you for loving your son more than what other people may think- I wish my own mom had you as a friend 🫂🪻💖
Love you. Just first heard of you when I saw you on Tangents with Tyler and Todd. I love them too. I am a single straight 71-year-old woman. I have always been open to everyone: race, nationality, sexual preference, religion, and anything else people can think of to look down on others. It's sad. I'll be following you now.
This had me in tears. I used to work in a campground in Osoyoos, BC. One afternoon, a lovely young gentleman from Ontario came into our office to rent a site, and asked me if I thought he and his husband would be safe there. It broke my heart. I assured him that I thought they would be(thankfully it was almost all longtime visitors that I mostly knew well by then,) then I cried when they left the office. Life shouldn't be this way. I remember when Matthew died. Matthew Shepard and Ryan White are 2 young men whose lives, and deaths, will stay in my mind forever. Thankyou for sharing your jouney.
I’m cis and 71, and I’ve always been a supporter. I live in Ohio, and my sons live in CO (2) and WY (1). My WY son (in Cheyenne) says it’s pretty extreme right politically. Back in Canton, Ohio, we just had our first Pride celebration last year (it was wonderful btw), and it hasn’t been until recently that two married men could open about it and own a very successful ice cream shop. There’s hope, but it’s so slow!
This episode was so good. I was not aware how bad some states are. I live in Rhode Island and you hear hate depending the area but for the size of the state I think there is more love then hate. No one should ever feel unsafe where they live or visit. #loveeveryone
The cruelty of this event still chills me. Thank you for this serious reminder that all of us need to stand up. Where ever we our, whenever🌺 we can to create a better world for all of us. 🌈
What a special episode. 💜 Thank you for educating this lil old ally here in the UK about Matthew. My heart goes out to everyone facing hate today. Love you guys xxxxx
I'm a gay white male 57 - single. I just lost 90 lbs and have started to put myself out there again socially. My sister, didn't know about Mathew Sheppard till I told her what happened to him. She told me to be careful when responding to any attention I get these days... She gets it! I wish you all the happiness - liked and subscribed
I’m from Colorado and Wyoming. I actually went to University of Wyoming for a moment. I was in Sheridan Wyoming when Matthew passed. Sending you guys hugs.
I'm so sorry you still have to be aware of being safe. This actually makes my heart hurt for you guys. I hope for a day that the LGBTQIA+ community can feels safe where they go. As a women I also hope the same for us. Sending love xoxo 😘
Watching this February 2023 and I just want to say I love you both. My daughter has seen a few of your videos and she loves you too. She is 17 and came out to us almost three years ago and she had mine and her father's support and will continue to have our support. Thank you for showing us this video❤️
Best episode of anything ever to be posted thank you so much for the respect kindness and honor you shared for EVERYONE to feel safe 🌺💕 you both are spreading a message that's needed to be addressed for decades YOU BOTH SPREAD SO MUCH LIGHT TO THIS DARK WORLD THANK YOU 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I’ve grown up in Georgia. While I now live in the metro Atlanta area it can still be an unsafe place for me and my wife. 😢we still have so much further to go in safety for us. Thank you for spreading awareness.
Thank you for showing this. It was nice to be able to see the bench. I will never forget when it happened. I will always remember this disgusting hate crime. Nobody deserves that. Thank you for making a difference.
I try to honor Matthew Shepard every year by posting a pic and memorial of him on my Facebook home page, the violent way he died still tears me up, he was such a beautiful young man, RIP Matthew Shepard.
Thank you for this episode. It hurt, but the reminder that the "history" isn't that far gone, or far away is important for all of us. Peace for you both (and yuma, sassy).
Thank you for sharing this even though it was hard. I can’t believe how in 2022 there is still so much hate. I worry for my daughter who is only 19 and so vulnerable to that hate. You did a great job with this video. Yuma’s captions were hilarious as always! ❤️❤️
Yuma, Darcy, & Jar I found your channel 2 days ago and have been down a cyber hole watching all your videos since. Thanks for sharing your life, love, and adventures with us. I'm an official Creep for life. Sending love from Los Angeles 💛💜
Thanks so much for posting this video. I live near Spokane, Washington and am a mama dragon to two teenagers becoming adults. It’s quite a process to participate in. Your relationship reminds me of my own relationship with my husband, and it’s sweet to see. May you always find a safe, loving place to rest.
