Fun facts about Link and LoZ games in general! Link was designed to be pretty ambiguous gender-wise in the first game so any player could identify with him. And Link just generally being a very appealing character for anyone of any gender has just kinda kept up throughout every game. And in some games do other fun stuff along those lines, like how Zelda will take on a more masculine appearance and go by the name Sheik. Or how in BOTW, to enter a female only village, all you gotta do is put on women's clothes that don't really function as a "disguise" at all. Can even change right in front of the guards and they'll let you in. I know it's more just a gameplay mechanic thing but a lot of people like to see it as a funny n cute "oh my mistake right this way" kinda scenario. In general lotta trans and lgbt folk, myself included, just like the lax way the series approaches gender and self presentation at times, even if not all of it is very intentional.
Getting correctly gendered is such a challenge. I'm FTM and I've taken to wearing a large he/him badge at work because so many customers were calling me a lady. Even then, in one day I got called 'doll' three times and 'sweetie' once (and 'she' about fifteen times). Then an elderly lady came in and made my day by calling me a 'lad'. 😊
I hate how hard it is. You can tell someone once and they just instantly forget sometimes. I remember why I used to never even bother trying to be correctly gendered. Because it's almost not worth it to even ask sometimes. I'm probably overthinking things here but I kind of see each "she" as a little argument saying, "you are not actually who you feel you are". On some level I put it into my big internal battle with internalised anti-transness. It's hard.
My therapist probably hates working with me. I'm awful at communicating my feelings to people (except on the Internet, where I'll probably never see the people I talk to ever again) so I never actually tell her anything helpful.
I CAME OUT TO MY FAMILY A WEEK OR TWO AGO my mom's getting me a binder! My dad has refered to me as a boy! My stepdad is cool with me being a boy now! YAAAAAAAAAA Edit: turns out I'm Non-binary! I still go by he/they, and like being reffered to as a boy! Edit 2: Came out to both my grandmas, my aunt (mom's side) and my uncle (dad's side). Grandma... Eh. Aunt. She doesn't refer to my by anything gendered much, so nothing has really changed. She's supportive though! My other grandma? Super supportive! Uncle? Super supportive! He referred to me as "Little guy" , so that was cool!
The most relatable trans thing I've heard is "Why would Timantha ever ask her fairly oddparents to turn back into Timmy? Wasn't that the dream of every boy?"
i always found those "boy hates being a girl" shows relatable for a different reason, because haha being a girl really does suck right? every girl thinks they've lost the birth lottery right? right? what do you mean people actually want to be girls? but yeah, i understand what you mean with "everybody thinks this right??" most relatable trans thing ever.
@@pancakes4life804 you mean cis people *don't* think that way??? /lh but I have to ask, do you think that this way of thinking undoubtedly means you're trans, or could it be internalized misogyny of some kind?
@@cameronwong1091 It can, and it could be misogyny internalized for some, but usually, when a girl is lamenting misogyny, they don't wish to be a man, they usually wish things were different for women. It's different for everyone and it was really only a telltale sign for me due to other factors. Context matters, the same way saying "I want to die" can be an expression of embarrassment, or something more serious.
Until recently I was sure that everyone who was afab secretly disliked it cause misogyny exists and it’d be better to be a guy, plus you’d be stronger too and not just “good for a woman” at sports. Apparently most cis women actually enjoy being women 😬
As an enby I'm not entirely sure why the blahaj is a trans thing either! Wikipedia says the shark's color scheme (pink white and blue) has to do with it but I don't think that's the sole reason. It kinda just became a meme in all the trans internet space I'm in. Also, a fun fact: the blahaj was used in a couple ads last year to show support for Switzerland legalizing gay marriage!
Maybe it started as just the colours but as more people picked it up I guess it just got associated with lgbt+ stuff by itself as you yourself mention about gay marriage.
It's a combination of the two things you listed (color scheme being same as Trans Pride flag + being used in marriage equality ad) as well as an official Ikea ad featuring the shark and the Trans Pride flag
For my 8th birthday party my dad built a castle in our backyard, because girls like princess stuff, right? I was PSYCHED. I put on an a black cape left from the previous Halloween, shoved the crown on my head, climbed to the top of the castle and yelled, "I AM THE GOBLIN KING!" My parents love bringing this up. It's such a, "Wow, you've really been a boy the whole time, huh?" family memory.
When I was still in denial I told my friend that I'll probably still get top surgery even though I was "cis" because tits were "just an inconvenience." It was so obvious looking back 😅
I was in the women's choir in high school and one of the other alto II's told me she was saving up for a breast reduction (she had F cups and it was hell on her back). She mentioned that her family and most of her friends thought she was crazy to want to do that. I said screw them, I'd cut mine off in a heartbeat. She laughed and thanked me for being supportive. Yeah, I was supportive on accident. That was just how much I hated my chest, even when I didn't know what transgender was.
"I'm not like other girls because I despise my traditionally feminine features and hate being a girl. I'm so quirky" -A shocking amount of trans mascs.
I really felt the "explaining why I am or am not trans" meme. No cis person continues to question their gender for years. They might think about it for a month and come to a better understanding of their gender and their relation to it, but they don't harp on it mentally for so long.
On that note, I've been questioning my gender for the past few months. The closest I've gotten to a conclusion is "how do other people just know what gender they are?"
@@saraquill Humans like simple boxes to place everything in. He's cis, she's trans, they're nonbinary, whatever, but in reality no one is exactly anything, and we're all some confusing mess of everything. So you're always exploring yourself, pushing your limits, and you'll find, through trial and error, those things you enjoy and those things you never want to do again. _That_ is the meaning of life.
@@saraquill Most people never question what their upbringing or society has told them to be. However, I would say that an unexamined life is not worth living. You're asking these questions for a reason.
Umm. I solidly identify as cis, but I also kinda have questioned my gender in a sorta superficial way for a long time? My conclusion is that I am a cisgendered woman who has a gender expression that isn't traditionally feminine, but that doesn't mean I don't question it from time to time. conclusion
I'm terrified to come out to my parents after around a year ago my step-mother was talking about a trans "friend" of hers. My step-mom went and continuously misgender her, and going on and on about how "he' had such a wonderful singing voice, I have no idea why 'he' would throw that all away just because he wants to be a woman!?". also after she told me "If you ever convince yourself you are a man, that would be fine. but you'll always be my baby girl" (I didn't know why that made me so scared and uncomfy until a few months later, after realizing I *am* trans) the year before that, my step-sister was experimenting with her own gender identity and identified as non-binary for a little while. she eventually decided she wasn't trans, which is perfectly valid. But after she figured out her identity, my step-mom yelled at her about how she should be asking permission and consulting *her* about this. Imma stay in the closet until I move out, that's for sure. just 4 1/2 short years
That is a sound idea. Generations of gay men and lesbians did the same thing. Had to do the same thing. Remember that you are not alone and are walking in the footsteps of the previous generations of LGBT+ people. Be patient. Stay safe. Do what you need to in order to keep well, mentally and physically.
OOF... My mom used to be like that and i was so scared to come out. Thankfully she changed a lot since she went on those rants about never being a woman. Also pls don't use this as a reason to come out. She most likely didnt change unfortunately
I remember being 5 and saying I couldnt wait for puberty because I'd get facial hair and an Adam's apple and "boy parts" would magically appear in place of my "lady parts". Yeah puberty was a disappointment to say the least. 10 years later and I'm just now about to come out to my therapist so I can get on hrt when I'm old enough. My parents got me a binder and some of my teachers at school call me my correct name. Tomorrow I have therapy. Wish me luck because its gonna be terrifying. I've taken to writing her lists of things I wanna talk about so I might use that as a way to jump start the conversation about it but still. I live in Arkansas and we arent the kindest to trans people. My therapist is accepting of me being bi and wiccan but sometimes being trans is just "too far" or "too much" for some people. But hey anything to live as who I truly am
Best, best wishes for a good session tomorrow! Arkansas can be rough (I have a friend who lives there, too), but youve got this! Glad to hear you have the support you deserve from your parents and some teachers. If your therapist ends up being a lemon, talk to your folks about trying to find someone else to go to (I know, it's hard to find therapists these days, but still). However it goes tomorrow, hold your head high. You're worth it.
I'm a cis-F, and even I hug my phone when I see people's transition jouney. In this world with so many awful things, one wonderful development is the growing ability (in some places) for people to present and live honestly as their gender (or lack of a gender). I feel a spark of joy in my chest every time I see it.
Same! I'm not generally a very maternal person, but I always want to give people a big supportive mom-hug when they reach a transition milestone. Or a comforting mom-hug when they face obstacles. Any trans people reading this wanting a mom-hug, here it is! 🤗🤗🤗💖🤍💙
As an AMAB trans woman, out to *most* people -- as you say, where safe -- and 3 years on HRT, thank you *so much* for this lovely comment. Reading this and other gentle, encouraging things in the comments is making my eyes mist -- in the best way. 😊🌈🙏
Every guy I know has messy hair, you fit right in! Asked my boomer dad what he thought and he said you looked like a nice dude, but "probably a liberal" lmao across the board you're killing it, hair be damned
The secret gender: Link, from Legend of Zelda. You unlock it by being as impossible to identify as physically the human person is capable of, and a bit beyond. Once unlocked you gain all of Link’s powers..
