Enneagram Type 8 | Subtypes Overview | Sexual • Social • Self-Preservation • SX, SC, SP • eight

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  • @wintery-n4x
    @wintery-n4x 2 роки тому +14

    Self pres 8w7 here! I feel SO seen. Thank you for this deep dive.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +2

      This makes me feel the confident and powerful 8 inside me Laura. Much appreciated
      Drew

  • @giscottusa
    @giscottusa 2 роки тому +9

    Oooooh finally!!!!
    Somebody who did their diligent homework on 8s!
    Thank you Sir! You ACED social 8!
    I appreciate the depth you brought to each instinct.
    Following! More videos on 8s, please 😊

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +3

      Ha! Finally getting a passing grade on something for once 😂
      More to come, not sure the next 8 video but I’m working hard on new content to be delivered in September… stay tuned

    • @giscottusa
      @giscottusa 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk I am excited !!!! Keep up the great content! 🔥

  • @ronjar.747
    @ronjar.747 Рік тому +4

    Spot on! I feel seen. And am deeply moved. Thank you from a female social 8w7.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  Рік тому +2

      No problem Ronja! Thanks for watching and sorry for the delay in getting back to you. As you know, it is my goal to help people be seen, and understood. So glad I did my job. Hope you stay tuned and keep watching,
      Drew

  • @grey17322
    @grey17322 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for your content! I already understood the enneagram subtypes but wanted to listen to other sources to gain more insights, and your channel surely taught me much more than I already knew. Please continue your great work 🙏

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  Рік тому +2

      Thank you so much for saying so. It’s nice to know that these are connecting with people, and they are learning just a bit more about themselves. The affirmation is appreciated, hope you keep watching.
      Drew

  • @coinlecturedesammy
    @coinlecturedesammy 2 роки тому +6

    You have a unique sincere approach to the Enneagram. This video helped me understand my sexual/self-pres husband better. Thank you! I'm a 5 so likely to watch a lot more of you haha!

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      Always appreciate a message like this! If I can help just a little bit in your personal development and in your marriage then I’m pretty satisfied. Keep up the good work and hopefully I can offer a bit more down the road 🙌🏼
      Drew

  • @terryfrancis10
    @terryfrancis10 Рік тому +2

    I feel like I just had a great therapy session and I needed it! Tears, healthy guilt, and a sense somebody can see me truthfully. I love intensity - I have Pluto conjunct my rising sign and I feel like I embody all of these Subtypes strongly, kinda thot I was a 9 for a long time. Great videos, thank you!!

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  Рік тому +1

      No problem Terry,
      Sorry for the delay, thank you for watching and for allowing yourself to be moved by the experience. Glad you know a little bit more of who you are these days and can work through that so diligently. Keep up the good fight, as an eighth I know you will
      Drew

  • @persephone8960
    @persephone8960 2 роки тому +4

    I love this, the most in depth and detailed breakdown of us 8s. I prefer channels like this as oppose to surface comedy that gets touched. This is what we need. This is how we better understand and work on ourselves. Thanks man. This is awesome, keep the channel growing 💪

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      I hear you Wolfgang! While the cute quick hits have their place I love the deep dives with some challenge. I’m not gonna stop, for folks who want a 9 course meal I have I can cook up some good stuff. I appreciate your affirmation and know it keeps me going
      Drew

    • @persephone8960
      @persephone8960 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk Can't wait for more genius cook ups! Subscribed! 👏💪

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@persephone8960 I’m currently in the Swiss alps for a month at a friends house who gifted me her place to dream up new content and hike. I’m grinding and dreaming up new stuff. Rest and relentlessness 😂

    • @persephone8960
      @persephone8960 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk Enjoy, behave (don't get thrown out lmao)😂 and yeah get a good view of the alps for a vid maybe? 😏

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@persephone8960 the enneagram 1 videos and 5 videos as well as 4&1 video were all shot here in the alps with the background being the mountains
      It almost looks like a green screen. Check them out

  • @elizabethhenderson5110
    @elizabethhenderson5110 2 роки тому +2

    I love the “hangry” it’s very true! And “ I want what I want when I want it.” Working on it

  • @debrasheppard5848
    @debrasheppard5848 2 роки тому +3

    One of the best podcasts I've listened to that defines the 3 subtypes for an 8. Really really well described. I thought it was a self pres 8 and now I think I'm a sexual 8. Or maybe both flip flopping back-and-forth. Thank you so much!