I remember listening to a podcast about Matthew a few years ago and it was the first time I felt like i realised that not all people are treated the same and even in this day and age, some fear for their safety and their lives. I’ve never had to experience this and it sickens me that this hatred and vitriol still exists in the modern world. Thank you for continuing to enlighten us. And thank you for brightening our lives ❤️
No one deserves to feel unsafe. This world is filled with hate but god is love. God loves you both and all of the other humans trying to live peacefully. Hugs
I just came across this video. I remember hearing his story on the news and wondered, even then, how in the h*** someone could do that. As you walked up toward his bench, tears rolled down my face. It just got more emotional after that. It's strange in a way, but I was raised "old school". As I grew into adulthood, I started seeing things a little differently. The Bible verse, "Love one another as I have loved you"....there's no caveat that states what you can or cannot be. It states "one another", period. You're amazing just as you are and have given me smiles and laughter when I needed it most. ❤❤
Love you guys so much! I have been to Laramie before for work and remember hearing about Matthew Shepard from the people who live there and how sad they were that that tragedy happened in their town. I can’t believe Sweet Melissa’s is still there! I had to go because it’s my namesake and have been dreaming of their salsa verde and chili ever since! So happy it survived the pandemic. I am originally from Vancouver and will be traveling there this week to visit my family so I will be blowing you kisses 😚 over to Langley when I am there. If you feel love while outside next week, that will be me 🤟🏻🥰
Thank you so much for sharing this. Both of my teen children have come out to my spouse and I. Our eldest is still on their journey. As parents we have tried to be 100% supportive. Our eldest loves to travel so I was heartbroken when they came to me and told me about several places that they wanted to visit but wouldn’t be safe if they were to be themselves. I hope one day we will learn to love each other, after all we’re all human. I love your videos, the laughter and joy ❤
Omg I'll never forget Matthews horrific story. I can't believe after all this time there still needs for warnings to be put out. It's madness. I'm bi and told a supposed friend that even though I am with my fiancé (a man) he berated horrific names at me and this was only a year ago. The hatred is unfathomable. I know you both will continue to shine light where ever you are and bring awareness to the importance of this. Love is love no matter what. No one is allowed to judge our lives. Ty again for the beautiful video. Lots of love to you all. Love Darcy (Canadian)
Thank you for sharing this. I’m not from the US so I hadn’t heard of Matthew. I’ve learned something from you today and while it’s a sad thing to know, it’s important these stories are heard.
Thank you for paying your respects and for highlighting this young man. I live in Utah and I remember this. It really impacted me. #ForeverAnAlly #LoveIsLove
Started crying when this began. Thank you for sharing Matthew's story and your personal feelings. Love you two and every other person out there that needs love, support, and acceptance for just being who you are meant to be.
Thank you for sharing! As a mother, as a friend, as a coworker, as a stranger I will forever be an ally. As well as advocate, speak up and educate people on their ignorance. Just because you don't support, doesnt mean you need to hate. (Sidenote: you did an amazing job with timing with Yumas commentary. So it was not continuously heavy, but still relayed the message and topic) Thank you again!
Coming from one of your straight followers I am so proud of you guys and sending good vibes, love, and all positive things your way. I hope that your journey together is greeted by open arms and smiles everywhere from all as it should be. Ultimately we know there's going to be some jerks we run across in our lives and I hope you guys are stepping stone for those jerks and what I hope is an unknown journey towards a more open mind and loving heart for them. Be safe and have fun! (Human and fur baby alike ✌🏼❤️🌈🐕🦺
I cried my eyes out watching this. It’s heartbreaking when my own family members who are openly gay married men, are scared of their future in this country. You’re making a difference by speaking out about such horrific groups and appalling crimes against innocent people. I’ll never forget what a trans woman told me when we were discussing how unsafe the parking lot of her job is. She said, “my biggest fear is one day not making it home alive, because someone else doesn’t want to exist”. Thank so much for just being your outrageously amazing selves and being a voice for those who still scared to speak. 💜
When the Matthew shepherd thing happened I was 16. It was the perfect age I think for it to have completely shaped part of me fundamentally as a person. I FIERCELY protect and stand for anybody in the LGBTQ community (including my queen, trans teen child and i myself am queer) and the brutal story of Matthew's passing is part of what opened my eyes to the REAL world we live in, because prior to that incident, I had no idea. I was blessed enough to grow up in a small, rich and quiet town in connecticut where there was none of the hate, violence etc and I simply didn't see or experience it. And something about his passing and the story of it, and seeing his pictures and the widespread coverage, and the way ppl were affected by it....moved my soul. RIP Matthew. We love you 💜 Thank you jer & Darcy. You have a large platform and a strong voice. We love that u are using it and sharing so much of your lives with us.
