Black Self / White World - lessons on internalized racism | Jabari Lyles | TEDxTysonsSalon

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  • Community leader, activist and educator Jabari Lyles discusses his personal journey to understanding and loving himself as a Black man, in spite of growing up among a predominantly white community. Jabari Lyles is an educator, nonprofit leader and community leader in Baltimore, Maryland. His work focuses on positive outcomes for youth and the LGBTQ community, especially LGBTQ youth of color. He is currently Director of the Maryland chapter of GLSEN, the leading national organization championing LGBTQ issues in K-12 schools. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @k.t.7507
    @k.t.7507 Рік тому +31

    i have to say that the most heartbreaking time is when you come to the realization of how prevalant racism is in the world. You think you can just love people, but as time goes on you soon begin to realize that it's seems as a never-ending battle that you seem like you can never win.

    • @stefanroche3052
      @stefanroche3052 Рік тому +3

      From my perspective at least, it will span centuries. If slavery was allowed to go down for millennia, not just centuries, then every ism we share will last as long unless we all exponentially raise our consciousness and act against every micro or macro aggression. That may involve a huge democratization of resources and perceived status. I know some solutions but this is a world issue obviously.

    • @merrytunes8697
      @merrytunes8697 12 годин тому

      This is exactly where I am at right now. It is awful

  • @GoddessAlkebulan
    @GoddessAlkebulan 5 років тому +206

    Live in your greatness. Don't let anyone silence you. Go.Teach.LoveYourSelf

    • @davethedave4060
      @davethedave4060 4 роки тому +2

      I thought this week we blacks were supposed to cry-baby about being the original/real Chinese....I can'ts keep up. Who are we blacks pretending to be next week? The Hebrews again or are we going back to claiming to be the real Arabs again?

    • @xman9190
      @xman9190 4 роки тому +13

      @@davethedave4060
      Racism is real. You just proved it.

    • @mrhump6132
      @mrhump6132 2 роки тому

      Unless your deaf

  • @PersingerJim
    @PersingerJim 6 років тому +143

    Jabari is one to watch - the entire United States will soon know this rising star. Great passion, authoritative voice, keen intellect and authenticity. We sorely miss those things in most public discourse.

    • @bradhamilton9038
      @bradhamilton9038 5 років тому +2

      Jim Persinger Hahahahahaha...You are Joking...RIGHT???

    • @veinteduece6625
      @veinteduece6625 5 років тому

      Acho Puñeta!!!!!

    • @cyrhow5096
      @cyrhow5096 5 років тому +1

      @Jack Percy How does one rebut a subjective opinion of a person? If Jim thinks that, Jim thinks that. Brad, obviously doesn't have the same opinion. It's subjective and didn't worth arguing.
      Now the merits of the speaker's claims and argument can more effectively be discussed on an objective standard.

    • @deeznutz8320
      @deeznutz8320 4 роки тому +1

      White guilt having boomers are the worst

  • @7Tiffany
    @7Tiffany 5 років тому +419

    The micro aggressions will definitely drain you eventually.

    • @JerseySlayer
      @JerseySlayer 5 років тому +32

      Then you're weak, you're probably in favor of censoring speech, you don't know the history of "micro-aggressions", and you're promoting intersectionality. Real racism is over, and the people in this victimhood society are making a mockery of real racism that people had to face in the past.

    • @Myegoisdead
      @Myegoisdead 5 років тому +4

      Definitely

    • @warmhum5918
      @warmhum5918 5 років тому +1

      Or a diet

    • @beribee2701
      @beribee2701 5 років тому +1

      I can feel the drain but, I feel I've still along way's to go before I will be drained.

    • @chantalyahysrael1560
      @chantalyahysrael1560 5 років тому +26

      @@JerseySlayer stop. It never went away! Wake up! Racism never went away

  • @woowoo5853
    @woowoo5853 4 роки тому +10

    Excellent explanation of "internalized" racism.

