The Baby Snatcher. Did She Deserve It Or A Victim Herself? Mystery & Makeup GRWM | Bailey Sarian

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  • @sister7465
    @sister7465 3 роки тому +8265

    I love the phrase " It explains it, it doesn't excuse it." When talking about bad people. Bailey, you are awesome.

    • @sephrajackson3381
      @sephrajackson3381 3 роки тому +79

      I agree I love the phrase “It explains it, it doesn’t excuse it.” I love Bailey’s Monday videos.

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 роки тому +86

      Definitely. Like it's an explanation but certainly not an excuse

    • @megangabriell7583
      @megangabriell7583 3 роки тому +38

      Never heard this before but it is really a perfect saying for a lot of things.

    • @sarahbrivio4159
      @sarahbrivio4159 3 роки тому +164

      This and "you can understand the reason behind someone's actions without having to forgive them for what they did".

    • @sherriexsal
      @sherriexsal 3 роки тому +11

      @@sarahbrivio4159 oooooo love it

  • @alexayn
    @alexayn 3 роки тому +2923

    Bailey: “but you know, it’s still...”
    Me: “suspish!”
    Bailey: “questionable.”
    Me: 😐

  • @Mgmorris98
    @Mgmorris98 2 роки тому +3606

    things I’ve learned from true crime:
    don’t walk outside
    don’t be pregnant
    don’t be in your car alone
    don’t be a child
    don’t be asleep in your own house
    don’t get married

    • @ingrid9443
      @ingrid9443 2 роки тому +589

      Don't you dare smile and light up a room

    • @sabrinamameri8309
      @sabrinamameri8309 2 роки тому +362

      @@ingrid9443 Don't be the life of the party or have a personality bigger than life itself

    • @ingrid9443
      @ingrid9443 2 роки тому +84

      @@sabrinamameri8309 lol survival 101

    • @laurenwasinger9436
      @laurenwasinger9436 2 роки тому +53

      Don’t be female. Don’t have a bubbly personality.

    • @ilanaclaasen3384
      @ilanaclaasen3384 2 роки тому +209

      Don't be part of a "normal" "happy: family

  • @victorialeeder2651
    @victorialeeder2651 2 роки тому +1104

    I'm a little late watching this, but as an EMT who often arrives on scenes like this one with cops/detectives/etc, I can confirm that my place of work does provide a certain amount of free therapy to all of us first responders. What's scary, and something I certainly find the longer I work there, is that only a small amount of people will actually accept it. We are encouraged not to dismiss our feelings but we do it anyway. It's one of the worst parts of the job, learning to live with those ghosts you couldn't even begin to save. I can't imagine what those who discovered this scene went through, especially her poor mother.

    • @jackiechild9740
      @jackiechild9740 2 роки тому +24

      If it's being offered for free everyone should seek therapy, if having to deal with anything like this case. You need someone to talk to that isn't connected to it in any way. Trauma will have a negative impact on your life, whether it is current or historical. It's easier to deal with when it's current... after some time it is so much harder

    • @vanityplates3125
      @vanityplates3125 2 роки тому +12

      Thank you for what you do.

    • @cphilips66
      @cphilips66 2 роки тому +29

      First responders I know chose to not have the help offered because of the stigma the think they'll face from peers, wanting to feel like they have it together, and fear that the therapist could recommend they take time off work (to the boss). People seek help when it feels safe. A system where you could lose your income and reputation is a big ask for these folks who are already absorbing so much.

    • @Sweetlove87
      @Sweetlove87 2 роки тому +1

      Hope to hear more and make a video on these for educational purposes

    • @v1nnys
      @v1nnys 2 роки тому +3

      I hope you’re doing okay, Victoria. Thank you for what you do. 🧡

  • @aaliyahrandom
    @aaliyahrandom 3 роки тому +4724

    “But scratch the shxt out of attackers.”
    -Safety PSA by Bailey Sarian

    • @jessortega88
      @jessortega88 3 роки тому +24

      We need a billboard

    • @paolamendoza2868
      @paolamendoza2868 3 роки тому +26

      The makeup and her face make it funny 😂

    • @paolamendoza2868
      @paolamendoza2868 3 роки тому +34

      Very serious and important message though

    • @abbygaletirado2091
      @abbygaletirado2091 3 роки тому +20

      Also don’t forget to buy the mother Effer So you have DNA in the mouth to

    • @erinanne80
      @erinanne80 3 роки тому +9

      The more you know*

  • @jessiestewart1991
    @jessiestewart1991 3 роки тому +7001

    I need a shirt that says “ if I go missing call Bailey Sarian”

  • @shylasue4
    @shylasue4 Рік тому +97

    The fact that her baby is about to graduate high school right now is crazy. Can’t believe it’s been that long already

  • @deannajunkin3696
    @deannajunkin3696 2 роки тому +57

    I am from the same county as Lisa Montgomery and had an infant daughter when this event occurred. A friend of mine was pregnant and lived across the street from the convenience store where Lisa worked. She asked my friend about her pregnancy and my friend told her she was having a boy. Lisa replied, "Oh, I am having a girl." It is chilling to think of it now.

  • @megh694
    @megh694 3 роки тому +2547

    You can have *compasion* for the abuse a person suffered in their past and at the same time fervently condemn them and their actions. Two truths can exist at the same time.

  • @PixelStacker
    @PixelStacker 3 роки тому +4866

    The fact that Lisa gets punishment for her crime but the people who abused her so viciously don't is the second most horrifying part of this story to me. absolutely

    • @sierrawhite8351
      @sierrawhite8351 3 роки тому +402

      I completely agree, she definitely deserved to be punished Bc what she did was unfathomable, but that doesn’t mean that Lisa herself does not deserve Juctice for all that she went through.

    • @athenabucci3253
      @athenabucci3253 3 роки тому +198

      I agree. I think the death penalty was too harsh a punishment for her, especially after everything she had been through and the countless people that didn't have her back when she needed it most (even the judge who never reported the abuse!!).

    • @kylersaurus42
      @kylersaurus42 3 роки тому +12

      I concur!

    • @Mrs_Morgan
      @Mrs_Morgan 3 роки тому +6

      Agree.

    • @Kayla_Kimbrell
      @Kayla_Kimbrell 3 роки тому +4

      I totally agree!

  • @jonathanjenniferlovett5370
    @jonathanjenniferlovett5370 Рік тому +99

    When I became pregnant with my 3rd child it was a total surprise bc i was on birth control. I jokingly told a friend that she could keep my baby. My husband (at the time) made it clear that i was joking but just a few weeks later this woman started buying baby clothes!!! We noped right out of that and moved away! I still don't know what the friend's intentions were but i wasn't gonna wait around and find out!

  • @cn_esthetique
    @cn_esthetique 2 роки тому +95

    Lisa’s condition may explain what she did but doesn’t excuse what she did. Many people go through horrible, horrible stuff and don’t become monsters.

  • @lindseystraley9596
    @lindseystraley9596 3 роки тому +2951

    Lisa was A victim, but she was not THE victim in this case. My heart hurts for her as a child but there is absolutely no excuse for what she did, period.

    • @CheshieD
      @CheshieD 3 роки тому +131

      Absolutely no excuse, just an explanation. Which is sad.

    • @jesslopez7731
      @jesslopez7731 3 роки тому +87

      This is absolutely so well said. A lot of people tried to make excuses for her which I get because she did have a horrible life. But it does not excuses her for her actions and while she was a victim she was not a victim in this particular case.

    • @nvm5016
      @nvm5016 3 роки тому +63

      Just like the joker. Criminals are just broken souls. They encounter bad, but also do bad. You cant blame them for their past, but you can blame them for what they do because of their past.

