There are so many stories in the news of men unaliving their families and themselves because they're having financial problems, or the wife wants to leave them. This man was failing in life and driving his family away. Instead of getting the help he needed, his answer was to inflict violence on her, and the children would have been next. I'm glad she defended herself.
A former landlord of mine did this. He was so controlling and just weird, I never liked him. Years after I left that place, his wife left him and the day their divorce finalized he had their daughters with him so he unalived both of them and himself to punish her. It's telling that this is a trend among men. When things get hard, they really don't have the resilience to persevere, to make a new plan and execute it and instead of learning these skills, they have what amounts an extremely violent temper tantrum because they don't want anyone else to thrive if they aren't. It's just so selfish and petty. It's horrific, too, but it's the small, petty meanness of it that gets me.
@@Asterisk.17 thanks. I only found out well after the fact, but it's still close to home. And yeah, I remember in my libfem naivete thinking that misogyny was some government or policy issue, but it shows up in the smallest, most intimate places and so many men just fundamentally do not care about anyone but themselves. It's terrifying.
A lot of men have been unaliving their families. You might think "that won't happen to me" but it's better be safe than sorry. No matter what, not being in a relationship with a man is the best defense. These women have tried knowing these men before saying yes to marriage and look what happened to them.
Every man I've known have had that side to them that you can't completely trust. No matter how nice or level headed they may seem, the smallest thing can sway them. If they don't get what they want, they can turn on a dime.
@@coolbreeze5683 it's so sad ... but we playing Russian Roulette when we marry men ... it appears we should keep men at a distance. We might think we got a good one but never know for sure.
We have to be careful now. Any rights we have as women can be changed. Steven Crowder was the one who initially complained about the no,fault divorce on his big platform. Now right-wing politicians are trying to remove that.
Ms. Talcot did the best thing she could. I want black women specifically to take heed to this story. We think "love" is enough to heal people. The bible says love covers a multitude of sins....TUH When she put together the paper trail about unpaid bills, she started being very realistic about who she was REALLY dealing with not the fabricated image of who she "loved". She didn't pray for his healing or force herself to "stay together so her kids could have a dad" . Her family didn't pressure her to stay or give unrealistic advice, they told her to carry pepper spray. SHE CARRIED IT ON HER AND MADE A PLAN. Men of all races unalive their families but I believe our community has an added layer of religious indoctrination, mistrust of police and law enforcement, and inherited pressure and shame to allow black men to be fathers. I believe this sets us up even worse to see and acknowledge red flags and act accordingly despite if that's your husband or baby daddy or not. I'll also say it's even MORE important for "us" to start a paper trail with law enforcement when they start acting erratic because they'll be less inclined to just believe your black story if you ever have to kill someone.(Spouse, child's father.) But yea this story was chilling, her quick thinking saved her and her kids, and this one takes FAFO to a whole nother level.
How is a wyte male lawyer unable to find employment??!! Seems highly unlikely to me. I've never heard of him. This woman literally saved her life and her children's lives!! I'm glad the children didn't witness anything. Hopefully, she and her children will be able to find stability. 😮😮
Depending on his law specialty, a credit check might have made him unemployable. Nobody wants a lawyer that far behind - easier to bribe, untrustworthy for financials and estates, etc… He would’ve been the Alex Murdaugh of New Hampshire.
I agree with the other replies. I also want to add that he probably narrowed his job search to position he felt matched his interests. He could have become a teacher (or something) for example.
Hmmm. Multiple lacerations but no actual stab wounds......Im not sure his intent was to kill...some would say maybe intimidation. Idk the story is odd. Especially the part about the fruit and watching him die until finally calling the police.....Its just odd
@@lm1534my Lacerations was from her using her arms to fight him off plus don't forget she pepper sprayed his eyes so he couldn't see perfectly well. you don't cut someone with a butcher's knife to "intimidate" someone
@@lm1534mytell me you’ve never been in a fight for your life without telling me, it’s much more common to get cuts on your arms as apposed to stab wounds when fighting someone with a knife. Also wtf you doing here with this attitude, either your a far right fan girl or a man, because your suspicion and callous disregard for this mothers life is deeply fucked up.
