Thank you so much for just out loud giving permission to be totally different. I have been battling the anxiety of coming from a traditional family but choosing some really unusual ways to go about our day. And it's really tough seeing the exact same modern wedding look everywhere to feel sure that my "Vintage travel" theme will come together cohesively. Your comment here made me let out a breath I didn't know I was holding!!!!! Also both my parents are walking me down the aisle so I love this advice!!!!
Love Thai I almost ran away from the love of my life and self sabotaged a future wedding because I was terrified of big groups of ppl and center of attention and anxiety. This helped me so much and I'm not afraid anymore 💓💓💓💓💓 thank you
I love how your suggestions are out of the box and that you're reminding everyone to not worry what everyone else thinks! There's so much familial pressures to have things a certain way, but it's our day and our party. :) Thanks for a great video!!
I definitely talk about that so much because there is so much pressure, whether brides put it on themselves or others have put it on them. It really should be about the couple and what they want ;)
I love how passionate you are about the idea of breaking the norm or tradition. I'm not sure if you've done this recently, but could I ask you to do a video on what you think next years trends will be? And perhaps if you think weddings are going to all start being more unique (maybe there wont even be wedding trends next year!) Maybe what you personally would love to see more of
I’m shy , introvert , socially anxious and awkward I’m scared to death for this day .. I don’t even want to be married because of all of these .. from pick up a dress and make up .. till wedding 😭😭
Love the new set up and your hair looks fabulous! I love these tips, I’m so looking forward to walking down the isle, I can’t wait to be the center of attention but I know my dad is really nervous. I’m also scared he’s going to burst out crying, I’m going to try and tell him jokes as we walk down the isle haha x
I love the idea of having a separate intimate ceremony. How would you address an invitation for a reception only wedding? Can you share some examples please?
I’ve generally something like “Please join us at the Reception of the marriage of X and Y, on Month, Day Year, Cocktails at Time and dancing at Later Time” (or whatever they’re doing. If the private ceremony is on a different day, it can be something like “X and Y were married in a private ceremony on Month, Day Time. Please join us for a celebration on Month, Day Time at Place”. I’ve also seen intimate ceremonies have the same invitation, but with a separate insert inviting them to that ceremony
Years ago I was contemplating what people would call a small wedding, 30 or 40 people, although for us and our small families and small friend circles that would have been an absolutely huge party. Then I went to a friend's wedding and while the ceremony was beautiful I knew at that moment there was no way I could do that in front of a crowd of people. So I started thinking about a courthouse wedding followed by a reception. But then I realized it was going to be really weird if my family wasn't there, and I really didn't want them there. Then along came covid and a lot of friends moving out of state, and I have simply scrapped the entire reception idea as well. I'm honestly not that bummed about it, it's a huge relief that I don't need to plan very much. And considering the meltdown I had 2 months ago trying to plan our elopment, there's no way I could have even managed that huge 40 person wedding I was contemplating. So glad we decided to postpone the elopement by a year, even that was difficult to plan in 6 months!
In the same boat. Don't wanna majorly disappoint family , but dreading in. Supposed to be the best day of your life but if it gives you so much anxiety is it worth it.. sigh
My partner and I are considering both entering from the sides. Then there isn't lopsided focus on me as the "bride", I don't become the center of attention, and SYMMETRY! Then it will look like both of us walking toward & choosing each other.
I wish I could bring my corgi Pierogi down the aisle, but he is far too loud to be a good boy for that time. He also LOVES my fiancé and would probably whine until he got held by him lol. Dogs are not allowed at the venue so there is no way to make it work unfortunately, but I think it will bring me less stress overall anyway lol
Ok I have a problem. I have really bad stage fright and anxiety in front of anyone. Just the thought about having to do something in front of a large group of makes me shake. Like right now. I have to be a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding, not the bride but I am still horrified, plus I am only 12 turning 13 in a few months. Do you have any recommendations or solutions to make me feel more comfortable?