    • @dagnydo2472
      @dagnydo2472 2 роки тому +8

      Amen! I couldn't be a defense attorney. Not one that uses a bunk defense just for a notch in their belt. I couldn't live with myself.

    • @eleanaofficial
      @eleanaofficial 2 роки тому +1

      💯 💯 💯

  • @Ms.Stephanie.C
    @Ms.Stephanie.C 3 роки тому +1600

    Monsters create monsters. It’s too bad that Lisa’s Stepfather, mother, and all of her other abusers, didn’t have to face the music for their crimes too!!

    • @flossiemae927
      @flossiemae927 3 роки тому +115

      Agree 1000% percent! THESE are the types of people that deserve the death penalty! I have stated on many juror questionnaires that "I believe anyone who abuses a child should be put to death". Guess what? I don't get picked.

    • @ilicarriedoll2843
      @ilicarriedoll2843 3 роки тому +20

      yes yes yes 1000% percent agree!

    • @lulzgibberish3772
      @lulzgibberish3772 3 роки тому +77

      @@flossiemae927 as someone who got sexually abused in my childhood, I want to thank you. I often feel like people think I speak "just out of trauma" or that I "overreact".
      Those people have of course no idea how it is, but they also have probably never visually imagined what's exactly going on in those situations and what the rapists/ abusers exactly do.
      Therefore to read this makes me tear up. Thank you so much

    • @kathylynch9732
      @kathylynch9732 3 роки тому +3

      Agreed

    • @rimjhimdhusiya699
      @rimjhimdhusiya699 3 роки тому +52

      I don't understand why can't we put the convicts abuser to trail. Like yes the person did commit a heinous crime but that doesn't mean the monsters who made her a monster should be able to roam free . Like idk if it's too hard but if they can't give those monsters a punishment atleast put them to shame. Just because the crime wasn't reported doesn't mean that the crime didn't occur . I feel then real justice would be given

  • @christiannaauthor
    @christiannaauthor 2 роки тому +218

    My mom was always so worried this was going to happen to me when I was pregnant she always kept tabs on me and tried to keep me home as much as possible. Sad we live in a world where this is a valid concern

    • @kansas_mom136
      @kansas_mom136 2 роки тому +8

      That's what my mom and neighbors did too.
      It's a crazy world we live in..

  • @mama.danni.bell17
    @mama.danni.bell17 2 роки тому +316

    Phantom pregnancy are very very real and extremely traumatic. After I had a miscarriage I went through a phantom pregnancy. I had phantom kicks, gained weight, mood swings, started producing breast milk, and even though I was going to an OB and therapy I started believing maybe I was pregnant. It was only 3 months after losing a baby at 7 weeks. Maybe baby was a twin, maybe I got pregnant again, or maybe I didn't lose baby at all. I also didn't take a pregnancy test because I didn't want the truth. Idk how to fully explain it, but once I came to the realization there was no baby, about 6 weeks later or 4.5 months after the loss of baby, it was like I lost another baby and went through another miscarriage.
    Positive ending, we have 3 beautiful girls. 🥰

    • @rosesanderson4625
      @rosesanderson4625 Рік тому +18

      Thank you for sharing your experience. People don't understand how traumatic and mind altering pregnancy and pregnancy loss can be.

    • @mama.danni.bell17
      @mama.danni.bell17 Рік тому +8

      @@rosesanderson4625 Agree, Especially the men who make the rules. 🙄 So many hormones are changing and up and down.

    • @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470
      @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470 Рік тому +4

      Lisa knew that she was lying about being pregnant and simply wanted not to be caught in her lies.

    • @Angel-444.69
      @Angel-444.69 10 місяців тому +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m so happy that you and your family have a happy ending to your pregnancy story!

    • @mama.danni.bell17
      @mama.danni.bell17 10 місяців тому +1

      @@Angel-444.69 thank you 🥰🫂

  • @TheSugaroreo
    @TheSugaroreo 3 роки тому +3313

    When it comes to perpetrators with traumatic backgrounds, it’s okay to feel bad for the child version of them but it’s important to hold the adult version of them accountable for their actions. But accountability can also be done with empathy and consideration of their traumatic background, which Bailey does so well.

    • @katelynlajune9907
      @katelynlajune9907 3 роки тому +33

      Very well said!

    • @solay825
      @solay825 3 роки тому +25

      Wow that’s was perfect

    • @Forgiven313
      @Forgiven313 3 роки тому +21

      That's the perfect way to describe that!

    • @angenev2008
      @angenev2008 3 роки тому +11

      So wise !

    • @JordynMariah979
      @JordynMariah979 3 роки тому +7

      Very true, also I love your profile picture ❤️ so dang cute 😍

  • @ALRs89pounds
    @ALRs89pounds 2 роки тому +6296

    As awful as the crime Lisa committed is, I’m more angry at the fact that Lisa’s mum, stepfather and all the rapists never faced justice

    • @Jade-in9xn
      @Jade-in9xn 2 роки тому +127

      @Nina yeah fr! They where so clearly a danger to society while Lisa with help and being closely look after couldn’t have harmed anyone :/

    • @the_great_eli8644
      @the_great_eli8644 2 роки тому +64

      This is so cruel that my brain just refuses to wrap itself around that people like these exist, it almost feels like something that came from a fictional story but no. That's just so dark.

    • @kurochan_dat90schick
      @kurochan_dat90schick 2 роки тому +25

      @Hannah Smith nah they should be put to death and not have a bed, a meal, and still breathing...

    • @rat8984
      @rat8984 2 роки тому +44

      @@kurochan_dat90schick death's too easy for them. They get the worst treatment from other prisoners (rightfully so) and that's pretty much the closest to a worthy punishment they can get.

    • @bspeducation5438
      @bspeducation5438 2 роки тому

      Truee

  • @jessicaellis184
    @jessicaellis184 Рік тому +86

    As someone who was abused in every way as a child I’ve never purposely hurt another human. I’m terrified of violence and while I dislike being around fellow humans I don’t think I could ever hurt someone🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @kimberlyelliott7933
      @kimberlyelliott7933 Рік тому +5

      Same here EXACTLY 💯

    • @hayesoswald9699
      @hayesoswald9699 Рік тому +3

      Exactly, I can’t even think abt causing someone the same pain I’ve been through

    • @apatheticaesthetic.
      @apatheticaesthetic. Рік тому +4

      I definitely feel &; agree 1000% with your statement. The trauma I’ve gone through.. emotionally and sexually. The emotional was the worst.. I couldn’t hurt someone else unless they were hurting me.. because why make someone go through the pain that others put us through.. break the cycle.

  • @mimi56565
    @mimi56565 2 роки тому +39

    I feel like Bailey should put on screen at the beginning of her videos the definitions of "empathy" and "sympathy" for people unable to make the difference

  • @heather_doestruecrime
    @heather_doestruecrime 3 роки тому +1356

    I’m so disgusted hearing the things Lisa went through as a child. It’s not an excuse at all - but a lesson that this is what happens when sick, abusive, twisted people have access to children. This entire story is devastating.

    • @stefanieevans713
      @stefanieevans713 3 роки тому +49

      Totally agree. I’m so confused on how I feel regarding this story.

    • @nk47100
      @nk47100 3 роки тому +36

      And then those people who did that to her probably were treated badly as children too. It’s a cycle.

    • @abdazizkhairullahbinsuhaim3578
      @abdazizkhairullahbinsuhaim3578 3 роки тому +8

      Agreed. Really such a tragedy

    • @maiawaive9566
      @maiawaive9566 3 роки тому +28

      I hate to say this but it’s sadly like what do you expect? How do you expect this woman would grow up to become? I feel so awful for her but also for Bobbie Jo because that is probably one of the worst ways to die.

    • @jgarcia4721
      @jgarcia4721 3 роки тому +12

      A tragedy on all sides, really.