That man had been abusing that woman in every way for the years leading up to his demise. He thought she wasn’t going to defend herself and protect her children, well he FAFO. I’m glad she was found not guilty because self defense was justified in this case.
Please do a story on the husband who took out his two month old and five yr old because he's job wasn't paying enough to provide the lifestyle his family wanted he was tired of his kids bragging about things he can't afford cause these men don't care about nobody but themselves
So the family didn't say well. Since you and the children may be in danger, you all can just stay with us until you're back on your feet. Nope, they say get you some pepper spray family is a mess.
Legacy Enders. Sends chills down my spine. So glad both those women got out but so few women ever do… Ladies, we need to leave at the first sign of a serious mental break. You don’t have to necessarily divorce right then and there but you’ve got to get yourself and your children SAFE FIRST.
You can’t save them all 😅 You’re not a professional psychologist 👩⚕️ just because you have a 🐈 Not your job Not your fight Move on 😅 Say no to love ❤️
That poor woman. That fruit thing is a woman in complete shock at what is happening - it doesn’t make sense, but you do it while you’re trying to make sense of anything in that moment. I am glad she survived. And protected her kids.
They really get so offended when they think you're even hinting at the word "crazy" or telling them to calm down, even if you don't say that. But it's supposedly women going nuts being told those things.
I remember that on the original Law & Order, the earlier seasons often featured whole episode stories about family annihilators. I remember doing a re-run binge like a decade ago, and I was confused with those stories being so prominently featured. It happens so often, that now it makes sense why it was featured as the main story in whole episodes, that's how casually expected it is.
The 2nd pic of the guy in the first story shows him wearing a JSU cap. JSU is an HBCU located in Jackson, MS. There was probably some coded message in his doing that known only to like minded individuals
No, I'm thinking he probably considered himself an ally, a social justice minded person and a feminist. A real good guy, doncha know! All this family annihilation? That wasn't reflective of who he was. No, ma'am. She MADE him do it.
😂 these conservative women think “conservative” hypocrisy doesn’t apply to them. What did you think he was? They go to legal aid even though they don’t think tax dollars should fund it.
Chances are decent because no charges have been filed by the police. The only thing that might hold it up is if he also wasn’t paying for life insurance anymore.
During Bush's recession a white man told my black male friend that 'we (white men) don't handle pressure well at all'. It was his co-worker and they both were supervisors. Another friend recently told me that when he worked at NASA, the older white guys there were resented by the younger white guys. The young ones looked down on the more experienced workers as being out of touch. He said those younger guys could not handle stress and would snap. He was young himself but prior military and a combat vet. He told me those guys went from home to University and then a high stress job without ever experiencing hard knocks. They don't know how to handle sh*t life throws at you. They would get so mad, if they couldn't get a day off.
The narrative of is there no reason just don't want to be married anymore. Maybe a small amount but most might have a legitimate reason. The first women had a reason. Erratic behavior not coming to his wife from the get go were having financial issues. This not only affects his wife but kid's besides himself. Not getting help or seeking help.
Ladies, I feel like we’re actually getting somewhere. This New Hampshire AG is GOP, and he looks like the kind of guy who would not be empathetic to an abused wife. But he did the right thing.
I have a can of bear spray and I’m not even in a relationship, gave it just in case someone breaks in. It’s extremely powerful and will bring anyone to their knees, definitely pick it up if you’re in a relationship with a man
I'm not happy for either person but I am glad the law sided with a woman protecting herself against her domestic partner since the law sided with women all too rarely. Of course, each case must be decided based on its merit. But apparently women get punished more fiercely for hurting their male partners than men so for hurting their female partners.
@@BurbNBougie And that's a huge problem when women do this: Checking out and letting the husband control the finances will get a woman in a situation just like this. Too many women do this to their detriment.
A lot of a certain type of men are totally controlling re: finances: earns the $$, pays all the bills, etc. - wife assumes he files the taxes. Who controls the finances controls the narrative.
