How False Memories Are Created | Jordan & Tammy Peterson

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  • Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
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    In this episode, Tammy Peterson invites her husband, Jordan Peterson, for a discussion around the Self Authoring Program he helped to establish. They mainly touch on the origins of the program through Jordan’s research and business endeavors, and the psychological and history oriented aspects of self authoring-while outlining the physiological benefits that come with orderly encounters with your past, present and future.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 204

  • @abramjessiah
    @abramjessiah 2 роки тому +15

    First time I've heard Tammy speak. I love her soft spoken voice. It brings me so much peace and serenity.

  • @piwetshombe4684
    @piwetshombe4684 2 роки тому +17

    I love that we're hearing more from Tammy. I really like the legacy that JP is working and how it seems to be unfolding.

  • @Adventure-of-your-Life
    @Adventure-of-your-Life 2 роки тому +11

    "You're making them into a person instead of a stereotype," insanely powerful and useful

  • @bTheNomad.
    @bTheNomad. 2 роки тому +11

    So much love for the Petersons.

  • @candicenelson2365
    @candicenelson2365 2 роки тому +32

    This reminds me of young parents today. There's so much media of 23-year-olds bragging about how they won't screw their kids up the way their parents screwed them up. Dude, shut up. In most cases, parents don't mean to hurt their kids. They have their own lives and struggles. It's hard to have that broad of sight all the time. But these new parents are obviously older now, think they have all life's answers, and yet can't empathize with what their parents went through. To quote JP, "Well what the hell do you know??"

    • @Cyberspine
      @Cyberspine 2 роки тому +4

      It is only a good thing that prospective parents do their best to be better parents than their own parents were.

    • @bencrilly209
      @bencrilly209 2 роки тому +1

      I love that quote thanks for sharing

    • @mkfort
      @mkfort 2 роки тому +6

      Trying to make your children into better people than your parents made you is not the same as being resentful of your parents

    • @jJust_NO_
      @jJust_NO_ 2 роки тому

      its the new movement coming from psychology propaganda ushered by the advent of technology. too much information being absorbed without designating time to ponder or reflect.
      one way i can see this young parents trying to embody an ideal parenthood is, a) burnt out, because one cant be all good and loving all the time without draining their cups
      b) all consuming guilt because every snap, or whatever unwanted treatment towards their children will lead them to feel guilty and reprimand their selves as well.
      c) it can breed an over bearing parents or extreme agreeable parents..
      d) it will bear fruit overly sensitive, sheltered children
      d) the guilt, the guilt, the guilt... over compensation. always doing something more than whats necessary.

  • @julijanacvejic517
    @julijanacvejic517 2 роки тому +44

    Well that is exactly what happened to me. I had a hard childhood because of my mother's mental health issues. It was wery difficult for me to go trough that experience and grow up to be fine . But, in a way what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger and wiser I guess. Anyway I was at the time very angry on her, but after I became grown up person, talking full responsibility for my life, family and existance, I looked back at her life with me as a single mother etc. going through serious life challenges and considering the whole situation from my perspective today, I see and know now that she actually did the best job she possibly could. Her heart was in the right place, and her fundamental motivation in all her actions towards me was love. And yes, she did not always do the right thing many times, but in the end everything came somehow in its place and things are good. My experience tells me that if we live a life of selfless love for others, and for the ultimate good, wich is in the end of all things only God Himself, things will somehow order themselves in a proper way in the most unimaginable way....we can't now how in advance, because our perception is limited. What we can percive is how to choose the right or wrong path to walk on, if we are attentive and awake to reality enough.

    • @gabrielbotsford791
      @gabrielbotsford791 2 роки тому +1

      Try listening to Gabor Maté

    • @KD400_
      @KD400_ 2 роки тому +1

      How r u doing now did u marry did u have kids did u break that generational trauma

    • @julijanacvejic517
      @julijanacvejic517 2 роки тому +2

      @@KD400_ Yes, I did all that 🙂 As I said, things turned fine and good in the end, my life is totally ok. But, my point was that I am not angry anymore, or do i have any negative felings towords my parents now, as I maybe had in some moments in the past. Same memories and events, as we grow trough time can change, because our perspecite on them change. I think that is what Tammy and Jordan are talking about here.

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому +8

      @@julijanacvejic517 Thanks for your comment. I am thrilled to hear of your recovery. I think that maturity comes with critical and accepting self reflection as well as acting from truthful love for all that has come before us.

