I think you have done an excellent video here. I veiw my self as probably a little below average in confidence Kiwi and I have been conditioned to keep my thoughts more to my self as that's what's I perceive as exceptable as life seems easier that way - but I would like to be more confident in my self as not to worry about so much about what the respons to what I am saying and say it anyway if it's true (and helps others) as an example.
Yes like this is so true in the workplace here. Nobody wants to be honest and give good feedback and it is really the detriment of the employee because they don't know what they need to improve and they stay working in a position that may not be suited for them.
Here's something you don't know about the Kiwi psyche: We, on the whole, are a confident bunch. We also know that displaying too much confidence comes across as arrogance, so we tend to supress it accordingly. You may not like it, but Americans often come across as arrogant because they feel a need to come across as being too confident (to us,anyway). Simple phrases such as "these are my thoughts" or "this is the feeling I get from..." is better than saying, without directly saying "this is how it is". Some Kiwis, but not all, would say that about this video.
Disagree, it’s about showing what you think and believe and showing who you are. It’s your own projection that it comes across as arrogance. Yes, a lot of New Zealanders would agree with your point. But I find that others would do well to not feel the need to suppress too much. If you want to suppress fine but let others be who they can be without judging .
It is very true the way you describe kiwis and unfortunately they error too far on the insecure sounding side. I think this trait while seems kinder actually does nothing but give you less opportunities and poorer relationships
That's more assertiveness than confidence. Yelling doesn't work anyway. Carefully selected wording in speech works best. eg "Get the f off my as!!!" never works. "If you don't stop doing that, this is what will happen" usually works well. Not as a threat, but as a statement of fact.
It's what "you're" missing, not "your" missing 😮 😉
Im very confident and upfront. Im not afraid to tell you whats what, if you wanna know that bad lol 😊
Like your videos btw 💯👍🏽
Awesome! Thank you!
I think you have done an excellent video here.
I veiw my self as probably a little below average in confidence Kiwi and I have been conditioned to keep my thoughts more to my self as that's what's I perceive as exceptable as life seems easier that way - but I would like to be more confident in my self as not to worry about so much about what the respons to what I am saying and say it anyway if it's true (and helps others) as an example.
Yes like this is so true in the workplace here. Nobody wants to be honest and give good feedback and it is really the detriment of the employee because they don't know what they need to improve and they stay working in a position that may not be suited for them.
@Kiwiamericans I'm always honest in fact I'm too honest. I have a big mouth
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Here's something you don't know about the Kiwi psyche: We, on the whole, are a confident bunch. We also know that displaying too much confidence comes across as arrogance, so we tend to supress it accordingly. You may not like it, but Americans often come across as arrogant because they feel a need to come across as being too confident (to us,anyway). Simple phrases such as "these are my thoughts" or "this is the feeling I get from..." is better than saying, without directly saying "this is how it is". Some Kiwis, but not all, would say that about this video.
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Disagree, it’s about showing what you think and believe and showing who you are. It’s your own projection that it comes across as arrogance.
Yes, a lot of New Zealanders would agree with your point. But I find that others would do well to not feel the need to suppress too much. If you want to suppress fine but let others be who they can be without judging .
@hirsch4155 I agree with no judging, we are all different and that's a great thing. Keep on being you
It is very true the way you describe kiwis and unfortunately they error too far on the insecure sounding side. I think this trait while seems kinder actually does nothing but give you less opportunities and poorer relationships
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Having guts to yell at a person who is harassing me
That's more assertiveness than confidence. Yelling doesn't work anyway. Carefully selected wording in speech works best. eg "Get the f off my as!!!" never works. "If you don't stop doing that, this is what will happen" usually works well. Not as a threat, but as a statement of fact.
Confidence does not mean yelling as much as being able to communicate clearly your position.