I can't describe how important this video is for mom's who have anxiety or fears with having babies after their first !! i am saving this for when i'm postpartum with baby #2 (due in 2 months) and will be sending this video to any other moms who are expecting another baby. thank you for making this video ❤i don't have many mom friends and all my closest friends do not have kids so this is the exact thing i needed to hear coming from another *experienced* mom. thank you.
Wow thank you so much! That's exactly what I hoped this video would feel like - a friend reminding you of all of the reasons why this is going to be so good! If you want to join my group coaching program for moms due in August or September it begins this Friday, July 5th and we get a lot of second time parents in it. Or if you want to join our online community Very Good Mothers Club, the people are so great and we meet via zoom every Tuesday. You can also just post in our forum for encouragement or tips. Most of the moms in there joined before having their second baby :) No pressure at all but just wanted you to know that it's a great way to make mom friends! So much love to you and your family!
Oh Jess you made me cry so much, I needed this video for sure- we just told all our friends and family about baby #2 and with that comes all the talking and speculation about the future and all the jokes and throwaway comments, but they are not so throwaway for the pregnant mum wondering how they are going to do it. This video was so reassuring, I feel so seen and so encouraged ❤️
I wanna thank you a ton!!! Cuz I am in my 36 weeks and I am so worried and feel like not ready in all the ways. You save me again and again with your content. Love u
I had my second 6 months ago. The transition is SO MUCH easier from 1 to 2 kids than 0 to 1. Becoming a mother is so hard, it turns your life upside down. Having a second is just more of the same, it's been no big deal honestly 😅 It's 1000% worth it, I love my babies so much and seeing them make each other laugh is just the best feeling ❤
That was such a great video! This was a sweet gift. Thanks Jessica for taking the time to speak such wisdom into a complex life situation. You're truly an important voice to parents. I'm living a full and happy life with a two year old basketball loving boy and a six month old social girl. It's the best, and what a journey!
I’m only having one child (currently 3😂) but I just love you and i love your videos so I watch them regardless of the topic and if it’s relevant to me haha I WISH we were friends irl you must be the loveliest human out there I swear!
I just had baby #3 6 weeks ago (I have 2&3 year olds as well). It is hard but each week is getting easier. Could you do a video on potty training a toddler that’s strong willed and refuses to go?
My 2.5 year old is strong willed and refuses the potty too. Today she had a big poop in her diaper and it leaked all the way down her leg a little bit 🫠. We tried two previous times to potty train her and she was just so so resistant to it. It’s also too hard to try with a young baby, my baby is a similar age to yours would be now, 3.5 months old…
@@rachelle2227 my son will be 4 in a couple weeks and refuses to use the potty. He knows how and has done it on command when he wanted something but then after he did it he said he was all done and no more potty. It’s even more frustrating knowing he knows how to do it perfectly he just won’t. My 2 year old daughter is almost 3 but she’s still trying to figure out how to tell me she has to go before she goes and not after 🥴 lots of pee on the floor and her wanting to sit on the potty after the fact.
The seasonal memory thing happens to me too. My daughter was due the end of January. I had a tough first half of my pregnancy. I didn’t start feeling better till 20-25 weeks which was in the fall. So when the chill comes in the air and the leaves turn colors and I’m on a walk around the neighborhood I feel the memory of starting to feel good enough to get out walking again. The warm comforting fall and early winter meals remind me of the comfort I found in being able to eat and enjoy food again. It’s just a warm snuggly cozy time of year that reminds me of cocooning in my nest with my wife and my pregnant belly and then with our new baby. It’s hard to describe this kind of memory it has a physical imprint on my soul the way other memories don’t. The closest non pregnancy related scenario I can compare it to is when I returned to the country I lived in from ages 3-8 for the first time in 25 years and I stood outside of my old school and it was like a flash back in the movies where when I saw a runner out of the corner of my eye I thought it was my elementary school principal’s close family friend who used to go for a run everyday after school go out. I expected the bike coming down the street I be my mom riding to pick my brothers and into from school. It has a physically transporting you back to a moment in time element.