  • @SamiSmolboi
    @SamiSmolboi 3 роки тому +2177

    Being pregnant was probably the best Lisa was ever treated. That’s so sad.

    • @jacqueline6124
      @jacqueline6124 3 роки тому +14

      Exactly:(

    • @dawnreallagusad380
      @dawnreallagusad380 3 роки тому +14

      That is so sad😢

    • @liv1639
      @liv1639 3 роки тому +95

      It's probably the only time the abuse stopped for her.

    • @YelumCarolyn
      @YelumCarolyn 3 роки тому

      Ya it is because I’m pregnant and not treated that great... people say the rudest things to you...

    • @SantanaCampbell
      @SantanaCampbell 3 роки тому +1

      She faked her pregnancy!

  • @123456789bbqkk
    @123456789bbqkk 2 роки тому +46

    When I was pregnant I refused to be in public without my husband to protect me in fear of this exact thing happening!!! If anyone talked to me even being sweet I would be scared that they were targeting me. Very strange feeling.

  • @Amanda-cv7vn
    @Amanda-cv7vn 2 роки тому +55

    I think bailey is so beautiful before and after makeup and I love her online personality she's totally the vibe

  • @hmwalker79
    @hmwalker79 3 роки тому +1702

    "Bobby Jo regained consciousness after her stomach was cut open". Can you even imagine? That is completely beyond horrific.

    • @jennytimelord9689
      @jennytimelord9689 3 роки тому +126

      A testament to a mother's love and strength! She fought til the very end and I think that's the takeaway. I don't want to hear about this evil woman, I want to focus on this mother who was bleeding out and still tried to go find her baby girl. That's sad and amazing!

    • @mariagallegos7211
      @mariagallegos7211 3 роки тому +1

      @@minnthirteen.6534 which episodeeeeeee

    • @eilidhcathcart5024
      @eilidhcathcart5024 3 роки тому +31

      This case is horrific.
      Side note; Bailey would definitely suit dimple piercings

    • @mfc3553
      @mfc3553 3 роки тому +20

      She fought so hard for her life and baby!.

    • @pharris6875
      @pharris6875 3 роки тому +5

      @@minnthirteen.6534 how horrible, I hadn't heard that.😔

  • @jessiewilliams257
    @jessiewilliams257 3 роки тому +2770

    Lisa’s mom should be held accountable for being such an awful human.

    • @jessiewilliams257
      @jessiewilliams257 3 роки тому +70

      I definitely agree.. the men should be held accountable as well.

    • @crystalc6812
      @crystalc6812 3 роки тому +5

      @Either Or 100%

    • @natalierathbone4349
      @natalierathbone4349 3 роки тому +31

      What she did was awful, but it was a product of her being systematically failed by everyone around her

    • @elleimonoyama152
      @elleimonoyama152 2 роки тому +32

      The woman who gave birth to Lisa shouldn't be classified as a mother. Any woman who is horrible to their own offspring doesn't deserve that title. It's an insult to all women who genuinely love & care for their kids.

    • @mrsbee5056
      @mrsbee5056 2 роки тому +1

      Yes you can see the ripple effect this has years after. She should have been in court too

  • @toni6490
    @toni6490 2 роки тому +90

    I laughed so hard when Bailey said, "My initials are BS..."with that silly look on her face like 'Yeah...' 😆 so cute! ☺💟

  • @Lenzid82
    @Lenzid82 2 роки тому +47

    I read this book years ago! Glad to know how the story finally ended. Anyone who can “successfully” remove a baby with a kitchen knife isn’t mentally incompetent to me. The courts made the right decision.

  • @bitterswt845
    @bitterswt845 3 роки тому +1521

    The fact that there are that many sick men that would pay to sleep with an 11 year old ...sick 🤢🤮

    • @chaldeokpai
      @chaldeokpai 3 роки тому +59

      Its a sick world we live in

    • @crystalc6812
      @crystalc6812 3 роки тому +96

      and parents that would rent the daughter out..sick, disturbing and awful!!

    • @chelseaw2086
      @chelseaw2086 3 роки тому +40

      The same thing happened to my half-sister when she was 12. The fact that anyone could do that to their kid is disgusting.

    • @carbine090909
      @carbine090909 3 роки тому +18

      @TheLovelyRose sadly, this isn't a recent trend.

    • @jennSalvate
      @jennSalvate 3 роки тому +15

      There are men out there that pay to sleep with kids even younger than 11 years old...😳😥🤬

  • @annab2059
    @annab2059 3 роки тому +1803

    i think she is definitely a victim, but i don't believe it excuses her actions. like you said, it takes a special kind of sick to do something so horrible.

    • @TaxidriverBarbi
      @TaxidriverBarbi 3 роки тому +28

      Yes, most of abused people don't abuse also.

    • @jackiejeffords2932
      @jackiejeffords2932 3 роки тому +107

      @@TaxidriverBarbi I actually disagree with this. I think many abused people abuse. That's why it's so important to break the cycle. My mum's childhood was so traumatic, it's all she knew. She was an abusive mother herself, because she didnt know how not to be one. Getting people help in time is also important

    • @AmberGNoExcusesMinistries
      @AmberGNoExcusesMinistries 3 роки тому +9

      @@jackiejeffords2932 we should pray for the abused

    • @Mostlikelee
      @Mostlikelee 3 роки тому +7

      also one more thing, you cant really say it doesn’t excuse her actions. you haven’t ever been through what shes been through you may be right but who are you to judge? who are you?

    • @pamelamorris3148
      @pamelamorris3148 3 роки тому +21

      @@jackiejeffords2932 most abused people break the cycle by not being abusers themselves and Doing all they can to not become an abuser.

  • @kimmypaz2208
    @kimmypaz2208 2 роки тому +24

    A similar case happened here in chicago in 2019. It was so sad everyone mourned the mothers and son’s death. RIP Marlen Ochoa-Lopez and her baby 🕊

  • @NK-ox9uo
    @NK-ox9uo 2 роки тому +16

    Bailey you’re awesome I’m 68 years old and I listen to you as often as I can. You’re a very understanding and empathetic person. Bless you sweetie.

  • @nancydavis7499
    @nancydavis7499 3 роки тому +2374

    Why isn’t there punishment for the parents who abused their children? Yes even after the fact!

    • @bugzzz012
      @bugzzz012 3 роки тому +195

      I was thinking about this too! Like, Lisa's mom was there when her daughter -- the child she trafficked and abused -- get the lethal injection?? She wasn't in jail????

    • @samofsamnation7523
      @samofsamnation7523 3 роки тому +36

      Typically the statute of limitations for average crimes (statute of limitations being the amount of time after a crime that a person can begin a trial over) is anywhere from 1-6 years in the US, however higher offenses like child abuse have anywhere from 30 years to no limitations for opening a case/beginning a trial. Some of the states have laws specifying that the statute is unlimited if the survivor/victim filed a complaint within 1-2 years of abuse.
      Hope that explains it.

    • @CocoAvalon
      @CocoAvalon 3 роки тому +6

      Statute of limitations expired

    • @seaworthysleeper
      @seaworthysleeper 3 роки тому +34

      @@samofsamnation7523 yess came here to say this. some states have an unlimited statute IF the child was under a certain age, too, which kind of just... blows my mind, I guess because I dont know the thought process behind that. I'd love for unlimited ones everywhere because so many people who had been abused as children could feel better, ya know.

    • @vanessashilling2012
      @vanessashilling2012 3 роки тому

      Because there's something called statute of limitations.

  • @Nicole0515Peach
    @Nicole0515Peach 3 роки тому +2631

    Morbid podcast says “you can feel for the child, not the adult” when someone has a hard upbringing! It makes me feel better because people have awful upbringings, but it doesn’t excuse their crimes.

