Stop Using Dating Apps
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- Опубліковано 10 лис 2022
- Stop using dating apps, fellas. Unless you're a top tier guy, they are often a waste of time.
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I realized joining dating apps was one of the dumbest things I've done as an adult. I know the numbers are skewed, it depletes my time, and affects my mental health. I've deleted them all. Thanks for this video.
I had common sense enough to realize that no decent girl would use a dating app and the numbers are like 1000 guys for 1 girl. If the girl was attractive, she wouldn't need dating apps.
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
The only winner on the apps are the developers. The algorithm is setup to keep you on the app and take your money and time.
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Finally someone said it!!!
Dating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
I am a woman watching this, and he is so right. But just to say I have been catfished, ghosted, and sent many rude and weird messages from people online. I think a lot of women who are genuine like me have a hard time trying to meet someone on a dating app. Anyway I deleted all my dating apps, working on myself now. Great video.
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@@ShaunZachary thanks for the reply
True. Men nowadays are so weird
@@Zi_gemi8222Both* def not just men keep coping smh woman out here saying they want a man who makes a million a year is weird in itself and woman the same species who want men to buy them so much stuff it's 2024 woman can work jobs now and make money get it yourself your not a little kid.
@@Zi_gemi8222 Everyone is weird nowadays.
I’m 25 and it’s a flat out headache trying to even have a conversation with most of the women on the apps. Even the ugly ones have narcissistic problems.
The majority of women I run into on there are filled with daddy issues, pill popping mental issues or they randomly go off about their ex and how he did all this bad stuff to her. I’m at a point where I’d rather just go my own way, build my life without women in the picture at all for a long time.
Luckily my ex broke up with me and told me she had been diagnosed with depression months before she left me… she did me a favor 🙏🏼
I’m 50, I’ve never been on a dating app, but I was on Reddit in a lonely chat. It was so sad, it was mostly filled with young men being so down ridden because they can’t meet nice girls, and the apps are brutal. I had no clue just how toxic these apps are. Thank you for helping me understand. They were so laser focused on being losers they couldn’t hear any advice, especially from an old gal like me. They need to hear a voice like this. Bless you for trying to get through.❤
I think one of the issues with young men these days is social media and constantly getting ignored by women on apps. It makes them feel like crap.
The key to dating apps is also get them off the app asap and plan a date. Stop being a pen pal
#5 Amen. I got off the dating apps about 4-5 years ago now. At least you know if you have a connection with her if you meet her in person. And what she looks like from the neck down lmao.
I always do well with ladies when I go out. But I have never had tons of success with online dating. I couldn’t figure out why. Then I realized how it all worked and got off of them. They had my confidence down. I would reach out to a 5 or 6 and wouldn’t even get responses. Shit was insane. Never again. Good stuff bro.
Exactly bro spot on
The same here. Whenever a guy sees me in person they mostly say I am gorgeous. But I am not popular online
Had a few dates but most are crap. WASTE OF TIME.
Better focus on my improvement.
He’s absolutely right! Dating apps are a waste of time. You’re not guaranteed to find someone who’s looking for a serious relationship. There are criminals, narcissists, fuck boys, and cat fishes, focus on yourself rather than meet someone online.
If you can't talk to a woman in real life, you damn sure, shouldn't be on an app. But if you're just chilling and dating, the apps are just for fun. Nothing to take seriously.
Agreed
By in real life do you mean approaching or just having a convo with them?
@@Scottstation222 either
It's also a hunting ground for narcissists, toxic predators and other types of damaged goods. Dating apps provide an opportunity for both men and women to put on a facade and portray themselves as whoever they want to be. The filthy rich millionaire with a private jet could be a creepy catfish who lives in a trailer park.
I've been off dating apps for years. I tried a few, and "maybe" met 2-3 quality gals over a period of about 1 year. I honestly prefer to meet women out in real life. I meet a lot of people (friends, gals, etc) just hanging out doing things I like to do. Do this and you'll naturally meet like minded people. If you have the balls to walk up to someone in real life, then you already have a massive advantage over other guys. Just sayin..