    • @julijanacvejic517
      @julijanacvejic517 2 роки тому +4

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast Thank you dear Mrs Peterson for your work, effort, and contribution to something right and beautiful in this world. Much love from Serbia🌷🌼🌷

  • @renaminginprogress6903
    @renaminginprogress6903 2 роки тому +16

    I get the sense that what I'm about to tell you has become a cliche for yourself and Dr. Peterson to hear and read, nevertheless my higher power compels me.
    I am 36 years old, Canadian, male. My parents were what I would call "useless junkies". I was not nurtured. My father was violent. My mother was and continues to be (in my non medical opinion) clinically narcissistic to the bone and passive aggressive in a way which is far worse than violence. I am not yet as educated as I am intelligent. I was taught to believe that excuses are as good as cash and that all my problems are someone else's fault.
    I was abused and neglected. I was an 'at-risk' youth, or so they told me when I felt like going to school; one of 10 or so different ones I attended. I was gifted, 96% percentile in comprehension, high 90's in everything else that I found interesting. My math reasoning and logic were and continue to be way up there. That is likely the only reason I'm alive today.
    My life was rough, name a suffering and I'm probably an expert on it. I know psychological torture, abandonment, neglect, starvation, terror, despair, hopelessness, homelessness, lethal addiction, suicide (on all sides of the issue). I know physical pain, emotional pain, spiritual pain.
    I used to have to pretend to be friends with kids just to eat. I had one worldly possession, a Super Nintendo, and I frequently would come home to have it pawned and my mother would lie to me and say she didn't know what happened to it.
    At 12 I was diagnosed ADHD and my mother who did heroin and crack cocaine said she didn't want me on "drugs". For much of my life I assumed she was just naive, but now I know she was sabbotaging me. For if I succeeded I would have proved that her shitty life was a choice, but I only recently realized that.
    Into adulthood I assumed I was depressed. I was told I was depressed. But the SSRI's didn't work. I now know that's because I'm not depressed, at least not as a primary diagnosis. What I had was a shitty life. One so bad it deprived me of the ability to even recognize that it was so. I was fine just believing that I had to bear constant suffering and I was not worthy of anything good. And you must know intrinsically how that can only lead to complete anti-social behavior bordering on sociopathic. Because that's what I was for much of my adult life.
    When I first heard of Jordan, 4 or 5 years ago I began a journey that I could never have dreamed of - BETTER than anything I could have imagined. I own 2 businesses, one of which is moderately successful. I have a fiance, I can occasionally ease the suffering of others rather than add to it or create it.
    I could go on and on. I normally would have tried to use a little editing but another thing I learned from Jordan is to just do it bloody badly the first few times. Just get it out there. Just start somewhere.
    I intend to write a book to serve as an autobiography of sorts, as well as a how-to-not stay homeless, addicted, and if i'm lucky i can spare some people a decade or 2 of figuring it out on their own.
    Thanks for taking the time to read this have a great day!

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 2 роки тому +6

      Write that book. I liked how you put this, "I was taught to believe that excuses are as good as cash and that all my problems are someone else's fault."

    • @renaminginprogress6903
      @renaminginprogress6903 2 роки тому +2

      It's quite a thing to overcome and when I did it was quite scary, at first. Not the least of which because I assumed everyone who said "It'll be better if you just tell the truth" was lying to me; trying to trick me.

    • @ValouQc
      @ValouQc 2 роки тому +2

      You write very well.

  • @hollyebn
    @hollyebn 2 роки тому +13

    I love seeing you together. Your interaction is wonderful. Thank you!🙏🏼

  • @308dad8
    @308dad8 2 роки тому +5

    I get what you’re saying there. That when re-examines with adult perception terrible events are less about hurting you and more an unrelated mess that you got impacted by as well but you were never the target, the goal was never to hurt you, it was just a consequence.

  • @laurahano2587
    @laurahano2587 2 роки тому +56

    I love what Tammy and Jordan bring out in each other during conversation. Very nice to watch. Best wishes for your health Tammy and for your family. Mikhaila's diet helped me along with Jordan's encouragement. I know you have been a major part of it all behind the scenes. Thank you.

  • @xnoart8268
    @xnoart8268 2 роки тому +1

    helpful to relive that very moment you accept the false idea or suggestion

  • @debbiejaynes2652
    @debbiejaynes2652 2 роки тому +1

    . So happy this came through my feed. I didn't know about Tammy's chann. Subscribed!

  • @homemadecustoms2411
    @homemadecustoms2411 2 роки тому +1

    Informative and enlightening...thanks Tammy Peterson👏 👏 👏

  • @FriskyTendervittles
    @FriskyTendervittles Рік тому +4

    I’d love to know the correlation and effects of false memories when it comes to EMDR therapy. While processing, remembering this that may or may not be real or made up and what happens when processing false memories.

