Lmao the kids wearing dior I so relate to! I used to have to iron a babies dior dresses and I was like well, this is as close as I'm going to get to holding anything from this brand 😂😂
There really should be a list of red flag families for au pairs before they get stuck in families like that. How awful. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Au Pair, Oh Paris I’ve seen it! I think the biggest red flag would be a family that is over eager to get you to their home in the middle of the school year.
I normally never comment on videos but girl, I feel you. I worked for a vip family in the middle east and had been through the exact same situation you were. It was a different kind of hell and something I would never wish on anyone. The worst part of it is you cant really openly talk about it because theyre not just regular families but I admire you for finally speaking after some time. It takes courage. Salute!
I'm an au pair right now in Spain and I literally cannot imagine my situation looking like this. I am so happy you realize all the things wrong in that situation and how the family functioned as a unit. It is very upsetting that they treated you like that and it sounds like they took advantage of you in many different ways because you just didn't know what was normal and what is not. But for them to do that to anyone? Wow.
As a host mom, I gotta give myself a pat on the back and maybe even tell my current AP to step her game up! I believe that AP’s should have disciplinary rights, since parents aren’t there all the time. Parents should let you know they’re style early on...my kid would have flown if they pulled that shenanigans. I’m also a firm believer about time off, who wouldn’t want a break?! Respect needs to be both ways. You also need to speak up, HP’s can’t read minds. As much as we sit down with you to voice our opinions, hopefully, that is your time to do that as well, at least, that’s what we do. Again, manners & respect are a two way street. Please stay safe and take care of your mental health!
I was going to AU pair but it honestly looks like a hit or miss kind of situation. People either LOVE it or HATE it, and idk if I want to take the risk and end up hating it. I’m going to teach English abroad instead. I’ve been a nanny/babysitter before and I’ve had some pretty bad experiences...I just feel like I don’t like being told what to do all the time or have the uncertainty of a schedule. I’m glad you at least got out of that situation and you’re sharing your story because it’s not always a positive experience.
I just received a message from my dream family asking me to be their aupair next year! I am so unbelievably excited to be aupairing in Berlin, Germany next year. I wanted to say thank you for all the resources! The skype question suggestions really helped me feel more confident.
MargaretRose723 I live in Berlin, but I am aupairing in Ireland right now (I will be back in a couple of months). When are you coming? It can be really hard to make friends in the beginning. Maybe we could meet up sometime? My insta is @melioxl ☺️
im currently in the same situation in spain .. im ready to go lol the first 2 weeks were good. But the kids are a living nightmare literally . I have 4 months left in contract ! Trying to figure out how to express this without been rude ...towards the parents ! but im overwhelmed with the back talking & hitting
Hectic experience for sure.... But I'm certain you're stronger as a person. We learn from every experience.....that's undeniable ! Better days ahead....
thanks for sharing your story!! My first aupair experience was VERY similar, i was in italy last year, 19 leaving the US for the first time, waited it out until i was forced to look for a rematch. luckily i had made some great friends who helped me that week and ended up with a new family who truly made me feel welcomed and loved. Everything happens for a reason, I learned alot going forward. My rematch family was so great I went back to the same family a year later for a summer vacation
Wow. It's incredible what you had to go through. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to have someone mock you in the face dismissing your honest feelings and being unappreciative of how hard you've worked for them. I'm glad you were able to quit! I'm not an au pair myself and had never heard of it until recently but stumbled on this channel after getting curious and doing some research. I can definitely see many au pairs (and those who want to become one) benefiting from your videos and community Really appreciate you sharing your experience 😃
Thank you soooo so much for this video!! I think hearing some of my own experiences affirmed was the push I needed to leave and find a new family. I’m still hopeful I can find a more welcoming family❤️
It’s so sad that you felt bad to quit when THEY were the ones taking advantage of you. Hearing your story makes me so angry that this happens all the time. I remember girls in my french classes would talk about literally having no time off on the weekends. It’s ridiculous! Something I wish I knew at the time and that most aupairs should know is that having an aupair is kind of a bargain. They pay for the visa but after that, what they usually pay is nothing in comparison to what they would pay a normal french babysitter or nanny. Families often make it seem like the aupair is the one getting the deal so they feel scared but leave but there are more families than there are aupairs
@@aupairohparis6083 I totally get that. I ended blaming myself for a lot of the problems I had with my host family because I didn't know any better. So glad aupairs have your channel now
Edwina, you are such a positive person and it is honestly so refreshing to see. I always enjoy every video you both put out also, I’m becoming an apop member tonight! Have a good day. :)
Wow. I’m watching your videos as a future host mom in then the states and I can’t believe someone would treat you this way. Thank you for giving me some insight on the candidates that are requesting rematch. I hope that our au pair feels loved and part of our family when she comes. This worries me though as she is coming in the summer and the kids will be out of school. We were hoping to take her on a week long trip to water parks and the beach (definitely not the nice places you went) I’m hoping our match goes well.
