Brett Reacts "If Teen Boys Were 100% Honest"
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It’s sad that we live in a world where these guys have to hide their identity entirely for being an honest person just so they aren’t ripped apart.
@I Love God Amen that would be a key component of hiding your identity
I say grow a pair , practice your right to free speech without a mask while you still can. If you don't like what I have to say then don't listen, but try to shut me up you'll be met with violence.
@I Love God Amen Are you dumb or are you dumb?
Very true, I stopped giving af long ago and I only focus on myself, my job & having fun if anything compromises that I don’t need it in my life
That's male privilege for you.
As a girl in high school and college, because I was not sexually active, people kept telling me I was asexual and I started to believe them. My mom was supportive and said my decision not to have sex isn't a sexual identity.
Praise your mom! 🎉 She’s right. It shows your maturity to wait for that part of your life. It doesn’t mean you’re a different gender identity.
W mom
@BklynGrl74 My mom is amazing. She raised my to be education and focused, so I was never interested while my friends were all sexually active. That never crossed their minds that I was just making a choice
So many people don't know what asexuality even is. It's got nothing to do with whether or not you have had sex or want it. Basically, it's how a straight person would react to a sexualised version of the same sex, and how a gay person would react to a sexualised version of the opposite sex: it's not sexually attractive. That's pretty much it. Though a lot of people are getting confused with being asexual when they're minors, like... thank god you're not messing around illegally? Or it's to do with hormone imbalances, mental/physical illnesses, etc. which prevent or alter arousal/attraction, which isn't a sexuality.
It feels like a lot of young people put on the asexuality label out of fear of not fitting it.
I was a late bloomer. I wasn't really interested in sex until my late 20s. But, when everyone around you is heavy into hooking up, serial monogamy and casual pornography you might feel like you're not keeping up.
If I was a Gen Z and didn't grow up with in a Christian home with a healthy view of sexuality, I probably would have questioned my sexuality, too.
As a male teen, it is difficult just to exist, especially with all the bull crap that happens online and in real life, I’d be dead right now if I didn’t have Jesus
Amen to that brother. I feel you.
Amen brother ✝️
Same! I’ve never shared this, and some stuff I’m gonna say is so disgusting it hurts me to say but I think it’s a good testimony to show how bad and dangerous this stuff is. I always used to believe in “God” and would pray, and all that, but I was believing in a made up “God” in my head, the “God” I was believing in was not the biblical Jesus Christ, it was not God. Since I was around 10 I got addicted to porn, I actually told my mum because I genuinely thought something was wrong with my brain, I was watching stuff I knew was wrong and disgusting, but in a way I liked it. My mum explained how it’s wrong, that it’s normal for me to be curious but that what I was watching wasn’t good for me, and how it’s unethical and unhealthy to consume. After I would then continually try to stop watching but I would always end up going back to it. (Keep in mind I hadn’t even touched myself at this point because I didn’t know that was a thing but I was just watching it) then when I was 13 my friends were talking about masturbation (I can’t believe that was a topic especially at that age) but then I was like, “maybe I should try it”. After that I became completely addicted, doing it daily, sometimes multiple times a day, it was bad. I started getting to the point where I would delve into some disgusting and horrendous topics/fetishes (candid stuff of innocent people, farting, peeing, even pooing, I had seen animal stuff, everything! It was disgusting and my mind was corrupted beyond any self saving) then earlier this year I started delving deeper into trans stuff, and it got to the point that I was almost trying to manipulate my mind into being gay, it was like I was working myself up to watching gay stuff, but that was always the point where no matter what I just couldn’t sit through it, but I had become addicted to trans stuff, it was bad. It felt as if I was genuinely just looking for the most obscure and disgusting thing to possibly do it to, it was the lowest point of my life. At this point I was trying desperately to quit, but it was so bad that nothing was working, at this point I had already lost almost all my belief in a god, I had tried different philosophies and some would help but then would fail after a little while, at some point I was at my lowest point, and I just called on Jesus to save me, to help free me from my sin, and He did! Christ forgave me despite how disgusting I was, He saved me from the lowest I could go, He pulled me out of the darkness and lit up my path! Since then there have been times I’ve stumbled, but I am no longer ruled by my sin, I am on the path Christ is lighting before me, and He is my Lord and Saviour! Without Him I am nothing, without Him I would fall, without Him I was ruled by my flesh and by the dark kingdom, but Christ overcame all the darkness I was falling to, I was losing the battle with no sight of a way out, but Christ warded off ALL of the enemy, He saved me and I am forever grateful! My past self disgusts me, but I am reborn in Christ Jesus my Lord, my Saviour, my Redeemer, The King of the universe!
yup this is so true
you have at least not ben abandon by him like he did to me
Hearing Brett openly talk about her mental struggles during her teen years is so encouraging. As a teenager who struggles often, it's so encouraging to know that you can struggle and still live a successful life.
The only teenagers that don't go thru such things are the psychopaths. (Do not conflate psychopath with sociopath.)
There was a girl in college I was interested in and the more I got to know her I got to ask her type and she tells me, “Well I’m a ‘Demi-sexual’ meaning im not attracted to people who I haven’t formed a relationship with” And Im sitting there thinking…. Sooo like a regular person?😂😂
My brain cells cannot handle much more stupidity,oml. They literally made up a name for what relationships are SUPPOSED to be 🤦♀️
@@GabrielleTollerson I think it's more like they don't even get crushes or have fantasies or have any kind of attraction to strangers or people in media. Like emotional attraction, sure that's normal but sexual attraction is more surface level and I don't think demi sexuals experience that unless they first form an emotional connection.
I feel like there’s more sexual identity’s that Aline with having emotional feelings to have sex with someone bc u can’t find a lot of loyalty anymore in this day and age lol.
thank you!!!
@@DanimationYT that's normal though
If I was 100% honest a lot of feelings would get hurt real fast. I keep what I think inside my head for good reasons
Same mate.
Same
I would get deported
Same here boys.
Fr
This video and commentary literally changed my life. I struggled with a porn addiction since the start of middle school and I saw this video in April of my senior year. When they talked about it I immediately decided to quit and I've felt more mature, more free, and more healthy since then. Thank you Brett for making this video more easily accessible to the people who need to see it!
Good stuff. I still deal with insecurity sometimes, which I can say for sure has to do with porn. Just keep it up and set yourself up for success in your adult years. I've squandered so much time, but I'm getting back on track and I'm happy with how things are. But I'd be doing better if I had just cut out porn and just ignored social media. I just use UA-cam for hobby stuff and positive content like this video. It's much better than opening twitter to drake's penis and seeing the women opine about penises.
I'm proud of you man. Also though, your YT handle might be your full name, so I would think of changing that unless it's a pseudonym
Im glad you could quit bro!! I quit last year in october, while being a junior. Life changer. Hows everything goign now?
The porn addiction thing didn't exist when I was a teenager, internet didn't really exist properly until my 20's, and we where going to parties every weekend chasing girls, today is a different world and not for the better.
@@kingcosworth2643 bro I would have done anything to be a teenager in like the early 00s or even late 00s
i like how supportive these guys are for eachother. tough subjects but no judgement
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo I don't know that I necessarily have an answer to your question, however I can absolutely say that you are not alone in feeling this way. I personally struggle with being overly self conscious. I overthink a lot and I also have an urge to be understood as well as liked. Unfortunately, what that means is that, as you said, I always mold myself into what I think the situation demands me to be. This then has the unwanted side effect of me feeling as though I don't truely know who I am as a person. I overthink my response so much that I lose sight of what my genuine reaction might be. I think there is some comfort in that everyone deals with this on some level. Of course, there are those who struggle more and maybe that is you. Not great to hear but we all have things that come easier or harder to us than others. Everyone has a shadow side and our society has grown to avoid and criticize this behavior as not being something that is natural. Personally I find that aggressive sports, activities or music provides a safe space to experiment with your harsher side. :) Love the comment!
when i was 14, i remember having one of my closest friends (who was pansexual) constantly 'diagnose' me as a lesbian because i would occasionally say a girl on social media was pretty. it made me extremely uncomfortable.
Dude the peer pressure of today's generation of your sexuality and gender identity is very intense because i have experienced it myself. I've always felt like being straight was like boring and basic because of how much today's generation is always like "straight, white, cis men like are trAsh" and seeing internet arguements fighting about this character's sexuality on whether the straight or not and how its like seen as boring or the default setting and tbh i tried to make myself like girls even tho i barely felt anything around them, so after awhile and finally just figuring out on who i am and my preferences i can finally say, im straight although it may be basic on this new generation i really cannot deny it. I love and respect the lgbt community but personally im just confident that im a straight woman. Yup veeerrry basic indeed
I'm so sorry!😢
Same I always had people telling me I was a lesbian bc I wasn’t as girly as my peers and I had a “deeper voice” compared to them.
