I got married in a retirement home 😂 my husbands grandfather was too ill to leave so we asked if we could do it there and luckily they agreed. Not only that it was a beautiful setting, all the residents made bunting, a cake and they treated me with such kindness whilst in their home. They enjoyed the guitar player and drank champagne with us. It was so special and even more so as my husbands grandfather passed 2 months later and we were so pleased he could be at our wedding regardless of anything superficial 👵🏼👨🏽🦳
Im sorry for your loss but your wedding sounds like it was lovely. Also it must be a nice feeling to be able to go through your marriage with the knowledge that not only was your wedding beautiful but also deeply rooted in kindness love and respect for an important member of your family. Fair play you
I would never want to be in a wedding with some of these look focused people anyways. My best friend asked to be in her wedding and due to my size it was hard to find a bridesmaid dress in the same color as the maid of honor with the time constraints. I told her I totally understood if she wanted to ask someone else because the day is her day. She told me she didn't care if I wore jeans and a t shirt what mattered is that I was able to be apart of the day with her. If your "friend" cares more about aesthetics than you, maybe you need a new friend.
What an awesome friend you have. You are also a great friend, because you offered to stand down, and would not have been offended if that is what happened. This is what friendship is all about. I love this for you guys.
I had my 97 year old grandmother at my wedding AND reception. She was so much fun! She literally closed the reception down with us and out drank, out smoked and out danced every young person there! She was a riot. I miss her. She was a true example of class (even if my reception sentence doesn’t make it seem that way) and she was so much fun.
Love it! My great-great-aunt was 100 years old at her own granddaughter’s wedding and she was up dancing and drinking wine with everybody. She’s become something of a family legend for it 😂
I think too many people forget what a AMAZING asset grandparents and great grandparents truly out to their families and to the world! Aside from children elderly people are the most important. They deserve love and happiness just like the rest of us. Your grandma sounds truly AWESOME in every way possible. I’m so glad you had those memories to look back on. The bridezilla in that story should wish for her husband to have memories to cherish about his grandmother too!
My cousin had her 99 year old grandma at her wedding, and that lady was on the dance floor longer than the rest of us, AND sang every word the the explicit version of "Get Low" with incredible glee on her face. Justice for Grannies!
Yes! This is it. The old folks know how to party. My great grandmother was in an assisted living home after she broke her hip. She was a pistol and would burn it up with her walker. All of the old folks would be getting down with hard liquor at dinners and parties. Mom and dad were having coffee a little shocked and the other oldies but goodies were like don’t you want a bourbon and coke. Good times. I miss my great grandma and my grandparents. All of them were wonderful people and I am blessed to have had them all as long as I did.
I got married recently, one of my oldest and closest friends was a bridesmaid. Over the course of the year she discovered she had cancer and had to have treatment meaning she lost her hair. I was terrified my wonderful friend wouldn't be well enough to come. In the end she was and chose to wear a wig during the ceremony but took it off during the evening part of the wedding. she looked amazing both ways and was the life and soul of the party. I wanted to let her choose what to wear and just wanted her to be comfortable. At the end of the day it's more important to celebrate your day with people you love than fixate on how they may look. My friend looked so beautiful and i couldn't have gotten married without her.
Exactly. I wouldn't even occur to me to kick a bridesmaid out of the party for losing their hair. Granted, it wouldn't occur to me to require matching haircuts. Not all hair types can do the same haircut.
Horrendous, what a terrible thing to do That bride and groom deserve to be shunned, not the 15 year old and her parents. They should have to give back all their gifts and be kicked out of the larger family when the relatives hear about their nasty trick. Just lowest of the low.
that is BRUTAL. I don't think I would ever speak to my family after something like that. If a teenage girl with burn scars attended my wedding, I would make sure to give her super preferential treatment, be the ringbearer, MC-assistant or something. What these two did is disgusting beyond belief. I hope for the daughter that the mother called it quits and just drove home instead of taking part in that circlejerk
My grandma was a blast at my wedding! She even stayed late after everyone left, and was taking all the free wine bottles and pouring them together so she could take them home 😂
Love it!!! 😍😍😂 im defo that grandma or map map as my grandaughter calls me not quite 98 yet im only 42 lol but hope this is me at my grandbabies wedding ill be louder than the lot of them 😂 sending u n ur grandma lots ♡♡ from scotland xxxccccc
My friend was a bridesmaid for a bridezilla and wrote something like “All hail the Bridezilla, destroyer of fun and love” or something like that in the guestbook. It’s the biggest power move I’ve ever heard of.
Oh my god. I want to scream. My grandma was sick, and went through a four hour drive to come to my wedding. The pictures of her from my wedding are incredibly precious to me. She died before our first anniversary, and those are the last pictures I will ever have of us together. The selfishness of that bride literally takes my breath away.
The ones excluding the teen and the grandmother are just TERRIBLE humans. How these people find other humans willing to spend their lives with them is beyond me.
These are the type of people who deserve to have something terrible happen to them. I wonder if they would put their own child up for adoption if it was born with some kind of disfigurement.
Exactly. I would be surprised if the fiance of the 98 year grandmother went through with the wedding. I would be noping the heck out of there. It really shows a grave flaw in her character.
They usually pick empaths and weak willed individuals. Chip away their self esteem. The abuse their ways into marrying them. Or in the mother with the teen it’s family and who suck. She found man who sucks just as much or more 😢
We had multiple things that went wrong at our wedding. My dress turned out to be nothing like what I thought it would be (long story) and there wasn't time to change it. My groom's relatives wore peach instead of going with the blue theme. The pearl necklace I was going to wear down the aisle broke before I could put it on. One of my bridesmaids wore different color stockings than all the rest. The preacher forgot to tell everyone to sit down after I came in so the crowd remained standing for most of the ceremony. An uninvited, mentally ill acquaintance managed to figure out where the wedding was and showed up at the reception. You know what went right? I married the man who loves me and does all he can to make me happy, and I do the same for him. In the end that's all that matters. The rest is just window dressing. We've been happily married for 30 years now.
I’ve never been married but it seems to me that if/when I do get married, everyone we want there should come as they are, to quote Nirvana. Sure, we could have coordinated dresses but I can’t even imagine not wanting a friend there because they were bald or scarred or anything else. And not inviting Gramma? That’s fucking disgustingly ridiculous. They’re your loved ones! Another quote by En Vogue: “Don’t be so shallow!”
Holy crap! Congratulations on your 30 years! Unbelievable that you went through all that and kept your head up. That's tough but you get to have a great story to tell the others! Hopefully the message can calm the zillas down! 🤣
OP, my day was almost as messy; dress delivered unfinished the night before: venue forgot to tell us when it was time to come down so the ceremony started super-late despite my waiting there an hour + 1/2 early: our hand-picked & much- bonded-with celebrant flubbed like 60% of the ceremony: the reception stylist delivered something majorly different than what was contracted + paid for: both sleeves on my dress had ripped by the end of the ceremony: someone decided to get clever against their instructions which pointlessly messed up the glass-stomp (but we just went again): despite us keeping it very intimate 1 person _still_ managed to do something that made him dead to me when I learned of it the day after: a family member showed just absolutely their whole arse to their new in-laws (socially, of course) all reception long so that they aren't fans since: I was in terrible pain from a chronic injury _the entire long day from 9am makeup to 12am getaway car_ ... Honestly, it seemed like the only issue we _didn't_ have was the security one, & I had been concerned about that. Grateful it didn't happen. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that nonsense. But it was the happiest day of my life, & in the moment, up on that cloud, nothing else even felt real... I mean, I _remember_ all the little roadbumps, as in remembering the events themselves, & my best girls still laugh about it, but I was just up too high for anything else to reach me emotionally, at the time. I was like Futurama's Fry moving in caffeinated hyper-time, calmly shifting everything away from the fire, with a dreamy expression on his face in the midst of everyone else's total panic.😂 I was in the loving + supportive bosom of the most incredible women I have ever met, my sisters of decades, & making a promise so big it'd never originally been in my life-plan, to a _magical_ partner I knew I never wanted to live without. I was terrified, + elated, & just completely swept away, & up against that incredible strength of emotion, I just _couldn't_ feel anything negative. Not for so much as a moment. I had expected day-of stress, _prepared_ for day-of stress, but then when the stressful things happened, I found myself completely serene in the face of them. (Sweet deal, I know!) It was such a vast, beautiful, meaningful, _special_ ritual of a day that I personally can't conceive of what goes through the heads of ppl who get focused on such an ephemeral detail as human aesthetic perfection, or ppl performing some perfect production where they're all LARPing as flawless, rich ppl for a day, to the point than conformity to the fantasy becomes of higher personal value than emotional authenticity, + connection, + _celebration_ , back in reality. How do you lose perspective _that much_ ? SMH. Sorry this got so long! I just wanted to let you know that I can relate. 🙂 I hope we one day get to say, "hey, we've been married 30 years," too.❤
I work with seniors and most of them have great party stories, and frankly many are still pretty good dancers. If grandma wants to come, let her! Also there has to be someone who would be willing to look out for her and take her home when she is ready. Every wedding I've been to there have been folks who head out after the dinner, speeches, and special dances.
My grandmother was always the first one on the dance floor and the last off of it. She could drink anyone half her age under the table. Let granny rock it!!!
My partner's 90 year old Polish Grandmother partied the longest than anyone else at his sister's wedding. She also had had triple bypass surgery weeks before, and yet she was still able to stay up until 3 am (Polish weddings last all night - its crazy) making sure the food and drinks kept coming for everyone. The next morning was a wedding breakfast that turned into brunch that she had organized and she was there 9 am, dressed very well and socializing with hungover guests while drinking mamosa's like a boss. Never underestimate a Babushka.
Friends of ours who couldn't really afford a wedding put a note in their invites to please not buy a present (they lived together long term and had all their stuff) but to pay for our own meals at an upscale but still affordable pub after the courthouse ceremony. Fun was had.
I've seen similar where the bride and groom asked the guests to stock the bar for the wedding. It gave everyone a chance to buy a 'gift' and it meant they had a killer open bar.
I am wondering if this will continue to go into fashion. It used to be that people bought a lot of presents for the bride and groom's place because people were married at a very young age and didn't have anything to furnish a house. Now, people often have already been in a dwelling either as a couple or in separate dwellings. They might have things that would be nice to upgrade, but help with wedding costs/party is in many ways more helpful.
@@KatieBellino This is why I always give an envelope with cash as a gift. I'd rather give a financial contribution than spend that money on an elaborate gift that looks pretty but will just end up being tossed in a closet somewhere.
That's actually how my last weddings have been, like literally, in the invitation appears the bank account number for the transfer to pay your own meal/seat. If before X day you didn't pay, you just don't go. That way the bride and groom are covered and they only have to pay for the ceremony and the after party.