Let me tell y’all, this man is right. Life will literally pass you by, when your chasing these women and on these dating apps. I’ve had tinder, bumble, hinge, badoo, all of them since 2019.. and I’ve slept with MANY women off these apps. I’ve met good ones too, but 95% of women you meet on dating apps are either catfishes ( they look NOTHING like their pictures ), Have children, Drama, trauma, overall just damaged goods. I recently deleted all the dating apps off my phone because it’s literally a waste of time. These apps become addicting after a while, which is what the app creators are counting on, so you can continue to spend your hard earned money on Subscriptions and profile boosts, hoping you’ll get more female matches.. this is what they are counting on! Girls don’t even have to pay like we do.. it’s all setup for females to boost their ego. Girls on these apps are mad entitled. One chick got upset at me and unmatched from me because I asked her what does she bring to the table.. a lot of women on these apps are OVERWEIGHT and have the audacity to be demanding and entitled.. guys stay off these dating apps. Your self esteem will literally sky rocket. Half the girls on these apps just want attention and validation.. absolutely no intention on meeting you..a lot of them don’t even respond when you match with them.. complete waste of time. It’s pathetic swiping back and forth waiting on a match.. your wasting time. Listen to this man, STAY OFF THE DATING APPS and focus on you and the women will too, believe me!
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Absolutely
So how have you slept with many women and yet have not found one for relationship? You said there’s good ones too but what’s the issue?
@K.K. Lee coz that women also looking for sex ,validation,attention and free meals !! You must remember these women on the dating apps are the last of the pickings ! No man wants them in real life that's y they on dating apps ! They not marriage material.
Facts and the women will follow😊
This advice is pure GOLD....never has anyone explained the truth in a more down to earth easy to understand way....from one man to another...ty Shawn !
Thanks for watching my Guy 💪🏼💪🏼
He is right!!!!!! I know he’s talking to men lol but hell he’s talking to me too and I’m a woman! I agree!!! Thank you!!!!!!!!!
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I agree with everything you've said here. I think online dating is about the most toxic, soul-destroying and devaluing activity a man can engage in. Most people are just on it for validation and it has given rise to some pretty awful behaviour on both sides. Trying to pass yourself off as a confident man and using a dating app is like trying pass yourself off as a world class chef and only cooking microwave meals. While online dating might be easy, convenient and readily available, it's often very disappointing. If a woman rejects you in real life, at least you can walk away safe in the knowledge you were confident enough to try and (win or lose) you still stand out from the others.
Amen, Edward. 🙌 It's been 2 off those lonesome apps for 2 years, here. And hence, no date in also 2 years. Have now manifested such beautiful progress in my life. So healing!
Hoping more folks try the organic approach. And, don't forget--- You Are Enough! Blessings from Austin ❤️🔥
I love everything you say here! My girlfriend and I were on the same dating app at the same time for a while and said the same things about men that you are saying about women! It just illuminates for me how toxic dating apps are for men and women and these apps are creating a great divide between men and women IMO! I was crushed at how no guys really made any attempt to get to know me. Put me into depression! And I would try to get to know him via chatting and suddenly he would disappear. I drove 15 miles to meet a guy and when I wouldn't go home with him he got mad. I never heard from him again.. which was good. But us women are vulnerable physically and emotionally to men and its instinctual for us to need to feel SAFE with a guy. Please remember that. We have to be more careful cause of this. But we need you!
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bro this video was the truth. i haven’t been on one app this entire year and the inner peace and confidence i have gained is unmatched. communication w women is a lost art for many these days. keep up the good work. 💪🏽✅
For sure bro, we gotta get back to more in person communication. No guys do it anymore, so the ones that do are winning.
Yeah my ex is on one.. Literally 20 mins after dropping me 🤣 one of my friends spotted her. I'd rather go out on a weekend and source because as least then you know they aren't talking to dozens at a time
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I also deleted all my apps. They have the same developers as slot machines. I wasn't getting anywhere. It's been hard but like any addiction, 1 day at a time. Decided to go back to offline approaches and just improving myself.
💯 per usual Shaun. I’ve deleted the dating apps and it forces me to meet women in real life if I wanna get laid. I’m putting in the work and getting more social. Making more dude friends and meeting potential dates alike. My best tip is to go on a hike or someone where there’s a bunch of people and say hi to literally everyone. This teaches you that when the vast majority doesn’t give a fuck about you, it doesn’t impact you in any way at all and vice versa you don’t get too high if you meet a baddie. It will empower you to become the best version of yourself. Trust me!
Absolutely. Thanks Shaun. Great video.
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Welcome Shaun, so true 👍
This is good advice for women too.a lot of women get messed around on dating apps as well it's not just guys.
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You are absolutely right brother!!
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Dude, I loved this video!
I was so sucked into dating apps!
Thank you for keeping it real, guys need to hear this.
Thank you for your time,
Brian P.
Thanks for watching! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey Boo! Swipe swipe swipe! 😂😂😂 Fr
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@@ShaunZachary you're the man Shaun. I'm a 54 yr. Old school white dude, and you crack me up! Stay on your game fellas! No simpin!