@@elainini funny how having a deeper voice makes someone lesbian, I mean in teen years, during puberty, everyone experiences body changes. I'm an 18 yrs old boy and my voice became as feeble as a child's, and now it is slowly recovering to being somewhat deeper
I’m so sorry
Learning about sex by watching porn is like learning to drive by watching "Fast and Furious".
Istg
Good comparison
Unless the person is mentally challenged, he or she knows both porn and Fast and Furious are just movies. Pretty much everyone has seen action driving movies before first driving, porn before having sex and action movies before going to the shooting range, yet there is no problem. Why? Because people understood the difference between movies and real life.
@@petrmaly9087damn
I swear my 6th grade health teacher said this💀
I lost my uncle when I was 7, it messed me up. I was scared of death. Puberty, there was a shift. I had an expectation of dying before I turned 22. With that came a lifestyle pushing the limits. I almost died so many times, but didn't. I joined the military at 18 and went the special operations route. I had no fear of death, I welcomed it, I didn't care. Then me and my wife lost our son at birth and that messed me up. Three years later I had my son and my outlook on death changed. I wasn't scared of death but I had this urge to live, actual have quality time on this earth. My son is now 21 and daughter is 15, they saved ME!
That was a beautiful story man. I bet your son and daughter are very happy to have you =).
I am lucky to not have lost someone close to me yet, but Im still in high school and planning to go down the same route in the military and special operations because that’s what I hold in my values.
As a male teen, there is a lot of stuff we have to go through, even though some of this stuff I didn’t experience it is still somewhat relatable. I’m glad that I have The Lord to reassure me in my times of need.
I do have a question for all of you males, do you guys feel like you have some one that you can ask any question to, or that you trust to not judge you for any question you ask and to give you their honest opinion? Because personally I don't feel that way. There are people that I would trust with certain things but not everything. There are questions that just float around my head that I never get answered because I never ask them cause I either don't trust anyone with them, or I don't know if anyone will know the answer. One of the biggest questions that I have is basically, who am I and what is my true self? I feel like I actually don't know who my true self is because of how I my brain has been trained, and how I have trained my brain. I find that when I meet new people or step into a new environment that I don't fully show myself, or I guess, my most common attributes between my multiple selves if that makes sense. Cause I act and do stuff differently depending on who I am with and what environment that I am in. I basically weave a character to match basically what I want people to see or think about me, but I find that I do this unconsciously. I think I know some reasons of to why I do this, but I think in the process of all of this happening and me doing this, I have lost my sense of who I am, because I have made so many me's that I can no longer distinguish which one is the true one and which one is the act. If yall have an answer please let me know cause I am all ears.
@@NoahSmith-uh9wo Yes for me I do have a few people that I can trust and rely on in that way. Sometimes I have struggled with finding out who I am but that can take some time and it doesn’t meant just jumping to the first conclusion I make. I often look at my own attributes and take from those to define myself, for example, I really enjoy to draw, watch animated movies, write stories and do combat sports like martial arts and such. Those attributes I feel define my personality and who I am. For you it might be different. Sometimes I do change when I am around other people in terms of mood and personality to either impress them or maybe just to relate. But this is all just my opinion and this mostly comes from my own experience but by asking to is question you actually gave me quite a lot to think about so I thank you for that. God Bless!
@@NoahSmith-uh9woI have a few, but mainly for different purposes and reasons. It’s rough and things keep looking worse for us long term
You better do an "If Teen Girls Were 100% Honest" reaction video next to keep things fair Brett lol
Edit: She actually DID do it! Everyone definitely had doubts, and I know I certainly did too! Thanks for all the likes by the way!
Fr lol
No then she would have to do the 100 gther genders. Ha ha
This should be done lol
@@thetechboyorg lmfao
@@thetechboyorg
Why? There are just 2 sexes, and 2 genders.
As a teen boy, I believe I speak for most of us when I say, I love Brett Cooper.
Same here
Hello fellow teen
I haven’t been a teen for a few months, but I agree
yep
she is a roll model for young women everywhere
I dont want to be weird or anything but something about bretts honestly and love and support just really feels real. Thanks a lot brett.
Brett’s an old soul and is mother material that what makes her so great
Brett, as a man with 2 daughters, I think your voice and the work you do is extremely important for our society
21 year old here, I’ve was addicted to porn since 5th grade. It wasn’t until 2 years ago I decided to change my life around and resist it. I despise it, but the more you resist the less you’d want to do it. Keep on fighting my brothers and sisters
Yeah porn is a real issue that not many talk about
Keep it up, man. You are doing the right thing.
i think that at least in puberty it is useful. As a man you learn to control yourself also because you donß´t have crazy hormones going around messing with you
Having a real girlfriend? Exploring real sex? I dont know what to blame, the technology that is turning us into garbage...
I've was
I literally had a coworker tell me today that calling a girl a "tomboy" is sexist. Instantly they thought I was viewing women in a negative way, when it should be a positive thing that everyone is different in their own way. Victimhood is at a all time high.
I work at a car shop and my boss wrote a part up as a "trans" meaning a transmission, and someone called him out on it and the part delivery was delayed because the person on the other end was like "I hope you don't mean transgenders"
This is absurd. Even if he did, calling a trans person a trans person isn't offensive so I don't get the point. This was someone just trying to make a scene for the sake of doing so.
@@peves- As a professional, he should have known better. The proper term is 'Trannie'.
I call myself a Tomboy....I have a biz that has Tomboy n it. Being a tomboy is amazing. I don't fit into a box...I like what I like...& I refused to allow society to tell me that because I enjoyed traditional boy stuff made me gay or not feminine. I like the fact that we can b individuals. It's NOT a negative thing to b called a Tomboy.
@@LifeHappens83 Everyone is so victim minded today because the school curriculums are programming student's to think this way. It's super manipulative to the younger generation and makes them susceptible to being manipulated because they get offended over the wrong pronoun, sexual identity and blah blah blah. Also this is happening to men because testosterone levels are at a all time low, and very little testosterone makes them timid, or possibly don't behave manly like and affects our appearance with less masculine features. It's causing some men to turn into SJW soyboys.
@@Th3M4larky just sounds like ur toxic
This is my first time watching your content, and as a teenage boy I want to say I appreciate the way you approached all the questions and were able to relate and be so personable. It’s very rare to find content creators and people alone who will acknowledge questions and problems with very little biases and such open mindedness / empathy. Thank you
I used to have a friend at school when I was in middle school, she was 2 years older than me, me 11, her 13. I never used to cry to her but I always opened up to her because she was comforting I guess you could say and understanding. Me and her used to just spend hours talking about our life’s, our similarities, started growing a very nice friendship. She had a boyfriend so I wasn’t trying to be with her, I was friends with her boyfriend too. And then on the last day she said, “Hey see you next year, will you be at after school?” “Yeah I will! Have a good day.” And then I didn’t see her and it did kind of affect me, it made me sad because part of the reason I opened up to her not just because she was a woman or understanding, she was mature, unlike the the girls in my class. But I have met back up with her and she hasn’t changed. But a different boyfriend because she moved. I do think that sometimes man friends should be more comforting if you could say. But if you have anything like this reply and share I’d love to hear, also thanks for reading to the end of my story.
This is the most disturbing thing to me. People questioning their sexuality because of peer pressure. There was a group of LGBTQ students chanting “death to straight people” at my sons school last year. 7th grade. Brooming is part of this also.
With a capital G*
That's terrifying...
@@timothyfloogle
And if we work hard we can make that a capital L
that group is the most hateful group i have ever witnessed. they are often either terrible people, or at least they say and do terrible disgusting things. this just further prooves my opinion on them.
And that’s exactly why I distance myself from this „community“ even if my sexuality makes me „part of it“. I can’t go out there wanting acceptance for my sexuality but on the other hand not accepting straight people. What the hell is that?! I just don’t understand that and I‘m sorry your child had to witness this.
I'm a Male, 15. Hearing a woman talk about pornography and the overboard feminism actions has me look kind of into a larger window into the adult mindset. this hit
As a fellow 15 year old, please tell me u don’t watch.
@@fairyfightsgt6772not watching it is kinda hard when you get into at a super young age I am also 15 and right now I am trying to stop but I started watching it at like 9 or 10 so it’s became like an addiction.
@@R4T_VortexX why is it hard to stop?