Not a bridezilla story, but more of a “maid of honorzilla” story. I was in a wedding once where the maid of honor lived in another country (we are talking across an ocean far). Due to distance, she couldn’t help with any of the maid of honor duties (which is fine, we all pitched in and helped plan). We all were told to go to this one dress shop to have our measurements taken for the dresses. She sent her own measurements in via email and had the dress delivered to the bride’s home. We all got the dresses in (after alterations) only like a week before the wedding. Unfortunately, due to the style of the dress, the way the alterations were done left most of us with dresses that ALMOST fit, but not quite. We all made due. The day of the wedding, we are all getting ready with the bride, when the MOH tries on her dress to find it slightly loose. Not even noticeable. She insisted that another bridesmaid (who she doesn’t know and who’s dress fit her) trade her dresses as it was a smaller size. The other bridesmaid refused. Because…why would she trade? It’s her dress that fit her! The MOH literally cried and threw a fit. She was acting unhinged about a slightly loose dress on her best friends’ wedding day, a couple hours before the ceremony. The bride was very calm and composed through it all, luckily. It was absolutely ridiculous. She didn’t speak to anyone else the duration of the day. The most childish, dramatic encounter I’ve had with another adult
The woman with the "silver spoon": Of course her parents are right, but frankly they're reaping what they sowed. They spoiled her rotten her whole life and expect her to wake up and 30 and decide to be fiscally responsible, and to magically stop expecting the Bank Of Daddy and Mommy to stop dishing out endless cash? I love how she tried to sound responsible by saying they're saving for their second home. 🙄
Right, got to move out of the first home that her mom and dad bought for her. I'm sorry, but if mom and dad bought you a house, you can't really complain if they don't pay for your wedding at age 30 (while making mega bucks at a law firm). However, as you say, they did create her.
Exactly this. A little late to start teaching your child "responsibility" and "the value of things" at 30 years old after you spoil her rotten. She even got a job via nepotism. Come on now.
@@KatieBellino oh no, she doesn't mean move out of the first one. She means just have two houses that they can stay at. Like a summer home or something
Honestly, if my partner didn’t want my elderly grandparent at our wedding because of their age then they wouldn’t be at the wedding. Because I’d be calling that wedding off.
At least i have reasoning for maybe not having my grandmother come to my wedding reception if it's any bit rowdy, if i ever get married and she's still around. For 1, she works herself up into a frenzy for any normal holiday and somehow ends up at the emergency room by day's end. It's terrible, but we have bets for the 4th of july, thanksgiving, and christmas as to whether she'll be in the hospital and my mother has to duck out of family events. 2, she's sweet when she's not complaining, but now there's always something to complain about. I saw her for 20 minutes recently (stopped by to say hi on my way to an appointment) and she spent the entire 20 mins complaining about 1 thing. I don't even remember if she said hi. 3, she's not....dangerous per say. But it was only last week or so that she got up, took two steps, and went down, fracturing her arm and requiring stitches. There's nothing worse for a party than stopping because you have to call an ambulance because someone on blood thinners is bleeding out from a head wound from a fall. Although i have a feeling deep in the pits of my stomach that she wouldn't even make it through the ceremony alright and that she wouldn't appreciate or remember it. It hurts that she's become so frail and that she's not really living in the moment anymore.
Exactly! I’m so close with my grandma, she basically raised me as a child when both of my parents were working full time, and she’s such a wonderful lady. I’m always hoping that she’ll even live long enough to be able to make it to my wedding in the future, and if my fiancé didn’t want her there, that would be a big deal breaker
@@Sonnenanbeterin1991 My Nan was a party animal and was the life and soul. Everyone loved her and she was just the sweetest thing. She was in her 80's when she passed but she still enjoyed life till the end. It depends on the grandma I suppose, but if she's still happy and having fun then it's a deal breaker saying she can't go. I often spent more time at parties talking to my Nan and getting her drinks and nibbles than I did with anyone else. She was a lot more fun than most of the other family. At my sisters wedding she was as much the center of attention as my sister was, and my sisters new husband demanded a Nanna dance after the bride and groom dance. Nan loved it, and had a wonderful time. My sister didn't think it was weird or get offended because Nan was getting attention. The whole family had the same attitude. If Nan ain't coming then neither are we 😂
It really upset me to even imagine his granny knowing the bride didn’t want her there. That breaks my heart that she had to deal with that stress and sadness. The bride is awful.
@@bettersecret1499 yeh I get you like, but don’t you think at weddings that the ceremony is the least memorable part of the day lol 😆 like she’d be ready to go home by 7pm and she’s just wanna sit back and watch them all having a laugh. The bride should think highly enough of the grandmother to know she’s not gonna be there too late and causing people to be looking after her all night, just one of those things that would work itself out if you leave it to
I think this issue is indicative of bigger problems to come later on. Regardless of how selfish you want to behave on your wedding day, to purposefully exclude the grandmother because she would be a burden speaks volumes about her attitude toward family.
The greatest gift my son and daughter-in-law ever gave us - marrying at City Hall, with each of their best friends, then coming over to our house the day after and saying "We're married." No guest list. No money spent. No smiling and pretending to be happy to see people I don't know or like. No stress. Just a great daughter-in-law!
I pretty much did this when I got married the second time. My first wedding was mostly forced upon me, I literally woke up the morning of the wedding and my first thought was “there’s always divorce” - should’ve listened to my gut! Anyway, marrying someone I loved and was my best friend we both decided that a big wedding wasn’t something we wanted, why get into debt for a party? So we didn’t tell anyone, made excuses for our mums to meet us at the registry office (both our dads have passed) and told our kids we were heading to a different family members wedding and told them all literally 2 minutes before we went in - then had a nice lunch in a fancy restaurant - then invited our siblings to our house for dinner and drinks and told them we got married that day. Wouldn’t change a thing - had the wedding we wanted, zero debt, no stress and no drama.
I pretty much did this. We flew to New York, got married, flew back and took our parents out for brunch and broke the news. It was the best time and completely stress-free.
Can I steal you? I literally told my parents my dream was a garden wedding with them, partner's mum and my grandad.... and was told "We'll have no part in a wedding where you don't invite every aunt, uncle, cousin, second cousin twice removed etc". I'm like... I have asked you to do nothing but set up some chairs in your garden and maybe cook dinner afterwards, how is this not a win!? Take the win! (Anyway, now we're eloping and no one's invited so jokes on them!)
That's what me and my fiance are doing. Just having our parents. My sister lives out of state so she won't come. I don't really want to pay money for a bunch of people to eat and have a party when I don't know or like them! Also neither of us are party people so we won't even have fun. The marriage is what matters not the wedding ;)
I remember reading about the invoice - there was a little more to it. The bride and groom responded to this and had explained they were having a destination wedding and had invited a selected number. They had reached out to everyone asking if they were still coming and the no shows were still saying yes. They sent a number of texts asking if they were still coming just before the big day and they asking anyone if they couldn’t make it to let them know. Again the no shows didn’t say anything to indicate they weren’t coming. The no shows passed off the bride and groom so the invoice was created.
To all the bridezillas who want the “perfect” wedding: When one of my high school friends married, we all flew out for the wedding; this meant the bridesmaids did not get their dresses until the last minute (having been ordered months before) and they turned out to be a disaster - wrong color that didn’t match the shoes, huge, puffy televangelist sleeves, wrong fabric. They did what the could (swapped sleeves for spaghetti straps) but they were still hideous. Mother of the bride was quite upset. They looked like a bad cover band for the Supremes. At the church, the bridesmaids all hung their heads, shoulders shaking - MOTB thought they were crying about the dresses until we said, “Look closer - they’re trying not to laugh on the altar.” We then proceeded, one by one, to hand tissues to the MOTB (the suppressed laughter in our pew was exquisite - something anyone raised Catholic can attest to) - until the MOTB let out a huge cackle… Epic. She started hitting us for making her laugh, which just produced even more sniggers. At the reception, we got the DJ to play Stop In The Name Of Love, and the bridesmaids gave an outstanding lip sync performance. Until the day they died, the parents of the bride would roar with laughter when we recounted that day - that’s “perfect”.
Thats such a good attitude, after-all its not a day for instagram, its supposed to be an amazing day for friends and family. You guys sound fun to hang out with!
See that's the kind of wedding we could only hope for. I think people genuinely forget that yes, even though the Bride is getting married, it's also a time to celebrate with everyone who loves the bride and groom. That kind of wedding would be far more memorable than a by-the-book ideal wedding.
The one that lied about her wedding being child free just to keep her niece from coming is A MONSTER!! And deserves every bad thing that might happen to her.
If I had learned about that happening, I would immediately leave the wedding in solidarity. If possible, I would have invited the couple and there daughter out for a meal.
@@kitty62862, yes. The child (teen) was the step daugther of the guest and the guest was the sister of the bride. So the child with the scar is the niece of bride and groom, even they are not related by blood.
I wondered how the hell they thought they'd get away with that? It's obvious that they only told them not to bring her. Did they think they would agree with them and say yeah that's a good reason?
I never even considered asking anyone involved in my wedding to change their hair color or cut, pay for their plate or decorations, lose weight, etc. These are so bizarre!
I was SO shocked about the bridezilla who didn't want to let the 98 y/o grandmother come to her reception. I stopped the video, told this to my wife (of 25 years), and told her "I wouldn't have married you if you pulled this kinda shit on me with the 'I am the bride after all' bullshit". She agreed.
Note that the bridezilla wanted her parents to pay for her wedding because she and husband were saving for, "a second home." Not a home, a second home.
About the bridezilla that excluded the burnt girl from the wedding: Sounds to me like the bride and groom deserve each other. If my husband had told me to exclude someone from our wedding because of "something being wrong with how hey looked" that would've been the end of our engagement and probably the relationship too. Besides, if your potential SO is willing to say something nasty about the looks of someone you know (especially a child) who's to say you won't become targeted for ridicule once you're married?
I personally found it funny that as soon as Bridezilla got some heat she threw Groomzilla under the bus blaming him for not wanting the girl at the wedding. They sound like a perfect match.
@@maryallison0509 Maybe it was the groom's idea who knows? But in whatever case OF COURSE when someone gets publicly called out for being a POS it's someone else's fault.
@@whitneybennett5076 Lol I wish I was a fly on the wall the evening afterwards. I would of been pissed off if I was him and really innocent in the whole situation. But still more pissed at her for outting him if they made the choice together. Like bitch please you had to make both of us look bad.
"Dude partying with grandma's is the best!" My great aunt in currently in her 90s. Her one granddaughters wedding was a couple years ago & she had a wild time. Next wedding is next weekend & this woman lives it up. Get a couple glasses of wine in her & she pops off!
I RSVP’d for my best friend’s wedding with my mom as a guest as we’ve known them since high school. I didn’t show up last minute cuz my mom went to the hospital the night before. She totally understood and kept in contact DURING her wedding reception to see how my mom was doing. Things come up and sometimes there’s no way to attend.
What if it was the Grooms uncle they sent a text less then a week before the wedding and it was his whole family not coming because he had to 'work' later to find out the dad was on a stag? Asking for a friend...
My cousin's wedding was a party vibe child-free event. Our grandmother was there, and we literally lowered a table to the floor so that she could "dance on a table". Grandma's can vibe with everyone else.
The one who doesn't want her fiancé's grandmother at the reception needs to understand that it is his wedding as well, and if she's not willing to compromise about something as simple as this, I don't see their marriage lasting very long.
This is just my take on weddings, so here goes. If you keep the wedding small, inexpensive, don't spend thousands on a dress you're only wearing once, etc., have a nice, but again, small reception, then you can have all the money you saved on what is really important. A house, a new car, new furniture, retirement, etc. It's the life you start AFTER the wedding that is important. Not all the glitz and glam just to get a piece of paper that states your union is legal. Again, this is just my take.