My second baby is 3.5 months old now and big sister has taken so well to him! She loves to lay with him under his play gyms (and she’s so wiggly lol) and giving him his teether toy. She gives him kisses, and he’s old enough now that I can hold him up for her to hug him. I feel so lucky that she loves him so much 😊. She’s not been jealous at all, which is wonderful. When I’m giving him hugs and kisses she just comes over to kiss him too (but not too much 😂) ❤.
I just found out I’m pregnant with our second so your video was a godsend. Thank you, Jess. Thanks for always giving light to what many of us keep in the dark recesses of our hearts. Thanks for always trying to make the lives of others better. You yourself are a godsend.
I was worried about loving both children. I just couldn't imagine how "the love/heart grows". Our first born came to visit us in the hospital to meet his sister for the first time. He walked over to her and I realized that I felt the same way about both children already. It wasn't anything "growing", just that the love for your child feels the same no matter how many you have. It is it's own special thing :)
I just had my third (three under three!) and I definitely had more anxiety this time around than the first or second time. But of course, now that he's here i wouldn't have it any other way 🥰
Perfect timing. I’m expecting my second baby and am so excited & grateful, but also nervous cause I can’t imagine how I could possibly split my love & attention and juggle both! Thank you for the real, honest, chill reassurance and perspective 😊
Thank you for watching and commenting 🩷🩷 This next stage of your life is going to be so good! I am excited for you and will be here with you on the days you are learning to juggle! 🤹♀️
Yay I am happy the timing of this video is helpful! It’s so normal to feel nervous about that but you can do this and it’s going to be amazing. 💛 I hope the last 6 weeks of pregnancy are smooth and healthy!! Sending love!
Watching this and sobbing hysterically. Yes, I happen to be pregnant with baby #2, so it could be hormones. But how did you know I was feeling all this lurking, ever-present existential dread? I similarly decided to “wing it” with my firstborn, still basking in newlywed bliss and naive optimism almost 3 years ago. I told myself the same thing, “we’ll figure it out! This is the most natural thing ever! Yay so excited!” How was I supposed to know that I’d need to “figure out” my marriage taking an absolute nosedive, my professional performance completely tanking, everyone who I thought would be my “support system” suddenly disappearing? The hardest thing about becoming a mom, believe it or not, was how shitty my life in the periphery became. When I look at my happy, beautiful toddler, I feel like a sadomasochist thinking I’d do it all over again just for the sake of his existence and the love that explodes out of my heart for that kid, but MAN was it rough. I am so scared for how “bad” my life is going to get again with my beautiful baby girl due in a few months, but weirdly I know it is so worth it at the same time? It’s the weirdest mind eff of all time and it’s been really keeping me up at night.
I feel exactly the same way. My two year old just turned three. I want to have another, she wants a sibling, my husband wants another, yet there is this existential dread for all of the reasons that you listed out.
Thank you so much Jess. I found you 4 years ago with my first and you taught me how to swaddle. Im now 38 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and this video you uploaded at the most perfect time. Im so nervous and yes so so tired worrying how ill have the energy to do this ❤
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I can't describe how important this video is for mom's who have anxiety or fears with having babies after their first !! i am saving this for when i'm postpartum with baby #2 (due in 2 months) and will be sending this video to any other moms who are expecting another baby. thank you for making this video ❤i don't have many mom friends and all my closest friends do not have kids so this is the exact thing i needed to hear coming from another *experienced* mom. thank you.
Wow thank you so much! That's exactly what I hoped this video would feel like - a friend reminding you of all of the reasons why this is going to be so good! If you want to join my group coaching program for moms due in August or September it begins this Friday, July 5th and we get a lot of second time parents in it. Or if you want to join our online community Very Good Mothers Club, the people are so great and we meet via zoom every Tuesday. You can also just post in our forum for encouragement or tips. Most of the moms in there joined before having their second baby :) No pressure at all but just wanted you to know that it's a great way to make mom friends! So much love to you and your family!
Oh Jess you made me cry so much, I needed this video for sure- we just told all our friends and family about baby #2 and with that comes all the talking and speculation about the future and all the jokes and throwaway comments, but they are not so throwaway for the pregnant mum wondering how they are going to do it. This video was so reassuring, I feel so seen and so encouraged ❤️
I wanna thank you a ton!!! Cuz I am in my 36 weeks and I am so worried and feel like not ready in all the ways.