I came across you guys on UA-cam by accident. I am so thankful I did. You two are so amazing and genuine. My heart sunk and I started crying during this video. I am so thankful for the two of you sharing this with us. Nobody deserves to be afraid to love who they love. Nobody needs to be afraid to go out just because of who they are and who they love. I love you both. 🌈
Never second guess a teaching moment for the entire world to see and hear. You both did a wonderful job with this episode. There is no shame in sharing emotion for injustices . Keep up the good work and be you .
It is telling that they had a safety warning. I remember when that tragedy happened and all the coverage it got. Made me sick. 😢 My daughter, her wife, and their children recently moved to New York to feel safer. This surprised me, I didn't know they were feeling unsafe here (Kentucky). I do want my grandchildren to know they are a perfect family, and if that is what my daughter thinks is needed, I support them. ❤️ Be safe on your travels! Love you guys!
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Researching dog friendly travel stops is standard pre trip tasks, but hate crime rates 😫 I would never have thought about it had you not shared that.
Sobbing watching this! You did an amazing job presenting this very emotional topic in a respectful and powerful way. Thank you for helping us remember Matthew. 🏳️🌈
My heart is broken. I remember when this happened to Matthew😢sending love & strength to his family. Darcy and Jer, I’m sorry that you ever feel afraid. You are both beautiful💕
I was in tears watching this one. Thank you for showing your truth and your journey. I love in a very protected area so it's important for me to see that we need to do more.
I know it’s not my place to to say whether I’m actually a good ally or not, but I just found the channel and I love all of it. I can’t fathom traveling our country and having to plan where to go because of who you love and have chosen to have a life with. Instant sub. Much love.
Thank you for this video. I have loved all of your episodes thus far, but you taking the time to spread such a powerful message makes me love you three even more.
I was also a teen when this tragedy occurred, and it solidified my role as a life long ally. Always trying to learn from the experience of others and trying to provide the safest experience possible for all people.
Editing this episode had us both sloppy messes, and we struggled with whether we were going to show this footage at all. We know a lot of you watch us for some much needed escapism, but we also felt like this story is still so relevant after all these years that we couldn't not show it. The security warning at the vigil was really what opened our eyes to how some of those in our community are forced to live. For those of you out there, we see you, we're working hard to make life better. Much love creeps.
No thank YOU for showing all of your trip. It's very important that we remember the world is still a scary place. Also the fact FREEDOM is not always free. Sending Love, Light, Blessings and Prayers to you both and people who understand that hate is not always visible. We have to protect one another...... Thank you again for protecting the people at the vigil. ❤️❤️❤️
If we don’t talk about the heavy stuff how will the next generation know about the beautiful souls like Matthew and Marsha…
Thank you for showing this. I was 17 when Matthew was murdered and living in a tiny central Texas town with my GF. We paid for a two bedroom apartment because no one would rent us a one bedroom. Because “y’all can’t share a room, what would your neighbors think.”
I am so glad you decided to share this. It is such an important reminder to us all. Much love to you both and Yuma girl. I love your content. 💜💜
Thank you for sharing this. I'm sharing those video in all my socials! If you're ever in Northern Lower Michigan, let me know!
Thank you for sharing and thank you for being vulnerable. This is very important to see as sadly in the past 24 years not much as changed.
I'm a white, straight white male. Father of 6, contractor from the back wood hills of WV. And I cried like a baby watching this video. And seeing the emotions and fight you go through. Just know there are some of us country folks that love to LOVE. REGARDLESS of sexual orientation or anything else. What happened to this poor child is horrendous. But, please know that you are loved and adored by many of us out here watching.
wow! Thank you
“Pride is a protest” this is a great reminder.
The fact that after 24 years they still have to give that safety disclaimer and that they have a plan if anything happens. I'm bawling this whole time. My heart hurts. It's 2022 how can people still be so hateful
we have a ways to go, but the good people are trying.
