As a girl in high school and college, because I was not sexually active, people kept telling me I was asexual and I started to believe them. My mom was supportive and said my decision not to have sex isn't a sexual identity.
@BklynGrl74 My mom is amazing. She raised my to be education and focused, so I was never interested while my friends were all sexually active. That never crossed their minds that I was just making a choice
So many people don't know what asexuality even is. It's got nothing to do with whether or not you have had sex or want it. Basically, it's how a straight person would react to a sexualised version of the same sex, and how a gay person would react to a sexualised version of the opposite sex: it's not sexually attractive. That's pretty much it. Though a lot of people are getting confused with being asexual when they're minors, like... thank god you're not messing around illegally? Or it's to do with hormone imbalances, mental/physical illnesses, etc. which prevent or alter arousal/attraction, which isn't a sexuality.
It feels like a lot of young people put on the asexuality label out of fear of not fitting it. I was a late bloomer. I wasn't really interested in sex until my late 20s. But, when everyone around you is heavy into hooking up, serial monogamy and casual pornography you might feel like you're not keeping up. If I was a Gen Z and didn't grow up with in a Christian home with a healthy view of sexuality, I probably would have questioned my sexuality, too.
when i was 14, i remember having one of my closest friends (who was pansexual) constantly 'diagnose' me as a lesbian because i would occasionally say a girl on social media was pretty. it made me extremely uncomfortable.
@@elainini funny how having a deeper voice makes someone lesbian, I mean in teen years, during puberty, everyone experiences body changes. I'm an 18 yrs old boy and my voice became as feeble as a child's, and now it is slowly recovering to being somewhat deeper
It's funny to me how the ones who claim to be "accepting and inclusive" try to force their own sexual preferences on everyone else and act like those whose sexual preferences align with nature and evolution are somehow bad. Like a vegan trying to force their diet and a non vegan.
I say grow a pair , practice your right to free speech without a mask while you still can. If you don't like what I have to say then don't listen, but try to shut me up you'll be met with violence.
I lost my uncle when I was 7, it messed me up. I was scared of death. Puberty, there was a shift. I had an expectation of dying before I turned 22. With that came a lifestyle pushing the limits. I almost died so many times, but didn't. I joined the military at 18 and went the special operations route. I had no fear of death, I welcomed it, I didn't care. Then me and my wife lost our son at birth and that messed me up. Three years later I had my son and my outlook on death changed. I wasn't scared of death but I had this urge to live, actual have quality time on this earth. My son is now 21 and daughter is 15, they saved ME!
I am lucky to not have lost someone close to me yet, but Im still in high school and planning to go down the same route in the military and special operations because that’s what I hold in my values.
I'm sorry for your loss. We had our first and lost the second. Eventually we would go on to bring three more into the world. The one we never got to hold still haunts us.
@@Deareck damn, that’s not really a good friend then if you can’t even be honest with them and have trust in them. Hate to say it but may be time to ditch them and find better friends.
I literally had a coworker tell me today that calling a girl a "tomboy" is sexist. Instantly they thought I was viewing women in a negative way, when it should be a positive thing that everyone is different in their own way. Victimhood is at a all time high.
I work at a car shop and my boss wrote a part up as a "trans" meaning a transmission, and someone called him out on it and the part delivery was delayed because the person on the other end was like "I hope you don't mean transgenders" This is absurd. Even if he did, calling a trans person a trans person isn't offensive so I don't get the point. This was someone just trying to make a scene for the sake of doing so.
I call myself a Tomboy....I have a biz that has Tomboy n it. Being a tomboy is amazing. I don't fit into a box...I like what I like...& I refused to allow society to tell me that because I enjoyed traditional boy stuff made me gay or not feminine. I like the fact that we can b individuals. It's NOT a negative thing to b called a Tomboy.
@@LifeHappens83 Everyone is so victim minded today because the school curriculums are programming student's to think this way. It's super manipulative to the younger generation and makes them susceptible to being manipulated because they get offended over the wrong pronoun, sexual identity and blah blah blah. Also this is happening to men because testosterone levels are at a all time low, and very little testosterone makes them timid, or possibly don't behave manly like and affects our appearance with less masculine features. It's causing some men to turn into SJW soyboys.
My girlfriend helped me quit my porn addiction and it's been so much better since. It helps so much with mental health, sexual health, and your body image if you just ditch it. I needed someone to help me through it and I am grateful to have her. She's helped me become a better person.
@@deligeorgieva8535as someone who did it completely on their own, distracting the mind with other things and finding better hobbies and things to do definitely helps the process. Exercising, playing with your friends, playing video games, literally anything could be a distraction. Just find out what your bf likes doing and at least try your best to keep him distracted. Call him if you can. Have conversation with him as much as you 2 are available. I could go on and on, but that’s the best advice I could give.
My ex indirectly helped me get off of it. She never knew it was an issue until our breakup when I thanked her for it. Having someone to help you through something they don't even know about is amazing
21 year old here, I’ve was addicted to porn since 5th grade. It wasn’t until 2 years ago I decided to change my life around and resist it. I despise it, but the more you resist the less you’d want to do it. Keep on fighting my brothers and sisters
i think that at least in puberty it is useful. As a man you learn to control yourself also because you donß´t have crazy hormones going around messing with you
This is the most disturbing thing to me. People questioning their sexuality because of peer pressure. There was a group of LGBTQ students chanting “death to straight people” at my sons school last year. 7th grade. Brooming is part of this also.
that group is the most hateful group i have ever witnessed. they are often either terrible people, or at least they say and do terrible disgusting things. this just further prooves my opinion on them.
And that’s exactly why I distance myself from this „community“ even if my sexuality makes me „part of it“. I can’t go out there wanting acceptance for my sexuality but on the other hand not accepting straight people. What the hell is that?! I just don’t understand that and I‘m sorry your child had to witness this.
Just found Brett and love that she like actually gets it. It’s not even explicitly politic, it’s not policy, it’s not attacking the other sides or trying to be ideological or fighting, it’s just articulate, true, and common sense about where we as people are and how our society is hurting us. And also, as a man, this girl really gets us, and shoutout to these guys for their honesty. Loved it.
Brett is so male-identified 😂I can see it now. When the girl cried about being assaulted at 7, Brett never once said anything or said that men that do that are a**holes. But as soon as a guy cried about a girl dumping him for opening up to her, Brett calls the girl who dumped him a B*tch. If you have self hatred as a woman, just say so ..
@@incognito3599 wish I knew the context better but as a woman she's more positioned to call out other women. Not saying I agree with her. I don't. But she's a woman and that comes with bias.
@@eatonkuntz this comment is almost too stupid to break down, first as a woman she should want to protect other women. next you act as if bias is a female trait, that makes me think you have never talked to a woman or any human. men are equally biased you are just too stupid to know. last, being a woman does not make her any more qualified to recognize awful behaviour.
I'm a Male, 15. Hearing a woman talk about pornography and the overboard feminism actions has me look kind of into a larger window into the adult mindset. this hit
@@fairyfightsgt6772not watching it is kinda hard when you get into at a super young age I am also 15 and right now I am trying to stop but I started watching it at like 9 or 10 so it’s became like an addiction.
It's a shame that some used "news mommy" in the creepiest way possible and ruined it, because my friends and I use it in a context that's the most endearing way possible
@@honeyandlavender_ if it's sexual then yeah, agreed. But it all depends how it's used. Brett exudes a mom-like disposition and it's cute and funny to point out. Is that going to cause men with mommy issues to say weird shit? Absolutely. But it all depends on context and intent. You can say "News Mommy" and have it not be creepy, similar to sardonically saying "jee, thx mom" Not everything you don't like is automagically "creepy"
@@alienJIZ1990 I get where they're coming from tho. When my nephew was born I felt really weird referring to my brother as "daddy" when talking to his son. Society has just oversexualized the words, unfortunately. I know it's not weird, I'm more comfortable saying it now when talking to my nephew, but I get why so many people feel uncomfortable with those words.
@@nickcunningham6344 oh for sure, I fully understand all that. But that was kinda my point, that it's a shame people made the sexual association in such a pseudo Oedipal fashion, because it's definitely possible to use it in a non sexual context, the word has just been tainted. So I get where there they're coming from too but they basically doubled down on the tainted view and essentially said "Nope, always creepy. Zero exceptions." which was why I responded the way I did, it only perpetuates the sexual association if you don't call it out when it's being reinforced
This is definitely one of your best podcasts. I'm much older then then and I'm still dealing with some of those issues. Being older the expectations for you become reality. Relationships have to be more serious, because you're at an age where if you don't get married and have children you're gonna be too old to have those things anymore. But then the emotions you've been hiding all these years start coming out randomly and people criticize you saying you're too old to be breaking down, or why are you so clingy, or shouldn't you be thinking about getting your life together. My ex told me that I'm too clingy because the one day a week I got to spend with her I liked to hug her cuddle up with her, whatever. After we broke up my emotions became a mess. You know I never cried in public when my dad passed away or my grandpa that I was close with, I didn't show any emotion because that's what weak people do. It's been nice the past couple years being able to be more open
I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I really hope you are in a better place in your life now. Please don't give up on yourself. I have faith in you😊 (this is coming from a teenage girl who wants to understand boys and men well). I hope you have a nice day😊
Hearing Brett openly talk about her mental struggles during her teen years is so encouraging. As a teenager who struggles often, it's so encouraging to know that you can struggle and still live a successful life.
I’m a straight-A hella academic student and I’m reasonably good at sports, I excel in Cricket (Yep, I’m English 😂) and I don’t think I’m as happy as I could be. I’m not as unhappy as I was, but being a teen is hard, especially leaving school and starting a career as things change so fast and you can’t keep up. I am that stereotype of “oh you got it easy” and sure, I have it easier than most, but that’s still very difficult. Not sure what my point is, but I guess it’s that everybody struggles, no matter how able or confident they are. I think we just have to remember that if you work hard, being an adult will be better, and happier.
@@AxlePlaysGames There's a reason why the saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" has hung around. The struggle always feels real until you experience something worse and your perspective is reset. This happens naturally as you get older and your normal range of emotions start to pale in comparison to the extremes you are now aware of. Welcome to being normal!
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz A "pick me girl" is a derogatory term for women who are vocal about siding with men on an issue, it's meant to imply you want male attention and that's your main reason for voicing your opinion. Them saying "pick me" like that is an insult, they don't value your opinion for what it is.
@@MonkeGeorge ok I get it. Well that sucks I didn't mean to come off that way, I was being genuine. I just care about people. Cause I want them to feel less pain and sadness. Not cause I want attention....what a bummer , can't even care about your fellow human without being accused of having malevolent intentions. This is the world we've build for one another, I suppose.
@@MonkeGeorge and also, to anyone who sees my comment as me "siding" with men is not understanding me.... I'm not picking a side, I just feel empathy for their struggles just as I would for a woman or anyone else .
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz Really don't worry about it, someone calling a woman a pick me is like calling a guy a simp. It's a really low effort insult at this point, so don't take it personally.
Brett is the first woman I’ve seen that honestly cares about men’s/boys of today and is worried about them. Feel like the attitude which most women have nowadays of viewing men as some privileged human who has no problems, is ultimately destructive and detrimental to their health as well.
@@Glim424 it's really not valid men have no extra privilege over women. If you feel that then you yourself have surrendered to much to the men in your life giving them power over you.
Seen this a little late, but I had a girlfriend about 2 months ago I spilt my guts to. Depression, anxiety the full nine miles. I trusted this girl more than I've ever trusted anyone. She used it against me. As I was trying to open up to this girl as I had done many times before. She broke up with me. She citied "I'm not the type for a relationship" and "I don't want to hurt you" as reasons. What does my best friend see 4 days later at McDonald's? Her with a new boyfriend. That absolutely broke my heart. I hate how some of us young men are told to share our feelings and when we do it's use against us
You’ll get through it G. Nobody that I’ve talked to has exposed me or anything but the idea of that for sure spooks me out. Don’t know what you believe but I wanna let you know that if you try to find peace in the things of this world it won’t work, it’s all like drugs, it feels good while it lasts but in the end it leaves you unsatisfied. Jesus is the only way to find true peace. Anyways I’m just tryna help. Jesus loves you man I’ll be praying for you
Never tell women your feelings to women if they are sad or negative. Women, despite saying they want men to be more emotional, will immediately see this as the man being weak and immediately lose all attraction to you. Women want strong, confident, men who know what they want and have goals and ambitions. Even though they SAY the complete opposite. Women play these stupid games all the time. Never play thier games.
Never ever fully spill your guts out to a woman… it’s a falsehood that they profess about empathy etc… I wish I could help you, just saying this as a big brother… no harm intended
As a teenage boy, Brett clearly highlights the biggest issues in society as commentary to this video. whether it be pornography or low testosterone, I will always be glad that we have a voice for people like us. thank you Brett.
Chronic Masterbation and diet are probably 2 of the causes of low testosterone in young men. Stop eating sweets and drinking pop and eat a pound of red meat a day. Drink only water and a high fat high protein diet consisting mostly of meat and eggs. The liver turns cholesterol into testosterone, it requires a ton of fat to keep it from cannibalizing you. And stop beating off women can smell that stink on you. You do all that and your testosterone will go up.
I love how personable Brett gets and how we slowly get to see more of her. She did a fantastic job on this episode; not only was this a great video to react to (and a much needed conversation for the world) but the amount of emotional restraint she took to talk about her hardships was incredible.
@@yungtrick7405yeah not to disrespect Brett shes definitely pretty intelligent and well spoken, but so was I at 21 now 24, I dont think I lack anything in comparison. Also it has nothing to do with your type of school leaving certificate or your interests. At the end of the day it comes down to facts, as most sane and common people tend to have a similiar view of the world. Also if people want to lecture you by their experience, mostly its bs. Older people in my company that did years of the same work explain it to me how its done, 2 weeks later I come up with a even better method or solution. A lot of people are stuck in their ways because of tradition and hierachy. You’ll only get to the top if you have trust in yourself you can make it, question everyone and everything until proven otherwise and make certain mistakes on your own so you can learn from them. As long as you continue to learn you're safe
As a Male, and a coach who inevitably mentors teenagers from time to time, this is my favorite video youve ever shared. It's so good to see these young men really be honest and put into the minds of society what really goes on in there and why. They probably felt amazing after this, getting those thoughts out in the open and discussing the scary thing with peers who of course go through similar experiences
Ok look...I'm a 15 year old male.. The whole peer pressure abt sexuality is a VERY real thing. Ever since 7th grade I have been taunted by people and constantly been called gay, people assume I'm gay, I've been told that I should be trans...this is has been going on nearly everyday for a long time. Now..I have been raised by all girls with my main only male influence being my father. So I am more feminine in some ways than others, but nobody believes me when I say I'm straight, and whenever I have a crush on someone, I'm told it's a coverup. I'm tired of it. I am all for being gay and whatnot, but I am straight and I want people to stop labeling me as something I am not.
It sucks, but just know that when you're in your 30s you aren't going to see or associate with anyone that you went to high school or even college with unless you really want them in your life. I know it's hard to see now, but all of their views and opinions and completely and utterly irrelevant.
@@WilC379 👈🏻great answer. I know it’s tough for now. Definitely be firm, stand your ground. Be immune to the taunts. Some girl worth her weight in gold is going to notice that and start talking to you, sooner or later. And from then on, you won’t have to worry about the taunts, because you’ll have a naturally developed relationship with a good bond. I tell my kids, if a person is calling you gay, they are most likely very gay, ashamed, and looking for a target to project it on to. Please remember that. Every single kid that I knew from grade school that called others gay as a taunt or to pick on people is now ‘out’. They look for someone normal and respectable to pin it into because that is what they wish they could be and do they lash out in jealousy, with intent to deflect from their truth. I know what I’m saying is 100% the truth because I’m old and have witnessed the outcome every single time. So take courage.
Find real friends brother. It is not gay to feel. I would encourage you to go to a church and start reading the Bible. The book of John is what Christianity is about. People are sinful and can be real jerks don't let them tear you down. You can't do it alone. surround yourself with others who build you up!
"It's okay to be both strong and feminine...." Her saying that sounds so obvious but when you're a young girl it's like the world reveals itself as a set of stereotypes that you must morph into. It's not that obvious when you're young, and I'm glad that Brett's mom told her that
@@jamesrussell2936 Yes, it is overemphasized and it has led a lot of women to hyper-independence which is very unhealthy. I know a lot of women who are very dear to me who struggle with hyper-independence because it's been taught to them for so long that they need to be independent and they can't rely on anyone for anything and they are always going to be alone in their struggle because of it. I wish they weren't taught these kinds of lies. It's also a product of weaponized incompetence that's a serious issue, especially among men. To be completely honest, I wouldn't expect you to understand because you haven't gone through the same social conditioning as I have because you are a man and I am a woman.
@@jamesrussell2936 yes, but it's "strong and independent" not "strong, independent and feminine" women who try to follow the stereotype tend to subconsciously or consciously believe they must abandoned the feminine to follow it
I’m 14 and love Brett’s video with a whole heart and how much she brings up my womanhood and raises my opinion fairly and when she said that it made me feel so empowered mainly because I’ve always been a really independent person and I was always kind of worried that makes me unattractive to men but I’m really glad that I’m not the only one who has a strong personality and opinion but also expresses her femininity how I feel comfortable and enjoyable for me you know it’s just such a powerful statement that really just hit the heart for me as a young teenage girl
In an all girl’s school, the pressure to be gay is crazy. Like the school promotes it, everybody seems to be so gay and people even go around saying “Ew your straight” Without boys to balance things out, shit goes down.
Well we live in a hyper sexualized culture. If students were segmented into isolation pods and communicated anonymously without knowing each other's gender, they would still be pressuring and mocking one another for not using toys or self pleasuring. Humans are so easy to anticipate, we truly haven't evolved much from our baser level instincts.
Same thing in prison. The guys get horny and can’t touch any women for years and they start becoming gay because of the sexual drive. You can’t separate the 2 sexes
This makes one wonder about the idea that everyone who says they are gay was born gay. The case at your school surely seems to have a social component.
I lost my younger sister last year, she was 27 and hearing you speak about your late brother really touched me! Thank you for being so vulnerable, Brett! God bless! ❤️
My little brother was murdered in November. He was 28. Still hard to fathom. He wasn’t involved in drugs or violence or anything. He had just beat cancer a few months prior after many months of chemo. He was happy, had lots of friends, and a big heart. He just couldn’t say no to people in need. But when finally he had to push someone away for their manic behavior and violent tendencies, they showed up unannounced on a Sunday morning. They walked into his house and walked out 6 minutes later. Still hard to believe.
I love how genuine and beautiful Brett is inside and out. When she started talking about her brother and her experience with it that made me get choked up. You could see Brett’s pain. You’re the best Brett.
I was gonna say something similar but this sums it up. Well said, dude. But to add one thing: to share someone’s pain and triumph temporarily through a screen as they’re laying events out how they experienced them, is so powerful. It amazes me how that passes by us so quickly now. It’s become part of our daily phone experience so we forget the power of it. Follower counts and views are so unimportant to the power of a video.