I've been thinking about taking a gap year after I graduate high school and have been looking at being an Au Pair and doing lots of research. I've seen the stories and hope that if I become an Au Pair that this doesn't happen to me. I can't even be an Au Pair until almost December of next year since I'll be 18 then. I've been going back and forth on whether I want to be one but I also want to learn either Spanish, French or Chinese and this is the cheapest option. I'll have to wait until next year to see what I decide.
@@aupairohparis6083 Thanks, I'm a really shy person but I think that becoming an Au pair will push me out of my comfort zone to do what I want. I will definitely use your service to help guide me through my Au pair process when the time comes. These videos have been a big help in informing myself and researching. Love your guy's videos!
@@kirb644 Hello. I am taking a gap year though because of the virus I'm not going to au pair anymore, not this year anyways. I'm going to au pair a couple of summers from now though. But it's really hard to determine what next year will look like so I can't say for sure whether it's a good idea or not to take a gap year. I'd say make sure you weigh your options carefully before you decide to take a gap year. Make sure you have a general idea of what you want to do in your gap year and see if you have the funds to support what you want to do. I'd say still apply to colleges if that's what you want to do after your gap year is up just in case for some reason your gap year plan doesn't work out. Hope you figure out what you're going to do. A gap year can be rewarding though it's hard to travel and such during this time and you'll just have to wait and see what next year will entail.
This is the opposite side when some families write down in their profile like « we’ll treat you like an elder sister », but in reality you’re more employée than a sis It was the same to me in China. I was a clown for the kid and knew this luxury chinese lifestyle. But it’s not for me. Maybe they expected it from previous au pair before, but I’m not like she. So I was really glad that I quit. And went traveling around South Asia and came back to my hometown What will you do now? Find a new family or? Stay strong, girl!!! I’m sure you’ll get through this sh**
As a new host family, this breaks my heart. We would never expect this from our Au pair. On the flip side, it’s been very hard to find an Au pair that feels ready to make the jump and match with us. I know it’s a hard decision but it’s been so much harder to match than I thought.
i suggest that you please create a Facebook or what's App group for the au pairs abroad so they can help each other what to do and what not and exchange experiences and even make friends so u won't be so alone in that country and feel depressed and always get help or motivation
I'm an Au Pair in the Netherlands right now and I have been here since August 2019. I did rematch at the start because my first family were a bit mental lol but now I'm with my current family and I am having the time of my life. Everything is amazing right now, I get treated a lot better, I actually feel a part of the family and I don't have to hide myself away at the end of every day. However, besides all of this, I really want to go home now. I went home for Christmas and maybe 2 weeks in between my rematching stage, and I've been here full time since January. I really just want to go home now, I miss my family, friends and pets so much. And now everything with the Coronavirus is making me so much more scared because the number of cases in the Netherlands now is 82 and it's scaring me because the government might start closing down airports, cancelling flights etc if the situation gets any worse. I want to get home before all of that happens and I have no idea how to tell my host mum. I already feel so bad about it because they've given me so much joy and happiness and I feel like such a bitch if I tell them I'm leaving. I'm meant to sty until August but there is no way I can last until then. Any comments and relief is much welcome!