I was 13 yrs old when that happened and still remember being shocked how people could treat another like that 😢
@Dana Compton ya it's something I struggle with every day. My daughter is pansexual and I worry about how the world will treat her. She's 17 and so far so good but as her mother I worry
@@CarolineDoes just show her love, and you worry because you’re a good mom. The world is making progress just at a 3 steps forward 2 steps back pace
@Dana Compton yes I do see the progress. I'm thankful for that. And I hope one day there is nothing to worry about. 💖
"My god what a waste of energy" says it all. It takes SO much more energy to hate than love
Even less energy to just shrug & go about your business.
Thank you for visiting my hometown and paying respects to Matt. He died while I was in college with him . Now my vision of Laramie, of Wyoming, of the world …is colored by my experiences with hate and love that was shown in that event and it’s aftermath.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
omg this got me so bad. As a straight man I teach my 4 boys to be respectful and understanding of everyone no matter what. I love you guys so much thank you.
Thank you.
You are so much better than the fathers of the men who caused this tragedy 👏🫡 thank you for breaking the easy norm
It is disheartening that my state is known for what happened to Mathew. It is a blessing that his voice is still heard. I took my children there to see the bench, and told them all what had happened to him. No one should be judged by who they are and who they love. It really helped my one son learning his story. He said that learning his story somehow made it easier to tell us he is bisexual. This was many years ago he was just becoming a teen. I was raised and raised my kid's that it doesn't matter where a person is from, what color of their skin or their religion and political beliefs are, all that matters is if they are good people. 🥰🥰🥰
The state is not know for that. The assholes that did it are responsible, not the state.
In tears… I was 18 when Matthew was taken, as well, and I remember thinking “just for being gay? Why does that matter so much?” I was also from a little farming town in Indiana and VERY naïve of the level of hate that still existed. I think this was an amazing inclusion, and I just adore your stinkin’ hearts 💖
I’m a queer brown woman that’s disabled and living in Texas. The hate, homophobia, etc is all so very real now more than ever. Sending love and solidarity to all of us fighting the good fight.
Sending it right back to you. ✊
I'm transgender F to M & can't tell anyone in my family because they're all phobic & believe people like us will turn their kids like us. In other words they believe people like us are contagious. I know stupid. It is depressing I can't be whom I am supposed to be. I'm also disabled & a Texas Native.
@@darcyandjer Love you two. Please don't stop doing what you do. You both make me smile.
Unfortunately Texas is one of those States full of racist bigoted anti-Americans. It's unbelievable how Texans are full of hate and fear for anybody or anything different. It's a shame that they keep electing disgusting pathetic things like abbott. Unfortunately the people here in Texas will go to extremes to protect their racism and bigotry.
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I'm from rural Iowa and I'm queer -- the unease and fear you felt in this part of the US is valid. It wasn't on you, Jer. That feeling you had picking up dinner. I'm not sure if you're still traveling around the US, but if you find yourself feeling uneasy in rural US again, trust your gut. Love you both, thank you for the touching episode. 💜
As a bi sexual woman who will never be able to live my truth because my own family are these hate filled people, I'm balling my eyes out right now 🥺🥺
Sweetheart, there are others there. Look for the YWCA in your area. When possible, move to a place where you can feel free to be you. ❤❤❤
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I understand.... when and if you decide to share your story, I promise you will be ok. Whatever you choose... be well.
Megan I hope you find the strength to live your truth. Family isn't always supportive but there are plenty of people that are. Reach out. 🏳️🌈
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I'm 70 and have spent a life never fitting in and suffering from the verbal and mental abuse that went with it. Back as a kid no one cared if parents were abusive. It has taken me a long time to like me. I have now accepted I am odd. So now I am delightfully odd. I am suffering from horrible jealousy of your relationship. I wish I had found someone to love me as you two love each other.
Thank you
I am from Wyoming. And Matt’s story is always devastating. 🖤 thank you for visiting
I haven't watched yet, but thank you soooo much for the "be kind to your mind" way of putting it. I am worn out by the guilt of *temporarily* avoiding hard stuff when I am having a hard time myself. I appreciate that little kindness (that I'm going to try and start giving to myself) sooo much! Having said that, it breaks my heart that you didn't feel safe. I'm so sorry for whatever happened. I will be watching soon, but not today.
Hi Darcy & Jer, I recently stumbled upon your UA-cam Shorts, and I must say, I’ve become a huge fan of your content. The dedication and effort you both put into your work is truly commendable, and it’s evident in the captivating videos you create. The genuine love and connection between you two is not only beautiful, but also incredibly inspiring.