I agree. Go nice, but don't spend $20k-30k. That is ridiculous. You can make it happen for a budget of about $10k and still have a decent wedding with all of things people are used to seeing. If you are willing to DIY a lot of things, you can go even cheaper.
Woulw them exclude too.. taste of their own medicin. I mean what did they expect how they woule react after they saw tje other children.. az least be clever and dont invite all other kids too
Being from the South, it isn't even a question of having grandparents at a wedding. The big question would be who gets the honor of making sure Grandpa and Grandma are comfortable and having a good time.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding a few years ago and the couple had three grandparents still alive. The bridal party voluntarily decided to take that pressure off the bride, groom and their parents and 'adopted' the grandparents. Beforehand we decided which bridesmaid/groomsman combo would get each grandparent and at the rehearsal dinner we introduced ourselves. Day of we were their bff, checking in on them every 20 ish minutes, to solve their problems before they could even mention it to the bride, groom or their parents. The photographs are taking too long? I feel ya, my feet are killing me too. How about I grab folding chairs for us while we wait for our turns. The music is too loud? Here let me move you to a table further away from the speakers. Drink getting a little low? Let me grab you another one. You're heading to the bathroom that is up a half flight of stairs with a walker? What a coincidence me too, I'll walk with you. Cold? I'll grab a jacket from one of the grooms men. Super long story about your neighbors granddaughters wedding and how the entire thing was trashy? Fascinating, tell me more. Really tired and want to go back to the hotel? Here's an uber and call me so I know you got back ok. It was a little bit of work but it meant that my friends could enjoy their wedding without worrying about if their grandparents were comfortable. They were incredibly appreciative. TBH grandmas talk the best trash and I got my adopted grandma to do a shot of tequila with me.
Jeeze! When I got married our wedding invites literally said “come celebrate our marriage with us and please no gifts! We’ve been together for 10 years and we truly don’t need anything.” All I wanted was a short ceremony, a medium length reception, and to say hello to all our friends and family. My eldest daughter (from a previous relationship) was my maid of honor and she wore her old prom dress as her dress. I didn’t care or have expectations of anyone other than to make sure my now husband didn’t wear a bright purple (think joker) suit and to ensure my mom who’ve I’ve cut from my life didn’t show up and cause drama
WOW, that's almost exactly how my sister rolled at her wedding! I officiated, she and her husband paid for everything, and our wretched maternal unit was nowhere to be seen. It was chill but beautiful.
That’s because a wedding should be about your love and relationship and having fun to celebrate your day, this sounds amazing. I have plans to have a matching wedding party, but my only stipulation is it has to be teal or silver grey. That is all. I don’t care about what color of teal, what cut of the dress, if you have colored hair or tattoos, because that doesn’t affect how much I love my future husband and how much fun I’m going to have partying it up with my friends and family. You got it right on this one love!!
I'm convinced the wedding are like booze - they each reveal a person's true character (as much as they want to deny it). And how about we all throw a massive party for the 15 year old girl, the 98 year old grandmother, and the bald bridesmaid? I can't believe how poorly they were treated.
I find this all so astonishing. I know I was married 50 years ago, but it's not SO different - it still had to be paid for etc. Yes I look at the photos now and then, but all I see is happy, relaxed people enjoying a wedding. My bridesmaids were all different sizes and had different hair - so what? The grandparents were there and had a great time and a skeletal thin, extremely sick uncle is quite obvious in the photos - it was the last party he ever went to and wrote to tell us how much he'd enjoyed it. After 50 years, if you've lasted that long, these are the things that are important, believe me.
My old great aunts (respectively 90 something years old, 86 and 82 or something like that) are the greatest party animals ever! Getting drunk, dancing on tables and all around great fun to have around!
Marriage isn't about the decor or the dresses, it's about love and sharing a commitment with another. If you can't throw a big party, so what! Be happy to be getting married, nothing else really matters!!
Couldn’t agree more!!! My wedding cost less than $5,000 and I love my husband much more now than I did 13 years ago. It’s about starting a life together, not outdoing someone else’s party or having a perfect day.
When I married my late wife, we were married in the pastor’s office. My wife bought the marriage licence, as I was out of the country until the wedding day. (Very long story.) The two witnesses took us for a wonderful meal afterwards. My first wedding had a reception, although not overly expensive. The difference was that I didn’t really feel part of my first wedding. It seemed to all be about other people, and not just the bride. My second wedding was perfect. It was about us and our love for each other. Neither of us would have changed a thing. ❤️
What's wrong with the men that still want to marry this lot? If my wife to be told me she cancelled a bridesmaid because she lost her hair due to cancer, then I would instantly know she's not the one for me, and I would bin her on the spot.
That is more often than not that the partner doesn't get to hear about it at all. Almost all the bridezillas are freaking sweet to their partners, like the most innocent, sweetest girls ever "could never..." and that perfect image is backed by dozen of other peoples (most family and friends) sacrifizing their time and ressources for her.
OMG right... I once worked with an insufferable coworker who reminds me of these Bridezillas. Just the most self absorbed and insufferable person Ive ever been forced to work with. I attended her wedding reception when I was new to knowing her. When I quit I messaged her and said my peace, which involved me wishing karma and to realize the world does not constantly revolve around her. A few people told me how happy they were someone finally said the truth to her because literally almost eveyone hated/ couldn't stand her and they were still stuck with her 🤣 They told me she got so triggered she tried to get police involved, like full blown Karen level 😂. I can't even imagine being so entitled/ full of myself to beleive someone saying they hope karma does its job and reminding me that I'm not the center of the universe is a threat😆😂🤣👌💯 Obviously nothing happened but Im sure she like all other Karen's and Bridezillas are still stuck in their own narcissistic worlds.
The "child-free" wedding: That is disgusting. I don't know how the bride and groom thought that the parents would be ok to learn that not only was their daughter excluded for a stupid, shallow reason, but that they would be ok about being lied to and stay for the wedding. The groom is terrible for suggesting it and the bride is even worse for not standing up for her own niece and then calling her sister an a-hole being not taking it well. The bridesmaid with cancer: Also terrible what the bride did to her. It was completely and utterly selfish and insensitive, as well as shallow. I don't blame the bridesmaid for taking her to small claims court. She's already going through enough with the cancer, she didn't deserve to be treated like crap.
We had kids at our wedding; one of our friends had a five year old who we knew since birth. During our first dance she came running up and grabbed our legs. So we each took one of her hands and finished the dance with her. Her mom was horrified at first but surprised when we danced with her.
@@downhomesunset My friends granddaughter is Downs. When her mom and dad got married she was around 5 too. She was a flower girl and bossed the bridesmaids round (which they all thought was adorable) and during the first dance she stood at the side and they saw her and held out their arms and she rushed in to join them. It was the sweetest thing. She then partied the night away till she fell asleep on her Nans lap. And if anyone had said she shouldn't have been there it would have been like that scene in Airplane where they are all lining up to take a swing at that one guy. nobody messes with family :)
Its so stupid at least dont invite any children.. then you would not have been discovered while doing such a horribel thing.. what did they think how they would react
As a kid, I remember staying with family (opposite side) while my parents went to family weddings. It wasn't that big of a deal they told me in advance I wasn't going and had something set up and brought me cake. I was considered well-behaved enough to go to some of the ceremonies, which other than the cake was my favorite part. Child-free weddings, in general, aren't the worst. However, this bride and groom took it too far. I have a cousin with Downs syndrome and while he generally did not go to the wedding ceremony, he did come to the reception and he always had a blast. He was well behaved and loved dancing either by himself or one of us. I think those were some of the best times of his life.
My kids were not invited to my nephew’s wedding. They were the only cousins not invited though they are the youngest. Ages 10, 5 and 4. For the record, I am all for child free if that’s what the bride and groom want. My kids had been to his siblings weddings and then were picked up by my in laws by 9 pm. So he even knew how my kids would be handled. Got to the wedding-tons of kids. Then my SISTER asked me why my kids weren’t there. 😂😂 I told her we were informed they weren’t having kids at the wedding. She was not impressed.
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My sister had her grandmother-in-law at her wedding ceremony and reception and this sassy old lady stole the show! It was amazing watching her dance with her walker and have the biggest smile on her face the entire night! She could not have been more excited to be included and I know it meant the world to my brother-in-law and sister to see his nana so happy
Re: Grandma. I have been to many weddings where the old farts in the corner were the rowdiest group in the place. Get a few boilermakers in them and watch them have fun. At my brother's wedding we knew things were getting out of hand when my SIL's great uncles brought out their Boombas. If it is too loud for Grannie, whoever she came with can take her home and come back. Let Grannie make the choice.
Seriousl- Y’all youngins act like you invented alcohol! If grandma thinks she can handle it, she probably knows what she’s talking about. If it gets to be too much for her, she can leave. She’s a grown-up! I’m sure she knows how to get into a taxi cab and go to a hotel
Dude seriously, most old folks are complete gangsters. They do *not* give a flying fuck about *anything!* And guaranteed they've been through crazier things than your "banging" reception. 😂
I’m 62, but some of my in laws are OG’s! I’ve been to the Moose Lodge they all drink, Er socialize at, hang on to yer Wallet. They can and will out drink you and out play you, pool or poker. And it’s Fun, no explanations needed when I needed a break. They were all at our wedding, my husbands favorite aunt brought her squirt gun, just in case.
I had some friends of mine throw their own wedding. The bride was the one that paid for it cuz she was the bread winner in the family and the groom was a stay at home dad. Long story short she spent $300 on the wedding, including her dress and it was wonderful. They had it outside at a nature reserve in front of a gorgeous little pond and the dressing was semi casual. You could even wear jeans, as long as you had some form of blue and or whit on she didn't care. We even got to bring our 3 legged lad with us.( he got to dress up with a white bandana🐶!) I've been to a few wedding and theirs by far was the best. My point is that you don't have to break yourself to have the best day you and your partner will never forget. It was hands down the best wedding I've ever been to. Don't forget that's it's not just the bride's day. It is also the groom's day too! It about 2 people lucky enough to find each other in this cruel fucked up world that make life easier to traverse through together.❤
One of the best weddings I went to was a lot like that, in the garden of the church, they had asked a bunch of friends and family to make a dish and/or bring a stack of plates to the party in lieu of gifts, so we had a really nice buffet and it didn't cost them anything and everyone felt super connected, and the live music was a folk music choir that one of the bride's best friends was in. The bride was Danish and the groom Indian so the variety of the guests' clothes was beautiful. If I ever get married, the wedding will be something like that!
I find it kinda funny how those parents that basically funded their kid's whole life so far (house, uni, car, holidays) tell them only now that they want them to learn the value of things. Should have started to teach them that a little earlier maybe.
Actually, it was a good move on the parents part. That daughter would probably just ordered whatever she wanted, now she has to make choices. Not only whether to delay the second home to spend the money on the wedding, but to limit the wedding to how much has been saved for the second home. The parents know they do not need a second home, they have set her up for life, so they don't ever have to feel guilty about not paying for the wedding.
I was honestly thinking the same thing. Better late than never I guess, but if you teach them young then they can better take care of themselves when they’re older.
I am deeply shocked and upset by the bridezilla that didn’t want her fiancé’s grandmother at the wedding. I have lost all of my grandparents and would give anything to have them at my future wedding. This girl needs to recognize that this is now her grandmother too. Treat grandma with some respect.
