My ex tried to trick me into telling people that I lied about him abusing me and breaking my bones.
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I love how she's laughing and crying intermittently... she's healing nicely. God will have mercy on us honestly. I love her.
African women should take it a step further and have them arrested. That is bravery not just speaking about it. It's not ok!!!
Kai, she was married to a narcissist to the core. The manipulations alone. Thank God she got out, and by her speaking about it is helping others.
Domestic violence is part of the Nigerian culture and its very shameful..A lot of our Nigerian men are abusers and I stand by it
I WILL NEVER ADVICE ANYONE to stay in an abusive relationship to pray. Leave and pray from your safe place
Such wisdom. Pastors are you listening????
100%
This is sad…most women in Africa are going through this. Women are being treated as a piece of shit in Africa, this has to stop. Thank God she’s financially independent. Most women end up staying in such situations especially when they’re financially dependent on the man. This type of conversations get me so angry and sick to my stomach
How about the part where 'they choose it' because of past trauma?. Accountability is crucial here
@emmanuelginikanwa283 you silly. No accountability on the abuser? Always making excuse like stupid manosphere
Most of them stay because of the stigma of been called divorcee, was Osinachi not the bread winner, but look at how she ended
Sad truths. If all women were to tell it all, hmn, many males who call themselves men would be taken to the evil forest. Women are really suffering and smiling especially due to financial setback and religious dogma coupled with mothering responsibility. Many die of depression due to constant marital slavery. Women, please if you can shift, do so fast
Amen They will never use APOLOGIES TO GET US
That's slavery not marriage😢😢,may God save most women in this bondage😢
May the Holy Spirit give us the spirit of discernment to know when the apology is geniune and sincere,Amen
Mentor in suffering is real 🤣🤣. In Africa, almost every woman has a mentor of sufferness in marriage. You would have those women who would tell you that it is normal to suffer in marriage. They would tell you how being at the mercy of your in-laws is not new. Very crazy shit down here ☹️
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True
This is terrible..it's only people who have not experienced this kind of horror and domestic violence will always push women to go back..
I don’t know her but she sounds like she’s been through a lot
Wish her the best.
She's an actress and producer.. check her out.. etinosa
Chude, please do not stop this programme
This one hook Chude..... He didn't even interrupt one bit 😂😂😂😂😂
Don’t let someone steal your spirit…Walk away…
I love this lady very honest and open minded.
Definition of virtues woman in our society is that woman who can endure all manner of abuse and still wear a smiling face. 👏👏👏good you japa alive. Chude is the best!!!❤❤❤
There's no award for who suffers most. Chose the best for yourselves dear African women. You deserve the best too, you deserve to be treated right. Don't kikl yourself because of a man, they're not worth it. Love yourself enough to chose what's right for you. If you don't love yourself in this life, when will you?
Please increase the volume 🗣️🔊🔊🔊🔊
They will not use apology to get us in Jesus name 😂😂
Amen oooo
Abusive people are very manipulative
I’m glad to hear it from you. A friend of mine is dating his friend and the story his friend told my friend was that you left because he couldn’t match your lifestyle. You’re a strong woman ma’am I love your courage ❤❤❤
Both things can be true
If he couldnt match lifestyle, cant we part amicably? Must they try to abuse and kill her first?
My dear they can lie
That’s how they cover up for their friends
Hmmmmm 🤔
I can relate my dear
Narcissistic personality
Manipulative
They can apologize a million and one times and promise not to hurt you again
They end up doing the worst
May God heal your broken heat my dear
Jude : is it physical abuse?
Guest : Weytin Dey break person bone?
Me : ask am o 😂😂😂😂
I noticed that, Chude is not interupting as usual. Just listening and leaving her to talk. Very funny
And that's good that he wasn't interrupting her😊😊😊
She was my mentor in sufferness! God! 😭
This is your best guest thus far! I loved it.
Wow...the kind of confidence this woman exudes, you would never know she was once a victim of domestic violence.
I am glad she found the strength to leave when she did and has been able to grow above that abuse
Na wa o... very touching... de ex needs thorough clearing & beating by few men for straight 30mins.
Chude please with this particular episode I beggggggg we need the full video.
I’m so happy for her that she left that marriage
My sister hmmm people will not understand your pain oo but I can say you are a great woman. God will bless you.
Only the person who wears the shoes my dear
Every woman who goes through this comes out immune
I love this woman so much, she's so sweet.
Women are really going through a lot in relationships and marriages these days,God abeg o,my own will be smooth and healthy just like my skin 😊😊😊
AMEN
Amen
Amen 🙏 ❤o
“Mentor in sufferness” 😂😂😂😂 this is what most women suffer and die in silent when you complain you will be told to bear it which should not be.
