I’m sure I was not there only one night that God spoke to me through you. May God Bless you, protect you. you are highly favored and blessed and that God will expand your territory. You put so much love and sincerity into your videos. In the video is ending as I leave my comment. Thank you for chastising us women that do I asked how to make him miss you. You were touching so many peoples lives
• Confidence by not internalizing negative past relationship experiences • Attentiveness • Associating with low quality men, be selective for quality men • Have a sense of humor • Putting effort into yourself physically • Be feminine, exude that comfortable energy around men • Don't be a pushover or door mat. Set boundaries on how they treat you, stand up for yourself when necessary • Be his peace & calmness • Be loving & positive to him • Find out his specific needs & desires & give that to him (without compromising your values) • Taking care of yourself
I dated a guy that decided to end things bec i never have and never will have premarital sex. He really liked the way i am and my looks but he told me that he needs a "normal relationship". He really liked me but i let him go. No begging or crying. I just let him go. I went into zero contact. I know my worth and i know that women like me are not common. I prayed about this situation bec im christian. Months later hes back! He told me he always had those feelings for me and wants to try things again. Lets see how it goes! Im praying about it. Even if it doest work out, he saw my value and confidence and thats already great! Whether its him or another man i know im a high value woman yay!🙂🙂🙂
I can totally relate to this statement, but I continue to be who I am in this way because maybe just maybe the light and grace from God will shine upon whoever I'm interacting with. I have realized that more and more people are uncomfortable with being their true self openly in fear of being seen as vulnerable...All to protect themselves from potential hurt. So for me, that is okay. We all have a right to our own timing of things. I certainly have. With love, I take this into consideration when I interact with people. So, when I need nourishment, healing, and regrouping from outside negative influences I look within.
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Change the story it will change I promise... you’re dealing with low quality men. Say this “ I find when I’m attentive and thoughtful they are as well”
I've had this before, I've learned that if I do it from fear of losing a person, it doesn't work. But if you do it from pure enjoyment, others will enjoy you.
I totally understand this... Same here. I actually have stopped being so attentive and thoughtful because I realize that is a turn off as well. It changed how he looked at me, but was okay with taking from me and not do the same.. I feel some of these guys may want to be women.
Limit texting and seeing them, especially in the beginning. Be unattached and ask questions where possible. Don’t hold back but know your boundaries!!!
@@fatimam5585 Texting is meaningless. He could be sending out multiple identical texts to different women. If he doesn't want to pick up the phone and call you to speak to you, that's not a good sign. Texting a little bit is ok, but that's no substitute for real communication.
@@fatimam5585 If a man invites me to do something or go to an event that I'm not that interested in, I just tell him, "Not my type of music/event/food". Let him ask what u prefer. Don't rush over to help him move (or whatever) when you've just barely been going out.
Learning how to be alone and happy. One of the things I've learned to master. I have been single for 5 years now. Been in a place where the absence of a partner does not make me feel insignificant is the greatest feeling ever. It has taught me so many things about myself, what I want from a relationship, the type of man I like and what my needs are. Investing in myself has really been the best thing I've done. I have a higher self-worth knowing what I have to offer in a relationship and the things I deserve from it. I have also learned that it is more important to be single than being in a relationship. The person we are in our singleness is the person we bring into the relationship/marriage.
@50:00 is where I am. I had to permanently close a relationship of 8 years because it started to develop negative traits in me. I began not to trust almost anybody, myself and men in general. Thank you for the endless lessons and encouragement to want better and to DO BETTER! 🙏🏽
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I was recently told by a gentlemen I am no longer dating, that I'm "too analytical". He said, "I'm used to a woman being more emotional. You analyze everything first." Talk about shocked! I replied, "I'm not going to feel bad for putting logic before my emotions in most situations. I'm not going to feel bad about being able to analyze my feelings, the actions of others, and see things from another perspective, before articulating my opinion. It took me years and lots of work to get this way. When I have an opinion based on pure emotion, I will tell you there's no logical bases for what I'm about to say or do other than it makes me feel better to make this choice." Never thought I would get dinged for THINKING first. Sigh...
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It's like I don't know you... It's the energy of up to something to me when they act this way.. Weak sneaky or insecure. Either way we dodge bullets when we think first b4 emotions... While still keeping it femine and sweet!💋💕💄
Dont be discouraged. Exercise your intelligence and use your intuition gifts as God intended. Any man that doesn't appreciate it isn't for you or is so use to drama from women. Proverbs 31- "she considers"...thats God approved decision making😇
9 out of 10 guys are engaging the other women or ignoring their partner, they are creating the insecurity in the RELATIONSHIP, not really creating insecurity in the confident woman. If a man is not treating you well he does not deserve you and God did not send him. There is no competition for who God has meant for you to be with, both are drawn to one another and no one else will satisfy them, everyone else is just a waste of time and a pass time. You will cater to each other.
Correct! That's why I don't understand why men are shocked when the women leaves a cheating toxic relationship. Bottom line if the man wants to be single he will act that way. Most Women don't want to share dick. Most men want to share their dicks. That's the reason for the sad state of failed relationships.