@@fairyfightsgt6772dopamine's a mean chemical 😢
@@fairyfightsgt6772 dopamine, porn is a serious addiction that’s hard to stop if you want to know more just research on google and shit
She's so right about adult videos. Don't watch them. This is my first NNN without struggle. It also helped to realize that that's someone's sister. Their daughter. Usually being used and abused by someone who will most likely never care about them in an industry rife with exploitation and abuse.
Agreed but let's not act like these women are doing it against their wills. Maybe in very rare cases but the vast majority are doing it because they like it and want the easy money and are obviously not interested in finding a good man and being a good wife or mom. I think if more women were willing to marry and stay with "average guys" and not be 3 0 8's who just try to get with the bad boys, then guys wouldn't end up on these sites.
@@Bristecom i mean of they are happy, then idc. It's only a problem when it's against their will, otherwise idc what anybody does. Not every woman wants to be a 'good' mother or wife. I don't like the way you put it. Correct me if i misinterpreted it but it sounds like you want all women to be tradwives, or to submit to their husbands. I mean, that's fine if a woman wants to do that but you can't say that that's how every one of them should be. Many women don't want that and that's fine.
You're a wonderful role model for young people, Brett. Your genuine nature is amazing to absorb through your videos. You bring a lightness to the social world. There is so much love for you in my home; thank you for your work. ❤
Damn this girl is 21 and she’s wiser than most of the people 10-20 years older than her
yes
And she looks like Ben Shapiro
Unfortunately I’ve noticed a lot of people my age including me are wiser the older people
@@yungtrick7405yeah not to disrespect Brett shes definitely pretty intelligent and well spoken, but so was I at 21 now 24, I dont think I lack anything in comparison. Also it has nothing to do with your type of school leaving certificate or your interests.
At the end of the day it comes down to facts, as most sane and common people tend to have a similiar view of the world. Also if people want to lecture you by their experience, mostly its bs. Older people in my company that did years of the same work explain it to me how its done, 2 weeks later I come up with a even better method or solution. A lot of people are stuck in their ways because of tradition and hierachy.
You’ll only get to the top if you have trust in yourself you can make it, question everyone and everything until proven otherwise and make certain mistakes on your own so you can learn from them. As long as you continue to learn you're safe
@@Metaljunk39 following facts and understanding things and minding your business then you’ll be successful for the most part
In an all girl’s school, the pressure to be gay is crazy. Like the school promotes it, everybody seems to be so gay and people even go around saying “Ew your straight” Without boys to balance things out, shit goes down.
Well we live in a hyper sexualized culture. If students were segmented into isolation pods and communicated anonymously without knowing each other's gender, they would still be pressuring and mocking one another for not using toys or self pleasuring. Humans are so easy to anticipate, we truly haven't evolved much from our baser level instincts.
You just described the W NBA. There needs to be a Me too movement for the Wnba. So many cases so wild shady shxt goes down.
Same thing in prison. The guys get horny and can’t touch any women for years and they start becoming gay because of the sexual drive. You can’t separate the 2 sexes
This makes one wonder about the idea that everyone who says they are gay was born gay. The case at your school surely seems to have a social component.
That is so crazy! I thought families that sent their kids there were more conservative.
One of the few videos ive even actually watched all the way through in one sitting. Very insightful, and unfortunately very relatable in terms of the questions asked and topics.
The peer pressure of sexuality was so real to me. You said in your teen girl video about body hair and about being a tomboy and here as well, I had that same experience too except take it a step further into thinking I was trans and my sexuality was bisexual (for girls I thought it was special/cool) and at the back of my mind I thought how I never had a crush on a girl, not real, not fictional and I knew deep down I only loved boys. Thinking I was trans came from girls saying I was so boyish and my overall masculine features, I was so insecure back then though. As I grow older I just want to be seen as a woman and it hurts and makes me so insecure thinking abt being mistaken as a boy any kind of way. I don't even wanna imagine if I had the choice to turn trans back then and that's why I felt something was wrong with the trans movement and ideals even when I followed the movement, cause I knew deep down how I felt.
Im so glad I found your Channel I just feel like I'm finally being honest with myself. I just keep commenting to take note of my own experiences.
I am a teenage guy and to give you an idea how addicting porn is, I had an easier time quitting weed and smoking cold turkey than I did slowly quitting porn.
facts
It's not that hard. You just need to bring more healthy hobbies to spend time on (like riding bike) and then you will completely forget about it.
I could understand since sex is a big thing in the U.S.A. It's everywhere in the media and it's disgusting. The highest porn viewers are in the U.S.A.
I’ve tried telling people this years and years ago. Porn is basically the third major “drug” behind alcohol and illegal drugs. Quickly making its way to the top of the list. It activates the same centers that alcohol and other drugs do that get you addicted and then it becomes a mental issue. Then if you have deep mental issues already it becomes deeply rooted and becomes extremely hard to stop.
@@Nilithic It definitely is that hard. Cause for a lot of people that are trying to quit, it's a lifestyle change. The addiction subtly encourages you to live the kind of lifestyle that spends a lot of free time by themselves usually in their room. For a good bit of people they just don't see it as that bad and society does not and fails to recognize the true nature of this addiction. All of these things combined create a hard deterrent for those that want to quit. I still struggle with it today, but I've gotten better. The first step to quitting is to recognize that there is a problem.
I am a straight “cis” 14 year old boy, and one of my pansexual friends who was a girl would constantly diagnose me as gay, and said I’d be better if I was, this constantly made me feel like I was hiding myself, and she had told her friends to say the same thing, they try to disguise it as “helping you find yourself” in reality they are trying to change you, because being lgbtq makes you a victim, and therefore invincible
Keep being you my guy, don't let them decide who you are. Props to you for not giving in to their peer pressure of madness.
It’s less sinister than that really, more like identifying as LGBTQ+ has become a teenage phase as well as a self discovery process💀
LGBTQetc is cult programming. And like every cult, the members self regulate with peer pressure and emotional manipulation. It’s sad. But more so it is evil in its anti-family, anti-human ideology
The fact that you felt the need to use "cis" in your self description tells me that you are still dealing with those feelings that were implanted in you. Just know that they want you to feel that way because *they* don't feel comfortable with themselves. Stay strong and be true to yourself. You aren't alone and you don't have to have a label to be special. 🫂
Gunna piss off some people with this comment but it's fine. There's no such thing as sis, you're normal. If you're straight then you are just fine don't let people who don't know what they want themselves question what you are attracted to.
Honesty. One of the most liberating things you can do while also being one of the hardest
It's easy if you're confident.
@maurivanhanen9208 in your case, that may be true. Some of the most confident men I know I have trouble being 100% honest about these issues
This is one of the most insightful videos I've ever watched on UA-cam, and well done to everyone involved in the making of this video.
imagine how great of friends all these dudes would be after going through this shit together, really is a bonding activity
It’s crazy how much better this place could be if we could all be a bit more vulnerable around each other.
bro i tried to be honest and tell my friend a dark secret about me and he immediately told all my other friends 😞
@@Deareck Sorry to hear that
@@Deareck good riddance then
@@Deareck damn, that’s not really a good friend then if you can’t even be honest with them and have trust in them. Hate to say it but may be time to ditch them and find better friends.
Ok look...I'm a 15 year old male..
The whole peer pressure abt sexuality is a VERY real thing. Ever since 7th grade I have been taunted by people and constantly been called gay, people assume I'm gay, I've been told that I should be trans...this is has been going on nearly everyday for a long time.
Now..I have been raised by all girls with my main only male influence being my father. So I am more feminine in some ways than others, but nobody believes me when I say I'm straight, and whenever I have a crush on someone, I'm told it's a coverup.
I'm tired of it. I am all for being gay and whatnot, but I am straight and I want people to stop labeling me as something I am not.
Fight one of them, beat him real bad
It sucks, but just know that when you're in your 30s you aren't going to see or associate with anyone that you went to high school or even college with unless you really want them in your life. I know it's hard to see now, but all of their views and opinions and completely and utterly irrelevant.
@@wilc4036 👈🏻great answer.
I know it’s tough for now. Definitely be firm, stand your ground. Be immune to the taunts. Some girl worth her weight in gold is going to notice that and start talking to you, sooner or later. And from then on, you won’t have to worry about the taunts, because you’ll have a naturally developed relationship with a good bond.
I tell my kids, if a person is calling you gay, they are most likely very gay, ashamed, and looking for a target to project it on to. Please remember that. Every single kid that I knew from grade school that called others gay as a taunt or to pick on people is now ‘out’. They look for someone normal and respectable to pin it into because that is what they wish they could be and do they lash out in jealousy, with intent to deflect from their truth. I know what I’m saying is 100% the truth because I’m old and have witnessed the outcome every single time. So take courage.