    • @maebandy
      @maebandy 3 роки тому +85

      The purpose of us being fascinated and curious about morbid things is not to get angry and assign punishment. It's to empathize, learn and course correct within our own lives.

    • @imcalledweasley9280
      @imcalledweasley9280 3 роки тому +138

      My old counsellor told me a few years ago
      “people may have a reason that explains certain behaviour, that doesn’t mean they can use it as an excuse for their behaviour”

    • @Himaryous
      @Himaryous 3 роки тому +46

      But being psychotic and intellectually disabled is relevant and the jury had a right to know that.

    • @conniebratcher9936
      @conniebratcher9936 3 роки тому

      Exactly!

    • @conniebratcher9936
      @conniebratcher9936 3 роки тому +1

      @@imcalledweasley9280 that’s the best explanation!

  • @ambernthomas5093
    @ambernthomas5093 Рік тому +15

    When I was pregnant with my first I had a nightmare that something like this happened. I woke up in tears sobbing my eyes out. That poor woman will never have gotten to hold her baby 🥺

  • @myodetosleep
    @myodetosleep 2 роки тому +208

    when bailey said “who’s middle name isn’t marie” i felt personally attacked

    • @babyphatpenut
      @babyphatpenut 2 роки тому +6

      This tho 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Dizzyray822
      @Dizzyray822 2 роки тому +5

      Me too!! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @alexwiley1996
      @alexwiley1996 10 місяців тому +2

      My middle name is Catherine lol 😂

    • @PyroWolfofEarth
      @PyroWolfofEarth 10 місяців тому +3

      My sister's middle name is Marie, which I laughed at, but mine is Celestia.

    • @elkegerlach7060
      @elkegerlach7060 8 місяців тому +2

      Really you need to chill...listen to what's happening out there in the world!!!! Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't be so insecure, oh boy!

  • @tima1520
    @tima1520 3 роки тому +2292

    The fact Bailey still speaks to us as her friends and she apologised for missing the last couple Mondays when she absolutely did not need to means so much

    • @akiraleigh7180
      @akiraleigh7180 3 роки тому +31

      exactly i’ve been waiting and thinking to myself the whole time she is probably busy doing important things now that she is getting more viewers and fans ❤️😄i patiently wait

    • @clarissa8477
      @clarissa8477 3 роки тому +6

      I didn’t even notice lol.

    • @gothkittenlife
      @gothkittenlife 3 роки тому +18

      Yeah I like that she talks to us like we're, friends and people rather then a lot of people who treat people like fans or who are unimportant. I love her I'm super excited for what her other channel will be.

    • @chrissymammabear4554
      @chrissymammabear4554 3 роки тому +1

      Agree 100%

    • @vahi-nageorge9528
      @vahi-nageorge9528 3 роки тому +10

      I literally feel like she’s my friend

  • @tillydee933
    @tillydee933 3 роки тому +598

    "Scratch the s*** out of the attacker" is actually fantastic advice. No a great situation to be in, but set up justice however you can....

    • @shannonhensley2942
      @shannonhensley2942 3 роки тому +42

      Do you best to disfigure them as well. If you can say I scratched their arm hard enough to bleed , they they have a better chance of finding them. Especially if you can't remember what they look like, or the discriptiin is vague.

    • @bethtinx
      @bethtinx 3 роки тому +27

      Rip out hairs from the root when in an Uber or taxi too

    • @crystaldenee765
      @crystaldenee765 3 роки тому +17

      Also LEAVE something of YOURS at the scene, like jewelry, a piece of clothing, ANYTHING

    • @melissanossaman3401
      @melissanossaman3401 3 роки тому +8

      You can definitely tell who watches Dateline and 48 hours! 🤣 I try to always keep my nails long for that very reason! If you come after me your going to be bleeding!

    • @juliavalentine5291
      @juliavalentine5291 3 роки тому +3

      You should do that, and also leave a trail of your own hair, blood, and you can bite off your own finger tips. Leave as much evidence behind as you can. I pray no one is ever in that situation though.

  • @endless3cho
    @endless3cho 2 роки тому +31

    Get that DNA however possible, ppl. Bailey is correct. I also pray 🙏 that none of you EVER run into a situation where you need to use these techniques.

  • @DaDanceMom
    @DaDanceMom Рік тому +22

    The fact that she knew enough to watch videos of c-section and then actually do it...girl, she knew what she was doing

  • @msdixie1972
    @msdixie1972 3 роки тому +1718

    Even worse than her mom who trafficked her was all the men who happily took the child as payment. How many people do we run into every day who would do the same??

    • @kiwirocky7971
      @kiwirocky7971 3 роки тому +138

      That’s the most terrifying part of this story for me too

    • @Ellieg1999
      @Ellieg1999 3 роки тому +11

      Literally!!

    • @peopledisappointme18
      @peopledisappointme18 3 роки тому +102

      It's absolutely disgusting, many men and women in powerful positions do so everyday. We just don't hear about it because it's covered up. Plenty of human trafficking survivors have talked about all the lawyers, politicians, doctors, cops and so on that they saw come in to be with different children.

    • @ummesaima_18
      @ummesaima_18 3 роки тому +14

      ...I wouldn’t want to know that’s terrifying and disgusting

    • @punxie89
      @punxie89 3 роки тому +4

      It's terrifying

  • @katriinanevanpera8673
    @katriinanevanpera8673 3 роки тому +2634

    Imagine that kid hearing how she was born, must be awful 😩

    • @ambrianaamarieee
      @ambrianaamarieee 3 роки тому +163

      i was thinking the same thing🥺 didn’t even get to meet or have her real mom cause bc of something horrible like that it’s sickening

    • @dagnydo2472
      @dagnydo2472 2 роки тому +10

      TRUE!

    • @louisegross3886
      @louisegross3886 2 роки тому +6

      Sad

    • @604events
      @604events 2 роки тому +6

      Baily and Arnold Faks are my 2 favorite true crime channels

    • @iknowexactlywhoyouare8701
      @iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 2 роки тому +8

      i think the lisa's childhood was way more awful

  • @LizzyCakes
    @LizzyCakes 2 роки тому +23

    This story just makes me mad. The system failed Lisa so many times. So many chances to get her out of that house. Her half sister got taken away by CPS but Lisa had to stay?! Then when she does this (which I’m not condoning at all. Lisa definitely should have been locked up for life) they’re like “Oh OOPPPSSS!!! Hee hee! Sorry you fell through the cracks but you gotta go now. Kbye.”

  • @elizabethlacoss1350
    @elizabethlacoss1350 2 роки тому +11

    One of Lisa’s daughters Kayla lives in the same town with me and her son goes to school with my younger brother! It’s a crazy case

  • @ArigeS
    @ArigeS 2 роки тому +2188

    so u mean to tell me that after ALL OF THIS...lisa's mom and stepdad get to walk FREE?? Literal monsters continue to live their everyday lives??? tf??

    • @LostStarzOfTheSky
      @LostStarzOfTheSky 2 роки тому +87

      Lets not forget her first husband

    • @sailoranders4022
      @sailoranders4022 2 роки тому +8

      Her mom and stepdad are long dead

    • @samorachannel2093
      @samorachannel2093 2 роки тому +28

      An Lisa's serving all of their sentences smh

    • @bspeducation5438
      @bspeducation5438 2 роки тому +4

      It's unjust

    • @Solace6428
      @Solace6428 2 роки тому +8

      More common than one would think. The man who assaulted me still walks free even, and I cant do a thing

  • @Aloraxl
    @Aloraxl 3 роки тому +2148

    When it comes to understanding the killers’ backstory, it’s about empathy, not sympathy. You can understand the circumstances and motives behind their actions but that doesn’t mean that you sympathize with them. 😌

    • @Thewhitequeen0
      @Thewhitequeen0 3 роки тому +197

      To add to your point, having no empathy for them frankly just perpetuates the problem that created them. Many of them were raised by people who had no empathy for them and treated them inhumanely. To simply say they are monsters unworthy of compassion or understanding ignores how they were created. They represent the ways our society continues to fail us.