7:42 For me, admitting to myself that I'm trans was a moment of extreme relief, followed by a crushing wave of despair, fear and pain as I looked at myself in the mirror with honesty for the first time. That was the first time I truly let myself acknowledge my dysphoria, and it was horrible. I cried almost constantly for the next several days, I was a wreck. But after that, I felt a lot better, and then I started to let myself express more femme and I started to feel even better, now I'm a bit over a year on HRT and I'm happier than I ever remember being in my life.
same for the first part, the first time I ever thought about it was great then horrible, I was looking in the mirror and thought "but what if I was a guy" and I felt so happy thinking about it for a second, and then the "but I'm not trans so I can never have that" hit 🥲 (then of course the three years of repressing it and having panic attacks when thinking about gender before finally accepting it lol) but now starting HRT this year. what a roller coaster 😂
Omigosh my heart for that poor girl who has the terrible therapist. D: I hope she gets some support. And any of you all who feel the same: you're so valid and I love you
Shout out to my buddy boy Mike, who just yeetus the teetus a few days ago. So proud of that kid. Even though he hates himself for the pain he's in right now, he's gonna be so happy once he gets his bandages off and can feel more himself. I'm making him a titty cake whenever he's ready to reappear in the world once more. Hoping I, too, can one day get top surgery and rid myself of the burden of boobage, though I'm 26 and can't figure out how to find a job that pays well enough for me to move away from my queerphobic family and start living my life for me and not them 🙃
I still don't know who I am, really. I need to get into some actual relationships and see how that whole bit goes. I have no data to work off of right now.
@@kindlin My journey was more gender related. I don't stress about a label for that because it's simply just "I like what I like". There is no need to rush to figure things out. Embrace the uncertainty, but be careful with relationships. I tried figuring myself out that way, and apparently, I'm a magnet for lunatics. I only have one good ex, and my biggest mistake was ending things with her because of my own insecurity.
@@disableddragonborn I have 1 ex, a girl, and I really liked the cis experience. She was not someone I could ever spend my life with, tho, she was hardly more interesting than moss on a rock. I need someone with passion, who can talk, who wants things and can show me things. Someone I can share my passions with, and learn theirs and expand their dreams. All these things and more I hope for, what I will eventually ever get....... only time will tell.
@@kindlin The girl I threw away my chances with was the first person I have ever dated that not only made me feel valued, but I also felt like she understood me, emotionally, _and_ intellectually. I have never dated anyone that was as nerdy and interested in nerdy things as me before or since. I don't know what she's up to these days, but I hope she is doing well.
Same here! I even tried on aromantic and asexual (what i identify as now) before deciding that couldn't be the case because i get "crushes" and *those* feelings towards fictional characters (a misunderstanding about what it means to be aroace, i have never actually had romantic or sexual feelings toward another person) so i don't think i was ever in denial just very confused. Especially because it was very difficult for me to identify what a *lack* of romantic attraction felt like.
This channel is what got me through getting outed to my whole family. It’s always so cheerful and helped me through a lot of internalized homophobia. Thank you so much for helping people like me
i think egg irl is technically for people who are questioning their gender, regardless of if they turn out trans or not (which more people should do tbh even if they think its likely they stay cis bc its a good bit of selfreflection and its valid either way it turns out) but as reddit usually does it goes very off topic about trans people who were questioning and retrospect on how in denial they were so that has shifted to be the main topic now. subreddits do tend to shift a ton in subjectmatter or purpose over time
Idk how to explain this but watching your videos helps me incredibly in being a parent. My toddler is quite a few years from even understanding gender identity let alone questioning their own. Yet I constantly worry.. because I'm cis I didn't make the experience myself and don't personally know any Trans people well enough to feel comfortable addressing them if I have questions and Google is irritatingly unhelpful most the time. However, since I've started watching your videos I feel like I'm learning how to view the whole topic as a fun thing, that eventually we can watch your content together and it will help them get in touch with the topic in a light hearted way. (Idk if this makes any sense, my brain is already in stand-by mode sorry)
My youngest child’s father is trans and I agree that jammi is extremely helpful here. The father has nothing to do with any of her children, but since I’ve read it can be genetic, I’ll be ready just in case my son chooses the same path. Not the path of abandoning 4 children they fathered though, I won’t allow him to be that much of a pos no matter what gender he chooses 😂😂😂😂
I think it makes sense; as a parent you want to be mentally, emotionally, and in practical ways, prepared for anything that could happen. And (not to speak for you or anything) it could help your child grow up with a sense of fairness and tolerance too! I wish my parents would've had these vids and such an open-mindedness..... 🌈🌈
I used to be an ally in fandom and then one day one user decided to start a discord group for only queer people in the fandom and I felt so hurt and left out by them and couldn’t understand why since I thought I wasn’t queer. I was just deeply in denial and very much queer 😅 I understood that a while later
feel that. i always felt/knew my attraction to guys was queer, but my friend shut me down... first few weeks at uni and the realization im transmasc enby hit me xD
@@lucamannstein2587 Fellow transmasc enby who's about to start uni. I actually thought I was sapphic because my attraction to guys was never in a heteronormative way. I'm pretty much attracted to whoever fucks with gender expectations haha. I hope uni is going well :)
If a therapist, the one that is supposed to help you with mental/emotional struggles, tells you that your feelings are fake, that’s not a therapist, that’s a jerk
Whenever I see egg memes, I always remember my friend, who: - picked traditionally feminine names in games - cosplayed a lot and said that most people asked "who is she" when shown the pictures - went to a party "pretending" to be a girl It's anyone's guess as to what happened some time later.
For the most part I'm happy and comfortable (and even sometimes enjoy!) being a cis woman. I'm 6'2" and fairly broad-shouldered... For a minute in my late teens I was both using meth and a vegetarian so I was skinny and gave modeling a go, I just don't have that drive for anything, least of all modeling. But around age 12-13 I thought I'd make a pretty awesome guy, tall and blonde/blue, pretty athletic... But I hated myself when people mistakenly called me "Sir"😞 Now I'm mid-forties and have had some BS life thrown at me, actually had a leg amputated less than a year ago (crush injury to my foot, was bed-ridden for a year cuz the podiatrist wouldn't be making any $$$ off me if we cut the damn thing off) and I'm glad it's gone. Adjusting to this new body is a whole 'nother ball of wax. I was prepared to work hard (which I did after knee reconstructive Sx 12yrs ago) but wow! I thought I knew, I hadn't a clue! I spent so much time researching and following UA-camrs... And for about 4-5 months post op I really felt unattractive and nonsexual and unf***able, like I had been reduced to a crippled piece of meat. Lol, I'm glad it's picked up though... I've been insatiable 😆💕❤️
I'm the person that made that specific Link meme after a conversation with a friend of mine where both of us (different agab, both some kind of gender non-conforming) decided that Link was gender goals. For us it's about the ambiguity of his appearance, which has resulted in lots of non gamers thinking Link is princess Zelda. Since making that meme I've learned I'm far from the only person that looks at Link and wants to steal his gender ^^ P.S.: I deliberately used Twilight princess Link for that meme, because he looks so cool
What do you mean you don't look as cute as Kermit hugging a phone? Of course you do, you're the cutest! BTW, your transition journey video is one of my go-to's. I'm cis, and your transition video gives me all the huggy squee feels.
7:00 there's a place called Transmart in my city. It's a supermarket, but i can't get it out of my head that the name is stating a supermarket for trans people🤣
This makes me think about the whole thing where I've experienced my gender as a moving target for as long as i can remember and it took until i was 27 for me to realize I was genderfluid... and took another year for me to realize not everyone experienced their gender as a moving target... 2 years later it still feels weird that its not the norm to experience gender like that.
@@fionafiona1146 I meant norm as in the typical experience, not as what is accepted. Of course, your gender identity and experience is valid and should be respected, but most of our queer genders will never be seen as the typical way of being, and that is fine as long as it is respected and embraced. ;)
As a Legend of Zelda player, I think what the Link meme was trying to say was that Link is a man and is very handsome and pretty at the same time. He has both feminine and masculine characteristics and can be kind of androgynous depending on which version of him. He did also crossdress in Breath of the Wild. It's almost as if he can be anything he wants XD I think that's why transmascs, transfems, and enbies find him so interesting/ want to be him.
I'm 34 and sometimes still wish I could just accept the body I was cursed with. I can't afford anything for the transition, and I have this pretty strong belief that this is the body I'll die with.
You may not to be able to transition now but you could possibly do smaller things now like pronouns ect, clothing and hormones. Not everyone needs to complete a full transition, sometimes hormones ect is enough. I know you probably are already doing as such, sorry if that is the case the only thing I can do from this keyboard is wish you well and as easy it is to say but difficult to do, you have to focus on the here and now, focusing on long term goals too much can make you well even more depressed. You will get there eventually. I`m sorry I can`t do anything to help your situation. Stay strong, stay well.
I began transitioning in my late forties.... I feel what you're going through for sure. Maybe there are medical benefits you can access such as through your health insurance? As hard as life can still be as a trans person it would have been so much worse had I not.
Hang in there. Transitioning isn't an all-or-nothing deal. Wear the things that make you happy, use the name and pronouns that you like best (where it's safe), and give yourself the same kindness that you give others. You are no less your gender just because you don't have the body culture says you "should" have. We care about you. You are valuable, valid, and worthy of love.
this feels like a good comments section for this - i’ve been on T for almost two weeks now, and i was not expecting any changes at this point because… less than 2 weeks. but i’m definitely experiencing something downstairs and my voice has dropped a semitone (not much but it was noticeable as i sing). curious as to how other things will change as time progresses. not going to notice if i start sweating more probably as it’s becoming summer so i would be anyway. my people this is exciting stuff.
Good job, and good luck! Also, you're completely right, this is the tamest Jammidodger comment section I've seen in a while. I have yet to come across any transphobes, and I hope it stays like that.
How I realized I am a Demi girl is that I told someone “I use she/her pronouns but I also really really like they too. So I guess I don’t really care”. Six months later I realized that was not a very cis to say and I in fact am not cis.
