HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear sofia
OMG exactly what I thought. Had to deal with someone manipulative and I just went gray rock and it worked amazingly well. Never knew it was a 'technique' haha.
I used to do the Grey Rock method when I was a kid to get throught all the horrible situations I've been put into. Therefore my whole family thought I was a bore and "too serious for my age". I love that there's a name for that!
I never realized I did the gray rock method instinctively when dealing with ppl i don’t like. Also indifference is such a better option then hating because it sends the message that u rlly don’t care about them and it’s less energy wasted.
Even though it seemed like a total birch move at the time, Anna enticing that deer to eat Michelle was actually a deep-rooted term of endearment with her fellow tree.
@@kalikso lol indeed. People often tell me like: "at first you seem closed off and maybe even cold but after becoming friends you're so different!".. I mean i am glad they like me after a while but hahah not a good first impression
most people probably use or have used the method before in their lives without knowing their was an actual term for it. I mean, aren't most people at least somewhat of a grey rock with new people? it takes time to open up and be comfortable with them.
i have just learned that i have been using the grey rock method a LOT lately with my family. maybe even my whole life. i have a lot more communication issues i need to work out in my life
Giving these deep advises like this is something completely different than actually analyzing people correctly. She also reaches a way bigger audience like this.
Been grey rocking my parents for 2 years now. There's only so much bickering and crying I can take, I'm tired on spending my emotions on people who aren't worth a genuine smile.
Going through this with a toxic friend now. Constant bids for attention and to have his codependency nurtured. And bids for chaos when I say I can't talk because I have so much going on in my own life. It's a terrible dynamic and I'm in the process of a glow up and can't get dragged into it anymore.
I've been Grey rocking my abusive, narcissistic, alcoholic roommate and I didn't even know that's what it was called 😅 it works to a certain extent, but when you are with them constantly it's harder to do 😭
@@Etianen7 I'm working on finding a place right now. It's difficult since the US government doesn't believe in supporting a living wage. The cost of living is just so crazy it's hard to leave abusive situations 😬
I feel you! Living that right now to some extent. I have two cray crays in my home. I do the same, but sometimes , especially during codiv , I do feel the need to talk a bit about something of interest or let them in on my mind. Yesterday was such a day and lo and behold, they turned it into drama today! Like where do that get the energy from. It's badshit crazy around here sometimes.
The thing about greyrocking is also not ignoring them/ giving them the silent treatment. Be boring, be deadpan, answer with one word etc. but if you have to interact/ be around someone, ignoring or giving the silent treatment can make the manipulative person even more angry and try to provoke you to make you react. If you can avoid interactions with them, just go no contact.
Thank you Anna for making self-regulating, mental health techniques so accessible and digestible. As someone who can't afford therapy, you have no idea how much the techniques and knowledge you've shared over the years have helped me cope and grow. Love you!
oh jeez, grey rocking is definitely one of my core interpersonal tools for dealing with difficult people that I have been using since I was in high school... Actually super handy as a bartender/server
Can't relate enough. Been doing this for years, works every time. The funnies are when they come to you and tell you you have changed. I just rolled my eyes.
That might be a bad analogy now that wildfires (caused by preventing indigenous people from doing traditional cool burnings) are contributing to climate change and killing people.
THE GREY ROCK I'm am dieing that I didn't know this anyway ima start using so I can slowly push my toxic friend away YOUR A FRICKEN GOSESS THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS TIP IN MY LIFE THANK YOU!!!
I can feel the personality of trees if I go up to them and I feel how they are by embodying their energy, I don't know how to communicate with them like some people, but I can really feel how they are, some of them are so feminine and their posture is uplifting, others are jolty and sparky like they have an electric current. One tree felt like it was absorbing knowledge from my forehead. Trees are absolutely amazing and I cannot wait for more scientific explanations to come out about what some people know already but can't explain in way where they're respected
WHOA ive never heard of the grey rock method!! Im in a situation where I have to see this toxic "friend" a lot because we are in the same friend group. I cant exactly just separate my life from them because I want to stay friends with everyone else in the group!!