    • @chicanabeauty274
      @chicanabeauty274 3 роки тому +13

      Exactly!!

    • @janicethrasher6205
      @janicethrasher6205 3 роки тому +10

      Well said, thank u 4 articulating

    • @celinaisabel5067
      @celinaisabel5067 3 роки тому +5

      Well said

    • @deemorales218
      @deemorales218 3 роки тому +44

      @@Thewhitequeen0 to ignore the plight of another is to perpetuate it. There were many people involved in making this particular monster. Let’s do better as a society. Who else loves the smart people in the comments? I know I do!

  • @annamassey396
    @annamassey396 2 роки тому +16

    I wish you would do one on the storie about Hailey Cummings. The Five year old girl from Satsuma Florida. I lived there at the time and my youngest daughter was in her Kindergarten class. It ripped my heart out to be honest. I knew this child. I helped look for her. And to this day, I still think about Hailey. Wondering what really happened.

  • @tylerrochelleart5707
    @tylerrochelleart5707 Рік тому +9

    I am a Mr Ballen fan and saw a pic of you guys, had to know who you were. This is the first rando video I was blessed to click on, and as a small business owner, the relatabilitity of “my bad I missed the last 3 mondays, im a one man show” was SO appreciated 🤣😂💪🏽💜
    The collaboration of your story telling and makeup skills kindles the fire in my soul to keep going on my path.
    Thank you.
    Best of luck to you in your endeavors, may you stay encouraged!!

  • @virginiaariaz4214
    @virginiaariaz4214 3 роки тому +4176

    Her parents should have gone to prison for the horrific things they did to her. Then maybe she could have had a chance at life with therapy. The divorce judge should be ashamed of himself. If she had help before hand maybe this might have never happened......Btw happy to see you back

    • @misscyanic2484
      @misscyanic2484 3 роки тому +430

      Sounds like 1/2 the town should've gone to jail for what they did to her!! Oh my, what a sick sick place

    • @asmrwishes
      @asmrwishes 3 роки тому +58

      Facts

    • @buffytheinternetbullyslayer
      @buffytheinternetbullyslayer 3 роки тому +215

      @@misscyanic2484 that part! It seemed like that whole town knew what was happening and turned a blind eye. It’s really angering and sad

    • @VintagePillows
      @VintagePillows 3 роки тому +6

      They do offer consulting.

    • @joydee794
      @joydee794 3 роки тому +4

      Well said , I agree!

  • @sophiehyde2995
    @sophiehyde2995 3 роки тому +5124

    I can’t help but wonder if she “liked” being pregnant because he wasn’t abusing her while she was pregnant. It was probably the only peace she ever got in life

    • @teyagould5823
      @teyagould5823 3 роки тому +286

      Thats what i thought. Lisa’s story of abuse made me cry my eyes out because my own story was so similar (minus the kids)

    • @sophiehyde2995
      @sophiehyde2995 3 роки тому +301

      @@teyagould5823 hearing her story was absolutely heart wrenching. Her family and the system failed her so horribly. It’s so sad that it lead to her ruining so many other lives. Her family should be held accountable for what she endured and her victim.

    • @caitiecatcreates
      @caitiecatcreates 3 роки тому +12

      I agree

    • @Whiskin87
      @Whiskin87 3 роки тому +93

      Exactly. Is was the only time she was actually taken care of and treated nicely, rather than being abused.

    • @LeilaVividSounds
      @LeilaVividSounds 2 роки тому +59

      @@teyagould5823 I’m so sorry you endured anything remotely like that. I hope you have a supportive network x

  • @lisal440
    @lisal440 2 роки тому +10

    This woman actually truly seems insane. Especially if there was no other evidence of her ever being violent or cruel in the past. I think it’s very possible she really just wasn’t in touch with reality at all!

    • @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470
      @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470 Рік тому

      Other people were nothing but things to her, not people who have feelings and lives. Not even the baby she stole. The baby was just a means to an end (of her fake pregnancy) and in her mind the ends justified the means. That is psychopathic.

  • @mariastallman8826
    @mariastallman8826 2 роки тому +44

    You’re 10000% right Bailey, you’re allowed to feel empathy for the pain she went through as a child but hate what she did as an adult.

  • @milo_the_queer8037
    @milo_the_queer8037 3 роки тому +1631

    side note: Bailey tells true crime stories like your gossiping hair dresser from jersey

    • @laurend7816
      @laurend7816 3 роки тому +50

      As someone who's mostly had hairdressers from New Jersey, I can confirm this.

    • @TheBellvue94
      @TheBellvue94 3 роки тому +39

      This is why she's my favorite some of the others sound so monotone. I understand for the seriousness of the stories but this is why I look for Bailey every Monday. N

    • @mollyfoxxx
      @mollyfoxxx 3 роки тому +23

      I’m from Connecticut born and raised (I live in LA now) but YES. She gives me ~tri-state gossip with your hairdresser~ vibes all the time as she spills all the tea about murderers.

    • @laurend7816
      @laurend7816 3 роки тому +16

      @@mollyfoxxx I've lived in Jersey my whole life and the gossiping is my favorite part of getting my hair done. Which reminds me, I need to text my stylist.

    • @stacywhaley9957
      @stacywhaley9957 3 роки тому +4

      Nailed It!!!

  • @jesslambert628
    @jesslambert628 3 роки тому +625

    The saddest part to me is that everyone in this story, could have had a happy ending. If Lisa had been removed from the home at the first sign of abuse, just like her sister, it’s likely that she would never gone on to commit such a vicious crime

    • @benzfadel5594
      @benzfadel5594 3 роки тому +29

      Instead of putting so much energy on locking up and executing people I wish the focus can be shifted to *helping* the human race so we don’t have to bury another person and imprison or execute one, for Pete’s sake when will this country help the children! Fact is you could rehabilitate Lisa to feel remorse she is permanently damaged, that remorse and empathy was supposed to be demonstrated to her when she was a beautiful innocent little girls, fact is she still is a little girl always will be she stopped growing up when her innocence was stolen, it serves no purpose to keep the system the way it is, but there is no hope in this country is there. this empathy we all can’t help but feel for Lisa WILL serve a purpose one day. It will be the drive that motivates us to PROTECT the children so we’d potentially be saving lives.

    • @VerosBeautyChannel
      @VerosBeautyChannel 3 роки тому +11

      This would’ve been avoided if the mom didn’t drink while pregnant so Lisa wouldn’t get brain damage

    • @sheenayadav8714
      @sheenayadav8714 3 роки тому +8

      @@VerosBeautyChannel obviously the mom was also messed up for drinking and allowing her child to be abused. It’s a cycle, as a society we were too late to fix the mom but the damage could be contained if Lisa was saved from such an environment

    • @VerosBeautyChannel
      @VerosBeautyChannel 3 роки тому

      @@sheenayadav8714 that is true

  • @HappyBirddi
    @HappyBirddi Рік тому +57

    The saddest thing to me is that, if I did the math right, Victoria should be around 18 to 19 as of now, maybe 20? Victoria never got to meet her mom and Bobby Jo never got to be a mother to her.

    • @jamangel
      @jamangel Рік тому +2

      Just sick

    • @NefariousEvildoer
      @NefariousEvildoer Рік тому +1

      I wonder how she's come to terms with what happened to her mom. I wonder what she was told as a child and at what age she found out the truth?

    • @laurenkhate2001
      @laurenkhate2001 Рік тому +1

      @@NefariousEvildoer her dad started a foundation, there's an inside edition interview where he speaks. Its s heartbreaking to watch.