Brett is NOT genuine at all , she is being paid to sit there and and voice an opinion that she reads off a telepromter she does not write her own copy or responses. Do not forget this girl is only 21 years old and she tries to come across as someone with 30 or 40 yeas life experience, wich she clearly does not have.
@@willemoranje She's actually very genuine, to talk about something like that, in such a personal way, it's very unlikely that it wasn't truly coming from the bottom of her heart. I believe she said and meant every word of it. I am certain it wasn't written on a teleprompter (you cannot see her reading it, and when she looks up from the side angle she's just looking at the main camera), but even if it was, it's still genuine.
Awe i just wanna hug these young men and sit down and talk with them. My Younger brother and I do a youth group at our church along with our wives and some other parents and it is so nice to be able to just give the young kids someone to talk to and to help them understand that things are okay, and to help guide them onto a good path. God bless our youth! ❤✝️
I want to say as a teenager who battled depression and being suicidal at one point I have never watched corn I am Muslim but seeing this is shocked it says a lot about the west nowadays😢
@saifjassim6067 it is very sad what going on in the west and the world today, I am praying for everyone to see the light and to help us get past all this, but I truly know that its only going to be better when Jesus comes back. God Bless you, and keep you, and make His face to shine upon you.
Thank you for opening up Brett. My cousin was murdered in 2018 and it devastated me. My friends and roommates questioned my grief because it was only a cousin but I looked up to him so much. I've had plenty of people I love die but this was the first one that was young and sudden. I slept in the hospital while he was in his coma and I felt his hand go cold and stiff when he passed. He didn't even make it to his 30's and my friends couldn't understand my grief or even make an effort.
I’m an older 56 year old male .. I watch you because it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values. My 23 year old daughter is very similar . Please keep spreading the word. I hope you don’t think I’m being patronizing by saying I’m proud of you.
It could easily be taken that way, and at a minimum it is at least strange. Proud signifies "feeling pleasure and satisfaction because you or people connected with you have done or gotten something good." The fact you think what she is doing is good and that you get pleasure from it is great, but unless you are related, friends, or on the same sports team etc... It's just a strange way to say it. How about "you are doing great!" or "I really enjoy your content", or "it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values". Those are great ways to say it. Not that you asked but those are my thoughts...
I caught a few errors in the video First one that comes to mind is that masturbating does not lower testosterone permanently, only momentarily and not masturbating or having sex for long periods of time also lowers testosterone. My extrapolation of the data: basically unexpectedly binge masturbating would lower testosterone a lot because your testosterone production is not adapted to the frequency of your masturbating and unexpectedly abstaining would increase testosterone a lot. masturbating often will increase production of testosterone but also masturbating will also deplete testosterone, not masturbating will decrease production of testosterone but not deplete it as much. Essentially either option masturbating often or not often, your body will adapt and have the same testosterone. Also having high testosterone correlates with masturbation frequency. There were other errors that I don't remember.
I used to be a sensible fat-ass with a pornography addiction and suicidal feelings. I never had a girlfriend and my friends were just a bunch of people who made fun of me and bullied me around. Around a year ago, I decided to start by levels. I started by only jacking once every two days (i used to do it almost three times per day), I started training with items at home (because my parents never wanted me to go to the gym) and started ditching friends and learning more music. Today, I'm very muscular and good looking. I am still battling my addiction with porn but it got better and I play epic solos and super hard riffs on the guitar. I stopped thinking about running after women and put myself and my career in music first and made a bunch of loyal, respectful friends. I also took time to work on my grades. I am now in grade 9 and my lowest grade is in math and it's 91%. I am currently in two different orchestras (with my violin) and in a highschool metal band. I may not have a girlfriend or any exes, still feel suicidal and still battling porn addiction. But looking back, I'm light years away from where I was. All to say, boys (or girls), never abandon. Find yourself a dream and pursue it and NEVER let anyone get in your way to greatness.
Stay on your grind bro, don't worry about the ladies, cause once you have reached max level, they will be coming to you. And be very selective of them, most will just use you for your resources, not actually caring about you. But there are still some good girls out there, and as long as you are picky, you'll find a great one! Good luck brother, you got this!
Growing up I was into theater and was quite emotive, but I never questioned my sexuality. I joined the Marines shortly after 9/11 and during training there were quite a few "alpha male" types that gave me shit for getting emotional at times. Never really bothered me though, because I was raised to *know* what I am and not worry what others *thought* I was. I was raised to define myself. My grandfather was a really good teacher.
I understand in the military if someone gave you shit for getting emotional because you need to be strong and have emotional control in high stress situations such as combat. But as long as you're not inconsolable and letting your emotions affect your actions its not an issue. I'm just saying there could be good reason for that concern in that context. Most men don't know how to control their emotions its either full blast rage/sadness or just bottling everything up, no in between
The most detrimental aspect of the red pill mens movement is the idea that men cannot express their emotions. There's obviously a point where breaking down and crying as a man is a stretch too far, but this idea that something wholesome bringing a tear to my eye makes me feminine? Lol say that to my face 😂
#1 most important thing is a father figure these days kids don't get it and are raised by the internet. I'm thankful I have so many good men in my life else I dont know what to would be like.
That's the strongest type of male, the one who thinks and feels for himself and doesn't act a part just because it's what other's demand or expect. I'm glad you had such a great role model.
@@revolutionaryfrog I get where you're coming from but when I was emotional it was during training, and running on little sleep and caffeine. When it came to combat I was actually really calm. I didn't have problems in the moment, It was when I had time to think about what I had done that I started to develop some issues. Diagnosed with PTSD, got help, and everything is all good now.
Unless the person is mentally challenged, he or she knows both porn and Fast and Furious are just movies. Pretty much everyone has seen action driving movies before first driving, porn before having sex and action movies before going to the shooting range, yet there is no problem. Why? Because people understood the difference between movies and real life.
This is the first comment l’ve left on your channel. Just want to say that this was my favorite video posted so far, because it’s so vulnerable, honest, real and such an important topic (among others) that we need to talk about. Nicely done, l also appreciate you sharing your personal perspective and views/values. Brett, the one up you have on other podcasters, is your youth and wisdom, gives you a head start and pioneering the world ahead for the younger generations who follow and need a wholesome person to follow moving forward. It gives me a ton of hope for our future, my kids and l watch you and l want to thank you for simply being you and being brave. Keep up the good work in fighting the good fight against the principalities and powers out there. Hope more younger influencers out there become inspired to jump on the bandwagon and speak truth, the younger generations will need it moving forward. God bless!
This video and commentary literally changed my life. I struggled with a porn addiction since the start of middle school and I saw this video in April of my senior year. When they talked about it I immediately decided to quit and I've felt more mature, more free, and more healthy since then. Thank you Brett for making this video more easily accessible to the people who need to see it!
Good stuff. I still deal with insecurity sometimes, which I can say for sure has to do with porn. Just keep it up and set yourself up for success in your adult years. I've squandered so much time, but I'm getting back on track and I'm happy with how things are. But I'd be doing better if I had just cut out porn and just ignored social media. I just use UA-cam for hobby stuff and positive content like this video. It's much better than opening twitter to drake's penis and seeing the women opine about penises.
The porn addiction thing didn't exist when I was a teenager, internet didn't really exist properly until my 20's, and we where going to parties every weekend chasing girls, today is a different world and not for the better.
I am a straight “cis” 14 year old boy, and one of my pansexual friends who was a girl would constantly diagnose me as gay, and said I’d be better if I was, this constantly made me feel like I was hiding myself, and she had told her friends to say the same thing, they try to disguise it as “helping you find yourself” in reality they are trying to change you, because being lgbtq makes you a victim, and therefore invincible
LGBTQetc is cult programming. And like every cult, the members self regulate with peer pressure and emotional manipulation. It’s sad. But more so it is evil in its anti-family, anti-human ideology
The fact that you felt the need to use "cis" in your self description tells me that you are still dealing with those feelings that were implanted in you. Just know that they want you to feel that way because *they* don't feel comfortable with themselves. Stay strong and be true to yourself. You aren't alone and you don't have to have a label to be special. 🫂
Gunna piss off some people with this comment but it's fine. There's no such thing as sis, you're normal. If you're straight then you are just fine don't let people who don't know what they want themselves question what you are attracted to.
Crazy that I'm coming across this video now and so glad you talked about the struggle of someone you're close to dying at a young age. My closest friend growing up for many years through elementary school, everyone knew he had a heart condition, but I never once saw it interfere with his passion for playing the drums and football. I then moved a little bit away, went to a different school. We still stayed in touch and hang out when we could, birthdays, etc. I went with my family to Disney which just so happened to be when his birthday was, so I had to miss it, but I was so excited to give him his present when I got back. My parents had to break the news to me that he had a cardiac arrest while in gym class the day after his 12th birthday. And I was broken, that was the first person really close to me that I had experienced their passing, up until that time, no close family of mine had passed, so I never experienced that. Years passed and I always said I'd go visit his grave, but the timing never lined up. I went off to college and moved states for work, so it got even harder to find the chance. This past weekend, I had a friend's wedding back home. On our way to fly back, my girlfriend came with me to pay my respects to my first best friend on what would've been his 25th birthday, September 29th. Through his story, his mom started the Jeremy Hebert Defibrillator Fund that raises money every year to make sure every school in our parish has an AED/defibrillator. Rest in peace Jeremy, you touched the hearts and were loved by so many. I miss you bud.
I watched Brett's reaction to the girls first and you can definitely see just how much more honest these guys were. Part of the reason was taking at least some of the accountability for their own lives. The girls were definitely blaming everything on everyone else... and tbh, I'm not shocked.
When I was growing up in the 90's, not that long ago, sexuality was not really brought up that much other than in jokes and such. Now it appears it has become the main talking point/identity of most children in schools which is beyond strange to me. And this was obviously forced on them by older perverts/weirdoes. Sure, it's part of life but I don't believe it's healthy to obsess about it and try to force an identity based on it, especially while kids are growing up and their hormones are going crazy! My advice is stay a virgin Chad until you get married to the right girl/woman for the best long-term happiness/success.
im 26 now but i was like the timid scared teenager, i was innocent and didnt know how to talk to girls etc school was horrible due to the peer pressure to get involved in such things at a young age, best advice i can give you is focus on education, grades etc and dont ever chase or force relationships. all things come to those who wait regarding relationships and love, the right time will come with the right person, it may take 5 or 10 years but it'll come. do not ever feel pressured or threatened by people who try to drag you for not being a women chaser.
As a fellow 14yo, and as a female, we exist, we want to give you a little ray of hope for these problems you have. We hear you. *I* hear you. And it breaks my heart that it seems like no one cares or wants to hear what you say. Keep going my brother, you have so much to live for.
It mostly goes away when you get older. At young ages, all through high school and college it was a social pressure to have sex, but as you get older it goes away for the most part, and people stop caring.
I’m 16 and often feel pressure about being a Christian. I realize that if I stick to my beliefs it makes me feel better in the long run. Saying that some of the questions in this video keep me awake at night. Even though I have morals it’s hard to stick to them and many of these questions showed me I need to reprioritize. No regrets, hopefully!
I agree with Isaiah. I’ll be praying for you too. The biggest things are surrounding yourself with like minded believers and staying in the word. You’re probably about to head out to college, so make it your priority to find a solid church wherever you go, and get involved in campus ministries too.
The first question of the video really spoke to me. I'm 18, and I've been struggling with a porn addiction for 8 years. Yes, I discovered porn when I was 10 years old. I was an Ipad kid with unrestricted access to the internet in ALL it's forms. It took hold of me in a vice grip, and it just wouldn't let go. As the years went on, my overall life situation got incomparably worse, and so I leaned on porn and masturbation as a crutch, and it just spiraled from there. One of the guys talked about how you need more extreme material to get off as time goes on because the regular stuff doesn't do it for you anymore, and that really hit the nail on the head. The material goes from real people shooting pornos, to cartoon porn and hentai, and it only gets so so much worse from there. Things that'd you'd never even considered to be erotic start becoming slightly erotic, and then outright erotic, and then VERY erotic. You start imagining innocent media/situations in a perverted manner. Fetishes that you didn't have previously start to rear their ugly heads, and suddenly without any warning, you start falling into the deep end. The taboo fetishes. The worst of the worst. Your mind becomes so disgustingly twisted by this addiction, and you fall deeper and deeper until you finally hit the bottom of a very deep and very DARK well. And when the dopamine runs out, and you come out of that porn addled haze, all you're left with is the crushing feeling of guilt and self-loathing. You feel as if you're lesser than human, like you're a monster. You hate no-one more than who you see in the mirror. And yet you always end up coming back for more. And so the cycle repeats. I'm fighting, but it just gets so hard... The siren song of pornography, like any other addiction, is a constant nagging pull that slowly yet surely whittles down your will to resist. Especially when you're stressed out. I've been getting better, but it's a constant internal struggle. I'm at war with myself, and have been for the past 3 years since I started trying to break free. Porn was a mistake, and my innocence was stolen from me. Now I get to face the consequences.
So sorry to hear about your struggle. Don’t give up and keep fighting. Go forward as the defender of innocence and take what you have learned to help others
This is honestly so raw and open and I love it. It's so hard to be vulnerable to people these days, so the fact that you can post this comment despite all the self hatred is just so awesome to me. I understand the struggle of going back to something that will hurt you, and what I find helpful is listening to music or distracting myself, if that doesn't help I open up my Bible app and just hit play wherever I left off last. It's a very difficult battle and it's hard to talk about, but I am so proud of you for trying to break the pattern, overcome, and grow, as well as leaving this here for other people to understand and be encouraged. Thank you for having the courage to be honest, and I truly hope you win this battle and realize that it's alright to be human, but living for God is about being more than just human. You got this. If you need support you can respond to me and I can give you contacts. God bless you hun, Jesus loves you and so do I ❤
@@alli_ocat Thank you so much... I've been praying to the lord for strength to help fight my demons and telling very close friends about my predicament to set up a support system. It's been a real hard struggle. Every day it's like I'm engaged in a battle of wits with the devil himself, trying to deny the intrusive thoughts that barge their way in. Each one more visceral and tempting than the last. "If I'm struggling this much, I may as well give up and wait until I'm in a better place." "What if I just give in? wear it out so that it's no longer appealing? Maybe that'll work..." "It doesn't really matter, does it? I mean, none of it's real, none of it's hurting anyone..." These are the kind of thoughts I get on a daily basis, thoughts that only last until post-nut clarity and I realize the gravity of my mistake. But I've been doing it. Day in, day out. Fighting the good fight so that I can feel deserving of god's love and the love of those around me, and finally feel clean, free from all this corruption.
“It is ok to be both strong and feminine.” I wish someone had been there to say that to me as a teenager. You're such an awesome influence, Brett. I'm a mom now and you give me hope for the future.
Never before have I seen a more sincere heartfelt video. Wow! What you said about death and survivors guilt hit home like nothing else. Recently we buried a family friend who was like a second sister to me and who had the same heart failure as I did but when mine happened saved my life. Because I got light headed every time I put on a mask during Covid I had to go to the ER where they instantly realized the severity of the problem as soon as they tried checking my vitals signs and the numbers indicated I was dying. After some tests I was put on life support before being transferred to a higher level facility for ICU life support in an ambulance with a whole team of nurses to keep me stable. At the time I didn’t realize how critical the condition of my organs was. If the 20 minute transfer was not done precisely correctly I might have not made it to the ICU. The doctor there said if I was a day or two later getting help that there’s nothing that could have been done. With a week of ICU care and 24/7 medications I survived and was discharged with many follow up meds. My friend however went on walking around after her heart attack that she probably didn’t feel either. (It’s not always dramatic/painful or even observable and many patients don’t die instantly but without timely medical help they will die.) Well because I had to wear masks I was forced into going to the hospital very soon after the event, saving me. My friend just went about life with her son and daughter then later a stranger found her unresponsive. She was in the hospital but a few days too late. When my dad called to tell me she passed I was getting groceries and started sobbing instantly. The kindest strangers; a woman and her teenage daughter came over and comforted me. Humans can be so beautifully kind and I don’t think that’s highlighted enough. I grieved her loss but couldn’t shake the guilt. It’s not fair to her was all I could think. Sobbing every day for weeks after her death. Then I found a refined determination to positively change the world we live in while I still have the privilege of waking to see another day. Expand my understanding of fellow humans especially those with opposing view points. Live intentionally not just with integrity. Stand for the vulnerable. Love fiercely. Honestly my new favorite channel.
You better do an "If Teen Girls Were 100% Honest" reaction video next to keep things fair Brett lol Edit: She actually DID do it! Everyone definitely had doubts, and I know I certainly did too! Thanks for all the likes by the way!
I am a male 26 - I did not realise until recently how messed up my situation was in terms of porn usage. If porn could kill like any other drug, then I would have died 1000 times over due to overdose. If I trace back to where it all began I think much of it had to do with me being a social misfit in high school. Porn was a zone where I felt I could relax be safe and virtually appease my self. Whenever I had a tough day or an uncomfortable experience I would run straight back to porn. Turns out this has just fked up my neuron system, and much of my brain. I used to think i was always different and special than every one hence I never felt the need to make an effort to socialise, but turns out i was just sick. More over, Instant Gratification has been ingrained deep into my system after almost a decade of porn usage. This i feel personally is the biggest damage to a person that porn can do. For it takes away the ability of a person to put in long hours of work for a prolonged period of time, resulting which one cannot escape mediocrity as the person completely lack any experience of being uncomfortable and yet pushing on. But I am taking steps to recovery, we all got our demons to fight, I guess this ones mine. Never have I openly admitted to porn usage to anyone or anywhere, let alone talk about it, but I guess it's time we take cognisance of how devastating inculcating this behavior is. This video just assured me that porn is a real threat as against what my mind tells me from time to time. Thank you, whoever you are. never seen you before, but I guess I needed it. :)
I sick and tired of it too buddy. Two days ago I swore to myself to not m@sturbate but today I ended up watching porn and m@sturbating. I hate myself for not being able to control myself, It hadn't been a decade for me, but it has been half a decade. Anything you wanna share on how to get rid of this addiction?
@@draco_lich Me too, I have tried, but failed yet am trying everyday. At best what i realised contemplating on this addiction and how it attacks is that as soon as I hit my triggers, my brain autopilots into this storm of urge to consume porn, the goal being unnatural amount of dopamine release. So what I am currently trying to do is, avoid triggers like staying up late, soft porn content etc, and I am also trying to replace that habit of porn for dopamine, with exercise and prolly a journal where I can write for better clarity. You know something that makes me feel good about myself. However, I can only talk about things that I have gone through buddy, you will have to sit with yourself and contemplate at a much deeper level and experiment with what works and what doesn't. You can also got professional help. I do recommend the book ''Power of habit'' I am also in the middle of it and have found some answers there, I hope it will be of some help to you too. All the best brother, you are not the only one.
@@funkyjbass7762 that is not okay bro, imagine you and your gf gets caught in a bad situation and you got all emotional and started crying........ emotions cloud reason . stay strong bro don't listen to your parents.
@@m3gad3ath Your pathetic, you don't know the difference between "emotive" and "emotional"? You think the only demonstration of emotion is "crying"? That is what is not ok. And I don't have to "imagine". When my wife was going through chemo I was both strong for her when she needed it, and emotive with her and empathetic. And cried with her. And you know what? that was OK. But I am sure your girlfriend will respond well in the same situation when you tell her to toughen up and take her concrete pill. And I am not your bro. I would be ashamed to be your bro.
