I have always talked within therapy, "A part of me feels like _____, but then another part of me feels like _____." It wasn't until I got into trauma therapy with a licensed IFS therapist that it all came together! ❤ This therapy has changed my life and has made me realize I'm not crazy....I just have many parts that contradict one another.
My goodness. When he described that moment of taking his bear in that seclusion room. I cried for that young boy. But the work! Dr. Thank you! And sir thank you for letting use others this beautiful moment of healing.
Oh, wow. I sure hope this wonderful, courageous man is well and happy. 🙏❤ My heart goes out to him for what he's been burdened with all these years. It's so generous of the two of you to share part of this session to show just how powerful IFS can be.
Loved this! My therapist has been doing IFS with me after 5+ years of CBT/DBT not doing a single thing for me. IFS is the most difficult thing I’ve done in my life but it’s slowly helping
Thanks so much, Dr. Schwartz! I’ve taken many of your courses and have almost all your books- FANTASTIC! What a service to humanity to help people reach parts of themselves previously inaccessible: to love and heal. It’s in these lost, banished parts that we are brought back to vitality ❤
I cry every time I watch the video with Jake. Fucking institutions. I have no idea how adults and people in 'authority' can treat children this way. My parents, especially my mom, treated me horribly, well into adulthood and now.
Wow! The video is so powerful! My heart goes out to this man. ❤ According to Christianity, children are to honor their parents, which is bullshit when parents treat their kids terribly and abuse them.
6:15 25:20 So no one gets close enough to hurt you. 28:00 get high to get higher than the flames ➡️➡️suicide 31:00 other IFS therapist 👌 35:00 you’re the boss. Can we just heal the hurt Parts so they’re not so vulnerable ? 38:00 role playing 1:00:30 This is identical to something i experienced where i almost killed my father-in-law What was it like for that Part to takeover? What was it like for that Part to have me take the reins away? 1:18:35 backlash 1:23:20 The grief is starting to slow up
This is astounding. I was doing this for myself for decades, not really knowing what I was doing, but knew I was healing very damaged parts of myself. A part I “killed off” and threw away, I then pull out of the garbage can then put in a nurturing bed to let rest as I sat next to her. She eventually healed and grew up… I see so many more parts I can continue do this with to rejoin those selves back to me. I talk to my two year old or whatever the age, so they are included and reintroduced into myself and life. I let them know I am the adult and will care for and listen to them now. A simplified version, but delighted with the validation and path to further continue this hopeful journey. Thank you! 🙏🏻
The fact that we are able to see parts are helpers and protectors is already a big part of healing. The inner system is much calmer & understanding just by this first step. ❤ Then of course it’s much easier to meet the exile parts too. 😊❤❤❤
Amen. Thank you God. I needed this so much right now. I’m sorry I forget to ask you. I’m so tired of being angry. I’m so tired of being alone. I’m so tired of being in pain. I’m so tired of being afraid of people. I’m so tired of the indifference of so many people. Thank you for telling me to go towards the people that love the way I love. Will you please help me to know who to trust to show my weaknesses and vulnerabilities to. I’m so wounded from the hyenas all taking a bite after pretending to be from you. The liars and deceivers that are so busy pretending to be of God, pretending to win souls for God by preaching preaching preaching… Why is it so hard for them to to just love someone the way they want most to be loved? Why has it been so hard for me to love myself that way? Why have I felt like I have to earn human love? I wonder if they are capable of it. What don’t I understand yet?
When you are doing a Bachelor of Early Childhood Education the tutors question you about your childhood to determine whether you had a secure attachment with a nurturing adult. They don’t think you have the capacity to be the safe adult that delights in the child if you haven’t experienced that as a child. Attachment theory is foundational to the course. It’s interesting listening to you talking about the Self that emerges when the Parts allow space, are compassionately respected, and are relieved of their burdens. I think IFS is a transformative theory.
If you interview Dr Schwartz again, I’m interested in his answers to the following questions: what kind of preparation or life situation should a patient be in before starting this work with past trauma in terms of it maybe being too much if they have too many other things going on in their life or working on emotion tolerance skills beforehand or if this is work that can just be started anytime of life and in any condition? What to warn clients about in terms of how they will feel after and in between sessions and how to care for themselves during that time as well as how long of a journey this work would be so they can wait until they have time/capacity to start this work? Also, how to organize the work in terms of working on one part at a time through healing before starting another or what to do with the ones that pop up and how to keep track of them, when to get back to them, etc? Also, can this work bring up repressed memories from childhood trauma (in case of amnestic clients) and is it unsafe for them to unbury those? What types of consequences come from unburying those and how to help someone through those phases? How can the client ever trust it’s real? It seems more dangerous to open up that can of worms for someone who otherwise doesn’t have memory of the events.
@cristinarengel213 ¡Sería fabuloso! Encontré una doblada ua-cam.com/video/BzdAGSBxYq0/v-deo.html Otra opción (no ideal pero algo sirve) es hacer la traducción automática en los ajustes de UA-cam.