    • @subg8858
      @subg8858 Рік тому

      f you recall a friend that you haven’t thought of in years, what do you reckon the odds are that the newly surfaced memory is false? Presuming you don’t have a serious neurological issue, I am going to go with zero. The entire concept of false memory was invented by pedo advocates. This is easily verifiable if you look into it. The concept didn’t exist until the 80s. Pick any early random proponent of “false memory syndrome” from 80s, you will find ties to pedo advocacy. Then look for actual proof that false memory can be induced in a healthy person. Doesnt exist

  • @davidevans6618
    @davidevans6618 2 роки тому +3

    Trauma can exaggerate the truth, so can Fortune and fame exaggerate ones egotistical worth to the world.

  • @sperryunivac7791
    @sperryunivac7791 2 роки тому +1

    It's having another listen and accept what you told that gives one the healing feeling that one is understood and accepted. David Hawkins healed catatonics by looking at them, and they knew instantly another soul in the world understood and accepted them.

  • @denisejames855
    @denisejames855 2 роки тому +20

    It's like when siblings are together at a family event, something happens and each sibling has a different memory, contrary to their mother or father's. What confuses me is that decades later one or two siblings continue to hang onto that memory and won't let it rest even though it has been revisited with other family members.

    • @gabrielbotsford791
      @gabrielbotsford791 2 роки тому +3

      your statement is weird. you seem to understand that siblings can have different experiences from each other, but you don't seem to understand that family won't always acknowledge that truth

    • @sleepinglioness5754
      @sleepinglioness5754 2 роки тому +1

      You're so right Denise. I hadn't seen my sister for decades and upon meeting her again, she revealed she was harboring such bizarre memories rather than facts about family events/occurrences. In her case, she had refused to accept the facts which, of course, altered her perception of past events.

    • @mustacheglasses5765
      @mustacheglasses5765 2 роки тому +3

      I'm on the other end of this. My father abused me. But my younger sisters essentially insist that I made it up. To them, I'm sure they'd think that I'm holding onto a memory and won't let it rest. But the fact is, if someone abused you, no matter how much time passes, it still isn't okay. No amount of time is going to pass which will find me suddenly agreeing with my sisters.

    • @sleepinglioness5754
      @sleepinglioness5754 2 роки тому +4

      @@mustacheglasses5765 If they weren't present when this happened, then they are speculating and drawing conclusions based on their own 'perception' and their own experience and not 'fact'. If your facts are accurate and not emotional, then there is no reason to agree with them. Maybe your sisters need to examine their memories and determine if they are in denial or simply didn't experience the same trauma.
      It is a common practice for pedophiles or a sexually abusive parent to target only one child. That ensures the other children can't say the same thing about the abuser. Cunning and clever. Never underestimate a groomer/pedophile/sexual abuser.

    • @angelagentry562
      @angelagentry562 2 роки тому +1

      So true

  • @subg8858
    @subg8858 Рік тому +3

    Who benefits from claiming memories of childhood abuse are false? The obvious answer should indicate you are close to defending some very dark terrain.

  • @lynnlavoy6778
    @lynnlavoy6778 2 роки тому +7

    Such a wonderful clip, thank you. Something that I always felt happened in our culture to people (therapists creating different narrative) nice to be validated & helps understand "the satanic panic" phenomenon.

    • @adaptercrash
      @adaptercrash 2 роки тому +1

      You could call that anxiety but it's not, it's the Freudian death drive instinct

  • @offlier
    @offlier Рік тому +3

    My daughter says things that didn't happen during her childhood concerning us. The only thing I could say is, "that's not how it happened." Even that sets her off. If I don't agree with her 100%, she'll get very emotional and stop communicating.
    She's 23 now and was 13 when I divorced her father. She lived with him and things changed. She adds to stories shes told me for years, it's always something new, a new twist or something she left out. I don't know what to do with that because I don't know what the heck she's talking about.

    • @johnstephens2826
      @johnstephens2826 Рік тому +2

      Two of my children have false memories and get offended when I challenge their narrative . It's really frustrating to me.

    • @powers6253
      @powers6253 Рік тому +2

      That's where asking her to describe her experience and then describing your experience and saying out loud that you recognize that you can't speak to anything you might have forgotten but this is the experience you remember having can help you build a better relationship. Even if she says some things that are different from what you remember experiencing, you can still ask her questions about it to help her express herself and you can still respond to her story by saying things like "If I were going through what you're describing, I'd feel _______," knowing that her experience doesn't change yours but that she's trying to communicate something to you through her stories. Just an idea.