You save me again and again with your content. Love u
I had my second 6 months ago. The transition is SO MUCH easier from 1 to 2 kids than 0 to 1. Becoming a mother is so hard, it turns your life upside down. Having a second is just more of the same, it's been no big deal honestly 😅
It's 1000% worth it, I love my babies so much and seeing them make each other laugh is just the best feeling ❤
Your comment is amazing I’m so glad I read it. Due with #2 9/1 🎉😊
@@janajones7392 Congratulations! You've got this 🙂 ❤️ There are new challenges for sure, but nothing you won't be able to handle x
That was such a great video! This was a sweet gift. Thanks Jessica for taking the time to speak such wisdom into a complex life situation. You're truly an important voice to parents.
I'm living a full and happy life with a two year old basketball loving boy and a six month old social girl. It's the best, and what a journey!
Thank you so much! Congratulations!! What a beautiful family!
I only have 1 but i've heard going form 1 to 2 is a huge shift vs. from 2 to 3 is relatively easier.
You are truly amazing! Always so encouraging and supportive of moms ❤
I’m only having one child (currently 3😂) but I just love you and i love your videos so I watch them regardless of the topic and if it’s relevant to me haha I WISH we were friends irl you must be the loveliest human out there I swear!
You're the best! Thank you!!! 🩷🩷
About to have my first baby in October and this video was still very encouraging and helpful ❤
I'm so glad! Congratulations!! 🩷🩷
It’s almost like you knew that I was only weeks away from having my second baby and that I’ve been having so much fear and anxiety about it 😅❤
Yay! I’m so happy the timing of this is helpful! I am excited for you! 🩷🩷
What questions to consider between partner and I to help us decide to go for a second one or not
Sooo you have one for first kids too?
This video has helped me confirm that I really do want a second child 🫶🏻💕
I just had baby #3 6 weeks ago (I have 2&3 year olds as well). It is hard but each week is getting easier. Could you do a video on potty training a toddler that’s strong willed and refuses to go?
My third is almost 6 weeks too!! So fun 😊 my "big kids" are 1 and 2 lol
My 2.5 year old is strong willed and refuses the potty too. Today she had a big poop in her diaper and it leaked all the way down her leg a little bit 🫠. We tried two previous times to potty train her and she was just so so resistant to it. It’s also too hard to try with a young baby, my baby is a similar age to yours would be now, 3.5 months old…
@@rachelle2227 my son will be 4 in a couple weeks and refuses to use the potty. He knows how and has done it on command when he wanted something but then after he did it he said he was all done and no more potty. It’s even more frustrating knowing he knows how to do it perfectly he just won’t. My 2 year old daughter is almost 3 but she’s still trying to figure out how to tell me she has to go before she goes and not after 🥴 lots of pee on the floor and her wanting to sit on the potty after the fact.
The seasonal memory thing happens to me too. My daughter was due the end of January. I had a tough first half of my pregnancy. I didn’t start feeling better till 20-25 weeks which was in the fall. So when the chill comes in the air and the leaves turn colors and I’m on a walk around the neighborhood I feel the memory of starting to feel good enough to get out walking again. The warm comforting fall and early winter meals remind me of the comfort I found in being able to eat and enjoy food again. It’s just a warm snuggly cozy time of year that reminds me of cocooning in my nest with my wife and my pregnant belly and then with our new baby. It’s hard to describe this kind of memory it has a physical imprint on my soul the way other memories don’t. The closest non pregnancy related scenario I can compare it to is when I returned to the country I lived in from ages 3-8 for the first time in 25 years and I stood outside of my old school and it was like a flash back in the movies where when I saw a runner out of the corner of my eye I thought it was my elementary school principal’s close family friend who used to go for a run everyday after school go out. I expected the bike coming down the street I be my mom riding to pick my brothers and into from school. It has a physically transporting you back to a moment in time element.
How beautiful!! It’s so true it feels like a soul imprint ✨ thank you for sharing!!