Holy moly, I didn't know there was a name for what I did to escape the narcissistic abuser I was with for 3 years. It definitely worked, I can tell you that! But it was a dangerous game. If he could tell I was doing it intentionally there would be hell to pay. I became a master at tuning out every horrible thing he would say to me. Just like.. would go through poems I had memorized, sing songs in my head, think about things I would rather be doing, or even imagining conversations with the people who really cared about me. A little embarrassed to admit but I would also imagine the ghosts of my grandparents and dad standing around me, protecting me from the hurt... anything to not absorb the toxicity. It was very useful and helped me survive those times.
My families advice growing up when I encountered manipulative people was to ignore them, and there is an actual name for their technique? I nevr guessed! Thank you Anna!
Oh my! I know now why I havn‘t met manipulative people in my entire life! And why I never experience Drama! It‘s all just because I‘m a boring person :)
Is there a line that needs to be tread carefully with the grey rock method? I feel like it could come across as avoidant and dismissive if not executed properly. I don’t think it should be used as a crutch to get out of uncomfortable situations simply because it’s awkward. I don’t know. Just my .02.
Thing is, it was designed specifically for what Anna described -- surviving toxic people who are in your social orbit. It is not intended to get you out of uncomfortable situations you just don't feel like dealing with.
I'm a naturally boring person and basically all my college friends lived for the drama and gossip. I was never interested in a thing they said which is why we aren't friends anymore. A grey rock since birth 🙃✌️
Wow, this is actually very helpful. A few months ago my best friend basically turned on me when I needed him the most and now that college is back in session I have to see him in two of my classes. Unfortunately, I feel like I'm getting the cold shoulder from literally everyone I know. I feel like now though is a great time to implement the Gray Rock method. Your videos are so helpful. ❤️❤️
I learned about this through a bullying counselor in middle school. He called it "turning on the Arby's hat", and therefore attracting bullies to the meat
Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences and being vulnerable!!! ❤️ I also love how you showcase your personal growth and experiences with anxiety. The Grey Rock Method is something I definitely used in middle and high school, without realizing it, because I experienced severe bullying growing up in rural North Carolina. I learned that not reacting and to be invisible was the best way for me to survive. We have to learn to figure out what conflict is worth our time to try to resolve and when we should walk away.
The Grey Rock thing seems fine if there is a relationship that is established as broken. If you do it to a friend without talking to them first is manipulative as well and extremely hurtful.
Which is why thats called the cold shoulder. Grey Rock is a distancing technique for people that are hurting you, of course you cant do it to someone who is a friend.
I got major mix feelings with this one. I get how it can be beneficial for one to want to avoid conflict on a regular basis with a abusive person however what bothers me is: 1. Why should I change my authentic self in favor of someone else in hopes of MAYBE avoiding conflict that I am not the one causing to begin with. 2. I am not responsible for someone else shitty behavior therefore I will not take responsibility for them and the chaos they are causing by making myself smaller, or "boring" to avoid conflict with them. Similar to point one but slightly different. 3. I do not see how it is healthy for anyone to disguise or contain ones feelings regarding how someone is treating you. That itself to me, is self abuse, and a major reason to why so many women are already silenced as they already are which puts us in further more dangerous situations rather than speaking out and taking on a conflict. I can see how this is beneficial in very small cases where you genuinely do not care for someone and see them on a occasion. But I'd never suggest this to my friend if their ex was abusive and pushing the point of helplessness to resolve to solutions as this. What I'd say is: If communication does not work with a person no matter how much one tries, GET AWAY!
I think this solution was suggested to people who are forced to be around toxic coworkers, or roommates, or stuff like that. Of course if the person was your friend or partner the best advice would be to keep them away
SO good. Just saw that I'm not the only one who was using this technique without exactly knowing what it was. I have taken to wearing all black when interacting with my narcissistic, but otherwise lovely, mom. According to energy workers black can be protective, vs white which opens energy. Anyways, very validating and sanity-saving content!
Absolutely love your content, Id love to hear your perspective on being okay with not getting closure because you have such a wonderful inspiring way of explaining tough life scenarios.
Most recent interpersonal drama: a girl said to me “why are you acting like we’ve been best friends for years? If you don’t like me, just say it.” ????????
I had a friend pull that once. Been friends for 2 years and she would say I was her best friend, all of a sudden she told me it was weird how I called her my best friend and that she didnt want to hang with me anymore. Like.. okay lemme just ignore the last 2 years of non stop texting and endless sleepovers and pretend that didnt happen I guess.
I think some people fear being known because they've internalised the message that they're a 'bad' person. So they push people away and self fulfill the prophecy.
