She was the same person - that is the thing. She was the same person. As a person of faith - her sins had simply moved from overt acts to covert acts. From lies of commission to lies of omission. From "the crime" to "the coverup" as the saying goes, and often the coverup is worse than the crimes. Both are lies. And it proves she is still quite capable and willing to lie about very grievous things as long as she saw it as protecting herself. She was still lying about promiscuity to protect herself. Until that changes into being honest about her past BEFORE a relationship became serious, then she has not changed at all.
14:45. Engagements are not promises to marry. They are exclusive commitments between potential spouses and the final testing ground of compatibility, honesty, transparency and truthful representation. Many engagements end up in the relationship dissolving. That actually means that it was successful in its purpose of proving or disproving suitability for long term commitment.
Honesty will set you free if you haven't lied by omission first. She allowed him to believe that she has always been the same person she is now. Knowing his values, it was essential that she be upfront. Knowing his values, he most likely would have accepted who she is now versus judging who she had been.
A persons past defines who you end up becoming, so any person saying their past is their past and it doesn't matter... they're flat out wrong. From the story, it gives the impression that she was fairly promiscuous. That would indicate poor decision making, a high risk of STD's, and a higher chance for pair bonding issues, which usually means a high chance for divorce.
Nobody can Say "your past doesn't define you" when they're hellbent tò hide It. Furthermore: while may be also true, that past doesn't define you (completely I'd Say, since we are resulta of past choises), that doesn't mean that anyone has tò accept It.
Unfortunately this is a common problem these days. Living as though sex has no value followed by a sudden need for sex to be valued and cherished often times has consequences.
as her friend says you waited 2 years...... had you been up front i am sure this dude would have accepted you it was the lie not your past that cost you your relationship
We all have a past and we've all done things in our part that we regret. For those more religious people who think people like her can't change, or who think past behaviour defines people today: Mathew 7:1-3. He claimed that she was not honest enough to tell him about her past, but she did tell him. She came clean about her past and told him BEFORE they were married. She could have chosen not to tell him and THAT would have been wrong. He had a vision about her being a some kind of vestal virgin. She thought their love was deep enough to allow him to accept who she is now. Sadly, neither were the case, and they were just not meant to be together.
This is one story where I don't side with the man. Yes it was 2 years . But She was honest about her past when it mattered. Before the wedding. And he threw that honesty back at her. How exactly do you bring up a past like that from the start? Lesson here is, keep your past secret. It's not worth being honest
Her past is her past. She was changed but ashamed of her past and was eventually honest. Dude is supposed to be a Christian? What a hypocrite. She is better off
So she was counseling young people... God have mercy of those youngsters!
Good lesson for young women, you're free to do whatever you want with your body but there will be repercussions
Right no man wants a used up cat 🐈!!
Props that she did the work and is in a better place, but commitment means being open and honest. No relationship built on lies can survive.
She was the same person - that is the thing. She was the same person. As a person of faith - her sins had simply moved from overt acts to covert acts. From lies of commission to lies of omission. From "the crime" to "the coverup" as the saying goes, and often the coverup is worse than the crimes. Both are lies. And it proves she is still quite capable and willing to lie about very grievous things as long as she saw it as protecting herself. She was still lying about promiscuity to protect herself. Until that changes into being honest about her past BEFORE a relationship became serious, then she has not changed at all.
14:45. Engagements are not promises to marry. They are exclusive commitments between potential spouses and the final testing ground of compatibility, honesty, transparency and truthful representation. Many engagements end up in the relationship dissolving. That actually means that it was successful in its purpose of proving or disproving suitability for long term commitment.
She also needs to return the ring, especially since it belonged to his grandmother.
Thus, fiction.
@@eleethtahgra7182 They all are.
Honesty will set you free if you haven't lied by omission first. She allowed him to believe that she has always been the same person she is now. Knowing his values, it was essential that she be upfront. Knowing his values, he most likely would have accepted who she is now versus judging who she had been.
A persons past defines who you end up becoming, so any person saying their past is their past and it doesn't matter... they're flat out wrong. From the story, it gives the impression that she was fairly promiscuous. That would indicate poor decision making, a high risk of STD's, and a higher chance for pair bonding issues, which usually means a high chance for divorce.
Not going to lie: I honestly thought Josh was going to say "My Netflix account was getting more action than I was."
Nobody can Say "your past doesn't define you" when they're hellbent tò hide It.
Furthermore: while may be also true, that past doesn't define you (completely I'd Say, since we are resulta of past choises), that doesn't mean that anyone has tò accept It.
the sudden shift happens "suddenly" at the age range of 30 when women realize they are not fertile forever....
Unfortunately this is a common problem these days. Living as though sex has no value followed by a sudden need for sex to be valued and cherished often times has consequences.
as her friend says you waited 2 years...... had you been up front i am sure this dude would have accepted you it was the lie not your past that cost you your relationship
Your past matters FACT.
We all have a past and we've all done things in our part that we regret. For those more religious people who think people like her can't change, or who think past behaviour defines people today: Mathew 7:1-3. He claimed that she was not honest enough to tell him about her past, but she did tell him. She came clean about her past and told him BEFORE they were married. She could have chosen not to tell him and THAT would have been wrong. He had a vision about her being a some kind of vestal virgin. She thought their love was deep enough to allow him to accept who she is now. Sadly, neither were the case, and they were just not meant to be together.
Nope........nope..........nope!
This is one story where I don't side with the man. Yes it was 2 years . But She was honest about her past when it mattered. Before the wedding. And he threw that honesty back at her. How exactly do you bring up a past like that from the start?
Lesson here is, keep your past secret. It's not worth being honest
Why do they act like the past doesn’t matter your past makes you who you are
Wamen really FCK it up.
Her past is her past. She was changed but ashamed of her past and was eventually honest. Dude is supposed to be a Christian? What a hypocrite. She is better off