My stbx refused to let me have access to the finances and forged my name on the taxes for two years. The last two tax returns happened after I filed- and he had to sign releases that say I am not responsible for any fraud he has committed. I'm not stupid- but nobody protects victims of financial abuse.
Another reason to be very cautious about putting the financial burden on a man. They rather unalive themselves or their families then admit they failed at something and need help
May he rest in peace. Gosh, this first story is so sad for that entire family. The wife she must had been stunned. What a hot mess, this guy was really mentally ill. I am sorry that no one in his life was able to reason with the husband prior to those unfaithful events that proceeded his demise.
I don't mean to be that guy but is it not possible that he asked to talk in the bedroom and she brought the fruit (as a distraction and reason for having the knife) and knife with the intention of un-aliving him because of all of the things she found out?
They are able to determine if her wounds were self inflicted or if someone did it. Even if she did bring the knife he did attack her with it and it was self defense. We will never know
I guess anything is possible. It is usually the men offing the wives and familes. Money issues hit these men hard. What would your theory of her motive be
Plz explain the *multiple* lacerations on *her* body - angle of penetration is among 1st thing to be documented, hands/arms are usually defensive. She might have brought fruit in b4 talking, but I somehow doubt she would have brought in a knife if she was carrying pepper spray for possible defensive use.
@@BurbNBougiefirst of all, Hi...big fan, new subscriber!!! My guess about motive would just be that she didn't want to go down with the sinking ship he had them on. My daughter watches A LOT of true crime, so I'm always trying to see what another scenario could be. I just find it odd to go back into a room where you've stabbed someone (in fear for your life) to honor his dying wish for fruit.
Totally weird for her to go back or care. I won't speculate on that. I would just not imagine a wife doing this without something more from the investigation. That's not to say that there are no women who commit heinous crimes.
There are so many stories in the news of men unaliving their families and themselves because they're having financial problems, or the wife wants to leave them. This man was failing in life and driving his family away. Instead of getting the help he needed, his answer was to inflict violence on her, and the children would have been next. I'm glad she defended herself.
True. When these phony protectors and providers start losing their money and control, they start losing their minds.
Family annihilator
A former landlord of mine did this. He was so controlling and just weird, I never liked him. Years after I left that place, his wife left him and the day their divorce finalized he had their daughters with him so he unalived both of them and himself to punish her.
It's telling that this is a trend among men. When things get hard, they really don't have the resilience to persevere, to make a new plan and execute it and instead of learning these skills, they have what amounts an extremely violent temper tantrum because they don't want anyone else to thrive if they aren't. It's just so selfish and petty. It's horrific, too, but it's the small, petty meanness of it that gets me.
@@evergreenforestwitch your second paragraph was so succinctly put. I'm glad that you got out of that situation relatively unscathed.
@@Asterisk.17 thanks. I only found out well after the fact, but it's still close to home. And yeah, I remember in my libfem naivete thinking that misogyny was some government or policy issue, but it shows up in the smallest, most intimate places and so many men just fundamentally do not care about anyone but themselves. It's terrifying.
He did all this while his kids were in the house.... Absolutely mental.
If she hadn't had pepper spray and got the upper hand, they would have been next.
He was planning on taking out the whole family
What if she failed to fight him off and he turned his rage to the children?! It'd be another chris watts situation...😰
They really don't care about the kids
I'm glad she wasn't charged. In the past she probably would have. If she was a slightly less sympathetic victim she probably would be on trial.
Glad she fought for her survival, and he won't be a danger to anyone again.
I bet he had a gambling problem which is why they had money problems
A lot of men have been unaliving their families. You might think "that won't happen to me" but it's better be safe than sorry. No matter what, not being in a relationship with a man is the best defense. These women have tried knowing these men before saying yes to marriage and look what happened to them.
Every man I've known have had that side to them that you can't completely trust. No matter how nice or level headed they may seem, the smallest thing can sway them. If they don't get what they want, they can turn on a dime.
@@coolbreeze5683 it's so sad ... but we playing Russian Roulette when we marry men ... it appears we should keep men at a distance. We might think we got a good one but never know for sure.