Mixed signals here. Probably she's very insecure. I have a friend i adore but when she's really stressed she thinks everyone low-key hates her so, it might be that
I so needed this advice. I have a manipulative/abusive person possibly coming for a visit this year (covid pending). Ive been freaking out about how to handle this visit, as I cant get away or miss their visit. Going to research all I can on the gray rock method. Thank you so much!
I can't believe i've been a gray rock my entire life with manipulative people without knowing there's actually a name for it aaa i love it
Yes!!!! Was thinking the same thing!
HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear sofia
Same!
Doing that at work. They started complaining to management about my grey rocking.
OMG exactly what I thought. Had to deal with someone manipulative and I just went gray rock and it worked amazingly well. Never knew it was a 'technique' haha.
I thought I was literally the only one, aaaaaa 🙈✨
I want to have friends who will pretend to be trees with me. Goals.
I want to have friends
Maybe Vin Diesel would be down
I'm sure your friends would be oak ay with it.
@@cjermevpg6372 HA
Why don't you pretend to be a tree WITH YOURSELF!!😆😆😆.. I'm lame 😞
Missed opportunity to thank your PaTREEons
*air horn noises* OOooOhhh
Thank you, I was just about to write that :D
Thank you
Maybe she leaft it out just for you to find. Treemendous effort my bud!
@@chrisside4312 SAME XD
I used to do the Grey Rock method when I was a kid to get throught all the horrible situations I've been put into. Therefore my whole family thought I was a bore and "too serious for my age". I love that there's a name for that!
Borahae💜💜
Good for you! That’s so smart to realize that as a kid!
I've seen U in other comments sections, wanna be comment pals?
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my multilingual brain: arbol-ish the patreearchy
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SIII 😂
Please Anna, start a podcast channel. Go more deeper and discuss on such topics. Thank you!
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I third and fourth this motion
Agree
YASSSS. Please.
I fifth this motion
I never realized I did the gray rock method instinctively when dealing with ppl i don’t like. Also indifference is such a better option then hating because it sends the message that u rlly don’t care about them and it’s less energy wasted.
Wow.. Good for you❤
It was honestly very traumatic *smile*
Aaaand my childhood just got summed up in 5 seconds.
Someone make this top comment
Oh... So its not just me...okay
needs to be made into a gif
The worst part, you'll not know who or when it'll happen
Ikr!
@Michael Skinner It means that it WILL happen and there's no way knowing where or who is gonna eventually betray you.
Even though it seemed like a total birch move at the time, Anna enticing that deer to eat Michelle was actually a deep-rooted term of endearment with her fellow tree.
En'deer'meant you mean?
Sorry, the tree puns got me in the mood. 🤭
I’m a proud member of the “Grey Rocking” club.
same here, i’ve been doing it without knowing i was lol
I don't know why but I'm only able to do it at work.
Started recently. It works wonders.
Do some people feel like they turn in to gray rocks with people they don’t know yet and don’t feel comfortable with?
Yes i do this on a daily basis
All the time! Makes it so much harder making friends 😅
@@kalikso lol indeed. People often tell me like: "at first you seem closed off and maybe even cold but after becoming friends you're so different!".. I mean i am glad they like me after a while but hahah not a good first impression
@@LOVEAapjes same here
most people probably use or have used the method before in their lives without knowing their was an actual term for it. I mean, aren't most people at least somewhat of a grey rock with new people? it takes time to open up and be comfortable with them.
Also, yes to using Gray Rock method because energy vampire feed off our energies and we don't want that.
Only the White Court
i have just learned that i have been using the grey rock method a LOT lately with my family. maybe even my whole life. i have a lot more communication issues i need to work out in my life
i started to use the grey rock method unknowingly when i got tired of the comments of my family, i just don't care anymore what they say :)))
It's odd that Anna doesn't become a professional therapist herself at this point 😂❣
She basically is
To us 😂
I was literally thinking the same....
Lol she has heaps of experience lol
It's not as profitable or as fun.
Giving these deep advises like this is something completely different than actually analyzing people correctly. She also reaches a way bigger audience like this.
Can't fall out with friends if you have none💕
True 😅😂😭
Yasssss queen✌️
Been grey rocking my parents for 2 years now. There's only so much bickering and crying I can take, I'm tired on spending my emotions on people who aren't worth a genuine smile.