@@m3gad3ath that's not what he meant. And we don't have that kind of protection duty to our girlfriends. Not anymore, not since feminism. The right thing to do is to be the way the situation calls for. If the situation calls for protection of you and your gf and the task falls on you then you shouldn't be sensitive and emotive, you have to gather all your strength and confidence and get yourselves out of danger. But when it's been a long day and you need to let the steam out, bottling it up because "what if this specific thing happens and I turn into a baby" will just make you break one day. Emotions can sometimes cloud reason. You are right in that. But emotions are also human nature, and we NEED to embrace them if we want to lead happy lives. Don't fall victim to toxic masculinity. Stay strong yourself.
7:28 I can 100% relate. I don’t open up to women because they interpret it as insecurity. And it really tears you apart because at some point you realize you desperately want to open up to someone, but you can’t because you need to be strong, and if your not strong the world tears you apart more.
It’s also due to the fact that men often don’t fight back when deciding to open up on their issues when dealing with jerks that want to mock or antagonize for being “weak” I'd say the moment that happens you smack/hit them for even laughing at you, if more men did this then people would learn to take us seriously when discussing our problems.
I was in a friend group with people who were not afraid to speak their mind with anyone. They eventually said their opinion on feminism and the LGBTQ+ community and two people found their opinion offensive. They got all of their friend group together and sent at least 10 reports to the front office for hate speech and all of them got suspended except for me because everyone thinks I am gay even though I have been in relationships with women and say a lot that I am not attracted to men. These communities that are "oppressed" have been able to create lies out of thin air to get my friends suspended, an act that is shown on the permanent record, because they stated their opinion and their experiences. Lets hope that people soon realize that everyone matters and we should not view anyone in a more positive or negative way because of their race or sexuality so we don't have to worry about being pushed to be one thing or be scared to speak your mind because of fear of being cancelled.
That sucks, it is honestly depressing that you can't share your opinion, even with respect. This really shows who is the real "oppressed" group. Also, why do they think you are gay? Doesn't make any sense, but at least you didn't get suspended. And one last thing, really sucks that schools are that way now, mine would have not suspended your friends, and isntead really search what happened, they have never taken serious consequences on someone without proper investigation. I am lucky to be in a good school.
Just more reason to NEVER hang out with any sort of rainbow person. Just rats looking to mess with everyone else. We need to go back to NOT including them in everything.
Hell I'm gay and nobody suspected a thing until last year where I changed my attitude to be more effeminate. My sister would even argue that I'm homophobic and whatnot because I didn't support the LGBT, I secretly just didn't want to be associated with the cringe I saw irl and online.
As a mom of soon to be teenage boys, this was very insightful. I always say that they can talk to me about anything and ask me any questions and I have talked about puberty and sex with them honestly (I tried to both stay age appropriate but also tell them before they find out incorrect information from another source) and they're not shy about discussing it with me. This has given me a few more things that I think they should know before they get told misleading information from media or misinformed friends. I'd rather them be in their late teens before needing to have these conversations, but the world is moving too fast nowadays. They should still be children without these types of pressures.
99% of teens are told they can talk to their parents and they don't talk to their parents anyways. If you managed to raise your boys to want to open up to you about anything you're a really good parent. They will hide things but I'm sure someone like you can find a solution.
Dude it's so good to just think through these questions as a teen boy. Just making me see things that happen to me in school that I brush off instead of handling it in a healthy way.
It's been almost a decade since I was a teenage boy. As an adult man, these things never really go away. I've known men my age and older who still wrestle with these issues. I still wrestle with them occasionally. As I get older I think about death more and I'm not what I would consider old yet. These are human issues that never go away and I'm glad more people are talking about these things.
I'm impressed. These boys were all very well-spoken and intelligent in their responses. As a woman I actually generally care more about men's issues than women's issues these days.
Men created “men’s issues” because they dislike playing on a level playing field and they resent the consequences of their own perversion. Please try to remember and understand that ALL of this was brought on by old men attempting to normalize pedophilia and “free sex”. They want it all, for themselves.
Im a female teen and this video helps see that there is still people that think the same as me. It also makes me sad because if I say these thoughts at school I will be hated and I cannot have my own opinion in my generation. Thank you for letting me have this freedom Brett 😊
Just know, 5 years after school, you will only see a handful of those same people from school. Dont worry about what they think. Be nice, respectful, but f--- 'em.
I just wanted to say as a silent viewer, I strongly admire you and your view points and the way you highlight certain topics especially with videos like this. It makes me feel heard and makes me feel like i’m not singled out as far as my thought process and my view on life cause it’s hard in today’s society to be your true authentic self without some form of persecution and/or backlash regardless of who you are as a human being. i just wanted to say thank you and i enjoy watching and listening to your channel. ❤️
Hey Brett I’m a 14 yr old dude going into high school and I just wanted to say that the stuff that you say and do and the way you carry yourself is really inspiring. I’m goin through some stuff rn and I just wanted to say that you ARE making a difference on ppl like me and to give you some motivation to keep going.
Hang in there kiddo. I promise it gets better. “This too shall pass.” You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and a great perspective of life. You got this sweetheart! Your generation is going to guide my elderly years!❤
Being a youth pastor for 5 years, I have come to find out that 90% of my students will openly admit they watch porn. Fighting this is the hardest thing to do because parents and other youth don’t care. It becomes a personal battle that students don’t care to fight. Hard to fight when you have no support.
Hey there, I'm a teenager who has struggled with a similar issue, and just a bit of advice is to tell them whenever they feel like going back to [insert bad habit here], open their music and listen to worship, open their bibles and press play, or just simply sit down and think (no phone, no music, just sit and be) about everything. Who they want to become. Where they want to go. How they want to live. That kind of stuff. Also pray with them and break off addictions and generational curses, because addiction can 100% be a generational curse. That's all, let me know if any of this helps :) God bless, Jesus loves you, and so do I ❤
You could bring up some health benefits If not watching Porn/masterbating and talk to them about how they want their future to go, be honest and say, hey porn won’t ruin all your lives but without it, it does make life easier, you’re more motivated, you Don’t develope as much or as bad acne, you get more things done, you get more Out of life and you will find a gf quicker. (You can look up more health benefits but the important thing is, shoot straight with them. Don’t try to fear monger them but rather show them the grass is infact greener, so even if you don’t stop completely, narrow it down to like 1 day a week.
i was atheist i turned to god and he helped guide me in the right direction to stop this addiction, i heard someone say once porn is like a drug that is in your pocket at all time
some have problems with it. some do not. It is important that it exists but we need to learn to engage with it in a healthy manner and leave it up to the individual to define what that is based on their ethics, morals, goals and desires.
And they will argue that theres nothing wrong with it and that its not harming them, because they are addicts. While we can see that its damaging their mental response to natural things and ruining their expectations of real people and real life.
I eventually gave up on relationships because girls were not interested in knowing the real me. They want me to act masculine and play their fantasy role. I had a girlfriend for 3 months and one day she said I never talk about myself. So I did. Then she broke up with me. That day. This is why men don't open up.
I'm so sorry to hear that. If she broke up with you for opening up, it just means she is not mature enough. You deserve a woman who is willing to listen and allows you to be vulnerable. And I'm sure you will find her someday. God bless you :)
1. I love that your name is Brett 2. You will find someone one day that will give you their heart and soul. My bf was completely hopeless and broken for 4 years being single until we found each other. The same will happen for you
It's the fantasy role comment that I really resonate with. Looking back when I was in my early 20s, myself, and my friends would put these 'perfect' relationships on a pedestal and the men had the pressure to make me happy. I expected my partner to know how I was feeling, to see the world as I did and to know exactly what I wanted them to do at every point of the day (and sometimes still fall into this urge in my 30s). It's fucking EXHUASTING and a huge pressure on men. I don't know how old you are, or where you are at in life. But people do come to the realisation that love is hard, it's work and it's something you have to continously decide to love this person you're with. Through the hard times and the good times. You've got to be willing to be reflective and accountable. It's hard work. I hope you heal and find people to spend your time with who make your life fun, safe and purposeful.
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo I don't know that I necessarily have an answer to your question, however I can absolutely say that you are not alone in feeling this way. I personally struggle with being overly self conscious. I overthink a lot and I also have an urge to be understood as well as liked. Unfortunately, what that means is that, as you said, I always mold myself into what I think the situation demands me to be. This then has the unwanted side effect of me feeling as though I don't truely know who I am as a person. I overthink my response so much that I lose sight of what my genuine reaction might be. I think there is some comfort in that everyone deals with this on some level. Of course, there are those who struggle more and maybe that is you. Not great to hear but we all have things that come easier or harder to us than others. Everyone has a shadow side and our society has grown to avoid and criticize this behavior as not being something that is natural. Personally I find that aggressive sports, activities or music provides a safe space to experiment with your harsher side. :) Love the comment!
@@NoahSmith-uh9wowell when u go into new environments or meet new people u usually have comfortability levels so like u would start like at 0 so u would completely be uptight and nervous and usually have like a mask to put on to present ur self to progressively get more comfortable with that certain someone or environment, usally u have to spend more time with the thing u fake things to see the real thing and then u can decide on whether u take off ur mask or not
@@NoahSmith-uh9woI personally (I emphasize on the personally here, because I don't speak for all guys) feel the exact same thing, but with less negative side affects in a sense. For me, I know who I am, and only I know who I am. The thought that nobody knows a lot about me doesn't bother me, so that may inadvertently lead to less negative effects you so describe with things like identity, which is a pretty major issue in my opinion. I don't exactly know how to put this, but my advice is to let your mind rest. I felt the best innerly when I wasn't constrained by so many rules and social norms that I finally just let myself be who I naturally am to myself. And my identity is hidden, locked into my mind, and no one can physically and completely see through me. So, I could go on with putting up a front of what could get me through a certain social situation with more mental ease. Or outright just not put up a front, become a jerk pulling middle fingers to anyone aforementioned jerk mildly dislikes, after all all you spur is a minor annoyance to those people anyway. Suppose there is a joy in being disrespectful and free like that.
I'm 17-year-old Catholic male, and I knew going into college that people wouldn't like me for that. I had vastly underestimated just how much the system despises people like me. I have barely even tried making friends in my classes because some of my professors have spewed some of the most hateful rhetoric in the nicest and gentlest of tones, and a majority of my classmates were lapping it up. I feel socially abandoned because I feel like I can't say what I really think or else face social rejection, or worse, academic punishment that I cannot fight. I spend hours upon hours in my bed at night wondering if I can ever get the chance to be supported or validated by my peers. Worst of all is that I have no doubt that I'm one of the least severe cases. There are millions of men across the country and the world who have been told by society that they have no purpose, and it pains me to think that so many people who could amount to so much have been reduced to depressed, suicidal shells of themselves. Thanks for bringing some of the struggles of these people to your audience, the dark side of this modern culture really needs to be brought to light.
Sorry you're going through that, friend. I'm also Catholic and considering university. I'm having to pick and choose carefully though, because I'm afraid I would get poor grades from liberal professors if I was honest and true to my faith. I can't imagine how much harder it must be for guys. Stay strong, God is on your side.
As a sophomore in college who happens to be an atheist, key phrase on “happens to be,” if you focus so much on that aspect of yourself, the thoughts you’re having now might actually happen. I’m not saying to drop your faith. If that’s something you find to be a strong suit of yours, keep it near and dear, but don’t use it as an emotional or mental block in finding friends and peers that you can trust. Hell, I’ve got friends who have the complete opposite views on a lot if not almost everything, but their beliefs aren’t what I focus on, it’s their general personality, their actions, how they are around others. One’s thought process should not be the “be all, end all” for a relationship. It could end up being the core of it, but the reality is: people aren’t going to give a shit if you’re a part of any form of any religion unless you use that as your basis for getting to know people. Just relax, find the place that best suits you in terms of program, location, and general faculty, and just be a generally good person. I don’t promise sunshine and rainbows, but I will say to follow this advice to some degree. In the end the decision is yours, just don’t let what you believe in block you from relations and opportunities that can benefit you for the future
When I was in college, I sought out The Newman Center. If you’re not familiar with it, it is a Catholic organization at universities. Fr. John Newman is it’s namesake. I made Mass also. Many times with my Newman friends. It kept me grounded. You’d be surprised how many fellow Catholics there are on campus - especially at Easter. Good luck!
Im gonna be honest, im a 15 year old who watches your videos for two reasons, 1 obviously your pretty, a normal guy can't ignore it and 2 you agree with most, straight, men you agree with us on women, feminism, and worlds problems.
I can definitely say that young people are being peer pressured about their sexuality. I'm a teenage girl and growing up I was very masculine. I didnt want to go out and paint my nail and do my makeup, I wanted to go outside in the mud and play basketball and football with my male friends. I was like this throughout elementary but once I got into middle school, people were shocked that I was straight and would say things like, "Wait you're straight?! No way! I thought you were gay haha!" and I would hear this with about every person I've met and it made me question who I was with my sexuality. Its also made me feel very insecure about myself because I feel like I'm not 'feminine enough' and being like this has made me scared about being in a relationship. One time I had a crush on a male friend and when I told him, he did the classic "I thought you were gay" card. It has made me feel very insecure about myself, and I'm sure other girls like me can understand.
Same. But I also had a longtime boyfriend of like 3 years from the beginning of 6th grade until like the end of 8th and so many ppl thought that I was gay bcs I didn’t chase after guys. I was very loyal and even when I thought a guy was cute, I wouldn’t say anything. When we finally broke up and I started dating other ppl, so many ppl were like ‘wait you’re not gay?’ and I was just like damn. That shit hurts when you’re straight
You have to understand they all thought you were gay because that was the image you put out as a tomboy it would be the same if a guy dresses all feminine and acts girly but is straight everyone would think he is gay so be careful how you portray yourself to people if you don't want them to think a certain way of you
@@badcrysis1349 I know, but that was just me expressing myself with the things that I liked/didn't like. just because it's the typical norm for someone whose gay to like this this and this, doesn't mean that they are. I feel like people shouldn't judge other people just because they "think" they're gay or not. I think that's very rude
As a woman who's boyfriend struggled with porn most of his life. His *parents* introduced him at 6 years old. It really messed him up. We've been dating almost a year, and I've known him almost two. It's been only in the past 6 or 7 months, that hes fully recovered from his addiction. It's been a struggle for us in our relationship because of the skewed view of love and connection. He's doing better, and we are thankfully as well. Now we are strongly considering marriage within the next year or so, and are so much more close due to his journey. But, I agree with Brett and the one who mentioned that young people don't have the right education of sex and of how porn affects your brain. For this reason I will be homeschooling my kids, so that the school system cannot miseducate them. For those who might be watching who struggle with p*rn (male or female) and want to quit, but cant seem to, remember you cant stop an addiction over night, and certainly not by yourself, find someone that you can trust to check up on you, I strongly suggest the app Covenant Eyes, which is screen monitoring, which only flags explicit content. There is hope for victory for you, keep pushing forward! (And for anyone who thinks porn isnt a problem or addiction, LOOK UP the studies done on how it affects your sex drive, mental health, and self confidence. If you dont think its a problem, chances are, youre so far into your addiction youre just trying to justify. again, take it from someone who has been affected by someone *elses* use in porn.)
You need to know someone way longer than 2 years before you get married, don’t consider marrying each other yet, you need 5 years at least and you also have to have lived together for at least 2 years id say.
@@Sonof_DRN2004 you’re silly. If you don’t know that you want to get married to someone after a year then you should move on. Relationships where the partners lived together before marriage also are more likely to divorce
@@Sonof_DRN2004 You've been brainwashed by the media. Usually a guy knows whether he wants to marry a woman or not after 6 months. 2 years is actually a close off point. If a guy doesn't propose to you after 2 years then that means he isn't treating the relationship seriously (as is the woman, likely). Your grandmas and grandpas used to marry and didn't wait 2 years let alone 5, they didn't have to live with each other either. This is how feminism has brainwashed women and men. It's created these insane trends like "Wait 5 years and live with him" based on no success rate. 2 years is a sign to leave. Women can't put a pause on their youth and fertility. Right now they're both acting like they're working through things but both will actually go on to later show resentment and that's how divorces happen.
If you want what's best for the man and for yourself you're gonna have to let him go. There's no reason to know someone this long in your adulthood and not get married. It sounds like this guy is a liability to your marriage and I say find a guy who wants you to be your wife now. Otherwise things could get bad and lead to divorce. Divorce is a good way to ruin a man and your children. Leave now before things get any more serious. Or else you're the type who preys on and exploits weak men because you can't find a strong one since you don't want to be feminine enough.
I am a 52 year old Autistic Father, I have seen this in my kids, well young adults now, but i used to feel like ah this is nothing new, your ok, i was wrong. i am not saying that bullying is new, but now we have the added if you don't go with the group you get shamed, canceled, and torn down. this adds another dynamic that makes it even harder to be open and honest, or different. I remember being bullied, and what i went through because of my disability, but at the end of the day i could go home and be safe. now with the world connectivity of the internet, gaming culture, influencers, ect. it is much more difficult to block out any negative thought upon yourself. Even my kids deal with loneliness, body image, and self esteem. even though they know they are loved, excepted and cherished by my wife and i. it breaks my heart to see this. So glad that some are taking a real stand and showing the truth of the life of a modern teen.
One thing the Marines taught me was, that I can conform to standards without losing myself or my integrity. Peer presure only works if you care about people liking you. Funny thing is, as long as you put yourself out to help others as much as you can, they will like you, even if they don't agree with you.
Everyone at my new job has come to respect me because of my work ethic except the one person that thinks being clocked in is "working." It doesn't help that looks play apart in getting away with this mentality.
The thing is also what people do you want to like you. If you have to give in to peer pressure to be liked, maybe you don't want to be liked by those people. It's hard if you are confined to a certain group of people you didn't choose like in school but we all eventually grow up and are free to choose who we want in our life.
I am watching this a year after release… this is something I needed, because it is making me realize I am just as human as every guy here. I have let those around me guide so much, I am slowly unbecoming of the person I have been working towards through similar experiences.
Fellow 21 year old here. Your story about your brother reminded me of a similar experience I had back in 2016 when two twins (both aged 17) who were great friends with my older brother suddenly and unexpectedly passed away in a freak accident that also left several other people seriously injured. This event had a massive impact on our entire community. I remember the day after the incident, when the news finally trickled in that they had both died, my brother immediately retreated to his room and I could hear him crying audibly into his pillow. He was not only great friends with them, but he had talked with the twins the previous night, right before they left with others to the location where they died, and they had even asked him to come with them. I can't imagine how something like that affects a person, but I do know that this is the only time I have ever seen my older brother cry. The twins' parents were major members of our church and went to the same school as my brother and I, so in the following years I couldn't really escape the fact that they were gone. Even years later, although their deaths didn't have quite the same personal effect on me when I reached the age of 17, the image of the twins on the funeral brochure and the scene of my brother crying are things which are permanently cemented in my mind. Death is something whose effects are difficult to fully quantify, let alone predict, and it can happen so suddenly that there's no time to prepare. I have tried to come to terms with the fact that death can happen at any time, but it's still impossible to imagine how it would feel if it actually happened. My faith tells me that the afterlife is nothing for me to fear, but there's still a lot I would like to accomplish in my life and a lot ahead for me to experience, so I hope that it comes later rather than sooner. Regardless, thank you for sharing your experience with death and I hope this comment gives you some small amount of extra... (I can't find the word I'm looking for so I'm going with the closest I can conceive) ...encouragement.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry for you and your brothers loss. I pray for you and everyone involved. I can’t imagine what that must have been like to go through
Question 2 really hits home. I believe that most men feel trapped in a world where we can't do anything right. The most mundane things as folding cloths or doing dishes isn't right for most women. Then men get complained at for just saying fuck it
Have you tried asking them, please show me how you would like it done? And not with a negative attitude. Remember a lot of women have been watching our moms do these jobs and helping her, since we were children, and moms give less leeway to girls.