  • @savannahralston8877
    @savannahralston8877 2 роки тому +17

    When I was pregnant, I constantly feared this happening to me just because of this case alone. I would find myself wearing many baggy clothes so people would not be attracted to my stomach, especially toward my third trimester. She wasn't mentally there, but dear lord, this is always the worst-case anyone could ever read

    • @thebabblingbudgeter8936
      @thebabblingbudgeter8936 2 роки тому

      Me too.. I always made my grandfather, husband, friends, etc go with me places because I was so scared of going out alone while pregnant.

  • @Classof-wf5jw
    @Classof-wf5jw 3 роки тому +516

    Everyone who abused her should also be in prison

    • @taylorm6797
      @taylorm6797 3 роки тому +37

      Honestly give them the death sentence.

    • @dawsonslady
      @dawsonslady 3 роки тому +6

      Agreed

    • @e.i.3077
      @e.i.3077 3 роки тому +20

      IKR SHE WAS LITERALLY A CHILD! Were talking about a dozen pedos roaming free on the streets as we speak!!!!!

    • @paz6351
      @paz6351 3 роки тому

      @@taylorm6797 Agreed

  • @StephanieMRM
    @StephanieMRM 3 роки тому +650

    the fact that she watched videos on how to do a C-section... she not only planned, she prepared

    • @Sunshineonmymind714
      @Sunshineonmymind714 3 роки тому +109

      This.
      I don’t care how mentally incompetent someone claims to be, if someone can research how to do something heinous, then they are perfectly competent to stand trial and be sentenced accordingly.

    • @amandageyer795
      @amandageyer795 3 роки тому +42

      Not only that she even preplanned the route the day before so she was READY to 💩 things up

    • @catspjs6229
      @catspjs6229 3 роки тому +10

      Exactly! 0 empathy

    • @86crud
      @86crud 3 роки тому +3

      That’s not in dispute.

    • @merdy111
      @merdy111 3 роки тому +31

      Totally agree, if she was smart enough to research, learn & plan out how to do a c-section, herself ....she was mentally capable enough to know what a disgusting & horrific crime she was committing!!! Unfortunately she got, exactly what she deserved....

  • @AWalleye
    @AWalleye 2 роки тому +12

    I was 6 months pregnant when you came out with this video.... I avoided watching this one until now just in case it would freak me out! I'm so glad I did! This story would've freaked me out!

  • @theghostofyou1316
    @theghostofyou1316 2 роки тому +12

    it’s so weird to hear her mention the names of those places that i’ve been around all my life & my grandparents were around all their lives & my dad & his brothers too. i was just a baby when this happened. it’s just weird to be able to know the places she’s talking about on a personal level 💀💀

  • @ashleybryan956
    @ashleybryan956 2 роки тому +6943

    you’re the reason I got into Criminology and now i’m about to graduate and I’m just so grateful for your videos. Thank you, Bailey!!

    • @serenatsukino5252
      @serenatsukino5252 2 роки тому +186

      Wow, that's amazing! Congratulations!

    • @serryjeinfeld4864
      @serryjeinfeld4864 2 роки тому +193

      Kudos to you. I could never get into crime. You’re literally fighting real life monsters😭😭😭

    • @onigireee
      @onigireee 2 роки тому +50

      That sounds so great! All the best to you! 😊

    • @ayahnur27
      @ayahnur27 2 роки тому +45

      Well done!! I hope you go on to have a successful career 🥳

    • @rachel1598
      @rachel1598 2 роки тому +34

      Job security for real. Congrats on the upcoming graduation!

  • @n.a.1667
    @n.a.1667 3 роки тому +548

    Bailey: Hi friends!
    My bf: I didn't know we were friends
    Me: She was talking to me!

  • @mariahreynolds3003
    @mariahreynolds3003 2 роки тому +8

    This happened like 20 miles from where I grew up and my best friend's mom was friends with Bobbie Jo's dad. You should do a video over the Skidmore town bully. There's a movie based on it called "In Broad Daylight"

  • @renn8827
    @renn8827 2 роки тому +9

    I almost skipped this at the beginning because I recognized the case but I’m happy I didn’t skip it because it seemed like it showed a lot more from the killers view than others that just kind of glossed over some details of her fake pregnancies her ex trying to take her kids and that she was abused as a child vs this one that actually went into the detail of her abuse and traumatic life

  • @kailynrisher
    @kailynrisher 3 роки тому +538

    I’m not a cop but I am a first responder, yes they do offer us therapy. There are so many resources!!!! Peer support groups, firefighters support teams, we also have a chaplaincy to respond to scenes for family members!

    • @asmrwishes
      @asmrwishes 3 роки тому +21

      Glad to hear

    • @asvir9110
      @asvir9110 3 роки тому +7

      Yes!! My husbands work also provides support and help to their families as well! Thanks for all you do! ♥️

    • @kailynrisher
      @kailynrisher 3 роки тому +2

      @@asvir9110 ❤️

    • @Sophiasidae
      @Sophiasidae 3 роки тому +2

      that is so relieving 😭

    • @iEatBigTitss
      @iEatBigTitss 3 роки тому +1

      thank you for mentioning peer support specialists :) we are rarely spoken of also thank you for the work you do

  • @rondamatney9633
    @rondamatney9633 3 роки тому +493

    I can have compassion for the little girl Lisa used to be, but I do NOT have compassion for the actions of the adult.

    • @zionl7283
      @zionl7283 3 роки тому +51

      Same here. She did not deserve to go through such a tragic childhood, but it is also our responsibility as adults to heal our traumas.

    • @butterflyfam2522
      @butterflyfam2522 3 роки тому +8

      Well said.

    • @chandlerbond6308
      @chandlerbond6308 3 роки тому +1

      Yes

    • @evy4366
      @evy4366 3 роки тому +23

      I think that was exactly bailey's point too. She feels bad for the little girl Lisa who bad to enure such childhood. However, she cannot and will not condone her actions as an adult.

    • @noodlesauce2553
      @noodlesauce2553 3 роки тому +6

      Well said! You can have compassion for someone, but that doesn't excuse their adult choices

  • @chelseebarber3903
    @chelseebarber3903 2 роки тому +14

    I’ve watched this video a few times, but this is the first time I’m thinking - though she most likely wasn’t in pain due to extreme adrenaline, when she had regained consciousness I bet she had realized her baby had been cut out of her body and she knew exactly what was going on. And she truly couldn’t do anything about it. Imagine that.

  • @angorem6498
    @angorem6498 2 роки тому +21

    When you don’t condemn monsters for their abuse and evil they create evil in their victims. I can only imagine how hard it would be to understand morality when you are raised in such an abusive, twisted environment

  • @achohelelwhy
    @achohelelwhy 3 роки тому +364

    Honestly dude, you're doing the work of like 4 people- research, writing, filming, and editing-- you take your time. We got you, boo. 🥰

    • @jasin1462
      @jasin1462 3 роки тому +3

      🎯

    • @brittanydonohoo2492
      @brittanydonohoo2492 3 роки тому +1

      Does she still have an employee? I wanna say...Christine? Lindsay? I hope so ! She deserves all the help she can get

  • @nani8907
    @nani8907 3 роки тому +732

    I think it's about time we got a new makeup brand called "Suspish"

    • @vanessaaguilar3742
      @vanessaaguilar3742 3 роки тому +40

      I kind of like “BS cosmetics” 😂.

    • @rrp1996
      @rrp1996 3 роки тому +3

      Yes!

    • @dreamcatcher75418
      @dreamcatcher75418 3 роки тому +3

      Isn't that her nail polish line?

    • @LarissaFay
      @LarissaFay 3 роки тому +12

      I agree with two comments here...
      'Suspish by BS Cosmetics'.
      I love this idea SO much. 🖤

    • @WaiiitWhhhat
      @WaiiitWhhhat 3 роки тому +6

      And all the products are named after Bailey phrases and her topics. That’s genius somebody tell Bailey to do this!!!!