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      It’s my joy to be thorough Debra. Thanks for engaging the content and I’m guessing if you watch again in a few months there will be another layer to the experience and perhaps even more clarity. Keep digging
      Drew

  • @raulsanz7120
    @raulsanz7120 2 роки тому +1

    Minute 24: be a steamroller, concerned about it and diplomatic (40%, 40% and 20% for a normal 8) (higher, less high, less high for sp 8). In my case: 30%, 10% and 60% (I'm supposed to be sp/sx)

  • @whitefox4237
    @whitefox4237 2 роки тому +2

    Hi Drew! Thank you so much!!
    8s could be really hard((
    I'm a woman, a sexual 4 like yourself, the guy I'm seeing is unhealthy sexual 8. He manipulates, I see this, and lately we had a fight that seemed to be the end (he says "nothing happened"). I was so angry at him that now I think I want to be together to just torture him, destroy him for the pain he caused. I feel like I need to have the upper hand in this relationship and end it when I want. I understand this is not right, but I think it's the only way not to fall under manipulation again.
    Maybe I should just walk away, I really don't know....😓

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      As I always say, the more you work on yourself the more healthy the partner you find will be. So, regardless of what you decide keep working on getting healthier

  • @onlyxandr
    @onlyxandr 4 місяці тому

    Always been a dom social 8, until this 2 years its been really rough. I went into full self preservation mode and this switch just brought out a side of me i dont recognise but come to appreciate.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  4 місяці тому +1

      @@onlyxandr love the reflection 🙌🏼
      Drew

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  4 місяці тому +1

      @@onlyxandr love the reflection 🙌🏼
      Drew

  • @nurtureulifecoaching3226
    @nurtureulifecoaching3226 8 місяців тому +1

    I’m an 8w7. When I listen to this I feel like I am more of a SO 8, but according to the overview video I’m an SP. obviously those are my top 2. Thanks for sharing your content. 💜

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  6 місяців тому

      So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching and telling me it helped! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
      If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
      Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
      Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
      Drew

  • @christinafitch143
    @christinafitch143 Рік тому +2

    I relate to all, sexual is my dominant.

  • @LottePotte1234
    @LottePotte1234 2 роки тому +2

    Hahaha loved the end of your description of the social 8 - like you were almost emotionally drained of the high energy and action of the social 8 and thank you for mentioning that you love us ❤ My son is an enneagram type 4 and I so relate to his deep feelings 😊 When I first got introduced to the enneagram, I had no doubts that I am a type 8 - mostly because of the basic fear of the 8 - I however, never really felt the generic description was correct - until I got introduced to the instincts and then everything made sense, as I am the countertype of the 8. Loved your video - thank you so much!

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      The countertype is so tricky right? Stumps so many people. I actually love explaining them the most as I hope people find their roots. So appreciate you for writing and affirming the work. Keep digging and I’ll keep explaining 😉
      Drew

    • @LottePotte1234
      @LottePotte1234 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirkvery tricky and it indeed feels like finding your roots - or like being seen for who you truely are, that is def worth a lot, so keep on the good work and your videos. Appreciate it a lot 🙂

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@LottePotte1234 working on more today. We’ll get as aware as possible won’t we!