Elle Bean, Consider this practical relationship advice: Just because it’s the way you accomplish a task it doesn’t make it the “right way” and it doesn’t make other ways “wrong”. Anyone who can’t get comfortable with that concept gets to do it themselves.
@@brawndothethirstmutilator9848 exactly, if you're going to be extra fussy about something either do it yourself or get someone else to do it, because only you can do it the way you want.
@@brawndothethirstmutilator9848 see, you have a negative attitude already. My boyfriend and I will talk like this and he'll say oh I do this because ... and often he's right and we'll compromise how we do things.
As a teenager I just was baptized in the Holy Spirit and had to let things out to a friend and I cried because the amount of loneliness and bullying that was lifted off of me
Weeping in the spirit is a thing that happens. I thought it was just performance art for attention when I was a deist. Since giving my life to Christ I have wept uncontrollably at the overwhelming presence of God several times and other people do the opposite and are so filled with joy that they start laughing and cannot stop even though nothing humorous is happening. If you are open to the Spirit, then the Spirit will occasionally be so manifest that it short-circuits your brain trying to process the awe of it.
I really appreciate how Brett is open about their thoughts and feelings. While being so well spoken. I’m autistic and I find it really hard to read what is not said explicitly. Had a few friendships and relationships that turned sour due to miscommunication and mental health issues. Hearing Brett speak her mind in a passionate yet respectful way is so refreshing. I hope she knows what a blessing she is to those around her.
As a male teen, there is a lot of stuff we have to go through, even though some of this stuff I didn’t experience it is still somewhat relatable. I’m glad that I have The Lord to reassure me in my times of need.
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo Yes for me I do have a few people that I can trust and rely on in that way. Sometimes I have struggled with finding out who I am but that can take some time and it doesn’t meant just jumping to the first conclusion I make. I often look at my own attributes and take from those to define myself, for example, I really enjoy to draw, watch animated movies, write stories and do combat sports like martial arts and such. Those attributes I feel define my personality and who I am. For you it might be different. Sometimes I do change when I am around other people in terms of mood and personality to either impress them or maybe just to relate. But this is all just my opinion and this mostly comes from my own experience but by asking to is question you actually gave me quite a lot to think about so I thank you for that. God Bless!
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo no once I thought my friends were the ones to tell but it ended backfiring and I basically got blackmailed even though it wasn't an actual threat And literally no one tells their parents their secrets
every day is a struggle, the addiction is real, and the left is acting like it doesn't exist. It is a huge problem that many men including myself experience. Thank you for bringing this up Brett.
Indeed. A friend and I were discussing it last night. We came to the conclusion that, while banning porn would help, it is in itself not a solution, as it would merely be equivalent to treating a symptom, not the root cause. Furthermore, that root cause, we determined, was hookup culture. Porn is just there for those who can’t get in on the action of hookup culture. Neither is an adequate substitute for a healthy relationship. Hookup culture is a simulacrum, and porn is a simulacrum of a simulacrum. Thus I proposed that a complete solution would have to include incentivizing and aiding people to pursue those healthy relationships.
porn is easy getting girls/women is hard. At least that was the reason for me. And once you get with girls you arent even attracted to them anymore (all that while still wanting them). To a bit lesser extend is to sleep with people out of your league (men: going to prostitutes; women: one night standing hot guys that would never want a relationship with you) it all just sets unrealistic standarts which you wont achieve nor are entitled to.
@@TheLaughingMan313 do you think the lack of authenticity in our country was the cause of hook up culture or do you think hook up culture lead to the lack of authenticity?
8 minutes and 21 seconds into this video and I just had to stop and say that this is the most meaningful and necessary content ever posted in the history of the internet. Period. This should really be on top of everyone’s feed regardless of who you are or your background.
The sad part is we have put so much weight on our physical identity that I don’t think this conversation could have happened if they could actually see each other.
To be honest while doing it anonymously yes, they feel like they’re in a safe space to speak honestly which is good. I mean for most questions that dwell into aspects in your life that are typically seen as embarrassing or shameful, or simply not comfortable to talk about it will be the case that people are going to be more open and honest when they’re anonymous.
As a male teenager, I think the pressure on you when you’re younger and more vulnerable is so prominent. During my elementary years I wasn’t the athletic, strong type of kid, so other male kids wouldn’t enjoy my presence, and I spent most of my time with girls and the influence it had on me going into middle school was really strong. I still have some female friends, but I still don’t think everyone at my school is quite comfortable with that concept.
Every time I learn more about Brett's backstory I just want to give her a hug. I can't imagine what it would have been like to grow up facing the challenges that she did.
My parents has constantly been suspicious of me being gay because I've never dated before, never have I ever questioned my sexuality I know what I'm. I'm straight I'm just not ready to fall in love yet. At the end of the day, you're the captain of your life ignore what other people think about you
Keep waiting for the right one and or be single, there is no shame in that either. Our culture is ALL about testing every fish out there and hyper romantic relationship. I only had two short relationships before I met my husband. I was 27 when I got married. It was a long wait but TOTALLY worth it. I love him more and more every year. This is what our culture should be encouraging.
Oh my god my mom was that way “it’s okay if you’re gay” IM TRYING TO EST MY CEREAL ITS 8 IN THE MORNING CAN I GOT A FEW HOURS WITHOUT BEING INDIRECTLY RIDICULED FOR NOT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP Shit is weird when your parents try and get involved like that. No don’t get into my love/sex life. Respect boundaries
Most parents when I was growing up tried to keep their kids from dating as long as possible, usually against their wishes😂 My parents just would talk sense and make sure they knew how I felt about relationships, whether I was interested in dating, were logical with me about the purpose of dating and helped me to not lose my head as a teenager who didn't know what he was doing. Then I met who became my first girlfriend, and we got married at 19 and 21, things are going great! Why would parents try and push relationships on their kids so early?!? It is possible though that they just assumed you were hiding your relationships and feelings from them, so they were trying to connect with you and wanted to be able to communicate with you about relationships, so they were trying everything they thought might be the reason you weren't talking to them. In my opinion, parents should have the type of relationship with their kids where their kids WANT to talk about relationships and stuff with their parents, and sadly most parents don't actually invest the time they need to to have that real relationship, they just try and force their way into those positions without doing the hard work of forming the relationship early on.
My parents might think the same...but I also just don't like to discuss which girls I find cute so when it's brought up I become very vague about it and that probably doesn't help. Yes, I like girls, yes, I have crushes, no I don't want to disclose the specifics.
Brett, I am a 17 year old guy and I want to say thank you so much for talking about this. It is very important that we acknowledge some of these problems.
I hope you're doing well buddy! You guys deserve to be happy. It makes me sad that you guys are coming of age during an era that hates your guts just for being male.
As a male teen, it is difficult just to exist, especially with all the bull crap that happens online and in real life, I’d be dead right now if I didn’t have Jesus
Same! I’ve never shared this, and some stuff I’m gonna say is so disgusting it hurts me to say but I think it’s a good testimony to show how bad and dangerous this stuff is. I always used to believe in “God” and would pray, and all that, but I was believing in a made up “God” in my head, the “God” I was believing in was not the biblical Jesus Christ, it was not God. Since I was around 10 I got addicted to porn, I actually told my mum because I genuinely thought something was wrong with my brain, I was watching stuff I knew was wrong and disgusting, but in a way I liked it. My mum explained how it’s wrong, that it’s normal for me to be curious but that what I was watching wasn’t good for me, and how it’s unethical and unhealthy to consume. After I would then continually try to stop watching but I would always end up going back to it. (Keep in mind I hadn’t even touched myself at this point because I didn’t know that was a thing but I was just watching it) then when I was 13 my friends were talking about masturbation (I can’t believe that was a topic especially at that age) but then I was like, “maybe I should try it”. After that I became completely addicted, doing it daily, sometimes multiple times a day, it was bad. I started getting to the point where I would delve into some disgusting and horrendous topics/fetishes (candid stuff of innocent people, farting, peeing, even pooing, I had seen animal stuff, everything! It was disgusting and my mind was corrupted beyond any self saving) then earlier this year I started delving deeper into trans stuff, and it got to the point that I was almost trying to manipulate my mind into being gay, it was like I was working myself up to watching gay stuff, but that was always the point where no matter what I just couldn’t sit through it, but I had become addicted to trans stuff, it was bad. It felt as if I was genuinely just looking for the most obscure and disgusting thing to possibly do it to, it was the lowest point of my life. At this point I was trying desperately to quit, but it was so bad that nothing was working, at this point I had already lost almost all my belief in a god, I had tried different philosophies and some would help but then would fail after a little while, at some point I was at my lowest point, and I just called on Jesus to save me, to help free me from my sin, and He did! Christ forgave me despite how disgusting I was, He saved me from the lowest I could go, He pulled me out of the darkness and lit up my path! Since then there have been times I’ve stumbled, but I am no longer ruled by my sin, I am on the path Christ is lighting before me, and He is my Lord and Saviour! Without Him I am nothing, without Him I would fall, without Him I was ruled by my flesh and by the dark kingdom, but Christ overcame all the darkness I was falling to, I was losing the battle with no sight of a way out, but Christ warded off ALL of the enemy, He saved me and I am forever grateful! My past self disgusts me, but I am reborn in Christ Jesus my Lord, my Saviour, my Redeemer, The King of the universe!
Im a teen and i will say this. There is not only massive peer pressure, but pressure from the teachers themselves. At least in my district, they have little children learn about what it is to be trans, gay, lesbian and so on. They have pride flags on every wall, around every door. I often question the trans movement and why it is being introduced into schools, however whenever i question it i am told i need to stop thinking that way and that i am wrong. All of this is political, it is more akin to faith than anything else in my eyes. I once thought that i was above sex and dating, as i had no interest in it at the time [i was 12] and, when i said this, i was told that i was likely a asexual person, instead of a person who, oh i don't know, just wasn't interested in such things at the time? One time i asked my councilor, Why, if there are all of these dozens of pride flags and educational posters explaining how i need to stop being anti trans and anti gay, why there was nothing about traditional family values. The councilors response? "Well, everyone knows about that." I then asked, well, why is that? I was quickly expelled from the room, as she seemed fed up with me. Another teacher said, fully believing it, that making fun of a person's accent is "casual Racism" There are many many more examples of behavior such as this. They teach children what to think, not how to think about this stuff, and it is very bad, especially considering how people as young as 4-5 are now taught about this stuff. My little brother a perfect example. But, my mother, and father, biologically my grandparents, who are in their 60's have helped me not believe in this stuff. Yeah, this is long, sorry, but it WAS your choice to read it. And, i am often told that i am exaggerating this stuff, but i wish i was.
@@lpc9929 ok sociopath the fact it happens at all is a problem and its far more common and more of a issue then you think just cause of your "special ass case" of not dealing with it at all dose not mean no one els does grow the hell up and do some damn research ffs its not hard to find this kind of behavior all over the internet they really do tell you what to think not how to think for your selfs just look at the numerous amount of hypocritical bastards all over internet who used to "fight" for femboys and tomboys but now say they dont exist they just trans people in waiting and if you dont agree your transphobic and sexist happens all the damn time not hard to find but i guess you been living under a rock
If shit like this is what is happening across the pond, then you, my good friend, are a good person for mentioning this. there is nothing wrong with voicing ones story.
As a girl in high school and college, because I was not sexually active, people kept telling me I was asexual and I started to believe them. My mom was supportive and said my decision not to have sex isn't a sexual identity.
Praise your mom! 🎉 She’s right. It shows your maturity to wait for that part of your life. It doesn’t mean you’re a different gender identity.
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@BklynGrl74 My mom is amazing. She raised my to be education and focused, so I was never interested while my friends were all sexually active. That never crossed their minds that I was just making a choice
So many people don't know what asexuality even is. It's got nothing to do with whether or not you have had sex or want it. Basically, it's how a straight person would react to a sexualised version of the same sex, and how a gay person would react to a sexualised version of the opposite sex: it's not sexually attractive. That's pretty much it. Though a lot of people are getting confused with being asexual when they're minors, like... thank god you're not messing around illegally? Or it's to do with hormone imbalances, mental/physical illnesses, etc. which prevent or alter arousal/attraction, which isn't a sexuality.
It feels like a lot of young people put on the asexuality label out of fear of not fitting it.
I was a late bloomer. I wasn't really interested in sex until my late 20s. But, when everyone around you is heavy into hooking up, serial monogamy and casual pornography you might feel like you're not keeping up.
If I was a Gen Z and didn't grow up with in a Christian home with a healthy view of sexuality, I probably would have questioned my sexuality, too.
when i was 14, i remember having one of my closest friends (who was pansexual) constantly 'diagnose' me as a lesbian because i would occasionally say a girl on social media was pretty. it made me extremely uncomfortable.
I'm so sorry!😢
Same I always had people telling me I was a lesbian bc I wasn’t as girly as my peers and I had a “deeper voice” compared to them.
@@elainini funny how having a deeper voice makes someone lesbian, I mean in teen years, during puberty, everyone experiences body changes. I'm an 18 yrs old boy and my voice became as feeble as a child's, and now it is slowly recovering to being somewhat deeper
I’m so sorry
It's funny to me how the ones who claim to be "accepting and inclusive" try to force their own sexual preferences on everyone else and act like those whose sexual preferences align with nature and evolution are somehow bad. Like a vegan trying to force their diet and a non vegan.
It’s sad that we live in a world where these guys have to hide their identity entirely for being an honest person just so they aren’t ripped apart.
@I Love God Amen that would be a key component of hiding your identity
I say grow a pair , practice your right to free speech without a mask while you still can. If you don't like what I have to say then don't listen, but try to shut me up you'll be met with violence.
@I Love God Amen Are you dumb or are you dumb?
Very true, I stopped giving af long ago and I only focus on myself, my job & having fun if anything compromises that I don’t need it in my life
That's male privilege for you.
I lost my uncle when I was 7, it messed me up. I was scared of death. Puberty, there was a shift. I had an expectation of dying before I turned 22. With that came a lifestyle pushing the limits. I almost died so many times, but didn't. I joined the military at 18 and went the special operations route. I had no fear of death, I welcomed it, I didn't care. Then me and my wife lost our son at birth and that messed me up. Three years later I had my son and my outlook on death changed. I wasn't scared of death but I had this urge to live, actual have quality time on this earth. My son is now 21 and daughter is 15, they saved ME!
That was a beautiful story man. I bet your son and daughter are very happy to have you =).
I am lucky to not have lost someone close to me yet, but Im still in high school and planning to go down the same route in the military and special operations because that’s what I hold in my values.
Wow, all of these adversities you had to go through. Strong asf.
Ranger?
I'm sorry for your loss. We had our first and lost the second. Eventually we would go on to bring three more into the world. The one we never got to hold still haunts us.
If I was 100% honest a lot of feelings would get hurt real fast. I keep what I think inside my head for good reasons
Same mate.
Same
I would get deported
Same here boys.
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imagine how great of friends all these dudes would be after going through this shit together, really is a bonding activity
It’s crazy how much better this place could be if we could all be a bit more vulnerable around each other.
bro i tried to be honest and tell my friend a dark secret about me and he immediately told all my other friends 😞
@@Deareck Sorry to hear that
@@Deareck good riddance then
@@Deareck damn, that’s not really a good friend then if you can’t even be honest with them and have trust in them. Hate to say it but may be time to ditch them and find better friends.
I literally had a coworker tell me today that calling a girl a "tomboy" is sexist. Instantly they thought I was viewing women in a negative way, when it should be a positive thing that everyone is different in their own way. Victimhood is at a all time high.
I work at a car shop and my boss wrote a part up as a "trans" meaning a transmission, and someone called him out on it and the part delivery was delayed because the person on the other end was like "I hope you don't mean transgenders"
This is absurd. Even if he did, calling a trans person a trans person isn't offensive so I don't get the point. This was someone just trying to make a scene for the sake of doing so.
@@peves- As a professional, he should have known better. The proper term is 'Trannie'.
I call myself a Tomboy....I have a biz that has Tomboy n it. Being a tomboy is amazing. I don't fit into a box...I like what I like...& I refused to allow society to tell me that because I enjoyed traditional boy stuff made me gay or not feminine. I like the fact that we can b individuals. It's NOT a negative thing to b called a Tomboy.
@@LifeHappens83 Everyone is so victim minded today because the school curriculums are programming student's to think this way. It's super manipulative to the younger generation and makes them susceptible to being manipulated because they get offended over the wrong pronoun, sexual identity and blah blah blah. Also this is happening to men because testosterone levels are at a all time low, and very little testosterone makes them timid, or possibly don't behave manly like and affects our appearance with less masculine features. It's causing some men to turn into SJW soyboys.
@@Th3M4larky just sounds like ur toxic
My girlfriend helped me quit my porn addiction and it's been so much better since. It helps so much with mental health, sexual health, and your body image if you just ditch it. I needed someone to help me through it and I am grateful to have her. She's helped me become a better person.
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beautiful, so proud of you. how did she help you? me and my bf want to get rid of it as well but i just don't know what the approach should be
@@deligeorgieva8535as someone who did it completely on their own, distracting the mind with other things and finding better hobbies and things to do definitely helps the process. Exercising, playing with your friends, playing video games, literally anything could be a distraction. Just find out what your bf likes doing and at least try your best to keep him distracted. Call him if you can. Have conversation with him as much as you 2 are available. I could go on and on, but that’s the best advice I could give.
My ex indirectly helped me get off of it. She never knew it was an issue until our breakup when I thanked her for it. Having someone to help you through something they don't even know about is amazing
SHE AIN'T HUMAN, SHE'S A SENT :O
21 year old here, I’ve was addicted to porn since 5th grade. It wasn’t until 2 years ago I decided to change my life around and resist it. I despise it, but the more you resist the less you’d want to do it. Keep on fighting my brothers and sisters
Yeah porn is a real issue that not many talk about
Keep it up, man. You are doing the right thing.
i think that at least in puberty it is useful. As a man you learn to control yourself also because you donß´t have crazy hormones going around messing with you
Having a real girlfriend? Exploring real sex? I dont know what to blame, the technology that is turning us into garbage...
Did a professional say you have a porn addiction?
The fact that you're 21 is crazy. Please keep doing what you're doing. It can only make the world a better place.
ya i was shocked!