Excellent video as always, much appreciated
I think it is for both men and women. Not just men. I am a woman
Absolutely true! 👍
Way to go Shaun, tell the truth! All or a lot of the people that i have chatted with on these "traps" not apps lol are serial cheaters, sleep arounds, etc. Guys, work on yourselves. Being confident IRL is the best. These apps are a trap for good hard working men out there. Stay strong and keep fighting 😊
Bro, the fact that I believe I’m the prize is enough reason to not be on there. I’d be lying if I said my curiosity didn’t mean I didn’t check them out! That’s all it was though. Trash, just saw old girls from back in the day, shook my head and kept it moving
By all means check them out and play around on them, but I guess my main argument is just do it responsibly and don’t take it too serious.
Please Listen to this man he's telling you the truth.
Ive never stayed on a dating app for more than 5 days I collect the numbers then im off it
Hi 👋
Bro ! Our ideologies are extremely identical. I never was into dating apps . I prefer the cold approach. Men have to focus on being the best version of themselves so that when they do see a woman they like , approaching them would be no problem.
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Dear Shaun,
Thank you for this video! I have used a lot of dating apps in the past and had some success and never problems getting matches or dates, but it never consolidated like a real relationship. Just some sex here and there and a lot stress, missing out on improving myself and hitting rock bottom with respect to self-confidence.
Since a while I am talking more and more to woman in the real world and its so enjoyable and much better. Seriously, dating apps should be forbidden.....
Haven't used tinder in 1 year glad I'm off them
Literally scrolled through tinder, went to UA-cam and this was on top of my page 😂😂
Lmao
This is was I stop using dating apps to much catfish on their
I'd rather get rejected than use these dumb apps full of fake profiles and scammers.
But given my circumstances it's so hard to meet someone in person.
Im done with online dating im just going to focus on myself find someone in person dating apps is not fun at all
Same with girls this happens to us wate of time ... girls also have this
Good content bro. I forwarded to my amigos
Appreciate it bro 🤜🏼🤛🏼
You're on the toilet and you're swiping when you should be wiping.
Great video Shaun !!
Salute Chev 🫡
I am a 60+ woman who has spent far too much time on these sites. It's the same for both genders. It's a colossal waste of time and energy .Really so addictive and disappointing and devastating in the end. I hate to admit how many times I was rejected, if men even showed any interest at all. Some just left me their phone number thinking I was going to call. Zero effort, no interest in my profile, to see if we had any of the same interests and compatibility. I initiated many times but men don't even bother to read my message. How humiliating is that?? Men seem to be looking for 'a good' time, especially with much younger ladies, not serious companionship, with women of their own age, who are attractive, independent, active, have alot of life experience to share but nobody's interested in us. Many don't even post a photo, or a blurry one, from twenty years ago, even in my age group! It's a minefield and not for the fainthearted.I got stood up plenty of times, men were arrogant and belligerent towards me, thinking they had it all sewn up, thinking women are desperate. Only recently got off, for good. It's hard cause there are not alot of ways to meet in person ,especially as we age. It's a two way street, on both sides. Rejection and loss of confidence hurts equally. Let's all treat each other properly!
Simps would swipe right for anything with a heart beat.
Hey bro thanks for the advice your damn right on that I just subscribe to your channel 👌
5:47 As a guy, I can certainly say I do *not* match with all match requests that come my way. I’ve passed on fat or unattractive women, single moms, or women I just found unappealing because they smoked weed or had pink hair and tattoos. We aren’t all desperate men.
great video.
Yes this is true
I been on Facebook dating for 5 months only one match . Woman don't like me back I think is fake
Fam I feel what you said 100 percent and I totally agree. The only issue I have personally is that out here in LA people are aggressively antisocial and do not want to speak to each other in public. Its a bunch of bots in this god forsaken city...I've never had any trouble with my social skills or approaching women until I came here where people are socially inept and super guarded. Maybe I should just leave to another city 🤔 what you think?
You’re right but there are people who do have good intentions
I was on an App once, and I msg'd her "You're a bot aren't you?", and she responded "good job". It's a cold game ya'll.
Bang on Bro - set up a date from the get go period.
Damnit boi
Wise man
im swiping right now, chatting to a chick lol, ive had a few but it never equals up to the amount of time i spent tryna find em... dating apps are garbage and the only time i see chicks in 3D is at the gym...other than that its dead for finding girls and i dont wanna go clubs tired of that shit to my soul.. whats a man to do?
Just gotta stay alert in your everyday life fam! Grocery store, gas station, target, just getting out the house and walking through the park or lake. They are literally everywhere
Dating apps is a waste of time a waste of energy and a waste of money 💰.