In Australia at this time so called Child Protection are actually entering labour wards often with no prior notice to remove babies immediately following birth. You can be sure we are not the only country to do this.
While I appreciate the described journey toward a more helpful approach, I feel so bad for the woman in the first story. I can relate to countless professionals creating re-traumatization, greater shame, and a more unbearable existence which can lead to permanent consequence. Traumatization doesn’t respond to ‘just try harder’, ‘just stop doing that obsessive thing’, ‘just fight your own self’. And worse, I witness no remorse amongst therapists who cause further damage. Why are traumatized people treated like learning experiments? Heartbreaking. I have to wonder if you got her medical care for her face? It’s near impossible for someone in that state-of-being to go find medical assistance. Does she have to live with scarring on her face? A whole new layer of trauma. 😢
The last question was key in this video 😊 How can this session with the 3 year old part happen without flooding & physical symptoms in his body ? The cough & sniff tells me there was a trauma but not a separate identity 👎 sorry to break a career but if he was in court I'd trash him 😆
Jakes this is all stupid part ill never get it im mad critic is as strong as mine . Also you have a really remarkable resemblance to a british comedian actor ricky tomlison😂
I'm not sure about this ? This method of therapy is very controversial due to the legal system with the criminal insane people. We all go into fight or flight depending on our early environment. I've studied Trauma & PTSD for 26 years & have concerns for this type of treatment.
I have always talked within therapy, "A part of me feels like _____, but then another part of me feels like _____."
It wasn't until I got into trauma therapy with a licensed IFS therapist that it all came together! ❤ This therapy has changed my life and has made me realize I'm not crazy....I just have many parts that contradict one another.
Yes! weird how this is not more popular and common knowledge.
Wow, this
man is a master, so skilled. Loved it.
Openly weeping when Jake speaks of Honey Bear.
What an incredible opening to witness.
Thank you 🙏🏼
My goodness. When he described that moment of taking his bear in that seclusion room. I cried for that young boy. But the work! Dr. Thank you! And sir thank you for letting use others this beautiful moment of healing.
This is amazing - I am 50 years old - and this has resonated and bought an inner part to tears - quite profound
Oh, wow. I sure hope this wonderful, courageous man is well and happy. 🙏❤
My heart goes out to him for what he's been burdened with all these years. It's so generous of the two of you to share part of this session to show just how powerful IFS can be.
Loved this! My therapist has been doing IFS with me after 5+ years of CBT/DBT not doing a single thing for me. IFS is the most difficult thing I’ve done in my life but it’s slowly helping
Thanks so much, Dr. Schwartz! I’ve taken many of your courses and have almost all your books- FANTASTIC! What a service to humanity to help people reach parts of themselves previously inaccessible: to love and heal. It’s in these lost, banished parts that we are brought back to vitality ❤
Beautiful, profound, extraordinarily valuable work. Thank you, Dr. Richard Schwartz. ❤
Thank you to the guy in the video
Respect, courageous. Thank-you for the work you do and make available to all of us damaged people. Just truly amazing
I cry every time I watch the video with Jake. Fucking institutions. I have no idea how adults and people in 'authority' can treat children this way. My parents, especially my mom, treated me horribly, well into adulthood and now.
Sending hugs. Mothers can be awful.🤗
I was also. What has happened is that parents really needed help too but IFS was not available then.
This is extraordinary work. Richard is so present with him. Thank you so much to both of you for allowing us to witness this.
Wow! The video is so powerful! My heart goes out to this man. ❤ According to Christianity, children are to honor their parents, which is bullshit when parents treat their kids terribly and abuse them.
Wonderful and transforming IFS. Thank you Dick for this work 🙏
Thank you to the Man who is Featur3d here.
Holy moly this is beautiful work. Love from here.
Breath work, somatic is helping heal and release trama. Well done
6:15
25:20 So no one gets close enough to hurt you.
28:00 get high to get higher than the flames ➡️➡️suicide
31:00 other IFS therapist 👌
35:00 you’re the boss. Can we just heal the hurt Parts so they’re not so vulnerable ?
38:00 role playing
1:00:30 This is identical to something i experienced where i almost killed my father-in-law
What was it like for that Part to takeover?
What was it like for that Part to have me take the reins away?
1:18:35 backlash
1:23:20 The grief is starting to slow up
Thank you for this profound video.
This is astounding. I was doing this for myself for decades, not really knowing what I was doing, but knew I was healing very damaged parts of myself. A part I “killed off” and threw away, I then pull out of the garbage can then put in a nurturing bed to let rest as I sat next to her. She eventually healed and grew up…
I see so many more parts I can continue do this with to rejoin those selves back to me. I talk to my two year old or whatever the age, so they are included and reintroduced into myself and life. I let them know I am the adult and will care for and listen to them now.
A simplified version, but delighted with the validation and path to further continue this hopeful journey.
Thank you! 🙏🏻
So wonderful that you are doing this for yourself. I could benefit by following your example. ❤
Exciting adventure this is.