  • @user-xk3wu1xr8o
    @user-xk3wu1xr8o 11 місяців тому +3

    Excellently stated!. Wow.. Very touching!Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @midnightcat6116
    @midnightcat6116 5 років тому +9

    Thanks for sharing your life and story

  • @timoonwright9752
    @timoonwright9752 4 роки тому +14

    I relate to this so much

  • @rebeccakamara5853
    @rebeccakamara5853 5 років тому +38

    Can I just say how powerful and eye opening this is. This has put words and language to a lot of issues in my life. To say am grateful would be an understatement.

  • @honeypunch8927
    @honeypunch8927 5 років тому +24

    Many hugs to you

  • @ElJefeNLA
    @ElJefeNLA 5 років тому +9

    I was born and raised in Baltimore and the goal was to be a college graduate and move to either Randallstown or Owings Mills. I move to Owings Mills and then fled to California.

  • @London_miss234
    @London_miss234 5 років тому +10

    Great presentation.

  • @mimeePS
    @mimeePS 4 роки тому +31

    In quarantine i will educate myself x

    • @theythrive2521
      @theythrive2521 4 роки тому +2

      Hey, I have a video coming out about my internalized racism experience today if you want to know more.

    • @anako1976
      @anako1976 4 роки тому +1

      Me too

    • @AshleighJessicaTaylor
      @AshleighJessicaTaylor 4 роки тому

      That's great, and once you feel like you have a bit more education, then I would suggest you turn that awareness into action.

    • @deeznutz8320
      @deeznutz8320 4 роки тому +1

      Read Dr Tony Martin and read the website 'we thought they were white' .com

  • @stevenhill2256
    @stevenhill2256 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @stephynuts3924
    @stephynuts3924 4 роки тому +2

    I feel his story so much man...

  • @nt9389
    @nt9389 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you.

  • @louisacaldwell9951
    @louisacaldwell9951 4 роки тому +4

    Excellently stated!

  • @ottogreenjr.7857
    @ottogreenjr.7857 5 років тому +5

    Excellent!!!

  • @frankzheng5286
    @frankzheng5286 4 роки тому +3

    WE ARE THE WORLD ✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿✊🏾

  • @kimc5390
    @kimc5390 5 років тому +7

    Excellent

  • @dmc9527
    @dmc9527 5 років тому +4

    Amazing.

  • @ibrahimgassama8362
    @ibrahimgassama8362 5 років тому +4

    Great soul .

  • @ascooby
    @ascooby 5 років тому +6

    So goooood! ❤️

  • @tonybradley8771
    @tonybradley8771 5 років тому +4

    I think u Sir,,, well said !!

  • @akwaabab8504
    @akwaabab8504 5 років тому +5

    Excellent!

  • @RB-oy3vx
    @RB-oy3vx 5 років тому +31

    Wow.. Very touching!
    Thank you for sharing your experience

  • @AlexzandriaL
    @AlexzandriaL 3 роки тому +3

    My best friend is a Mexican with internalized racism against Mexicans. I'm white, but my boyfriend is Mexican and she doesn't understand his struggles at all. She was whitewashed as a kid. We talk about racism with opposite views, I think it's real and a problem needing to be fixed. She thinks it ended a long time ago and that colored people are just being whiny and asking for handouts. Its insane because when people overhear us they assume we would have switched view points. I think a big part of this was the kind of churches she grew up in. I grew up in similar ones but rejected the views after my family left. I'm an atheist.

  • @itstonua311
    @itstonua311 5 років тому +21

    THIS was amazing. Thank you Jabari!!

  • @Spencer-kh1hf
    @Spencer-kh1hf 4 роки тому +4

    So much respect dude, great job

  • @anayeakazmi4153
    @anayeakazmi4153 4 роки тому +3

    Waowwww!
    I have to say you are great man👍

  • @PorscheAbraham
    @PorscheAbraham 5 років тому +6

    Go Jabari!