No doubt he was gonna take out the whole family....Im glad she would not face any charges and God riddance!!!
I Agree. And I bet he was into all kinds of BS for them to have money problems
Whos gonna tell him... that in EVERY STATE, she is allowed to leave his azz.
We have to be careful now. Any rights we have as women can be changed. Steven Crowder was the one who initially complained about the no,fault divorce on his big platform. Now right-wing politicians are trying to remove that.
When he gets where ever he goes now they will let him know 😹😹😹
Ms. Talcot did the best thing she could.
I want black women specifically to take heed to this story. We think "love" is enough to heal people. The bible says love covers a multitude of sins....TUH
When she put together the paper trail about unpaid bills, she started being very realistic about who she was REALLY dealing with not the fabricated image of who she "loved".
She didn't pray for his healing or force herself to "stay together so her kids could have a dad" .
Her family didn't pressure her to stay or give unrealistic advice, they told her to carry pepper spray.
SHE CARRIED IT ON HER AND MADE A PLAN.
Men of all races unalive their families but I believe our community has an added layer of religious indoctrination, mistrust of police and law enforcement, and inherited pressure and shame to allow black men to be fathers. I believe this sets us up even worse to see and acknowledge red flags and act accordingly despite if that's your husband or baby daddy or not.
I'll also say it's even MORE important for "us" to start a paper trail with law enforcement when they start acting erratic because they'll be less inclined to just believe your black story if you ever have to kill someone.(Spouse, child's father.) But yea this story was chilling, her quick thinking saved her and her kids, and this one takes FAFO to a whole nother level.
🎯🎯🎯
The DV rate is 3x high in the Blk community. Femicide rate is sky high too.
BW proximity to BM puts us in danger more so than WW proximity to WM
Glad her family supported her.
No they didn't. They told her to get some pepper spray instead getting her to someone house he wouldn't suspect.
How is a wyte male lawyer unable to find employment??!! Seems highly unlikely to me. I've never heard of him. This woman literally saved her life and her children's lives!! I'm glad the children didn't witness anything. Hopefully, she and her children will be able to find stability. 😮😮
Right!! He was probably goofing off and it caught up with him.
Depending on his law specialty, a credit check might have made him unemployable. Nobody wants a lawyer that far behind - easier to bribe, untrustworthy for financials and estates, etc…
He would’ve been the Alex Murdaugh of New Hampshire.
He might have had depression. When you're depressed it's difficult to get a job, because you're slow and tired.
I agree with the other replies. I also want to add that he probably narrowed his job search to position he felt matched his interests. He could have become a teacher (or something) for example.
The fact that the note was all it took for him to commit murder is crazy
I think the note was just the last straw. His behaviour had become increasingly erratic. 😬
Hmmm. Multiple lacerations but no actual stab wounds......Im not sure his intent was to kill...some would say maybe intimidation. Idk the story is odd. Especially the part about the fruit and watching him die until finally calling the police.....Its just odd
@@lm1534my Lacerations was from her using her arms to fight him off plus don't forget she pepper sprayed his eyes so he couldn't see perfectly well. you don't cut someone with a butcher's knife to "intimidate" someone
@@lm1534mytell me you’ve never been in a fight for your life without telling me, it’s much more common to get cuts on your arms as apposed to stab wounds when fighting someone with a knife. Also wtf you doing here with this attitude, either your a far right fan girl or a man, because your suspicion and callous disregard for this mothers life is deeply fucked up.
He already wanted them gone I bet
Glad it was him instead of her this time. But I bet she and the kids are traumatized.
Rather be traumatized than unalived.
That man had been abusing that woman in every way for the years leading up to his demise. He thought she wasn’t going to defend herself and protect her children, well he FAFO. I’m glad she was found not guilty because self defense was justified in this case.
I am so glad that it was him and not her. Thankfully she is out alive. So sad for the entire family 💔
And her children. I hope they get help for all the trauma they've gone thru
She saved her children’s lives.