7:30 When I realised I was non-binary I went back and forth trying to convince myself that I'm cis but what helped me was coming out to my friend and she made me feel alot more confident and happy with myself and I accepted myself for who I am :)
I feel like not getting jokes or ruining them is Jamie's version of Dad Jokes ❤️ P.S Thank you so much for helping me through my own journey. I began watching when you first started.
today would've been my 1 year of transitioning (ftm) but I detransitioned back in June. it was a hard decision yet I got annoyed with being misgenderd, the crippling body dismorphia/dysphoria, the transphobia I faced everyday and the sexualization. I now identify as cisgender and i don't feel like myself, I feel stuck and confused as to what gender I am. I feel as if I will never pass as a male nor a female
I know this is no were near equivalent and your story is much harder. I myself am a cis guy but I do have autism and due to this people have treated me like shit for things outside of my control. People will be cruel and dickish no matter what you do but don`t let them control your actions. Some people are simply not worth knowing, that can be family or friends and it is tough but you have to walk away from some people like that, I had to myself. As for work colleges, class mates, teachers and other people that are assholes but avoidable the best you can hope for is to report it and for those responsible to take action although there will be times were one will try. At university I had lectures talk down to me like a child and I even got a first class honours in my degree, not matter how hard I work people will always treat me like an idiot. I message to you is do not live by someone else`s ideals, you have to live for yourself and accept yourself. This is coming from a guy who came close to taking his own life twice, no one has it easy and some have it harder than most but that doesn`t mean you don`t matter, do what you have to do. You do not have to justify yourself to anyone else. I have been through several bleak moments in my life and I will probably see some more in the future but I will endure, these experiences put us in a position to help others going through tough times. But remember all of these struggles in the grand scheme of things are temporary and you will if you continue find those that will accept you as you are. I for one do not care that you are trans or not, I care about your wellbeing as someone who has struggled as well. I love you and I hope your decisions are your own uncorrupted not matter how hard they are to make.
It unfortunately takes years before your passing as your new gender. And you don't necessarily have to fully transition if you don't want to. Figure out what it would take for you to be happy in the end and work towards that. It will might be terrible the whole time while working towards that but if thats what it takes for you to be happy it'll be worth it.
at 10:45, the picture is from a video game called gris, which has absolutely gorgeous art and the story revolves around the stages of grief, and a new color is introduced to the landscape with each stage. it's one of my all-time favorite games
4:50 ... a "subconcious pull to the colours of identity flag". Yeah, I can relate to that one. I loved the colour combo of the ace flag even before I knew that asexuality exists, let alone it has a flag and how it looks like. Might be pure coincidence, I don't know... But it sure is funny to me how I walked around like a living ace flag years before the knowledge.
Same, my colour scheme for clothes has been grey and purple for years and I hadn't even heard of asexuality yet when I started buying those clothes. Nowadays, I do it on purpose. I have a pair of shoes with the ace colours and one with the aro colours and once I even bought a toothbrush because it was aro green
10:14 I don't remember most of the transphobic things my family has said over the years, and I didn't even realize that they said really transphobic things until I realized I was trans, but my earliest memory from when I was little (I think I was around 4-6) was my mom, after she heard a story about a trans person on a Facebook post, saying that she hoped none of her kids end up trans.
I'm in my 30s and only starting the gender journey it feels. I've recently started exploring pronouns and think that agender may be the term for me...and then I remember a throwaway comment from my mom in high school that she "was wondering if [I] was gonna be one of those transvestite people". Luckily I have a therapist that isn't a dick and someone to support me through exploration here. You're my first proper exposure to healthy ideas of non-cis gender ideas about 2 years ago and I want to thank you for helping me start this journey.
Your hair isn’t as messy as my son’s gets, he’s finally to the point in his transition that he doesn’t cut his hair extremely short because he “passes”. Love that he feels comfortable now!
7:51 when i realized that i was trans at first i felt better but then our good friend ✨️dysphoria✨️ started to make itself known and now i get larger waves of misery than ever
The first thing that got me questioning my gender was literally just the fact that in any game where it's an option, I decided to be a girl. Now I am a girl in real life, so the moral of the story is. Actually there is none. How unfortunate.
Link just has a certain androgyny and between that and the joke of people thinking Link is Zelda (The princess, a female character in the games who non-game fans get confused and think must be the main character), Link becomes the perfect trans standin whether you read Link as trans woman, trans man, non-binary, just sort of like, an every-gender.
10:24 This is so real. My brother has said transphobic stuff before, but when I came out as agender, he admitted he hasn't really understood gender-related stuff in the past but that he supports and loves me. Sometimes it's very alien to people and they don't WANT to educate themselves on it until it's relevant to someone they care about (not saying they shouldn't want to be educated anyway, but sometimes people's reactions really will surprise you if you have a good relationship with that person)
2:55 it's terrible that Shaaba won't let you live out your true self AND GET A DAMN BLAHAJ! jk, you two are cute and she's the most supportive partner ever ;) and i do kinda trust your relationship that should you ever *really* crave adding a BLAHAJ to your family, you could just say so and she's not *actually* in charge of whether you buy nice things ;)
I’m not trans myself, but I did have a friend from childhood that came out as trans later in life. Looking back, with them always always wanting to present as the opposite gender in the games we played together, it does make sense. I guess I witnessed someone else’s egg moments lol
Im 19 having come out about a year ago. I recently remembered the time in SECOND GRADE i fully came out to my ENTIRE CLASS and then promtly got so scared i ran back into the closet and burried that memory so thoroughly i didnt remember it until after i had come out AGAIN. over a decade later. Thanks brain, love ya👍
I've never played any of the Zelda games, however I relate to that meme SO HARD. Basically the thing with Link, at least for me, is that he is in-between that area or being feminine and masculine. He's both yet neither depending on how you look at him. Maybe he looks more masculine, maybe he looks more feminine to some! And as a Transmasc myself, I ALWAYS gender envied Link.
A few months or maybe weeks before the Blajah memes started, someone shared a meme that said sharks should be a trans mascot because they are the same colors as the trans flag. They are light blue on tope, white on the bottom, and their mouths are pink. I believe the Blajah is directly related to that meme. Hope this helps
God, the first one reminds me of something that happened with a modder for a video game. The mod included voice effects for certain interactions, but they were only the female voice, even when you played as a male character which was kind of weird when you suddenly had a feminine voice lol. When asked about it the modder responded "I just assumed everyone played as a girl?"
On the first one, reminds me of a interaction I had in Toontown. I tend to make both male & female characters, I make them as their own person, not an extension of me but I am non-binary, thanks to some updates in the game, I can present enby now but this happened before that & the particular toons used in the interaction, I consider one male & the other female because their names come from songs, one being named after a car in a song but the song used female pronouns to describe the car so I made her female, the other toon I have is named after a dog that in the song is male & since it’s a country song, I have him looking like a cowboy. I’m playing as the dog, Ol’ Red when this guy is insulting the build I did for him & I was explaining that it’s just a fun thing & that I’m doing a certain challenge with it & he’s going on & on about how I wouldn’t be able to do stuff in the game because of it & I told him that I didn’t want to do that stuff on this toon but I have a different ones that can do that & he didn’t believe me. As long as toons are on different accounts, you can run more than one at a time so I signed into my other toon, Little Goose Coupe, she’s a duck & happened to be wearing clearly feminine clothing when I did & I teleported to myself & explained that this is my other toon & he went, “why on earth are you playing as a chick? That’s so gross!” I asked why he thought it was gross & he responded with, “because you’re a dude!” I’m afab & someone believing that I’m male put a smile to my face but I tried explaining that I’m neither male or female & he was not getting it & it devolved into him trying to figure out what’s in my pants pretty much but asking in weird sorts of ways because of the limited chat dictionary & the fact that it’s a kids game so a lot of what he wanted to say, he couldn’t. Thankfully, there were a lot of witnesses & we all reported him. On the note of being drawn to flag colors, I’m ace & known for a long time, also, purple happens to be one of my favorite colors so it works out, I end up going for stuff that happens to be the color of the ace flag, a lot of the time it’s because “I’m ace & I like that this is ace colored” but other times it’s “PURPLE!!!! MINE!!!!” As for the dream thing, I had a dream where I was a boy back when I was 13 & I shared it with a friend because I really enjoyed it & that friend told me that’s weird & disturbing so I kept quiet on that stuff for so many years, tried pushing down the feelings & ignoring it, it was a pain but glad I know it’s a normal thing.
8:55 it’s a depressing relief that i’m not the only one with bad therapy experiences. like it’s sad i wish i was but at least i’m not alone. my therapist when i went to her really just made some things worse and helped a tiny bit with other things *sigh*
It’s a bit concerning that I related to so many of these because I’m agender (at least right now) and when I started trying to figure it out I thought I might be trans but then the actual idea of being a guy didn’t feel like me at all so I figured there’s no way I could be trans, but maybe I was wrong…
I'm agender too. I thought 'strip away everything you are and build yourself up from this nothingness' I realised there was nothing for me to build towards. I just wanted to be a brain in a vat or a cyborg. A floating conscience or a computer maybe.
I'm with you. A lot of the Egg stuff sort of ignores agender folx (and sometimes nb folx as well). We're fine. We each know ourselves better than anyone else does, and we're allowed to change how we see ourselves or not just as everyone else is.
LOL, I remember my friends were asking why I always chose the female character in my pokemon games so I spun entire story how the first time I caught Giratina, my favorite pokemon, I was playing as a girl and it was my "lucky gender". Legit don't know how I went under the radar for so long with saying stuff like that for so long.
Lol saying something is lucky, and presenting any "weird/odd behavior" as a superstition always gets a pass in my experience. People will legitimately make the oddest things a tradition because they think it's lucky so basically anything goes, especially if it's something fairly simple like a game character.
