Many guys are too sexual to me or they exaggerate and say they want to marry me without meeting me in real life. You have good advices, Hayley, Thank you :)
I met a lady on online dating, we were texting back and forth for a couple weeks and with the lockdown there isn't any way to really meet each other. I have pictures on the dating site and one night she demanded I take a selfie and send it to her. I told her I wouldn't do it that night because I just got home from work and I'm dirty and I will when I get cleaned up. She replied, "I don't think I'm going to text anymore....I don't know who you are. One thing I can't stand is an ultimatum, and even though she has sent at least 5 texts apologizing, the ultimatum was too big of a turn off for me. First, did I overreact and second, how do you handle ultimatums?
I understand where you're coming from with an ultimatum - it's far too dramatic. She was trying to control the dynamic of the relationship, then backtracked when you refused to play ball. Congratulations - you passed her sh1t test! If you're interested in her, you could reply to say that you accept her apologies, but, for future reference, you don't appreciate being given an ultimatum (or words to that effect). This will show that you're expecting her to meet your standards of behaviour - you're controlling the relationship dynamic. It could be a red flag that will link to others - does she spend far too much time talking about herself? Does she reference previous relationships with regards to desirable standards of behaviour from a boyfriend (e.g. "My ex whisked me off on a luxury weekend as a surprise"; "My ex would often buy me little gifts"; "My ex would always run a bath for me whenever he got home first")? If so, you might want to ask what she did for them... If the ultimatum was too big a red flag for you, then the polite thing to do would be to say that you accept her apologies but an ultimatum is one of your deal-breakers, so you wish her the best of luck in her search. Let us know how it goes!
#1 is very true! Being sexual too soon is a turn off for me. I end up putting the guy in a category. And that category is a guy that is just looking for sex. He's nobody special. Now later on down the road, months, maybe years down the road, it is perfectly ok to be sexually fun. But early on, unless you only want a hook up, most women that are looking for a special connection are not attracted to men that get sexual early on. Be flirty but respectful 👍
Don't Use This Oh please! This sort of thinking is why most women dont trust men. Ultimately its her body and shes entitled to wait and put off sex if she wants too. Any man not willing to wait isnt the right person for her. Most women like a man that doesnt pressure her. But everybody is different and looking for different things. Your comment makes no sense. So you mean to tell me a woman will only respect a man and sleep with a man if he doesnt want to wait ? Thats bullcrap and not true.
@Don't Use This Now that's the truth. And she actually mentioned "waiting years". So basically if he wanted to date her and marry her, even after marriage, if he wanted to become sexually close it would not happen because he will need to "wait until she decides" the "years" time period ends. There's no woman on earth that would respect a weak man like that and he couldn't even respect himself.
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Should've just said - you can NEVER win. Men just can't do any right by women. Doesn't help that women risk so little or nothing at all in this dynamic.
I wouldn't say that. I don't know how it is in your country, but in Germany, where I live, texting with your crush can be very dangerous :D Some men feel overwhelmed or bored in a short amount of time. As a woman you have to have an intuition what is too much and over the top, but every man is different, so you never know...
Please do me this favor. I want to understand why a woman who uses Tinder, Bumble, Match, etc. would not swipe right or message back from a women's perspective. Pretend you are a female who is looking for a meaningful connection or a fun time on a friendship level with the caveat that you are open for more, such as a serious relationship or FWB. However, you are getting a ton of messages or get a ton of matches that stick around. As a consequence, you are forced to go through a "process of elimination" to potentially squeeze out a quality date. How much emphasis, in order of importance, do you place in your decision to swipe right or message back based upon these reasons ONLY: Distance* Ethnicity Common interests Age Looks Chat *What's the maximum distance for you
Not spelling out words, missing standard punctuation, bad grammar, bad spelling are also big turn offs. "Hey what r u up 2" is cringe factor 15 to me. How old are you? Like...12, trying to be cool in middle school?
Yeah exactly, basically everything she just said amounts to guys can never win. she might as well just come right out and say it. Do you know how many thousands of words are used by people the same way every day. Now instead of having a simple but nice casual conversation, you have to re-engineer phrases, terminology and have to come up with a whole new vocabulary just to talk to a girl. Many women have just become more self-absorbed. Women of the past did not require men to try to jump through those type of hoops just to talk to them. I can't have a nice casual conversation using words that everybody uses in the English language then she's not worth my time.
The “wyd” text every time you start the conversation is a killer for sure.
This is gold. Really, I mean it......this is legit stuff.
"What do you do for work right now Gilbert?"
"Uh, nothing."
"ME TOO!!!"😌😂😂
"What is your favourite colour?"
Many guys are too sexual to me or they exaggerate and say they want to marry me without meeting me in real life. You have good advices, Hayley, Thank you :)
I met a lady on online dating, we were texting back and forth for a couple weeks and with the lockdown there isn't any way to really meet each other. I have pictures on the dating site and one night she demanded I take a selfie and send it to her. I told her I wouldn't do it that night because I just got home from work and I'm dirty and I will when I get cleaned up. She replied, "I don't think I'm going to text anymore....I don't know who you are. One thing I can't stand is an ultimatum, and even though she has sent at least 5 texts apologizing, the ultimatum was too big of a turn off for me. First, did I overreact and second, how do you handle ultimatums?