Find real friends brother. It is not gay to feel. I would encourage you to go to a church and start reading the Bible. The book of John is what Christianity is about. People are sinful and can be real jerks don't let them tear you down. You can't do it alone. surround yourself with others who build you up!
@@lovakiller78 thank you bro...been a devoted Christian all my life 💪
Everyone needs to see this. This really shows roots to a lot of issues that are happening today. What better way than to hear it from young people.
I liked what Brett said about how she values time and especially within relationships as a priceless currency. Also how it's important to be transparent and honest as much as possible.
I've always considered myself to be mould-breaker, never trying to fit in or fall to peer pressure and constantly trying to be transparent and honest is something I think is a bit out of the norm but I try to do it all the time in all places
It’s actually kinda cute to see Brett instinctively trying to comfort these boys with words such as “no, it does not matter” in such a motherly tone.
It's a shame that some used "news mommy" in the creepiest way possible and ruined it, because my friends and I use it in a context that's the most endearing way possible
@@alienJIZ1990Anybody that says “mommy” is just a weird creep.
@@honeyandlavender_ if it's sexual then yeah, agreed. But it all depends how it's used. Brett exudes a mom-like disposition and it's cute and funny to point out. Is that going to cause men with mommy issues to say weird shit? Absolutely. But it all depends on context and intent. You can say "News Mommy" and have it not be creepy, similar to sardonically saying "jee, thx mom"
Not everything you don't like is automagically "creepy"
@@alienJIZ1990 I get where they're coming from tho. When my nephew was born I felt really weird referring to my brother as "daddy" when talking to his son. Society has just oversexualized the words, unfortunately. I know it's not weird, I'm more comfortable saying it now when talking to my nephew, but I get why so many people feel uncomfortable with those words.
@@nickcunningham6344 oh for sure, I fully understand all that. But that was kinda my point, that it's a shame people made the sexual association in such a pseudo Oedipal fashion, because it's definitely possible to use it in a non sexual context, the word has just been tainted.
So I get where there they're coming from too but they basically doubled down on the tainted view and essentially said "Nope, always creepy. Zero exceptions." which was why I responded the way I did, it only perpetuates the sexual association if you don't call it out when it's being reinforced
The fact that you're 21 is crazy. Please keep doing what you're doing. It can only make the world a better place.
ya i was shocked!
Wait she’s 21? Goddam
She looks 28
I'm 30 and I was totally shocked with her age! She is killing it! 🎉
Yes, exactly.
I completely understand when I turned 30 it really hit me. My dad took his own life at 29 when I was ten I found him in the garage. It’s a surreal feeling knowing I outlived him.
I'm glad I've came across you because you have started to open up my mind a lot more. thanks for all the things you cover and information you put out.
I used to be a sensible fat-ass with a pornography addiction and suicidal feelings. I never had a girlfriend and my friends were just a bunch of people who made fun of me and bullied me around. Around a year ago, I decided to start by levels. I started by only jacking once every two days (i used to do it almost three times per day), I started training with items at home (because my parents never wanted me to go to the gym) and started ditching friends and learning more music.
Today, I'm very muscular and good looking. I am still battling my addiction with porn but it got better and I play epic solos and super hard riffs on the guitar. I stopped thinking about running after women and put myself and my career in music first and made a bunch of loyal, respectful friends. I also took time to work on my grades. I am now in grade 9 and my lowest grade is in math and it's 91%. I am currently in two different orchestras (with my violin) and in a highschool metal band.
I may not have a girlfriend or any exes, still feel suicidal and still battling porn addiction. But looking back, I'm light years away from where I was. All to say, boys (or girls), never abandon. Find yourself a dream and pursue it and NEVER let anyone get in your way to greatness.
Why still suicidal? You seem to be in a good place.
It's all a battle, man. But it's not hopeless. Stick with it.
What a Giga Chad man. It already sounds like such an improvement man. I am jealous 💪
Stay on your grind bro, don't worry about the ladies, cause once you have reached max level, they will be coming to you. And be very selective of them, most will just use you for your resources, not actually caring about you. But there are still some good girls out there, and as long as you are picky, you'll find a great one! Good luck brother, you got this!
Same boat, bro. Keep pushing
"It's okay to be both strong and feminine...." Her saying that sounds so obvious but when you're a young girl it's like the world reveals itself as a set of stereotypes that you must morph into. It's not that obvious when you're young, and I'm glad that Brett's mom told her that
I'm not sure what you're talking about, the modern stereotype for women is to be "strong and independant".
@@jamesrussell2936 Yes, it is overemphasized and it has led a lot of women to hyper-independence which is very unhealthy. I know a lot of women who are very dear to me who struggle with hyper-independence because it's been taught to them for so long that they need to be independent and they can't rely on anyone for anything and they are always going to be alone in their struggle because of it. I wish they weren't taught these kinds of lies. It's also a product of weaponized incompetence that's a serious issue, especially among men. To be completely honest, I wouldn't expect you to understand because you haven't gone through the same social conditioning as I have because you are a man and I am a woman.
@@jamesrussell2936 yes, but it's "strong and independent" not "strong, independent and feminine" women who try to follow the stereotype tend to subconsciously or consciously believe they must abandoned the feminine to follow it
I’m 14 and love Brett’s video with a whole heart and how much she brings up my womanhood and raises my opinion fairly and when she said that it made me feel so empowered mainly because I’ve always been a really independent person and I was always kind of worried that makes me unattractive to men but I’m really glad that I’m not the only one who has a strong personality and opinion but also expresses her femininity how I feel comfortable and enjoyable for me you know it’s just such a powerful statement that really just hit the heart for me as a young teenage girl
@Don Stanley keep being you and you're doing great 🫶🏻
Love your content Brett, even when I entirely disagree with you, and I'm honestly impressed and grateful that you keep it real in your own way. As someone who's also dealt with loss, there's never a good feeling when we confront our mortality and that of the people we love. My heart goes out to these young men for having the bravery to talk about these things and to be honest.
I feel like the best part of this episode was hearing your responses. I resonated with a lot of the things that you said.
Brett is the first woman I’ve seen that honestly cares about men’s/boys of today and is worried about them. Feel like the attitude which most women have nowadays of viewing men as some privileged human who has no problems, is ultimately destructive and detrimental to their health as well.
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@@SashyaTheStrange what I was abt to say lol
@SashyaTheStrange Roma army socks. She thought kyle rittenhouse should be imprisoned for being "racist". Once she was called out she double down twice
As a teenage boy, Brett clearly highlights the biggest issues in society as commentary to this video. whether it be pornography or low testosterone, I will always be glad that we have a voice for people like us. thank you Brett.
These are my thoughts exactly
My thoughts aswell
Yes, totally why they are watching xD Now take ugly girl and give her the same script xD
Chronic Masterbation and diet are probably 2 of the causes of low testosterone in young men. Stop eating sweets and drinking pop and eat a pound of red meat a day. Drink only water and a high fat high protein diet consisting mostly of meat and eggs. The liver turns cholesterol into testosterone, it requires a ton of fat to keep it from cannibalizing you. And stop beating off women can smell that stink on you. You do all that and your testosterone will go up.
I can say porn helps me a bit, it's a form of visual pleasure, good for my mental health. I don't think I'm abusing it.
Keep being you Brett! And thanks for reminding me and everyone else to be ourselves.
Listening to her talk about her brother dying reminded me of my greatest fear. I can’t breathe thinking about one of my siblings dying. I pray to God that no one has to go through something like that, including myself.
Being a youth pastor for 5 years, I have come to find out that 90% of my students will openly admit they watch porn. Fighting this is the hardest thing to do because parents and other youth don’t care. It becomes a personal battle that students don’t care to fight. Hard to fight when you have no support.
Hey there, I'm a teenager who has struggled with a similar issue, and just a bit of advice is to tell them whenever they feel like going back to [insert bad habit here], open their music and listen to worship, open their bibles and press play, or just simply sit down and think (no phone, no music, just sit and be) about everything. Who they want to become. Where they want to go. How they want to live. That kind of stuff. Also pray with them and break off addictions and generational curses, because addiction can 100% be a generational curse. That's all, let me know if any of this helps :)
God bless, Jesus loves you, and so do I ❤
You could bring up some health benefits
If not watching Porn/masterbating and talk to them about how they want their future to go, be honest and say, hey porn won’t ruin all your lives but without it, it does make life easier, you’re more motivated, you
Don’t develope as much or as bad acne, you get more things done, you get more Out of life and you will find a gf quicker. (You can look up more health benefits but the important thing is, shoot straight with them. Don’t try to fear monger them but rather show them the grass is infact greener, so even if you don’t stop completely, narrow it down to like 1 day a week.
i was atheist i turned to god and he helped guide me in the right direction to stop this addiction, i heard someone say once porn is like a drug that is in your pocket at all time
some have problems with it. some do not. It is important that it exists but we need to learn to engage with it in a healthy manner and leave it up to the individual to define what that is based on their ethics, morals, goals and desires.