    • @giscottusa
      @giscottusa 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk It is tricky. Like you said, people think we( social 8s ) are cutesy 2s... Many times I heard I was mistyped to which I wanted to say: you can mess around and find out if you want to. Attempt at your own risk. Children, do not try this at home.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@giscottusa 😳watch out, that kitten has claws 👊🏼

  • @kathelifer
    @kathelifer 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for this knowledge and approach about us!
    As a sexual 8w7 the song that I do feel so alive and listening to and I sing it as an anthem is “Bitter Sweet Symphony - from The Verve”.
    Blessings and best regards from a Ecuador born girl living Switzerland

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      I listened to that album and that song every day my freshman year of college. The verve was always on my playlists and his solo work too. Glad you watched and if you watch some other videos I film the enneagram 1’s, 5’s, 4 overview and 4’s and 1’s in relationship videos in Saas Fee Switzerland. I get to Saas Fee regularly. So glad you watched and wrote,
      Drew

    • @kathelifer
      @kathelifer 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk OMG thank you so much for the kindness I’ve watched them and they’re so helpful. You have one faithful subscriber more 🙋🏻‍♀️ blessings!

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@kathelifer it’s pretty cool to have UA-cam uniting us in wholeness and growth. Thanks for being on the journey, way more to come!
      Drew

    • @djarc9
      @djarc9 2 роки тому +2

      Thought it was just me

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@djarc9 nope! 😂

  • @catherineackerman2348
    @catherineackerman2348 2 роки тому +2

    Dominant Social 8 married to an equal score of self preservation/sexual 8. 😳
    You just explained us both in such an incredible way. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    Seriously, you just said things that I have tried to find the words for.

    • @catherineackerman2348
      @catherineackerman2348 2 роки тому +1

      Also, going on 15 years of marriage. Now I understand how we have made it this long being both 8’s. 😅👏🏼

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@catherineackerman2348 wow! Such a cool response to start my day. So glad I could get at some of the real stuff for you, always my desire to give words to the experience of being a unique human. I appreciate you Catherine. Keep up the good work on the marriage, it isn’t easy
      Hopefully you’ll keep watching
      Got some episodes coming up I hope continue to help
      Drew

    • @catherineackerman2348
      @catherineackerman2348 2 роки тому

      @@drewnewkirk
      Thanks for the reply. I have been intrigued by the enneagram for several years now and my husband is starting to get on board as well. I think you blew his mind today when he watched. He definitely felt seen and understood. It’s so good for us both to learn more about each other so we can work on things within ourselves and understand each other more clearly. Looking forward to more content from you!! Continue to keep it real!!! I know us 8’s are definitely loving it. 🙌🏼😆

    • @shynn5827
      @shynn5827 Рік тому

      Yikes! As a sx 9w1!

  • @engyhamdy
    @engyhamdy 5 місяців тому +1

    Great video and explanation of the so 8 (me). I sometimes feel like I have to convince people that don’t really know my deeper layers that I’m an 8 😅 because I seem less ‘angry and scary’! I’m a So 8 with a strong wing 9.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  5 місяців тому

      Thanks for watching and digesting the info. Hope it helped 🙏🏼
      If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop me your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR AT drew@drewnewkirk.com - hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share

  • @Nerdy-By-Nature
    @Nerdy-By-Nature 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks so much for this awesome overview of the subtypes. My partner is 8w7 and this helped me determined his stack is sp/sx. I'm a 4w5sp and this also helped me realize sx is for sure second my second, lol. Explains A LOT. I love the opportunity to understand others better, and myself.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      This hits my heart Nerdy! If I can even be a small part of helping a relationship progress I’m humbled. Thanks for watching
      Drew

    • @Nerdy-By-Nature
      @Nerdy-By-Nature 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk your heart shows in your videos, I'm enjoying them so much. Thanks for cranking them out! Halfway through the 8 and 4 comparison right now and just nodding and laughing constantly! It is definitely helpful.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@Nerdy-By-Nature it was a fun one to do. It’s like describing two fighters. Both are really good at kicking ass

    • @Nerdy-By-Nature
      @Nerdy-By-Nature 2 роки тому

      @@drewnewkirk lol, truth!! I read that and my 4ish brain goes "is it wrong that that makes me feel so warm and fuzzy down in my guts??"

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@Nerdy-By-Nature the answer is, it’s ok! Feel what you feel

  • @nicolasdanek4225
    @nicolasdanek4225 4 місяці тому

    I'm an enneagram 8 core. So no wings. But I am definitely an sx 8. I always have to be active and on the move to be satiated.