Wait she’s 21? Goddam
She looks 28
I'm 30 and I was totally shocked with her age! She is killing it! 🎉
Yes, exactly.
This is the most disturbing thing to me. People questioning their sexuality because of peer pressure. There was a group of LGBTQ students chanting “death to straight people” at my sons school last year. 7th grade. Brooming is part of this also.
With a capital G*
That's terrifying...
that group is the most hateful group i have ever witnessed. they are often either terrible people, or at least they say and do terrible disgusting things. this just further prooves my opinion on them.
And that’s exactly why I distance myself from this „community“ even if my sexuality makes me „part of it“. I can’t go out there wanting acceptance for my sexuality but on the other hand not accepting straight people. What the hell is that?! I just don’t understand that and I‘m sorry your child had to witness this.
Alphabet soup people are so toxic and pushy. It scares me for my children.
Brett, as a man with 2 daughters, I think your voice and the work you do is extremely important for our society
Great comment actually. As a future father we need women like Brett to show young women a better way.
She is likeable, and relatable.
shes not letting u hit gang
Just found Brett and love that she like actually gets it. It’s not even explicitly politic, it’s not policy, it’s not attacking the other sides or trying to be ideological or fighting, it’s just articulate, true, and common sense about where we as people are and how our society is hurting us. And also, as a man, this girl really gets us, and shoutout to these guys for their honesty. Loved it.
“5 you have questioned your sexuality”
Me during the boys sleepover:
She use to be very EVASIVE and Rude as Fuck. I appreciate bhee growth
Brett is so male-identified 😂I can see it now. When the girl cried about being assaulted at 7, Brett never once said anything or said that men that do that are a**holes. But as soon as a guy cried about a girl dumping him for opening up to her, Brett calls the girl who dumped him a B*tch. If you have self hatred as a woman, just say so
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@@incognito3599 wish I knew the context better but as a woman she's more positioned to call out other women. Not saying I agree with her. I don't. But she's a woman and that comes with bias.
@@eatonkuntz this comment is almost too stupid to break down, first as a woman she should want to protect other women. next you act as if bias is a female trait, that makes me think you have never talked to a woman or any human. men are equally biased you are just too stupid to know. last, being a woman does not make her any more qualified to recognize awful behaviour.
I'm a Male, 15. Hearing a woman talk about pornography and the overboard feminism actions has me look kind of into a larger window into the adult mindset. this hit
As a fellow 15 year old, please tell me u don’t watch.
@@fairyfightsgt6772not watching it is kinda hard when you get into at a super young age I am also 15 and right now I am trying to stop but I started watching it at like 9 or 10 so it’s became like an addiction.
@@R4T_VortexX why is it hard to stop?
@@fairyfightsgt6772dopamine's a mean chemical 😢
@@fairyfightsgt6772 dopamine, porn is a serious addiction that’s hard to stop if you want to know more just research on google and shit
It’s actually kinda cute to see Brett instinctively trying to comfort these boys with words such as “no, it does not matter” in such a motherly tone.
It's a shame that some used "news mommy" in the creepiest way possible and ruined it, because my friends and I use it in a context that's the most endearing way possible
@@alienJIZ1990Anybody that says “mommy” is just a weird creep.
@@honeyandlavender_ if it's sexual then yeah, agreed. But it all depends how it's used. Brett exudes a mom-like disposition and it's cute and funny to point out. Is that going to cause men with mommy issues to say weird shit? Absolutely. But it all depends on context and intent. You can say "News Mommy" and have it not be creepy, similar to sardonically saying "jee, thx mom"
Not everything you don't like is automagically "creepy"
@@alienJIZ1990 I get where they're coming from tho. When my nephew was born I felt really weird referring to my brother as "daddy" when talking to his son. Society has just oversexualized the words, unfortunately. I know it's not weird, I'm more comfortable saying it now when talking to my nephew, but I get why so many people feel uncomfortable with those words.
@@nickcunningham6344 oh for sure, I fully understand all that. But that was kinda my point, that it's a shame people made the sexual association in such a pseudo Oedipal fashion, because it's definitely possible to use it in a non sexual context, the word has just been tainted.
So I get where there they're coming from too but they basically doubled down on the tainted view and essentially said "Nope, always creepy. Zero exceptions." which was why I responded the way I did, it only perpetuates the sexual association if you don't call it out when it's being reinforced
This is definitely one of your best podcasts. I'm much older then then and I'm still dealing with some of those issues. Being older the expectations for you become reality. Relationships have to be more serious, because you're at an age where if you don't get married and have children you're gonna be too old to have those things anymore. But then the emotions you've been hiding all these years start coming out randomly and people criticize you saying you're too old to be breaking down, or why are you so clingy, or shouldn't you be thinking about getting your life together. My ex told me that I'm too clingy because the one day a week I got to spend with her I liked to hug her cuddle up with her, whatever. After we broke up my emotions became a mess. You know I never cried in public when my dad passed away or my grandpa that I was close with, I didn't show any emotion because that's what weak people do. It's been nice the past couple years being able to be more open
I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I really hope you are in a better place in your life now. Please don't give up on yourself. I have faith in you😊 (this is coming from a teenage girl who wants to understand boys and men well). I hope you have a nice day😊
Hearing Brett openly talk about her mental struggles during her teen years is so encouraging. As a teenager who struggles often, it's so encouraging to know that you can struggle and still live a successful life.
The only teenagers that don't go thru such things are the psychopaths. (Do not conflate psychopath with sociopath.)
Everyone kinda does at that time & actually until like 25. The mental swings are crazy for no reason
Everybody struggles, it doesn't matter who you are or what walk of life you're from. We all have that in common.
I’m a straight-A hella academic student and I’m reasonably good at sports, I excel in Cricket (Yep, I’m English 😂) and I don’t think I’m as happy as I could be. I’m not as unhappy as I was, but being a teen is hard, especially leaving school and starting a career as things change so fast and you can’t keep up. I am that stereotype of “oh you got it easy” and sure, I have it easier than most, but that’s still very difficult.
Not sure what my point is, but I guess it’s that everybody struggles, no matter how able or confident they are. I think we just have to remember that if you work hard, being an adult will be better, and happier.
@@AxlePlaysGames There's a reason why the saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" has hung around. The struggle always feels real until you experience something worse and your perspective is reset. This happens naturally as you get older and your normal range of emotions start to pale in comparison to the extremes you are now aware of. Welcome to being normal!
As a 27 year old female, my heart aches for young men right now! Thanks brett for uplifting these young men and being a voice of love and truth
@Ks-101 for what
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz A "pick me girl" is a derogatory term for women who are vocal about siding with men on an issue, it's meant to imply you want male attention and that's your main reason for voicing your opinion.
Them saying "pick me" like that is an insult, they don't value your opinion for what it is.
@@MonkeGeorge ok I get it. Well that sucks I didn't mean to come off that way, I was being genuine. I just care about people. Cause I want them to feel less pain and sadness. Not cause I want attention....what a bummer , can't even care about your fellow human without being accused of having malevolent intentions. This is the world we've build for one another, I suppose.
@@MonkeGeorge and also, to anyone who sees my comment as me "siding" with men is not understanding me.... I'm not picking a side, I just feel empathy for their struggles just as I would for a woman or anyone else .
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz Really don't worry about it, someone calling a woman a pick me is like calling a guy a simp. It's a really low effort insult at this point, so don't take it personally.
Brett is the first woman I’ve seen that honestly cares about men’s/boys of today and is worried about them. Feel like the attitude which most women have nowadays of viewing men as some privileged human who has no problems, is ultimately destructive and detrimental to their health as well.
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@@SashyaTheStrange what I was abt to say lol
@@Glim424 it's really not valid men have no extra privilege over women. If you feel that then you yourself have surrendered to much to the men in your life giving them power over you.
@@Glim424😢
What abt Shoe0nHead tho
Seen this a little late, but I had a girlfriend about 2 months ago I spilt my guts to. Depression, anxiety the full nine miles. I trusted this girl more than I've ever trusted anyone. She used it against me. As I was trying to open up to this girl as I had done many times before. She broke up with me. She citied "I'm not the type for a relationship" and "I don't want to hurt you" as reasons. What does my best friend see 4 days later at McDonald's? Her with a new boyfriend. That absolutely broke my heart. I hate how some of us young men are told to share our feelings and when we do it's use against us
You’ll get through it G. Nobody that I’ve talked to has exposed me or anything but the idea of that for sure spooks me out. Don’t know what you believe but I wanna let you know that if you try to find peace in the things of this world it won’t work, it’s all like drugs, it feels good while it lasts but in the end it leaves you unsatisfied. Jesus is the only way to find true peace. Anyways I’m just tryna help. Jesus loves you man I’ll be praying for you
I appreciate it, I'm a Christian myself and I've been trying to look to him for guidance
@@braxonus9788 Good bro
Never tell women your feelings to women if they are sad or negative. Women, despite saying they want men to be more emotional, will immediately see this as the man being weak and immediately lose all attraction to you. Women want strong, confident, men who know what they want and have goals and ambitions. Even though they SAY the complete opposite. Women play these stupid games all the time. Never play thier games.
Never ever fully spill your guts out to a woman… it’s a falsehood that they profess about empathy etc… I wish I could help you, just saying this as a big brother… no harm intended
As a teenage boy, Brett clearly highlights the biggest issues in society as commentary to this video. whether it be pornography or low testosterone, I will always be glad that we have a voice for people like us. thank you Brett.
These are my thoughts exactly
My thoughts aswell
Yes, totally why they are watching xD Now take ugly girl and give her the same script xD
Chronic Masterbation and diet are probably 2 of the causes of low testosterone in young men. Stop eating sweets and drinking pop and eat a pound of red meat a day. Drink only water and a high fat high protein diet consisting mostly of meat and eggs. The liver turns cholesterol into testosterone, it requires a ton of fat to keep it from cannibalizing you. And stop beating off women can smell that stink on you. You do all that and your testosterone will go up.
I can say porn helps me a bit, it's a form of visual pleasure, good for my mental health. I don't think I'm abusing it.
I love how personable Brett gets and how we slowly get to see more of her. She did a fantastic job on this episode; not only was this a great video to react to (and a much needed conversation for the world) but the amount of emotional restraint she took to talk about her hardships was incredible.
It’s pretty disappointing that Brett gets perceived as an “industry plant” instead of just being recognized for talent, heart, and competence
Damn this girl is 21 and she’s wiser than most of the people 10-20 years older than her
yes
And she looks like Ben Shapiro
Unfortunately I’ve noticed a lot of people my age including me are wiser the older people
@@yungtrick7405yeah not to disrespect Brett shes definitely pretty intelligent and well spoken, but so was I at 21 now 24, I dont think I lack anything in comparison. Also it has nothing to do with your type of school leaving certificate or your interests.
At the end of the day it comes down to facts, as most sane and common people tend to have a similiar view of the world. Also if people want to lecture you by their experience, mostly its bs. Older people in my company that did years of the same work explain it to me how its done, 2 weeks later I come up with a even better method or solution. A lot of people are stuck in their ways because of tradition and hierachy.
You’ll only get to the top if you have trust in yourself you can make it, question everyone and everything until proven otherwise and make certain mistakes on your own so you can learn from them. As long as you continue to learn you're safe
@@Metaljunk39 following facts and understanding things and minding your business then you’ll be successful for the most part
As a Male, and a coach who inevitably mentors teenagers from time to time, this is my favorite video youve ever shared. It's so good to see these young men really be honest and put into the minds of society what really goes on in there and why. They probably felt amazing after this, getting those thoughts out in the open and discussing the scary thing with peers who of course go through similar experiences
Ok look...I'm a 15 year old male..
The whole peer pressure abt sexuality is a VERY real thing. Ever since 7th grade I have been taunted by people and constantly been called gay, people assume I'm gay, I've been told that I should be trans...this is has been going on nearly everyday for a long time.
Now..I have been raised by all girls with my main only male influence being my father. So I am more feminine in some ways than others, but nobody believes me when I say I'm straight, and whenever I have a crush on someone, I'm told it's a coverup.
I'm tired of it. I am all for being gay and whatnot, but I am straight and I want people to stop labeling me as something I am not.
Fight one of them, beat him real bad
It sucks, but just know that when you're in your 30s you aren't going to see or associate with anyone that you went to high school or even college with unless you really want them in your life. I know it's hard to see now, but all of their views and opinions and completely and utterly irrelevant.
@@WilC379 👈🏻great answer.
I know it’s tough for now. Definitely be firm, stand your ground. Be immune to the taunts. Some girl worth her weight in gold is going to notice that and start talking to you, sooner or later. And from then on, you won’t have to worry about the taunts, because you’ll have a naturally developed relationship with a good bond.
I tell my kids, if a person is calling you gay, they are most likely very gay, ashamed, and looking for a target to project it on to. Please remember that. Every single kid that I knew from grade school that called others gay as a taunt or to pick on people is now ‘out’. They look for someone normal and respectable to pin it into because that is what they wish they could be and do they lash out in jealousy, with intent to deflect from their truth. I know what I’m saying is 100% the truth because I’m old and have witnessed the outcome every single time. So take courage.
Find real friends brother. It is not gay to feel. I would encourage you to go to a church and start reading the Bible. The book of John is what Christianity is about. People are sinful and can be real jerks don't let them tear you down. You can't do it alone. surround yourself with others who build you up!
@@LeviKCartwright thank you bro...been a devoted Christian all my life 💪
"It's okay to be both strong and feminine...." Her saying that sounds so obvious but when you're a young girl it's like the world reveals itself as a set of stereotypes that you must morph into. It's not that obvious when you're young, and I'm glad that Brett's mom told her that
I'm not sure what you're talking about, the modern stereotype for women is to be "strong and independant".
@@jamesrussell2936 Yes, it is overemphasized and it has led a lot of women to hyper-independence which is very unhealthy. I know a lot of women who are very dear to me who struggle with hyper-independence because it's been taught to them for so long that they need to be independent and they can't rely on anyone for anything and they are always going to be alone in their struggle because of it. I wish they weren't taught these kinds of lies. It's also a product of weaponized incompetence that's a serious issue, especially among men. To be completely honest, I wouldn't expect you to understand because you haven't gone through the same social conditioning as I have because you are a man and I am a woman.
@@jamesrussell2936 yes, but it's "strong and independent" not "strong, independent and feminine" women who try to follow the stereotype tend to subconsciously or consciously believe they must abandoned the feminine to follow it
I’m 14 and love Brett’s video with a whole heart and how much she brings up my womanhood and raises my opinion fairly and when she said that it made me feel so empowered mainly because I’ve always been a really independent person and I was always kind of worried that makes me unattractive to men but I’m really glad that I’m not the only one who has a strong personality and opinion but also expresses her femininity how I feel comfortable and enjoyable for me you know it’s just such a powerful statement that really just hit the heart for me as a young teenage girl
@Don Stanley keep being you and you're doing great 🫶🏻
In an all girl’s school, the pressure to be gay is crazy. Like the school promotes it, everybody seems to be so gay and people even go around saying “Ew your straight” Without boys to balance things out, shit goes down.
Well we live in a hyper sexualized culture. If students were segmented into isolation pods and communicated anonymously without knowing each other's gender, they would still be pressuring and mocking one another for not using toys or self pleasuring. Humans are so easy to anticipate, we truly haven't evolved much from our baser level instincts.
You just described the W NBA. There needs to be a Me too movement for the Wnba. So many cases so wild shady shxt goes down.
Same thing in prison. The guys get horny and can’t touch any women for years and they start becoming gay because of the sexual drive. You can’t separate the 2 sexes
This makes one wonder about the idea that everyone who says they are gay was born gay. The case at your school surely seems to have a social component.
That is so crazy! I thought families that sent their kids there were more conservative.
I understand and I'm here for you Brett
I lost my younger sister last year, she was 27 and hearing you speak about your late brother really touched me! Thank you for being so vulnerable, Brett! God bless! ❤️
R.I.P. sorry for your loss😢❤🙏
@@laurenmasters Thank you
My little brother was murdered in November. He was 28. Still hard to fathom. He wasn’t involved in drugs or violence or anything. He had just beat cancer a few months prior after many months of chemo. He was happy, had lots of friends, and a big heart. He just couldn’t say no to people in need. But when finally he had to push someone away for their manic behavior and violent tendencies, they showed up unannounced on a Sunday morning. They walked into his house and walked out 6 minutes later.
Still hard to believe.
@@r.t.hannah9575 I'm so sorry! May he rest in peace!
I'm so sorry for your lost. May she rest in peace
I love how genuine and beautiful Brett is inside and out. When she started talking about her brother and her experience with it that made me get choked up. You could see Brett’s pain. You’re the best Brett.
same
I lost my person, too. My twin sister died September 27, 2021 .... I couldn't imagine losing her that young!
I was gonna say something similar but this sums it up. Well said, dude. But to add one thing: to share someone’s pain and triumph temporarily through a screen as they’re laying events out how they experienced them, is so powerful. It amazes me how that passes by us so quickly now. It’s become part of our daily phone experience so we forget the power of it. Follower counts and views are so unimportant to the power of a video.
Brett is NOT genuine at all , she is being paid to sit there and and voice an opinion that she reads off a telepromter she does not write her own copy or responses. Do not forget this girl is only 21 years old and she tries to come across as someone with 30 or 40 yeas life experience, wich she clearly does not have.
@@willemoranje She's actually very genuine, to talk about something like that, in such a personal way, it's very unlikely that it wasn't truly coming from the bottom of her heart. I believe she said and meant every word of it.
I am certain it wasn't written on a teleprompter (you cannot see her reading it, and when she looks up from the side angle she's just looking at the main camera), but even if it was, it's still genuine.
As a teen boy, I believe I speak for most of us when I say, I love Brett Cooper.
Same here
Hello fellow teen
I haven’t been a teen for a few months, but I agree
yep
she is a roll model for young women everywhere
Awe i just wanna hug these young men and sit down and talk with them. My Younger brother and I do a youth group at our church along with our wives and some other parents and it is so nice to be able to just give the young kids someone to talk to and to help them understand that things are okay, and to help guide them onto a good path. God bless our youth! ❤✝️
I want to say as a teenager who battled depression and being suicidal at one point I have never watched corn I am Muslim but seeing this is shocked it says a lot about the west nowadays😢
@saifjassim6067 it is very sad what going on in the west and the world today, I am praying for everyone to see the light and to help us get past all this, but I truly know that its only going to be better when Jesus comes back. God Bless you, and keep you, and make His face to shine upon you.
@@GrahmHorner and my Allah make your life full of blessings have a great day
@@saifjassim6067 thank you
@@GrahmHorner no problem I don’t care about the fact we are diffrent religions we are brothers in humanity
Thank you for opening up Brett. My cousin was murdered in 2018 and it devastated me. My friends and roommates questioned my grief because it was only a cousin but I looked up to him so much. I've had plenty of people I love die but this was the first one that was young and sudden. I slept in the hospital while he was in his coma and I felt his hand go cold and stiff when he passed. He didn't even make it to his 30's and my friends couldn't understand my grief or even make an effort.
That is terrible, how can these people question your grief? My heartfelt condolences to you!
I hope you feel better, My condolences.