And they will argue that theres nothing wrong with it and that its not harming them, because they are addicts. While we can see that its damaging their mental response to natural things and ruining their expectations of real people and real life.
I eventually gave up on relationships because girls were not interested in knowing the real me. They want me to act masculine and play their fantasy role. I had a girlfriend for 3 months and one day she said I never talk about myself. So I did. Then she broke up with me. That day. This is why men don't open up.
I'm so sorry to hear that. If she broke up with you for opening up, it just means she is not mature enough. You deserve a woman who is willing to listen and allows you to be vulnerable. And I'm sure you will find her someday. God bless you :)
Not all girls are like that remember
If there are shitty people, there will always be the opposite too.
1. I love that your name is Brett
2. You will find someone one day that will give you their heart and soul. My bf was completely hopeless and broken for 4 years being single until we found each other. The same will happen for you
It's the fantasy role comment that I really resonate with. Looking back when I was in my early 20s, myself, and my friends would put these 'perfect' relationships on a pedestal and the men had the pressure to make me happy. I expected my partner to know how I was feeling, to see the world as I did and to know exactly what I wanted them to do at every point of the day (and sometimes still fall into this urge in my 30s). It's fucking EXHUASTING and a huge pressure on men.
I don't know how old you are, or where you are at in life. But people do come to the realisation that love is hard, it's work and it's something you have to continously decide to love this person you're with. Through the hard times and the good times. You've got to be willing to be reflective and accountable. It's hard work.
I hope you heal and find people to spend your time with who make your life fun, safe and purposeful.
Brett you’re an incredible woman, and an inspiration to us all. Keep up the good work
I would say because of being a Christian and I have a promise of another life after with my family I am not afraid of dying. Becoming a Christian has been the most profound experience in my life where I have experienced true and tremendous joy and purpose.
I mean cool not being afraid of dying, but bro you don’t have a promise of another life because of a third generation retelling of a story about a schizophrenic man. (The bible if you’re lost)
@@dronemachine4694ah, the obligatory atheist response
@@MaxTheAmerican Maybe I’m Muslim
@@dronemachine4694 Perhaps, but even so then you are a religious person
@@MaxTheAmerican Yeah.. that’s my point
The first question of the video really spoke to me. I'm 18, and I've been struggling with a porn addiction for 8 years. Yes, I discovered porn when I was 10 years old. I was an Ipad kid with unrestricted access to the internet in ALL it's forms. It took hold of me in a vice grip, and it just wouldn't let go. As the years went on, my overall life situation got incomparably worse, and so I leaned on porn and masturbation as a crutch, and it just spiraled from there.
One of the guys talked about how you need more extreme material to get off as time goes on because the regular stuff doesn't do it for you anymore, and that really hit the nail on the head. The material goes from real people shooting pornos, to cartoon porn and hentai, and it only gets so so much worse from there. Things that'd you'd never even considered to be erotic start becoming slightly erotic, and then outright erotic, and then VERY erotic. You start imagining innocent media/situations in a perverted manner. Fetishes that you didn't have previously start to rear their ugly heads, and suddenly without any warning, you start falling into the deep end.
The taboo fetishes. The worst of the worst. Your mind becomes so disgustingly twisted by this addiction, and you fall deeper and deeper until you finally hit the bottom of a very deep and very DARK well. And when the dopamine runs out, and you come out of that porn addled haze, all you're left with is the crushing feeling of guilt and self-loathing. You feel as if you're lesser than human, like you're a monster. You hate no-one more than who you see in the mirror.
And yet you always end up coming back for more.
And so the cycle repeats.
I'm fighting, but it just gets so hard... The siren song of pornography, like any other addiction, is a constant nagging pull that slowly yet surely whittles down your will to resist. Especially when you're stressed out. I've been getting better, but it's a constant internal struggle. I'm at war with myself, and have been for the past 3 years since I started trying to break free.
Porn was a mistake, and my innocence was stolen from me. Now I get to face the consequences.
Don’t give up man and lean on God’s grace so you can have the strength to fight it.
@@beatrizcorrea5618 I won't. I pray to the lord for strength so that I can continue to fight my demons.
So sorry to hear about your struggle. Don’t give up and keep fighting. Go forward as the defender of innocence and take what you have learned to help others
This is honestly so raw and open and I love it. It's so hard to be vulnerable to people these days, so the fact that you can post this comment despite all the self hatred is just so awesome to me. I understand the struggle of going back to something that will hurt you, and what I find helpful is listening to music or distracting myself, if that doesn't help I open up my Bible app and just hit play wherever I left off last. It's a very difficult battle and it's hard to talk about, but I am so proud of you for trying to break the pattern, overcome, and grow, as well as leaving this here for other people to understand and be encouraged. Thank you for having the courage to be honest, and I truly hope you win this battle and realize that it's alright to be human, but living for God is about being more than just human. You got this. If you need support you can respond to me and I can give you contacts. God bless you hun, Jesus loves you and so do I ❤
@@alli_ocat Thank you so much... I've been praying to the lord for strength to help fight my demons and telling very close friends about my predicament to set up a support system.
It's been a real hard struggle. Every day it's like I'm engaged in a battle of wits with the devil himself, trying to deny the intrusive thoughts that barge their way in. Each one more visceral and tempting than the last.
"If I'm struggling this much, I may as well give up and wait until I'm in a better place."
"What if I just give in? wear it out so that it's no longer appealing? Maybe that'll work..."
"It doesn't really matter, does it? I mean, none of it's real, none of it's hurting anyone..."
These are the kind of thoughts I get on a daily basis, thoughts that only last until post-nut clarity and I realize the gravity of my mistake.
But I've been doing it. Day in, day out. Fighting the good fight so that I can feel deserving of god's love and the love of those around me, and finally feel clean, free from all this corruption.
“It is OK to be both strong and woman” Brett, your mother is fantastic
On the inverse, I was taught it is OK to be both sensitive and emotive and a man. Good parents are gold.
Don’t forget butch & weak! That’s always a good combo too
@@funkyjbass7762 that is not okay bro, imagine you and your gf gets caught in a bad situation and you got all emotional and started crying........
emotions cloud reason . stay strong bro don't listen to your parents.
@@m3gad3ath Your pathetic, you don't know the difference between "emotive" and "emotional"? You think the only demonstration of emotion is "crying"? That is what is not ok.
And I don't have to "imagine". When my wife was going through chemo I was both strong for her when she needed it, and emotive with her and empathetic. And cried with her. And you know what? that was OK. But I am sure your girlfriend will respond well in the same situation when you tell her to toughen up and take her concrete pill.
And I am not your bro. I would be ashamed to be your bro.
@@m3gad3ath that's not what he meant. And we don't have that kind of protection duty to our girlfriends. Not anymore, not since feminism. The right thing to do is to be the way the situation calls for. If the situation calls for protection of you and your gf and the task falls on you then you shouldn't be sensitive and emotive, you have to gather all your strength and confidence and get yourselves out of danger. But when it's been a long day and you need to let the steam out, bottling it up because "what if this specific thing happens and I turn into a baby" will just make you break one day. Emotions can sometimes cloud reason. You are right in that. But emotions are also human nature, and we NEED to embrace them if we want to lead happy lives. Don't fall victim to toxic masculinity. Stay strong yourself.
As a girl, I feel so bad for the guys and I wish that I could tell them that they deserve better than the heartbreak and fear that they go through.
Sorry for your loss, the death of a sibling is something I can’t even imagine.
I'm impressed. These boys were all very well-spoken and intelligent in their responses. As a woman I actually generally care more about men's issues than women's issues these days.
Men created “men’s issues” because they dislike playing on a level playing field and they resent the consequences of their own perversion. Please try to remember and understand that ALL of this was brought on by old men attempting to normalize pedophilia and “free sex”. They want it all, for themselves.
Damn, your husband is a lucky man
Lmaoooo okay Pearl
That's pretty sexist ngl
Society doesn’t care about men’s issues
I watched Brett's reaction to the girls first and you can definitely see just how much more honest these guys were. Part of the reason was taking at least some of the accountability for their own lives. The girls were definitely blaming everything on everyone else... and tbh, I'm not shocked.
There's a girl version? Lol I can't wait to see how self absorbed they're gonna be judging by your comment
Even if they are blaming other people don’t trash on it
I just came from that one. Every answer was given from a point of their perceived victimhood.
