How I fell in the well without seeing I can't hold rope of the bucket which is evidently throw towards me I can't judge but after that I scrol of it so it is so difficult it is better to live alone with a handsome money than to hire a taxi unknown
You will never know the true compatibility until you marry. Marriage takes alot of compromising and patience. It's another stage in life with new trials and challenges it has its beauty as well الحمد لله. May Allah bless our marriages and those whom are to be married.
Parents should stop pestering their daughters for marriage otherwise they will end up marrying those who aren't on their hearts, this is the greatest abomination in life some commits.
Tbh, if parents let their daughter live her life and she doesn't get married. They blame them, when they help her it doesn't workout, it's their fault too. It's also hard on them.
My husband of 22 years couldn’t forget about his childhood sweetheart, so he broke our family apart, they both did. She’s on husband number four and I think he feels that they were always destined to be together and that’s why her marriages have not worked out. He couldn’t give up the emotional affair as he said she’s ‘family’, well they have a connection that they are still pursuing, even at the expense of the lives of others. I actually feel that he’s wasted my life and that he used me for all these years. Only with Allah’s help will I recover from this heartbreak, Insha’Allah
I'm sorry to hear about your story Shamim, may Allah give you strength and peace. Allah doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear, I pray that get abundance of happiness, health and blessings both in this life and the next, Ameen.
@@Naushaaba2023 oh I agree but I also believe a person wants to change for Allah’s sake not for their own benefits or to keep face in public - those are the worst reasons so calling it a day May be the only answer. Just my humble opinion and experience
Please pray for me wallah my test it’s really hard but I pray Allah and I tell HIM I’m happy to accept this test from HIM until HE want to end it. It’s really hard please pray for me my brothers and sisters. May Allah reward all of you. Amine. Karim
Simple, when you fall in love...look for someone in a rational manner. People are different & they compromise differently. For people like me it's easy, a person who priorities marriage soo much. I can be chaste for my charming prince until marriage.😄
And what if that prince charming is 30 years younger than you and a marriage material? Try to tell your heart not to love that person and see what happens! It will do the opposite.
@@infjlogic You are not evolved enough to be loved by a true gentleman. You have been brainwashed by the society you are living in that loving someone very different than you is a sin. And please stop making fun of young boys. Your thoughts are very powerful, they create your own reality. In other words, you will reap what you sow! That is the law of karma. Karmic lessons are necessary for us to evolve. Your karmic lesson regarding men is to accept them all equally whether young or old!!!
Mashallah! You both are so right! The one not right is the One who married for visa after the wife falling in love he divoce her because visa already grant, and few months later he brings his own wife and children from his original country move to Australia or other countries where his FAKE wife has been destroyed. Astaghfirullah...True story.
The issue here is that knowing if someone is compatible is almost impossible prior to marriage from the Islamic point of view. These imams are talking about compatibility because this is what they have been told in the modern era is important in a marriage. We know from an Islamic point of view, prophet Mohammed advised on how to find a spouse. The criteria mentioned by him should be enough to have a healthy marriage. Comparability may not always occur in a marriage but if a marriage has the basic Islamic foundation in it , then the couple can work on compatibility
Why marriage has become so difficult in today's world? What a Muslim girl do if there is no hope of marriage for her? She is unable to find nor her parents a suitable man
salam alaykum...they say that you never really know someone until you live with them. We as Muslims, do not live before marriage...so how do we know if we are really compatible or not. Also, what about people who may argue a bit more than normal but still loyal to each other as opposed to being so "compatible" and yet cheating or simply just not invested.
Very true - especially with arranged marriages. I’ve discovered that I don’t actually know who I am married to- he lies, cheats with money, just so dishonest - Ya Allah- never knew people like this existed that are just after money, reputation and status - Astagfirullah -
I dont Agree. To know a person you dont have to live with him / her. You can Simply get engaged and talk . I can assure you that people can not lie more than 3 months. So make your engagement longer than 3 months . The character and the mentality of the person Will be revealed.
You are wrong! Separation is the ultimate test of love! Why not marriage? Because when you separate from someone you love deeply due to outside influences such as family, religion and financial position, your heart keeps loving that person. However, when your ego steps in, the fight between heart (love) and mind (fear) begins. And that fight represents the test of love because you have no other choice than to fight for your love or give it up!
Don't be sad ! Even you had this advice 22 years ago, trust me it would not be useful without going through life. Advice is like a theory , Theories are rubbish without personally practising. For everything I had and I will go through , ElhamdulillAH. only GODALLAH (c.c.) knows what is the best for us.