  • @vonb4050
    @vonb4050 2 роки тому +10

    Love these videos, especially because of the deep dives into the perpetrators background. My middle name is also Marie so more evidence towards the Marie middle name trend.

  • @FlameEnchantress
    @FlameEnchantress 2 роки тому +8

    Here because I’m digging for episodes I haven’t seen

  • @PunkExMachina
    @PunkExMachina 3 роки тому +599

    There were so many times where Lisa’s torture could’ve stopped. Someone could’ve intervened. But in the end she was alone. all that hatred and abuse she was subjected to turned her into a monster. She’s at fault for her terrible actions but so is everyone that abused and neglected her in a way.

    • @sabrinabrahimi382
      @sabrinabrahimi382 3 роки тому +7

      I feel sorry for her :(

    • @LunarEleven
      @LunarEleven 3 роки тому +37

      It's hard to even define "at fault" clearly, here. We don't know what's going on in people's heads when they are that severely damaged over the course of their entire lives, the formative years in particular. Who knows how much control she had of her decision making? The prefrontal cortex isn't even fully developed until we're 25. What if due to physical and psychological trauma combined with substance abuse, all for YEARS and long before 25, that part of her brain responsible for decision making just NEVER developed adequately?
      I don't think premeditation proves anything though it's the best measure we really have... If she was dissociated from reality and had multiple forms of brain damage, that premeditation was done by a mind playing by rules we don't understand.
      She could never continue to live among other people but if she didn't want to die, I don't see any way we can determine (beyond a reasonable doubt) that she was ever capable of making a decision that warrants execution.

    • @oliviablackburn3907
      @oliviablackburn3907 3 роки тому +6

      It's like they killed Bobby Jo too.

    • @babygalstar1992
      @babygalstar1992 3 роки тому +1

      I agree seriously people

  • @invisiblue3212
    @invisiblue3212 3 роки тому +712

    Never apologize for having empathy, Bailey. There is a seriously appalling lack of it currently. 💖💝

    • @trailsofsunshine4347
      @trailsofsunshine4347 3 роки тому +9

      Absolutely

    • @TheAdrift
      @TheAdrift 3 роки тому +8

      There is also another argument I’ve seen about why we should humanize bad people: if you go around thinking that bad people are monsters rather than humans, then you don’t believe that you or any of your friends/family/acquaintances etc. can be “monsters” or do the sort of bad things that “monsters” do. So like, anyone who thought like that could’ve seen Lisa Montgomery and been like “no way, I know Lisa, she’s not a MONSTER, she would never do something like that” and people inadvertently DO wind up excusing bad behavior because they don’t believe their friend is a monster.
      I guess Bailey gets a lot of hate for trying to explain where these horrible people come from, but honestly, I think she has the right idea. These people don’t just come out of the ground, or fall from the sky-they’re PEOPLE, who came to be people in the standard way. By othering people like this, we close off the ability to maybe solve future problems of why people are like this, after we make more advancements in neuroscience, psychology etc. and can really start nipping these things in the bud.

  • @laurenrose8183
    @laurenrose8183 Рік тому +8

    we just learnt about this in my ethics class like 2 weeks ago, so when i saw this i knew i NEEDED to hear baileys take on this

  • @necromantic318
    @necromantic318 2 роки тому +23

    Typically counseling is in fact offered but it depends on a lot of things: the region, the crime scene context and severity, and funding in the department. So sadly it’s not always as available as it should be.

  • @SherlyMarie
    @SherlyMarie 3 роки тому +432

    NEVER!!get rid of the “Theme Song” that is the essence 🤌🏽makes my day👌🏽

    • @jenab0323
      @jenab0323 3 роки тому +5

      Paris really tried to cancel Bailey...not today!

  • @Laurenjoinsyoutube
    @Laurenjoinsyoutube 3 роки тому +583

    I’m always surprised that parents traffic their kids but also that there are so many willing adults wanting to abuse and buy kids

    • @erinmarie27
      @erinmarie27 3 роки тому +21

      So many twisted people out there 😭😣

    • @AcaciaBieberLove
      @AcaciaBieberLove 3 роки тому +42

      literally.. like how do you even find that out? that people are doing that, or your friend is doing that family is doing that? how do you tell someone hey you can do whatever you want w my child if you do this for me? if that were me i’d be like calling the cops asap, how did no one ever find out?!?! it’s insane

    • @smurfylee
      @smurfylee 3 роки тому +10

      I watched a doco yesterday about child trafficking and it was the most disturbing disgusting video on it I have EVER seen!! It's called the eyes of the devil by a polish journo interviewing a mother that wants to sell her unborn baby and a man who buys kids and goes into detail about the process, how they get them, who buys them and what they do with the children...it is absolutely horrific..

    • @virgie4715
      @virgie4715 3 роки тому +3

      @@AcaciaBieberLove because people who are sick like that or weak and easy to manipulate and use like that they’ll gravitate toward each other. Chances are these types of people are the type of people they’ve always been around and known. It’s usually part of a vicious cycle that started before them.

    • @MENDOZA1ful
      @MENDOZA1ful 3 роки тому +3

      That’s what I was thinking. How did everyone agree? There was not one single person that contact the authorities to report the abuse. They just went with it. It’s so disgusting. It just goes to show how many sick people are out there!

  • @tatertot9118
    @tatertot9118 2 роки тому +10

    Also, coming from a police family and my boyfriend is an officer, yes they do provide therapy for officers if they need It after going to some of these crazy calls. Just wanted to throw It out there lol love your videos

  • @maureenfriel-dehaven8814
    @maureenfriel-dehaven8814 2 роки тому +5

    Bailey, I just love every single thing about you! You are so authentic, so comfortable in your gorgeous skin! Love your honesty and your one of a kind humor! You are so intelligent and so funny at the same time, normally it's
    One or the other! You rock Bailey...I can't imagine you have any trolls but I hope they don't effect you in any way! They are jealous and just don't have a life! Love you girl!!

  • @Niknik2006
    @Niknik2006 3 роки тому +477

    I like that you give the “bad guys background”. It humanizes them and it does explain a lot. Like most of them didn’t just wake up one day and decide to do bad things and be a bad person.

    • @loriwagner7900
      @loriwagner7900 3 роки тому +21

      Me too. Im always wanting to know the why like to get inside their head ya know

    • @KnottyPitMomma
      @KnottyPitMomma 3 роки тому +8

      Yes exactly! I watch allot of prison stuff crime stuff but the ones that get to the why and the how could you? Like how does your brain work!?

    • @urspookyate
      @urspookyate 3 роки тому +2

      that's true - it helps us understand them better. while whatever their background is and what they've been through doesn't excuse their actions, at least u can kind of ... know why they did what they did ?

    • @susanhuffstutler9576
      @susanhuffstutler9576 3 роки тому +7

      The head injuries seem to be pretty consistent with these killers.

    • @haileyquinnmodel
      @haileyquinnmodel 3 роки тому +1

      I think its the ones who just woke up one day and choose crazy are the ones who scare me the most tbh. Because there is no reasoning or cause if that makes sense.

  • @aliciawills4924
    @aliciawills4924 3 роки тому +147

    Certified EMT here and I can confirm that we are indeed offered counseling after traumatic incidents as well as any time we feel it's needed. Can't do the job without it.

  • @krissteen
    @krissteen 2 роки тому +16

    Thank you Bailey for discussing Lisa’s past. Understanding her past is not to validate what she did but to realize that she is human....this is just such a sad story....