I am a Limo driver; I have been hired to shuttle drive as well. Trust me the older quest generally leave early! They stay for the basic events, cake cutting etc. But they are long gone before the night gets wild!
I hate when women say things like “I am the bride after all” well it’s his wedding too, he’s the groom and you can’t have one without the other. Well in her case anyways. I would honestly leave her if I was him. Weddings are meant to join two families together, not tear them apart.
Yes! They act like that whole day is dedicated to them, like a holiday. There’s probably hundreds of other people who are getting married the same day as them! Ugh people like these drive me craaazyyyy!
When I get married I’ve decided the cake will be a three tire cake. A flavor we like, a flavor he likes, and a flavor I like. I want him to be apart of the planning because most men don’t get that from their SO.
@@nerdgeekcosplay909 Try to go for the tubeless tires. Those tubes can wreak havoc on Grandma's dentures and we'll not even discuss the troubles eating valve stems can cause.
Talk about "entitled". The last bride who was saving for their SECOND house didn't want to pay for the wedding. Good grief. My daughter and her husband informed us they were "eloping" and we gave them a nice check, waved goodby as they drove off and heaved a huge sigh of relief. Did I miss seeing my only daughter get married? Yes. However, the stress we avoided was a good trade off and they had the wedding they wanted, in a vineyard in California, barefoot and casual. We sent out announcements afterward. That was 11 years ago and 3 grandbabies ago. Guess it worked.
I couldn’t have cared less about how much money my parents spent on a wedding and I didn’t care much about it being a “perfect” day. My parents were there, I was in Mom’s gown from her wedding, Dad gave me away. My husband had on a new suit that didn’t match the groomsmen. It was all great! I lost my husband fourteen years ago. It was our marriage that counted, not the wedding. I would have been happy with our civil ceremony we had before our church wedding because it turned out my husband was too young to get married in our state. He had a birthday two days later but by the time we knew all the invitations were out already. A memorable day for sure.!
@@juliamartin4141 Yes! Thats how it should be imo. Marriage is supposed to be about celebrating your relationship, the wedding is just one day! Sorry for your loss, at least it sounds like you genuinely loved each other if thats any conmfort.
If I was the parents of the last couple I would have said "Oh, but we did fund your wedding - just sell the house and car we bought you. That should be more then enought!"
I was thinking that they've already funded her wedding by sending her to college so she could get a good job, as well as buying her a house and car so she doesn't have to "waste" her pay on those things. Like, all her major expenses are already taken care of. Sure a second home would be nice but maybe that's a good reason not to have a huge expensive wedding.
The American obsession with everything and everyone matching at weddings is so bizarre and creepy to me as a non-American. It’s like some Children of the Corn shit. If you don’t love your friends’ and family’s unique personalities and consider their physical attributes and expressions as part of them, why not just hire actors?
So far, USA is the only country I've ever seen with these specific wedding traditions. In my country, you show up in whichever color you want, except black and white. Such a thing as MoH, bridesmaids, best man, groomsmen, are not part of our rites.
Every country has customs and societal expectations. We could point and laugh at whatever yours are but we don’t. People all around the world are different. Americans have unique culture just like you do. You’ve been told that we don’t-that we’re just bland and boring and have no culture. But it’s impossible not to have culture. That is the result of living with other people. We consider it rude to wear white, other cultures might consider something else rude that seems odd to us. Come down off your cultural high horse; you aren’t the only group in the universe.
How do you know these weirdos are American ? I'm American and have never known anyone to behave this way. I do believe Charlotte is Canadian and these stories are on social media so they can be from any country.
@@ClipZ_Gaming_1 its funny but i wanted to point out that americans tend to think they are the centre of the universe.. for some reason 🤔 Backwards country if you ask me 😂 so far up religions ass their devolving but thats another story haha
My husband and I had 5 people at our wedding. His mom, my mom and dad, my sister and she brought her boyfriend, which is fine their married now lol my parents handmade my bouquet, and bought a small cake. We got married on a tall hill where my husband worked overlooking all of Vegas. It was gorgeous, and meant so much to me. We went to dinner after, and just had a wonderful time at our house after drinking and listening to music. Wouldn’t trade it for the world🥰
What kind of person wants to “get drunk and let loose with my friends” at her wedding? You get pissed and fool around with your friends *before* the wedding. I think this bride has forgotten that there is no wedding without the GROOM.
We went out of our way to ensure my grandpa could attend our wedding and reception (mobility and health issues) and for family to take him home early if he got too tired. He passed away 3 weeks before the wedding, which broke my heart. We went ahead with it, because of out-of-country family flying in, but it was hard and I can't imagine choosing for him not to attend.
They're not even married yet and they're already being problematic. Two things can happen in this case : 1. The marriage doesn't last. 2. The marriage doesn't happen at all.
As soon as that fiance said she didn't want her husbands grandma there that's a pure sign that she's not going to prioritise family over her own needs. Someone like that isn't mature enough for the responsibilities of marriage
My grandma danced so hard so fell down at my wedding. (she was fine) She's now gone and it's one of my favorite memories. Grandmas totally have a right to party too...don't exclude them! 😎
I think if I was to ever get married, I'd be a "cheapzilla" Like for bridesmaids' dresses and stuff, I'd be like "Well, I'm going for a blue color theme. You have a blue dress you like, with shoes you have to go with that? Great, wear your dress and shoes. Doesn't matter what color blue, I love all blue colors" For food, big ass buffet. Different types of ethnic food with some meat and some veggie for everybody and it all costs the same no matter who shows or doesn't show. It may be a bit ghetto but if some stuck-up person doesn't like it than they should not have RSVP'd. I'm always of the mindset that the wedding shouldn't be that expensive because the money should be saved for the marriage. The wedding is only one day. The marriage is (or should be) forever. 🤷♀️
So much yes! Our bridesmaids hired their dresses, they wore whatever shoes they liked, I made the groomsmen's waistcoats. The reception was a cold buffet lunch (peak of summer), with no formal seating plan. Just sit where you like/eat what you like. Lots of good quality drinks flowing and we had a 5disc cd player on shuffle for music (it was the 90s). People told us it was the best wedding in ages and we were able to relax and enjoy the day.
I was best man at my best friend’s wedding in Stockholm and there was no colour theme or dress code. The bride and groom wore fancy things but everyone else just wore things they already had or chose themselves. The bride’s parents were wearing jeans but what was important was they were there. Everyone looked great and had a great time. It felt authentic not like some theatrical production.
I’m nowhere near getting married but I’m going down the inexpensive route too! I’m going on Amazon and finding a dress and sending my future bridesmaids a link. It won’t be anymore than $40 or $50. No need to spend lots of money on the little things.
never underestimate the older generation at weddings. they don't sit there and talk about George Formby (no disrespect George), discussing the war. last wedding I went too, the older generations as in grandparents, great aunts and everyone over 60 were doing Jägerbombs and shots it was a good wedding A wedding when I was a bridesmaid, I was sitting with the brides and grooms parents, and just having a drink and talking. the couple had already left, and we were the last to leave. we still laugh about that
AGREED, and it seems like you're tempting fate by banning them. Like, they could go full poltergeist on you once they die and haunt you and your descendants for life.
Old people at weeding are so fun! My grandmother ( 60) and her sister (67- 70) all this before covid, At 9:pm they where drunk and dancing salsa and buggie on the table
When I was 22, I canceled attending my friend's wedding the week before by purposely scheduling my wisdom teeth extraction the day before the wedding. Hear me out 😂 I had been in a 3 year relationship where we were planning our future together. He broke my heart and strung me along for a while afterwards... so I constantly teetered between devastation and hope. Our mutual friend's wedding was coming up and I envisioned this scene where I come in looking fabulous + the wedding vibes would rekindle our relationship. Again, I was 22. Then, two weeks before, I found out he had started dating someone new and was telling all his friends she was "the one". She was also going to be attending with him. I expressed my reluctance to attend the wedding to my friend as I knew I wasn't ready to see him with someone else. She scolded me and said I better be there. But I was just so heart broken. Also worth noting, I wasn't in the bridal party so although we were friends, we weren't 'besties'. Then, a few days later, my gums and jaw began to ache and the dentist said I needed all 4 wisdom teeth out. They could have scheduled it for the Monday after, but I insisted Friday was good. Now that I'm older, I have zero regrets over not putting myself through that.
A friend of mine’s official wedding took place in her grandma’s hospital room so that her grandmother could see her get married. The following day, her grandmother passed away. I’ve seen grandparents dancing to the modern stuff and they are having a blast. It gives a grandparent/elderly relative a chance to be young again. Also, the memories that it gives them of their own wedding.
Anyone else remember when a wedding was making a commitment to the person you love, in front of family and friends? Unfortunately were some special people physically missing from our wedding, though I’m sure they were there in spirit. Stop being so egocentric about weddings, share that special time with those you love as you don't know how long you’ll have them. Weddings should be about celebrating love and not showing off.
I’m so stunned at how petty people get over their wedding day. I was so chill at mine. All I cared about was getting married. I wanted a beautiful day, but mainly I just wanted to get married. I told my bridesmaids a color I was hoping they could wear, and let them all pick their own dress because I wanted them to be comfy. I couldn’t afford to pay for them to get their makeup done so I told them if they wanted to pay to get it done that was fine but I also told them they could do it themselves if they wanted and do whatever look they liked. Same with nails and hair. I bought their shoes and gifted them each a bracelet that was handmade for them. Two of my bridesmaids went to breakfast with me that morning, then we went to the church and got ready. I had hired an MUA to do my hair and makeup, but I couldn’t afford to pay her service for everyone, so my bridesmaids (who were more than fine doing their own hair and makeup) hung out and got ready in the same room as me. None of them knew each other but they all helped each other with hair and makeup. It was such a fun morning and is a memory I cherish. I truly loved just having them there with me. I also (being on a budget) made their bouquets myself with my MOH from artificial flowers we got at Joann’s. And they were beautiful. I can’t imagine asking a bridesmaid to pay for their bouquets. So tacky. Overall my wedding was beautiful but quite simple. Somethings really didn’t flow like I’d planned. But I didn’t care. I just wanted to marry the love of my life. The whole experience cost $6,000, which I thought was a ton but weddings are so expensive that it didn’t go as far as I’d hoped. And that was fine. I get wanting a beautiful day, but if you can’t afford it, don’t do it. Weddings are about celebrating love, not being so petty that you hurt feelings and alienate people.
My grandmother was invited to both our ceremony and reception. She was the last living grandparent on either side. She passed away less than a year later and this was the last time that she saw many of the family members that had flown in. I can't imagine not having her there.
Oh wow. I would never leave a child out from a wedding just because of her burn scars. Very good video Charlotte. Much love to you my sweet Canadian friend.
If grandma wanted petty revenge, she should invite the bride and groom over, and have someone keep an eye out for them. When they show up, have Slayer cranked up to 11, and be drinking mimosa out of a beer mug.
The part that be confusing me is that they’re all so big on “making sure everyone match & has natural looking hair” as if their wedding isn’t only for a couple hours and people will literally have to go on about their regular life afterwards. Why should I make such a change to my appearance to satisfy you for a couple hours ?
You shouldn’t have to. If a friend cannot except you for who you are, then they are not really a friend. I wonder if it was the other way around, would they agree to such demands?