  • @BlackKnight-x4c
    @BlackKnight-x4c 10 місяців тому +1

    I think I'm an 8w9 SX. I can walk away after a fight without guilt as long as I'm not the one hurt. However bc my w9 don't like hurting people my fighting side only comes out as defensive. N I have no desire to keep that relationship afterwards, bc it only comes out if someone has already tried to hurt me. Anyone who has tried to hurt me ones will do it again so they aren't worth the trouble of keeping around.

  • @cheryrobertson2735
    @cheryrobertson2735 Рік тому +2

    Bison noble!

  • @rowboatwilly2541
    @rowboatwilly2541 2 роки тому +1

    ENTP 8w7 here..👋🏻 Thanks for making this. ❤️💯👊🏻

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for reaching out. I’m getting this at 6 in the morning and it’s a wonderful was to start my day. Glad it reached you and I hope you watch more and stay tuned for more
      Drew

  • @larrycheek3588
    @larrycheek3588 2 роки тому +1

    Getting through this one Drew.
    My spidey senses tell me a certain social four holds a place in your mind 🙃

  • @emilyacoxpsychic
    @emilyacoxpsychic 2 роки тому +2

    8w7 ENTJ here!

  • @MajorieRoyal
    @MajorieRoyal 2 роки тому +2

    Awesome, thank you! 8social

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      Thank you for thanking me Corina! I love doing these and glad you pulled something from it. Lean in 🙌🏼
      Drew

  • @EpEdits0
    @EpEdits0 2 роки тому +3

    When I am faced with stress, I go to 5. I thought I was a 4 because I can cry and have said “I’m sorry.” However I have been told I’m scary, called a bitch. I do not like oppression whatsoever, this started coming out a lot when I was in high school. I want to make powerful changes get bad people out of places of influence. I have also been a protector, and very nurturing. I think people think I’m like a 2, so when I push back on expectations, people are shocked. I have rebelled and I have been fired (gladly) because I talked out against a supervisor who didn’t protect me in a situation where it was his responsibility. Can we move between the different subtypes? I also resonate some with self preservation 8.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Oh yes but one remains dominant. However in different times one can be selectively dominant. For instance, I can be very Social at a party sometimes and shelve my sexual and self preserving or at least temper them. However, my ultimate energy and desire that is underlying is still very sexual even though I’m emphasizing another and even though they are all pretty balanced one still wants it’s higher place of importance. I love your self awareness. Not easy being any number but seems you are handling your 8ness with wisdom. Did you watch the 4&8 episode I did? Think it has some really good stuff and knowing you aren’t alone as us sexual 4’s are very similar to 8’s in some ways.

    • @EpEdits0
      @EpEdits0 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk Thank you. Yes, I did watch that right after commenting on this video. I also took a test last night and it came out as a 4w3 😨.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@EpEdits0 ok, you may very well be a sexual 4. I’m a 4w3 and have some intense energy at times because of that sexual component. I just had a client who decided after thinking they were an 8 for 4 years that they were actually a 4. Check out the sexual 4 episode to see if it resonates

    • @EpEdits0
      @EpEdits0 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk I will 🙂. I can see why I thought I was an 8 though, but I think sexual 4 is pretty intense too. Thanks for your responses, I love your work.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      @@EpEdits0 always! And thanks. It helps to know people are wrestling with the content to wrestle with their lives. Keep me updated as more is unraveled

  • @Ambitionincarn8
    @Ambitionincarn8 2 роки тому +2

    Yo wtf, "..If I'm going to live in Nyc, I'm going to live in the best spot" Literally how I approach every given situation and how I'm approaching moving out as well. This is uncanny..
    - ENTJ 8w7 sx/so

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Stick with it my friend, do you! I like it

    • @Ambitionincarn8
      @Ambitionincarn8 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk I often find myself trying to paint an image of my given personality but I find that I have to settle for little gems like this to fit a bigger picture. According to your experience and expertise, what would you say an ENTJ 8w7 Sx/so would like to others and what would give away that one is one?