@@froliczreflex6001 not trashing on it. Just pointing out how much there is a victim mentality rather than accountability
@@theceltbeserk1 Tru. Honestly it's not really their fault bc kids don't raise themselves
I'm tearing up right now because I have two older brothers and the thought of losing either one of them destroys me. They're literally part of the reason I haven't kms. The thought of putting them and my parents through that pain absolutely devastates me. I'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you
Dont do it bro 💕
@@alfiedupreez4298 I ain't going anywhere, don't worry
Always a delight to see your reactions to videos like this with your point of view. A lot of these issues seem so tough to talk about, but shouldn't be tough.
I’m an older 56 year old male .. I watch you because it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values. My 23 year old daughter is very similar . Please keep spreading the word. I hope you don’t think I’m being patronizing by saying I’m proud of you.
i’m 23 i want a woman like her such a breath of air when it seems like so many have dyed hair and anti family views
It could easily be taken that way, and at a minimum it is at least strange. Proud signifies "feeling pleasure and satisfaction because you or people connected with you have done or gotten something good." The fact you think what she is doing is good and that you get pleasure from it is great, but unless you are related, friends, or on the same sports team etc... It's just a strange way to say it. How about "you are doing great!" or "I really enjoy your content", or "it’s very refreshing to see a very driven woman still have family and feminine values". Those are great ways to say it.
Not that you asked but those are my thoughts...
I caught a few errors in the video
First one that comes to mind is that masturbating does not lower testosterone permanently, only momentarily and not masturbating or having sex for long periods of time also lowers testosterone. My extrapolation of the data: basically unexpectedly binge masturbating would lower testosterone a lot because your testosterone production is not adapted to the frequency of your masturbating and unexpectedly abstaining would increase testosterone a lot.
masturbating often will increase production of testosterone but also masturbating will also deplete testosterone, not masturbating will decrease production of testosterone but not deplete it as much. Essentially either option masturbating often or not often, your body will adapt and have the same testosterone.
Also having high testosterone correlates with masturbation frequency.
There were other errors that I don't remember.
What are her feminine values? That she wears dresses? Lmao shes not feminine, shes masculine and probably unbearable as a gf
@@ProfessionalRageBaiter so, you want a woman that looks like ben shapiro wearing a wig.. xD mmm, sexuality repressed much? ;)
As a 14-year-old boy THANK YOU for bringing these issues to light this is a real issue. the pressure of sexuality from society is unreal
When I was growing up in the 90's, not that long ago, sexuality was not really brought up that much other than in jokes and such. Now it appears it has become the main talking point/identity of most children in schools which is beyond strange to me. And this was obviously forced on them by older perverts/weirdoes. Sure, it's part of life but I don't believe it's healthy to obsess about it and try to force an identity based on it, especially while kids are growing up and their hormones are going crazy! My advice is stay a virgin Chad until you get married to the right girl/woman for the best long-term happiness/success.
im 26 now but i was like the timid scared teenager, i was innocent and didnt know how to talk to girls etc school was horrible due to the peer pressure to get involved in such things at a young age, best advice i can give you is focus on education, grades etc and dont ever chase or force relationships. all things come to those who wait regarding relationships and love, the right time will come with the right person, it may take 5 or 10 years but it'll come. do not ever feel pressured or threatened by people who try to drag you for not being a women chaser.
As a fellow 14yo, and as a female, we exist, we want to give you a little ray of hope for these problems you have. We hear you. *I* hear you. And it breaks my heart that it seems like no one cares or wants to hear what you say. Keep going my brother, you have so much to live for.
It mostly goes away when you get older. At young ages, all through high school and college it was a social pressure to have sex, but as you get older it goes away for the most part, and people stop caring.
🌈 lol 😂
as a young man this really is sad because i commented on a vid that i havent smiled in months and this made me happy and i smiled and there were a bunch of people replying saying i was soft and it was my fault i havent cried since i was about 6
Man such a good vid, I related to them so much and it comforts me in a way that I realize I’m not alone in this battle as a young straight American male
I’m 16 and often feel pressure about being a Christian. I realize that if I stick to my beliefs it makes me feel better in the long run. Saying that some of the questions in this video keep me awake at night. Even though I have morals it’s hard to stick to them and many of these questions showed me I need to reprioritize. No regrets, hopefully!
Praying for you brother. God is with you. Surround yourself with other believers and keep digging into the word!
Thank you very much!
Lol the atheist kids are the ones that people stay away from at my school we're in the south
I agree with Isaiah. I’ll be praying for you too. The biggest things are surrounding yourself with like minded believers and staying in the word. You’re probably about to head out to college, so make it your priority to find a solid church wherever you go, and get involved in campus ministries too.
Mathew 5:12
As a 27 year old female, my heart aches for young men right now! Thanks brett for uplifting these young men and being a voice of love and truth
@@Ks-101 for what
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz A "pick me girl" is a derogatory term for women who are vocal about siding with men on an issue, it's meant to imply you want male attention and that's your main reason for voicing your opinion.
Them saying "pick me" like that is an insult, they don't value your opinion for what it is.
@@MonkeGeorge ok I get it. Well that sucks I didn't mean to come off that way, I was being genuine. I just care about people. Cause I want them to feel less pain and sadness. Not cause I want attention....what a bummer , can't even care about your fellow human without being accused of having malevolent intentions. This is the world we've build for one another, I suppose.
@@MonkeGeorge and also, to anyone who sees my comment as me "siding" with men is not understanding me.... I'm not picking a side, I just feel empathy for their struggles just as I would for a woman or anyone else .
@@BobbyeLane-bl5zz Really don't worry about it, someone calling a woman a pick me is like calling a guy a simp. It's a really low effort insult at this point, so don't take it personally.
It's an emotional rollercoaster when you can relate with these people on many topics considering the current stae of this society.
Hi, Brett! I'm a fifteen year old female and I love your content because it reaches the younger generations. I was a secret addict of porn for four years and still struggle with it to this day, even though some great adults know. I just want to say that it doesn't help to tell your teens to come to you when they need help with something like porn and not actually be able to back that up. I was always told to go to my parents with things like this, but when I did they actively had no idea how to help me because they never expected to have too. My youth pastor is a counselor and honestly the only help I receive when it comes to porn. Surrounding yourself with people who think it's a dangerous substance is better than having friends tell you it's perfectly normal, so please go to someone you know will care and can help you. It makes the process of getting help a lot faster.
As a mother that genuinely shocks me. The world was highly sexualized when I was growing up and it's beyond apparent that it's worse now. My oldest is 7, and I'm not preparing for IF theres an issue, I'm preparing for WHEN there's a issue. It's a fine line between letting them be kids and preparing them. They have incredibly limited access to the internet, but were still talking about good content and bad content, how to identify the bad content so you know to get away fast, etc. There's a reason we've decided that they'll have no smartphone until around or after your age. There's enough going on during the teen years. Social media shouldn't be an added burden you should have to deal with
It's a relatively new problem, porn addiction among teenagers. When we all grew up, porn was far less accessible, and we were far more social, so we were sexually active. For around two years there was pretty well a party or something social every weekend. Your adults don't know what to do because we never saw it.
I am a male 26 - I did not realise until recently how messed up my situation was in terms of porn usage. If porn could kill like any other drug, then I would have died 1000 times over due to overdose.
If I trace back to where it all began I think much of it had to do with me being a social misfit in high school. Porn was a zone where I felt I could relax be safe and virtually appease my self. Whenever I had a tough day or an uncomfortable experience I would run straight back to porn. Turns out this has just fked up my neuron system, and much of my brain. I used to think i was always different and special than every one hence I never felt the need to make an effort to socialise, but turns out i was just sick. More over, Instant Gratification has been ingrained deep into my system after almost a decade of porn usage. This i feel personally is the biggest damage to a person that porn can do. For it takes away the ability of a person to put in long hours of work for a prolonged period of time, resulting which one cannot escape mediocrity as the person completely lack any experience of being uncomfortable and yet pushing on.
But I am taking steps to recovery, we all got our demons to fight, I guess this ones mine. Never have I openly admitted to porn usage to anyone or anywhere, let alone talk about it, but I guess it's time we take cognisance of how devastating inculcating this behavior is.
This video just assured me that porn is a real threat as against what my mind tells me from time to time. Thank you, whoever you are. never seen you before, but I guess I needed it. :)
A partner's body is just so much better when you are not under the numbing effect of porn.. Every good thing becomes toxic if you over do it.
Man wrote an entire 7 million word essay of porn
I sick and tired of it too buddy. Two days ago I swore to myself to not m@sturbate but today I ended up watching porn and m@sturbating.
I hate myself for not being able to control myself, It hadn't been a decade for me, but it has been half a decade.
Anything you wanna share on how to get rid of this addiction?