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I think there comes a time when people get to the breaking point in their life and say to themselves ....I HAVE HAD ENOUGH .Sad to say ,a lot of people don't get there and it's too late for them.Stephan you are always as good as ever in delivering good advice . I am learning even at 61 yrs.Thank you so much
Awww thank you Stephan so much for the genuine love and wisdom you are pouring into this world and into our hearts. Stephan is like the loving caring and wise older brother that we all wanted to have. Stephan is a blessing sent from God to the women of our age. 💖
I AM feminine, I have a great sense of humor, I'm attractive/cute. I've been single for decades. So my attributes didn't help. Ladies, you have to have a definite goal, and work it like a goal. Be fun, have a good time, but don't be tooooo nice or a pushover. Act like you have a lot of options, even when you don't. He'll desire you more, if he thinks other men want you. It's game playing, really. And he's also playing a game. Looks DO matter. Men will put up with a lot from a beautiful woman. A heckuva lot.
my greatest attribute is my attentiveness. i love catering to my mate. though i have done it for the wrong ppl so often. I am the best gift giver because i am so attentive.
I have to add….. out of all your videos, this video has to be the most valuable one I’ve seen yet. You are so right on!!! TAKE IT FROM ME, DO NOT LET ANYBODY BRING YOU DOWN. WHATEVER SOMEONE SAYS TO YOU TO BRING YOU DOWN BRUSH IT OFF AND BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE THE PROBLEM. NOT YOU ! It’s unbelievable how damaging other’s words can be. I’ve been there and I’ve seen the damage it can cause in me. Now instead of letting their words affect me I pray for them. Because it’s them who are hurting. NOT YOU!!!! Stephan you have no idea how important this video is going to be to some who hear it. YOU ARE AMAZING STEPHAN!!!!! Thank you for this video!!!! It is a GEM. I PRAY GOD BLESSES YOU AND I PRAY THE LORD REWARDS YOU ABUNDANTLY FOR BLESSING ALL OF US WITH YOUR WISDOM!!!! There are so many relationship experts on UTube. DONT EVEN GO THERE PEOPLE!!!! STEPHAN IS ALL YOU NEED!!! He is dedicated, spiritual, intelligent, trustworthy & REALLY DOES care about US!!! I would give this counselor 100 stars if I could.
I think it’s very important to be very selective in all the people we associate with, our Lady friends as well.I have found during life people sum us up within a few moments, so if we associate with negative people, it doesn’t take long for that negativity to rub onto us. Smile and laugh, it is like cat nip, to Men and those we associate with❤️❤️❤️❤️😊😃
9 out of 10 guys are engaging the other women or ignoring their partner, they are creating the insecurity in the RELATIONSHIP, not really creating insecurity in the confident woman. If a man is not treating you well he does not deserve you and God did not send him. There is no competition for who God has meant for you to be with, both are drawn to one another and no one else will satisfy them, everyone else is just a waste of time and a pass time. You will cater to each other.
Amen. Be positive, have good energy, be fun and people will gravitate towards you. The five closest people in your life influence us, so chose wisely!!
I've been following you for years and I must admit that I honestly love the balance you bring to the table. You focus on not just one gender but on both genders on how to get things right. Keep up the good work man! Love and light from Nigeria.❤💡🇳🇬
This is not for a guy who is not for you, this is for a guy who absolutely loves you but has simply falled off due to life circumstances. I get that plain and clear! Thank you Stephan Speaks!
What makes my day is seeing a new upload by you. & regardless if I agree or disagree with what is said, I know I'll be entertained and it puts a smile on my face. I appreciate the great content 💪thank you.
Really find this 'being attentive' interesting, because this is something I was taught to do for guests, friends, family as being thoughtful and respectful. It's love and respect in action.
Most american men do not even get this at home. Its a hospitality thing not degrading. Some men will see u as their mother or their maid but i just saw there r men who love it.
I am an African woman, born and grew up in Africa. I am currently living in the USA. With that been said, i catered or care so much for my partner. cooking, doing laundry and everything however most men take advantage of this, some will appreciate this
Good suggestion. Yes please. Married the man that I had kids by. Now we are no longer married and I'm dating and don't know when to introduce him to my kids. Would like some guidance . Thanks.
Stephen, thank you so much for your videos and for helping me and other women learn more about men, relationships and ourselves! And thank you for your humor!
Damn you are helping me so much! You are giving me straight facts! You’re so knowledgeable about how women and men think. Thank you so much for this. I know what I need to do now.
Hahahaha you crack me up with your personal stories and trying to explain things so you don’t get a swarm of angry ladies coming after you. Love it! 😂❤👍🏻
I’m not insure about the man I’m more insecure about a relationship. I’m scared of getting in a relationship with a man I like. Not because I’m not worthy, but because I’m scared of being vulnerable. I can easily talk to ppl I’m not interested in.
Keeping our well-being at top notch physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually is so important and like you said even just having QUALITY water can make a huge difference (like avoid drinking from plastic bottles as substances that seep into the water can be harmful to the body). And of course healing - I have the ebook Love After Heartbreak (thank you ❤️) and it is powerful and the world needs it - there a lot of broken people that don’t even realise that they need healing 🙏.
Thanks for sharing this because I learned a lot from it, such as: Giving consequences and rewards. Being willing to walk away; Needs to heal from the past, etc.