Take some deep breaths before. Do the superman pose somewhere in private before you have to go on (youtube videos of the superman pose for performance - it's for performance/confidence). Also, remember that most people are just waiting for the bride to walk down, so they aren't focusing too much on the bridesmaids. While walking down, remember to smile and just fixate on something at the end of the aisle. It only lasts like 30-45 seconds - it's not long! And hopefully you'll have flowers to hold so you have something to do with your hands :)
I would love to hear about suggestions for the aisle decor. I recently realized that it might not be a good idea to buy those generic thin aisle runners for my outdoor wedding. I didn't consider the wind could lift the runner up. Do you have any suggestions?
Omg I didn’t even think about this!! It’s weird that sometimes some of us need a gentle reminder almost permission that we can do whatever we want!! Now I’m debating if I want a ceremony ahhaha my friend did that she got legally married at a courthouse and then only had a reception. And now she has two anniversaries hahaha like jokingly she would say happy party/reception anniversary! 😅 do you celebrate or say happy anniversary to both or just the legal date?
I honestly don't remember the courthouse date! I'd have to check our calendar to find it, we "celebrate" our date-iversary and our wedding day anniversary :)
@@cavinelizabeth ohhh!!! thats so cool and cute! idk why i wouldve assumed celebrating the legal anniversary but the party with the memories definitely makes sense! thank you for all the ideas in the video!
Thank you so much for just out loud giving permission to be totally different. I have been battling the anxiety of coming from a traditional family but choosing some really unusual ways to go about our day. And it's really tough seeing the exact same modern wedding look everywhere to feel sure that my "Vintage travel" theme will come together cohesively. Your comment here made me let out a breath I didn't know I was holding!!!!! Also both my parents are walking me down the aisle so I love this advice!!!!
Yes, be yourself!!
Love Thai I almost ran away from the love of my life and self sabotaged a future wedding because I was terrified of big groups of ppl and center of attention and anxiety. This helped me so much and I'm not afraid anymore 💓💓💓💓💓 thank you
:)
I love how your suggestions are out of the box and that you're reminding everyone to not worry what everyone else thinks! There's so much familial pressures to have things a certain way, but it's our day and our party. :) Thanks for a great video!!
I definitely talk about that so much because there is so much pressure, whether brides put it on themselves or others have put it on them. It really should be about the couple and what they want ;)
I cannot get over how gorgeous the lighting is in these videos!
Aw thank you!
My fiance and I will be walking down the aisle together, with our kiddos beside us.
Ah that's so fun!!
Thank you so much for this video Tips will help with my anxiety thank you so so much
*I will have the first church wedding in my family and my fiancé family in over 20 years.*
:)
I love how passionate you are about the idea of breaking the norm or tradition. I'm not sure if you've done this recently, but could I ask you to do a video on what you think next years trends will be? And perhaps if you think weddings are going to all start being more unique (maybe there wont even be wedding trends next year!) Maybe what you personally would love to see more of
Great idea! There's definitely trends I want to see disappear and some I think we'll see more and more of :)
Your hair looks really pretty in this video. Also, I love the new video set up.
Aw thanks so much! I have been experimenting (and failing a lot) with wet set rollers :)
I’m shy , introvert , socially anxious and awkward
I’m scared to death for this day .. I don’t even want to be married because of all of these ..
from pick up a dress and make up .. till wedding 😭😭
It'll be ok! Just know you can skip any tradition you don't want to do :) It's your day, your way!!
Great video, gave me the confidence I needed!
I'm so glad!
Love the new set up and your hair looks fabulous! I love these tips, I’m so looking forward to walking down the isle, I can’t wait to be the center of attention but I know my dad is really nervous. I’m also scared he’s going to burst out crying, I’m going to try and tell him jokes as we walk down the isle haha x
hahaha I love your excitement! Please do the jokes, that will make the photos so cute!
Love your videos! Could you do one on entertainment ideas for the reception?
Great idea!
Thank you!!
You're welcome!
Nice set up. What recording equipment do you use? It looks and sounds so good.
My Canon 5D4 and a H4N mic with a lav mic attached.
@@cavinelizabeth ok. Thank you! 👍
I love the idea of having a separate intimate ceremony. How would you address an invitation for a reception only wedding? Can you share some examples please?
