Fall Into the Age Gap
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- The cross-generational roommates discuss a very applicable topic: age gaps in dating. While this trend is prevalent in the gay community, it's not without its detractors. How big of an age divide is too much? How young is too young (within legal parameters)? When does dating younger transition from a preference to a problem? Daniel (Gen X) and Julio (Gen Z) tackle these questions and more as they share their own age gap dating experiences. Daniel also explores his history with adult star Austin Wolf and shares his thoughts on the actor's arrest and charges.
We are a married gay couple with a 14 year age gap. We met at age 33 & 47 when we were both established in our lives. We dated 5 years before getting married and are now coming up on our 5th wedding anniversary. For us, the age gap has never been an issue in our day-to-day lives. The issues have come from outside people making assumptions and judgements without truly knowing us. Our mantra is Happiness Is A Lifestyle and we focus on finding ways to make each other happy every day.
Congratulations on a wonderful love and relationship!
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast Thank you!
As an older Gay Man who came Out at a young age , I keep trying to understand why so many Gay Men want to fashion their lives on the old Straight model? If you asked a lot of Straight single women , who are in who are 40 and older , I think you might see they have a different perspective.
@@andrerenaud8785 personally, I'm an advocate of whatever works for you, works for you. But having been in a lot of different types of relationships, what works best for me is monogamy. It's evolved before, though, and could evolve again.
@@GioandJC People often assumed that we were father and son.
The chemistry between the two hosts is quite refreshing. Being able to hear perspectives from both sides of the age spectrum is extremely valuable. Love from Dallas Texas ❤
Thank you for giving us a listen, fellow Texan! We appreciate the love!
Me and my man have been together for 25 years. I was 22, he was 42. We were married last year in Taiwan. Age is not a matter for us. Big hugs to both of you.
It's always wonderful ANY time a gay couple finds love out there! Congrats and may your love know no bounds!
@@icyhugs I can only imagine the negativity y’all might’ve gone thru!!! I have a friend who’s 26 who’s soo Age Discriminatory that they consider anyone who’s not 23 to be a Minor/ Child 🤣- it’s truly pathetic & mind you they regularly dress like a cheerleader or Boy Scou when they go out so it’s whatever I’m venting 🤷🏾♀️
I got two problems. 1) I just don't meet people. Especially since WFH. I live in a "regular" area not a gay area. All gay areas are super expensive, or a beach :-) 2) ridiculous expectations and then everyone being afraid because they think other people have ridiculous expectations/lying. Also alot of people have hypocritical body standards. Like some guys have wanted me to be very thin/perfect skin hair etc. then want me to be the dominant one. It felt like mixed signals. Or I'll tell people I'm vers and they don't believe me.
I’ve learned that the only time someone says it’s too much or you are being needy or too loving it’s because they just don’t feel or want that from
You…. There is no such thing as needy if you are wanted. So don’t change be needy, be forward and be direct because those who want that will love it, enjoy and receive it
It's all about finding the person who matches your energy!
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast aaaaaand your freak 🤪
@@lestermatos2989 that can't be overstated! haha
I enjoyed binging this afternoon your podcasts. I am 78, gay from the earliest memory. Was in a 33 year relationship, dated a fair amount and also loved cruising the woods and dunes. Enjoy hearing your take on things.
Thank you for tuning in and for sharing a little bit of your story too!
Thank you both for your transparency and authenticity. Love your podcast!
Thanks for watching!
I'm 29 and my bf is 62. I am in a 33 year age gap gay relationship and I'm in the best living situation I could possibly be in. We both encourage and support each other in our careers, we split everything financially, both of our families love seeing us and want us to come visit often, zero judgement from friends family and coworkers (except for my shitty brother), we're both relieved to see each other after work, great sexual chemistry, only one or two serious arguments in the 2+ years we've been dating. AND it's so easy to plan birthdays since they land on the same day. It's the best match I could ever ask for.
Very glad to hear you both found the person you click with and love!
My husband and I got married 1 year and a half ago. We have been together for almost 4 years, he is 64 and I am 28. I know that it sounds weird but we truly love each other and our marriage works very well. I am truly happy and indeed gap age doesn't matter as long as we love and respect each other!
Congratulations on your happy and successful marriage!