I loved this video. You have really motivated me. When I started listening I was extremely depressed and had pretty much given up. I think because you speak truth and it set me free!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! 🥰
Great info Stephan! You are the best relationship teacher. I’ve always agreed with everything you teach. I had my Mr right for 34 yrs until he passed away in 2013. I don’t know if God has a Mr. right #2 for me or not but until then I’ll be praying for you!!! Thank you for all your teachings & advice. You are so appreciated 🧡🙏🏼🙏🏼
I am single at the age of 40 now. I believe that the points you make here are HUGE! Young single ladies please listen up. I think that my willingness to entertain any man who showed interest in me, in an effort to always be seen as nice, may have had a much bigger impact on my life than I ever imagined. I did not have proper boundaries as far as friends go. I always had various men hanging around me, who I was not actually dating. I think it did lower my value in other men's eyes. Also, the effort department. Because of my upbringing, religious beliefs, parent's culture, and financial situation, etc. I would often forgo make-up. I always looked awkward. I never had good fashion or even clothes that fit me properly. I didn't even realize I was supposed to be shopping in the petite (under 5' 4") section until I was in my 30s. 😔
@Stephen, where were you when I was growing up??? I soooo needed a man to teach me these things when I was younger. But, it’s okay. I shared this video with both of my daughter’s. Keep doing what you’re doing my brother.
Thank you, I have said these affirmations bc the man I'm dating is both high quality and value, and I was like wow I got to step it up bc idk what the hell to do with him. I also knew I had room to elevate as a woman
I listen to a video from you DAILY! I appreciate the wisdom and insight you credibly bring. I love your content! Keep keeping on Stephan! You are easy to look at AND listen to! I value your knowledge. God is awesome in your life AND mine! #expertopinionsmatter!
One of the nicest compliments I got from a man was,”You’re the most girlie girl I have ever met”. He told me I was,”very feminine”. I give my mom part of the credit for having such high standards of looking our best. Staying fit, always wearing nice clothes, keeping our hair and nails nice and never walking around looking like a slob. Nice makeup, or at least groomed and looking fresh. Due to this I’ve never worried about men asking me out…but I am pretty picky and I have to have a good quality man because I would rather be alone then with anyone who would pull me down.
I already failed with the first one, be his peace. He has been telling me that all he wants is peace but i cannot give it to him. Now he cannot trust I will ever give it but he is still staying just because he feels it as a duty not because he is happy.
Stephan, I really like your point about how the type of men you hang out with can damage your ability to attract quality men. People do judge you by the company you keep. Men are competitive and they pursue women who are pursued by quality, high value men. Men do not want women that other men do not want.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY AND FOR BEING OPEN ABOUT THESE ISSUES THAT WE HAVE WITH ONE ANOTHER!!!🙏🙏🙏 THIS HAS BEEN AN ISSUE BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME!!! IT'S VERY REFRESHING TO HEAR CLEAR DIALOGUE FOR ONCE AND NOT HEAR THE COACH TAKE SIDES WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER! 😊 THAT'S RARE! WHAT A BLESSING YOU ARE! 💚 I'M GETTING READY TO GIVE MYSELF ALL THE LOVE THAT I DESERVE! HE'S NOT READY TO POUR INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP AND I'VE GOTT'A MOVE ON! BYE-BYE BOO-KEE 😘
Very informative! I love the straight forward conversation of how to become a better partner in your relationship through love, honest behaviors and keeping it real through spiritual guidance which is key as far as I'm concerned!
Attitude of Servitude 💖 I think we, women are naturally nurturers. I come from a family where the women prepare the food & serve the men, we enjoy it, we take pride in it…. Ooh, being SELECTIVE!!! LORD HAVE MERCY!!! THIS is unfortunately the one that I had FAILED at so often!!! At one point in life, I was SO obsessed with trying to date a Black man (bc I had a previous reputation of dating others, side bar: that’s who was perusing me & treating me GREAT), that I begin to SETTLE on QUALITY!!! Worse mistake of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FRFR And it took me a while to catch on… I digress… KNOW YOUR WORTH QUEENS 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 sooo many of us have NO IDEA JUST HOW PHENOMENAL WE ARE!!! 😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I started not to click on this bc I felt like since I don’t feel ready to date, this os not what I need to hear. Wrong. It was exactly what I needed to hear. “Show up for life” The pain of the last relationship had me hiding from life and I wasn’t even aware of what I was doing. Thank you for the wake up call.
One of the best videos I have listened to!! Healing is so important, I can so relate to that, I am in therapy and it is so beneficial and changing every aspect of my life. My self worth and confidence is getting so much better. Thanks Stephan for keeping it 100% real and honest, I appreciate you for breaking it down and not sugarcoating it. I so needed to hear it. #JustPowerful
Can I just say that I love you, and your motivational speech. I just came across you a week ago, I bought the book The Man God Have For Me! I now listen to you everyday! I learned a lot from you. I have been single for over 4 years, I decided to wait on God, and in the mean time take very good care of myself, and love myself, so I will be able to love someone else. Thank you!
I can honestly admit, even though I am healing from a broken heart, the things you are saying in this video is the things my ex poured out that I am and do for him when he was begging me back. I was in a long distance relationship for over 1 year and we spoke of marriage from the beginning. A couple months ago he confessed he had been lying about some major things. And hes spoken about so many things, even long distance, that I was supportive and loving and affirming and my silly laugh...and at least I know there were these things I built up and was able to pour out of myself. So I pray to remain hopeful to gift it to the right man for me one day
Thanks King, I can honestly say I had to learn how to enjoy peace and happiness in alone time. Self love is very important it actually can improve the ability to express love in a healthier way. I trust the bigger plan, love on fur babies and most importantly loving on my girls lol
Thank you for the respectful way you speak. I have a high quality man that I adore (and he adores me). I am always looking for ways to make our relationship stronger. You provided some excellent advice that I will definitely pay more attention to. Have a great day!
