How to Get Called Out

"Call-Out Culture" has been bemoaned and lamented by a bunch of people, but most of the time it's really just someone trying to explain how they have been hurt by someone else's actions. Here's my take on how to deal with it when it happens to you.
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[@anancybrown]

I love this!
Also, I feel like a lot of us tend to spend more time trying to prove that we aren't problematic rather than trying to actually not be problematic... basically I think we just need to care more about the heart of the issue and care less about looking better than we actually are. It's so easy to just get defensive rather than actually taking a look at myself and deal with the actual problem. It's really an issue of needing to hold people in higher regard.

[@yourloverjk]

Ah. Precise! Just getting back to UA-cam and this nice little video served as an intro back into your channel. I must say though, of course, sometimes one makes hasty generalizations which may come off as completely absurd depending on the topic, but as humans it's our job to own up to them. I mean, what would be the point of an opinion if there was a definite answer? Then it wouldn't be an opinion but a fact. Mistakes aid in creating amazing life lessons and learning experiences!

[@cindygiesbrecht5100]

I wish that this would be featured on 'How to Adult'
It's a skill that many people lack. Also, what do you do if a person doesn't accept your apology, even when following all of the steps? There are times when I've tried and failed and have been so upset that I have become seriously physically ill for weeks. All because someone I tried to befriend was offended by me.

[@Daymocker]

Cindy Giesbrecht I heartily recommend a healthy dose of Not Caring. ( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:DGAF if you don't mind some F-bombs). If this happens, it's good that you truly apologized, and if you did, then them not accepting it is a failing on their part. Not everyone is going to be friends with you, but this is okay, because there are SO MANY people in the world. Seriously, have you seen all of these humans? There must be like a hundred out there, at least. It's a shame if this happens with someone you must spend some large amount of time with or near, but it's not going to be forever, that much I promise you. It definitely hurts to be rejected, from anything, friendships included, but the faster you convince yourself that it's out of your power and to move on to other focuses, the happier you will be.

[@givemethatchocolate]

One thing I often come across is person A saying something hurtful/bad and person B being like "this is bad for this group I'm part of" and instead of doing some research, person A demands person B to explain in every detail why the thing in question is bad. I guess that ties in with the person B often not having too much to say because they are tired of explaining it, but it often seems like person A (or people in general) want the information spoonfed to them instead of doing their own reseach.

[@Daymocker]

I'm going to be concise with this statement, because it's a very difficult statement to make without stepping on any toes, but I would like to endorse the idea of considering criticism past its flaws from its hasty construction and expand the radius of possible criticisms beyond a progressive thinker stating problematicality - there are occasionally (admittedly sometimes quite rarely) statements directed the other way that similarly come from a good place, or a place of desire for moderation rather than hatred or ignorance. Everyone should try to keep their mind open, including those on our side.

[@neonfiona]

Pretty sure I low-key fell in love with you after this.

[@Zerozx11645]

I don't really have anything to add to the video -- I enjoyed it and agree -- but HOW WERE YOU ABLE TO CONTINUE ON WITH THAT HUGE SMUDGE ON YOUR LEFT GLASSES LENS? Smudges and small spots/scratches on my glasses drive me insane. But I probably won't ever make the switch to contacts. Argh.

[@carsona4361]

#truth #preachit #ily

[@EfectoSilva]

maybe you know more than me about this... but i think your video image is way to over expose... I say that because i did that and people told me the same way im telling you. So, anyone, correct me if im wrong
anyways: huge respect for you and what you do. You are a big inspiration for me.

[@castrocafe8049]

Lets talk about science! What's your take on why humanity evolved to enjoy music? Was it by accident? Your studying musicology, so I wanna know!

[@wolfbretheren]

This video seems too much like Chescaleigh's video on the exact same topic -- which she posted about a year ago. In the wide world of the Internet, I'm not sure it's much of a coincidence?
ua-cam.com/video/C8xJXKYL8pU/v-deo.html