I mean there are a lot of reasons to pick the female characters over males, for example screen space, female models tend to take up way less screen space than male models and so any action game wither it be platformers or action RPGs choosing the female model makes seeing what is going on easier. I always picked female characters and I always assumed most guys did as well because well you are looking at your character for 40+ hours and it is nicer to look at, I didn't realize I was the odd one out till just looking it up now. I mean sure I have always felt more connected to women than men subconsciously though it was only more recently that I consciously realized it, but still I always assumed that most guys also picked female characters because of being both nicer to look at and having an advantage of smaller screen space and sometimes even smaller hitboxes which made things like jumping puzzles in Guild Wars 2 way easier since you had more room to work with, I didn't realize I was in the minority.
I'm not trans myself, but I began learning on the topic because the first time that I encountered the subject (about 10 years ago, in an article talking about a pregnant man), I did not understand it. Now that I understand more things about trans people, the part at 8:51 tends to make my blood boil/make me sad. Something similar recently happened to me where a teacher was trying to disprove trans people by saying that "c0nv3rsion th3rapy worked before it became woke science", and I had to argue for half a week with them just to barely convey the basis on the topic (it doesn't help that it was mostly a discussion where no one was listening, because they seemed to think that I was some kind of "archbishop of gender" or something, while I found that their points were going from bad to worst).
I am still kinda in the "egg" stage and figuring things out, but recently I've had this sudden urge just to post on FB: "Hey. I would like to be referred to using she/they pronouns, please. Thank you." And just leave it like that. Idk. Still working on the wording. Also a weird thing happened about a month ago where I was setting up a profile for my mom on my paramount+ account. I had already taken the cat pfp which she was trying to convince me to change so she could have it. She then points at the nonbinary character from one of the new Star Trek shows and goes "I think you would relate to this character. Maybe. They started off as a she at the beginning of the show and is now a they." And I'm like "Oh, ok. Cool." And then I changed the subject. Internally, I was like "Mom! I am still figuring this out for myself. Don't get ahead of me here. I haven't even totally accepted that I am nonbinary." Lol. I told my sister about this and we just laughed. We love her. She tries even if she doesn't totally understand. Lol.
In 2018, Blåhaj grew to prominence as an internet meme, with social media users posting humorous photos of it in their homes. Around this time, Blåhaj began to be associated with LGBT and particularly transgender individuals, in part due to being colored similarly to the transgender flag.
My trans awakening was listening to cave town's 'this is home' not knowing it was about transitioning, finding out through animatics and being like 'oh that's what it is'
When I realised I was trans this was my reaction: "Oh crap, f*ck... this is real." And my second thought was: "Oh crap.. now I have to come out again." I came put as bi when I was 14 and all I could see now was this near future when I had to come out with something even more unconventional. It's like I for years had all the pieces of the puzzle but couldn't put them together before, and now I see the whole picture. I have started coming out to some people and now it's less crap and more... just hard and me being nervous before every conversation I have about it. Eventuelly, when my camera starts to work again - for some reson my camera is not getting along with windows 11 on my new computer - I'll come out on my youtube channel. Wish me luck. 😁 I really relate to the " MFW..." post. I remember crying when some trans guy on youtube announced that he's finally getting top surgery. I talked to a drag king friend about it and said "you know when you as an empath just feel so much joy for other people that you cry with them", she was like "yeah...". I said "well, I cried when x announced this." She said: "no dude, that's not your empathy, that's you being trans. I saw that as well and I didn't cry." And me and her are both criers so I was like... "Oh. I just thought 'I am sooo empathic', haha". She looked me in the eye and said "No, well you are an empath, but crying every time a trans person hits a milestone is not because of that..." She said: "I know I am not trans because even though I love dressing up and putting on a drag show, afterwards I can't wait to get out of the clothes because HAVING a beard and chest hair for too long makes me dysphoric, I just want to go back to being me."
10:30 Yes that is so real. I was very concerned with coming out to my family for over a decade, don't ask I'm the most stubborn person who ever lived. They had said really hurtful things in the past. For example my mother has loved Grey's Anatomy since season one and when in the later seasons I heard her say with my own ears 'I knew there was something wrong with him' when a character was revealed to be a trans man. Then was completely accepting of her nearly 30 year old kid coming out as trans. People just don't know how to respond and often don't have the right words. While it feels relevant at the time, it's also not fair to judge someone based on their reaction to a hypothetical fictional situation that took them by surprise. What my mother meant was that she had picked up on the foreshadowing of the show and knew he had a secret, you'll see above she had said 'him'.
I (ftm, almost 15) was telling my mother “when I’m big I’ll be driving a car, I’ll eat lots of chewing gum, and I’ll be a man.” when I was just two years old. But how I just told her that I wanna be a man as if it would be the most normal thing to say😂🏳️⚧️
Fresh Jamie video! Yesss! Love your vids Jamie! 💙💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ love from a trans guy! You helped me figure out I’m trans and I thank you so much for that! I’m much happier now that I’m living as a boy, you’re the best!
The whole “doesn’t everyone want to be girl mc in games” happened with one of my friends😭 I’ll call them Jayden for this little story I don’t remember what we were talking about but they said Jayden: “Honestly do girls relate to any girl characters in anything?” Me: “yes…?” Jayden: “really? Cuz I don’t” Me:”…Jayden-“
8:25 me when my friend who I met like a month after coming out and who came out about half a year later tells me she's getting her HRT by the end of the month after taking forever jumping through hoops only to meet dead-end after dead-end. Side note but I was kind of like a trigger point for a lot of people I knew? We were always all very "gender doesn't matter dude" and then I came out and like... 90% of the people I knew ended up coming out as being part of the trans umbrella shortly after 😅
Fun facts about Link and LoZ games in general! Link was designed to be pretty ambiguous gender-wise in the first game so any player could identify with him. And Link just generally being a very appealing character for anyone of any gender has just kinda kept up throughout every game. And in some games do other fun stuff along those lines, like how Zelda will take on a more masculine appearance and go by the name Sheik. Or how in BOTW, to enter a female only village, all you gotta do is put on women's clothes that don't really function as a "disguise" at all. Can even change right in front of the guards and they'll let you in. I know it's more just a gameplay mechanic thing but a lot of people like to see it as a funny n cute "oh my mistake right this way" kinda scenario. In general lotta trans and lgbt folk, myself included, just like the lax way the series approaches gender and self presentation at times, even if not all of it is very intentional.
Zelda the chick link wants to bang, Sheik the dude link wants to bang.
Lmao I've been living my whole life not knowing that Sheik is Link
Edit: actually I'm stupid and can't read. Oops
@@Schnort Sheik is Zelda, actually
@@Schnort Sheik is Zelda though
I should have realized I was trans when I started wearing only the gerudo outfit
Getting correctly gendered is such a challenge. I'm FTM and I've taken to wearing a large he/him badge at work because so many customers were calling me a lady. Even then, in one day I got called 'doll' three times and 'sweetie' once (and 'she' about fifteen times). Then an elderly lady came in and made my day by calling me a 'lad'. 😊
that must have been such a wonderful and exciting experience ☺️!!
You are valid, and an absolute ✨madlad✨
I feel you. That $#!+ sucks so hard. More and more people gender me correctly, I think, and a large percentage still don't.
I hate how hard it is. You can tell someone once and they just instantly forget sometimes. I remember why I used to never even bother trying to be correctly gendered. Because it's almost not worth it to even ask sometimes. I'm probably overthinking things here but I kind of see each "she" as a little argument saying, "you are not actually who you feel you are". On some level I put it into my big internal battle with internalised anti-transness. It's hard.
@@krimsonkatt hrt is hormonal r(whatever, no idea) treatment?
“Get a therapist that’s not an arsehole” - excellent advice that applies no matter your identity.
My therapist probably hates working with me. I'm awful at communicating my feelings to people (except on the Internet, where I'll probably never see the people I talk to ever again) so I never actually tell her anything helpful.
I CAME OUT TO MY FAMILY A WEEK OR TWO AGO
my mom's getting me a binder!
My dad has refered to me as a boy!
My stepdad is cool with me being a boy now!
YAAAAAAAAAA
Edit: turns out I'm Non-binary!
I still go by he/they, and like being reffered to as a boy!
Edit 2:
Came out to both my grandmas, my aunt (mom's side) and my uncle (dad's side).
Grandma... Eh.
Aunt. She doesn't refer to my by anything gendered much, so nothing has really changed.
She's supportive though!
My other grandma?
Super supportive!
Uncle?
Super supportive!
He referred to me as "Little guy" , so that was cool!
Congrats 🎉 (absolutely love your username btw)
Niiiiiiiice
@@lemongrassandsleep6352 thanks!
(You too!)
Congrats dude! 💜💛
Congrats!!!
I wish you luck on your journey.
The most relatable trans thing I've heard is "Why would Timantha ever ask her fairly oddparents to turn back into Timmy? Wasn't that the dream of every boy?"
i always found those "boy hates being a girl" shows relatable for a different reason, because haha being a girl really does suck right? every girl thinks they've lost the birth lottery right? right? what do you mean people actually want to be girls?
but yeah, i understand what you mean with "everybody thinks this right??" most relatable trans thing ever.
@@pancakes4life804 you mean cis people *don't* think that way??? /lh but I have to ask, do you think that this way of thinking undoubtedly means you're trans, or could it be internalized misogyny of some kind?
@@cameronwong1091 It can, and it could be misogyny internalized for some, but usually, when a girl is lamenting misogyny, they don't wish to be a man, they usually wish things were different for women. It's different for everyone and it was really only a telltale sign for me due to other factors. Context matters, the same way saying "I want to die" can be an expression of embarrassment, or something more serious.
Until recently I was sure that everyone who was afab secretly disliked it cause misogyny exists and it’d be better to be a guy, plus you’d be stronger too and not just “good for a woman” at sports.
Apparently most cis women actually enjoy being women 😬
No but I loved genderswaps episodes of cartoons
As an enby I'm not entirely sure why the blahaj is a trans thing either! Wikipedia says the shark's color scheme (pink white and blue) has to do with it but I don't think that's the sole reason. It kinda just became a meme in all the trans internet space I'm in. Also, a fun fact: the blahaj was used in a couple ads last year to show support for Switzerland legalizing gay marriage!