Yes, these are very good points , Thank You, At one point in my life, yes ,I had forgot how to be a confident women I had to look at myself and realize I was loosing myself, And yes it takes healing and all the point's you are mentioning
I love this idea of being attentive. I’ve watched women who do this and I really find it so attractive and thoughtful. I’ve never thought to be this way myself, lol.
Yes I’m a cancer ♋️ woman and very attentive to my partner from booking his hair appointments even when he doesn’t advise me to,to putting his 🧦 on if he falls asleep with them in his hands after his shower lol my baby works so hard I got him periodtt!!🥰😎
i also have a trick on this situation . i invite him to my place and i take 5 drops of natural aphrodisiacs and the experience in bed totally blows their mind
High quality man = more masculine 😳 I’ve always felt I’m attracted to men who aren’t masculine enough. I guess I’ve to aim higher and prepare to receive. I love be feminine + be strong. Queen 👑 energy coming.
Really appreciated that you included nutrition is so crucial for self worth. I am a fan of eating for your blood type concept!😊. Thank you and blessings
Thank you what a great compilation video! Oh Lawdy!! I’ve been through a lot of those mistakes in my life and thank the LORD He’s guided me out of all that. 😄
This was refreshing and informative Stephan. Definitely have some things to work on and I am on my healing journey and getting back to me. Kinda excited about it all. I deserve it, its my time!
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Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
Each other have to be each other peace . Ya both need to be able to feel comfirtable around each other and talk. The peace starts when we share both our problems in q mature way without arguing and yelling
Stephan thank you for this amazing video. I appreciate that it is long . Lol Tonight was like when you are sitting in church and the pastor starts his sermon. And you sit thinking God has to be speaking through the message directly to you. Thank you
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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Keep praying and ask God(Allah) to lead you to the right path, you will get your prayer inshaa allah. Great video as usaul. Thank you
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Hookah story....verrry interesting Stephan.
I’m sure I was not there only one night that God spoke to me through you. May God Bless you, protect you. you are highly favored and blessed and that God will expand your territory. You put so much love and sincerity into your videos. In the video is ending as I leave my comment. Thank you for chastising us women that do I asked how to make him miss you. You were touching so many peoples lives
I have a question, why a man can text a women my friend when they don't even know each other that much?
• Confidence by not internalizing negative past relationship experiences
• Attentiveness
• Associating with low quality men, be selective for quality men
• Have a sense of humor
• Putting effort into yourself physically
• Be feminine, exude that comfortable energy around men
• Don't be a pushover or door mat. Set boundaries on how they treat you, stand up for yourself when necessary
• Be his peace & calmness
• Be loving & positive to him
• Find out his specific needs & desires & give that to him (without compromising your values)
• Taking care of yourself
Thank you!!!!
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I dated a guy that decided to end things bec i never have and never will have premarital sex. He really liked the way i am and my looks but he told me that he needs a "normal relationship". He really liked me but i let him go. No begging or crying. I just let him go. I went into zero contact. I know my worth and i know that women like me are not common. I prayed about this situation bec im christian. Months later hes back! He told me he always had those feelings for me and wants to try things again. Lets see how it goes! Im praying about it. Even if it doest work out, he saw my value and confidence and thats already great! Whether its him or another man i know im a high value woman yay!🙂🙂🙂
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Wow That's great. We must not compromise with our deep core values for anybody.You did right.Stick to your values.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank u for ur great advice,! Im following it
@@thesoulonquest thank u, i know im doing right💕 blessings, priya!😊
The more you stick to you're values.... the more he see you as wife material..
High quality woman =woman willing to walk away when not treated right!🙂
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Walking away equals strength.
@@skyfall1481 10000% yes!!!💕
I don't want him back he was not for me to much toxicity with him and his family I'm good waiting on a good man not a boy
I meant two
“We don’t wait, we prepare to receive.” -Stephan Labossiere That is so very good!
I loved that too!
Right. I had to write that one down to remind myself.
Yes I absolutely loveeeee that statement.
You are so so funny Stephan. Thanks laughing is essential for all of us.
Yas! Therr was the anointing on that!
I find when I am attentive and thoughtful, it's never reciprocated but instead taken advantage of.
I can totally relate to this statement, but I continue to be who I am in this way because maybe just maybe the light and grace from God will shine upon whoever I'm interacting with. I have realized that more and more people are uncomfortable with being their true self openly in fear of being seen as vulnerable...All to protect themselves from potential hurt.
So for me, that is okay. We all have a right to our own timing of things. I certainly have. With love, I take this into consideration when I interact with people. So, when I need nourishment, healing, and regrouping from outside negative influences I look within.
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Change the story it will change I promise... you’re dealing with low quality men. Say this “ I find when I’m attentive and thoughtful they are as well”
I've had this before, I've learned that if I do it from fear of losing a person, it doesn't work. But if you do it from pure enjoyment, others will enjoy you.