    • @vigneshiyer4334
      @vigneshiyer4334 Рік тому +1

      False memory is evil understanding... Please tell me what happened exactly,.. Have you sat and discussed with them.because why should they lie about things if it had not happened... Please sit and talk to them... You may be a super busy mom, super successful inside that does not mean you know everything about them.. Talk to them, get to the core of the problem...
      Again, false memory to me looks like a evil understanding.. People who went through sexual abuse can communicate so many things through their body as well...
      It may be a mix of their own experience, nightmares, dreams and other things... It is your responsibility to be there with your kids...

  • @robhaver8704
    @robhaver8704 2 роки тому +7

    What Dr. JP says at the end, about a therapist 'feeding' the idea of sexual abuse, happened with a girl-friend of mine. Whilst being in relations with her, all of a sudden she brought forth this exact idea about her and her father. This went towards hearings with her family-members in front of authorized people like psychiatrists and judges. And in the end there was a decision made that this memory was based on false input, as an imaginary memory. That whole ordeal did more damage to my girl-friend and her relatives than was needed to be, and i.m.o. a huge mistake with idiotic concequences, made by a therapist.

    • @miiscrayolacat2
      @miiscrayolacat2 2 роки тому +5

      My husband mom went to a therapist who hypnotized people. From those sessions she recovered lost memories of being raped by her step father. That alone makes this questionable that she was ever abused, but you cant question the accuser. This did put her on a track to be obsessed with sexual abuse. She ended up accusing many people of it. She accused her ex husband of using and making child porn and also nearly sent a few others to prison. When I hear," believe all women" I shudder.

  • @amind1317
    @amind1317 Рік тому

    always interesting when Jordan opens up the balances of his history and relationships.

  • @thegulagarchipelago5921
    @thegulagarchipelago5921 2 роки тому +1

    The Foremost Intellectual of our times!!!! I can listen to him for hours!!!!
    PS: May want to read The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk.

  • @klausehrhardt4481
    @klausehrhardt4481 2 роки тому +1

    False memories can be created by hypnoses. To make a human soul the subject of a controlled experiment is always something with a dark side to it.
    As for our evocation of the past, it is really ever changing, due to the fact that whenever evocation takes place at a time in our life, it is also connected to a particular present that shall become another past in the future.
    To recollect is simply an act of re-framing a particular past into an particular present. And by observing that we remember things in a different manner over time, we may know that we change.
    It is like music: the listening becomes deeper and more subtle.
    Yet a false past created by a ab-reaction caused by hypnoses (whether externally induced or self inflicted) won't do the task of integrating the personality in the present: a false narrative does rather disintegrate the personality. Lies about oneself won't do any good at any rate under any circumstance.
    The great thing of therapy is to allow people to tell their history right: if a therapy does it not, it is of little to no use.

  • @YochananMat
    @YochananMat 2 роки тому +2

    I'm 58. I have had "false memories" minimising my dad's shortcomings. Also that the sexual abuse I experienced was the whole problem. The second thing my mother talked about when I was 30 and tried to tell her (again) about some of the sexual abuse, was "have you heard of false memory syndrome". There are always two sides to fall of the path of truth.

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for your comment. What do you mean by your last sentence? (there are always two sides to fall of the path of truth)

    • @YochananMat
      @YochananMat 2 роки тому +1

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast Perhaps in this situation that would be: on the one side over focusing on one memory to explain the degree of difficulty one is facing, and on the other side minimising the gravity of neglect or abuse which would also block recovery/ progress in maturation. False memories come from somewhere; either as a deflection or distraction from something too painful to face elsewhere, or they are real memories that are spot on but controlled to minimise or brush over without being truly felt or grieved over. Thanks for asking my take on this.

    • @YochananMat
      @YochananMat 2 роки тому +1

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast The "ongoing interpretation" - my understanding so far - how far I have been willing to look. It takes time, effort and willingness/readiness to see things as they really were. Thank you for your thought provoking video.

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому +2

      @@YochananMat I see. My experience is: it takes a long time to learn to sit in discomfort while remembering without turning to anything else to dull the pain. I am not strong enough on my own, so I ask my higher power to give my courage and strength to pause and wait to recognize the next right thing

    • @YochananMat
      @YochananMat 2 роки тому +2

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast That is my experience exactly. I am grateful to my Higher Power for the time to come to my senses. I am grateful for others who have encouraged me to face the pain, such as yourself. Thank you.