  • @youknowversecityknewsdonmw4577
    @youknowversecityknewsdonmw4577 5 років тому +27

    I admire your courage and or confidence continue peel the paint off of the walls of racism

    • @JerseySlayer
      @JerseySlayer 5 років тому +4

      Until we're picking up the paint chips taste-testing them for leaden racism that may or may not exist on the superposition, quantum level the oppression. Way to expose mild inconveniences I could've shared about being a white male picking up Hispanic co-workers from the block and being prejudiced and profiled as a drug addict. Or the fact that I'm prejudiced against for being 32 but only 5'7 with a young face so I constantly get second-guessed as young and inexperienced or not commanding or intimidating. How about the oppression I face for coming up on food-stamps and being looked at by these intersectionality-lovers as "privileged" even though my family was 5-10 years behind every other middle-class family in America until 2014? Ridiculous. Prejudice isn't racism. Life oppresses everyone. We're raising a bunch of babies who feel entitled even though they live in the freest, most accepting, most multi-culturally diverse, most ethical county in the world. And the real crime is that this nonsense is resulting in real racism, real bigotry, explicit bigotry against white men. Look up postmodernism. Look up intersectionality. Look up the Sokal Squared Hoax, and see what they exposed about what was being taught in colleges. This fake compassion-driven racism is unbelievable, and you people just eat it up because you think with your heart and you don't look at the big picture or think with your head. Absolutely amazing. 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑

    • @robinsss
      @robinsss 5 років тому +3

      trying to get blacks to assimilate into white culture is not racism
      …………….……………………………………………………………………….it's rewarding those who assimilate into the mainstream culture of the country

    • @MM-gp9mb
      @MM-gp9mb 5 років тому +4

      @@JerseySlayer Ur seriously privileged if u think not being able to get foodstamps is oppression.

  • @meanscene914
    @meanscene914 5 років тому +17

    The laughter...

  • @lovebunnykaz
    @lovebunnykaz 5 років тому +17

    This was brilliant ! I can relate and unfortunately I learned the same way he did at 27 years old. It's embarrassing,

  • @WillRucker
    @WillRucker 4 роки тому +3

    This was amazing!!!

  • @azzym9081
    @azzym9081 5 років тому +11

    This is key. 🔥

  • @youginkim9729
    @youginkim9729 4 роки тому +1

    Respect from Korea!

  • @JacksonStricksOn
    @JacksonStricksOn 5 років тому +19

    Love this! Thank you for sharing!!

  • @akeemrollins2327
    @akeemrollins2327 5 років тому +11

    Loved meeting you at the BioMed conference!

  • @brandonfakenamejohnston8105
    @brandonfakenamejohnston8105 2 роки тому +1

    Power to the people

  • @javajive01
    @javajive01 5 років тому +28

    Loved this talk! Excellent!

  • @Ngasii
    @Ngasii 5 років тому +8

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @humanbeing5566
    @humanbeing5566 4 роки тому

    I have never saw such a video.......🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @QueenDivineLove
    @QueenDivineLove 5 років тому +15

    I really like this speech more than the others. Great job and you seem very authentic.

  • @tesa1376
    @tesa1376 5 років тому +50

    Jabari you did well

  • @unggrabb
    @unggrabb 4 роки тому +1

    A wonderful man

  • @adrienpolo2255
    @adrienpolo2255 5 років тому +6

    ❤❤❤✊
    respect

  • @NoFlyZone01
    @NoFlyZone01 5 років тому +21

    Well done sir. 👏👏👏

  • @billsay123
    @billsay123 5 років тому +41

    Thanks for this inspiring talk!

  • @giltgirl1
    @giltgirl1 5 років тому +7

    Great work... amazing message

  • @M3ta1
    @M3ta1 4 роки тому +3

    Feel the same way no matter what your race is.

  • @robertjenkins941
    @robertjenkins941 5 років тому +3

    My ancestors fled the horrors of rural Southern life for the less dangerous cities of the South-in the mid-Twentieth Century, my mother and her siblings boarded buses and found other ways to flee the problems of segregated life in the urban South, for the segregated ghettos of the North, and eventually life in the then predominately white ethnic, but, changing 'burbs.