Those aren’t true friends brother I’m sorry. Even if you don’t understand just be there for those you care about
You should get new friends because those ones are kinda toxic
They're not your friends.
I’m an older 56 year old male .. I watch you because it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values. My 23 year old daughter is very similar . Please keep spreading the word. I hope you don’t think I’m being patronizing by saying I’m proud of you.
i’m 23 i want a woman like her such a breath of air when it seems like so many have dyed hair and anti family views
It could easily be taken that way, and at a minimum it is at least strange. Proud signifies "feeling pleasure and satisfaction because you or people connected with you have done or gotten something good." The fact you think what she is doing is good and that you get pleasure from it is great, but unless you are related, friends, or on the same sports team etc... It's just a strange way to say it. How about "you are doing great!" or "I really enjoy your content", or "it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values". Those are great ways to say it.
Not that you asked but those are my thoughts...
I caught a few errors in the video
First one that comes to mind is that masturbating does not lower testosterone permanently, only momentarily and not masturbating or having sex for long periods of time also lowers testosterone. My extrapolation of the data: basically unexpectedly binge masturbating would lower testosterone a lot because your testosterone production is not adapted to the frequency of your masturbating and unexpectedly abstaining would increase testosterone a lot.
masturbating often will increase production of testosterone but also masturbating will also deplete testosterone, not masturbating will decrease production of testosterone but not deplete it as much. Essentially either option masturbating often or not often, your body will adapt and have the same testosterone.
Also having high testosterone correlates with masturbation frequency.
There were other errors that I don't remember.
What are her feminine values? That she wears dresses? Lmao shes not feminine, shes masculine and probably unbearable as a gf
@@ProfessionalRageBaiter so, you want a woman that looks like ben shapiro wearing a wig.. xD mmm, sexuality repressed much? ;)
man, I feel so much empathy for Brett losing her brother like that. I have an older brother and I couldnt imagine going through that
I am the oldest and have 2 younger brothers and i couldnt imagine
As a girl, I feel so bad for the guys and I wish that I could tell them that they deserve better than the heartbreak and fear that they go through.
I used to be a sensible fat-ass with a pornography addiction and suicidal feelings. I never had a girlfriend and my friends were just a bunch of people who made fun of me and bullied me around. Around a year ago, I decided to start by levels. I started by only jacking once every two days (i used to do it almost three times per day), I started training with items at home (because my parents never wanted me to go to the gym) and started ditching friends and learning more music.
Today, I'm very muscular and good looking. I am still battling my addiction with porn but it got better and I play epic solos and super hard riffs on the guitar. I stopped thinking about running after women and put myself and my career in music first and made a bunch of loyal, respectful friends. I also took time to work on my grades. I am now in grade 9 and my lowest grade is in math and it's 91%. I am currently in two different orchestras (with my violin) and in a highschool metal band.
I may not have a girlfriend or any exes, still feel suicidal and still battling porn addiction. But looking back, I'm light years away from where I was. All to say, boys (or girls), never abandon. Find yourself a dream and pursue it and NEVER let anyone get in your way to greatness.
Why still suicidal? You seem to be in a good place.
It's all a battle, man. But it's not hopeless. Stick with it.
What a Giga Chad man. It already sounds like such an improvement man. I am jealous 💪
Stay on your grind bro, don't worry about the ladies, cause once you have reached max level, they will be coming to you. And be very selective of them, most will just use you for your resources, not actually caring about you. But there are still some good girls out there, and as long as you are picky, you'll find a great one! Good luck brother, you got this!
Same boat, bro. Keep pushing
Growing up I was into theater and was quite emotive, but I never questioned my sexuality. I joined the Marines shortly after 9/11 and during training there were quite a few "alpha male" types that gave me shit for getting emotional at times. Never really bothered me though, because I was raised to *know* what I am and not worry what others *thought* I was. I was raised to define myself. My grandfather was a really good teacher.
I understand in the military if someone gave you shit for getting emotional because you need to be strong and have emotional control in high stress situations such as combat. But as long as you're not inconsolable and letting your emotions affect your actions its not an issue. I'm just saying there could be good reason for that concern in that context. Most men don't know how to control their emotions its either full blast rage/sadness or just bottling everything up, no in between
The most detrimental aspect of the red pill mens movement is the idea that men cannot express their emotions.
There's obviously a point where breaking down and crying as a man is a stretch too far, but this idea that something wholesome bringing a tear to my eye makes me feminine?
Lol say that to my face 😂
#1 most important thing is a father figure these days kids don't get it and are raised by the internet. I'm thankful I have so many good men in my life else I dont know what to would be like.
That's the strongest type of male, the one who thinks and feels for himself and doesn't act a part just because it's what other's demand or expect. I'm glad you had such a great role model.
@@revolutionaryfrog I get where you're coming from but when I was emotional it was during training, and running on little sleep and caffeine. When it came to combat I was actually really calm. I didn't have problems in the moment, It was when I had time to think about what I had done that I started to develop some issues. Diagnosed with PTSD, got help, and everything is all good now.
Learning about sex by watching porn is like learning to drive by watching "Fast and Furious".
Istg
Good comparison
Unless the person is mentally challenged, he or she knows both porn and Fast and Furious are just movies. Pretty much everyone has seen action driving movies before first driving, porn before having sex and action movies before going to the shooting range, yet there is no problem. Why? Because people understood the difference between movies and real life.
@@petrmaly9087damn
I swear my 6th grade health teacher said this💀
This is the first comment l’ve left on your channel. Just want to say that this was my favorite video posted so far, because it’s so vulnerable, honest, real and such an important topic (among others) that we need to talk about. Nicely done, l also appreciate you sharing your personal perspective and views/values. Brett, the one up you have on other podcasters, is your youth and wisdom, gives you a head start and pioneering the world ahead for the younger generations who follow and need a wholesome person to follow moving forward. It gives me a ton of hope for our future, my kids and l watch you and l want to thank you for simply being you and being brave. Keep up the good work in fighting the good fight against the principalities and powers out there. Hope more younger influencers out there become inspired to jump on the bandwagon and speak truth, the younger generations will need it moving forward. God bless!
This video and commentary literally changed my life. I struggled with a porn addiction since the start of middle school and I saw this video in April of my senior year. When they talked about it I immediately decided to quit and I've felt more mature, more free, and more healthy since then. Thank you Brett for making this video more easily accessible to the people who need to see it!
Good stuff. I still deal with insecurity sometimes, which I can say for sure has to do with porn. Just keep it up and set yourself up for success in your adult years. I've squandered so much time, but I'm getting back on track and I'm happy with how things are. But I'd be doing better if I had just cut out porn and just ignored social media. I just use UA-cam for hobby stuff and positive content like this video. It's much better than opening twitter to drake's penis and seeing the women opine about penises.
I'm proud of you man. Also though, your YT handle might be your full name, so I would think of changing that unless it's a pseudonym
Im glad you could quit bro!! I quit last year in october, while being a junior. Life changer. Hows everything goign now?
The porn addiction thing didn't exist when I was a teenager, internet didn't really exist properly until my 20's, and we where going to parties every weekend chasing girls, today is a different world and not for the better.
@@kingcosworth2643 bro I would have done anything to be a teenager in like the early 00s or even late 00s
I am a straight “cis” 14 year old boy, and one of my pansexual friends who was a girl would constantly diagnose me as gay, and said I’d be better if I was, this constantly made me feel like I was hiding myself, and she had told her friends to say the same thing, they try to disguise it as “helping you find yourself” in reality they are trying to change you, because being lgbtq makes you a victim, and therefore invincible
Keep being you my guy, don't let them decide who you are. Props to you for not giving in to their peer pressure of madness.
It’s less sinister than that really, more like identifying as LGBTQ+ has become a teenage phase as well as a self discovery process💀
LGBTQetc is cult programming. And like every cult, the members self regulate with peer pressure and emotional manipulation. It’s sad. But more so it is evil in its anti-family, anti-human ideology
The fact that you felt the need to use "cis" in your self description tells me that you are still dealing with those feelings that were implanted in you. Just know that they want you to feel that way because *they* don't feel comfortable with themselves. Stay strong and be true to yourself. You aren't alone and you don't have to have a label to be special. 🫂
Gunna piss off some people with this comment but it's fine. There's no such thing as sis, you're normal. If you're straight then you are just fine don't let people who don't know what they want themselves question what you are attracted to.
I appreciate how transparent Brett is and how honest about her life.
Why does she look female Ben shapiro?
@@slayrNebulousmaybe she is lmao
@@slayrNebulousidk go ask her
Crazy that I'm coming across this video now and so glad you talked about the struggle of someone you're close to dying at a young age. My closest friend growing up for many years through elementary school, everyone knew he had a heart condition, but I never once saw it interfere with his passion for playing the drums and football. I then moved a little bit away, went to a different school. We still stayed in touch and hang out when we could, birthdays, etc. I went with my family to Disney which just so happened to be when his birthday was, so I had to miss it, but I was so excited to give him his present when I got back. My parents had to break the news to me that he had a cardiac arrest while in gym class the day after his 12th birthday. And I was broken, that was the first person really close to me that I had experienced their passing, up until that time, no close family of mine had passed, so I never experienced that. Years passed and I always said I'd go visit his grave, but the timing never lined up. I went off to college and moved states for work, so it got even harder to find the chance. This past weekend, I had a friend's wedding back home. On our way to fly back, my girlfriend came with me to pay my respects to my first best friend on what would've been his 25th birthday, September 29th. Through his story, his mom started the Jeremy Hebert Defibrillator Fund that raises money every year to make sure every school in our parish has an AED/defibrillator. Rest in peace Jeremy, you touched the hearts and were loved by so many. I miss you bud.
I watched Brett's reaction to the girls first and you can definitely see just how much more honest these guys were. Part of the reason was taking at least some of the accountability for their own lives. The girls were definitely blaming everything on everyone else... and tbh, I'm not shocked.
There's a girl version? Lol I can't wait to see how self absorbed they're gonna be judging by your comment
Even if they are blaming other people don’t trash on it
I just came from that one. Every answer was given from a point of their perceived victimhood.
@@froliczreflex6001 not trashing on it. Just pointing out how much there is a victim mentality rather than accountability
@@theceltbeserk1 Tru. Honestly it's not really their fault bc kids don't raise themselves
As a 14-year-old boy THANK YOU for bringing these issues to light this is a real issue. the pressure of sexuality from society is unreal
When I was growing up in the 90's, not that long ago, sexuality was not really brought up that much other than in jokes and such. Now it appears it has become the main talking point/identity of most children in schools which is beyond strange to me. And this was obviously forced on them by older perverts/weirdoes. Sure, it's part of life but I don't believe it's healthy to obsess about it and try to force an identity based on it, especially while kids are growing up and their hormones are going crazy! My advice is stay a virgin Chad until you get married to the right girl/woman for the best long-term happiness/success.
im 26 now but i was like the timid scared teenager, i was innocent and didnt know how to talk to girls etc school was horrible due to the peer pressure to get involved in such things at a young age, best advice i can give you is focus on education, grades etc and dont ever chase or force relationships. all things come to those who wait regarding relationships and love, the right time will come with the right person, it may take 5 or 10 years but it'll come. do not ever feel pressured or threatened by people who try to drag you for not being a women chaser.
As a fellow 14yo, and as a female, we exist, we want to give you a little ray of hope for these problems you have. We hear you. *I* hear you. And it breaks my heart that it seems like no one cares or wants to hear what you say. Keep going my brother, you have so much to live for.
It mostly goes away when you get older. At young ages, all through high school and college it was a social pressure to have sex, but as you get older it goes away for the most part, and people stop caring.
🌈 lol 😂
Did not expect this to be so heavy and heartfelt - well done to those lads and to Brett.
Fr even tho their faces where censored n stuff it still takes a certain amount of courage to go in front of the camera like that
@@J.I.D.999 Yep, I agree.
If me and the boys were 100% honest we would have gotten thousands of life sentences
I’m 16 and often feel pressure about being a Christian. I realize that if I stick to my beliefs it makes me feel better in the long run. Saying that some of the questions in this video keep me awake at night. Even though I have morals it’s hard to stick to them and many of these questions showed me I need to reprioritize. No regrets, hopefully!
Praying for you brother. God is with you. Surround yourself with other believers and keep digging into the word!
Thank you very much!
Lol the atheist kids are the ones that people stay away from at my school we're in the south
I agree with Isaiah. I’ll be praying for you too. The biggest things are surrounding yourself with like minded believers and staying in the word. You’re probably about to head out to college, so make it your priority to find a solid church wherever you go, and get involved in campus ministries too.
Mathew 5:12
The first question of the video really spoke to me. I'm 18, and I've been struggling with a porn addiction for 8 years. Yes, I discovered porn when I was 10 years old. I was an Ipad kid with unrestricted access to the internet in ALL it's forms. It took hold of me in a vice grip, and it just wouldn't let go. As the years went on, my overall life situation got incomparably worse, and so I leaned on porn and masturbation as a crutch, and it just spiraled from there.
One of the guys talked about how you need more extreme material to get off as time goes on because the regular stuff doesn't do it for you anymore, and that really hit the nail on the head. The material goes from real people shooting pornos, to cartoon porn and hentai, and it only gets so so much worse from there. Things that'd you'd never even considered to be erotic start becoming slightly erotic, and then outright erotic, and then VERY erotic. You start imagining innocent media/situations in a perverted manner. Fetishes that you didn't have previously start to rear their ugly heads, and suddenly without any warning, you start falling into the deep end.
The taboo fetishes. The worst of the worst. Your mind becomes so disgustingly twisted by this addiction, and you fall deeper and deeper until you finally hit the bottom of a very deep and very DARK well. And when the dopamine runs out, and you come out of that porn addled haze, all you're left with is the crushing feeling of guilt and self-loathing. You feel as if you're lesser than human, like you're a monster. You hate no-one more than who you see in the mirror.
And yet you always end up coming back for more.
And so the cycle repeats.
I'm fighting, but it just gets so hard... The siren song of pornography, like any other addiction, is a constant nagging pull that slowly yet surely whittles down your will to resist. Especially when you're stressed out. I've been getting better, but it's a constant internal struggle. I'm at war with myself, and have been for the past 3 years since I started trying to break free.
Porn was a mistake, and my innocence was stolen from me. Now I get to face the consequences.
Don’t give up man and lean on God’s grace so you can have the strength to fight it.
@@beatrizcorrea5618 I won't. I pray to the lord for strength so that I can continue to fight my demons.
So sorry to hear about your struggle. Don’t give up and keep fighting. Go forward as the defender of innocence and take what you have learned to help others
This is honestly so raw and open and I love it. It's so hard to be vulnerable to people these days, so the fact that you can post this comment despite all the self hatred is just so awesome to me. I understand the struggle of going back to something that will hurt you, and what I find helpful is listening to music or distracting myself, if that doesn't help I open up my Bible app and just hit play wherever I left off last. It's a very difficult battle and it's hard to talk about, but I am so proud of you for trying to break the pattern, overcome, and grow, as well as leaving this here for other people to understand and be encouraged. Thank you for having the courage to be honest, and I truly hope you win this battle and realize that it's alright to be human, but living for God is about being more than just human. You got this. If you need support you can respond to me and I can give you contacts. God bless you hun, Jesus loves you and so do I ❤
@@alli_ocat Thank you so much... I've been praying to the lord for strength to help fight my demons and telling very close friends about my predicament to set up a support system.
It's been a real hard struggle. Every day it's like I'm engaged in a battle of wits with the devil himself, trying to deny the intrusive thoughts that barge their way in. Each one more visceral and tempting than the last.
"If I'm struggling this much, I may as well give up and wait until I'm in a better place."
"What if I just give in? wear it out so that it's no longer appealing? Maybe that'll work..."
"It doesn't really matter, does it? I mean, none of it's real, none of it's hurting anyone..."
These are the kind of thoughts I get on a daily basis, thoughts that only last until post-nut clarity and I realize the gravity of my mistake.
But I've been doing it. Day in, day out. Fighting the good fight so that I can feel deserving of god's love and the love of those around me, and finally feel clean, free from all this corruption.
“It is ok to be both strong and feminine.” I wish someone had been there to say that to me as a teenager. You're such an awesome influence, Brett. I'm a mom now and you give me hope for the future.
The "it's ok phrase" is always associated with accepting weakness and bad behavior
Wrong, not in Brett's case and many others. Grow a brain, Phil K. @@phillipkleopas7230
@@phillipkleopas7230If you think acceptance is bad, than I suppose accepting you into school to teach you how to speak was also a bad idea.
@@poliznia Accepting weakness and bad behavior can not be compared to accepting someone in school
@@phillipkleopas7230does’t mean its always though
Never before have I seen a more sincere heartfelt video. Wow! What you said about death and survivors guilt hit home like nothing else.
Recently we buried a family friend who was like a second sister to me and who had the same heart failure as I did but when mine happened saved my life. Because I got light headed every time I put on a mask during Covid I had to go to the ER where they instantly realized the severity of the problem as soon as they tried checking my vitals signs and the numbers indicated I was dying. After some tests I was put on life support before being transferred to a higher level facility for ICU life support in an ambulance with a whole team of nurses to keep me stable. At the time I didn’t realize how critical the condition of my organs was. If the 20 minute transfer was not done precisely correctly I might have not made it to the ICU. The doctor there said if I was a day or two later getting help that there’s nothing that could have been done. With a week of ICU care and 24/7 medications I survived and was discharged with many follow up meds. My friend however went on walking around after her heart attack that she probably didn’t feel either. (It’s not always dramatic/painful or even observable and many patients don’t die instantly but without timely medical help they will die.) Well because I had to wear masks I was forced into going to the hospital very soon after the event, saving me. My friend just went about life with her son and daughter then later a stranger found her unresponsive. She was in the hospital but a few days too late. When my dad called to tell me she passed I was getting groceries and started sobbing instantly. The kindest strangers; a woman and her teenage daughter came over and comforted me. Humans can be so beautifully kind and I don’t think that’s highlighted enough. I grieved her loss but couldn’t shake the guilt. It’s not fair to her was all I could think. Sobbing every day for weeks after her death. Then I found a refined determination to positively change the world we live in while I still have the privilege of waking to see another day. Expand my understanding of fellow humans especially those with opposing view points. Live intentionally not just with integrity. Stand for the vulnerable. Love fiercely.
Honestly my new favorite channel.
You better do an "If Teen Girls Were 100% Honest" reaction video next to keep things fair Brett lol
Edit: She actually DID do it! Everyone definitely had doubts, and I know I certainly did too! Thanks for all the likes by the way!
Fr lol
No then she would have to do the 100 gther genders. Ha ha
This should be done lol
@@thetechboyorg lmfao
@@thetechboyorg
Why? There are just 2 sexes, and 2 genders.
I am a male 26 - I did not realise until recently how messed up my situation was in terms of porn usage. If porn could kill like any other drug, then I would have died 1000 times over due to overdose.
If I trace back to where it all began I think much of it had to do with me being a social misfit in high school. Porn was a zone where I felt I could relax be safe and virtually appease my self. Whenever I had a tough day or an uncomfortable experience I would run straight back to porn. Turns out this has just fked up my neuron system, and much of my brain. I used to think i was always different and special than every one hence I never felt the need to make an effort to socialise, but turns out i was just sick. More over, Instant Gratification has been ingrained deep into my system after almost a decade of porn usage. This i feel personally is the biggest damage to a person that porn can do. For it takes away the ability of a person to put in long hours of work for a prolonged period of time, resulting which one cannot escape mediocrity as the person completely lack any experience of being uncomfortable and yet pushing on.