'Grey rocking' is like a real life "ghosting"
needed this today
Burg? 🤣😅
same lol
I did too
hope ur doing okay
Where was this when I was in high-school?? 😭 so many toxic relationships
"Silence is a strong reply"
Murray Head
i love how honest Anna is over her past problems makes it easier to confront mine
I love the tree costume 🥺
That tree BFF thing explains why there are 2 trees of different species completely entwined with each other for the past 15 years in my yard
this is literally my comfort youtube channel
why does this comment make so much sense?
Same 😫
Trueeee
Me tooooo, shes been my therapist since 2013
Going through this with a toxic friend now. Constant bids for attention and to have his codependency nurtured. And bids for chaos when I say I can't talk because I have so much going on in my own life. It's a terrible dynamic and I'm in the process of a glow up and can't get dragged into it anymore.
I've been Grey rocking my abusive, narcissistic, alcoholic roommate and I didn't even know that's what it was called 😅 it works to a certain extent, but when you are with them constantly it's harder to do 😭
Do you have the option to move somewhere else?
I hope you have the option to move out and find a more peaceful place to live 😢
@@Etianen7 I'm working on finding a place right now. It's difficult since the US government doesn't believe in supporting a living wage. The cost of living is just so crazy it's hard to leave abusive situations 😬
@@dustieyontararak thanks for the support, stranger 😊
I feel you! Living that right now to some extent. I have two cray crays in my home. I do the same, but sometimes , especially during codiv , I do feel the need to talk a bit about something of interest or let them in on my mind. Yesterday was such a day and lo and behold, they turned it into drama today! Like where do that get the energy from. It's badshit crazy around here sometimes.
The thing about greyrocking is also not ignoring them/ giving them the silent treatment. Be boring, be deadpan, answer with one word etc. but if you have to interact/ be around someone, ignoring or giving the silent treatment can make the manipulative person even more angry and try to provoke you to make you react. If you can avoid interactions with them, just go no contact.
Grey rocking sounds like what helped me survive bullying in school
Thank you Anna for making self-regulating, mental health techniques so accessible and digestible. As someone who can't afford therapy, you have no idea how much the techniques and knowledge you've shared over the years have helped me cope and grow. Love you!
oh jeez, grey rocking is definitely one of my core interpersonal tools for dealing with difficult people that I have been using since I was in high school... Actually super handy as a bartender/server
Can't relate enough. Been doing this for years, works every time. The funnies are when they come to you and tell you you have changed. I just rolled my eyes.
You've been posting a lot about the changing and loss of your relationships. Just remember that wildfires pave the way for new growth.
That might be a bad analogy now that wildfires (caused by preventing indigenous people from doing traditional cool burnings) are contributing to climate change and killing people.
GASP
...
wildfires also kill TREES... i see what you did there 😉
I WANNA LIKE A HUNDRED TIMES FOR PURE QUALITY TREE PUN CONTENT
THE GREY ROCK
I'm am dieing that I didn't know this anyway ima start using so I can slowly push my toxic friend away
YOUR A FRICKEN GOSESS THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS TIP IN MY LIFE THANK YOU!!!
I can feel the personality of trees if I go up to them and I feel how they are by embodying their energy, I don't know how to communicate with them like some people, but I can really feel how they are, some of them are so feminine and their posture is uplifting, others are jolty and sparky like they have an electric current. One tree felt like it was absorbing knowledge from my forehead. Trees are absolutely amazing and I cannot wait for more scientific explanations to come out about what some people know already but can't explain in way where they're respected
WHOA ive never heard of the grey rock method!! Im in a situation where I have to see this toxic "friend" a lot because we are in the same friend group. I cant exactly just separate my life from them because I want to stay friends with everyone else in the group!!
Michelle trying to keep a straight face while dressed as a tree and being pestered by Anna (whilst also dressed as a tree) is some kinda mood
Friends becoming enemies is the worst thing in the world. 😔
"All of my enemies started out friends". Taylor Swift
@@annaeverette8960 I'm sorry that happened to you. 😔
Holy moly, I didn't know there was a name for what I did to escape the narcissistic abuser I was with for 3 years. It definitely worked, I can tell you that! But it was a dangerous game. If he could tell I was doing it intentionally there would be hell to pay. I became a master at tuning out every horrible thing he would say to me. Just like.. would go through poems I had memorized, sing songs in my head, think about things I would rather be doing, or even imagining conversations with the people who really cared about me. A little embarrassed to admit but I would also imagine the ghosts of my grandparents and dad standing around me, protecting me from the hurt... anything to not absorb the toxicity. It was very useful and helped me survive those times.