Best to you too. 💕
The fact that we are able to see parts are helpers and protectors is already a big part of healing. The inner system is much calmer & understanding just by this first step. ❤ Then of course it’s much easier to meet the exile parts too. 😊❤❤❤
Life changing, thank you!
Multidimensional echo there around the 50 Minute markn✨💖🎇
Amen. Thank you God. I needed this so much right now. I’m sorry I forget to ask you. I’m so tired of being angry. I’m so tired of being alone. I’m so tired of being in pain. I’m so tired of being afraid of people. I’m so tired of the indifference of so many people. Thank you for telling me to go towards the people that love the way I love.
Will you please help me to know who to trust to show my weaknesses and vulnerabilities to. I’m so wounded from the hyenas all taking a bite after pretending to be from you. The liars and deceivers that are so busy pretending to be of God, pretending to win souls for God by preaching preaching preaching…
Why is it so hard for them to to just love someone the way they want most to be loved?
Why has it been so hard for me to love myself that way? Why have I felt like I have to earn human love? I wonder if they are capable of it. What don’t I understand yet?
When you are doing a Bachelor of Early Childhood Education the tutors question you about your childhood to determine whether you had a secure attachment with a nurturing adult. They don’t think you have the capacity to be the safe adult that delights in the child if you haven’t experienced that as a child. Attachment theory is foundational to the course. It’s interesting listening to you talking about the Self that emerges when the Parts allow space, are compassionately respected, and are relieved of their burdens. I think IFS is a transformative theory.
28:27 wow makes me feel better about the thoughts I’ve been having 😢 thank you! 💫
Yes, indeed. 💞
If you interview Dr Schwartz again, I’m interested in his answers to the following questions: what kind of preparation or life situation should a patient be in before starting this work with past trauma in terms of it maybe being too much if they have too many other things going on in their life or working on emotion tolerance skills beforehand or if this is work that can just be started anytime of life and in any condition? What to warn clients about in terms of how they will feel after and in between sessions and how to care for themselves during that time as well as how long of a journey this work would be so they can wait until they have time/capacity to start this work? Also, how to organize the work in terms of working on one part at a time through healing before starting another or what to do with the ones that pop up and how to keep track of them, when to get back to them, etc? Also, can this work bring up repressed memories from childhood trauma (in case of amnestic clients) and is it unsafe for them to unbury those? What types of consequences come from unburying those and how to help someone through those phases? How can the client ever trust it’s real? It seems more dangerous to open up that can of worms for someone who otherwise doesn’t have memory of the events.
❤ whole video was great; love this insight at the very end 1:25:30 where the lady asks Richard a question
This gives me relief
I applaud Jake.
Sr. Richard me gustaría poder ver sus videos en español o bien con subtítulos en español para poder comprender. Gracias ❤
@cristinarengel213 ¡Sería fabuloso! Encontré una doblada ua-cam.com/video/BzdAGSBxYq0/v-deo.html Otra opción (no ideal pero algo sirve) es hacer la traducción automática en los ajustes de UA-cam.
Is it possible that we could see the whole video? The sections that he skipped?
Very nice person
Brilliant stuff, thank you
28:37 omg yes, the back up plan
Man...how have we created a system that is so cruel as to put a 3 year old boy into solitary confinement and take away his bear?
That made me cry! Imagine the cruel insensitive nurse or whoever… my gawd
In Australia at this time so called Child Protection are actually entering labour wards often with no prior notice to remove babies immediately following birth. You can be sure we are not the only country to do this.
I dont know how you didn't cry when they took his bear
So true
😢
While I appreciate the described journey toward a more helpful approach, I feel so bad for the woman in the first story. I can relate to countless professionals creating re-traumatization, greater shame, and a more unbearable existence which can lead to permanent consequence. Traumatization doesn’t respond to ‘just try harder’, ‘just stop doing that obsessive thing’, ‘just fight your own self’. And worse, I witness no remorse amongst therapists who cause further damage. Why are traumatized people treated like learning experiments? Heartbreaking. I have to wonder if you got her medical care for her face? It’s near impossible for someone in that state-of-being to go find medical assistance. Does she have to live with scarring on her face? A whole new layer of trauma. 😢
31:32
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This has been so helpful and healing to my inner child. I even shed a few tears for that brother.
Wilson Donna Thomas Mark Jackson Robert
The last question was key in this video 😊 How can this session with the 3 year old part happen without flooding & physical symptoms in his body ? The cough & sniff tells me there was a trauma but not a separate identity 👎 sorry to break a career but if he was in court I'd trash him 😆
Hall Lisa Moore Thomas Williams Susan
Jakes this is all stupid part ill never get it im mad critic is as strong as mine . Also you have a really remarkable resemblance to a british comedian actor ricky tomlison😂
I'm not sure about this ? This method of therapy is very controversial due to the legal system with the criminal insane people. We all go into fight or flight depending on our early environment. I've studied Trauma & PTSD for 26 years & have concerns for this type of treatment.