Lool I would just leave in the middle of the night and go to a hotel and vacation in peace 🤷🏾♀️ and I wouldn’t tell them, I will enjoy picturing the looks on their faces. IDGAF 😂 the misery and panic they’ll go through trying to find another au pair ASAP will bring me peace😂 That’s why it’s important to ALWAYS TRAVEL WITH YOUR OWN MONEY!
I was an Aupair for 2 years the fist 1year was horrible but i managed to stay for 1 year because i need to save that money! Iwas overworked in vacation u must have ur own room for privacy reasons! I did sleep with the kids while parents have another room! Aupairs should be a parz of a family like a big sis not a slave or just part of household for work! I hope you find a very good host family next time ! ❤
Have you ever hosted for a single father? I want to invite an au pair to me home to help with my daughter, but I wonder if it's unconventional. Also I live in the California in somewhat of a rural area so I wonder if anyone would want to travel here. It is a touristy area though. But I mostly wonder if my being a single father would be a comfortable situation for an au pair.
do you think it would be a good investment to buy your own second hand bike maybe from a thrift shop in Paris then when you leave you just donate it to a thrift shop?? Sorry that's a weird question haha
not a weird questions at all. Personally I am a member of the velib parsi bike system! It's 45 euros for the entire year and is way more convenient than my own bike!
Wait so- So working without getting free days and sleeping with the kids and being with them 24/7 is not ok.I will have to leave then lol.Besides I’m being overworked.Thank you for this ,I finally have the courage
I'm a nanny in America, I would love to au pair. I'm also an older woman (47). I don't know how to go about it can anyone help? At this moment I have a horrible nanny situation at the moment and want out.
@@StephanieTips I would like to inquire from you if you don't mind the country that allows aupair at the age of 35 coz I wanted to apply for one but I was lacking some information and 30yrs old. Thanks
Most of the families who needs an aupair are fucked up, I had many host families exactly 8, and just trying and hoping ... They just like dont want to be with their kids, but they wants to seem to perfect family outside, but inside is a big mess as you described, no system or order in the household, even the parents cant disipline their child. You were lucky at least because even if an aupair doesnot have to clean etc they made u to do it anyway... I t also depends what is the nacionality of the Family. I dont mentions names here... You can find yourself on the street if they get angry or you do something wrong you supposed to but of course how we should know if noone tells us. Police or agencies are not helping you at all in emergency they will always support the family... I am very dissapointed in this Aupair program, this is like hiring a cheap servant from an other not well developed country so they think you are desperate and you cant do anything, u dont know where to go etc. Yes you feel urself in a cage... No private life at all. No rest on ur free days, u live ur boss and u always feel like u are working. I was hiding food in my room on my free days in the room just not to see to go to the kitchen and the livingroom to see them. I finished this life forever....I cant even watch through ur video sorry, just brought up many awful memories and pain:(
Mary Kalungu there are many ways! Either through an agency or platforms like au pair world! We have plenty of videos explaining just that on our channel!
Lmao the kids wearing dior I so relate to! I used to have to iron a babies dior dresses and I was like well, this is as close as I'm going to get to holding anything from this brand 😂😂
Also love that cage d'or metaphor woah
There really should be a list of red flag families for au pairs before they get stuck in families like that. How awful. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
Au Pair, Oh Paris I’ve seen it! I think the biggest red flag would be a family that is over eager to get you to their home in the middle of the school year.
Jeremiah Daniel there is a group for that. Message me on Instagram for the name @malka.jpeg
@@aupairohparis6083 is there anyway to catch this before actually living with them?
I normally never comment on videos but girl, I feel you. I worked for a vip family in the middle east and had been through the exact same situation you were. It was a different kind of hell and something I would never wish on anyone. The worst part of it is you cant really openly talk about it because theyre not just regular families but I admire you for finally speaking after some time. It takes courage. Salute!
I'm an au pair right now in Spain and I literally cannot imagine my situation looking like this. I am so happy you realize all the things wrong in that situation and how the family functioned as a unit. It is very upsetting that they treated you like that and it sounds like they took advantage of you in many different ways because you just didn't know what was normal and what is not. But for them to do that to anyone? Wow.