"Michelle? MiCHEllE? MicHELLE? MICshell? misshell? mcchell?"
that's all i be hearing
I came across this channel two days ago and I am hooked! I ain't leaving. The aesthetic, the life lessons and the humor. I am there for it all
It's the Adult version of Ignore the bullies and they will leave you alone.
This is the best content I could’ve woken up to
The childhood play in which you played a tree paid off immensely
love this
Oh, I'm absolutely loving these scetches with your flatmates!!! It looks like you have such a good time!
Thank you for sharing your life experiences and things you’ve learned from therapy all these years!!
I remember hearing about how grey rock method before. It also is a very thin line cause it can become empty. Idk if that makes sense
😂 This was hilarious. Love all the tree puns! You three have such chemistreeeey! Also made me realize I sometimes do the grey rock without knowing
Always thought trees could be friends.. never enemies.. a little scared of trees now
I hope you see animals as friends too.
@@mariemaier5630 i do too
My families advice growing up when I encountered manipulative people was to ignore them, and there is an actual name for their technique? I nevr guessed! Thank you Anna!
"Hipster version of Zen" 😂🤣 making no promises not to steal this one!
returning to school to a group of friends turned strangers, really needed this, thank you
Oh my! I know now why I havn‘t met manipulative people in my entire life! And why I never experience Drama! It‘s all just because I‘m a boring person :)
Anna, Michelle, and Melissa are absolute goals
Is there a line that needs to be tread carefully with the grey rock method? I feel like it could come across as avoidant and dismissive if not executed properly. I don’t think it should be used as a crutch to get out of uncomfortable situations simply because it’s awkward. I don’t know. Just my .02.
Agree.
It is avoidant and dismissive by design, which makes it ineffective at actually helping people communicate and achieve conflict resolution.
Thing is, it was designed specifically for what Anna described -- surviving toxic people who are in your social orbit. It is not intended to get you out of uncomfortable situations you just don't feel like dealing with.
@@annaeverette8960 makes sense, thanks!
I've learned more about life through watching Anna's videos, than school ever taught me.😤❤️
What a birch 🌳
Anna’s genius for buying the tree costumes! I also use the grey rock method around some people too
I didn’t know there was a term for that, or that it was a special technique. I’ve been Gray Rocking for years!
Oh thank goodness you don't know how much I needed this at this moment . Thank you for sharing
Started out with trees--- this is gonna be GOOD!
The use of the Gong during the therapist segment - 1:57 to symbolize a certain *"Zen?"* Very clever...
I'm a naturally boring person and basically all my college friends lived for the drama and gossip. I was never interested in a thing they said which is why we aren't friends anymore. A grey rock since birth 🙃✌️
I have been a grey rock my whole life and I finally have a label for the habit that’s given me so much peace and time to heal☮️
I would watch a series of all three of standing around making tree puns dressed as trees
I love your dynamic and humour
I can't get a pun outta my head - when you said, we've talked our whole lives i just keep thinking leaves instead of lives lol
"I'm leafing"
"Then leaf."
@@briannagravely9349 hahaha treemendous
Wow, this is actually very helpful. A few months ago my best friend basically turned on me when I needed him the most and now that college is back in session I have to see him in two of my classes. Unfortunately, I feel like I'm getting the cold shoulder from literally everyone I know. I feel like now though is a great time to implement the Gray Rock method.
Your videos are so helpful. ❤️❤️
How different is being the recipient of a cold shoulder from that of a grey rock?
* *Starts reading about plants* * : you know what this reminds me of? My friends!
~ Mark Watney (45) Botanist
I learned about this through a bullying counselor in middle school. He called it "turning on the Arby's hat", and therefore attracting bullies to the meat
Anna: uploads
Me: CLICKS FASTER THAN THE SPEED OF LIGHT
I make vidz💜
Very slippery vids, in fact.
Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences and being vulnerable!!! ❤️ I also love how you showcase your personal growth and experiences with anxiety. The Grey Rock Method is something I definitely used in middle and high school, without realizing it, because I experienced severe bullying growing up in rural North Carolina. I learned that not reacting and to be invisible was the best way for me to survive. We have to learn to figure out what conflict is worth our time to try to resolve and when we should walk away.