But I am taking steps to recovery, we all got our demons to fight, I guess this ones mine. Never have I openly admitted to porn usage to anyone or anywhere, let alone talk about it, but I guess it's time we take cognisance of how devastating inculcating this behavior is.
This video just assured me that porn is a real threat as against what my mind tells me from time to time. Thank you, whoever you are. never seen you before, but I guess I needed it. :)
A partner's body is just so much better when you are not under the numbing effect of porn.. Every good thing becomes toxic if you over do it.
Man wrote an entire 7 million word essay of porn
I sick and tired of it too buddy. Two days ago I swore to myself to not m@sturbate but today I ended up watching porn and m@sturbating.
I hate myself for not being able to control myself, It hadn't been a decade for me, but it has been half a decade.
Anything you wanna share on how to get rid of this addiction?
@@draco_lich find other things to do like going outside
@@draco_lich Me too, I have tried, but failed yet am trying everyday. At best what i realised contemplating on this addiction and how it attacks is that as soon as I hit my triggers, my brain autopilots into this storm of urge to consume porn, the goal being unnatural amount of dopamine release.
So what I am currently trying to do is, avoid triggers like staying up late, soft porn content etc, and I am also trying to replace that habit of porn for dopamine, with exercise and prolly a journal where I can write for better clarity. You know something that makes me feel good about myself.
However, I can only talk about things that I have gone through buddy, you will have to sit with yourself and contemplate at a much deeper level and experiment with what works and what doesn't. You can also got professional help.
I do recommend the book ''Power of habit'' I am also in the middle of it and have found some answers there, I hope it will be of some help to you too.
All the best brother, you are not the only one.
“It is OK to be both strong and woman” Brett, your mother is fantastic
On the inverse, I was taught it is OK to be both sensitive and emotive and a man. Good parents are gold.
Don’t forget butch & weak! That’s always a good combo too
@@funkyjbass7762 that is not okay bro, imagine you and your gf gets caught in a bad situation and you got all emotional and started crying........
emotions cloud reason . stay strong bro don't listen to your parents.
@@m3gad3ath Your pathetic, you don't know the difference between "emotive" and "emotional"? You think the only demonstration of emotion is "crying"? That is what is not ok.
And I don't have to "imagine". When my wife was going through chemo I was both strong for her when she needed it, and emotive with her and empathetic. And cried with her. And you know what? that was OK. But I am sure your girlfriend will respond well in the same situation when you tell her to toughen up and take her concrete pill.
And I am not your bro. I would be ashamed to be your bro.
@@m3gad3ath that's not what he meant. And we don't have that kind of protection duty to our girlfriends. Not anymore, not since feminism. The right thing to do is to be the way the situation calls for. If the situation calls for protection of you and your gf and the task falls on you then you shouldn't be sensitive and emotive, you have to gather all your strength and confidence and get yourselves out of danger. But when it's been a long day and you need to let the steam out, bottling it up because "what if this specific thing happens and I turn into a baby" will just make you break one day. Emotions can sometimes cloud reason. You are right in that. But emotions are also human nature, and we NEED to embrace them if we want to lead happy lives. Don't fall victim to toxic masculinity. Stay strong yourself.
I feel like the best part of this episode was hearing your responses. I resonated with a lot of the things that you said.
7:28
I can 100% relate. I don’t open up to women because they interpret it as insecurity. And it really tears you apart because at some point you realize you desperately want to open up to someone, but you can’t because you need to be strong, and if your not strong the world tears you apart more.
That s why you open up with your boys man
Like Tate said confide in your bros, or a family member like an Uncle you respect and trust. Guys will give good advice without judgment
It’s also due to the fact that men often don’t fight back when deciding to open up on their issues when dealing with jerks that want to mock or antagonize for being “weak” I'd say the moment that happens you smack/hit them for even laughing at you, if more men did this then people would learn to take us seriously when discussing our problems.
Only woman you can let everything out with is your mom.
I hate when I cry it makes me feel awful and spiteful
I was in a friend group with people who were not afraid to speak their mind with anyone. They eventually said their opinion on feminism and the LGBTQ+ community and two people found their opinion offensive. They got all of their friend group together and sent at least 10 reports to the front office for hate speech and all of them got suspended except for me because everyone thinks I am gay even though I have been in relationships with women and say a lot that I am not attracted to men. These communities that are "oppressed" have been able to create lies out of thin air to get my friends suspended, an act that is shown on the permanent record, because they stated their opinion and their experiences. Lets hope that people soon realize that everyone matters and we should not view anyone in a more positive or negative way because of their race or sexuality so we don't have to worry about being pushed to be one thing or be scared to speak your mind because of fear of being cancelled.
That sucks, it is honestly depressing that you can't share your opinion, even with respect. This really shows who is the real "oppressed" group.
Also, why do they think you are gay? Doesn't make any sense, but at least you didn't get suspended.
And one last thing, really sucks that schools are that way now, mine would have not suspended your friends, and isntead really search what happened, they have never taken serious consequences on someone without proper investigation. I am lucky to be in a good school.
Just more reason to NEVER hang out with any sort of rainbow person. Just rats looking to mess with everyone else. We need to go back to NOT including them in everything.
I was also always thought of as gay even though I repeatedly expressed I was not.
Hell I'm gay and nobody suspected a thing until last year where I changed my attitude to be more effeminate. My sister would even argue that I'm homophobic and whatnot because I didn't support the LGBT, I secretly just didn't want to be associated with the cringe I saw irl and online.
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As a mom of soon to be teenage boys, this was very insightful. I always say that they can talk to me about anything and ask me any questions and I have talked about puberty and sex with them honestly (I tried to both stay age appropriate but also tell them before they find out incorrect information from another source) and they're not shy about discussing it with me. This has given me a few more things that I think they should know before they get told misleading information from media or misinformed friends. I'd rather them be in their late teens before needing to have these conversations, but the world is moving too fast nowadays. They should still be children without these types of pressures.
make sure they don't get in to porn AT ALL
@@mreli_ It's gonna happen anyways 99% of the time
@@tin0theguy yeah agreed but it's important that they know what it is, how to avoid it, what watching it could do, etc.
99% of teens are told they can talk to their parents and they don't talk to their parents anyways. If you managed to raise your boys to want to open up to you about anything you're a really good parent. They will hide things but I'm sure someone like you can find a solution.
Realistically they won’t 🤷♂️
Dude it's so good to just think through these questions as a teen boy. Just making me see things that happen to me in school that I brush off instead of handling it in a healthy way.
It's been almost a decade since I was a teenage boy. As an adult man, these things never really go away. I've known men my age and older who still wrestle with these issues. I still wrestle with them occasionally. As I get older I think about death more and I'm not what I would consider old yet. These are human issues that never go away and I'm glad more people are talking about these things.
I'm impressed. These boys were all very well-spoken and intelligent in their responses. As a woman I actually generally care more about men's issues than women's issues these days.
Men created “men’s issues” because they dislike playing on a level playing field and they resent the consequences of their own perversion. Please try to remember and understand that ALL of this was brought on by old men attempting to normalize pedophilia and “free sex”. They want it all, for themselves.
Damn, your husband is a lucky man
Lmaoooo okay Pearl
That's pretty sexist ngl
Society doesn’t care about men’s issues
Im a female teen and this video helps see that there is still people that think the same as me. It also makes me sad because if I say these thoughts at school I will be hated and I cannot have my own opinion in my generation. Thank you for letting me have this freedom Brett 😊
Be proud and I know it‘s hard, but try to speak your mind. All of us being vulnerable and truthful is the only way out of this misery!
As an EX Adult ⭐ say it!! Use these videos. Ur not alone
Hey don't say generation because this is only happening in certain countries, everywhere else as freedom of speech
Bro I think I am watching too much attack on titan, I read Female Titan at the start.
Just know, 5 years after school, you will only see a handful of those same people from school. Dont worry about what they think. Be nice, respectful, but f--- 'em.
I just wanted to say as a silent viewer, I strongly admire you and your view points and the way you highlight certain topics especially with videos like this. It makes me feel heard and makes me feel like i’m not singled out as far as my thought process and my view on life cause it’s hard in today’s society to be your true authentic self without some form of persecution and/or backlash regardless of who you are as a human being. i just wanted to say thank you and i enjoy watching and listening to your channel. ❤️
Hey Brett I’m a 14 yr old dude going into high school and I just wanted to say that the stuff that you say and do and the way you carry yourself is really inspiring. I’m goin through some stuff rn and I just wanted to say that you ARE making a difference on ppl like me and to give you some motivation to keep going.
Agreed!
agreed
Hang in there kiddo. I promise it gets better. “This too shall pass.” You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and a great perspective of life. You got this sweetheart! Your generation is going to guide my elderly years!❤
Keep pushing bro, you got this!
You got this
Being a youth pastor for 5 years, I have come to find out that 90% of my students will openly admit they watch porn. Fighting this is the hardest thing to do because parents and other youth don’t care. It becomes a personal battle that students don’t care to fight. Hard to fight when you have no support.
Hey there, I'm a teenager who has struggled with a similar issue, and just a bit of advice is to tell them whenever they feel like going back to [insert bad habit here], open their music and listen to worship, open their bibles and press play, or just simply sit down and think (no phone, no music, just sit and be) about everything. Who they want to become. Where they want to go. How they want to live. That kind of stuff. Also pray with them and break off addictions and generational curses, because addiction can 100% be a generational curse. That's all, let me know if any of this helps :)
God bless, Jesus loves you, and so do I ❤
You could bring up some health benefits
If not watching Porn/masterbating and talk to them about how they want their future to go, be honest and say, hey porn won’t ruin all your lives but without it, it does make life easier, you’re more motivated, you
Don’t develope as much or as bad acne, you get more things done, you get more Out of life and you will find a gf quicker. (You can look up more health benefits but the important thing is, shoot straight with them. Don’t try to fear monger them but rather show them the grass is infact greener, so even if you don’t stop completely, narrow it down to like 1 day a week.
i was atheist i turned to god and he helped guide me in the right direction to stop this addiction, i heard someone say once porn is like a drug that is in your pocket at all time
some have problems with it. some do not. It is important that it exists but we need to learn to engage with it in a healthy manner and leave it up to the individual to define what that is based on their ethics, morals, goals and desires.
And they will argue that theres nothing wrong with it and that its not harming them, because they are addicts. While we can see that its damaging their mental response to natural things and ruining their expectations of real people and real life.
As a mom, I'm sending you a BIG THANK YOU. This video and your commentary was excellent.
FACTS
Ew boy mom
20:08 take a step back and listen to what she said "seemingly oppressed class of people have so much sway" very important statement.
I eventually gave up on relationships because girls were not interested in knowing the real me. They want me to act masculine and play their fantasy role. I had a girlfriend for 3 months and one day she said I never talk about myself. So I did. Then she broke up with me. That day. This is why men don't open up.
I'm so sorry to hear that. If she broke up with you for opening up, it just means she is not mature enough. You deserve a woman who is willing to listen and allows you to be vulnerable. And I'm sure you will find her someday. God bless you :)
Not all girls are like that remember
If there are shitty people, there will always be the opposite too.
1. I love that your name is Brett
2. You will find someone one day that will give you their heart and soul. My bf was completely hopeless and broken for 4 years being single until we found each other. The same will happen for you
It's the fantasy role comment that I really resonate with. Looking back when I was in my early 20s, myself, and my friends would put these 'perfect' relationships on a pedestal and the men had the pressure to make me happy. I expected my partner to know how I was feeling, to see the world as I did and to know exactly what I wanted them to do at every point of the day (and sometimes still fall into this urge in my 30s). It's fucking EXHUASTING and a huge pressure on men.
I don't know how old you are, or where you are at in life. But people do come to the realisation that love is hard, it's work and it's something you have to continously decide to love this person you're with. Through the hard times and the good times. You've got to be willing to be reflective and accountable. It's hard work.
I hope you heal and find people to spend your time with who make your life fun, safe and purposeful.
i like how supportive these guys are for eachother. tough subjects but no judgement
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo I don't know that I necessarily have an answer to your question, however I can absolutely say that you are not alone in feeling this way. I personally struggle with being overly self conscious. I overthink a lot and I also have an urge to be understood as well as liked. Unfortunately, what that means is that, as you said, I always mold myself into what I think the situation demands me to be. This then has the unwanted side effect of me feeling as though I don't truely know who I am as a person. I overthink my response so much that I lose sight of what my genuine reaction might be. I think there is some comfort in that everyone deals with this on some level. Of course, there are those who struggle more and maybe that is you. Not great to hear but we all have things that come easier or harder to us than others. Everyone has a shadow side and our society has grown to avoid and criticize this behavior as not being something that is natural. Personally I find that aggressive sports, activities or music provides a safe space to experiment with your harsher side. :) Love the comment!
@@NoahSmith-uh9wowell when u go into new environments or meet new people u usually have comfortability levels so like u would start like at 0 so u would completely be uptight and nervous and usually have like a mask to put on to present ur self to progressively get more comfortable with that certain someone or environment, usally u have to spend more time with the thing u fake things to see the real thing and then u can decide on whether u take off ur mask or not
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@@NoahSmith-uh9woI personally (I emphasize on the personally here, because I don't speak for all guys) feel the exact same thing, but with less negative side affects in a sense. For me, I know who I am, and only I know who I am. The thought that nobody knows a lot about me doesn't bother me, so that may inadvertently lead to less negative effects you so describe with things like identity, which is a pretty major issue in my opinion. I don't exactly know how to put this, but my advice is to let your mind rest. I felt the best innerly when I wasn't constrained by so many rules and social norms that I finally just let myself be who I naturally am to myself. And my identity is hidden, locked into my mind, and no one can physically and completely see through me. So, I could go on with putting up a front of what could get me through a certain social situation with more mental ease. Or outright just not put up a front, become a jerk pulling middle fingers to anyone aforementioned jerk mildly dislikes, after all all you spur is a minor annoyance to those people anyway. Suppose there is a joy in being disrespectful and free like that.
I'm 17-year-old Catholic male, and I knew going into college that people wouldn't like me for that. I had vastly underestimated just how much the system despises people like me. I have barely even tried making friends in my classes because some of my professors have spewed some of the most hateful rhetoric in the nicest and gentlest of tones, and a majority of my classmates were lapping it up. I feel socially abandoned because I feel like I can't say what I really think or else face social rejection, or worse, academic punishment that I cannot fight. I spend hours upon hours in my bed at night wondering if I can ever get the chance to be supported or validated by my peers.
Worst of all is that I have no doubt that I'm one of the least severe cases. There are millions of men across the country and the world who have been told by society that they have no purpose, and it pains me to think that so many people who could amount to so much have been reduced to depressed, suicidal shells of themselves.
Thanks for bringing some of the struggles of these people to your audience, the dark side of this modern culture really needs to be brought to light.
Sorry you're going through that, friend. I'm also Catholic and considering university. I'm having to pick and choose carefully though, because I'm afraid I would get poor grades from liberal professors if I was honest and true to my faith. I can't imagine how much harder it must be for guys. Stay strong, God is on your side.
As a sophomore in college who happens to be an atheist, key phrase on “happens to be,” if you focus so much on that aspect of yourself, the thoughts you’re having now might actually happen. I’m not saying to drop your faith. If that’s something you find to be a strong suit of yours, keep it near and dear, but don’t use it as an emotional or mental block in finding friends and peers that you can trust. Hell, I’ve got friends who have the complete opposite views on a lot if not almost everything, but their beliefs aren’t what I focus on, it’s their general personality, their actions, how they are around others. One’s thought process should not be the “be all, end all” for a relationship. It could end up being the core of it, but the reality is: people aren’t going to give a shit if you’re a part of any form of any religion unless you use that as your basis for getting to know people. Just relax, find the place that best suits you in terms of program, location, and general faculty, and just be a generally good person. I don’t promise sunshine and rainbows, but I will say to follow this advice to some degree. In the end the decision is yours, just don’t let what you believe in block you from relations and opportunities that can benefit you for the future
When I was in college, I sought out The Newman Center. If you’re not familiar with it, it is a Catholic organization at universities. Fr. John Newman is it’s namesake. I made Mass also. Many times with my Newman friends. It kept me grounded. You’d be surprised how many fellow Catholics there are on campus - especially at Easter. Good luck!
You know that no one cares that you’re catholic
@@samuelcharles7642I do. It seems you do too, since you're triggered by it
Im gonna be honest, im a 15 year old who watches your videos for two reasons, 1 obviously your pretty, a normal guy can't ignore it and 2 you agree with most, straight, men you agree with us on women, feminism, and worlds problems.
I can definitely say that young people are being peer pressured about their sexuality. I'm a teenage girl and growing up I was very masculine. I didnt want to go out and paint my nail and do my makeup, I wanted to go outside in the mud and play basketball and football with my male friends. I was like this throughout elementary but once I got into middle school, people were shocked that I was straight and would say things like, "Wait you're straight?! No way! I thought you were gay haha!" and I would hear this with about every person I've met and it made me question who I was with my sexuality.
Its also made me feel very insecure about myself because I feel like I'm not 'feminine enough' and being like this has made me scared about being in a relationship.
One time I had a crush on a male friend and when I told him, he did the classic "I thought you were gay" card. It has made me feel very insecure about myself, and I'm sure other girls like me can understand.
Same. But I also had a longtime boyfriend of like 3 years from the beginning of 6th grade until like the end of 8th and so many ppl thought that I was gay bcs I didn’t chase after guys. I was very loyal and even when I thought a guy was cute, I wouldn’t say anything. When we finally broke up and I started dating other ppl, so many ppl were like ‘wait you’re not gay?’ and I was just like damn. That shit hurts when you’re straight
@@hboudreaux66 ikr. people js dont understand how much it hurts
You have to understand they all thought you were gay because that was the image you put out as a tomboy it would be the same if a guy dresses all feminine and acts girly but is straight everyone would think he is gay so be careful how you portray yourself to people if you don't want them to think a certain way of you
@@badcrysis1349 I know, but that was just me expressing myself with the things that I liked/didn't like. just because it's the typical norm for someone whose gay to like this this and this, doesn't mean that they are. I feel like people shouldn't judge other people just because they "think" they're gay or not. I think that's very rude
As a guy who sucked at and had no interest in ball sports but hiked, biked, x country ski, canoe, I have always been attracted to Tomboys.
As a woman who's boyfriend struggled with porn most of his life. His *parents* introduced him at 6 years old. It really messed him up. We've been dating almost a year, and I've known him almost two. It's been only in the past 6 or 7 months, that hes fully recovered from his addiction. It's been a struggle for us in our relationship because of the skewed view of love and connection. He's doing better, and we are thankfully as well. Now we are strongly considering marriage within the next year or so, and are so much more close due to his journey.
But, I agree with Brett and the one who mentioned that young people don't have the right education of sex and of how porn affects your brain. For this reason I will be homeschooling my kids, so that the school system cannot miseducate them.