I can't figure out why I'd want wedding photos where people don't look like themselves. I mean, twenty years from now, you'll look back and wonder who that blond women is. You'd remember immediately if it was your wife's college roommate, who always had that wild magenta hair (at least back then).
@@jeffreyclinard2002 This. If you have a friend who is known for having blue hair, why would you want a brunette version of her in your wedding photos? It's like people forget that photos are about MEMORIES, not just aesthetics.
The one where they didn’t invite the 15 yo daughter because of her burn scars has me crying non stop. Those people are disgusting and I would cut ties with them immediately.
For the first one: I am in the middle of planning and I don’t know about the invoice but it costs a lot of money, and I have worked so hard on personalizing table cards with each person’s name on them! Like hours and hours. If someone just didn’t show up without an explanation I’d honestly be devastated. My petty and pissed off side says yeah send them an invoice. The rest of me says it happens and I’ll just move on.
I remember she was on a channel I used to watch and I was so disappointed she was leaving. Now I don't even watch whatever it was, and I'm always clicking on her videos for my bridezilla/petty people updates.
In Denmark, everyone pays for their own dumb wedding, and it has been this way since forever. You are an adult now, so leave your dear parents alone, they have already given you the world.
I must either be in a bad mood or am prone to violence lol. That bride who wanted her parents to pay while being spoiled all her life makes me want to hit her lol.
Where I'm from the parents pay some things but it's more symbolic. The father of the groom will take his son for a fitting and pay for the suit, the mother of the bride will pay for the dress (which is an evolution of giving her own dress, as that was done before). And the food is most often done by both families in-house. Everything else (the location if it's not on private familly grounds) the rings the honeymoon, bedding for the guests etc are paid by the couple.
I thought it was funny that her parents wanted her to learn the value of things...at the age of 30. Yeah, if you didn't teach her that as a child, it's a bit late for that.
Ignore any woman who goes with the, "bride's way, bride's day" or "happy wife, happy life"... or anyone who tells you to get rid of a beloved pet if you want to marry them. if they can't compromise during the wedding, they'll never learn. You can also tell a lot about a woman by the engagement ring they chose. the more expensive they want the engagement ring, the more you should nope out of the whole wedding
I get that people have visions for their dream weddings but shouldn’t your dream wedding be centered on celebrating with those you love regardless of what they look like? I love these videos and I really do hope they serve as a check yourself for people 😂
That person whose parents paid for everything, is saving for a SECOND house and doesn't want to spend money on the wedding. When most people cannot afford one. I DO NOT feel bad for this person.
My youngest sister, whom hasn't spoken to me in 5 years, texted me out of the blue one day just so she could tell me I wasn't invited to her wedding. Like I was planning on going? Because apparently my father and I can't be trusted not to show up uninvited. I would say I'm happy for her, but, really just feel sorry for her fiance as he will now be the emotional abuse mule since dad and I won't let her abuse us.
I feel you!!! Only in my case it is my older brother and sister. Admittedly I was a A-1 screw up in my teens. After my mom passed away as a kid I kinda went hog wild. Drinking and getting stoned daily. My mom was a control freak and extremely judgmental. And my dad was a really kind hearted guy. He tried as he may to stop my bad behavior. But realized I wasn’t going to quit until I was ready and forcing treatment would lead to nothing but my anger and resentment. And me possibly going in on harder drugs. So he just let it go and instead just gave me unconditional love. He refused to hand out money. And I knew it was futile to even ask. But when I went clean at 20 years old he let me do it at home. And my sister and brother both told him it was a sham. And that in a month or less I would be back at it. That was 24 years ago. And I haven’t smoked or drank since. But they are still waiting on the other shoe to drop and me fall back into my old habits. I saw my brother at Walmart cashing a check. And he actually said that I was dead to him. And he got out of line just to avoid having to be near me. The weird thing is I never did them wrong. I was good enough to babysit for them and give my sisters kids rides to school. But I wasn’t invited to her second wedding and they returned my wedding invitation. But showed up for the free bar and food.
@@leadoug1163 They actually snuck in like food thieves. And they each went in different directions. One to the bar and the other to the buffet. I was doing the rounds of visiting with his family. And my husband busted my brother with 4 drinks. And then saw my sister with 2 heaping plates of food. And he escorted them out. I looked up as he was walking them out. I never found him HOTTER in my life. That was the sexiest. Then I ever saw. Lol and no I probably wont post it on reddit. To be honest I wouldn't have a clue how too.
I vote for letting the grandma be at the wedding. She's a treasure. I will never get to have my grams at a potential wedding. She passed in 2020. Damn she was a blast too she did Jell-O shots, drank Mountain Dew and was all about Doritos. You can't get much cooler than that in your 90s. Also drank Crown Royal. So don't leave out the grams!
my nannas have passed too. miss them all the time. but I feel them with me quite often. It was great to have great relationships with them and I was honoured to have them at my wedding. I even toasted my two sets of grandparents at the wedding. Glad you had fun with your grams too.
NEVER mix business with pleasure. By normalising invoices, you would make weddings into business-events, not celebratory ones. Even those who intend to show up (such as myself) would decline bc a celebration should not include a business tactic to minimise monetary loss or increase monetary gains.
When we got married I was so fixated on getting married, I only cared to whom, I wasn’t bothered what anyone looked like, how old or how much fun everyone was having, the day was about me and my hubby, and sharing our day with the people we love, the best man ended up wearing tracksuit bottoms and a t-shirt cause he didn’t know how to iron (bless him) for a church wedding it was quite hilarious but hubby and me was just glad he attended 😀
with my best friend planning her wedding, these videos make me so glad i have such a down to earth inner circle lmao. she's getting married on her family's property in a $40 value village wedding dress with me, her sister, and our other friend as bridesmaids and i couldn't be happier for her. it'll be the perfect day because she'll be marrying her love surrounded by family and friends, not because she'll spend too much and hyperfixate on every little detail.
When my husband and i got married we paid for everything and never even asked anyone to contribute. My MIL absolutely hated my father and vice versa, we invited them both anyway and told them that if they could not be civil to each other at our wedding then don't come. They both came and avoided each other the whole wedding and reception, neither caused a scene and all was fine. We had the reception at the same place as the wedding as we thought it was annoying to attend a wedding and then have to travel elsewhere for the reception. We kept it small (30 guests) I kept the bridal party to dress color (which the brides maids chose) style was up to them, grooms man wore black and had ties colored the same as the dresses - we did not what them to have to buy clothing they would never wear again as who has the disposable money to buy clothing they would only wear once. We paid per head for 30 people and whilst we had a couple of 'no shows' due to reasons (I did not bother to find out), we also had a couple of extras show up and so it worked out at pretty much 30 people so all was good as far as we were concerned. A fun day/night was had by all and after 27 years of living in sin (as my MIL put it) we were officially a couple, our adult daughters loved that they got to see us married and be my bridesmaids along with my bff. TBH if it was not for the legal aspects of being married we definitely would not have bothered, in our own eyes we were married already but it has made life easier with an official document. As the bride my main goal was to have all of our friends and family show up to celebrate our day with us and for it to be as stress free for everyone as i could make it - i hate drama. Goal was accomplished and a happy fun time was had by one and all.
I was at a Chinese wedding like 6 years ago and maaaannnn I had a lot of fun with the great-grandma of the groom! She was dancing and vibing with all of us, more than younger people I gotta say.
Regarding the story with no-show guests, it's not always about the money, it can be about the guest count too. My fiance and I are only having 40 guests attend our wedding, and it has been difficult to whittle the total guest count down to 40 without making anyone important feel left out. So if we had two guests simply not show up, that would be annoying because we could have invited someone else in their place.
Grandmother story: so, when I got married my grandma was in her 90s. I LOVED having her at the event. I had to drag her into the photos (she was self conscious and it took a lot of convincing to get her to participate). She flat refused the reception because “those are for young folks” so we had a special cake and punch reception right after the ceremony at the church where we cut the wedding cake and folks could mingle while we did photos. My grandma loved it! Later we took the leftover cake to the dinner reception and had the party. She was thrilled that we included her so much and it’s a precious memory for me.💕
About the RSVP for no shows, for me, I think it would depend on the reason they didn’t come as to how upset I was. However at my daughters wedding, which we all pitched in for as money was tight for all of us, the grooms own sister her husband and children didn’t bother to turn up! We never found out why and it was five places paid for. It was a bit upsetting as they had to leave out people they wanted there due to funds. Still, I wouldn’t send an invoice. At the end of the day, it says more about them than you.
My exhusband’s aunt, uncle, four teenage kids and two of the kids bf/gfs they insisted be invited with guest didn’t show to our wedding with same day notice. It was an entire round table lol. I invited all of my older brothers friends and their spouses to sit at their table 🤷🏻♀️ The aunt and uncle didn’t even send a gift but big whoops, they were rude or broke (I mean just come and don’t give a gift, or give a tiny gift) but what can you do. Lots of shit went wrong that day including my mom dying a few weeks before, but it was a great party.
My grandmother insisted that I invited a bunch of extended family members to the wedding that I didn’t even know. None of them showed and I had a whole empty table 🤦🏼♀️ they sent me $20 as an “I’m sorry we didn’t show” 😂 it is what it is.
@@downhomesunset I’m gonna disagree with you a bit there. It’s not just YOUR day. If it was, you’d go to court and have a dinner, not a wedding. You do need to consider your family, your family also might be a bunch of dicks 🤷🏻♀️ but that’s life, and you should roll with it
My husband's grandma (the last living on both sides until recently) was brought to our wedding, i was so touched to have her with us even for a short while (she had Alzheimer's).
My brother got maried relatively late in life and our grandmother attended, she partied with us until 2 am. Grandmas are the best, besides, if she didn't enjoy it or got too tired she'd have gone home. Respect your damn elders!
My great grandmother went to a lot of weddings and receptions in her 80s and 90s. She never drank, but she still had fun, she danced with guests, watched people, ate dinners, even stood in groups to try and catch the bouquet. She did catch it once, and people kept asking if she would marry her male friend. She and they had fun with it. Older people can be really fun at receptions. That one bride who wanted to exclude her future husband's grandma, I hope she changed her mind and let grandma come to both wedding and reception. I have a feeling that marriage didn't last long.
That bride who didn't want the 15 yr old with burn scars at her wedding and the one that didn't want her "friend" with different hair due to cancer at her wedding had better watch out for what's coming around. You get back what you put out there.
I got married in a retirement home 😂 my husbands grandfather was too ill to leave so we asked if we could do it there and luckily they agreed. Not only that it was a beautiful setting, all the residents made bunting, a cake and they treated me with such kindness whilst in their home. They enjoyed the guitar player and drank champagne with us. It was so special and even more so as my husbands grandfather passed 2 months later and we were so pleased he could be at our wedding regardless of anything superficial 👵🏼👨🏽🦳
What a gift to grandpa and his “neighbors”.You two are angels!
That was a wonderful gesture !
So sweet! I love this. I bet everyone was happy and glad to be included in your special day. People forget that they will be elderly someday.