    I fled the middle class 'burbs for college, and post-graduate life in upwardly mobile burbs, then I fled upwardly mobile 'burbs for urban gentrification-unfortunately, the "One-Drop" rule will probably dominate life in these United States of America until the "land of the brave and home of the free" as we know it no longer exists.

  • @lulapaloozah
    @lulapaloozah 2 роки тому +3

    This is still one of the most impactful, enlightening Ted talks I've ever heard. I've watched it countless times and wish there was more

  • @lowerthevolumeup3713
    @lowerthevolumeup3713 5 років тому +49

    This is a powerful message. Thanks for sharing this Jabari.

  • @lrowe272
    @lrowe272 2 роки тому +1

    High school I faced racism in high-school my nineth grade year.

  • @fatdictator5314
    @fatdictator5314 5 років тому +57

    As an Asian I feel the same racism in America by whites, thank you for sharing.

    • @mrman5566
      @mrman5566 5 років тому +6

      *some whites

    • @raikhovalencia3835
      @raikhovalencia3835 5 років тому +3

      but you do makr more on average, that’s why they dont compare the “wage gap” to you

    • @fatdictator5314
      @fatdictator5314 5 років тому +2

      @Justice Hayes comparing to the pale white Asians are colored

    • @lFrenzied
      @lFrenzied 5 років тому +6

      The same? I wasn't aware that so many Asians were shot and killed by the police... ?

    • @sophiebell4758
      @sophiebell4758 5 років тому

      @@lFrenzied maybe not exact the same, but there are no two people that will go through the same racism. And u will always find someone who has to go through more racism than u.

  • @lulapaloozah
    @lulapaloozah 5 років тому +9

    Yassssss i criedddd this was BEAUTIFUL

  • @ltmarkwart
    @ltmarkwart 6 років тому +24

    Jabari has inspired so many...he is having a huge impact on his local community, and now the world!

  • @johannamoore8058
    @johannamoore8058 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you for your story Jabari, you’re beautiful and inspiring 🙌🏼

  • @Mr_Reb3llion
    @Mr_Reb3llion 3 роки тому +5

    Yesterday i realised i have internalised rascism and that has really kept my self esteem low for a number of years. I needed my friend to tell me that rascist people are the problem not my skin colour...

  • @RosettaDeBerardinis
    @RosettaDeBerardinis 3 роки тому +2

    Everyone needs the lesson here....regardless of race or gender this is one the best presentations on the subject.....BRAVO!!!

  • @NovaKnowsTruth
    @NovaKnowsTruth 5 років тому +34

    I had that happen to me trying to volunteer to feed the hungry.... smh. haven't volunteered since.

    • @hollydowns2279
      @hollydowns2279 5 років тому +8

      So sorry .

    • @Paaka
      @Paaka 5 років тому +4

      Nova Knows you good?

    • @NovaKnowsTruth
      @NovaKnowsTruth 5 років тому +20

      BossCaveman Always! I was actually the smartest because I didn’t try to belittle them and I found out exactly what kind of people they were so I did what I went to do and left.... It sucked but I was much more grateful that people like them weren’t around me everyday! ❤️

    • @JerseySlayer
      @JerseySlayer 5 років тому +8

      Your country loves you. Your country wants you to succeed. Your society embraces you. Don't take it to heart. Don't let it define you, and don't become bitter, indifferent, resentful, or feel like a victim. We've made too much progress in this country to have intersectionality derail us and send us in a reverse-racism tailspin, and that's what I and many others see coming out of people who speak on these topics. God bless you for helping others, I'm sorry that you felt slighted, but remember to stay positive.