I am so glad she made it out alive. 😯😯😯
Please do a story on the husband who took out his two month old and five yr old because he's job wasn't paying enough to provide the lifestyle his family wanted he was tired of his kids bragging about things he can't afford cause these men don't care about nobody but themselves
Ummm. Wow. I hadn't heard of that one. But that one might be too hard on me
Bruh 😢
Just when I think I’ve heard it all
Rip to those babies ❤
Gooood mama bear..... good job Mrs. T.
Smart woman for staying there to make sure he bled out instead of running out the room.
That’s great!! I’m glad she was able to successfully defend herself w/o facing major consequences!!🎉
August 26th is women’s equality day and the day women were allowed to vote. A lot of women have been killed on this day too. 😢
Im glad she didn't become another statistic.
The PTSD tho …
Gods, how scary...these guys are becoming so unhinged. Please leave in silence if you can.
So the family didn't say well. Since you and the children may be in danger, you all can just stay with us until you're back on your feet. Nope, they say get you some pepper spray family is a mess.
FAFO for real.
This is why every woman should have a go bag.
Legacy Enders. Sends chills down my spine. So glad both those women got out but so few women ever do… Ladies, we need to leave at the first sign of a serious mental break. You don’t have to necessarily divorce right then and there but you’ve got to get yourself and your children SAFE FIRST.
You can’t save them all 😅
You’re not a professional psychologist 👩⚕️ just because you have a 🐈
Not your job
Not your fight
Move on 😅
Say no to love ❤️
That poor woman. That fruit thing is a woman in complete shock at what is happening - it doesn’t make sense, but you do it while you’re trying to make sense of anything in that moment. I am glad she survived. And protected her kids.
They really get so offended when they think you're even hinting at the word "crazy" or telling them to calm down, even if you don't say that. But it's supposedly women going nuts being told those things.
I remember that on the original Law & Order, the earlier seasons often featured whole episode stories about family annihilators. I remember doing a re-run binge like a decade ago, and I was confused with those stories being so prominently featured. It happens so often, that now it makes sense why it was featured as the main story in whole episodes, that's how casually expected it is.
Damn, Kristin said this ain't that bruh.
It's so sad that men think we women should be married to them regardless of them being abusive, unfaithful, aggressive, controlling etc.etc.
How is this not on the major news networks
Because, the news rather glorify the man for succeeding in the unaliving. It's warfare.
The 2nd pic of the guy in the first story shows him wearing a JSU cap. JSU is an HBCU located in Jackson, MS. There was probably some coded message in his doing that known only to like minded individuals
No, I'm thinking he probably considered himself an ally, a social justice minded person and a feminist. A real good guy, doncha know! All this family annihilation? That wasn't reflective of who he was. No, ma'am. She MADE him do it.
@@silverbluemonsoonI know you’re being sarcastic but this guy was a far right activist. No way he thought of himself as an ally or a feminist.
😂 these conservative women think “conservative” hypocrisy doesn’t apply to them. What did you think he was? They go to legal aid even though they don’t think tax dollars should fund it.
I hope the life insurance company pays her
Chances are decent because no charges have been filed by the police. The only thing that might hold it up is if he also wasn’t paying for life insurance anymore.
Wow. This is crazy. Great storytime bur ❤
Glad she survived n is not going to prison
I’m amazed, but in a good way, at the AG’s analysis. Many women would have been prosecuted for self defense in these circumstances.
Good mom, good instincts.
The guy looks physco scary and mental even in the first photo of him.
During Bush's recession a white man told my black male friend that 'we (white men) don't handle pressure well at all'.
It was his co-worker and they both were supervisors.
Another friend recently told me that when he worked at NASA, the older white guys there were resented by the younger white guys. The young ones looked down on the more experienced workers as being out of touch.
He said those younger guys could not handle stress and would snap. He was young himself but prior military and a combat vet. He told me those guys went from home to University and then a high stress job without ever experiencing hard knocks.
They don't know how to handle sh*t life throws at you. They would get so mad, if they couldn't get a day off.