She should have said “paTREons”
Didnt know I needed Anna and her friends being trees, but I absolutely needed it
I never knew I was Grey rocking with my manipulative family members since I was a pre-teen.
Grey Rock method sounds brilliant. Will definitely use this!
The Grey Rock thing seems fine if there is a relationship that is established as broken. If you do it to a friend without talking to them first is manipulative as well and extremely hurtful.
This.
Which is why thats called the cold shoulder. Grey Rock is a distancing technique for people that are hurting you, of course you cant do it to someone who is a friend.
Wow... The Grey Rocking is awesome... Thank u for sharing ❤️
Y’all better stream “RUN” on 1/22
You have such good friends, omg
Why did I just find out that Michelle and Melissa were two different people
It took me a WHILE too. For some videos I just thought Anna was a master at special effects.
@@RicardoMoralesMassin maybe she is👀
They aren't the same person???
Wow i didn’t know this was a method with a name. Years ago, I used it in school when kids would bully me and giving them no reaction worked everytime!
In-TREE-guing.
I’m been using the grey rock method for work. So far, it’s working
I got major mix feelings with this one. I get how it can be beneficial for one to want to avoid conflict on a regular basis with a abusive person however what bothers me is:
1. Why should I change my authentic self in favor of someone else in hopes of MAYBE avoiding conflict that I am not the one causing to begin with.
2. I am not responsible for someone else shitty behavior therefore I will not take responsibility for them and the chaos they are causing by making myself smaller, or "boring" to avoid conflict with them. Similar to point one but slightly different.
3. I do not see how it is healthy for anyone to disguise or contain ones feelings regarding how someone is treating you. That itself to me, is self abuse, and a major reason to why so many women are already silenced as they already are which puts us in further more dangerous situations rather than speaking out and taking on a conflict.
I can see how this is beneficial in very small cases where you genuinely do not care for someone and see them on a occasion. But I'd never suggest this to my friend if their ex was abusive and pushing the point of helplessness to resolve to solutions as this.
What I'd say is: If communication does not work with a person no matter how much one tries, GET AWAY!
I think this solution was suggested to people who are forced to be around toxic coworkers, or roommates, or stuff like that. Of course if the person was your friend or partner the best advice would be to keep them away
Yay! This came at just the right moment for me, just dumped a friend who's still my roomate for a couple of months and I want to disconnect!
#BringGoolPicturesBack Pleeeas!
#bringGoolPicturesback
SO good. Just saw that I'm not the only one who was using this technique without exactly knowing what it was. I have taken to wearing all black when interacting with my narcissistic, but otherwise lovely, mom. According to energy workers black can be protective, vs white which opens energy. Anyways, very validating and sanity-saving content!
OOF I love reliving my college trauma ^^;
on a real note though when can I evolve into Anna Akana? gold content here~
Absolutely love your content, Id love to hear your perspective on being okay with not getting closure because you have such a wonderful inspiring way of explaining tough life scenarios.
okay but what do you do when they ask why you're being dull and different and quiet? T__T
i'm LIVING for all the tree puns
Most recent interpersonal drama: a girl said to me “why are you acting like we’ve been best friends for years? If you don’t like me, just say it.” ????????
wow that's deep
Man, that sounds like a rough situation. Is there any chance there was any form of miscommunication, however subtle?
I had a friend pull that once. Been friends for 2 years and she would say I was her best friend, all of a sudden she told me it was weird how I called her my best friend and that she didnt want to hang with me anymore. Like.. okay lemme just ignore the last 2 years of non stop texting and endless sleepovers and pretend that didnt happen I guess.
I think some people fear being known because they've internalised the message that they're a 'bad' person. So they push people away and self fulfill the prophecy.
Mixed signals here. Probably she's very insecure. I have a friend i adore but when she's really stressed she thinks everyone low-key hates her so, it might be that
ugh yet another quality vid, love it
Her videos are better than most of the movies they put out
I so needed this advice. I have a manipulative/abusive person possibly coming for a visit this year (covid pending). Ive been freaking out about how to handle this visit, as I cant get away or miss their visit. Going to research all I can on the gray rock method. Thank you so much!
They become frenemies 🙃
You're such a lovely, kind and amazing person, Anna