For those who might be watching who struggle with p*rn (male or female) and want to quit, but cant seem to, remember you cant stop an addiction over night, and certainly not by yourself, find someone that you can trust to check up on you,
I strongly suggest the app Covenant Eyes, which is screen monitoring, which only flags explicit content.
There is hope for victory for you, keep pushing forward!
(And for anyone who thinks porn isnt a problem or addiction, LOOK UP the studies done on how it affects your sex drive, mental health, and self confidence. If you dont think its a problem, chances are, youre so far into your addiction youre just trying to justify. again, take it from someone who has been affected by someone *elses* use in porn.)
oh my gosh. 6 years old? by themselves? what were they thinking?
You need to know someone way longer than 2 years before you get married, don’t consider marrying each other yet, you need 5 years at least and you also have to have lived together for at least 2 years id say.
@@Sonof_DRN2004 you’re silly. If you don’t know that you want to get married to someone after a year then you should move on. Relationships where the partners lived together before marriage also are more likely to divorce
@@Sonof_DRN2004 You've been brainwashed by the media. Usually a guy knows whether he wants to marry a woman or not after 6 months. 2 years is actually a close off point. If a guy doesn't propose to you after 2 years then that means he isn't treating the relationship seriously (as is the woman, likely). Your grandmas and grandpas used to marry and didn't wait 2 years let alone 5, they didn't have to live with each other either.
This is how feminism has brainwashed women and men. It's created these insane trends like "Wait 5 years and live with him" based on no success rate. 2 years is a sign to leave. Women can't put a pause on their youth and fertility. Right now they're both acting like they're working through things but both will actually go on to later show resentment and that's how divorces happen.
If you want what's best for the man and for yourself you're gonna have to let him go. There's no reason to know someone this long in your adulthood and not get married. It sounds like this guy is a liability to your marriage and I say find a guy who wants you to be your wife now. Otherwise things could get bad and lead to divorce. Divorce is a good way to ruin a man and your children. Leave now before things get any more serious. Or else you're the type who preys on and exploits weak men because you can't find a strong one since you don't want to be feminine enough.
I’m so happy that these young men got to safely talk about what they genuinely go through, I hope this lets other guys know that they’re not alone
I am a 52 year old Autistic Father, I have seen this in my kids, well young adults now, but i used to feel like ah this is nothing new, your ok, i was wrong. i am not saying that bullying is new, but now we have the added if you don't go with the group you get shamed, canceled, and torn down. this adds another dynamic that makes it even harder to be open and honest, or different. I remember being bullied, and what i went through because of my disability, but at the end of the day i could go home and be safe. now with the world connectivity of the internet, gaming culture, influencers, ect. it is much more difficult to block out any negative thought upon yourself. Even my kids deal with loneliness, body image, and self esteem. even though they know they are loved, excepted and cherished by my wife and i. it breaks my heart to see this. So glad that some are taking a real stand and showing the truth of the life of a modern teen.
One thing the Marines taught me was, that I can conform to standards without losing myself or my integrity. Peer presure only works if you care about people liking you. Funny thing is, as long as you put yourself out to help others as much as you can, they will like you, even if they don't agree with you.
Everyone at my new job has come to respect me because of my work ethic except the one person that thinks being clocked in is "working." It doesn't help that looks play apart in getting away with this mentality.
The thing is also what people do you want to like you. If you have to give in to peer pressure to be liked, maybe you don't want to be liked by those people. It's hard if you are confined to a certain group of people you didn't choose like in school but we all eventually grow up and are free to choose who we want in our life.
Brett’s life is a real tear jerker. I find that most of the best content creators have gone through mental health struggles.
Yup. I guess that such pain can make the strongest people
Yup. Often the kindest hearted people have gone through the worst things
Disease can be a chance to overcome oneself.
Can't sharpen a sword without friction. She is sharp as a tack and is so intelligent
Wait what dad she go through? 😔
Your comments are so spot on, I wish everyone finds your channel and listens to this!
I am watching this a year after release… this is something I needed, because it is making me realize I am just as human as every guy here.
I have let those around me guide so much, I am slowly unbecoming of the person I have been working towards through similar experiences.
Fellow 21 year old here. Your story about your brother reminded me of a similar experience I had back in 2016 when two twins (both aged 17) who were great friends with my older brother suddenly and unexpectedly passed away in a freak accident that also left several other people seriously injured. This event had a massive impact on our entire community. I remember the day after the incident, when the news finally trickled in that they had both died, my brother immediately retreated to his room and I could hear him crying audibly into his pillow. He was not only great friends with them, but he had talked with the twins the previous night, right before they left with others to the location where they died, and they had even asked him to come with them. I can't imagine how something like that affects a person, but I do know that this is the only time I have ever seen my older brother cry.
The twins' parents were major members of our church and went to the same school as my brother and I, so in the following years I couldn't really escape the fact that they were gone. Even years later, although their deaths didn't have quite the same personal effect on me when I reached the age of 17, the image of the twins on the funeral brochure and the scene of my brother crying are things which are permanently cemented in my mind.
Death is something whose effects are difficult to fully quantify, let alone predict, and it can happen so suddenly that there's no time to prepare. I have tried to come to terms with the fact that death can happen at any time, but it's still impossible to imagine how it would feel if it actually happened. My faith tells me that the afterlife is nothing for me to fear, but there's still a lot I would like to accomplish in my life and a lot ahead for me to experience, so I hope that it comes later rather than sooner.
Regardless, thank you for sharing your experience with death and I hope this comment gives you some small amount of extra... (I can't find the word I'm looking for so I'm going with the closest I can conceive) ...encouragement.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry for you and your brothers loss. I pray for you and everyone involved. I can’t imagine what that must have been like to go through
Question 2 really hits home. I believe that most men feel trapped in a world where we can't do anything right. The most mundane things as folding cloths or doing dishes isn't right for most women. Then men get complained at for just saying fuck it
Have you tried asking them, please show me how you would like it done? And not with a negative attitude. Remember a lot of women have been watching our moms do these jobs and helping her, since we were children, and moms give less leeway to girls.
Elle Bean, Consider this practical relationship advice: Just because it’s the way you accomplish a task it doesn’t make it the “right way” and it doesn’t make other ways “wrong”. Anyone who can’t get comfortable with that concept gets to do it themselves.
You just proved ops point
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exactly, if you're going to be extra fussy about something either do it yourself or get someone else to do it, because only you can do it the way you want.
@@brawndothethirstmutilator9848 see, you have a negative attitude already.
My boyfriend and I will talk like this and he'll say oh I do this because ... and often he's right and we'll compromise how we do things.
As a teenager I just was baptized in the Holy Spirit and had to let things out to a friend and I cried because the amount of loneliness and bullying that was lifted off of me
Awesome! Pursue the Lord Jesus Christ and find a good church - it will change your life
Great admiration for you man. God bless
take care
Weeping in the spirit is a thing that happens. I thought it was just performance art for attention when I was a deist. Since giving my life to Christ I have wept uncontrollably at the overwhelming presence of God several times and other people do the opposite and are so filled with joy that they start laughing and cannot stop even though nothing humorous is happening.
If you are open to the Spirit, then the Spirit will occasionally be so manifest that it short-circuits your brain trying to process the awe of it.
@@astrolight5000 They haven't told much about their bullying. It is very possible that they were bullied and outcasted for not being baptized
18:49 awww that must have been such a hard time for you. You are such a strong person.
Love your channel and videos xxx
I really appreciate how Brett is open about their thoughts and feelings. While being so well spoken. I’m autistic and I find it really hard to read what is not said explicitly. Had a few friendships and relationships that turned sour due to miscommunication and mental health issues. Hearing Brett speak her mind in a passionate yet respectful way is so refreshing. I hope she knows what a blessing she is to those around her.
I dont want to be weird or anything but something about bretts honestly and love and support just really feels real. Thanks a lot brett.
Brett’s an old soul and is mother material that what makes her so great
As a male teen, there is a lot of stuff we have to go through, even though some of this stuff I didn’t experience it is still somewhat relatable. I’m glad that I have The Lord to reassure me in my times of need.
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo Yes for me I do have a few people that I can trust and rely on in that way. Sometimes I have struggled with finding out who I am but that can take some time and it doesn’t meant just jumping to the first conclusion I make. I often look at my own attributes and take from those to define myself, for example, I really enjoy to draw, watch animated movies, write stories and do combat sports like martial arts and such. Those attributes I feel define my personality and who I am. For you it might be different. Sometimes I do change when I am around other people in terms of mood and personality to either impress them or maybe just to relate. But this is all just my opinion and this mostly comes from my own experience but by asking to is question you actually gave me quite a lot to think about so I thank you for that. God Bless!
@@NoahSmith-uh9woI have a few, but mainly for different purposes and reasons. It’s rough and things keep looking worse for us long term
same
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo no once I thought my friends were the ones to tell but it ended backfiring and I basically got blackmailed even though it wasn't an actual threat
And literally no one tells their parents their secrets
We definitely love u Brett, cause you are genuine, open to discussion and have a strong point of view!!!
every day is a struggle, the addiction is real, and the left is acting like it doesn't exist. It is a huge problem that many men including myself experience. Thank you for bringing this up Brett.
Indeed. A friend and I were discussing it last night. We came to the conclusion that, while banning porn would help, it is in itself not a solution, as it would merely be equivalent to treating a symptom, not the root cause. Furthermore, that root cause, we determined, was hookup culture. Porn is just there for those who can’t get in on the action of hookup culture. Neither is an adequate substitute for a healthy relationship. Hookup culture is a simulacrum, and porn is a simulacrum of a simulacrum.
Thus I proposed that a complete solution would have to include incentivizing and aiding people to pursue those healthy relationships.
porn is easy getting girls/women is hard.
At least that was the reason for me. And once you get with girls you arent even attracted to them anymore (all that while still wanting them).
To a bit lesser extend is to sleep with people out of your league (men: going to prostitutes; women: one night standing hot guys that would never want a relationship with you) it all just sets unrealistic standarts which you wont achieve nor are entitled to.
God can set you free
@@TheLaughingMan313 It can't be banned, and I wouldn't want it to be since I'm a fan lol. But no, it can't be banned any more than alcohol was.
@@TheLaughingMan313 do you think the lack of authenticity in our country was the cause of hook up culture or do you think hook up culture lead to the lack of authenticity?
8 minutes and 21 seconds into this video and I just had to stop and say that this is the most meaningful and necessary content ever posted in the history of the internet. Period. This should really be on top of everyone’s feed regardless of who you are or your background.
the fact that its literally safer for them to answer honestly when hiding their identity says enough
?? It's far easier/safer to be honest behind anonymity
@@QueryBuns he mean that the fact that they have to do this anonymously for them to be safe is very dissapointing
This is the case for literally every topic. Why do you think studies are anonymous?
The sad part is we have put so much weight on our physical identity that I don’t think this conversation could have happened if they could actually see each other.
To be honest while doing it anonymously yes, they feel like they’re in a safe space to speak honestly which is good. I mean for most questions that dwell into aspects in your life that are typically seen as embarrassing or shameful, or simply not comfortable to talk about it will be the case that people are going to be more open and honest when they’re anonymous.
As a male teenager, I think the pressure on you when you’re younger and more vulnerable is so prominent. During my elementary years I wasn’t the athletic, strong type of kid, so other male kids wouldn’t enjoy my presence, and I spent most of my time with girls and the influence it had on me going into middle school was really strong. I still have some female friends, but I still don’t think everyone at my school is quite comfortable with that concept.
i am a teen that is not very "sporty". I run a programming club. and I am friends with many people that are female. Its really scary sometimes.
Every time I learn more about Brett's backstory I just want to give her a hug. I can't imagine what it would have been like to grow up facing the challenges that she did.
Shes literally a TV star wasn't that hard
@@crazychase98 she lost her brother you goose. She literally expressed how hard her life was
@@crazychase98 Gatekeep much?
@@crazychase98 still painful to lose loved ones
@@crazychase98 she wasn't a TV star, she was a child actor.
Brett is so much wiser than 90% of adults nowadays
FR yeah
3:38 this broke my heart
My parents has constantly been suspicious of me being gay because I've never dated before, never have I ever questioned my sexuality I know what I'm. I'm straight I'm just not ready to fall in love yet. At the end of the day, you're the captain of your life ignore what other people think about you
Keep waiting for the right one and or be single, there is no shame in that either. Our culture is ALL about testing every fish out there and hyper romantic relationship. I only had two short relationships before I met my husband. I was 27 when I got married. It was a long wait but TOTALLY worth it. I love him more and more every year. This is what our culture should be encouraging.
Oh my god my mom was that way “it’s okay if you’re gay”
IM TRYING TO EST MY CEREAL ITS 8 IN THE MORNING
CAN I GOT A FEW HOURS WITHOUT BEING INDIRECTLY RIDICULED FOR NOT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Shit is weird when your parents try and get involved like that. No don’t get into my love/sex life. Respect boundaries
Most parents when I was growing up tried to keep their kids from dating as long as possible, usually against their wishes😂
My parents just would talk sense and make sure they knew how I felt about relationships, whether I was interested in dating, were logical with me about the purpose of dating and helped me to not lose my head as a teenager who didn't know what he was doing. Then I met who became my first girlfriend, and we got married at 19 and 21, things are going great!
Why would parents try and push relationships on their kids so early?!?
It is possible though that they just assumed you were hiding your relationships and feelings from them, so they were trying to connect with you and wanted to be able to communicate with you about relationships, so they were trying everything they thought might be the reason you weren't talking to them.
In my opinion, parents should have the type of relationship with their kids where their kids WANT to talk about relationships and stuff with their parents, and sadly most parents don't actually invest the time they need to to have that real relationship, they just try and force their way into those positions without doing the hard work of forming the relationship early on.
My parents might think the same...but I also just don't like to discuss which girls I find cute so when it's brought up I become very vague about it and that probably doesn't help. Yes, I like girls, yes, I have crushes, no I don't want to disclose the specifics.
Brett, I am a 17 year old guy and I want to say thank you so much for talking about this. It is very important that we acknowledge some of these problems.
I hope you're doing well buddy! You guys deserve to be happy. It makes me sad that you guys are coming of age during an era that hates your guts just for being male.
@@poogissploogis thank you
As a male teen, it is difficult just to exist, especially with all the bull crap that happens online and in real life, I’d be dead right now if I didn’t have Jesus
Amen to that brother. I feel you.
Amen brother ✝️
Same! I’ve never shared this, and some stuff I’m gonna say is so disgusting it hurts me to say but I think it’s a good testimony to show how bad and dangerous this stuff is. I always used to believe in “God” and would pray, and all that, but I was believing in a made up “God” in my head, the “God” I was believing in was not the biblical Jesus Christ, it was not God. Since I was around 10 I got addicted to porn, I actually told my mum because I genuinely thought something was wrong with my brain, I was watching stuff I knew was wrong and disgusting, but in a way I liked it. My mum explained how it’s wrong, that it’s normal for me to be curious but that what I was watching wasn’t good for me, and how it’s unethical and unhealthy to consume. After I would then continually try to stop watching but I would always end up going back to it. (Keep in mind I hadn’t even touched myself at this point because I didn’t know that was a thing but I was just watching it) then when I was 13 my friends were talking about masturbation (I can’t believe that was a topic especially at that age) but then I was like, “maybe I should try it”. After that I became completely addicted, doing it daily, sometimes multiple times a day, it was bad. I started getting to the point where I would delve into some disgusting and horrendous topics/fetishes (candid stuff of innocent people, farting, peeing, even pooing, I had seen animal stuff, everything! It was disgusting and my mind was corrupted beyond any self saving) then earlier this year I started delving deeper into trans stuff, and it got to the point that I was almost trying to manipulate my mind into being gay, it was like I was working myself up to watching gay stuff, but that was always the point where no matter what I just couldn’t sit through it, but I had become addicted to trans stuff, it was bad. It felt as if I was genuinely just looking for the most obscure and disgusting thing to possibly do it to, it was the lowest point of my life. At this point I was trying desperately to quit, but it was so bad that nothing was working, at this point I had already lost almost all my belief in a god, I had tried different philosophies and some would help but then would fail after a little while, at some point I was at my lowest point, and I just called on Jesus to save me, to help free me from my sin, and He did! Christ forgave me despite how disgusting I was, He saved me from the lowest I could go, He pulled me out of the darkness and lit up my path! Since then there have been times I’ve stumbled, but I am no longer ruled by my sin, I am on the path Christ is lighting before me, and He is my Lord and Saviour! Without Him I am nothing, without Him I would fall, without Him I was ruled by my flesh and by the dark kingdom, but Christ overcame all the darkness I was falling to, I was losing the battle with no sight of a way out, but Christ warded off ALL of the enemy, He saved me and I am forever grateful! My past self disgusts me, but I am reborn in Christ Jesus my Lord, my Saviour, my Redeemer, The King of the universe!
yup this is so true
you have at least not ben abandon by him like he did to me
That was the best show I’ve seen you do. So insightful and informative of challenges young men are facing today. ❤
Im a teen and i will say this. There is not only massive peer pressure, but pressure from the teachers themselves. At least in my district, they have little children learn about what it is to be trans, gay, lesbian and so on. They have pride flags on every wall, around every door. I often question the trans movement and why it is being introduced into schools, however whenever i question it i am told i need to stop thinking that way and that i am wrong. All of this is political, it is more akin to faith than anything else in my eyes. I once thought that i was above sex and dating, as i had no interest in it at the time [i was 12] and, when i said this, i was told that i was likely a asexual person, instead of a person who, oh i don't know, just wasn't interested in such things at the time? One time i asked my councilor, Why, if there are all of these dozens of pride flags and educational posters explaining how i need to stop being anti trans and anti gay, why there was nothing about traditional family values. The councilors response? "Well, everyone knows about that." I then asked, well, why is that? I was quickly expelled from the room, as she seemed fed up with me. Another teacher said, fully believing it, that making fun of a person's accent is "casual Racism" There are many many more examples of behavior such as this. They teach children what to think, not how to think about this stuff, and it is very bad, especially considering how people as young as 4-5 are now taught about this stuff. My little brother a perfect example. But, my mother, and father, biologically my grandparents, who are in their 60's have helped me not believe in this stuff.
Yeah, this is long, sorry, but it WAS your choice to read it.
And, i am often told that i am exaggerating this stuff, but i wish i was.
I wish I was exaggerating too man. I don't have much to say besides I wholeheartedly agree with you're perspective.
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the fact it happens at all is a problem and its far more common and more of a issue then you think just cause of your "special ass case" of not dealing with it at all dose not mean no one els does grow the hell up and do some damn research ffs its not hard to find this kind of behavior all over the internet
they really do tell you what to think not how to think for your selfs
just look at the numerous amount of hypocritical bastards all over internet who used to "fight" for femboys and tomboys but now say they dont exist they just trans people in waiting and if you dont agree your transphobic and sexist
happens all the damn time not hard to find but i guess you been living under a rock
If shit like this is what is happening across the pond, then you, my good friend, are a good person for mentioning this. there is nothing wrong with voicing ones story.
Stand strong and speak out. You'll often find that more people agree than you would think
This really needs to be illegal. These people are groomers who belong in prison.