@@rookiedraconian7852 find other things to do like going outside
@@rookiedraconian7852 Me too, I have tried, but failed yet am trying everyday. At best what i realised contemplating on this addiction and how it attacks is that as soon as I hit my triggers, my brain autopilots into this storm of urge to consume porn, the goal being unnatural amount of dopamine release.
So what I am currently trying to do is, avoid triggers like staying up late, soft porn content etc, and I am also trying to replace that habit of porn for dopamine, with exercise and prolly a journal where I can write for better clarity. You know something that makes me feel good about myself.
However, I can only talk about things that I have gone through buddy, you will have to sit with yourself and contemplate at a much deeper level and experiment with what works and what doesn't. You can also got professional help.
I do recommend the book ''Power of habit'' I am also in the middle of it and have found some answers there, I hope it will be of some help to you too.
All the best brother, you are not the only one.
Just found Brett and love that she like actually gets it. It’s not even explicitly politic, it’s not policy, it’s not attacking the other sides or trying to be ideological or fighting, it’s just articulate, true, and common sense about where we as people are and how our society is hurting us. And also, as a man, this girl really gets us, and shoutout to these guys for their honesty. Loved it.
“5 you have questioned your sexuality”
Me during the boys sleepover:
She use to be very EVASIVE and Rude as Fuck. I appreciate bhee growth
Brett is so male-identified 😂I can see it now. When the girl cried about being assaulted at 7, Brett never once said anything or said that men that do that are a**holes. But as soon as a guy cried about a girl dumping him for opening up to her, Brett calls the girl who dumped him a B*tch. If you have self hatred as a woman, just say so
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@@incognito3599 wish I knew the context better but as a woman she's more positioned to call out other women. Not saying I agree with her. I don't. But she's a woman and that comes with bias.
@@eatonkuntz this comment is almost too stupid to break down, first as a woman she should want to protect other women. next you act as if bias is a female trait, that makes me think you have never talked to a woman or any human. men are equally biased you are just too stupid to know. last, being a woman does not make her any more qualified to recognize awful behaviour.
This video high-key gave me so much anxiety... especially the part where they were talking about death. So scary, but yeah. Great job Brett.
Being a 40ish year old listening to this...stay strong guys...reality into it's own is the real test....I and mamy others know your pain.
I was in a friend group with people who were not afraid to speak their mind with anyone. They eventually said their opinion on feminism and the LGBTQ+ community and two people found their opinion offensive. They got all of their friend group together and sent at least 10 reports to the front office for hate speech and all of them got suspended except for me because everyone thinks I am gay even though I have been in relationships with women and say a lot that I am not attracted to men. These communities that are "oppressed" have been able to create lies out of thin air to get my friends suspended, an act that is shown on the permanent record, because they stated their opinion and their experiences. Lets hope that people soon realize that everyone matters and we should not view anyone in a more positive or negative way because of their race or sexuality so we don't have to worry about being pushed to be one thing or be scared to speak your mind because of fear of being cancelled.
That sucks, it is honestly depressing that you can't share your opinion, even with respect. This really shows who is the real "oppressed" group.
Also, why do they think you are gay? Doesn't make any sense, but at least you didn't get suspended.
And one last thing, really sucks that schools are that way now, mine would have not suspended your friends, and isntead really search what happened, they have never taken serious consequences on someone without proper investigation. I am lucky to be in a good school.
Just more reason to NEVER hang out with any sort of rainbow person. Just rats looking to mess with everyone else. We need to go back to NOT including them in everything.
I was also always thought of as gay even though I repeatedly expressed I was not.
Hell I'm gay and nobody suspected a thing until last year where I changed my attitude to be more effeminate. My sister would even argue that I'm homophobic and whatnot because I didn't support the LGBT, I secretly just didn't want to be associated with the cringe I saw irl and online.
Ya
Brett is so much wiser than 90% of adults nowadays
FR yeah
as a teen i can relate, thanks for the support brett, you made sure at least 2.9 mln people saw the truth
I really love this format. Never heard of it before.... but giving ppl, espacially today in a world with social media, a chance to speak free about their thoughts can be sooooo important. Im an kinda old dude and build my friendships based on honesty. But teenager never have these confidence. So just beeing able to tell what i really think about some things can be really important
“It is ok to be both strong and feminine.” I wish someone had been there to say that to me as a teenager. You're such an awesome influence, Brett. I'm a mom now and you give me hope for the future.
The "it's ok phrase" is always associated with accepting weakness and bad behavior
Wrong, not in Brett's case and many others. Grow a brain, Phil K. @@phillipkleopas7230
@@phillipkleopas7230If you think acceptance is bad, than I suppose accepting you into school to teach you how to speak was also a bad idea.
@@poliznia Accepting weakness and bad behavior can not be compared to accepting someone in school
@@phillipkleopas7230does’t mean its always though
As a teen girl I’d love to see what we’d be like If we were 100 % honest
Remember, all fee mails support perjury by fee mails. You should be asking your mother why she supported fee mails crimes against men because as a teen girl you are going to live with the backlash your mother and grand mother caused.
Think 4chan.
In jail.
Lol. That would never happen.
@@GomersPile01 is fee mail supposed to be female? either way i got a stroke reading this
This is such a powerful video. Thank you, young lady!
Thanks for talking about hard subjects and taking them seriously
Growing up I was into theater and was quite emotive, but I never questioned my sexuality. I joined the Marines shortly after 9/11 and during training there were quite a few "alpha male" types that gave me shit for getting emotional at times. Never really bothered me though, because I was raised to *know* what I am and not worry what others *thought* I was. I was raised to define myself. My grandfather was a really good teacher.
I understand in the military if someone gave you shit for getting emotional because you need to be strong and have emotional control in high stress situations such as combat. But as long as you're not inconsolable and letting your emotions affect your actions its not an issue. I'm just saying there could be good reason for that concern in that context. Most men don't know how to control their emotions its either full blast rage/sadness or just bottling everything up, no in between
The most detrimental aspect of the red pill mens movement is the idea that men cannot express their emotions.
There's obviously a point where breaking down and crying as a man is a stretch too far, but this idea that something wholesome bringing a tear to my eye makes me feminine?
Lol say that to my face 😂
#1 most important thing is a father figure these days kids don't get it and are raised by the internet. I'm thankful I have so many good men in my life else I dont know what to would be like.
That's the strongest type of male, the one who thinks and feels for himself and doesn't act a part just because it's what other's demand or expect. I'm glad you had such a great role model.
@@ogfit5448 I get where you're coming from but when I was emotional it was during training, and running on little sleep and caffeine. When it came to combat I was actually really calm. I didn't have problems in the moment, It was when I had time to think about what I had done that I started to develop some issues. Diagnosed with PTSD, got help, and everything is all good now.
I appreciate how transparent Brett is and how honest about her life.
Why does she look female Ben shapiro?
@@Gonnafuckmaybe she is lmao
@@Gonnafuckidk go ask her
18:49 awww that must have been such a hard time for you. You are such a strong person.
Love your channel and videos xxx
To Brett ur storry of a honest friend bringing difficult questions i hop u keep this person close to u ... this person is gold in my opinion and annyone reading this think about the ONE person criticizing u but still is ur friend
As a 16 year old boy. I’m so glad that people like you and Ben Shapiro are exposing the leftist agenda in our country.
I'm about your age and I totally agree.
Y’all give me hope
16 here too!!
As a teen girl, I agree completely!
Seeing these comments give me some hope for my generation
Im a female teen and this video helps see that there is still people that think the same as me. It also makes me sad because if I say these thoughts at school I will be hated and I cannot have my own opinion in my generation. Thank you for letting me have this freedom Brett 😊
Be proud and I know it‘s hard, but try to speak your mind. All of us being vulnerable and truthful is the only way out of this misery!
As an EX Adult ⭐ say it!! Use these videos. Ur not alone
Hey don't say generation because this is only happening in certain countries, everywhere else as freedom of speech
Bro I think I am watching too much attack on titan, I read Female Titan at the start.
Just know, 5 years after school, you will only see a handful of those same people from school. Dont worry about what they think. Be nice, respectful, but f--- 'em.
This was a great video Brett. Thank you for your take on things. It's so refreshing. 👍🇦🇺
Reminds me of when i was a teenager roughly 25 years ago. Whether for good or for ill, nothing has changed in 25 years.