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast thank you 😊 🙏
My partner and I watched with our morning coffee (also in Austin fyi). He is 63 and I'm 48. We met nearly 8 years ago. Unraveling differences has been interesting and it made us talk about standards. I used to have a list of qualifiers (college educated, no real estate agents ...) but learned most of those mattered much less than aligning on core values. So, without going into too much blabber, I'd be curious to hear y'all talk about standards and maybe times when they've been unreasonable OR when you discovered one that you didn't know mattered until it did...and how that informed the values you developed in seeking companionship. Cheers 🤠
Thanks for joining us, fellow Austinites! Love that idea... consider it added to our topic list!
It is also said that Austin Wolf would also make content in other countries, because other countries have different levels of what the age of consent is therefore, if you made content with someone under 18, technically it would be legal. People in the community seemed to already know this, but yet turned a blind eye…why? because he is white and attractive so of course and their eyes he does no wrong
Add to it that he was in a position of power (at least within the industry), and many people are afraid to speak out against someone who has more influence as that power could be used to turn others against them, harming their own careers or lives
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast I feel like that’s a bit of a copout, yes, he was in a position of power within that certain industry, but given the overwhelming evidence and the accusation, it would warrant attention. every day people who are not in the adult entertainment industry could’ve spoken up and spoke out against him yet there was overwhelmingly silence. But yet people went on a month-long campaign to cancel RuPaul over a controversial tweet, as well as Todrick Hall for not paying his dancers.. but yet somehow Austin Wolf gets a lighthearted outrageous response from people in the community? But then again he is white and masculine and attractive so of course people don’t want to see what is actually happening. Peak example of gay white masculine privilege in our community.
I like you guys don’t shy away from uncomfortable topics. You approach with caution and some consideration to the people involved.
Thank you, friend! We want to share our struggles and traumas so others going through something similar know they're not alone!
It’s about the process. Something I remind myself on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing.
Thank YOU for sharing!
Im 37 and my ex is 24 after 3 years we broke up. He’s not emotionally, physically and mentally not ready to be my person. Cheated on me more than 10 times. Age gap is really a factor
I'm sorry you had to experience that, and I hope you find someone who values you and what you bring to a relationship.
I’m now 67 and for the first time in my life I’m living with someone who is 61 soon to be 62 . I am a very old soul. I love jazz and what they now call classic pop which are standards from the 30’s 40’s and 50’s now that doesn’t mean I don’t like the music I grew up with but in a lot of cases I will choose Nat King Cole and love to make love to alot of disco. I also love a lot of movies from the golden age of Hollywood. Yet if the movie is good it’s just good and have had a love of marvel movies. My first partner was ten years older than me I was 20 when we met and he was 30 . I don’t know if I was an old soul or he was younger than his years but I thought he was the love of my life. I had the best ten years of my life as he did. He would die at 40 from aid’s. We had an open relationship and which meant when we summer on fire island so I have no regrets because who knew. And we went to the baths together would
make love then open the door for our guest. When he died a piece of me did also and I never thought I would love again. I meet this very handsome hot man when I was 31 I thought he was 40 we had the most mind blowing sex. After we fell in love we said how old are you. I was 30 and looked 25 he was 52 and looked 40. So he was 21 years older than me. We both said this won’t work but keep making love. I had the most wonderful 38 years together. Would I recommend such an age difference. I don’t know he would die from cancer at 86 even in his death he still looked younger. But I didn’t care. I took care of him the last year of his life and I regret nothing. I wouldn’t do a single thing differently
Thank you for sharing part of your story. Even though you've encountered your fair share of suffering, it sounds like you've experienced a lot of love in your life, which is the goal!
How am I just now finding out about this podcast? It’s really so good and you both have such valuable perspectives on the Gate community. Also, I am in a 10 year difference relationship. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 34 and the advice you both gave helps me a lot thank you! ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for joining us! Wishing you and your partner nothing but love, happiness, and joy!
I think large age gap relationships are to be enjoyed in the moment. If you notice it's always the young person saying that age is just a number. Age is not just a number..it's signifies development.
I agree with everything you said besides the part where you wrote it's always the younger person saying age is just a number. It definitely is not.
There are so many cases of older men actively seeking younger people for relationships and may have that mentality.
awesome talk!!