I can personally relate to the challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community, as my brother came out a few years ago. Witnessing the pain and struggle he’s experienced without our father’s support has been heart-wrenching. Your content provides a shining example of love and acceptance that the world desperately needs. My hope is that, eventually, society will progress to a point where people can express their love without fear of judgment or discrimination.
Please continue to share your incredible journey and love story with the world. Your inspiring work is making a difference and bringing hope to countless individuals. Thank you for being a beacon of light in a sometimes dark world. Keep up the amazing work!
Thank you for sharing Matthew’s memorial with us. His murder changed me from a passive “none of my business”ally to an active “fuck around and find out, leave LQBTQ+ people alone” Ally long before I realized I was queer myself.
Same. *hugs*
This tragedy was such a massive catalyst, and I'm really grateful that this incident hasn't been forgotten. Much love comrade ✊️
(also, Dorner Tactical on Etsy has some great Fuckaroundandfindout type merch that I really dig, hope u enjoy! 😊🫂🪻)
I literally have tears in my eyes. You two guys are beautiful inside and out…
This episode hit me hard I was in highschool in northern Colorado when Matthew Shepard was attacked the hospital he died in was down the road from my high school me and my friends stood vigil at Poudre Valley Hospital everyday. So many of us found the strength to come out at that time I turned 40 in June of 2022 and recently moved to Louisville KY and it's the first time in a long time that I haven't felt safe, mind you I'm a 6'3" 250lb white dude. I can't find the words to tell you how much your guys content has meant to me and my state of mind here.
Love to you both, the fight is not over, you are not alone. Allies are here in hoards to fight with you!!!!
I was brought up in a homophobic family, i'm so sorry for that. I have to tell you i love you both so much, you have taught me to be more open and loving of all people around me. what you two do is teach us to love one another, and accept ones differences. You make and have made a difference in my life. Thank you
You were right to warn folks about this episode. It was tough and touching. Thank you for first going to pay respects and for encouraging louder voices and more to be done to stop the hate. I love you two and appreciate you too!! God bless and safe travels!
My uncle was on the jury for Matthew’s trail and it still haunts him.
Thank you to your uncle for doing his civic duty to put away those two scumbag murderers 🫂
Straight white Christian (but also liberal) mom here, I was so moved by this! I love & have been following your happy videos, & this one was unexpected but definitely appreciated & valued. You are such an inspiration, thank you!! May the blessings & Peace of God keep you safe & well always!! Love you guys!💖💯🙏🏼🤟🏼✌🏼
I was born and raised in Cheyenne, Wyoming and have lived in Laramie now for many many years. It's not a perfect town by any means, but as someone who is bisexual, Laramie has a very strong and connected LGBTQIA community. Laramie PRIDE is a wonderful group and I'm so happy that you were able to be there for the vigil. 💜 And Sweet Melissa's is the absolute best!
Laramie looks really cute! And the volume of supporters at the vigil speaks to the strength of the queer community there, as well as the love from the town as a whole. I really hope to visit Matthew's memorial someday, along the way to see Brandon Teenas grave in Lincoln. Thank you for sharing about your town 🫂🪻
What a beautiful tribute to Matthew Shepard. Thank you for sharing your journey. 💜🌈
At the top of the video when you said you were going to Laramie, I knew how heavy the episode would be. I performed in The Laramie Project ten years ago, and it’s one that has stuck with me all this.
Thank you for sharing your experience in Wyoming and being open about how you felt. Much love to you both, and Yuma.
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I'm a straight 67 yr old woman. I first met you on Tyler n Todd. Been watching them for years. Now I get to watch you too. I'm so sorry you have to feel fear for being you. Maybe someday the hate will end...Balled my eyes out over Matthew. Love you guys.
Aww this made me cry. I have like no words right now to put into perspective of how blown away I am. Poor Matthew. He deserved so much better. I can't believe they had a safety protocol type of thing at a vigil. Thats just ridiculous that people has made it to where they don't feel safe when honoring someone's life. Ugh. Thank you for the video you guys
As a mum of a gay young man, this is my greatest fear for him. My beautiful, loving thoughtful son, is worth 100% than those vile bigots, who want to harm him. Thank you both for showing me that there is so much love out there too.
You sound like a really loving mother, and reading this comment lightened my heart despite the sad topic. Thank you for loving your son more than what other people may think- I wish my own mom had you as a friend 🫂🪻💖
Love you. Just first heard of you when I saw you on Tangents with Tyler and Todd. I love them too. I am a single straight 71-year-old woman. I have always been open to everyone: race, nationality, sexual preference, religion, and anything else people can think of to look down on others. It's sad. I'll be following you now.