  • @debbiewood3819
    @debbiewood3819 2 роки тому +1

    Very good, Dr Peterson, and lovely wife....thank you

  • @sleepinglioness5754
    @sleepinglioness5754 2 роки тому +6

    One of Bruce Willis' best movies is 'The Kid'. Every man (and woman) should watch this very sweet movie with a big, big message how your childhood perception can affect your entire life. Deals with everything Tammy and Jordan are discussing here. 'Cuteness' was deliberately used to get the message across. Great, great movie.

    • @headsupdisplay2189
      @headsupdisplay2189 2 роки тому

      "The. Kid" was an incredible movie...very under appreciated...

  • @thelostone1728
    @thelostone1728 2 роки тому +1

    As an artist, let's make catharsis on artwork we make. Express the emotion in the artwork

    • @psyskeptic9979
      @psyskeptic9979 2 роки тому +2

      Jordan is saying here that catharsis theory is actually incorrect. He is saying cognitive restructuring is the active ingredient.

  • @maryj7423
    @maryj7423 18 днів тому

    "Memory is an ongoing interpretation of life"

  • @georgep.5315
    @georgep.5315 2 роки тому

    Sure but you can’t isolate cognitive analysis from emotion completely even thought it may may seem so . They go hand in hand with qualitative differences depending on the predominant thinking processes . But also if you meditate and let you’re emotions freely surface (something I personally do as well ) who is to say that afterwards the cognitive processes do not reconfigure so as to make a more logical analysis of past unpleasant experiences and that leads to new” cathartic “ explanations and conclusions as to why things may have happened . It seems to me that both are beneficial .

  • @Marianna-js3ji
    @Marianna-js3ji 6 місяців тому +1

    If my memories are false then how come I am continually proving them with information I find on the Internet about my abuser?

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  6 місяців тому

      Thanks for your comment. Beware of false prophets. You can find anything you want on the internet. If these are 3rd party sources, distant from your personal circle of friends, gather and discuss widely, before you dedicate yourself to this narrative. Peace

    • @Marianna-js3ji
      @Marianna-js3ji 6 місяців тому

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast Nope.Original sources. Catalog of Copyright Entries - copyrights of songs he wrote. He was a musician and used a certain pseudonym a name he went by. Two ads in the Los Angeles Free Press using the same pseudonym with his phone number in the ads. I have the Los Angeles phone book with his unique real name, his address and phone number which proves where I said the apartment was.These are all from the late 1960's and can't be edited. No one is writing anything about him on any Social Media that I have seen.

  • @troygoggans5495
    @troygoggans5495 2 роки тому

    Maybe I don’t think intellectually about things in my past but I do think of those things a lot and that is my problem. I know my wife and I do not have the same memories of our shared pass while I take responsibility she never sees the negativity in life.

  • @danag2841
    @danag2841 8 місяців тому

    That a horrible way for healing from trauma or pain that someone causes. An abusive relationship comes from looking at that person through the bright side or full analysis . That’s what keeps that person in your life.. although it is not the reality sometimes it’s best to completely vilify a person, and lose connection further than human eyes, and remain present.

  • @zahra7985
    @zahra7985 2 роки тому +118

    I think JP puts too much emphasis on thinking our way out of our emotional problems. If unchecked thinking will superimpose it’s own framework of what Is acceptable and what is not acceptable onto how you feel. So you end up rejecting or suppressing how you feel because of how you’ve thought and framed things in your head. I honestly found the best way to experience traumatic memories and unexpressed feelings from childhood was to meditate and listen to how I’m feeling rather than thinking about how i should be feeling. Modern society puts way to much emphasis on rationalisation and cognition

    • @trentknight8661
      @trentknight8661 2 роки тому +6

      Many do not ask enough questions of themselves or others. They make assumptions and then these cause turmoil. It’s ok to have this turmoil so you can understand that next time encountering this situation you use that experience and apply that knowledge. But you must have some chaos or you cease growing.

    • @asmaaash5064
      @asmaaash5064 2 роки тому +5

      Well written, elegant & articulate 👏

    • @samuelcampbell1205
      @samuelcampbell1205 2 роки тому +12

      If you're angry, and you sit for a second, and think to yourself, I'm angry, because I know that feeling, that's you thinking. At this point you're observing your emotions. This isn't bad, because from here you can think "okay, why am I mad? What's the catalyst? Is it irrational? If it is, how should you handle the problem? Should I take it out on others? No! If you're rational and you need to confront someone, sure. However, at this moment when thinking through so you don't let your emotions take control of your actions and fuck things up, you can do something that helps relieve anger. You do this hobby, or way to vent your frustrations, and you feel your emotions during it. For me, this means I vent to myself, I ramble to myself as I do something that is productive.