That is so adorable! I'm tearing up
Im sorry for your loss but your wedding sounds like it was lovely. Also it must be a nice feeling to be able to go through your marriage with the knowledge that not only was your wedding beautiful but also deeply rooted in kindness love and respect for an important member of your family. Fair play you
I would never want to be in a wedding with some of these look focused people anyways. My best friend asked to be in her wedding and due to my size it was hard to find a bridesmaid dress in the same color as the maid of honor with the time constraints. I told her I totally understood if she wanted to ask someone else because the day is her day. She told me she didn't care if I wore jeans and a t shirt what mattered is that I was able to be apart of the day with her. If your "friend" cares more about aesthetics than you, maybe you need a new friend.
That’s a REAL friend
@@mothertrucker936 very true.
What an awesome friend you have.
You are also a great friend, because you offered to stand down, and would not have been offended if that is what happened.
This is what friendship is all about. I love this for you guys.
Omg I love your friendship! I have a few friends like that, and I want them all on my day by my side.
This is real friendship 🤍
I had my 97 year old grandmother at my wedding AND reception. She was so much fun! She literally closed the reception down with us and out drank, out smoked and out danced every young person there! She was a riot. I miss her. She was a true example of class (even if my reception sentence doesn’t make it seem that way) and she was so much fun.
Aww God Bless Her!💜❤️
I love it!! If I ever get married I want my grandmother and her partner right there with me ❤
Love it! My great-great-aunt was 100 years old at her own granddaughter’s wedding and she was up dancing and drinking wine with everybody. She’s become something of a family legend for it 😂
Love it! To quote my father, old age and treachery will always overcome youth and enthusiasm
I think too many people forget what a AMAZING asset grandparents and great grandparents truly out to their families and to the world! Aside from children elderly people are the most important. They deserve love and happiness just like the rest of us. Your grandma sounds truly AWESOME in every way possible. I’m so glad you had those memories to look back on. The bridezilla in that story should wish for her husband to have memories to cherish about his grandmother too!
My cousin had her 99 year old grandma at her wedding, and that lady was on the dance floor longer than the rest of us, AND sang every word the the explicit version of "Get Low" with incredible glee on her face. Justice for Grannies!
That is the most amazing thing I’ve ever read
I hope you all protected her at all cost
Yes! This is it. The old folks know how to party. My great grandmother was in an assisted living home after she broke her hip. She was a pistol and would burn it up with her walker. All of the old folks would be getting down with hard liquor at dinners and parties. Mom and dad were having coffee a little shocked and the other oldies but goodies were like don’t you want a bourbon and coke. Good times. I miss my great grandma and my grandparents. All of them were wonderful people and I am blessed to have had them all as long as I did.
I wish I’d met this lady!
I got married recently, one of my oldest and closest friends was a bridesmaid. Over the course of the year she discovered she had cancer and had to have treatment meaning she lost her hair. I was terrified my wonderful friend wouldn't be well enough to come. In the end she was and chose to wear a wig during the ceremony but took it off during the evening part of the wedding. she looked amazing both ways and was the life and soul of the party. I wanted to let her choose what to wear and just wanted her to be comfortable. At the end of the day it's more important to celebrate your day with people you love than fixate on how they may look. My friend looked so beautiful and i couldn't have gotten married without her.
That's incredible. I hope your friend is doing much better now.
Exactly. I wouldn't even occur to me to kick a bridesmaid out of the party for losing their hair. Granted, it wouldn't occur to me to require matching haircuts. Not all hair types can do the same haircut.
❤
Ur an amazing friend and I bet she was so happy u responded that way.
Thats disgusting what they did to that poor kid cause of a burn.
Absolutely. Id be standing with my family and -1 sister. Thank God my sisters weren't like that disgusting woman.
Horrendous, what a terrible thing to do That bride and groom deserve to be shunned, not the 15 year old and her parents. They should have to give back all their gifts and be kicked out of the larger family when the relatives hear about their nasty trick. Just lowest of the low.
I read that one on Reddit, she ripped her sister a new one and also left the wedding... Was called asshole for "ruining their day"
that is BRUTAL. I don't think I would ever speak to my family after something like that.
If a teenage girl with burn scars attended my wedding, I would make sure to give her super preferential treatment, be the ringbearer, MC-assistant or something. What these two did is disgusting beyond belief. I hope for the daughter that the mother called it quits and just drove home instead of taking part in that circlejerk
@@yadusolparterre she did after ripping her sister (bride) a new one
My grandma was a blast at my wedding! She even stayed late after everyone left, and was taking all the free wine bottles and pouring them together so she could take them home 😂
So was mine , dance, drank just awesome.
Love it!!! 😍😍😂 im defo that grandma or map map as my grandaughter calls me not quite 98 yet im only 42 lol but hope this is me at my grandbabies wedding ill be louder than the lot of them 😂 sending u n ur grandma lots ♡♡ from scotland xxxccccc
Can you borrow your grandma to me.... Mine always called me bitch.... I want the nice experience with grandma 😢
😂😂😂😂 that’s hilarious and adorable
Was she 98
My friend was a bridesmaid for a bridezilla and wrote something like “All hail the Bridezilla, destroyer of fun and love” or something like that in the guestbook. It’s the biggest power move I’ve ever heard of.
Your friend is a genius 🤌🏽 I would’ve kept that going on the next line with, “the first of her name, breaker of bliss and mother of the pissed” 😂
Oh my god. I want to scream. My grandma was sick, and went through a four hour drive to come to my wedding. The pictures of her from my wedding are incredibly precious to me. She died before our first anniversary, and those are the last pictures I will ever have of us together. The selfishness of that bride literally takes my breath away.
I hope she got dumped before the wedding.
The ones excluding the teen and the grandmother are just TERRIBLE humans. How these people find other humans willing to spend their lives with them is beyond me.
Exactly! Very sick and disrespectful…
These are the type of people who deserve to have something terrible happen to them. I wonder if they would put their own child up for adoption if it was born with some kind of disfigurement.
Exactly. I would be surprised if the fiance of the 98 year grandmother went through with the wedding. I would be noping the heck out of there. It really shows a grave flaw in her character.
EXACTLY people too often forget that the most important part of weddings and all events is the PEOPLE! People are what matters nothing else matters.
They usually pick empaths and weak willed individuals. Chip away their self esteem. The abuse their ways into marrying them. Or in the mother with the teen it’s family and who suck. She found man who sucks just as much or more 😢
We had multiple things that went wrong at our wedding. My dress turned out to be nothing like what I thought it would be (long story) and there wasn't time to change it. My groom's relatives wore peach instead of going with the blue theme. The pearl necklace I was going to wear down the aisle broke before I could put it on. One of my bridesmaids wore different color stockings than all the rest. The preacher forgot to tell everyone to sit down after I came in so the crowd remained standing for most of the ceremony. An uninvited, mentally ill acquaintance managed to figure out where the wedding was and showed up at the reception.
You know what went right? I married the man who loves me and does all he can to make me happy, and I do the same for him. In the end that's all that matters. The rest is just window dressing. We've been happily married for 30 years now.
Sh*t Happens 😂. You Can't Control These Things 😃
I’ve never been married but it seems to me that if/when I do get married, everyone we want there should come as they are, to quote Nirvana. Sure, we could have coordinated dresses but I can’t even imagine not wanting a friend there because they were bald or scarred or anything else. And not inviting Gramma? That’s fucking disgustingly ridiculous. They’re your loved ones! Another quote by En Vogue: “Don’t be so shallow!”
Holy crap! Congratulations on your 30 years! Unbelievable that you went through all that and kept your head up. That's tough but you get to have a great story to tell the others! Hopefully the message can calm the zillas down! 🤣
OP, my day was almost as messy;
dress delivered unfinished the night before:
venue forgot to tell us when it was time to come down so the ceremony started super-late despite my waiting there an hour + 1/2 early:
our hand-picked & much- bonded-with celebrant flubbed like 60% of the ceremony:
the reception stylist delivered something majorly different than what was contracted + paid for:
both sleeves on my dress had ripped by the end of the ceremony:
someone decided to get clever against their instructions which pointlessly messed up the glass-stomp (but we just went again):
despite us keeping it very intimate 1 person _still_ managed to do something that made him dead to me when I learned of it the day after:
a family member showed just absolutely their whole arse to their new in-laws (socially, of course) all reception long so that they aren't fans since:
I was in terrible pain from a chronic injury _the entire long day from 9am makeup to 12am getaway car_ ...
Honestly, it seemed like the only issue we _didn't_ have was the security one, & I had been concerned about that. Grateful it didn't happen.
I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that nonsense.
But it was the happiest day of my life, & in the moment, up on that cloud, nothing else even felt real...
I mean, I _remember_ all the little roadbumps, as in remembering the events themselves, & my best girls still laugh about it, but I was just up too high for anything else to reach me emotionally, at the time.
I was like Futurama's Fry moving in caffeinated hyper-time, calmly shifting everything away from the fire, with a dreamy expression on his face in the midst of everyone else's total panic.😂
I was in the loving + supportive bosom of the most incredible women I have ever met, my sisters of decades, & making a promise so big it'd never originally been in my life-plan, to a _magical_ partner I knew I never wanted to live without.
I was terrified, + elated, & just completely swept away, & up against that incredible strength of emotion, I just _couldn't_ feel anything negative. Not for so much as a moment.
I had expected day-of stress, _prepared_ for day-of stress, but then when the stressful things happened, I found myself completely serene in the face of them.
(Sweet deal, I know!)
It was such a vast, beautiful, meaningful, _special_ ritual of a day that I personally can't conceive of what goes through the heads of ppl who get focused on such an ephemeral detail as human aesthetic perfection, or ppl performing some perfect production where they're all LARPing as flawless, rich ppl for a day, to the point than conformity to the fantasy becomes of higher personal value than emotional authenticity, + connection, + _celebration_ , back in reality.
How do you lose perspective _that much_ ?
SMH.
Sorry this got so long! I just wanted to let you know that I can relate. 🙂
I hope we one day get to say, "hey, we've been married 30 years," too.❤
@@mysterylovescompany2657 I have a feeling you will! Best wishes.
I feel like a 98 year old would be fun at a party. Old people are some of the most fun people in general.
Yeahhh, they can be cool, but I can kinda get the bride saying this yk... The grandma is 98... (if she can still party I'd say go for it)
I work with seniors and most of them have great party stories, and frankly many are still pretty good dancers. If grandma wants to come, let her! Also there has to be someone who would be willing to look out for her and take her home when she is ready. Every wedding I've been to there have been folks who head out after the dinner, speeches, and special dances.
My grandmother was always the first one on the dance floor and the last off of it. She could drink anyone half her age under the table. Let granny rock it!!!
My partner's 90 year old Polish Grandmother partied the longest than anyone else at his sister's wedding. She also had had triple bypass surgery weeks before, and yet she was still able to stay up until 3 am (Polish weddings last all night - its crazy) making sure the food and drinks kept coming for everyone. The next morning was a wedding breakfast that turned into brunch that she had organized and she was there 9 am, dressed very well and socializing with hungover guests while drinking mamosa's like a boss. Never underestimate a Babushka.
She herself said she would be fine at the party?? So why the hell not? If she wants to let her!
Friends of ours who couldn't really afford a wedding put a note in their invites to please not buy a present (they lived together long term and had all their stuff) but to pay for our own meals at an upscale but still affordable pub after the courthouse ceremony. Fun was had.
That was a great idea.