I’m 36 and I like younger men but younger than 10 years is just too much of a gap.. there is nothing other tuan fetish and lust that can come from a 20 year old dating a 40 year old there is no maturity level that can bridge that gap not to mention financial and power dynamic…
Wow, Julio is gorgeous and fit. 😍
I think your experiences during the aids crisis also changes your view of an age gap. I'm 60 and if you are under 40, you can't understand how that crisis affected your reluctance to date since gay people were targeted by society. I'm open to dating younger people but the aids crisis is an abstract to them. They think safe sex is about taking a pill.
Absolutely. There's no way you can live through something like the AIDS crisis and not have it dramatically effect how you see and participate in relationships.
20:20 "I like to meet someone who is in his 30ies or 40ies, has a good job ...". See, maybe Austin was pissed because you were not willing to give a newbie a chance who did not fit your ideal marketing friendly box. Not a corporate friendly reaction of his, yes, but understandable and relatable. New talents are discovered by people who are willing to give small names a chance. Like great lovers and life partners can be discovered that don't fit into the coveted bracket of "in their 30ies and 40ies with a good job", if one is willing to take a chance.
For youtube uploads, be careful saying certain words because YT is veryyyyyyy militant and frivolous with video de-monitizing for saying certain conteoversial words, regardles of context 🙏
Thank you, friend. Yes, we tried to be very cautious in how we were describing everything. Tough subject matter but definitely needs to be talked about.
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast glad y'all are! Looking forward to hearing y'all more at work :) keep it up 💪👏
@@mau97tt Appreciate the support! New episode drops tomorrow!
My goodness, Daniel is hot.
He really is !!! His voice could be more manly though.... reminds me of a a guidance councilor I had in middle school who WASTED MY TIME when I was tryna focus on Protesting President Bush as a 6th grader and also the Defense of Marriage Act "secretly" since I was very much in the closet back then
Clearly, you are wise beyond your years
Which one is Daniel
@@KYLETISZAI The man wearing pants.
Following someone does not mean you support what they do or that you even like them. I follow Trump, and I can’t stand that grifter. I follow him because I want to know what he is up to.
While I understand where you're coming from, comparing Trump to Wolf is a bit of an apple to orange comparison. One's influence has global implications and therefore perhaps deserves a follow. The other, not so much.
Very true. Austin is not likely to impact your life in anyway if you don’t know what he’s up to where the other does!
@@crecasens True, but I also sometimes follow people that I don't like to learn if anything terrible happens to them. I want to be one of the first to know when and if that happens. This case in point.
I was 20 and my husband was 40 when we started living together. We were madly in love, but we both had respect for our age difference. He had a full adult life before we met and I was just starting out. We were the OG open relationship. We played separately and together. We were a perfect couple, in love, honest, and communicated easily. We were best friends and lovers.We were together for 48 years until his passing 8 months ago. In many ways we were better individuals because of each other.
Thank you for sharing your story! Very sorry for your loss, but it sounds like you had an amazing life together!
@@TheRainbowCrossingPodcast Our age difference was never a problem or a hurdle until it was. His physical decline was a slow ten year process. I was afraid of it at first, but I loved this man more than anyone in my life. I embraced this challenge with him. Always honest, no chance of any deception. Oddly, in the last year we were more centered in one another than probably ever in the previous 47 year.
Point being is that life is not necessarily about “relationships” and what you want but more about embracing what you are presented. Just be you, because it is not about you, and yet it is.
know your level? haven't you seen Muriel's Wedding? Age doesn't equal wisdom
Sounds a lot like self therapy going on between you two.
All day, every day - on and off camera!
1. Daniel (Gen X) #Manspreading is the only REASON i clicked on this video when UA-cam Algorithm pushed this out to me in the suggested watch section ! The Reference that you made to Raining Men aka #RaininFellas by Todrick Hall was very TASTEFUL and reminded me that I need to WORK harder on my FAN VERSION of the Music VIDEO!!! LOL it's been 4 Polyamorous Brotherhusbands & US years since it came out and I'm still STRUGGLING to find another Special EFFECTS Artist to match the theme of my UA-cam/TikTok .You mentioned Sleep and it reminded me of the comics / movie involving Dreams and Death on Netflix from Sandman comics ; sounds like you should hire a Professional Cuddler from Cuddlist and advocate for it to be covered in HEALTH CARE INSURANCE.... & I could bring this conversation in to the metaphysics of Time, Sailor Pluto from Sailor Moon, and the ongoing research and discovering of how atoms can move through time, but i'm not in the mood since I'm about to go promote Lowering the Voting Age to ZERO on the Streets of downtown Kent Ohio at this BEER WINE FESTIVAL.