I totally understand this... Same here. I actually have stopped being so attentive and thoughtful because I realize that is a turn off as well. It changed how he looked at me, but was okay with taking from me and not do the same.. I feel some of these guys may want to be women.
Limit texting and seeing them, especially in the beginning. Be unattached and ask questions where possible. Don’t hold back but know your boundaries!!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks appreciate you Stephan!!!
What do you mean limit texting and seeing them? Limit seeing them too?? Or text less and see them more??
@@fatimam5585 Texting is meaningless. He could be sending out multiple identical texts to different women. If he doesn't want to pick up the phone and call you to speak to you, that's not a good sign. Texting a little bit is ok, but that's no substitute for real communication.
@@fatimam5585 If a man invites me to do something or go to an event that I'm not that interested in, I just tell him, "Not my type of music/event/food". Let him ask what u prefer. Don't rush over to help him move (or whatever) when you've just barely been going out.
Learning how to be alone and happy.
One of the things I've learned to master. I have been single for 5 years now. Been in a place where the absence of a partner does not make me feel insignificant is the greatest feeling ever. It has taught me so many things about myself, what I want from a relationship, the type of man I like and what my needs are. Investing in myself has really been the best thing I've done. I have a higher self-worth knowing what I have to offer in a relationship and the things I deserve from it.
I have also learned that it is more important to be single than being in a relationship. The person we are in our singleness is the person we bring into the relationship/marriage.
@50:00 is where I am. I had to permanently close a relationship of 8 years because it started to develop negative traits in me. I began not to trust almost anybody, myself and men in general. Thank you for the endless lessons and encouragement to want better and to DO BETTER! 🙏🏽
Thank you for your response, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!
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@@ashleychapman6109 Who?
I’m an old white lady and your teachings are universal and have no age limit. Bravo!
Linda...is that you?
I was recently told by a gentlemen I am no longer dating, that I'm "too analytical". He said, "I'm used to a woman being more emotional. You analyze everything first." Talk about shocked! I replied, "I'm not going to feel bad for putting logic before my emotions in most situations. I'm not going to feel bad about being able to analyze my feelings, the actions of others, and see things from another perspective, before articulating my opinion. It took me years and lots of work to get this way. When I have an opinion based on pure emotion, I will tell you there's no logical bases for what I'm about to say or do other than it makes me feel better to make this choice." Never thought I would get dinged for THINKING first. Sigh...
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It's like I don't know you... It's the energy of up to something to me when they act this way.. Weak sneaky or insecure. Either way we dodge bullets when we think first b4 emotions... While still keeping it femine and sweet!💋💕💄
Dont be discouraged. Exercise your intelligence and use your intuition gifts as God intended. Any man that doesn't appreciate it isn't for you or is so use to drama from women. Proverbs 31- "she considers"...thats God approved decision making😇
I sure do agree with you here!
He basically said "jeez your really hard to manipulate" 🤣 check mate honey! 👌👌❤
9 out of 10 guys are engaging the other women or ignoring their partner, they are creating the insecurity in the RELATIONSHIP, not really creating insecurity in the confident woman. If a man is not treating you well he does not deserve you and God did not send him. There is no competition for who God has meant for you to be with, both are drawn to one another and no one else will satisfy them, everyone else is just a waste of time and a pass time. You will cater to each other.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Correct! That's why I don't understand why men are shocked when the women leaves a cheating toxic relationship. Bottom line if the man wants to be single he will act that way. Most Women don't want to share dick. Most men want to share their dicks. That's the reason for the sad state of failed relationships.
Wow! He said: “Create the habits that help you remain confident” ... I’m fortified for the rest of the year!
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I think there comes a time when people get to the breaking point in their life and say to themselves ....I HAVE HAD ENOUGH .Sad to say ,a lot of people don't get there and it's too late for them.Stephan you are always as good as ever in delivering good advice . I am learning even at 61 yrs.Thank you so much
Awww thank you Stephan so much for the genuine love and wisdom you are pouring into this world and into our hearts. Stephan is like the loving caring and wise older brother that we all wanted to have. Stephan is a blessing sent from God to the women of our age. 💖
Ladies stay feminine, glow up, laugh. Show up daily💃💃💃
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I AM feminine, I have a great sense of humor, I'm attractive/cute. I've been single for decades. So my attributes didn't help. Ladies, you have to have a definite goal, and work it like a goal. Be fun, have a good time, but don't be tooooo nice or a pushover. Act like you have a lot of options, even when you don't. He'll desire you more, if he thinks other men want you. It's game playing, really. And he's also playing a game. Looks DO matter. Men will put up with a lot from a beautiful woman. A heckuva lot.
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my greatest attribute is my attentiveness. i love catering to my mate. though i have done it for the wrong ppl so often. I am the best gift giver because i am so attentive.
I have to add….. out of all your videos, this video has to be the most valuable one I’ve seen yet. You are so right on!!! TAKE IT FROM ME, DO NOT LET ANYBODY BRING YOU DOWN. WHATEVER SOMEONE SAYS TO YOU TO BRING YOU DOWN BRUSH IT OFF AND BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE THE PROBLEM. NOT YOU !
It’s unbelievable how damaging other’s words can be. I’ve been there and I’ve seen the damage it can cause in me. Now instead of letting their words affect me I pray for them. Because it’s them who are hurting. NOT YOU!!!!