I’ve generally something like “Please join us at the Reception of the marriage of X and Y, on Month, Day Year, Cocktails at Time and dancing at Later Time” (or whatever they’re doing. If the private ceremony is on a different day, it can be something like “X and Y were married in a private ceremony on Month, Day Time. Please join us for a celebration on Month, Day Time at Place”. I’ve also seen intimate ceremonies have the same invitation, but with a separate insert inviting them to that ceremony
Years ago I was contemplating what people would call a small wedding, 30 or 40 people, although for us and our small families and small friend circles that would have been an absolutely huge party. Then I went to a friend's wedding and while the ceremony was beautiful I knew at that moment there was no way I could do that in front of a crowd of people. So I started thinking about a courthouse wedding followed by a reception. But then I realized it was going to be really weird if my family wasn't there, and I really didn't want them there. Then along came covid and a lot of friends moving out of state, and I have simply scrapped the entire reception idea as well. I'm honestly not that bummed about it, it's a huge relief that I don't need to plan very much. And considering the meltdown I had 2 months ago trying to plan our elopment, there's no way I could have even managed that huge 40 person wedding I was contemplating. So glad we decided to postpone the elopement by a year, even that was difficult to plan in 6 months!
This is why it's so important to do what feels right to you! I'm glad you found a formula that is comfortable for you two :)
I want to elope just him and I but our fam would kill us
In the same boat. Don't wanna majorly disappoint family , but dreading in. Supposed to be the best day of your life but if it gives you so much anxiety is it worth it.. sigh
My partner and I are considering both entering from the sides. Then there isn't lopsided focus on me as the "bride", I don't become the center of attention, and SYMMETRY! Then it will look like both of us walking toward & choosing each other.
Fun idea! I have a video coming out in the next few weeks about walking down the aisle :)
I wish I could bring my corgi Pierogi down the aisle, but he is far too loud to be a good boy for that time. He also LOVES my fiancé and would probably whine until he got held by him lol. Dogs are not allowed at the venue so there is no way to make it work unfortunately, but I think it will bring me less stress overall anyway lol
hahaha that would actually be so funny and cute!
Ok I have a problem. I have really bad stage fright and anxiety in front of anyone. Just the thought about having to do something in front of a large group of makes me shake. Like right now. I have to be a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding, not the bride but I am still horrified, plus I am only 12 turning 13 in a few months. Do you have any recommendations or solutions to make me feel more comfortable?
Take some deep breaths before. Do the superman pose somewhere in private before you have to go on (youtube videos of the superman pose for performance - it's for performance/confidence). Also, remember that most people are just waiting for the bride to walk down, so they aren't focusing too much on the bridesmaids. While walking down, remember to smile and just fixate on something at the end of the aisle. It only lasts like 30-45 seconds - it's not long! And hopefully you'll have flowers to hold so you have something to do with your hands :)
@@cavinelizabeth Thank you I will try all of these.
I would love to hear about suggestions for the aisle decor. I recently realized that it might not be a good idea to buy those generic thin aisle runners for my outdoor wedding. I didn't consider the wind could lift the runner up. Do you have any suggestions?
Ah yes the wind can truly be a huge issue! I'll add this idea to my list :)
Have you ever photographed weddings that didn't have an aisle?
Not yet!
Omg I didn’t even think about this!! It’s weird that sometimes some of us need a gentle reminder almost permission that we can do whatever we want!! Now I’m debating if I want a ceremony ahhaha my friend did that she got legally married at a courthouse and then only had a reception. And now she has two anniversaries hahaha like jokingly she would say happy party/reception anniversary! 😅 do you celebrate or say happy anniversary to both or just the legal date?
I honestly don't remember the courthouse date! I'd have to check our calendar to find it, we "celebrate" our date-iversary and our wedding day anniversary :)
@@cavinelizabeth ohhh!!! thats so cool and cute! idk why i wouldve assumed celebrating the legal anniversary but the party with the memories definitely makes sense! thank you for all the ideas in the video!
I think it makes sense to celebrate whichever date feels meaningful to you!