I understand where you're coming from with an ultimatum - it's far too dramatic. She was trying to control the dynamic of the relationship, then backtracked when you refused to play ball. Congratulations - you passed her sh1t test!
If you're interested in her, you could reply to say that you accept her apologies, but, for future reference, you don't appreciate being given an ultimatum (or words to that effect). This will show that you're expecting her to meet your standards of behaviour - you're controlling the relationship dynamic. It could be a red flag that will link to others - does she spend far too much time talking about herself? Does she reference previous relationships with regards to desirable standards of behaviour from a boyfriend (e.g. "My ex whisked me off on a luxury weekend as a surprise"; "My ex would often buy me little gifts"; "My ex would always run a bath for me whenever he got home first")? If so, you might want to ask what she did for them...
If the ultimatum was too big a red flag for you, then the polite thing to do would be to say that you accept her apologies but an ultimatum is one of your deal-breakers, so you wish her the best of luck in her search.
Let us know how it goes!
Nope, you handled it perfectly. That's a sign of the type of person she is and what's to come in your relationship with her if you pursued it
I tried messaging my crush on snapchat and his little bitmoji came up whilst I was typing so I threw my phone on the bed,
there is no hope for me
#1 is very true! Being sexual too soon is a turn off for me. I end up putting the guy in a category. And that category is a guy that is just looking for sex. He's nobody special. Now later on down the road, months, maybe years down the road, it is perfectly ok to be sexually fun. But early on, unless you only want a hook up, most women that are looking for a special connection are not attracted to men that get sexual early on. Be flirty but respectful 👍
Words to live by. Thank you for watching Sam 🙌🏼
Don't Use This Oh please! This sort of thinking is why most women dont trust men. Ultimately its her body and shes entitled to wait and put off sex if she wants too. Any man not willing to wait isnt the right person for her. Most women like a man that doesnt pressure her. But everybody is different and looking for different things.
Your comment makes no sense. So you mean to tell me a woman will only respect a man and sleep with a man if he doesnt want to wait ? Thats bullcrap and not true.
@Don't Use This Now that's the truth. And she actually mentioned "waiting years". So basically if he wanted to date her and marry her, even after marriage, if he wanted to become sexually close it would not happen because he will need to "wait until she decides" the "years" time period ends. There's no woman on earth that would respect a weak man like that and he couldn't even respect himself.
I’m excited to hear your advice once I finish my essay, your videos are always on point!! I hope you’ve been having an amazing weekend Hayley ❤️
Thank you Admir :) See you in the comments!
Hayley Quinn You’re welcome Hayley :) See you there!
just yesterday I send the Hey Good morning how are you text.... It didnt go well xD
Less frequent but higher impact interactions are such a great technique! I have a video on this if you want to have a look 💜ua-cam.com/video/f1QJjtxWwpU/v-deo.html
Hi....can u share some lights on dating married wemen.....is it heathy if wemen wants to do it?...or we must totally avoid it
Should've just said - you can NEVER win. Men just can't do any right by women. Doesn't help that women risk so little or nothing at all in this dynamic.
I wouldn't say that. I don't know how it is in your country, but in Germany, where I live, texting with your crush can be very dangerous :D Some men feel overwhelmed or bored in a short amount of time. As a woman you have to have an intuition what is too much and over the top, but every man is different, so you never know...
This advice is 100 percent correct! I hope people are paying attention 👍🏻
Thank you for watching Juliana! 🙌🏼
I think used to see Hayley around Hackney and Shoreditch, she looks very different in real life.....
She looks tiny in her videos.
Of course these rules do not apply if man is super hot ;-)
I must have sent all of these?
Please do me this favor. I want to understand why a woman who uses Tinder, Bumble, Match, etc. would not swipe right or message back from a women's perspective.
Pretend you are a female who is looking for a meaningful connection or a fun time on a friendship level with the caveat that you are open for more, such as a serious relationship or FWB. However, you are getting a ton of messages or get a ton of matches that stick around. As a consequence, you are forced to go through a "process of elimination" to potentially squeeze out a quality date.
How much emphasis, in order of importance, do you place in your decision to swipe right or message back based upon these reasons ONLY:
Distance*
Ethnicity
Common interests
Age
Looks
Chat
*What's the maximum distance for you
In other words be your self and don't be a jerk
dang... i'm so unattractive
Not spelling out words, missing standard punctuation, bad grammar, bad spelling are also big turn offs. "Hey what r u up 2" is cringe factor 15 to me. How old are you? Like...12, trying to be cool in middle school?
I only text in gifs
Yeah exactly, basically everything she just said amounts to guys can never win. she might as well just come right out and say it. Do you know how many thousands of words are used by people the same way every day. Now instead of having a simple but nice casual conversation, you have to re-engineer phrases, terminology and have to come up with a whole new vocabulary just to talk to a girl. Many women have just become more self-absorbed. Women of the past did not require men to try to jump through those type of hoops just to talk to them. I can't have a nice casual conversation using words that everybody uses in the English language then she's not worth my time.
In the past marriages were arranged by the parents.
Kind of like playing charades.