    • @joshuagutenberg1901
      @joshuagutenberg1901 2 роки тому +11

      I can't believe I am about to comment something regarding something JP is saying and not completely in the affirmative. JP is so well read and versed that it is extremely difficult to suggest a different angle. JP is very humble and welcomes a different angle, and so I will make my third grade attempt. The Bible says, "As a man thinketh, so is he." Modern psychology says the opposite "you are this way, so that is why you think this way." Modern psychology is wrong, and the Bible is right. The way you think, is the way you become, not the other way around. The number of studies that prove this are numerous. The Bible also says "professing themselves to be wise, they became utter fools." So I agree with you that you can definitely think way too much about a problem. The reason this bad thing happened to you or your family, might simply be nothing to do with you, but just simply the fact that there is evil in the world. Well, try to think your way out of evil. Try to understand the nature of evil. Try to understand what evil is. If you try to think your way around that, you will go batty. Read a Bible. The Bible perfectly explains the nature and purpose of evil so we don't have to try to understand it because the Bible answers the question, and then we do understand. A little known thing about JP is that he has an extensive knowledge of the Bible. His deep pondering of the Bible enables him to understand and explain subjects that would otherwise be extremely extremely complex and difficult to comprehend. Spending the most of your time meditating on the reality that God is just, that He will make all things right is what gives you hope and peace. Even when a person dies unjustly and unfairly. The Bible tells us that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. A person may have lost a battle, but they win the war. Spending eternity with a loving Creator will erase any memory or experience of pain or suffering you had on this planet.

    • @sozeytozey
      @sozeytozey 2 роки тому +7

      It's cute that you think meditating isn't thinking.

  • @madwilliamflint
    @madwilliamflint 2 роки тому +1

    I'm not sure the "just write about how angry you are for 10 pages" actually works. I've never (anecdotal) been able to do that without such reconfiguration being a side effect of the writing. It's as though the process of writing it out compels reflection. To say it another way, once you start seeing yourself writing "all work and no play makes jack a dull boy" over and over, your forebrain/executive function "snaps out of that" and carries the ball forward, even if only for the sake of writing something else. That seems to create a feedback loop to change the truth.

  • @ShitheadToStrategist
    @ShitheadToStrategist 2 роки тому

    Have either of the Petersons spoken with Dr Caroline Leaf? I think her “re-wiring the brain” hypothesis would be good for this type of discussion.

  • @rudivandereep310
    @rudivandereep310 2 роки тому

    When one mentaly allocates a memory event, a personality

  • @daniellesomerfield8799
    @daniellesomerfield8799 2 роки тому +5

    And then there's religious abusers who conjure up a false memory you never had to justify their abuse and they will defend their lie to hell. That's called a demonic stronghold.

    • @Polza-sd1sm
      @Polza-sd1sm 2 місяці тому

      Not only in religion ! But also in many beliefs, politics, science and psychology itself !
      Many psychiatrists and psychologists use this manipulation technique nowadays !
      They create false memories like «your parents are narcissistic or you have trauma or you are hurt or abandoned or you are alone in front of the wickedness of the world»! All these things don’t exist! All these techniques are invented and used to manipulate and control the patient or infantilize the patient! They use the patient as a kind of PREY to their experiments and manipulations!
      I am doing a PhD in music therapy and I also study the branch of neuropsychology and I know the field very well and for a very long time!
      And it becomes a kind of sectarian drift in psychotherapy! And other reasons also, it is to earn MONEY!
      Like I say all the time, «Know yourself and believe in your instinct» !

  • @jacobmartinelli7496
    @jacobmartinelli7496 Рік тому

    that explains alot

  • @paddyt4043
    @paddyt4043 2 роки тому

    Hi tammy ,great to see you have a channel 😊
    New subscription added

  • @JulieBest
    @JulieBest 2 роки тому

    Is it possible that it’s the process of formalizing the thought? When one takes an idea and makes it exist in the real world: writing, painting, etc., they are constructing (with an underlying purpose of communicating). Is it possible that this process of construction, itself, contains the catharsis?

  • @joejoejoejoejoejoe4391
    @joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 2 роки тому +2

    Wouldn't constant propaganda have the effect of changing how we view and interpret ( or even remember ) memories ?
    And possibly how we interpret the present.

  • @dankemp1470
    @dankemp1470 2 роки тому

    Tammy hi. If you guys are over in the UK, Manchester on tour let me know if you need anything or if you just want a day out. Im located in Milnrow Rochdale, great walks and beers big big fan of all you guy's do. Cheers.....