I've seen similar where the bride and groom asked the guests to stock the bar for the wedding. It gave everyone a chance to buy a 'gift' and it meant they had a killer open bar.
I am wondering if this will continue to go into fashion. It used to be that people bought a lot of presents for the bride and groom's place because people were married at a very young age and didn't have anything to furnish a house. Now, people often have already been in a dwelling either as a couple or in separate dwellings. They might have things that would be nice to upgrade, but help with wedding costs/party is in many ways more helpful.
@@KatieBellino This is why I always give an envelope with cash as a gift. I'd rather give a financial contribution than spend that money on an elaborate gift that looks pretty but will just end up being tossed in a closet somewhere.
That's actually how my last weddings have been, like literally, in the invitation appears the bank account number for the transfer to pay your own meal/seat. If before X day you didn't pay, you just don't go. That way the bride and groom are covered and they only have to pay for the ceremony and the after party.
Not a bridezilla story, but more of a “maid of honorzilla” story. I was in a wedding once where the maid of honor lived in another country (we are talking across an ocean far).
Due to distance, she couldn’t help with any of the maid of honor duties (which is fine, we all pitched in and helped plan).
We all were told to go to this one dress shop to have our measurements taken for the dresses.
She sent her own measurements in via email and had the dress delivered to the bride’s home.
We all got the dresses in (after alterations) only like a week before the wedding. Unfortunately, due to the style of the dress, the way the alterations were done left most of us with dresses that ALMOST fit, but not quite.
We all made due.
The day of the wedding, we are all getting ready with the bride, when the MOH tries on her dress to find it slightly loose.
Not even noticeable.
She insisted that another bridesmaid (who she doesn’t know and who’s dress fit her) trade her dresses as it was a smaller size.
The other bridesmaid refused. Because…why would she trade? It’s her dress that fit her!
The MOH literally cried and threw a fit.
She was acting unhinged about a slightly loose dress on her best friends’ wedding day, a couple hours before the ceremony.
The bride was very calm and composed through it all, luckily.
It was absolutely ridiculous.
She didn’t speak to anyone else the duration of the day. The most childish, dramatic encounter I’ve had with another adult
The woman with the "silver spoon": Of course her parents are right, but frankly they're reaping what they sowed. They spoiled her rotten her whole life and expect her to wake up and 30 and decide to be fiscally responsible, and to magically stop expecting the Bank Of Daddy and Mommy to stop dishing out endless cash?
I love how she tried to sound responsible by saying they're saving for their second home. 🙄
Right, got to move out of the first home that her mom and dad bought for her. I'm sorry, but if mom and dad bought you a house, you can't really complain if they don't pay for your wedding at age 30 (while making mega bucks at a law firm). However, as you say, they did create her.
Exactly this. A little late to start teaching your child "responsibility" and "the value of things" at 30 years old after you spoil her rotten. She even got a job via nepotism. Come on now.
@@KatieBellino oh no, she doesn't mean move out of the first one. She means just have two houses that they can stay at. Like a summer home or something
Honestly, if my partner didn’t want my elderly grandparent at our wedding because of their age then they wouldn’t be at the wedding. Because I’d be calling that wedding off.
Yes exactly my thoughts too.. its his grandma and beloved family member. Wish mine woule be still there to witness it..
At least i have reasoning for maybe not having my grandmother come to my wedding reception if it's any bit rowdy, if i ever get married and she's still around.
For 1, she works herself up into a frenzy for any normal holiday and somehow ends up at the emergency room by day's end. It's terrible, but we have bets for the 4th of july, thanksgiving, and christmas as to whether she'll be in the hospital and my mother has to duck out of family events.
2, she's sweet when she's not complaining, but now there's always something to complain about. I saw her for 20 minutes recently (stopped by to say hi on my way to an appointment) and she spent the entire 20 mins complaining about 1 thing. I don't even remember if she said hi.
3, she's not....dangerous per say. But it was only last week or so that she got up, took two steps, and went down, fracturing her arm and requiring stitches. There's nothing worse for a party than stopping because you have to call an ambulance because someone on blood thinners is bleeding out from a head wound from a fall.
Although i have a feeling deep in the pits of my stomach that she wouldn't even make it through the ceremony alright and that she wouldn't appreciate or remember it. It hurts that she's become so frail and that she's not really living in the moment anymore.
Exactly!
I’m so close with my grandma, she basically raised me as a child when both of my parents were working full time, and she’s such a wonderful lady. I’m always hoping that she’ll even live long enough to be able to make it to my wedding in the future, and if my fiancé didn’t want her there, that would be a big deal breaker
@@Sonnenanbeterin1991 My Nan was a party animal and was the life and soul. Everyone loved her and she was just the sweetest thing. She was in her 80's when she passed but she still enjoyed life till the end. It depends on the grandma I suppose, but if she's still happy and having fun then it's a deal breaker saying she can't go. I often spent more time at parties talking to my Nan and getting her drinks and nibbles than I did with anyone else. She was a lot more fun than most of the other family. At my sisters wedding she was as much the center of attention as my sister was, and my sisters new husband demanded a Nanna dance after the bride and groom dance. Nan loved it, and had a wonderful time. My sister didn't think it was weird or get offended because Nan was getting attention. The whole family had the same attitude. If Nan ain't coming then neither are we 😂
100%
It really upset me to even imagine his granny knowing the bride didn’t want her there. That breaks my heart that she had to deal with that stress and sadness. The bride is awful.
The bride IS awful and selfish. But the wedding IS the ceremony. Not the drunk people dancing later.
@@bettersecret1499 yeh I get you like, but don’t you think at weddings that the ceremony is the least memorable part of the day lol 😆 like she’d be ready to go home by 7pm and she’s just wanna sit back and watch them all having a laugh. The bride should think highly enough of the grandmother to know she’s not gonna be there too late and causing people to be looking after her all night, just one of those things that would work itself out if you leave it to
I think this issue is indicative of bigger problems to come later on. Regardless of how selfish you want to behave on your wedding day, to purposefully exclude the grandmother because she would be a burden speaks volumes about her attitude toward family.
The greatest gift my son and daughter-in-law ever gave us - marrying at City Hall, with each of their best friends, then coming over to our house the day after and saying "We're married."
No guest list. No money spent. No smiling and pretending to be happy to see people I don't know or like. No stress. Just a great daughter-in-law!
In the 70's I had friends who were married in their work lunch hour, their productivity wasn't great in the afternoon but, hey!!
I pretty much did this when I got married the second time. My first wedding was mostly forced upon me, I literally woke up the morning of the wedding and my first thought was “there’s always divorce” - should’ve listened to my gut! Anyway, marrying someone I loved and was my best friend we both decided that a big wedding wasn’t something we wanted, why get into debt for a party? So we didn’t tell anyone, made excuses for our mums to meet us at the registry office (both our dads have passed) and told our kids we were heading to a different family members wedding and told them all literally 2 minutes before we went in - then had a nice lunch in a fancy restaurant - then invited our siblings to our house for dinner and drinks and told them we got married that day. Wouldn’t change a thing - had the wedding we wanted, zero debt, no stress and no drama.
I pretty much did this. We flew to New York, got married, flew back and took our parents out for brunch and broke the news. It was the best time and completely stress-free.
Can I steal you? I literally told my parents my dream was a garden wedding with them, partner's mum and my grandad.... and was told "We'll have no part in a wedding where you don't invite every aunt, uncle, cousin, second cousin twice removed etc". I'm like... I have asked you to do nothing but set up some chairs in your garden and maybe cook dinner afterwards, how is this not a win!? Take the win! (Anyway, now we're eloping and no one's invited so jokes on them!)
That's what me and my fiance are doing. Just having our parents. My sister lives out of state so she won't come. I don't really want to pay money for a bunch of people to eat and have a party when I don't know or like them! Also neither of us are party people so we won't even have fun. The marriage is what matters not the wedding ;)
As someone who uses emoji faces to convey emotion bc of anxiety, knowing some people think it’s passive aggressive is… stressful lol
Same! I overuse emojis to make sure my messages sound nice and not taken wrongly. 😂😂😂
I remember reading about the invoice - there was a little more to it. The bride and groom responded to this and had explained they were having a destination wedding and had invited a selected number. They had reached out to everyone asking if they were still coming and the no shows were still saying yes. They sent a number of texts asking if they were still coming just before the big day and they asking anyone if they couldn’t make it to let them know. Again the no shows didn’t say anything to indicate they weren’t coming. The no shows passed off the bride and groom so the invoice was created.
To all the bridezillas who want the “perfect” wedding:
When one of my high school friends married, we all flew out for the wedding; this meant the bridesmaids did not get their dresses until the last minute (having been ordered months before) and they turned out to be a disaster - wrong color that didn’t match the shoes, huge, puffy televangelist sleeves, wrong fabric. They did what the could (swapped sleeves for spaghetti straps) but they were still hideous. Mother of the bride was quite upset. They looked like a bad cover band for the Supremes.
At the church, the bridesmaids all hung their heads, shoulders shaking - MOTB thought they were crying about the dresses until we said, “Look closer - they’re trying not to laugh on the altar.” We then proceeded, one by one, to hand tissues to the MOTB (the suppressed laughter in our pew was exquisite - something anyone raised Catholic can attest to) - until the MOTB let out a huge cackle…
Epic.
She started hitting us for making her laugh, which just produced even more sniggers. At the reception, we got the DJ to play Stop In The Name Of Love, and the bridesmaids gave an outstanding lip sync performance.
Until the day they died, the parents of the bride would roar with laughter when we recounted that day - that’s “perfect”.
Omg this is what I want my wedding to be like!
Thats such a good attitude, after-all its not a day for instagram, its supposed to be an amazing day for friends and family. You guys sound fun to hang out with!
See that's the kind of wedding we could only hope for. I think people genuinely forget that yes, even though the Bride is getting married, it's also a time to celebrate with everyone who loves the bride and groom. That kind of wedding would be far more memorable than a by-the-book ideal wedding.
I hate weddings because of their pomposity but that is one wedding I would have loved to attend.
That’s freaking hilarious!!!!
The one that lied about her wedding being child free just to keep her niece from coming is A MONSTER!! And deserves every bad thing that might happen to her.
Going along with the groom sucks, that would be a good reason to kick him to the curb
If I had learned about that happening, I would immediately leave the wedding in solidarity.
If possible, I would have invited the couple and there daughter out for a meal.
That was especially mean. Although I thought the child in question was the guest’s step daughter?
@@kitty62862, yes. The child (teen) was the step daugther of the guest and the guest was the sister of the bride. So the child with the scar is the niece of bride and groom, even they are not related by blood.
I wondered how the hell they thought they'd get away with that? It's obvious that they only told them not to bring her. Did they think they would agree with them and say yeah that's a good reason?
I never even considered asking anyone involved in my wedding to change their hair color or cut, pay for their plate or decorations, lose weight, etc. These are so bizarre!
I'm asking you nicely to lose that piercing before you come to my wedding.
I was SO shocked about the bridezilla who didn't want to let the 98 y/o grandmother come to her reception. I stopped the video, told this to my wife (of 25 years), and told her "I wouldn't have married you if you pulled this kinda shit on me with the 'I am the bride after all' bullshit". She agreed.
I wouldn't marry someone who did that either!
Note that the bridezilla wanted her parents to pay for her wedding because she and husband were saving for, "a second home." Not a home, a second home.