Stephan you have no idea how important this video is going to be to some who hear it. YOU ARE AMAZING STEPHAN!!!!! Thank you for this video!!!! It is a GEM.
I PRAY GOD BLESSES YOU
AND I PRAY THE LORD REWARDS YOU ABUNDANTLY FOR BLESSING ALL OF US WITH YOUR WISDOM!!!! There are so many relationship experts on UTube. DONT EVEN GO THERE PEOPLE!!!! STEPHAN IS ALL YOU NEED!!! He is dedicated, spiritual, intelligent, trustworthy & REALLY DOES care about US!!!
I would give this counselor 100 stars if I could.
I think it’s very important to be very selective in all the people we associate with, our Lady friends as well.I have found during life people sum us up within a few moments, so if we associate with negative people, it doesn’t take long for that negativity to rub onto us.
Smile and laugh, it is like cat nip, to Men and those we associate with❤️❤️❤️❤️😊😃
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate your feedback!
9 out of 10 guys are engaging the other women or ignoring their partner, they are creating the insecurity in the RELATIONSHIP, not really creating insecurity in the confident woman. If a man is not treating you well he does not deserve you and God did not send him. There is no competition for who God has meant for you to be with, both are drawn to one another and no one else will satisfy them, everyone else is just a waste of time and a pass time. You will cater to each other.
Amen. Be positive, have good energy, be fun and people will gravitate towards you. The five closest people in your life influence us, so chose wisely!!
I've been following you for years and I must admit that I honestly love the balance you bring to the table. You focus on not just one gender but on both genders on how to get things right. Keep up the good work man! Love and light from Nigeria.❤💡🇳🇬
Thank you very much I appreciate your support!
You're welcome steph🤗
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This is not for a guy who is not for you, this is for a guy who absolutely loves you but has simply falled off due to life circumstances. I get that plain and clear! Thank you Stephan Speaks!
You saved my life. I no longer want to be carrying that bad energy with Me. You're like a big brother with great advice. 👍
What makes my day is seeing a new upload by you. & regardless if I agree or disagree with what is said, I know I'll be entertained and it puts a smile on my face. I appreciate the great content 💪thank you.
Thank you very much I appreciate your support!
High quality men are at times much more valuable than a high value man
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
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You better say that!!😙🤓
Exactly
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Really find this 'being attentive' interesting, because this is something I was taught to do for guests, friends, family as being thoughtful and respectful. It's love and respect in action.
Most american men do not even get this at home. Its a hospitality thing not degrading. Some men will see u as their mother or their maid but i just saw there r men who love it.
I wish these were on Spotify or as a podcast. Would love to listen to these when driving
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I listen while driving and my phone connects to my car via Bluetooth
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Very IMPORTANT! Ladies! We must HEAL...NOT to take TOXIC baggage into the RIGHT relationship! ...God has for you!
I am an African woman, born and grew up in Africa. I am currently living in the USA. With that been said, i catered or care so much for my partner. cooking, doing laundry and everything however most men take advantage of this, some will appreciate this
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback!
Hello I can recommend you to the person who help me get my partner back
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Do a video about dating when children are involved
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Good suggestion. Yes please. Married the man that I had kids by. Now we are no longer married and I'm dating and don't know when to introduce him to my kids. Would like some guidance . Thanks.
Yes please!
Stephen, thank you so much for your videos and for helping me and other women learn more about men, relationships and ourselves! And thank you for your humor!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response 🙏
Damn you are helping me so much! You are giving me straight facts! You’re so knowledgeable about how women and men think. Thank you so much for this. I know what I need to do now.
These videos are one of the fews reasons why I even frequent UA-cam. So grateful for the works of Stephan Speaks. Excellence, indeed.
Hahahaha you crack me up with your personal stories and trying to explain things so you don’t get a swarm of angry ladies coming after you. Love it! 😂❤👍🏻
Team working together. Nothing is EASY in Life.
Being loose is weakness & degrading her esteem.
Light HEARTEDNESS IS HEALTHY. 😊 SMILE!! BE CHEERFUL!!!
It’s true people carry”ENERGY”thanks for share Stephen.
Peace & blessings
-Robin from Boston 🙏🏽
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response. Peace and blessings unto you!
I’m not insure about the man I’m more insecure about a relationship. I’m scared of getting in a relationship with a man I like. Not because I’m not worthy, but because I’m scared of being vulnerable.
I can easily talk to ppl I’m not interested in.
Keeping our well-being at top notch physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually is so important and like you said even just having QUALITY water can make a huge difference (like avoid drinking from plastic bottles as substances that seep into the water can be harmful to the body). And of course healing - I have the ebook Love After Heartbreak (thank you ❤️) and it is powerful and the world needs it - there a lot of broken people that don’t even realise that they need healing 🙏.
Healing is definitely key!
Thanks for sharing this because I learned a lot from it, such as:
Giving consequences and rewards.
Being willing to walk away;
Needs to heal from the past, etc.
I loved this video. You have really motivated me. When I started listening I was extremely depressed and had pretty much given up. I think because you speak truth and it set me free!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! 🥰
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Great info Stephan! You are the best relationship teacher. I’ve always agreed with everything you teach.