This had me in tears. I used to work in a campground in Osoyoos, BC. One afternoon, a lovely young gentleman from Ontario came into our office to rent a site, and asked me if I thought he and his husband would be safe there. It broke my heart. I assured him that I thought they would be(thankfully it was almost all longtime visitors that I mostly knew well by then,) then I cried when they left the office. Life shouldn't be this way. I remember when Matthew died. Matthew Shepard and Ryan White are 2 young men whose lives, and deaths, will stay in my mind forever. Thankyou for sharing your jouney.
I’m cis and 71, and I’ve always been a supporter. I live in Ohio, and my sons live in CO (2) and WY (1). My WY son (in Cheyenne) says it’s pretty extreme right politically. Back in Canton, Ohio, we just had our first Pride celebration last year (it was wonderful btw), and it hasn’t been until recently that two married men could open about it and own a very successful ice cream shop. There’s hope, but it’s so slow!
This episode was so good. I was not aware how bad some states are. I live in Rhode Island and you hear hate depending the area but for the size of the state I think there is more love then hate. No one should ever feel unsafe where they live or visit. #loveeveryone
I was 15 and living in Casper when the tragedy happened. It was such a crazy time and being a closeted teen brought on a lot of emotions
Thank you so much for posting this. It was profoundly moving.
The cruelty of this event still chills me. Thank you for this serious reminder that all of us need to stand up. Where ever we our, whenever🌺 we can to create a better world for all of us. 🌈
Knew this one was gonna be a difficult 💔. Thanking you for blessing Colorado with your presence ❤️
Thanks for calling me “friend” instead of creep at the end there!
What a special episode. 💜 Thank you for educating this lil old ally here in the UK about Matthew. My heart goes out to everyone facing hate today. Love you guys xxxxx
I lived in Wyoming. God bless Matthews soul. I cried then and I cried today
Darcy, you have such beautiful eyes when we can see them. ROFL! YOU TWO ARE AWESOME TOGETHER! Love your energy ❤
I'm a gay white male 57 - single. I just lost 90 lbs and have started to put myself out there again socially.
My sister, didn't know about Mathew Sheppard till I told her what happened to him. She told me to be careful when responding to any attention I get these days... She gets it!
I wish you all the happiness - liked and subscribed
I’m from Colorado and Wyoming. I actually went to University of Wyoming for a moment. I was in Sheridan Wyoming when Matthew passed. Sending you guys hugs.
I love that you shared this even though it hurts to watch! Thank you! 🌈 ❤
The minute you said you were visiting Matthew’s memorial. 😭😭😭
Thank you sharing. We should never forget!
I'm so sorry you still have to be aware of being safe. This actually makes my heart hurt for you guys. I hope for a day that the LGBTQIA+ community can feels safe where they go. As a women I also hope the same for us. Sending love xoxo 😘
Watching this February 2023 and I just want to say I love you both. My daughter has seen a few of your videos and she loves you too. She is 17 and came out to us almost three years ago and she had mine and her father's support and will continue to have our support. Thank you for showing us this video❤️
This video made me cry, spread love not hate ❤
Just hearing Laramie Wyoming, and Matthew Shepard shines his beautiful light on my heart, even if only for a moment.
Best episode of anything ever to be posted thank you so much for the respect kindness and honor you shared for EVERYONE to feel safe 🌺💕 you both are spreading a message that's needed to be addressed for decades YOU BOTH SPREAD SO MUCH LIGHT TO THIS DARK WORLD THANK YOU 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I’ve grown up in Georgia. While I now live in the metro Atlanta area it can still be an unsafe place for me and my wife. 😢we still have so much further to go in safety for us. Thank you for spreading awareness.
Thank you love all three of you. ❤
Thank you for showing this. It was nice to be able to see the bench. I will never forget when it happened. I will always remember this disgusting hate crime. Nobody deserves that. Thank you for making a difference.
Still brings tears and anger. Thank you for taking the trip to see the bench
I try to honor Matthew Shepard every year by posting a pic and memorial of him on my Facebook home page, the violent way he died still tears me up, he was such a beautiful young man, RIP Matthew Shepard.
I still can not wrap my head around what happened to Matthew. Thanks for sharing the hard stuff to guys. Yuma you really are a princess 🧡💛🧡
Thank you for this episode. It hurt, but the reminder that the "history" isn't that far gone, or far away is important for all of us. Peace for you both (and yuma, sassy).