Maybe it started as just the colours but as more people picked it up I guess it just got associated with lgbt+ stuff by itself as you yourself mention about gay marriage.
It's a combination of the two things you listed (color scheme being same as Trans Pride flag + being used in marriage equality ad) as well as an official Ikea ad featuring the shark and the Trans Pride flag
That in itself would confirm that IKEA's Trans Shark, is IKEA'S way of being a TRANS Ally and supporter of the trans community❣️
Isn't blahaj just grey and white?
@@liamturner1342 Nope: top is light blue, bottom is white, mouth is pink. Trans Pride colors, baby!
For my 8th birthday party my dad built a castle in our backyard, because girls like princess stuff, right?
I was PSYCHED. I put on an a black cape left from the previous Halloween, shoved the crown on my head, climbed to the top of the castle and yelled, "I AM THE GOBLIN KING!"
My parents love bringing this up. It's such a, "Wow, you've really been a boy the whole time, huh?" family memory.
that sounded like you had fun on your birthday lol
😂😂😂awesome
That's adorable.
thats adorable
Took me a while before I found out what you meant by "psyched".
When I was still in denial I told my friend that I'll probably still get top surgery even though I was "cis" because tits were "just an inconvenience." It was so obvious looking back 😅
lol mood
Well, ngl, they are pretty inconvenient. But so is just having a biological, corporeal form.
"oh yeah no it was just an inconvenience all cis stuff going on here 0.0"
I was in the women's choir in high school and one of the other alto II's told me she was saving up for a breast reduction (she had F cups and it was hell on her back). She mentioned that her family and most of her friends thought she was crazy to want to do that.
I said screw them, I'd cut mine off in a heartbeat. She laughed and thanked me for being supportive.
Yeah, I was supportive on accident. That was just how much I hated my chest, even when I didn't know what transgender was.
"I'm not like other girls because I despise my traditionally feminine features and hate being a girl. I'm so quirky" -A shocking amount of trans mascs.
I really felt the "explaining why I am or am not trans" meme. No cis person continues to question their gender for years. They might think about it for a month and come to a better understanding of their gender and their relation to it, but they don't harp on it mentally for so long.
On that note, I've been questioning my gender for the past few months. The closest I've gotten to a conclusion is "how do other people just know what gender they are?"
@@saraquill Humans like simple boxes to place everything in. He's cis, she's trans, they're nonbinary, whatever, but in reality no one is exactly anything, and we're all some confusing mess of everything. So you're always exploring yourself, pushing your limits, and you'll find, through trial and error, those things you enjoy and those things you never want to do again. _That_ is the meaning of life.
For me its not” am I sure that I’m really trans” but more like why me?? Like what are the chances??
@@saraquill Most people never question what their upbringing or society has told them to be. However, I would say that an unexamined life is not worth living. You're asking these questions for a reason.
Umm. I solidly identify as cis, but I also kinda have questioned my gender in a sorta superficial way for a long time? My conclusion is that I am a cisgendered woman who has a gender expression that isn't traditionally feminine, but that doesn't mean I don't question it from time to time.
conclusion
I'm terrified to come out to my parents after around a year ago my step-mother was talking about a trans "friend" of hers. My step-mom went and continuously misgender her, and going on and on about how "he' had such a wonderful singing voice, I have no idea why 'he' would throw that all away just because he wants to be a woman!?". also after she told me "If you ever convince yourself you are a man, that would be fine. but you'll always be my baby girl" (I didn't know why that made me so scared and uncomfy until a few months later, after realizing I *am* trans)
the year before that, my step-sister was experimenting with her own gender identity and identified as non-binary for a little while. she eventually decided she wasn't trans, which is perfectly valid. But after she figured out her identity, my step-mom yelled at her about how she should be asking permission and consulting *her* about this.
Imma stay in the closet until I move out, that's for sure. just 4 1/2 short years
I hope you will have supportive friends/community in the meantime, until you are able to be on your own. Hugs to you!
I'm sorry, that sounds really tough ❤️ I hope you'll be able to find a chosen family that will support you the way a family should
Reminds me of the game "Tell Me Why".
That is a sound idea.
Generations of gay men and lesbians did the same thing. Had to do the same thing. Remember that you are not alone and are walking in the footsteps of the previous generations of LGBT+ people.
Be patient. Stay safe. Do what you need to in order to keep well, mentally and physically.
OOF... My mom used to be like that and i was so scared to come out. Thankfully she changed a lot since she went on those rants about never being a woman. Also pls don't use this as a reason to come out. She most likely didnt change unfortunately
Ever since I came out as LGBTQIA+, your videos have helped me out tremendously! :)
Congrats! 👏 👏
You're all of them??/j
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@@lukescastle We must bow down to them, clearly!!
@@squeemdweem Lmao!!!
But I actually came out as Gay (based on AGAB), Polyamorous, Gray AroAce, Non - Binary, and Genderfluid.
I remember being 5 and saying I couldnt wait for puberty because I'd get facial hair and an Adam's apple and "boy parts" would magically appear in place of my "lady parts". Yeah puberty was a disappointment to say the least. 10 years later and I'm just now about to come out to my therapist so I can get on hrt when I'm old enough. My parents got me a binder and some of my teachers at school call me my correct name. Tomorrow I have therapy. Wish me luck because its gonna be terrifying. I've taken to writing her lists of things I wanna talk about so I might use that as a way to jump start the conversation about it but still. I live in Arkansas and we arent the kindest to trans people. My therapist is accepting of me being bi and wiccan but sometimes being trans is just "too far" or "too much" for some people. But hey anything to live as who I truly am
Best, best wishes for a good session tomorrow! Arkansas can be rough (I have a friend who lives there, too), but youve got this! Glad to hear you have the support you deserve from your parents and some teachers. If your therapist ends up being a lemon, talk to your folks about trying to find someone else to go to (I know, it's hard to find therapists these days, but still). However it goes tomorrow, hold your head high. You're worth it.
Wiccan? Haven't heard of that one before.
@@want-diversecontent3887 i believe it’s like a subset of witchcraft! i’m not sure if it’s considered a religion or not
good luck man!! you sound really cool! i used to live in arkansas. I know how it is. peace & love.
Merry meet, my witchy bro!!! Hugs
I'm a cis-F, and even I hug my phone when I see people's transition jouney. In this world with so many awful things, one wonderful development is the growing ability (in some places) for people to present and live honestly as their gender (or lack of a gender). I feel a spark of joy in my chest every time I see it.
Same! I'm not generally a very maternal person, but I always want to give people a big supportive mom-hug when they reach a transition milestone. Or a comforting mom-hug when they face obstacles. Any trans people reading this wanting a mom-hug, here it is! 🤗🤗🤗💖🤍💙
As an AMAB trans woman, out to *most* people -- as you say, where safe -- and 3 years on HRT, thank you *so much* for this lovely comment. Reading this and other gentle, encouraging things in the comments is making my eyes mist -- in the best way. 😊🌈🙏
@@TitularHeroine ❤🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
@@mirandarensberger6919 Awh !! I would love one :))) you seem so sweet
that’s so sweet ❤
3:10 blåhaj is a trans thing bc the shark has the trans colors
also, it's super soft and fluffy and we all love blåhaj
I feel like an idiot now, it is that simple
Every guy I know has messy hair, you fit right in! Asked my boomer dad what he thought and he said you looked like a nice dude, but "probably a liberal" lmao across the board you're killing it, hair be damned
Exactly!! Jamie's hair is awesome, i kinda made mine similar to his when i got it cut.
I reckon hair like that looks way better when it's messy!
As an explanation of the Link memes, everyone thinks Link is trans, but no one agrees how (ftm, mtf, or nb)
Link is literally enby goals. You know they’re trans but don’t know wich way.
Edit: how tf did this get so many likes
Link is gender goals for every gender. I'm a cis dude and I dream to be as non-conforming as him one day!
Not ftm, mtf, ir enby, but a secret, fourth thing
The secret gender: Link, from Legend of Zelda.
You unlock it by being as impossible to identify as physically the human person is capable of, and a bit beyond. Once unlocked you gain all of Link’s powers..
It's also from the time when non-gamers always thought Link was Zelda. Because the game was named Zelda, but she's not the main protagonist.
7:42 For me, admitting to myself that I'm trans was a moment of extreme relief, followed by a crushing wave of despair, fear and pain as I looked at myself in the mirror with honesty for the first time. That was the first time I truly let myself acknowledge my dysphoria, and it was horrible. I cried almost constantly for the next several days, I was a wreck.
But after that, I felt a lot better, and then I started to let myself express more femme and I started to feel even better, now I'm a bit over a year on HRT and I'm happier than I ever remember being in my life.
same for the first part, the first time I ever thought about it was great then horrible, I was looking in the mirror and thought "but what if I was a guy" and I felt so happy thinking about it for a second, and then the "but I'm not trans so I can never have that" hit 🥲
(then of course the three years of repressing it and having panic attacks when thinking about gender before finally accepting it lol) but now starting HRT this year. what a roller coaster 😂
r/egg irl brings me back to younger me in denial and lost and it’s kinda funny, I hope everyone a happy transition!
Same and thanks, you too! 😁🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️✨
Yeah, looking back it was really obvious I was trans but I didn't know about the term.