Mentor in suffer , woman suffer, suffer for earth enjoy for heaven.
This is exactly what happened to me, before the lunatic ran away
Hope he keeps running
My ear over full if I watch the full one e fit blast. Na wa oh people dey go through things. 😢😢
Pls how can I watch the full one?
Awww bless her, who no go no know ooo, it is well, God is your strength Etinosa ❤
Strong courageous woman, I appreciate you. Blowing healing in ur wind 💨… it is well
Oh my darling...I'm really sorry you have to go through all that in the name of "marriage ".....I love the way you laugh and cry through the interview....it's mean you are on the road to healing. Please my darling go for more therapy so you could heal well. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You got out! Amd that's your victory.
You are still hurting sweetheart, it will be over. It takes time though....and for all of you still struggling to protect narcissistic husbands, i shake my head
Sending you so much love mama Etinosa , I Admire you alot , you are a nice and strong woman , May GOD see you through Everything ❤❤❤
Mama I love you so much , thank you for telling your story , you are a strong lady , I pray GOD Heals You completely from what happened and that your life will be a testimony to many pple ❤❤❤❤
Good you share your experiences with others
may God help us.. i went through the same thing that i almost lost my life… Father lord help me out of this….😢😢
AMEN❤!
A lot of women go through rubbish all in the name of marriage.
Hmmm domestic violence is not a good thing at all....Am trying to heal also
😭😭😭💔💔 why would you treat someone you love like that
This hurts me 😭😭
Ooh Etinosa the peace of God be with your heart ,strong girl
Eti you are a strong woman ❤
My Benin brave sister, God heal you and bless you
I dont know who this lady is, I left Naija a long time ago and dont follow the social circle there but what your husband did by telling you " a good woman builds her home bla bla bla is what is called gaslighting. What happened to you is exactly what happened to me and the Pastors teach us to pray and stay in it. Let's not condemn God or church like she said but let's know all societies are patriarchal and they established their dominance and set the rules for society since time immemorial. They set the rules to suit themselves. I am glad this generation is realizing it and speaking out but we need bigger platforms that is open not closed not based on subscription but one accessible to even the illiterate in the market place. More importantly start teaching your girls that a man is not better than them, wiser than them or higher than them because they have something between their legs. You also have something in between yours. God made us equal male and female., created he them. As for praying and fasting, no one tells the man to pray and fast when the woman is misbehaving, they simply push her out, but we waste time praying and fasting for a wilful man. Do not forget God made all of us with a free will, it takes the grace of God to use prayers to change the mind of a determined person who knows what he is doing and set in his ways or who actually believes he is in the right. Most Nigerian men believe it is their birthright to Lord it over their wives, to control her life, money and everything. Chai I suffered in the hands of an illiterate. Most women can really do big things on their won. Today, I can buy him and his family a 100 times. He goes on social media to spy on what I'm doing while he is suffering in his village. He's sending people to give him my number. I said if you are the only man on the face of the earth I will go to heaven single. How much more there are a few out there who know your worth. Start teaching your boys how to be a human not a monster. Shikena
She's a great actress ❤
This is a case of "When your attraction becomes your insecurity". You live and you learn sha 🤷
"you should have thought about that before doing all the things you did. You are lucky you still have a job" love this 🖤✊
Really ??????
Where do these pretty ladies even find all these mad men nah!? Na wa oh
You are a strong woman
I thank God for you. My dear
Babe, u will continue to heal better, 🎉🎉❤❤❤
This is just too painful 💔 heart breaking 💔 & sad 😢😢😢😢my ladies been going through hell & still going through hell 💔 with this unnecessary drama with this so called husband's 💔
My woman , i love you 💕
😂🤣😂 😂🤣 😂Etinosa o, she said she had wanted to feel protected.
Wow
May apologies not swallow us o 🙏
Happy you run for your life .❤❤❤
Lol real mad man...u guys won't kill me with laughter
I have high respect for her. Thank you Chude
Touch and fellow,Na really bitter fellow
U r a strong woman.
Virtuous woman= suffering
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This lady talks with gesture and animation same as she acts
Your own inlaw better,
My ex burnt my money and his mother asking me am I sure after sending his family video, then asking me after 3 days where is the money I promise her
Hmmmm,God forbid bad thing
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Wat he did was giving u a push to fulfill ur purpose, nd thank God u realized it nd left the marriage for good .
a virtues woman in suffer 😅😂 she's so funny .