Thank you for sharing this even though it was hard. I can’t believe how in 2022 there is still so much hate. I worry for my daughter who is only 19 and so vulnerable to that hate. You did a great job with this video. Yuma’s captions were hilarious as always! ❤️❤️
Yuma, Darcy, & Jar I found your channel 2 days ago and have been down a cyber hole watching all your videos since. Thanks for sharing your life, love, and adventures with us. I'm an official Creep for life. Sending love from Los Angeles 💛💜
Thanks so much for posting this video. I live near Spokane, Washington and am a mama dragon to two teenagers becoming adults. It’s quite a process to participate in. Your relationship reminds me of my own relationship with my husband, and it’s sweet to see. May you always find a safe, loving place to rest.
I remember listening to a podcast about Matthew a few years ago and it was the first time I felt like i realised that not all people are treated the same and even in this day and age, some fear for their safety and their lives. I’ve never had to experience this and it sickens me that this hatred and vitriol still exists in the modern world. Thank you for continuing to enlighten us. And thank you for brightening our lives ❤️
No one deserves to feel unsafe. This world is filled with hate but god is love. God loves you both and all of the other humans trying to live peacefully. Hugs
I absolutely bloody love you guys! Haven’t watched yet but just wanted to send my British love to you both 💙💙
Thank you for sharing. The Matthew Sheppard story breaks my heart as much today as 24 years ago.
This wyoming girl loves you and you both are perfect! Thankyou for sharing your strength and courage with all of us.
I swear if you guys were my neighbors, I would be a horrible neighbor because I would never leave. I love your wonderful personalities and joy.
My heart still breaks for him 😢😢😢 thank you so much for sharing your journey ❤
I just came across this video. I remember hearing his story on the news and wondered, even then, how in the h*** someone could do that. As you walked up toward his bench, tears rolled down my face. It just got more emotional after that.
It's strange in a way, but I was raised "old school". As I grew into adulthood, I started seeing things a little differently. The Bible verse, "Love one another as I have loved you"....there's no caveat that states what you can or cannot be. It states "one another", period. You're amazing just as you are and have given me smiles and laughter when I needed it most. ❤❤
You guys are awesome! I am so touched by your compassion. America has a long way to go. We need to do better!...what an understatement!
Love you guys so much! I have been to Laramie before for work and remember hearing about Matthew Shepard from the people who live there and how sad they were that that tragedy happened in their town. I can’t believe Sweet Melissa’s is still there! I had to go because it’s my namesake and have been dreaming of their salsa verde and chili ever since! So happy it survived the pandemic.
I am originally from Vancouver and will be traveling there this week to visit my family so I will be blowing you kisses 😚 over to Langley when I am there. If you feel love while outside next week, that will be me 🤟🏻🥰
So happy you guys popped up in my shorts! G’day from Australia!
Thank you so much for sharing this. Both of my teen children have come out to my spouse and I. Our eldest is still on their journey. As parents we have tried to be 100% supportive. Our eldest loves to travel so I was heartbroken when they came to me and told me about several places that they wanted to visit but wouldn’t be safe if they were to be themselves. I hope one day we will learn to love each other, after all we’re all human.
I love your videos, the laughter and joy ❤
Omg I'll never forget Matthews horrific story. I can't believe after all this time there still needs for warnings to be put out. It's madness. I'm bi and told a supposed friend that even though I am with my fiancé (a man) he berated horrific names at me and this was only a year ago. The hatred is unfathomable. I know you both will continue to shine light where ever you are and bring awareness to the importance of this. Love is love no matter what. No one is allowed to judge our lives. Ty again for the beautiful video. Lots of love to you all. Love Darcy (Canadian)
Thank you for sharing this. I’m not from the US so I hadn’t heard of Matthew. I’ve learned something from you today and while it’s a sad thing to know, it’s important these stories are heard.
Love you guys- that you put that disclaimer means so much
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. We love you💕
Thank you! Thank you for sharing even the dark points. It truly was felt ❤
Thank you for this.
I look forward to the day when we no longer have to fight, but today is not that day.
Thank you for paying your respects and for highlighting this young man. I live in Utah and I remember this. It really impacted me. #ForeverAnAlly #LoveIsLove
Started crying when this began. Thank you for sharing Matthew's story and your personal feelings. Love you two and every other person out there that needs love, support, and acceptance for just being who you are meant to be.