I read your Story in the other comment Sophia sister I’m sorry what happened to you, please have sabr and make a lot of Dua my Allah rewards this Dunya and Akhira .
Hmm i was wondering if i could have your advices friends, one of them i think Nouman Ali Khan Said that it s not with roses and Nice restaurants and going to cinema and thing like that that you can know if there is compatibility or not, and i agree with that. But then my question is, how, in occidental society in which we are currently living, how can we know about compatibility ? By which ways then ?
Whats about those who have more than one marriage assume a widow n married again than a why a female muslim is punished by later husband why you have not forgotten past husband although have a child even from past islam says to hate the past if a female is married twice she is always be punished by next husband but if same happens to male then the wife of that male is punished that you are not like the other one n y you are not exactly like the previous or other one.... Y female muslims are always snubbed by others if married twice or even more but not males... If they do injustice even... Among more than one spouse... But in case of females females are always snubbed n punished... This happens in our society... And such females than treated like victims
Obviously this is not Islam, the snubbing women because she’s a widow or divorced. Islam doesn’t say to “hate the past” a real Muslim man can accept a woman has loved another husband in the past and there’s nothing wrong in that and nothing wrong with the women for that although it can be challenging for a man to deal with some emotions that come up. I say this as a divorced and remarried woman. Sometimes society or family tries to tell me no don’t tell people you’re divorced but it is not a shameful thing. Khadijah was widowed twice before marrying the prophet. Many of the prophets wives were widowed and/or divorced. The practice of shaming or snubbing women for having been previously married or widowed is not of Islam. We’re not an object that is second hand once someone else has married us.
Islam give permission choose another wife to man!! If not that then find right wife on 10th wife… women Donot have that….. no explanation can hide women have no choose… wish women can also have that choice to choose and move with happiness..
Well women have the choice to divorce the husband and marry another man as per quran and hadith as we saw in the times of prophet women would commonly take divorce and marry others....or another until she likes to stay with one she likes the most...that's why marriage is not just bout families,it's about the wavelength of 2 individuals in wedlock...and both of them has this right islamically to move on if they don't find compatibility...What society does isn't islamic...the society is not islamic,hence the stigma around women marriages in sub continent due to influence of other cultures in this region,its not in Arabs though....women marry multiple times in arabs too and its common ...but still in sub continent,we can see muslim women taking divorces and marrying men of their own choices too...ppl will shut up after a while as its allowed in islam,they cant do much about it anyway.
@@laxmiprajapati8710 no woman can have physical relationship and kids with 10 men all together at once biologically for whole her life and for men it's just 4 not 10...I being a muslim have never seen a man with 4 wives to be honest but I can guarantee u 4,5 marriages of women 1 after another if she is not happy with her husbands. also no 4 wives would live peacefully together which is natural...That's why it's an option not compulsory and it's preferably to avoid ...
Here's the complete indepth video on Dating and Marriage in Islam
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Shukran and Thank you. May Allah give you and us hidayah.
How I fell in the well without seeing I can't hold rope of the bucket which is evidently throw towards me I can't judge but after that I scrol of it so it is so difficult it is better to live alone with a handsome money than to hire a taxi unknown
You will never know the true compatibility until you marry. Marriage takes alot of compromising and patience. It's another stage in life with new trials and challenges it has its beauty as well الحمد لله. May Allah bless our marriages and those whom are to be married.
Ameen
Well said..Aameen
Aamiin
"U leave something for Allah, He gives you something better"❤❤
Subhan Allah
Parents should stop pestering their daughters for marriage otherwise they will end up marrying those who aren't on their hearts, this is the greatest abomination in life some commits.
Tbh, if parents let their daughter live her life and she doesn't get married. They blame them, when they help her it doesn't workout, it's their fault too. It's also hard on them.
@@vijayachandrikapyla1627 sorry but are your parents muslim?
@@vijayachandrikapyla1627 how are you now
@@vijayachandrikapyla1627 got married ?
My husband of 22 years couldn’t forget about his childhood sweetheart, so he broke our family apart, they both did.
She’s on husband number four and I think he feels that they were always destined to be together and that’s why her marriages have not worked out.
He couldn’t give up the emotional affair as he said she’s ‘family’, well they have a connection that they are still pursuing, even at the expense of the lives of others.