  • @mishotumparov1172
    @mishotumparov1172 Рік тому

    Where did "Direct Remembering" go Dr, Peterson?

  • @vigneshiyer4334
    @vigneshiyer4334 Рік тому

    Can anyone help me understand what is JP saying?? Did he says memories could be erroneous...?? Whay did ge say about sexaul absue...

  • @johannakunze3300
    @johannakunze3300 2 роки тому

    Tammy is VERY competent.

  • @FrJohnBrownSJ
    @FrJohnBrownSJ 2 роки тому +1

    My understanding is that researchers believe strongly in our ability to invent memories. Therapists believe strongly in our ability to repress then recover memories.

    • @Kikuye
      @Kikuye 2 роки тому +2

      That's an interesting way to put it. I think both are possible - repressed memories and false memories. I think just being aware that false memories can be planted is a good defense. Because I feel like more than one instance, I've had people otherwise trying to help, basically doing what could have planted false memories or in the least beliefs.

    • @adrienne3802
      @adrienne3802 2 роки тому

      I'd recommend the book the body keeps the score.

  • @ET_LWO
    @ET_LWO 2 роки тому

    Just subscribed 👋

  • @martha-schalleck
    @martha-schalleck 2 роки тому +2

    I don´t see the connection with "False memories", which are not real in any deep meaning anyway. The pandemic is about the abuse, not about therapists changing memories. There is much to say about this, for example: Memories don´t change, but people might say and invent things, where they know, they are not real, for social reasons. I find it sad that the Petersons bought into this story.
    Still, I would like to give an impulse for further thought:
    When people understand things appropriately, demons (e.g. anger, depression) lose grip. Social support helps. This is how healing in psychotherapy happens.
    Demons can also give possessed people false memories that often work together with real trauma the person suffered. The real events are horrific, but the "memories" produced can often be false.
    I studied the subject for dozens of years now, from personal experience in abuse, from therapy, and from science (both sides of science, I might add...), and with Jesus. Result: Only Jesus is truth.

    • @psyskeptic9979
      @psyskeptic9979 2 роки тому +1

      He links what he is saying to false memories in the last minute or so of the video. Memories are reconstructed in nature--they are held in unstable biological systems that fade with time (in the synapses, etc)--memories do change according to present beleifs and perspectives--it is very adaptive and changable for efficiency reasons.

  • @MC-tq2lm
    @MC-tq2lm 2 місяці тому

    Hello. Does anyone know what words of cognitive insight might be? As an example? @2:22 Thank you.

    • @maryj7423
      @maryj7423 18 днів тому +1

      I think it means reasoning and thinking things through. Think of a very positive or negative experience you have. When you remember it afterwards, you might just let out emotions or you might feel relaxed enough to reflect on it more objectively. At that point you can more clearly understand what happened, why the other person might have acted a certain way, and why you reacted the way you did. Realising all this is creating a cognitive insight.

    • @MC-tq2lm
      @MC-tq2lm 18 днів тому

      @@maryj7423 thank you. That's an insightful take on it 👍

  • @Guus115
    @Guus115 2 роки тому

    I ship these two

  • @jonathanjollimore4794
    @jonathanjollimore4794 2 роки тому

    I have bin having memory difficulty and I am having a hard time figuring out what true and what just none sense

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому

      Hi there. My memory problems are solved by following a carnivore diet. It’s a radical change but saving our memories and being able to know what it true is most important

  • @georgemichaels9511
    @georgemichaels9511 2 роки тому +2

    Imagine their first date.

  • @TurcoAmericana
    @TurcoAmericana Рік тому +1

    I grew up without parents. Can you two adopt me please? Im 36 tho and im a mess.

  • @vigneshiyer4334
    @vigneshiyer4334 Рік тому

    Ohh this is good...

  • @psiquestate7863
    @psiquestate7863 Рік тому

    ”Thinking is censorship "

  • @aice336
    @aice336 2 роки тому

    holy wow is this interesting

  • @norwichhypnotherapyservice7372
    @norwichhypnotherapyservice7372 2 роки тому

    This is a psychologists way of looking at childhood trauma but it’s not the whole answer and I totally disagree that emotional release is not important. I have written a book called ‘How To Get Over The Start Line’ that explains why this approach of looking at childhood trauma using adult eyes is not always effective.

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому +2

      Thanks for your comment. How do I get a copy of the your book?