I got chucked out of my family today after saying that I wasn’t happy with the situation and the way they treated me! I really needed this video!!!
Omg I am so sorry to hear this :((( I hope your day was better today at least. Telepathically sending u chocolate 😅🍫
As a host mom, I gotta give myself a pat on the back and maybe even tell my current AP to step her game up! I believe that AP’s should have disciplinary rights, since parents aren’t there all the time. Parents should let you know they’re style early on...my kid would have flown if they pulled that shenanigans. I’m also a firm believer about time off, who wouldn’t want a break?! Respect needs to be both ways. You also need to speak up, HP’s can’t read minds. As much as we sit down with you to voice our opinions, hopefully, that is your time to do that as well, at least, that’s what we do. Again, manners & respect are a two way street. Please stay safe and take care of your mental health!
I was going to AU pair but it honestly looks like a hit or miss kind of situation. People either LOVE it or HATE it, and idk if I want to take the risk and end up hating it. I’m going to teach English abroad instead. I’ve been a nanny/babysitter before and I’ve had some pretty bad experiences...I just feel like I don’t like being told what to do all the time or have the uncertainty of a schedule. I’m glad you at least got out of that situation and you’re sharing your story because it’s not always a positive experience.
I just received a message from my dream family asking me to be their aupair next year! I am so unbelievably excited to be aupairing in Berlin, Germany next year. I wanted to say thank you for all the resources! The skype question suggestions really helped me feel more confident.
MargaretRose723 I live in Berlin, but I am aupairing in Ireland right now (I will be back in a couple of months). When are you coming? It can be really hard to make friends in the beginning. Maybe we could meet up sometime? My insta is @melioxl ☺️
How do someone get this host family
im currently in the same situation in spain .. im ready to go lol the first 2 weeks were good. But the kids are a living nightmare literally . I have 4 months left in contract ! Trying to figure out how to express this without been rude ...towards the parents ! but im overwhelmed with the back talking & hitting
Hectic experience for sure....
But I'm certain you're stronger as a person. We learn from every experience.....that's undeniable !
Better days ahead....
So true! Thank you!!!
thanks for sharing your story!! My first aupair experience was VERY similar, i was in italy last year, 19 leaving the US for the first time, waited it out until i was forced to look for a rematch. luckily i had made some great friends who helped me that week and ended up with a new family who truly made me feel welcomed and loved. Everything happens for a reason, I learned alot going forward. My rematch family was so great I went back to the same family a year later for a summer vacation
Wow. It's incredible what you had to go through.
I can't imagine how hard it must have been to have someone mock you in the face dismissing your honest feelings and being unappreciative of how hard you've worked for them.
I'm glad you were able to quit!
I'm not an au pair myself and had never heard of it until recently but stumbled on this channel after getting curious and doing some research.
I can definitely see many au pairs (and those who want to become one) benefiting from your videos and community
Really appreciate you sharing your experience 😃
Thank you so much, that's very nice of you!
The " we don't mean what we say thing" is the MO of host families! "We care about you! Nahh!"
Thank you soooo so much for this video!! I think hearing some of my own experiences affirmed was the push I needed to leave and find a new family. I’m still hopeful I can find a more welcoming family❤️
It’s so sad that you felt bad to quit when THEY were the ones taking advantage of you. Hearing your story makes me so angry that this happens all the time. I remember girls in my french classes would talk about literally having no time off on the weekends. It’s ridiculous! Something I wish I knew at the time and that most aupairs should know is that having an aupair is kind of a bargain. They pay for the visa but after that, what they usually pay is nothing in comparison to what they would pay a normal french babysitter or nanny. Families often make it seem like the aupair is the one getting the deal so they feel scared but leave but there are more families than there are aupairs
@@aupairohparis6083 I totally get that. I ended blaming myself for a lot of the problems I had with my host family because I didn't know any better. So glad aupairs have your channel now
Edwina, you are such a positive person and it is honestly so refreshing to see. I always enjoy every video you both put out also, I’m becoming an apop member tonight! Have a good day. :)
so sweeet! Thank you for such a lovely comment!