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
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I believe that "MFW" is supposed to mean "my face when", but "my feelings when" works pretty much the same
Omigosh my heart for that poor girl who has the terrible therapist. D: I hope she gets some support. And any of you all who feel the same: you're so valid and I love you
Shout out to my buddy boy Mike, who just yeetus the teetus a few days ago. So proud of that kid. Even though he hates himself for the pain he's in right now, he's gonna be so happy once he gets his bandages off and can feel more himself. I'm making him a titty cake whenever he's ready to reappear in the world once more. Hoping I, too, can one day get top surgery and rid myself of the burden of boobage, though I'm 26 and can't figure out how to find a job that pays well enough for me to move away from my queerphobic family and start living my life for me and not them 🙃
Wishing you the best. The job situation is rough, but I hope you can find a way to get it done. Congrats to your friend Mike!
I love the name mike, reminds me of michael erhmentraut from breaking bad. My favorite show!
I’ve never heard ‘Yeetus the teetus’ before. I love it.
You are appreciated Jamie
Yes 😌✨
Hi
Even if you don't get to have the IKEA shark
3:05 SHAABA WHY WOULD YOU DENY YOUR MAN THE BLAHAJ?!
I don't think I ever went through a phase of denial, just a long journey of "What label makes the most sense and feels most true to me?".
I still don't know who I am, really. I need to get into some actual relationships and see how that whole bit goes. I have no data to work off of right now.
@@kindlin My journey was more gender related. I don't stress about a label for that because it's simply just "I like what I like". There is no need to rush to figure things out. Embrace the uncertainty, but be careful with relationships. I tried figuring myself out that way, and apparently, I'm a magnet for lunatics. I only have one good ex, and my biggest mistake was ending things with her because of my own insecurity.
@@disableddragonborn I have 1 ex, a girl, and I really liked the cis experience. She was not someone I could ever spend my life with, tho, she was hardly more interesting than moss on a rock. I need someone with passion, who can talk, who wants things and can show me things. Someone I can share my passions with, and learn theirs and expand their dreams. All these things and more I hope for, what I will eventually ever get....... only time will tell.
@@kindlin The girl I threw away my chances with was the first person I have ever dated that not only made me feel valued, but I also felt like she understood me, emotionally, _and_ intellectually. I have never dated anyone that was as nerdy and interested in nerdy things as me before or since. I don't know what she's up to these days, but I hope she is doing well.
Same here! I even tried on aromantic and asexual (what i identify as now) before deciding that couldn't be the case because i get "crushes" and *those* feelings towards fictional characters (a misunderstanding about what it means to be aroace, i have never actually had romantic or sexual feelings toward another person) so i don't think i was ever in denial just very confused. Especially because it was very difficult for me to identify what a *lack* of romantic attraction felt like.
This channel is what got me through getting outed to my whole family. It’s always so cheerful and helped me through a lot of internalized homophobia. Thank you so much for helping people like me
i think egg irl is technically for people who are questioning their gender, regardless of if they turn out trans or not (which more people should do tbh even if they think its likely they stay cis bc its a good bit of selfreflection and its valid either way it turns out) but as reddit usually does it goes very off topic about trans people who were questioning and retrospect on how in denial they were so that has shifted to be the main topic now. subreddits do tend to shift a ton in subjectmatter or purpose over time
Idk how to explain this but watching your videos helps me incredibly in being a parent. My toddler is quite a few years from even understanding gender identity let alone questioning their own. Yet I constantly worry.. because I'm cis I didn't make the experience myself and don't personally know any Trans people well enough to feel comfortable addressing them if I have questions and Google is irritatingly unhelpful most the time.
However, since I've started watching your videos I feel like I'm learning how to view the whole topic as a fun thing, that eventually we can watch your content together and it will help them get in touch with the topic in a light hearted way.
(Idk if this makes any sense, my brain is already in stand-by mode sorry)
I'm so happy, that you try to understand Trans People thank you for the engagement, we need more people like you
My youngest child’s father is trans and I agree that jammi is extremely helpful here. The father has nothing to do with any of her children, but since I’ve read it can be genetic, I’ll be ready just in case my son chooses the same path. Not the path of abandoning 4 children they fathered though, I won’t allow him to be that much of a pos no matter what gender he chooses 😂😂😂😂
I think it makes sense; as a parent you want to be mentally, emotionally, and in practical ways, prepared for anything that could happen.
And (not to speak for you or anything) it could help your child grow up with a sense of fairness and tolerance too! I wish my parents would've had these vids and such an open-mindedness..... 🌈🌈
Hopefully your mind will return to reality before the child is irreversibly harmed by this bullshit.
You're an amazing parents, thank you
I used to be an ally in fandom and then one day one user decided to start a discord group for only queer people in the fandom and I felt so hurt and left out by them and couldn’t understand why since I thought I wasn’t queer.
I was just deeply in denial and very much queer 😅 I understood that a while later
feel that. i always felt/knew my attraction to guys was queer, but my friend shut me down... first few weeks at uni and the realization im transmasc enby hit me xD
@@lucamannstein2587 Fellow transmasc enby who's about to start uni. I actually thought I was sapphic because my attraction to guys was never in a heteronormative way. I'm pretty much attracted to whoever fucks with gender expectations haha. I hope uni is going well :)
If a therapist, the one that is supposed to help you with mental/emotional struggles, tells you that your feelings are fake, that’s not a therapist, that’s a jerk
Whenever I see egg memes, I always remember my friend, who:
- picked traditionally feminine names in games
- cosplayed a lot and said that most people asked "who is she" when shown the pictures
- went to a party "pretending" to be a girl
It's anyone's guess as to what happened some time later.
i’m a baby trans rn and your videos help me so much!! i’m kinda scared of HRT but your videos have made me a lot less so!! thank you!!
Find a doc who is happy to answer your questions and help you make the best medical decisions for you! Best wishes!
For the most part I'm happy and comfortable (and even sometimes enjoy!) being a cis woman. I'm 6'2" and fairly broad-shouldered... For a minute in my late teens I was both using meth and a vegetarian so I was skinny and gave modeling a go, I just don't have that drive for anything, least of all modeling. But around age 12-13 I thought I'd make a pretty awesome guy, tall and blonde/blue, pretty athletic... But I hated myself when people mistakenly called me "Sir"😞
Now I'm mid-forties and have had some BS life thrown at me, actually had a leg amputated less than a year ago (crush injury to my foot, was bed-ridden for a year cuz the podiatrist wouldn't be making any $$$ off me if we cut the damn thing off) and I'm glad it's gone. Adjusting to this new body is a whole 'nother ball of wax. I was prepared to work hard (which I did after knee reconstructive Sx 12yrs ago) but wow! I thought I knew, I hadn't a clue! I spent so much time researching and following UA-camrs...
And for about 4-5 months post op I really felt unattractive and nonsexual and unf***able, like I had been reduced to a crippled piece of meat. Lol, I'm glad it's picked up though... I've been insatiable 😆💕❤️
I'm the person that made that specific Link meme after a conversation with a friend of mine where both of us (different agab, both some kind of gender non-conforming) decided that Link was gender goals.
For us it's about the ambiguity of his appearance, which has resulted in lots of non gamers thinking Link is princess Zelda.
Since making that meme I've learned I'm far from the only person that looks at Link and wants to steal his gender ^^
P.S.: I deliberately used Twilight princess Link for that meme, because he looks so cool
I like your choice! TP Link gets the classic designs but it’s also clearly really armor which makes it awesome.
Thanks for sharing the behind the scenes story!
Also, TP Link is just very hot
What do you mean you don't look as cute as Kermit hugging a phone? Of course you do, you're the cutest!
BTW, your transition journey video is one of my go-to's. I'm cis, and your transition video gives me all the huggy squee feels.
7:00 there's a place called Transmart in my city. It's a supermarket, but i can't get it out of my head that the name is stating a supermarket for trans people🤣
I work for a company that owns a lot of car dealerships, and I always smile when I see a repair order for "Trans Service".
9:31 Let’s not dwell on the semantics when there are s**tty people. The swearing came from the heart.
This makes me think about the whole thing where I've experienced my gender as a moving target for as long as i can remember and it took until i was 27 for me to realize I was genderfluid... and took another year for me to realize not everyone experienced their gender as a moving target... 2 years later it still feels weird that its not the norm to experience gender like that.
"norm"s are awkward to apply to the human diversity we observe, you are valid how you are, no matter how common that is
I've come to believe that there are multiple normals. Your normal is just as valid a normal as other people's.
Yooo, exactly the same here ahah Except I was 25
@@fionafiona1146 I meant norm as in the typical experience, not as what is accepted. Of course, your gender identity and experience is valid and should be respected, but most of our queer genders will never be seen as the typical way of being, and that is fine as long as it is respected and embraced. ;)
8:15 i dont think ill ever not cry at "this is my voice __ on t" because its so reassuring knowing thats my future
I remember when I was an egg, it was a great denial phase 😂😂
Not me watching EggIRL videos when I was younger and not understanding what it was about-
Ikr, shit was so much easier
You have the most gentle, calm voice. It's such a lovely experience to hear you talking about happy things after a long, loud day
As a Legend of Zelda player, I think what the Link meme was trying to say was that Link is a man and is very handsome and pretty at the same time. He has both feminine and masculine characteristics and can be kind of androgynous depending on which version of him. He did also crossdress in Breath of the Wild. It's almost as if he can be anything he wants XD I think that's why transmascs, transfems, and enbies find him so interesting/ want to be him.
Loving the content! Found your channel a few months ago and discovered my identity from you, so thank you! You kinda taught me what lgbtqia+ was :) ❤
Link is just universal transition goals
I'm 34 and sometimes still wish I could just accept the body I was cursed with. I can't afford anything for the transition, and I have this pretty strong belief that this is the body I'll die with.
You may not to be able to transition now but you could possibly do smaller things now like pronouns ect, clothing and hormones.
Not everyone needs to complete a full transition, sometimes hormones ect is enough.
I know you probably are already doing as such, sorry if that is the case the only thing I can do from this keyboard is wish you well and as easy it is to say but difficult to do, you have to focus on the here and now, focusing on long term goals too much can make you well even more depressed. You will get there eventually.