I got laid off Tinder I’m not giving up I love the potential
But women are also judged right away. Its just as detrimental for women I think.
10:22 blues clues 😂
It’s the intro for me 😭🤍🧘🏾♀️
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Girls agreed with you.. we have guys do this to us fake profiles loads likes never want to meet us
6 months no dates this is a lady same
Fuck dude! Thank you for this video man! Your hitting nails on the head! I really appreciate it. I've been wanting to get off the apps. Just cause one minute it's happening, next minute I'm doing the nightly swipe bull crap.
Dating apps are like human vending machines and you know you can’t get anything healthy out of vending machine😂😂
I agree 100%, love your thinking.
Top channel conversation.
Nice work, keep it coming.
Stay well ❤😊
Thank you bro 🙏🏼
Yup
I quit dating apps all together. I have Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder), so the cards are stacked against me cause I'm socially awkward. I quit dating all together and focusing on me.
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Greetings
Some of the most narcissistic, crazy, and trauma filled women are on the dating apps because no one wants them in real life. I've dated 3 women off of dating apps and all 3 after a few months turned into an absolute nightmare once their true colors were revealed.
Bro you could have cut the video after the first 30 seconds nuff said.
True 😂
I just wanna die. Got broken up with a year ago, this fricking apps don't get a single normal woman on them. In the daily life there's no one nice or interesting. What's the point to life
Good points Shaun. I will say this. I do the apps here and there. I don't have expectations. The women that like me are ones Ugly out of shape and someone who didnt even pay attention to my profile. Now i don't swipe right on every woman my dude. I'm not that desperate. I have standards because i know what i like and what I'm about. For the most part These apps are a joke. I will not be used for attention. If i ask them out and they dont get back or say There Not sure. I delete and block. I also do that with women in the real world. My time is valuable and i refuse to be stroked for some chicks ego. Nope
I don't use dating apps. These are different times for dating. It's dangerous.
Hi Shaun! I just heard a quote from Chris Rock: Only woman and dogs are loved unconditionaly, men are loved on the condition that hè provides something. Is this true? And If so, why should you wanna be in a relationship as a provider when you know she will leave when you know she doenst love you for you? That has nothing to do with love, you only there to pay the mortgage and Bills. Maybe an idea for a video? Enjoy the weekend !
No, of course that's not true! Because one person said that? 😆
Cold approaching brings a high litigation.
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❤❤❤❤😂😂😂 truth
On dating apps as a man you’re just a number to women on there
So what are we supposed to do I’m awkward in real life every time I see someone irl I like I freeze thinking she’s taken
He’s right. I was at a point where I was on and off the apps for a while. Now a year and a half later I can’t even get myself to begin searching for them on the App Store. Can’t speak for any of them recently but I’m sure it’s still a shit show. So much better without them
Feel this so much brotha. I jus recently broke up with a toxic girl I dated for two months that I meant through bumble. After that experience I made a promise to myself make an effort to meet girls face to face and in person and not rely on these dating apps. They truly do hold you back from goin out there and approaching women. Me and some buddies goin to a college bar this weekend to get drinks and approach and meet some women the old fashion way instead of sitting on an app hoping that finally a girl after like 50 swips finally matches wit you
Love you sir!!?
Yea always knew these apps were bullshit. Had some decent success but time to work on my best self 💪 win the day fellas
everytime people use dating app, i always think they are meeting someone like Yeti from "Myspace The Movie".
I'll never use another one. Meet one that just wanted to sleep with me 10 months ago. He came to my home and disrespected me!
I've given up on dating apps being a female have totally had enough it doesn't work out and people pass the profile around then sometimes theres a guy who know your ex and stuff I've had enough. I met two guys on a dating app and they turned out to be friends I found out years later horrible situation one guy even got my number through somebody else I was talking to me online. That was the final curtain call for me
I got tired of paying tbh and it wasn’t really helpful
Dating apps got us guys even simping for bots. Those apps take advantage a lonely situation. Social media anyone can create a product behind a computer screen screw ungrateful bots!!
It's probably as addictive as any drug. I literally had to go through therapy just to have the strength to get log off for good.
I’m gonna to stop using dating app
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wise words, im avarage and this apps were waste of time
I seemingly ran through all my viable options in my area.....
I hear Tinder stock has tanked and is losing money. But approaching women is now illegal!
Great video! I agree. I found dating apps are a waste of time and simply a money grab for the creators of the app. A lot of women on their aren’t who they say they are. Grew tired of being contacted by women with kids. Speaking from experience, women just want attention. Talk for a day or two then the profile is unavailable