    • @meiasabine4517
      @meiasabine4517 4 роки тому +2

      Please please don’t let that stop you from pouring out your love to others! It breaks my heart that you stopped volunteering for this reason. ❤️❤️

  • @533rocio
    @533rocio 4 роки тому +1

    Jabari you’re so awesome man. Loved everything you said. 🥰👍

  • @bigdeweyj
    @bigdeweyj 4 роки тому +16

    no amount of rare steak can protect you from racism....I laughed so hard

  • @HappinessTheBrand
    @HappinessTheBrand 5 років тому +3

    Beautiful talk 🌺

  • @_tiaa_5594
    @_tiaa_5594 3 роки тому +2

    The biggest applause for a powerful speech ✊🏽✊🏽👏👏👏

  • @pola0614
    @pola0614 3 роки тому +1

    The life is good so let it good

  • @MizDynasty
    @MizDynasty 4 роки тому +2

    I also created a video talking about my own internalized oppression

    • @shitlordflytrap1078
      @shitlordflytrap1078 4 роки тому +2

      @Michael Thank you Michael, your insight is valuable and based on facts.

    • @shitlordflytrap1078
      @shitlordflytrap1078 4 роки тому +1

      @Tony G it's weird that you always assume that these people don't have a job. Why wouldn't they, what makes them so unemployable? Are you the owner of a company? Or are you just an employee like most people?

  • @meme8458
    @meme8458 4 роки тому

    Yes honey I learned something from this also

  • @MtlRedAtheist
    @MtlRedAtheist 3 роки тому +3

    This was great, but I want more. Where can I hear more of this man?

  • @cait-o
    @cait-o 5 років тому +3

    8:47 he forgot dangerous

  • @KimberlyVanDuijkeren
    @KimberlyVanDuijkeren 3 роки тому

    yes yes yes

  • @dammagrilla
    @dammagrilla 5 років тому +27

    7:49
    unfortunately I think we all already know the answer to that question...

  • @adellaadella3044
    @adellaadella3044 4 роки тому +1

    God,I looove his personality,he is such a positive person🤩

  • @bingchilling1131
    @bingchilling1131 3 місяці тому

    5:07-6:00

  • @TheMisslauren1234
    @TheMisslauren1234 5 років тому +3

    yas

  • @mondemazinyo6398
    @mondemazinyo6398 5 років тому +1

    Why we don't learn this at school?

    • @swellyinmybelly1362
      @swellyinmybelly1362 4 роки тому

      @Michael Bruh did you even listen to the DAMN Ted talk??? Like JESOOS

  • @OutlawCaliber13
    @OutlawCaliber13 3 роки тому +8

    Folks treat you below your level of self-respect, you gotta demand your respect. Correct them. Teach them. If they try to treat you like the help, you gotta remind them you're not. Ain't even gotta be rude about it, most times. Most people are soft. If you're stern, and to the point, they back down. What I find most telling about this story is you're telling it about folks that are supposed to be inclusive on varying levels. That's just sad.

  • @MackMainSupreme
    @MackMainSupreme 5 років тому +15

    This is America.

    • @whitneyforte4223
      @whitneyforte4223 5 років тому +2

      MackMainSupreme's Down Souf Muzik this is the land of the AmerIndians so what’s your excuse?

  • @skipthechip8492
    @skipthechip8492 Рік тому +7

    "I didn't see the racism until I realised I could profit off its existence."
    Powerful

  • @busterbiloxi3833
    @busterbiloxi3833 5 років тому +9

    Good guy. Testify!

  • @minneymcdollas1629
    @minneymcdollas1629 5 років тому +4

    Andddd when THEY REVELOUTION WILL BE TELEVISED, They ain’t never lied KKKKAY ✊🏽💕

  • @taekwondomaster4609
    @taekwondomaster4609 4 роки тому +3

    Microaggressions are real yet, unintentional.

    • @piricarmen
      @piricarmen 4 роки тому

      MAPS MARTIAL ARTS PHILOSOPHY STATION Not always, genius!

  • @Jambalaya579
    @Jambalaya579 6 років тому +2

    CHS squad

  • @yippee8570
    @yippee8570 5 років тому +4

    The internalisation of prejudice and oppression is as much a part of sustaining the status quo as active oppression. But I want to see more on the nature of privilege. That is still largely ignored and misunderstood.