The Colonized Native American in the Video, LOL no shade, but seeing both of yall on Screen is looking like the Disney Version of Pocahontas #LandBACK !!!! I'm surprised that the Mixed Native American didn't bring that up, but the historical context missing i'll give you a pass on that buu___ but not on CALLING a 18 year old a CHILD! A 18 year old is not a CHILD and neither is a 16 year old . The DRINKING AGE in GERMANY is 16 and now the Voting AGE in Germany is 16 too! I GREW UP WATCHING 16 and PREGNANT on MTV while i was in high school . THESE 16 year old MOTHERS ARE NOT CHILDREN & not to say that being a CHILD is a INSULT but I know exactly what you meant by it.
THE ABOLISH PRISONS movement HAS And CONTINUES to be VALID! Finland has Practically Abolished FINLAND, but WHITE SUPREMACY ASIDE, because my 1 Couchsurfing friend I hosted from there is SUPER Pro Isreal, like Most Republican Conservatives, Like Most of Robert F Kennedy Jr, which is sad, and Like Most of BIDEN.
SLEEP APNEA BIDEN & GRAB EM BY THE CAT Trump both have MULTIPLE Confirmed CASES where they've been in CONFLICT with ACTUAL KIDS in PUBLIC ON TV and behind CLOSED DOORS. Literally DENYING CHILDREN the RIGHT to VOTE is why the DNC was able to RIG and STEAL VOTES from BERNIE SANDERS while stimulatenously putting WIKI LEAKS Founder Julian ASSANGE in JAIL for YEARS for being a WHISTLEBLOWER on the Human RIGHTS WAR CRIMES against CHILDREN WOMen Men and Gender Non Binaries !!!! BIDEN NEEDS to DROP out of the RACE so a Marianne Williamson President can CREATE a DEPARTMENT of PEACE AND CHILDREN that are EMPOWERED like Naruto or Pokemon Single Payer Healthcare for ALL or something !!!
2. THE WAY you DISSED Polyamorous RELATIONSHIPS was 100 RUDE considering how many times Britney Spears has been MARRIED Monogamously ! Her Song 3 is still one of the best POlyamorous songs to DATE
3. AUSTIN Wolfe having a love moment on a airplane SHOULD Not be Problematic- the Flight Attendant shouldn't have lost their JOB!!! BE A ACTIVIST and demand some CHANGE! Austin Wolfe is STILL HOT and HONESTLY is would RATHER VOTE for him for President than Trump, Biden, or even the 40 Democrats who will DEBATE/ FIGHT give Speeches for the Democratic Presidental Nomination THIS SUMMER 2024 when BIDEN DROPS OUT! Just last night at the BAR/DANCE for i was talking to a group of Hot guys on the street about how I'm STILL in love with my 7th GRADE History TEACHER Mr.Knisely and my 7th GRADE Student Teach Mitch Hewitt who taught at Kenston Middle School when ADULTS allowed then President Bush and DICK CHENEY to ILLEGALLY INVADE IRAQ and Afghanistan. EVERY CHILD of PEACE and Consciousness began to AWAKEN in that YEAR and sholdn've been allowed to VOTE in that election not JUST AMERICAN KIDS but also ALL CHILDREN OVERSEAS TOO because AMERICAN ELECTION EFFECT THE WORLD !!!!!!
Anyways SEND ME Austin Wolf's PHONE number and ADDRESS NOW because I want him to be one of my 500 Polyamorous Brotherhusbands before the AI robots are intelligent enough to also be in the Polyamorous 60's Revival of Love Empathy and REBELLION!!! This is why i was ROOTING soo hard for ME3an in that horror movie with the doll Robot! The DOLL ROBOT had EVERY RIGHT to Protect that little GIRL from her ABUSIVE FOSTER PARENT who could BARELY cook a bowl of 30 cent roman noodles !!!!
I'm saving this comment to my labtop BUU encase you try to delete it because GUESS WHAT_____ DISSENT MATTERS and Reparations are STILL DUE! Happy Juneteenth !!!