I had my Mr right for 34 yrs until he passed away in 2013. I don’t know if God has a Mr. right #2 for me or not but until then I’ll be praying for you!!! Thank you for all your teachings & advice. You are so appreciated 🧡🙏🏼🙏🏼
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I am single at the age of 40 now. I believe that the points you make here are HUGE! Young single ladies please listen up.
I think that my willingness to entertain any man who showed interest in me, in an effort to always be seen as nice, may have had a much bigger impact on my life than I ever imagined. I did not have proper boundaries as far as friends go. I always had various men hanging around me, who I was not actually dating. I think it did lower my value in other men's eyes.
Also, the effort department. Because of my upbringing, religious beliefs, parent's culture, and financial situation, etc. I would often forgo make-up. I always looked awkward. I never had good fashion or even clothes that fit me properly. I didn't even realize I was supposed to be shopping in the petite (under 5' 4") section until I was in my 30s. 😔
Thanks 😊 for the valuable tips.
BE YOUR SELF BE POSITIVE.
You cannot go wrong.
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@Stephen, where were you when I was growing up??? I soooo needed a man to teach me these things when I was younger. But, it’s okay. I shared this video with both of my daughter’s. Keep doing what you’re doing my brother.
Thank you, I have said these affirmations bc the man I'm dating is both high quality and value, and I was like wow I got to step it up bc idk what the hell to do with him. I also knew I had room to elevate as a woman
Now all I need is a man that I WANT!
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I listen to a video from you DAILY! I appreciate the wisdom and insight you credibly bring. I love your content! Keep keeping on Stephan! You are easy to look at AND listen to! I value your knowledge. God is awesome in your life AND mine! #expertopinionsmatter!
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Wow, this is just what I need. I am thankful I have a king who treats me like a queen. Thank you for YOU!
Wow Stephan, what a brilliant, insightful, spiritual, inspirational talk..really incredible! You are amazing!!
One of the nicest compliments I got from a man was,”You’re the most girlie girl I have ever met”. He told me I was,”very feminine”. I give my mom part of the credit for having such high standards of looking our best. Staying fit, always wearing nice clothes, keeping our hair and nails nice and never walking around looking like a slob. Nice makeup, or at least groomed and looking fresh.
Due to this I’ve never worried about men asking me out…but I am pretty picky and I have to have a good quality man because I would rather be alone then with anyone who would pull me down.
Stephan, you had been very helpful! I think I am ready to go back to dating after many heartbroken relationships. 🙏
From Senegal leaving in the USA.
Happy to help!
Very very powerful video. Great teaching on all levels. Blessings
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
You are really impressive and have an incredible wealth of information you share with such intelligence and depth!. Excellent content! Thanks 💯👍
I already failed with the first one, be his peace. He has been telling me that all he wants is peace but i cannot give it to him. Now he cannot trust I will ever give it but he is still staying just because he feels it as a duty not because he is happy.
Stephan,
I really like your point about how the type of men you hang out with can damage your ability to attract quality men. People do judge you by
the company you keep. Men are competitive and they pursue women
who are pursued by quality, high value men. Men do not want women
that other men do not want.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY AND FOR BEING OPEN ABOUT THESE ISSUES THAT WE HAVE WITH ONE ANOTHER!!!🙏🙏🙏 THIS HAS BEEN AN ISSUE BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME!!! IT'S VERY REFRESHING TO HEAR CLEAR DIALOGUE FOR ONCE AND NOT HEAR THE COACH TAKE SIDES WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER! 😊 THAT'S RARE! WHAT A BLESSING YOU ARE! 💚 I'M GETTING READY TO GIVE MYSELF ALL THE LOVE THAT I DESERVE! HE'S NOT READY TO POUR INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP AND I'VE GOTT'A MOVE ON! BYE-BYE BOO-KEE 😘
Very informative! I love the straight forward conversation of how to become a better partner in your relationship through love, honest behaviors and keeping it real through spiritual guidance which is key as far as I'm concerned!
Attitude of Servitude 💖 I think we, women are naturally nurturers. I come from a family where the women prepare the food & serve the men, we enjoy it, we take pride in it…. Ooh, being SELECTIVE!!! LORD HAVE MERCY!!! THIS is unfortunately the one that I had FAILED at so often!!! At one point in life, I was SO obsessed with trying to date a Black man (bc I had a previous reputation of dating others, side bar: that’s who was perusing me & treating me GREAT), that I begin to SETTLE on QUALITY!!! Worse mistake of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FRFR And it took me a while to catch on… I digress… KNOW YOUR WORTH QUEENS 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 sooo many of us have NO IDEA JUST HOW PHENOMENAL WE ARE!!! 😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
There’s nothing wrong with having @ sense of humor I keep my friends laughing 😆 folks don’t be so up tight
enjoy the fruits 🍉 Lol.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks No problem handsome! 😉
Loved the fruits! Thanks! 🌮🌮🌮 for you😉😊
I started not to click on this bc I felt like since I don’t feel ready to date, this os not what I need to hear. Wrong. It was exactly what I needed to hear.
“Show up for life”
The pain of the last relationship had me hiding from life and I wasn’t even aware of what I was doing.
Thank you for the wake up call.
One of the best videos I have listened to!! Healing is so important, I can so relate to that, I am in therapy and it is so beneficial and changing every aspect of my life. My self worth and confidence is getting so much better. Thanks Stephan for keeping it 100% real and honest, I appreciate you for breaking it down and not sugarcoating it. I so needed to hear it. #JustPowerful
Love this. Ive always act tough in front of guys due to my upbringing.. childhood trauma. Going to try to change slowly..