My second baby is 3.5 months old now and big sister has taken so well to him! She loves to lay with him under his play gyms (and she’s so wiggly lol) and giving him his teether toy. She gives him kisses, and he’s old enough now that I can hold him up for her to hug him. I feel so lucky that she loves him so much 😊.
She’s not been jealous at all, which is wonderful. When I’m giving him hugs and kisses she just comes over to kiss him too (but not too much 😂) ❤.
I just found out I’m pregnant with our second so your video was a godsend. Thank you, Jess. Thanks for always giving light to what many of us keep in the dark recesses of our hearts. Thanks for always trying to make the lives of others better. You yourself are a godsend.
I was worried about loving both children. I just couldn't imagine how "the love/heart grows". Our first born came to visit us in the hospital to meet his sister for the first time. He walked over to her and I realized that I felt the same way about both children already. It wasn't anything "growing", just that the love for your child feels the same no matter how many you have. It is it's own special thing :)
Same!! This was my biggest fear before having my second.
I just had my third (three under three!) and I definitely had more anxiety this time around than the first or second time. But of course, now that he's here i wouldn't have it any other way 🥰
I am so excited to have a second. But my golly I do hope they are a better sleeper than my first. That was...rough...for a long time 🙃
Perfect timing. I’m expecting my second baby and am so excited & grateful, but also nervous cause I can’t imagine how I could possibly split my love & attention and juggle both! Thank you for the real, honest, chill reassurance and perspective 😊
Thank you for watching and commenting 🩷🩷 This next stage of your life is going to be so good! I am excited for you and will be here with you on the days you are learning to juggle! 🤹♀️
Thank you Jess! Currently 34 weeks and just had a talk with my husband yesterday about feeling overwhelmed handling two kids soon!
Yay I am happy the timing of this video is helpful! It’s so normal to feel nervous about that but you can do this and it’s going to be amazing. 💛 I hope the last 6 weeks of pregnancy are smooth and healthy!! Sending love!
Needed this so much! Got pregnant (kinda by surprise) 6 months post partum and somehow I'm already 26 weeks along.
We have the exact same age gap!! They're 1 and 2 now and already best friends 🥰
Currently pregnant with my second and love loved this video! Love the idea of the love you give to one child flowing into the other, etc
I love this!
Watching this and sobbing hysterically. Yes, I happen to be pregnant with baby #2, so it could be hormones. But how did you know I was feeling all this lurking, ever-present existential dread? I similarly decided to “wing it” with my firstborn, still basking in newlywed bliss and naive optimism almost 3 years ago. I told myself the same thing, “we’ll figure it out! This is the most natural thing ever! Yay so excited!” How was I supposed to know that I’d need to “figure out” my marriage taking an absolute nosedive, my professional performance completely tanking, everyone who I thought would be my “support system” suddenly disappearing? The hardest thing about becoming a mom, believe it or not, was how shitty my life in the periphery became. When I look at my happy, beautiful toddler, I feel like a sadomasochist thinking I’d do it all over again just for the sake of his existence and the love that explodes out of my heart for that kid, but MAN was it rough. I am so scared for how “bad” my life is going to get again with my beautiful baby girl due in a few months, but weirdly I know it is so worth it at the same time? It’s the weirdest mind eff of all time and it’s been really keeping me up at night.
I feel exactly the same way. My two year old just turned three. I want to have another, she wants a sibling, my husband wants another, yet there is this existential dread for all of the reasons that you listed out.
Thank you so much Jess. I found you 4 years ago with my first and you taught me how to swaddle. Im now 38 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and this video you uploaded at the most perfect time. Im so nervous and yes so so tired worrying how ill have the energy to do this ❤
You always give such great wisdom in such a gentle & kind way! I already feel so encouraged. Thank you!❤️
I LOVE that you've gone back to this style content. It's all the vibes that made me subscribe so long ago. Love you to pieces
Thank you!!! 🩷🩷
I agree! I love this casual style
Needed this. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this ❤
Thanks so much for this, Jess. ❤️
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Jessica, your videos are always so raw & honest & encouraging 🥹 thank you!!
Thank you so much!! ☺️