Im a teen and i will say this. There is not only massive peer pressure, but pressure from the teachers themselves. At least in my district, they have little children learn about what it is to be trans, gay, lesbian and so on. They have pride flags on every wall, around every door. I often question the trans movement and why it is being introduced into schools, however whenever i question it i am told i need to stop thinking that way and that i am wrong. All of this is political, it is more akin to faith than anything else in my eyes. I once thought that i was above sex and dating, as i had no interest in it at the time [i was 12] and, when i said this, i was told that i was likely a asexual person, instead of a person who, oh i don't know, just wasn't interested in such things at the time? One time i asked my councilor, Why, if there are all of these dozens of pride flags and educational posters explaining how i need to stop being anti trans and anti gay, why there was nothing about traditional family values. The councilors response? "Well, everyone knows about that." I then asked, well, why is that? I was quickly expelled from the room, as she seemed fed up with me. Another teacher said, fully believing it, that making fun of a person's accent is "casual Racism" There are many many more examples of behavior such as this. They teach children what to think, not how to think about this stuff, and it is very bad, especially considering how people as young as 4-5 are now taught about this stuff. My little brother a perfect example. But, my mother, and father, biologically my grandparents, who are in their 60's have helped me not believe in this stuff.
Yeah, this is long, sorry, but it WAS your choice to read it.
And, i am often told that i am exaggerating this stuff, but i wish i was.
I wish I was exaggerating too man. I don't have much to say besides I wholeheartedly agree with you're perspective.
@@lpc9929 ok sociopath
the fact it happens at all is a problem and its far more common and more of a issue then you think just cause of your "special ass case" of not dealing with it at all dose not mean no one els does grow the hell up and do some damn research ffs its not hard to find this kind of behavior all over the internet
they really do tell you what to think not how to think for your selfs
just look at the numerous amount of hypocritical bastards all over internet who used to "fight" for femboys and tomboys but now say they dont exist they just trans people in waiting and if you dont agree your transphobic and sexist
happens all the damn time not hard to find but i guess you been living under a rock
If shit like this is what is happening across the pond, then you, my good friend, are a good person for mentioning this. there is nothing wrong with voicing ones story.
Stand strong and speak out. You'll often find that more people agree than you would think
This really needs to be illegal. These people are groomers who belong in prison.
As a teenager I just was baptized in the Holy Spirit and had to let things out to a friend and I cried because the amount of loneliness and bullying that was lifted off of me
Awesome! Pursue the Lord Jesus Christ and find a good church - it will change your life
Great admiration for you man. God bless
take care
Weeping in the spirit is a thing that happens. I thought it was just performance art for attention when I was a deist. Since giving my life to Christ I have wept uncontrollably at the overwhelming presence of God several times and other people do the opposite and are so filled with joy that they start laughing and cannot stop even though nothing humorous is happening.
If you are open to the Spirit, then the Spirit will occasionally be so manifest that it short-circuits your brain trying to process the awe of it.
@@astrolight5000 They haven't told much about their bullying. It is very possible that they were bullied and outcasted for not being baptized
Great video honestly people need to talk about these things
My son is 11. And im so worried for him that hes going to go through the same negative drama that these boys are going through
My mom died when she was 33. I'll be 33 in a few months, and I always wonder what she would have thought about how her son turned out. The fact that I am about to have experienced more life than her, and still look up to her, is mind boggling. I imagine her now up in heaven as a wise woman whom God has shown the ways of existence. I look forward to meeting her again in Heaven one day and telling her how being 60 sucks and how she lucked out missing most of the 21st century 😂
I don’t know if you’ll see this. But I was separated from my biological mom when I was seven. My adopted parents chose for me not to have any interactions with her and it has been almost 14 years since I last saw her. The memories I have are mostly sad and have caused me to question a lot about my life. I have since been able to forgive and move on but the pain has since stayed and I cry often about missing her and wishing she was the one raising me. There’s nothing like the love of a mother to a son. I still think about her every day and hope to see her again. Letting the past go is seriously difficult but necessary to move forward. Thanks for sharing your story.
God bless your soul. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
@@greatmiggleYes, thank you as well. Thank you for sharing both your stories
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”2
You should try to live at least 3 times more than her, she'll be happy.🌟
Question 2 really hits home. I believe that most men feel trapped in a world where we can't do anything right. The most mundane things as folding cloths or doing dishes isn't right for most women. Then men get complained at for just saying fuck it
Have you tried asking them, please show me how you would like it done? And not with a negative attitude. Remember a lot of women have been watching our moms do these jobs and helping her, since we were children, and moms give less leeway to girls.
Elle Bean, Consider this practical relationship advice: Just because it’s the way you accomplish a task it doesn’t make it the “right way” and it doesn’t make other ways “wrong”. Anyone who can’t get comfortable with that concept gets to do it themselves.
You just proved ops point
@@brawndothethirstmutilator9848
exactly, if you're going to be extra fussy about something either do it yourself or get someone else to do it, because only you can do it the way you want.
@@brawndothethirstmutilator9848 see, you have a negative attitude already.
My boyfriend and I will talk like this and he'll say oh I do this because ... and often he's right and we'll compromise how we do things.
22:33
I am sorry for your loss
It's really hard when you lose someone who is very dear to you at a young age
I’m new here and I like that your not over the top with reactions
I'm 17-year-old Catholic male, and I knew going into college that people wouldn't like me for that. I had vastly underestimated just how much the system despises people like me. I have barely even tried making friends in my classes because some of my professors have spewed some of the most hateful rhetoric in the nicest and gentlest of tones, and a majority of my classmates were lapping it up. I feel socially abandoned because I feel like I can't say what I really think or else face social rejection, or worse, academic punishment that I cannot fight. I spend hours upon hours in my bed at night wondering if I can ever get the chance to be supported or validated by my peers.
Worst of all is that I have no doubt that I'm one of the least severe cases. There are millions of men across the country and the world who have been told by society that they have no purpose, and it pains me to think that so many people who could amount to so much have been reduced to depressed, suicidal shells of themselves.
Thanks for bringing some of the struggles of these people to your audience, the dark side of this modern culture really needs to be brought to light.
Sorry you're going through that, friend. I'm also Catholic and considering university. I'm having to pick and choose carefully though, because I'm afraid I would get poor grades from liberal professors if I was honest and true to my faith. I can't imagine how much harder it must be for guys. Stay strong, God is on your side.
As a sophomore in college who happens to be an atheist, key phrase on “happens to be,” if you focus so much on that aspect of yourself, the thoughts you’re having now might actually happen. I’m not saying to drop your faith. If that’s something you find to be a strong suit of yours, keep it near and dear, but don’t use it as an emotional or mental block in finding friends and peers that you can trust. Hell, I’ve got friends who have the complete opposite views on a lot if not almost everything, but their beliefs aren’t what I focus on, it’s their general personality, their actions, how they are around others. One’s thought process should not be the “be all, end all” for a relationship. It could end up being the core of it, but the reality is: people aren’t going to give a shit if you’re a part of any form of any religion unless you use that as your basis for getting to know people. Just relax, find the place that best suits you in terms of program, location, and general faculty, and just be a generally good person. I don’t promise sunshine and rainbows, but I will say to follow this advice to some degree. In the end the decision is yours, just don’t let what you believe in block you from relations and opportunities that can benefit you for the future
When I was in college, I sought out The Newman Center. If you’re not familiar with it, it is a Catholic organization at universities. Fr. John Newman is it’s namesake. I made Mass also. Many times with my Newman friends. It kept me grounded. You’d be surprised how many fellow Catholics there are on campus - especially at Easter. Good luck!
You know that no one cares that you’re catholic
@@samuelcharles7642I do. It seems you do too, since you're triggered by it
as a teen boy sometimes I wish that I didn't have access to the internet.
I think that unrestricted access is the exact time my life started falling apart. (I was 9 years old)
Truth
I'm sorry. (As a teen boy)
Relatable
Yeah... I getcha
Covenant Eyes is what I use to restrict my Internet access.
As a young male who has been through the things discussed in this video as well as other videos you have posted, I must sy Thank you. The subject of insecurity has been growing at an alarming rate over the past two years and it has brouhgt massive amounts of negativity towards men.Before this, men were judge on their physiques and what they did. We thought that men are supposed to be strong and powerful people and despite this men are still humans.
Wre do not show our emotions not because we don't want to but because women no longer want us to be this way. And now, women say it is hard for them to be approached by men wen they are doing most of the judging. I find it ironic that when women want a strong man they (mostly) look at our physiques and men do the same but also are becoming more interested into how women feel.
I find it astounding that because of the shere amount of pressure that men feel because of extreme feminists, they can no longer talk. It seems (to me) that women want to become as strong as men, border line replace them, and still want to be seen as people who can be approached.
I thank you for your take on this groing issue on mens mental health from the bottom of my heart.
P.S. I have nothing against women, I am more focussed on how men are being treated and seen today. Sorry if I have affended any one this is my take on this issue.
I respect this girl alot she puts her life out there
Stay strong