I`m sorry I can`t do anything to help your situation. Stay strong, stay well.
You're still valid, even if you don't "fully" transition!
I began transitioning in my late forties.... I feel what you're going through for sure. Maybe there are medical benefits you can access such as through your health insurance?
As hard as life can still be as a trans person it would have been so much worse had I not.
Hang in there. Transitioning isn't an all-or-nothing deal. Wear the things that make you happy, use the name and pronouns that you like best (where it's safe), and give yourself the same kindness that you give others. You are no less your gender just because you don't have the body culture says you "should" have.
We care about you. You are valuable, valid, and worthy of love.
Your gender is valid matter what you do (or don't) for your transition
this feels like a good comments section for this - i’ve been on T for almost two weeks now, and i was not expecting any changes at this point because… less than 2 weeks. but i’m definitely experiencing something downstairs and my voice has dropped a semitone (not much but it was noticeable as i sing). curious as to how other things will change as time progresses. not going to notice if i start sweating more probably as it’s becoming summer so i would be anyway. my people this is exciting stuff.
I hope you check back in here with more thoughts and observations, soon. Best wishes!
Good job, and good luck! Also, you're completely right, this is the tamest Jammidodger comment section I've seen in a while. I have yet to come across any transphobes, and I hope it stays like that.
How I realized I am a Demi girl is that I told someone “I use she/her pronouns but I also really really like they too. So I guess I don’t really care”. Six months later I realized that was not a very cis to say and I in fact am not cis.
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When I realised I was non-binary I went back and forth trying to convince myself that I'm cis but what helped me was coming out to my friend and she made me feel alot more confident and happy with myself and I accepted myself for who I am :)
I feel like not getting jokes or ruining them is Jamie's version of Dad Jokes
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P.S Thank you so much for helping me through my own journey. I began watching when you first started.
today would've been my 1 year of transitioning (ftm) but I detransitioned back in June. it was a hard decision yet I got annoyed with being misgenderd, the crippling body dismorphia/dysphoria, the transphobia I faced everyday and the sexualization. I now identify as cisgender and i don't feel like myself, I feel stuck and confused as to what gender I am. I feel as if I will never pass as a male nor a female
I know this is no were near equivalent and your story is much harder. I myself am a cis guy but I do have autism and due to this people have treated me like shit for things outside of my control. People will be cruel and dickish no matter what you do but don`t let them control your actions.
Some people are simply not worth knowing, that can be family or friends and it is tough but you have to walk away from some people like that, I had to myself.
As for work colleges, class mates, teachers and other people that are assholes but avoidable the best you can hope for is to report it and for those responsible to take action although there will be times were one will try.
At university I had lectures talk down to me like a child and I even got a first class honours in my degree, not matter how hard I work people will always treat me like an idiot.
I message to you is do not live by someone else`s ideals, you have to live for yourself and accept yourself.
This is coming from a guy who came close to taking his own life twice, no one has it easy and some have it harder than most but that doesn`t mean you don`t matter, do what you have to do. You do not have to justify yourself to anyone else.
I have been through several bleak moments in my life and I will probably see some more in the future but I will endure, these experiences put us in a position to help others going through tough times.
But remember all of these struggles in the grand scheme of things are temporary and you will if you continue find those that will accept you as you are.
I for one do not care that you are trans or not, I care about your wellbeing as someone who has struggled as well.
I love you and I hope your decisions are your own uncorrupted not matter how hard they are to make.
I'm sorry you can't be who you know you are. I hope are able to live authentically one day ❣️
Sending hugs.
It unfortunately takes years before your passing as your new gender. And you don't necessarily have to fully transition if you don't want to. Figure out what it would take for you to be happy in the end and work towards that. It will might be terrible the whole time while working towards that but if thats what it takes for you to be happy it'll be worth it.
As a non-binary afab living in a very conservative small town I get it. Sending love.
I love you jamie!! You make me feel so safe
I protect you, litte cat
Cat will be protected.
We will protect cat 🥷🥷🥷
at 10:45, the picture is from a video game called gris, which has absolutely gorgeous art and the story revolves around the stages of grief, and a new color is introduced to the landscape with each stage. it's one of my all-time favorite games
9:20 That therapist needs their license revoked.
one time I had a dream that I got top surgery in an IKEA and I was super happy and then I woke up and had a real bad dysphoria day :/
Are you ftm? I imagine Ikea going like "meatball removal zone"
@@vexcosplay7846 That sounds more MTF to me. "Me and the girls getting our orchis at Claire's" vibes.
@@tjenadonn6158 kinda- depending on what size meatballs tho 😶
4:50 ... a "subconcious pull to the colours of identity flag". Yeah, I can relate to that one. I loved the colour combo of the ace flag even before I knew that asexuality exists, let alone it has a flag and how it looks like. Might be pure coincidence, I don't know... But it sure is funny to me how I walked around like a living ace flag years before the knowledge.
Same, my colour scheme for clothes has been grey and purple for years and I hadn't even heard of asexuality yet when I started buying those clothes. Nowadays, I do it on purpose. I have a pair of shoes with the ace colours and one with the aro colours and once I even bought a toothbrush because it was aro green
Long before I knew I was ace, I made my entire room pourple
I had an anole named “Ace”.
Rad as beans
10:14 I don't remember most of the transphobic things my family has said over the years, and I didn't even realize that they said really transphobic things until I realized I was trans, but my earliest memory from when I was little (I think I was around 4-6) was my mom, after she heard a story about a trans person on a Facebook post, saying that she hoped none of her kids end up trans.
I'm in my 30s and only starting the gender journey it feels. I've recently started exploring pronouns and think that agender may be the term for me...and then I remember a throwaway comment from my mom in high school that she "was wondering if [I] was gonna be one of those transvestite people". Luckily I have a therapist that isn't a dick and someone to support me through exploration here.
You're my first proper exposure to healthy ideas of non-cis gender ideas about 2 years ago and I want to thank you for helping me start this journey.
So glad you have good support! Best to you, wherever your gender journey takes you.
Your hair isn’t as messy as my son’s gets, he’s finally to the point in his transition that he doesn’t cut his hair extremely short because he “passes”. Love that he feels comfortable now!
7:51 when i realized that i was trans at first i felt better but then our good friend ✨️dysphoria✨️ started to make itself known and now i get larger waves of misery than ever
The first thing that got me questioning my gender was literally just the fact that in any game where it's an option, I decided to be a girl. Now I am a girl in real life, so the moral of the story is. Actually there is none. How unfortunate.
Egg irl is always one of the BEST subreddits. 😂
aww... Shaaba, let him have the Ikea shark! He NEEDS it!
Link just has a certain androgyny and between that and the joke of people thinking Link is Zelda (The princess, a female character in the games who non-game fans get confused and think must be the main character), Link becomes the perfect trans standin whether you read Link as trans woman, trans man, non-binary, just sort of like, an every-gender.
10:24 This is so real. My brother has said transphobic stuff before, but when I came out as agender, he admitted he hasn't really understood gender-related stuff in the past but that he supports and loves me. Sometimes it's very alien to people and they don't WANT to educate themselves on it until it's relevant to someone they care about (not saying they shouldn't want to be educated anyway, but sometimes people's reactions really will surprise you if you have a good relationship with that person)
2:20 lots of people confuse link with zelda so its become a very universal meme that whichever one you think is the MC is how you identify
Sometimes I see the "playing as a woman" egg meme and think "does this make me an egg" then I realise I have never had dysphoric thoughts
2:55 it's terrible that Shaaba won't let you live out your true self AND GET A DAMN BLAHAJ!
jk, you two are cute and she's the most supportive partner ever ;) and i do kinda trust your relationship that should you ever *really* crave adding a BLAHAJ to your family, you could just say so and she's not *actually* in charge of whether you buy nice things ;)
I’m not trans myself, but I did have a friend from childhood that came out as trans later in life. Looking back, with them always always wanting to present as the opposite gender in the games we played together, it does make sense. I guess I witnessed someone else’s egg moments lol
It’s not a mess, it’s adorably tousled
Im 19 having come out about a year ago. I recently remembered the time in SECOND GRADE i fully came out to my ENTIRE CLASS and then promtly got so scared i ran back into the closet and burried that memory so thoroughly i didnt remember it until after i had come out AGAIN. over a decade later. Thanks brain, love ya👍
I've never played any of the Zelda games, however I relate to that meme SO HARD. Basically the thing with Link, at least for me, is that he is in-between that area or being feminine and masculine. He's both yet neither depending on how you look at him. Maybe he looks more masculine, maybe he looks more feminine to some!
And as a Transmasc myself, I ALWAYS gender envied Link.
4:22 I would see this a lot as a child. Maybe it was a subtle sign from the universe to own my gayness.
A few months or maybe weeks before the Blajah memes started, someone shared a meme that said sharks should be a trans mascot because they are the same colors as the trans flag. They are light blue on tope, white on the bottom, and their mouths are pink. I believe the Blajah is directly related to that meme. Hope this helps
Thank you! This is cute and makes sense!
@@creattiva90 I hope Jamie sees it. I was trying to answer his question, but he gets so many comments.
Im genderfluid, and one day, my animal crossing villager referred to me as “they”. It made me so happy I almost cried.
8:06 ‘My Face When’.
God, the first one reminds me of something that happened with a modder for a video game. The mod included voice effects for certain interactions, but they were only the female voice, even when you played as a male character which was kind of weird when you suddenly had a feminine voice lol. When asked about it the modder responded "I just assumed everyone played as a girl?"
The Hershey’s joke was mine I’m glad that I finally got featured in a Jamie video😭❤️
Loved it! It made me laugh out loud for real.
As a her/she who's mad for Hershey's chocolate, I LOVED that one. Thanks for making it!