You're the best relationship coach!!!👍👍
Stephan, thank you. I'm grateful for your healthy, respectful messages. You are gifted.
Can I just say that I love you, and your motivational speech. I just came across you a week ago, I bought the book The Man God Have For Me! I now listen to you everyday! I learned a lot from you. I have been single for over 4 years, I decided to wait on God, and in the mean time take very good care of myself, and love myself, so I will be able to love someone else. Thank you!
I can honestly admit, even though I am healing from a broken heart, the things you are saying in this video is the things my ex poured out that I am and do for him when he was begging me back. I was in a long distance relationship for over 1 year and we spoke of marriage from the beginning. A couple months ago he confessed he had been lying about some major things. And hes spoken about so many things, even long distance, that I was supportive and loving and affirming and my silly laugh...and at least I know there were these things I built up and was able to pour out of myself. So I pray to remain hopeful to gift it to the right man for me one day
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Amen!!! God has a high quality man for me!!!
Amen 🙏
There’s no way that a genuine loving man can receive all this goodness and still act a fool 🙌🏾❤️🙌🏾
Thanks King, I can honestly say I had to learn how to enjoy peace and happiness in alone time. Self love is very important it actually can improve the ability to express love in a healthier way. I trust the bigger plan, love on fur babies and most importantly loving on my girls lol
Thank you for the respectful way you speak. I have a high quality man that I adore (and he adores me). I am always looking for ways to make our relationship stronger. You provided some excellent advice that I will definitely pay more attention to. Have a great day!
I am looking for a guy like you Stephan! When is your next conference?
Awesome.. Stephen ...
Now ....
Let's pray we find someone of VALUE .........
Stephan, thank you for your inspirational advice on men and relationship.
Yes, these are very good points , Thank You, At one point in my life, yes ,I had forgot how to be a confident women I had to look at myself and realize I was loosing myself, And yes it takes healing and all the point's you are mentioning
Thank you for sharing, you're absolutely right! Healing is definitely key and we also need to self-reflect!
Yes seeing the value in yourself first and confidence. 💯❤
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I love this idea of being attentive. I’ve watched women who do this and I really find it so attractive and thoughtful. I’ve never thought to be this way myself, lol.
He persuaded me and was consistent in communication with me.
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Girl, I laughed so hard at this open and honest statement. I'm so glad that you came back home. Keeping you lifted in prayer sis 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yes I’m a cancer ♋️ woman and very attentive to my partner from booking his hair appointments even when he doesn’t advise me to,to putting his 🧦 on if he falls asleep with them in his hands after his shower lol my baby works so hard I got him periodtt!!🥰😎
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There is opportunity to laugh every episode..thanks Bro Stephan
i also have a trick on this situation . i invite him to my place and i take 5 drops of natural aphrodisiacs and the experience in bed totally blows their mind
i wanted to surprise my guy and bought for myself these natural aphrodisiacs spanish fly . and yeah just 5 drops and everything is pretty effective
What brand what do you suggest lol
This video was on point.. tks today I did a switch n my manifestatio is glowing
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High quality man = more masculine 😳 I’ve always felt I’m attracted to men who aren’t masculine enough. I guess I’ve to aim higher and prepare to receive. I love be feminine + be strong. Queen 👑 energy coming.
Stephan, you are so wise like the big bro I never had that got his head on straight. This is so helpful 🙏🏾 Thank you!
I could listen to this man all day. He is the first one that has ever put feminine energy into a perspective I can understand.
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Amen! God bless you my brother. Keep going you are reaching many
A lot of true points in this video which I really appreciate! Thank you Stephan!
It was very good from you to mention that women can also say No if necessary. People take kindness for granted. 🐇🐰🐰🐣🐥🐤
Really appreciated that you included nutrition is so crucial for self worth. I am a fan of eating for your blood type concept!😊. Thank you and blessings
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Thank you what a great compilation video!
Oh Lawdy!! I’ve been through a lot of those mistakes in my life and thank the LORD He’s guided me out of all that. 😄
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
This was refreshing and informative Stephan. Definitely have some things to work on and I am on my healing journey and getting back to me. Kinda excited about it all. I deserve it, its my time!
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I’ve learned it about trust, honestly, Communication and Comprehension.
I get heal today at church I claim this message in Jesus name amen hallelujah ❤️ I really and truly love this message
I love your UA-cam Channel.Keep up the great work.
I’m so glad and thankful that I was raised with a village of confident, feminine, glamorous women!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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Each other have to be each other peace . Ya both need to be able to feel comfirtable around each other and talk. The peace starts when we share both our problems in q mature way without arguing and yelling
Stephen you are such a fountain of wisdom, im glad that at the age of 40 i came across your channel. Love and bleesings from South Africa.
Stephan thank you for this amazing video. I appreciate that it is long . Lol Tonight was like when you are sitting in church and the pastor starts his sermon. And you sit thinking God has to be speaking through the message directly to you. Thank you
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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Stephan ! I loveeeee your sense of humor!! I enjoy learning from you and laughing with you 😂 ! Keep it up✨♥️
Thank you for these tips. I’m learning and open 💕💕
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