    • @norwichhypnotherapyservice7372
      @norwichhypnotherapyservice7372 2 роки тому

      Hi Tammy, thanks for your reply. I am a really big fan of your husband and I’ve followed your family struggles over the past few years. Much love to you guys. My book is on Amazon, title as in my post under Alex Evans. Every line wasn’t edited 10 times and I wrote it as I speak to my clients as a hypnotherapist. If you get it I hope you enjoy it, it’s short and to the point. Best wishes Alex.

  • @Prince_Sheogorath
    @Prince_Sheogorath Рік тому

    This is why SOMATIC EXPERIENCING and other somatic modalities which release trauma in the body via stress physiology mechanisms is superior in releasing trauma and can do this like talk therapy cannot.
    The body keeps the score.
    What happens to you before you can remember affects your physiology, your nervous system's sense of safety.

  • @AnaVerona_
    @AnaVerona_ 2 роки тому

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rebeccawinkler425
    @rebeccawinkler425 2 роки тому +1

    Being abducted ,and gov wanting for him to join them ,but he did ,could that be why he projects anger towards something he presumes and assumes.just saying .

  • @marlene1608
    @marlene1608 2 роки тому

    yay, love having a new female role model!!!!

  • @farmschoolchicks1913
    @farmschoolchicks1913 2 роки тому

    Feeding the algorithm

  • @psiquestate7863
    @psiquestate7863 Рік тому

    🧐

  • @backyardthinker5996
    @backyardthinker5996 2 роки тому

    id say its emotional "impression" not expression... you learn selectively, sometimes forcefully, and then what you learn bends what you learn next, its like walking around with a splinter, you walk more, it hurts more, it hurts more you hate walking more, and blame the world, or your feet, or the tree that gave you that... and as you gradually become who you became, then you go round and round in that circle... fear teaches fear, anger teaches anger... your brain neurons form a connection, and as you feed that connection it becomes concrete... and that hurts even more.. a backyard explanation to you guys... and i disagree

  • @valor1630
    @valor1630 2 роки тому +1

    who’s is this guy, Tammy Peterson is talking to anyways? 😒

  • @mzmoth
    @mzmoth Рік тому

    🤍🤍

  • @Unexpectedperspectivesnow
    @Unexpectedperspectivesnow 2 роки тому

    Why is he talking to his wife as a peer in psychology ??? Is she even remotely educated in that field?

    • @TammyPetersonPodcast
      @TammyPetersonPodcast  2 роки тому +4

      Thanks for your comment. I support Dr Peterson and after completing the exercise years ago and seeing the results first hand, I have listened and learned over the years much about the self authoring program and how it has helped people improve their lives. I asked him to discuss self authoring on my podcast

    • @Unexpectedperspectivesnow
      @Unexpectedperspectivesnow 2 роки тому +2

      @@TammyPetersonPodcast thank you for your answer. 🙂

  • @bodick_
    @bodick_ 2 роки тому

    TAMMY PETERSON HAS A UA-cam CHANNEL? WHY AM I ONLY FINDING OUT ABOUT THIS TODAY? I SUBSCRIBED FASTER THAN I CLICK ON A NEW JP VIDEO LMAO

  • @mathew4181
    @mathew4181 Рік тому +1

    Tell Jordan Peterson to say ROSARY to overcome this condition😁.
    You're Welcome

  • @stanleyklein524
    @stanleyklein524 Рік тому +1

    Peterson(s) has (have) no idea what a memory is. In that respect, he (they) is closely related to most academic psychologists and neuroscientists. If he (they) subscribes to the received view "memory = encoding/storage/retrieval", then, pray tell, what mental happening is, in fact, Not a memory?
    I personally like Jamie Pennybaker and think he is a smart fellow. But taking his work as definitive on memory is not a wise move by anyone the least bit familiar with the intricacies of the field.
    What a poser.

  • @KilMichael
    @KilMichael 2 роки тому +1

    Tammy,
    I find your approach a very pleasant and intellectually accessible format.
    It’s clear behind every et Al …
    Well done and best regards and I look forward to more .
    Kevin

  • @georgegrubbs2966
    @georgegrubbs2966 2 роки тому

    Finally, there is something I agree with Peterson on. If only he would stay in his area of expertise, clinical psychology and stay away from all else except as an interested layman.

  • @CaptainValian
    @CaptainValian 2 роки тому +3

    I have reported two comments that appear to be adult content related. A short but interesting point. All I would say is it took me 30 years to talk about my childhood and on reflection many years after I considered the problems my abuser had and they shrank from demonic proportions (created by my child's recollection) to a father with potential mental illness and problems.

  • @geralhammonds9272
    @geralhammonds9272 2 роки тому

    I knew I watched this video before, or did i?