Wow. I’m watching your videos as a future host mom in then the states and I can’t believe someone would treat you this way. Thank you for giving me some insight on the candidates that are requesting rematch. I hope that our au pair feels loved and part of our family when she comes. This worries me though as she is coming in the summer and the kids will be out of school. We were hoping to take her on a week long trip to water parks and the beach (definitely not the nice places you went) I’m hoping our match goes well.
I've been thinking about taking a gap year after I graduate high school and have been looking at being an Au Pair and doing lots of research. I've seen the stories and hope that if I become an Au Pair that this doesn't happen to me. I can't even be an Au Pair until almost December of next year since I'll be 18 then. I've been going back and forth on whether I want to be one but I also want to learn either Spanish, French or Chinese and this is the cheapest option. I'll have to wait until next year to see what I decide.
@@aupairohparis6083 Thanks, I'm a really shy person but I think that becoming an Au pair will push me out of my comfort zone to do what I want. I will definitely use your service to help guide me through my Au pair process when the time comes. These videos have been a big help in informing myself and researching. Love your guy's videos!
Hey, have you decided what you will do now? I am heading into my last year of highschool and debating a gap year as well!
@@kirb644 Hello. I am taking a gap year though because of the virus I'm not going to au pair anymore, not this year anyways. I'm going to au pair a couple of summers from now though. But it's really hard to determine what next year will look like so I can't say for sure whether it's a good idea or not to take a gap year. I'd say make sure you weigh your options carefully before you decide to take a gap year. Make sure you have a general idea of what you want to do in your gap year and see if you have the funds to support what you want to do. I'd say still apply to colleges if that's what you want to do after your gap year is up just in case for some reason your gap year plan doesn't work out. Hope you figure out what you're going to do. A gap year can be rewarding though it's hard to travel and such during this time and you'll just have to wait and see what next year will entail.
This is the opposite side when some families write down in their profile like « we’ll treat you like an elder sister », but in reality you’re more employée than a sis
It was the same to me in China. I was a clown for the kid and knew this luxury chinese lifestyle. But it’s not for me. Maybe they expected it from previous au pair before, but I’m not like she.
So I was really glad that I quit. And went traveling around South Asia and came back to my hometown
What will you do now? Find a new family or?
Stay strong, girl!!! I’m sure you’ll get through this sh**
I knew I had leave my first Finnish family after 2 weeks. I later found out that their previous au pair had also left them because of the host mom
what happend?
What happened?
As a new host family, this breaks my heart. We would never expect this from our Au pair. On the flip side, it’s been very hard to find an Au pair that feels ready to make the jump and match with us. I know it’s a hard decision but it’s been so much harder to match than I thought.
i suggest that you please create a Facebook or what's App group for the au pairs abroad so they can help each other what to do and what not and exchange experiences and even make friends so u won't be so alone in that country and feel depressed and always get help or motivation
it's already been created and has more than 1000 members! check out the description for the APOP Open Forum link !
I'm an Au Pair in the Netherlands right now and I have been here since August 2019. I did rematch at the start because my first family were a bit mental lol but now I'm with my current family and I am having the time of my life. Everything is amazing right now, I get treated a lot better, I actually feel a part of the family and I don't have to hide myself away at the end of every day. However, besides all of this, I really want to go home now. I went home for Christmas and maybe 2 weeks in between my rematching stage, and I've been here full time since January. I really just want to go home now, I miss my family, friends and pets so much. And now everything with the Coronavirus is making me so much more scared because the number of cases in the Netherlands now is 82 and it's scaring me because the government might start closing down airports, cancelling flights etc if the situation gets any worse. I want to get home before all of that happens and I have no idea how to tell my host mum. I already feel so bad about it because they've given me so much joy and happiness and I feel like such a bitch if I tell them I'm leaving. I'm meant to sty until August but there is no way I can last until then. Any comments and relief is much welcome!
hi, you wrote it last year and i'm just wondering how did your situation end? I'm in a pretty similar situation and i'm just lost in my thoughts🥴🥴
Honestly I am cracking and I don’t know what to do or how to handle the situation
Lool I would just leave in the middle of the night and go to a hotel and vacation in peace 🤷🏾♀️ and I wouldn’t tell them, I will enjoy picturing the looks on their faces. IDGAF 😂 the misery and panic they’ll go through trying to find another au pair ASAP will bring me peace😂 That’s why it’s important to ALWAYS TRAVEL WITH YOUR OWN MONEY!