On the first one, reminds me of a interaction I had in Toontown. I tend to make both male & female characters, I make them as their own person, not an extension of me but I am non-binary, thanks to some updates in the game, I can present enby now but this happened before that & the particular toons used in the interaction, I consider one male & the other female because their names come from songs, one being named after a car in a song but the song used female pronouns to describe the car so I made her female, the other toon I have is named after a dog that in the song is male & since it’s a country song, I have him looking like a cowboy.
I’m playing as the dog, Ol’ Red when this guy is insulting the build I did for him & I was explaining that it’s just a fun thing & that I’m doing a certain challenge with it & he’s going on & on about how I wouldn’t be able to do stuff in the game because of it & I told him that I didn’t want to do that stuff on this toon but I have a different ones that can do that & he didn’t believe me. As long as toons are on different accounts, you can run more than one at a time so I signed into my other toon, Little Goose Coupe, she’s a duck & happened to be wearing clearly feminine clothing when I did & I teleported to myself & explained that this is my other toon & he went, “why on earth are you playing as a chick? That’s so gross!” I asked why he thought it was gross & he responded with, “because you’re a dude!” I’m afab & someone believing that I’m male put a smile to my face but I tried explaining that I’m neither male or female & he was not getting it & it devolved into him trying to figure out what’s in my pants pretty much but asking in weird sorts of ways because of the limited chat dictionary & the fact that it’s a kids game so a lot of what he wanted to say, he couldn’t. Thankfully, there were a lot of witnesses & we all reported him.
On the note of being drawn to flag colors, I’m ace & known for a long time, also, purple happens to be one of my favorite colors so it works out, I end up going for stuff that happens to be the color of the ace flag, a lot of the time it’s because “I’m ace & I like that this is ace colored” but other times it’s “PURPLE!!!! MINE!!!!”
As for the dream thing, I had a dream where I was a boy back when I was 13 & I shared it with a friend because I really enjoyed it & that friend told me that’s weird & disturbing so I kept quiet on that stuff for so many years, tried pushing down the feelings & ignoring it, it was a pain but glad I know it’s a normal thing.
8:55 it’s a depressing relief that i’m not the only one with bad therapy experiences. like it’s sad i wish i was but at least i’m not alone. my therapist when i went to her really just made some things worse and helped a tiny bit with other things
*sigh*
8:34 this right here hit me right in the feels, hits too close to home man...
Oh, sorry
It’s a bit concerning that I related to so many of these because I’m agender (at least right now) and when I started trying to figure it out I thought I might be trans but then the actual idea of being a guy didn’t feel like me at all so I figured there’s no way I could be trans, but maybe I was wrong…
I'm agender too. I thought 'strip away everything you are and build yourself up from this nothingness' I realised there was nothing for me to build towards. I just wanted to be a brain in a vat or a cyborg. A floating conscience or a computer maybe.
@@deldarel same. Like, I’m not a guy, I’m not a girl, I’m just a being existing on the earth
I'm with you. A lot of the Egg stuff sort of ignores agender folx (and sometimes nb folx as well). We're fine. We each know ourselves better than anyone else does, and we're allowed to change how we see ourselves or not just as everyone else is.
LOL, I remember my friends were asking why I always chose the female character in my pokemon games so I spun entire story how the first time I caught Giratina, my favorite pokemon, I was playing as a girl and it was my "lucky gender". Legit don't know how I went under the radar for so long with saying stuff like that for so long.
Lol saying something is lucky, and presenting any "weird/odd behavior" as a superstition always gets a pass in my experience. People will legitimately make the oddest things a tradition because they think it's lucky so basically anything goes, especially if it's something fairly simple like a game character.
I mean there are a lot of reasons to pick the female characters over males, for example screen space, female models tend to take up way less screen space than male models and so any action game wither it be platformers or action RPGs choosing the female model makes seeing what is going on easier.
I always picked female characters and I always assumed most guys did as well because well you are looking at your character for 40+ hours and it is nicer to look at, I didn't realize I was the odd one out till just looking it up now. I mean sure I have always felt more connected to women than men subconsciously though it was only more recently that I consciously realized it, but still I always assumed that most guys also picked female characters because of being both nicer to look at and having an advantage of smaller screen space and sometimes even smaller hitboxes which made things like jumping puzzles in Guild Wars 2 way easier since you had more room to work with, I didn't realize I was in the minority.
I'm not trans myself, but I began learning on the topic because the first time that I encountered the subject (about 10 years ago, in an article talking about a pregnant man), I did not understand it. Now that I understand more things about trans people, the part at 8:51 tends to make my blood boil/make me sad. Something similar recently happened to me where a teacher was trying to disprove trans people by saying that "c0nv3rsion th3rapy worked before it became woke science", and I had to argue for half a week with them just to barely convey the basis on the topic (it doesn't help that it was mostly a discussion where no one was listening, because they seemed to think that I was some kind of "archbishop of gender" or something, while I found that their points were going from bad to worst).
I am still kinda in the "egg" stage and figuring things out, but recently I've had this sudden urge just to post on FB: "Hey. I would like to be referred to using she/they pronouns, please. Thank you." And just leave it like that. Idk. Still working on the wording.
Also a weird thing happened about a month ago where I was setting up a profile for my mom on my paramount+ account. I had already taken the cat pfp which she was trying to convince me to change so she could have it. She then points at the nonbinary character from one of the new Star Trek shows and goes "I think you would relate to this character. Maybe. They started off as a she at the beginning of the show and is now a they." And I'm like "Oh, ok. Cool." And then I changed the subject. Internally, I was like "Mom! I am still figuring this out for myself. Don't get ahead of me here. I haven't even totally accepted that I am nonbinary." Lol.
I told my sister about this and we just laughed. We love her. She tries even if she doesn't totally understand. Lol.
Aww that’s so wholesome! I wish you the best of luck!
There's a trucking company in Canada called Transbois (bois meaning wood in French) and I think it's perfect
I remember being an egg; it was one of these videos that brought me out of denial.
Thanks Jamie!
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In 2018, Blåhaj grew to prominence as an internet meme, with social media users posting humorous photos of it in their homes. Around this time, Blåhaj began to be associated with LGBT and particularly transgender individuals, in part due to being colored similarly to the transgender flag.
I chose male to affirm my masculinity when I was younger, but I've been shifting to more feminine characters recently
My trans awakening was listening to cave town's 'this is home' not knowing it was about transitioning, finding out through animatics and being like 'oh that's what it is'
When I realised I was trans this was my reaction: "Oh crap, f*ck... this is real." And my second thought was: "Oh crap.. now I have to come out again." I came put as bi when I was 14 and all I could see now was this near future when I had to come out with something even more unconventional.
It's like I for years had all the pieces of the puzzle but couldn't put them together before, and now I see the whole picture.
I have started coming out to some people and now it's less crap and more... just hard and me being nervous before every conversation I have about it.
Eventuelly, when my camera starts to work again - for some reson my camera is not getting along with windows 11 on my new computer - I'll come out on my youtube channel. Wish me luck.
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I really relate to the " MFW..." post. I remember crying when some trans guy on youtube announced that he's finally getting top surgery. I talked to a drag king friend about it and said "you know when you as an empath just feel so much joy for other people that you cry with them", she was like "yeah...". I said "well, I cried when x announced this." She said: "no dude, that's not your empathy, that's you being trans. I saw that as well and I didn't cry." And me and her are both criers so I was like... "Oh. I just thought 'I am sooo empathic', haha".
She looked me in the eye and said "No, well you are an empath, but crying every time a trans person hits a milestone is not because of that..."
She said: "I know I am not trans because even though I love dressing up and putting on a drag show, afterwards I can't wait to get out of the clothes because HAVING a beard and chest hair for too long makes me dysphoric, I just want to go back to being me."
10:30 Yes that is so real. I was very concerned with coming out to my family for over a decade, don't ask I'm the most stubborn person who ever lived. They had said really hurtful things in the past. For example my mother has loved Grey's Anatomy since season one and when in the later seasons I heard her say with my own ears 'I knew there was something wrong with him' when a character was revealed to be a trans man. Then was completely accepting of her nearly 30 year old kid coming out as trans. People just don't know how to respond and often don't have the right words. While it feels relevant at the time, it's also not fair to judge someone based on their reaction to a hypothetical fictional situation that took them by surprise. What my mother meant was that she had picked up on the foreshadowing of the show and knew he had a secret, you'll see above she had said 'him'.
Link is everyone’s gender goals
I (ftm, almost 15) was telling my mother “when I’m big I’ll be driving a car, I’ll eat lots of chewing gum, and I’ll be a man.” when I was just two years old. But how I just told her that I wanna be a man as if it would be the most normal thing to say😂🏳️⚧️
Fresh Jamie video! Yesss! Love your vids Jamie! 💙💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ love from a trans guy! You helped me figure out I’m trans and I thank you so much for that! I’m much happier now that I’m living as a boy, you’re the best!
5:26 literally Paul Preciado writing "Testo Junkie" then coming out as a trans man
Love the vids Jamie!! You helped me find out my identity a few months ago when I didn't know what my sexuality was, so thank you!
The whole “doesn’t everyone want to be girl mc in games” happened with one of my friends😭 I’ll call them Jayden for this little story
I don’t remember what we were talking about but they said
Jayden: “Honestly do girls relate to any girl characters in anything?”
Me: “yes…?”
Jayden: “really? Cuz I don’t”
Me:”…Jayden-“
That opening statement was literally me, when I finally stopped being an egg
8:25 me when my friend who I met like a month after coming out and who came out about half a year later tells me she's getting her HRT by the end of the month after taking forever jumping through hoops only to meet dead-end after dead-end.
Side note but I was kind of like a trigger point for a lot of people I knew? We were always all very "gender doesn't matter dude" and then I came out and like... 90% of the people I knew ended up coming out as being part of the trans umbrella shortly after 😅