Me too. I’m only 9 minutes in and I’ve been crying the whole time already ❤ Big hugs to you.
Thank you for sharing! As a mother, as a friend, as a coworker, as a stranger I will forever be an ally. As well as advocate, speak up and educate people on their ignorance. Just because you don't support, doesnt mean you need to hate. (Sidenote: you did an amazing job with timing with Yumas commentary. So it was not continuously heavy, but still relayed the message and topic)
Thank you again!
Coming from one of your straight followers I am so proud of you guys and sending good vibes, love, and all positive things your way. I hope that your journey together is greeted by open arms and smiles everywhere from all as it should be. Ultimately we know there's going to be some jerks we run across in our lives and I hope you guys are stepping stone for those jerks and what I hope is an unknown journey towards a more open mind and loving heart for them. Be safe and have fun! (Human and fur baby alike ✌🏼❤️🌈🐕🦺
This was such an emotional video, kudos to you both for being your authentic selves.
Thank you for that content…must always be forefront in our minds and in our daily lives to eradicate hate…appreciate you 🥰🥰🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 please be safe ❤
I cried my eyes out watching this. It’s heartbreaking when my own family members who are openly gay married men, are scared of their future in this country. You’re making a difference by speaking out about such horrific groups and appalling crimes against innocent people. I’ll never forget what a trans woman told me when we were discussing how unsafe the parking lot of her job is. She said, “my biggest fear is one day not making it home alive, because someone else doesn’t want to exist”.
Thank so much for just being your outrageously amazing selves and being a voice for those who still scared to speak. 💜
When the Matthew shepherd thing happened I was 16. It was the perfect age I think for it to have completely shaped part of me fundamentally as a person. I FIERCELY protect and stand for anybody in the LGBTQ community (including my queen, trans teen child and i myself am queer) and the brutal story of Matthew's passing is part of what opened my eyes to the REAL world we live in, because prior to that incident, I had no idea. I was blessed enough to grow up in a small, rich and quiet town in connecticut where there was none of the hate, violence etc and I simply didn't see or experience it. And something about his passing and the story of it, and seeing his pictures and the widespread coverage, and the way ppl were affected by it....moved my soul. RIP Matthew. We love you 💜
Thank you jer & Darcy. You have a large platform and a strong voice. We love that u are using it and sharing so much of your lives with us.
I came across you guys on UA-cam by accident. I am so thankful I did. You two are so amazing and genuine. My heart sunk and I started crying during this video. I am so thankful for the two of you sharing this with us. Nobody deserves to be afraid to love who they love. Nobody needs to be afraid to go out just because of who they are and who they love. I love you both. 🌈
Never second guess a teaching moment for the entire world to see and hear. You both did a wonderful job with this episode. There is no shame in sharing emotion for injustices . Keep up the good work and be you .
Tears brothers. I feel it when you guys talk about it. Can’t relate to coming out, but damn the chills when you guys are talking about that poor man.
It is telling that they had a safety warning. I remember when that tragedy happened and all the coverage it got. Made me sick. 😢 My daughter, her wife, and their children recently moved to New York to feel safer. This surprised me, I didn't know they were feeling unsafe here (Kentucky). I do want my grandchildren to know they are a perfect family, and if that is what my daughter thinks is needed, I support them. ❤️
Be safe on your travels! Love you guys!
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Researching dog friendly travel stops is standard pre trip tasks, but hate crime rates 😫 I would never have thought about it had you not shared that.
Sobbing watching this! You did an amazing job presenting this very emotional topic in a respectful and powerful way. Thank you for helping us remember Matthew. 🏳️🌈
My heart is broken. I remember when this happened to Matthew😢sending love & strength to his family. Darcy and Jer, I’m sorry that you ever feel afraid. You are both beautiful💕
I was in tears watching this one. Thank you for showing your truth and your journey. I love in a very protected area so it's important for me to see that we need to do more.
I know it’s not my place to to say whether I’m actually a good ally or not, but I just found the channel and I love all of it. I can’t fathom traveling our country and having to plan where to go because of who you love and have chosen to have a life with. Instant sub. Much love.
Thank you for this video. I have loved all of your episodes thus far, but you taking the time to spread such a powerful message makes me love you three even more.
Crying with you. I'm so grateful that you could share this with us.
I was also a teen when this tragedy occurred, and it solidified my role as a life long ally. Always trying to learn from the experience of others and trying to provide the safest experience possible for all people.