I was an Aupair for 2 years the fist 1year was horrible but i managed to stay for 1 year because i need to save that money! Iwas overworked in vacation u must have ur own room for privacy reasons! I did sleep with the kids while parents have another room! Aupairs should be a parz of a family like a big sis not a slave or just part of household for work! I hope you find a very good host family next time ! ❤
Have you ever hosted for a single father? I want to invite an au pair to me home to help with my daughter, but I wonder if it's unconventional. Also I live in the California in somewhat of a rural area so I wonder if anyone would want to travel here. It is a touristy area though. But I mostly wonder if my being a single father would be a comfortable situation for an au pair.
Hi there! In order to be an au pair in America you need to have an agency, talk to them and let them know your situation, good luck!!
How will I trust that you are seriously looking for help?
Thank one for sharing.
Thank you for watching!
can i keep an au pair visa and not get a host family if the first one really sucked and you dont wanna do it anymore?
do you think it would be a good investment to buy your own second hand bike maybe from a thrift shop in Paris then when you leave you just donate it to a thrift shop?? Sorry that's a weird question haha
not a weird questions at all. Personally I am a member of the velib parsi bike system! It's 45 euros for the entire year and is way more convenient than my own bike!
Hi I am an Au Pair in sort of the same pickle and would love to contact you for some advice. Is that possible?
Wait so-
So working without getting free days and sleeping with the kids and being with them 24/7 is not ok.I will have to leave then lol.Besides I’m being overworked.Thank you for this ,I finally have the courage
Always remember to put you needs first, it is important for you to feel comfortable always. We're always happy to help!
That’s true thank you.
I'm a nanny in America, I would love to au pair. I'm also an older woman (47). I don't know how to go about it can anyone help? At this moment I have a horrible nanny situation at the moment and want out.
Au pairs are usually 18-35 years old, hardly ever older. I suggest you look for a nanny job
@@StephanieTips I would like to inquire from you if you don't mind the country that allows aupair at the age of 35 coz I wanted to apply for one but I was lacking some information and 30yrs old. Thanks
I mean am 30yrs old now
@@constanceconnie1586 check on AuPairWorld because several families are ok with different ages
@@StephanieTips thanks dear
I want be an au pair how to find family to start working?
Most of the families who needs an aupair are fucked up, I had many host families exactly 8, and just trying and hoping ... They just like dont want to be with their kids, but they wants to seem to perfect family outside, but inside is a big mess as you described, no system or order in the household, even the parents cant disipline their child. You were lucky at least because even if an aupair doesnot have to clean etc they made u to do it anyway... I t also depends what is the nacionality of the Family. I dont mentions names here... You can find yourself on the street if they get angry or you do something wrong you supposed to but of course how we should know if noone tells us. Police or agencies are not helping you at all in emergency they will always support the family... I am very dissapointed in this Aupair program, this is like hiring a cheap servant from an other not well developed country so they think you are desperate and you cant do anything, u dont know where to go etc. Yes you feel urself in a cage... No private life at all. No rest on ur free days, u live ur boss and u always feel like u are working. I was hiding food in my room on my free days in the room just not to see to go to the kitchen and the livingroom to see them. I finished this life forever....I cant even watch through ur video sorry, just brought up many awful memories and pain:(
How do people become Aupair?tell us we try also
Mary Kalungu there are many ways! Either through an agency or platforms like au pair world! We have plenty of videos explaining just that on our channel!
Overworked and underpaid, these French people are taking advantage of the cheap labor, treating you like a fucking maid. Anyone would have quit
It’s my dream to be an Au Pair