  • @jakeshort8993
    @jakeshort8993 4 роки тому

    Can some one link the the stories he talked about at 6:15 I’m interested but I don’t want a fox spin on it

  • @johngibson9098
    @johngibson9098 4 роки тому +10

    So this man grew up with a nice, supportive family in a privileged neighborhood then went to university and then applied for a job he desired and was hired and is now doing something rewarding for himself and for others. But he is oppressed and marginalized by racists in the United States that enabled all of his success to occur. OK, got it. He's a victim.

    • @elizabeth_mcgregor
      @elizabeth_mcgregor 4 роки тому +3

      My thoughts exactly. Although I almost feel bad for him because it seems that he was taught by others to have this victim hood mentality and to see white people by their race and not by their personality. Real shame.

    • @ofimportance5458
      @ofimportance5458 4 роки тому +1

      @@elizabeth_mcgregor Ok McGregor

    • @libelulal6258
      @libelulal6258 4 роки тому +4

      It is a fact that abuse, mental or physical, causes draining emotional trauma. He wasn’t a victim until he was.

    • @lee6076
      @lee6076 Рік тому +2

      Y’all all white I just know it

    • @erikbridge7740
      @erikbridge7740 9 місяців тому +3

      Oh, the irony of these comments. Exactly what he was talking about in the video.

  • @chrisb1805
    @chrisb1805 5 років тому +2

    A drop of yellow dye in a pool of blue water.

  • @nieshatelemacque4507
    @nieshatelemacque4507 5 років тому +14

    Replace the system of racism with one of Truth and justice!

    • @beribee2701
      @beribee2701 5 років тому +3

      Indeed. One way is to remove the words that separate of people into groups. I recognise there is no one simple solution.

    • @nieshatelemacque4507
      @nieshatelemacque4507 5 років тому +7

      @The Genius there's not less racism. It's just a lot more subtle!

    • @beribee2701
      @beribee2701 5 років тому +2

      @The Genius I disagree totally. The amount of racism remains the same. But, I'm guessing maybe it our definitions of racism which might be causing my disagreement? What is your definition of racism?

    • @pierretoussaint8426
      @pierretoussaint8426 5 років тому +3

      @@nieshatelemacque4507 yep they just took the signs down colored and white social media has brought it back to the light

    • @sophiebell4758
      @sophiebell4758 5 років тому +3

      @@beribee2701 i agree with him, but i have to say i am from germany and in europe is much less racism than in the usa to start with. But i see that especially in the bigger Cities racism become less ^^

  • @AminAlmaghrabi
    @AminAlmaghrabi 4 роки тому

    “I went to advanced classes in school so many of my classmates were white”......kind of proves his point

  • @johnkeithrobinson7399
    @johnkeithrobinson7399 4 роки тому +2

    good job brother keep up the good work

  • @thomasboland540
    @thomasboland540 2 роки тому +2

    Imagine allowing this racism, ted

  • @courtneyhenley681
    @courtneyhenley681 5 років тому +7

    I disagree with this concept of us being "rewarded" for adopting certain habits. It's not true. We are always being discriminated against even if we grow up in privilege or white neighborhoods.

  • @ellomirza
    @ellomirza 4 роки тому +1

    At this point we’re in performing arts territory.

  • @marlenasien8793
    @marlenasien8793 5 років тому +12

    If a woman wears a suit, is she internalizing sexism? Why can't she wear a dress and be strong?
    MAYBE SHE JUST WANTS TO BE COMFORTABLE.

  • @chantalyahysrael1560
    @chantalyahysrael1560 5 років тому

    Went through a similar situation like this. Same thing to a tee, almost

  • @k2411871
    @k2411871 5 років тому +6

    Did anyone else think this guy was a vocal artist?

  • @lorrainedavis7820
    @lorrainedavis7820 7 місяців тому

    You may not believe, but 1 day there's gonna be a judgment and you better have your heart right?

  • @maureenmauramaureladara5539
    @maureenmauramaureladara5539 5 років тому +1

    It’s called the reason we mixed it out so much Admixtures to be i g white or Caucasians white

  • @libertasadvitam4538
    @libertasadvitam4538 Рік тому +3

    Summary: “I experienced a thing so now all things are that thing. I have been provided with an excuse that is socially acceptable in all things”.