Wow. He provided the weaponry. Look at that. SMH
The narrative of is there no reason just don't want to be married anymore. Maybe a small amount but most might have a legitimate reason. The first women had a reason. Erratic behavior not coming to his wife from the get go were having financial issues. This not only affects his wife but kid's besides himself. Not getting help or seeking help.
Ladies, I feel like we’re actually getting somewhere. This New Hampshire AG is GOP, and he looks like the kind of guy who would not be empathetic to an abused wife. But he did the right thing.
Ugh, the betrayal...I feel for her. She was so tough and smart.
In 2024, there isn't a person alive who can tell me that marriage & children will enrich my life for the better. I am yet unconvinced😏
I have a can of bear spray and I’m not even in a relationship, gave it just in case someone breaks in. It’s extremely powerful and will bring anyone to their knees, definitely pick it up if you’re in a relationship with a man
Prolife people
This man was demon possessed, why bring a knife in the bedroom 😳.
Why didn’t he just get a job?
F.A.F.O sir. Everyday for wifey dearest to be tolerant and one day to put a stop to your f***ery. Don't EVER mess with a calm woman's peace! EVER!!!!
He had it coming
Better him than her.
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I'm not happy for either person but I am glad the law sided with a woman protecting herself against her domestic partner since the law sided with women all too rarely. Of course, each case must be decided based on its merit. But apparently women get punished more fiercely for hurting their male partners than men so for hurting their female partners.
Oh well. Shouldn’t have been acting like you invincible 🤷🏾♀️
How could the wife not know about their financial situation until it was too late?? Not filing income taxes, not paying the mortgage?
SAHMs and housewives aren't always looped in. Especially if they have never paid the bills.
@@BurbNBougie And that's a huge problem when women do this: Checking out and letting the husband control the finances will get a woman in a situation just like this. Too many women do this to their detriment.
A lot of a certain type of men are totally controlling re: finances: earns the $$, pays all the bills, etc. - wife assumes he files the taxes.
Who controls the finances controls the narrative.
My stbx refused to let me have access to the finances and forged my name on the taxes for two years. The last two tax returns happened after I filed- and he had to sign releases that say I am not responsible for any fraud he has committed. I'm not stupid- but nobody protects victims of financial abuse.
Probably a TRAD wife, too. Their lives revolves around their husbands.
Most marriages end bcos of financial problems
Wow, talk about FAFO…geez
Another reason to be very cautious about putting the financial burden on a man. They rather unalive themselves or their families then admit they failed at something and need help
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May he rest in peace. Gosh, this first story is so sad for that entire family. The wife she must had been stunned.
What a hot mess, this guy was really mentally ill. I am sorry that no one in his life was able to reason with the husband prior to those unfaithful events that proceeded his demise.
Mentally ill? Or a manipulative personality disorder?
Title is a very oxymoron. I don’t need to watch the video. God bless everybody involved repent, and have peace.
I don't mean to be that guy but is it not possible that he asked to talk in the bedroom and she brought the fruit (as a distraction and reason for having the knife) and knife with the intention of un-aliving him because of all of the things she found out?
They are able to determine if her wounds were self inflicted or if someone did it. Even if she did bring the knife he did attack her with it and it was self defense. We will never know
I guess anything is possible. It is usually the men offing the wives and familes. Money issues hit these men hard. What would your theory of her motive be
Plz explain the *multiple* lacerations on *her* body - angle of penetration is among 1st thing to be documented, hands/arms are usually defensive.
She might have brought fruit in b4 talking, but I somehow doubt she would have brought in a knife if she was carrying pepper spray for possible defensive use.
@@BurbNBougiefirst of all, Hi...big fan, new subscriber!!! My guess about motive would just be that she didn't want to go down with the sinking ship he had them on. My daughter watches A LOT of true crime, so I'm always trying to see what another scenario could be. I just find it odd to go back into a room where you've stabbed someone (in fear for your life) to honor his dying wish for fruit.
Totally weird for her to go back or care. I won't speculate on that. I would just not imagine a wife doing this without something more from the investigation. That's not to say that there are no women who commit heinous crimes.