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      @@Ambitionincarn8 I’d ask others my friend. People who know you and would be honest. That’d be the best answer. If you don’t have those people than I’d think that is a bigger problem. But, my answer is insignificant compared to theirs 😉

    • @Ambitionincarn8
      @Ambitionincarn8 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirk Seems like the most obvious thing to do, to ask friends that is. But in other words, I take it you don't know how to answer my question thus making your opinion insignificant?

  • @djarc9
    @djarc9 2 роки тому +1

    On point.
    -8w7 SX

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for watching 🙏🏼

  • @shynn5827
    @shynn5827 Рік тому +2

    As a sx 9w1 myself divorcing a sx 8... pray for me pls!

  • @sharrycrna
    @sharrycrna 5 місяців тому

    As an 8 female who calls it as she sees it ….Drew, I have to say you are “too much”.

  • @yunggrampa727
    @yunggrampa727 2 роки тому +3

    You should sing the songs haha

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +2

      This wouldn’t be good for anyone 😂
      Drew

  • @ilduce5374
    @ilduce5374 2 роки тому +2

    I think I might be an sx/sp

  • @DamyanTenev
    @DamyanTenev 24 дні тому

    I had wild experience with sx 8 woman,she just stumbled upon me and was intensely aroused,acting strategicly and dominant but somewhat softly to not scare its prey(me)😅😅A dangerously intense huntes.

  • @olgavorobyova4451
    @olgavorobyova4451 2 роки тому +1

    Hey Drew! How are you?
    I did the test, the first I've found in Google, and my result is 1,3,5,8. Is it "I'll beat you up and then heal you" type of character? 😂😂😂
    Very interesting information you are sharing here. Never heard about it before, but getting involved now.

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Hey Olga. So what you’re are saying is you think you’re an enneagram 1 based on your test? I’d try to understand all the numbers and try to lock in to one that seems to fit best. It can be easy for some to find out and harder for other. Either way it is life changing
      Keep going 🙌🏼
      Drew

    • @olgavorobyova4451
      @olgavorobyova4451 2 роки тому +1

      @@drewnewkirkthank you for your response! So, first of all I thought that I have to pass some kind of test, and I googled "enneagram test", test popped-up and I answered some questions. At the end it was round diagram with #1,3,5,8 highlighted, so i figured out that these are my types. Then, I started to watch your videos and got a bit confused, thinking that I belong to all these types. Now, since I've got your response I realized, that enneagram type it's something that I have to figure out for myself based on information you provide in the video where you describe these types, and it should be one type with one subtype. Correct?

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      @@olgavorobyova4451 yep. It takes awhile but you should end up settling on one number that fits the best. We all carry all the numbers within us but one seems to motivate and haunt us the most. Just keep digging, this stuff is truly life changing
      Drew

  • @emilyacoxpsychic
    @emilyacoxpsychic 2 роки тому +1

    Drew, what is your type? I see sevenand you and a bit of two and three

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Watch a bit more. I mention my number quite often. I think the 7 you’re experiencing is the presenter and performer. But I’m a hard core 4. I’ve done 16-17 videos only on 4’s or combo’s with 4’s but 7 is part of my tritype for sure.

  • @ambermarie55555
    @ambermarie55555 2 роки тому +1

    My personality is an 8 but my life path is a 2 lol 🤣🤣

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому +1

      Stay complicated 😂

    • @ambermarie55555
      @ambermarie55555 2 роки тому

      @@drewnewkirk 😂🤣😂🤣

    • @ambermarie55555
      @ambermarie55555 2 роки тому +1

      And I'm a mixture of all 3 of those types, depends on my mood lol 🤣 xx

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      @@ambermarie55555 of course we are all 9 numbers really

  • @KohiOcha
    @KohiOcha 11 місяців тому

    I vehemently disagree more people should be more vigilant of those whom they call as "friends" and keep in their circle.

  • @ilduce5374
    @ilduce5374 2 роки тому +2

    ESTP sx/sp 8w9

    • @drewnewkirk
      @drewnewkirk  2 роки тому

      That’s a powerful combo when harnessed 👊🏼

  • @Enfpmom
    @Enfpmom 8 місяців тому

    INFJ?