The things kids grew up seeing in their families only God can heal. Lots of people including me have scars that I'm not sure will ever heal. We need to kill traditions first then create strong institutions. Abeg no manage marriage o. Run to save your life if need be. I'll make sure my wife keeps smiling.
Does anybody know how to reach this Etinosa of a girl? Her neck (thyroid gland) seems to be too swollen like goiter & she needs to go have it checked out. Please, please, please, if anyone can reach her or this Chude, have her go check out her thyroid gland immediately. I have seen her neck in the past & it wasn't like this. I know she gained some weight after she had her child but still her neck should not look like that.
Investigate journalist.
Deputy Jesus..
Medically; she has no goiter .
She’s sound
@@berrytots8805 please don't relent in your good works. I don't understand what is wrong with people. When did drawing someone's attention to a potential medical issue become a problem? Many people's lives including media personalities have been saved by viewers who called in to draw their attention to something wrong or symptoms they noticed in their appearance eg a cancerous mole on the face.
Yes i noticed it too
@@berrytots8805 am a medical practitioner and into the medical field too. we hope she is okay… the last time she made a video if u follow her up, she said her neck is as a result of fat gain when we talk about the (submental fat) as a result of weight gain . Also called double chin. She said she just have to cut down on her RDA calorie intake. no sarcasm intended.
@@adaobiokafor9546 I cannot tell you how many people i have encountered when i come to Nigeria that are always diagnosing or treating themselves for the wrong things instead of just going to see the dr. I have met people who were medicated for wrong diagnoses. It's why i always tell people to get at least 3 opinions especially in Nigeria when it comes to their health. A lot of people are just walking around & are very sick & just hoping for a miracle to help them. I cannot tell you how many people i have paid their bills just to have them go to the Dr & none of them are my relatives. I realized that a lot of people need help in Nigeria & i try to help as much as i can b/c i have been very fortunate & blessed. I stand by what i said about this Etinosa girl...her thyroid is messed up & it is not from weight gain or double chin. Her thyroid is hyper or hypo active, it shouldn't be sticking out like a golf ball when she raises her head up or rest her head in her palm, i saw another video of her this past week & that thyroid was showing itself. She needs 2 go see at least 3 different drs & have her calcium levels checked b/4 she can relax. Thanks for your positive encouragement!
It is well
Omo this one deep Oooo
she has seen something...damn
She was my mentor in sufferness 😂😂😂😂😂
Wait is this Precious
Amen!!!
I can relate
Sorry
Abusive marriage is real
He qas an insecure bastard
He grew up in this kind of home
Mr Chude, pls introduce your guest properly.
Thanks in advance.
who is she... please write her name
What kind of marriage was that? Nonsense 😢😢
I don't understand why she took pairs of his shoe, to do what or to achieve what, I haven't seen anybody in comments section talking about it and ask why..
Someone going through depression can do anything, including suicide.
If you want to piss someone off, you do silly things. Looks like something I can do. Yes taking one of the pair of the shoes will annoy you and also make you start being paranoid. The aim is to work you up
That's the only part you saw? You're not a good person
We don’t care about the shoe! We care about the abuse ok
Please who is this lady? I don't know her but she's so accurate
An actor, Producer and Script writer.
@@agyeibeamusic etinosa Idemudia
Omo
Now I know why she used the bible to smoke. Abuse of any kind in a relationship is traumatic.
Its so sad we've normalized abuse and made abused people feel guilty or worse ungodly.
A wise woman by builds her home?, have we read how Abigail protected her home ? Did she cover her foolish husband?
Where did we read that the virtuous woman was enduring suffering ?
Its always good to go back to scriptures in a quiet place to hear God's interpretation and silence those who misuse scriptures for their own mischief.
There is a big difference between following God and following people who talk about God.
If a man feels he can't stand he tongue of his wife, he can move out. He can pay for counseling for both of them.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm😢
This is one sided, fear Benin women
African wives they still going through abusive marriage and still in it. I don't know why
Women bring honour to your husband and what does the man do? Kill her?
Most Ladies prefer to follow hard men over calm Men. Hence when they experience shege like this, there is no need to feel for them.
Nobody acts calmly as a narcissistic to disguise, which is why most pastors are abusive and it will be hard to believe their victims, so do not judge what you don't know, please
You're a man, so this your comment is expected. If you have low self esteem, say it.
U are right boss, dey saw d red flags, but dat is wat dey wanted
Hmmmm, have you not heard of covert narcissist emotional abusers??? They are the calmest people in this life and the most wicked and abusive. I beg you in Jesus name, never assume it’s about personality temperament. Quiet people are the most abusive
@@d_techqueen209 you have said it!!!!! People will never understand this