I actually feel that he’s wasted my life and that he used me for all these years. Only with Allah’s help will I recover from this heartbreak, Insha’Allah
May Allah ease your situation my beloved sister 🤍
I'm sorry to hear about your story Shamim, may Allah give you strength and peace. Allah doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear, I pray that get abundance of happiness, health and blessings both in this life and the next, Ameen.
May Allah grant you sabr sister
May Allah ease your situation
May Allah Swt reward you for your patience in dunya and akhirah.
marriage is a destiny. we cannot stop what we we will go through. It's like 'what will be , will be ' the rest of it just waste of our time.
Doesn’t mean you have to put up with it though does it? Not when it’s so toxic and oppressive
@@sosunshine95 anything between life and death can change through prayer in islam
@@Naushaaba2023 oh I agree but I also believe a person wants to change for Allah’s sake not for their own benefits or to keep face in public - those are the worst reasons so calling it a day May be the only answer. Just my humble opinion and experience
@@sosunshine95 I'm sorry I didn't understand your point sister.
@@Naushaaba2023 no worries 👍🏻
Please pray for me wallah my test it’s really hard but I pray Allah and I tell HIM I’m happy to accept this test from HIM until HE want to end it. It’s really hard please pray for me my brothers and sisters. May Allah reward all of you. Amine. Karim
I completely agree with NAK here! families are like marry anyone but the one you are emotionally invested in!
The opening Ayah is just amazing Soubhanallah. May Allah reward you with the best.
O Allah! Make this good for me and choose the better option for me.
They just went off the topic 🥹!
Can we also have lectures on Muslim women's individual financial development, the importance, the need and the right.
In Sha ALLAH soon
Simple, when you fall in love...look for someone in a rational manner.
People are different & they compromise differently. For people like me it's easy, a person who priorities marriage soo much. I can be chaste for my charming prince until marriage.😄
And what if that prince charming is 30 years younger than you and a marriage material? Try to tell your heart not to love that person and see what happens! It will do the opposite.
@@ivetabombalova3933 Then I should sing "rockabye baby" for him. 😂
@@infjlogic
You are not evolved enough to be loved by a true gentleman. You have been brainwashed by the society you are living in that loving someone very different than you is a sin. And please stop making fun of young boys. Your thoughts are very powerful, they create your own reality.
In other words, you will reap what you sow! That is the law of karma.
Karmic lessons are necessary for us to evolve. Your karmic lesson regarding men is to accept them all equally whether young or old!!!
Alhamdulillah.... Dis was really good... N my two favorite preachers... Stay blessed ❤️
Alhamdulillah
Sir, are you muslim??
Mashallah! You both are so right! The one not right is the One who married for visa after the wife falling in love he divoce her because visa already grant, and few months later he brings his own wife and children from his original country move to Australia or other countries where his FAKE wife has been destroyed. Astaghfirullah...True story.
Same happened to someone in my family
The issue here is that knowing if someone is compatible is almost impossible prior to marriage from the Islamic point of view. These imams are talking about compatibility because this is what they have been told in the modern era is important in a marriage. We know from an Islamic point of view, prophet Mohammed advised on how to find a spouse. The criteria mentioned by him should be enough to have a healthy marriage. Comparability may not always occur in a marriage but if a marriage has the basic Islamic foundation in it , then the couple can work on compatibility
please write peace and blessings be upon him fully
Behind every decision is a responsibility but some decisions are not compulsory you may decided to take it or leave it though
Why marriage has become so difficult in today's world? What a Muslim girl do if there is no hope of marriage for her? She is unable to find nor her parents a suitable man
Beautiful MashaAllah
Full video is here ua-cam.com/video/AelqWGhRj88/v-deo.html
salam alaykum...they say that you never really know someone until you live with them. We as Muslims, do not live before marriage...so how do we know if we are really compatible or not. Also, what about people who may argue a bit more than normal but still loyal to each other as opposed to being so "compatible" and yet cheating or simply just not invested.
Very true - especially with arranged marriages. I’ve discovered that I don’t actually know who I am married to- he lies, cheats with money, just so dishonest - Ya Allah- never knew people like this existed that are just after money, reputation and status - Astagfirullah -
@@sosunshine95 Pray and ask Allah for continuous guidance and make istikhara in regards to your husband. Have faith and sabr and isA you will be fine
I dont Agree. To know a person you dont have to live with him / her. You can Simply get engaged and talk . I can assure you that people can not lie more than 3 months. So make your engagement longer than 3 months . The character and the mentality of the person Will be revealed.
Full video is here ua-cam.com/video/AelqWGhRj88/v-deo.html
@@z.a.1237 Full video is here ua-cam.com/video/AelqWGhRj88/v-deo.html
Can anyone share this full lecture please?