  • @aubreyburns360
    @aubreyburns360 6 місяців тому +1

    the way my jaw dropped because i just listened to this episode on spotify and i literally live in maryville right now. I WORKED AT THE KAWASAKI PLANT. i had actually never heard of this story and i grew up in that region. insane

  • @danitsaandaluz4116
    @danitsaandaluz4116 3 роки тому +1097

    Me: “ i hope Bailey posted this week”
    My bf: “it’s been like a month right?”
    Both of us: “ I hope she’s okay”

    • @lindseychamberlain8794
      @lindseychamberlain8794 3 роки тому +26

      check her Instagram! she's alsays posting if she misses a monday! 👏

    • @MM-rd7jm
      @MM-rd7jm 3 роки тому +3

      My fiance and I as well lol...

    • @amandageyer795
      @amandageyer795 3 роки тому +12

      I was like ok one week that normal but after 2 I started to worry too!

    • @jacquelyneveritt6888
      @jacquelyneveritt6888 3 роки тому +2

      Us too!

    • @wrathford
      @wrathford 3 роки тому +9

      me and my two personalities as well lol

  • @molliemae73
    @molliemae73 3 роки тому +377

    Lisa's family also needed to be punished. How did all of that come out and none of them have any repricussions?!

    • @abbyz13
      @abbyz13 3 роки тому +39

      Cause the judges are men.

    • @HallieJordan
      @HallieJordan 3 роки тому +2

      Absolutely!!

    • @Elaine-lc8lc
      @Elaine-lc8lc 3 роки тому +14

      statute of limitations

    • @karinaaguiar7154
      @karinaaguiar7154 3 роки тому +22

      Especially her mom ,that monster ,she should have gone to jail or worse, disgusting woman

    • @psomichelle2758
      @psomichelle2758 3 роки тому +5

      American Justice System. :)

  • @Hippieskippie
    @Hippieskippie 2 роки тому +2

    Bailey is truly everything ❤️

  • @andrewwalsh4719
    @andrewwalsh4719 Рік тому +6

    I have been loving her makeup

  • @carriebell3566
    @carriebell3566 2 роки тому +3069

    The “escaping to a world of her own” is dissociative episodes. The brain trying to protect her from the trauma

    • @theblissfull_queen5664
      @theblissfull_queen5664 2 роки тому +60

      I dissociate alot after I have really bad ptsd episodes which for me is reliving situations I was put in and alot of people dont get it

    • @carriebell3566
      @carriebell3566 2 роки тому +23

      @@theblissfull_queen5664 that’s a terrible thing to go through. I pray for you *hug*

    • @theblissfull_queen5664
      @theblissfull_queen5664 2 роки тому +14

      @@carriebell3566 thank you so much, hugsss💕

    • @carriebell3566
      @carriebell3566 2 роки тому +11

      @@theblissfull_queen5664 you’re welcome 💕

    • @tinab7148
      @tinab7148 2 роки тому +8

      @@theblissfull_queen5664 sadly if people haven't went through anything they will never get survivors. :(

  • @lilith7955
    @lilith7955 3 роки тому +479

    I feel so bad that Lisa never got help but also you can’t just go around snatching someone’s unborn baby

    • @Sophiasidae
      @Sophiasidae 3 роки тому +28

      yeah :/ still really sad though, I wish people like lisa has easier access to therapy so they do not end up criminals etc 😭

    • @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470
      @aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470 3 роки тому +13

      @@Sophiasidae theray doesn't necessarily mean that she would have done anything differently.

    • @kristoferpaunonen9650
      @kristoferpaunonen9650 3 роки тому

      I mean wasn't the mother still alive when... that's SICK

  • @lisalawhon1216
    @lisalawhon1216 2 роки тому +4

    I absolutely love you!!! I look forward to Monday and glad I'm able to watch previous ones. Thank you so very much!!!!

  • @melanieryan128
    @melanieryan128 Рік тому +1

    Great story telling, girl! And I LOVE this look on you! 😍

  • @lorettataylor5006
    @lorettataylor5006 3 роки тому +1473

    For those leaving Bailey nasty comments, please leave. She has a life outside of all this and deserves respect not nastiness. Sure, we miss her when she's away but c'mon people give the girl a break!

    • @isren
      @isren 3 роки тому +128

      We all missed her, it’s ok to be disappointed there isn’t an update on a video. It’s NOT ok to demand content from a creator. Some of her Instagram comments infuriated me with people demanding videos and rudeness.

    • @Katelyst
      @Katelyst 3 роки тому +113

      Agreed fully. Plus, she talks about true crime which can weigh on someone mentally and life can just happen sometimes. I'm glad when she uploads, but I'm not gonna go after her if she skips a Monday or three. If she needs a break, she needs a break. Period.

    • @kathleenregan4756
      @kathleenregan4756 3 роки тому +26

      Completely agree with you!

    • @tentinybees
      @tentinybees 3 роки тому +63

      WHO IS BEING MEAN TO HER 👿

    • @mamabear676
      @mamabear676 3 роки тому +35

      Exactly! I miss seeing her videos but I also know she has a life and I don't expect her to constantly be glued to UA-cam. It's nice to see her back but don't be rude because she takes a break. And it wasn't a break she was working. Some people just like to be rude.

  • @geneshawilliams4127
    @geneshawilliams4127 3 роки тому +1219

    You should really consider converting these videos to audio podcasts. Your voice is so soothing. I literally go to sleep to your video. But I have to keep the UA-cam app open to listen to it and it drains my battery.

    • @geneshawilliams4127
      @geneshawilliams4127 3 роки тому +33

      But I loveeeee all you MM&M videos. I check for one every Monday. Lol

    • @lianaguzman6507
      @lianaguzman6507 3 роки тому +1

      Same ahaha

    • @jasmineriveramoore5283
      @jasmineriveramoore5283 3 роки тому +18

      Yes!!! Agree - I don’t even watch the video, just listen!

    • @ciarawright9367
      @ciarawright9367 3 роки тому +50

      I think im tripping cause this comment is 4 hours old bit it says the video is 50 seconds old

    • @katiebrown1479
      @katiebrown1479 3 роки тому +3

      dude same

  • @IMRONALDMCDONALD
    @IMRONALDMCDONALD 2 роки тому +7

    I live in St.Louis and I’ve heard this about 5 time, it makes me uncomfortable and scared at the same time. I’m sending this to my friend so he can know about it 🙃

  • @kathynorris2371
    @kathynorris2371 4 місяці тому

    Love watching you do your makeup, and listening to the stories you tell!

  • @duxianaruiz2133
    @duxianaruiz2133 3 роки тому +802

    “...Cows are just so precious And I’m precious. Therefore I am cow.” - Bailey Sarian 2021

    • @sroka9535
      @sroka9535 3 роки тому +3

      Relate 😂

    • @jayy3379
      @jayy3379 3 роки тому +1

      Lol

    • @th3yloveana
      @th3yloveana 3 роки тому +1

      YESSS this needs to be top comments

    • @duckyateher228
      @duckyateher228 3 роки тому +3

      This would be such a great quote to wear on a shirt especially if it's a lazy day.

    • @freyate
      @freyate 3 роки тому +1

      this totally cracked me up when I heard it in the video :P

  • @Thalia_Rueli
    @Thalia_Rueli 3 роки тому +328

    Bailey telling us to get our attackers DNA under our nails gave me chills. like the sincerity in her voice and the care and passion she has on top of imagining it got me in my feels and feeling chilly mane

  • @megandakin452
    @megandakin452 2 роки тому +2

    love this week’s look! 💕

  • @elizabethgwenrogers76
    @elizabethgwenrogers76 2 роки тому +1

    So glad I found you Bailey I soooo look forward to your shows. Honestly I DO NOT usually follow/subscribe to anyone but I wouldn’t miss you for nothing or no one. Your a one woman wonder, GREAT JOB! Thanks so much I love you!