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Alhamdhulillah. Where to find the full version of it
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its ironic cause u dont know if u truly love and respect each other without marriage ! marriage is the ultimate test of "love"
You are wrong! Separation is the ultimate test of love! Why not marriage? Because when you separate from someone you love deeply due to outside influences such as family, religion and financial position, your heart keeps loving that person. However, when your ego steps in, the fight between heart (love) and mind (fear) begins. And that fight represents the test of love because you have no other choice than to fight for your love or give it up!
Wish this advice was around 22 years ago😥
Don't be sad ! Even you had this advice 22 years ago, trust me it would not be useful without going through life. Advice is like a theory , Theories are rubbish without personally practising. For everything I had and I will go through , ElhamdulillAH. only GODALLAH (c.c.) knows what is the best for us.
Full video is here ua-cam.com/video/AelqWGhRj88/v-deo.html
@@pervinsolak3215 Full video is here ua-cam.com/video/AelqWGhRj88/v-deo.html
I read your Story in the other comment Sophia sister I’m sorry what happened to you, please have sabr and make a lot of Dua my Allah rewards this Dunya and Akhira .
@@kimuhumad6594 In Sha Allah and Ameen 🙏
Hmm i was wondering if i could have your advices friends, one of them i think Nouman Ali Khan Said that it s not with roses and Nice restaurants and going to cinema and thing like that that you can know if there is compatibility or not, and i agree with that. But then my question is, how, in occidental society in which we are currently living, how can we know about compatibility ? By which ways then ?
Subhan Allah
Alhamdulilah
I didnt get who i loved. I will never marry. I hate this life.
Is love not fake it's more tho have good person human around you what I think love is controversial only whe not say next tho the women.😊
Whats about those who have more than one marriage assume a widow n married again than a why a female muslim is punished by later husband why you have not forgotten past husband although have a child even from past islam says to hate the past if a female is married twice she is always be punished by next husband but if same happens to male then the wife of that male is punished that you are not like the other one n y you are not exactly like the previous or other one.... Y female muslims are always snubbed by others if married twice or even more but not males... If they do injustice even... Among more than one spouse... But in case of females females are always snubbed n punished... This happens in our society... And such females than treated like victims
well put
Obviously this is not Islam, the snubbing women because she’s a widow or divorced. Islam doesn’t say to “hate the past” a real Muslim man can accept a woman has loved another husband in the past and there’s nothing wrong in that and nothing wrong with the women for that although it can be challenging for a man to deal with some emotions that come up. I say this as a divorced and remarried woman. Sometimes society or family tries to tell me no don’t tell people you’re divorced but it is not a shameful thing. Khadijah was widowed twice before marrying the prophet. Many of the prophets wives were widowed and/or divorced. The practice of shaming or snubbing women for having been previously married or widowed is not of Islam. We’re not an object that is second hand once someone else has married us.
Dont like the fact that he says there needs to be a thirt party to say yes or no going forward with marriage.
Can I have the full link of this
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Islam give permission choose another wife to man!! If not that then find right wife on 10th wife… women Donot have that….. no explanation can hide women have no choose… wish women can also have that choice to choose and move with happiness..
Then we would not have any difference from Catholics
Well women have the choice to divorce the husband and marry another man as per quran and hadith as we saw in the times of prophet women would commonly take divorce and marry others....or another until she likes to stay with one she likes the most...that's why marriage is not just bout families,it's about the wavelength of 2 individuals in wedlock...and both of them has this right islamically to move on if they don't find compatibility...What society does isn't islamic...the society is not islamic,hence the stigma around women marriages in sub continent due to influence of other cultures in this region,its not in Arabs though....women marry multiple times in arabs too and its common ...but still in sub continent,we can see muslim women taking divorces and marrying men of their own choices too...ppl will shut up after a while as its allowed in islam,they cant do much about it anyway.
@@MaryB18 i never see any polygamy.. not seen any example of women who has 10 husbands all living together, had blessing from society and religion.
@@laxmiprajapati8710 no woman can have physical relationship and kids with 10 men all together at once biologically for whole her life and for men it's just 4 not 10...I being a muslim have never seen a man with 4 wives to be honest but I can guarantee u 4,5 marriages of women 1 after another if she is not happy with her husbands. also no 4 wives would live peacefully together which is natural...That's why it's an option not compulsory and it's preferably to avoid ...
@@MaryB18 Your response already give all the issue..naturally wives are not happy….