Yeah I caught that too. Her parents spoiled her too much.
About the bridezilla that excluded the burnt girl from the wedding: Sounds to me like the bride and groom deserve each other. If my husband had told me to exclude someone from our wedding because of "something being wrong with how hey looked" that would've been the end of our engagement and probably the relationship too. Besides, if your potential SO is willing to say something nasty about the looks of someone you know (especially a child) who's to say you won't become targeted for ridicule once you're married?
100% agreed
I personally found it funny that as soon as Bridezilla got some heat she threw Groomzilla under the bus blaming him for not wanting the girl at the wedding. They sound like a perfect match.
@@maryallison0509 Maybe it was the groom's idea who knows? But in whatever case OF COURSE when someone gets publicly called out for being a POS it's someone else's fault.
@@whitneybennett5076
Lol I wish I was a fly on the wall the evening afterwards. I would of been pissed off if I was him and really innocent in the whole situation. But still more pissed at her for outting him if they made the choice together. Like bitch please you had to make both of us look bad.
@@maryallison0509 Oh well. Look at the bright side. At least they already have something to use against each other in divorce court.
"Dude partying with grandma's is the best!"
My great aunt in currently in her 90s. Her one granddaughters wedding was a couple years ago & she had a wild time. Next wedding is next weekend & this woman lives it up. Get a couple glasses of wine in her & she pops off!
I RSVP’d for my best friend’s wedding with my mom as a guest as we’ve known them since high school. I didn’t show up last minute cuz my mom went to the hospital the night before. She totally understood and kept in contact DURING her wedding reception to see how my mom was doing. Things come up and sometimes there’s no way to attend.
Still no excuse for the couple that just didn't say anything and went silent
What if it was the Grooms uncle they sent a text less then a week before the wedding and it was his whole family not coming because he had to 'work' later to find out the dad was on a stag? Asking for a friend...
Family emergencies are much different than not just showing up at all
I love the one about the bride who wanted to exclude her fiancé’s grandmother. “I’m the bride!” Most like her fiancé said “not anymore “.
My cousin's wedding was a party vibe child-free event. Our grandmother was there, and we literally lowered a table to the floor so that she could "dance on a table". Grandma's can vibe with everyone else.
The one who doesn't want her fiancé's grandmother at the reception needs to understand that it is his wedding as well, and if she's not willing to compromise about something as simple as this, I don't see their marriage lasting very long.
I would not marry that person after such a request, not in a million years.
This is just my take on weddings, so here goes. If you keep the wedding small, inexpensive, don't spend thousands on a dress you're only wearing once, etc., have a nice, but again, small reception, then you can have all the money you saved on what is really important. A house, a new car, new furniture, retirement, etc. It's the life you start AFTER the wedding that is important. Not all the glitz and glam just to get a piece of paper that states your union is legal. Again, this is just my take.
I agree. Go nice, but don't spend $20k-30k. That is ridiculous. You can make it happen for a budget of about $10k and still have a decent wedding with all of things people are used to seeing. If you are willing to DIY a lot of things, you can go even cheaper.
Your take is right on target
Keeping that 15 year old from the wedding was horrendous and I would never speak to them again or be at any family get togethers if they attended
Woulw them exclude too.. taste of their own medicin. I mean what did they expect how they woule react after they saw tje other children.. az least be clever and dont invite all other kids too
Being from the South, it isn't even a question of having grandparents at a wedding. The big question would be who gets the honor of making sure Grandpa and Grandma are comfortable and having a good time.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding a few years ago and the couple had three grandparents still alive. The bridal party voluntarily decided to take that pressure off the bride, groom and their parents and 'adopted' the grandparents. Beforehand we decided which bridesmaid/groomsman combo would get each grandparent and at the rehearsal dinner we introduced ourselves. Day of we were their bff, checking in on them every 20 ish minutes, to solve their problems before they could even mention it to the bride, groom or their parents.
The photographs are taking too long? I feel ya, my feet are killing me too. How about I grab folding chairs for us while we wait for our turns. The music is too loud? Here let me move you to a table further away from the speakers. Drink getting a little low? Let me grab you another one. You're heading to the bathroom that is up a half flight of stairs with a walker? What a coincidence me too, I'll walk with you. Cold? I'll grab a jacket from one of the grooms men. Super long story about your neighbors granddaughters wedding and how the entire thing was trashy? Fascinating, tell me more. Really tired and want to go back to the hotel? Here's an uber and call me so I know you got back ok.
It was a little bit of work but it meant that my friends could enjoy their wedding without worrying about if their grandparents were comfortable. They were incredibly appreciative. TBH grandmas talk the best trash and I got my adopted grandma to do a shot of tequila with me.
@@meganmiller531
Sounds like that was an incredibly awesome day/night.
My grandparents have all passed and I’d give anything to have them at my wedding one day. I can’t imagine.
I've seen some bad ones, but excluding the burn-scarred kid has to be about the worst yet. Excluding grandma is also up there.
Right?! Excluding a child over scars that already cause her so much pain...absolutely disgusting behavior
Jeeze! When I got married our wedding invites literally said “come celebrate our marriage with us and please no gifts! We’ve been together for 10 years and we truly don’t need anything.” All I wanted was a short ceremony, a medium length reception, and to say hello to all our friends and family. My eldest daughter (from a previous relationship) was my maid of honor and she wore her old prom dress as her dress. I didn’t care or have expectations of anyone other than to make sure my now husband didn’t wear a bright purple (think joker) suit and to ensure my mom who’ve I’ve cut from my life didn’t show up and cause drama
WOW, that's almost exactly how my sister rolled at her wedding! I officiated, she and her husband paid for everything, and our wretched maternal unit was nowhere to be seen. It was chill but beautiful.
That sounds lovely
Sounds a pretty much perfect wedding to me.
As for the purple joker suit, and the toxic family, it was totally fair to stop them.
That’s because a wedding should be about your love and relationship and having fun to celebrate your day, this sounds amazing. I have plans to have a matching wedding party, but my only stipulation is it has to be teal or silver grey. That is all. I don’t care about what color of teal, what cut of the dress, if you have colored hair or tattoos, because that doesn’t affect how much I love my future husband and how much fun I’m going to have partying it up with my friends and family. You got it right on this one love!!
That literally sounds like the perfect wedding!
I'm convinced the wedding are like booze - they each reveal a person's true character (as much as they want to deny it). And how about we all throw a massive party for the 15 year old girl, the 98 year old grandmother, and the bald bridesmaid? I can't believe how poorly they were treated.
I find this all so astonishing. I know I was married 50 years ago, but it's not SO different - it still had to be paid for etc. Yes I look at the photos now and then, but all I see is happy, relaxed people enjoying a wedding. My bridesmaids were all different sizes and had different hair - so what? The grandparents were there and had a great time and a skeletal thin, extremely sick uncle is quite obvious in the photos - it was the last party he ever went to and wrote to tell us how much he'd enjoyed it. After 50 years, if you've lasted that long, these are the things that are important, believe me.
My old great aunts (respectively 90 something years old, 86 and 82 or something like that) are the greatest party animals ever! Getting drunk, dancing on tables and all around great fun to have around!
Marriage isn't about the decor or the dresses, it's about love and sharing a commitment with another. If you can't throw a big party, so what! Be happy to be getting married, nothing else really matters!!
Couldn’t agree more!!! My wedding cost less than $5,000 and I love my husband much more now than I did 13 years ago. It’s about starting a life together, not outdoing someone else’s party or having a perfect day.
We know already. It's the same comment 1000 different ways
When I married my late wife, we were married in the pastor’s office.
My wife bought the marriage licence, as I was out of the country until the wedding day. (Very long story.)
The two witnesses took us for a wonderful meal afterwards.
My first wedding had a reception, although not overly expensive.
The difference was that I didn’t really feel part of my first wedding. It seemed to all be about other people, and not just the bride.
My second wedding was perfect. It was about us and our love for each other. Neither of us would have changed a thing. ❤️
Thank you. My wedding was 30 dollars. That was the cost of the JOP. Been happily married for 23 years.
BINGO!
What's wrong with the men that still want to marry this lot? If my wife to be told me she cancelled a bridesmaid because she lost her hair due to cancer, then I would instantly know she's not the one for me, and I would bin her on the spot.
Absolutely!
There are no shortage of people high on the ASPD spectrum, unfortunately, male or female.
That is more often than not that the partner doesn't get to hear about it at all. Almost all the bridezillas are freaking sweet to their partners, like the most innocent, sweetest girls ever "could never..." and that perfect image is backed by dozen of other peoples (most family and friends) sacrifizing their time and ressources for her.
@@britvica you sound like you have a lot of experience with bridezillas, lol.
OMG right... I once worked with an insufferable coworker who reminds me of these Bridezillas. Just the most self absorbed and insufferable person Ive ever been forced to work with. I attended her wedding reception when I was new to knowing her. When I quit I messaged her and said my peace, which involved me wishing karma and to realize the world does not constantly revolve around her. A few people told me how happy they were someone finally said the truth to her because literally almost eveyone hated/ couldn't stand her and they were still stuck with her 🤣 They told me she got so triggered she tried to get police involved, like full blown Karen level 😂. I can't even imagine being so entitled/ full of myself to beleive someone saying they hope karma does its job and reminding me that I'm not the center of the universe is a threat😆😂🤣👌💯 Obviously nothing happened but Im sure she like all other Karen's and Bridezillas are still stuck in their own narcissistic worlds.
The "child-free" wedding: That is disgusting. I don't know how the bride and groom thought that the parents would be ok to learn that not only was their daughter excluded for a stupid, shallow reason, but that they would be ok about being lied to and stay for the wedding. The groom is terrible for suggesting it and the bride is even worse for not standing up for her own niece and then calling her sister an a-hole being not taking it well.
The bridesmaid with cancer: Also terrible what the bride did to her. It was completely and utterly selfish and insensitive, as well as shallow. I don't blame the bridesmaid for taking her to small claims court. She's already going through enough with the cancer, she didn't deserve to be treated like crap.
We had kids at our wedding; one of our friends had a five year old who we knew since birth. During our first dance she came running up and grabbed our legs. So we each took one of her hands and finished the dance with her. Her mom was horrified at first but surprised when we danced with her.
@@downhomesunset My friends granddaughter is Downs. When her mom and dad got married she was around 5 too. She was a flower girl and bossed the bridesmaids round (which they all thought was adorable) and during the first dance she stood at the side and they saw her and held out their arms and she rushed in to join them. It was the sweetest thing. She then partied the night away till she fell asleep on her Nans lap. And if anyone had said she shouldn't have been there it would have been like that scene in Airplane where they are all lining up to take a swing at that one guy. nobody messes with family :)
Its so stupid at least dont invite any children.. then you would not have been discovered while doing such a horribel thing.. what did they think how they would react
As a kid, I remember staying with family (opposite side) while my parents went to family weddings. It wasn't that big of a deal they told me in advance I wasn't going and had something set up and brought me cake. I was considered well-behaved enough to go to some of the ceremonies, which other than the cake was my favorite part. Child-free weddings, in general, aren't the worst. However, this bride and groom took it too far. I have a cousin with Downs syndrome and while he generally did not go to the wedding ceremony, he did come to the reception and he always had a blast. He was well behaved and loved dancing either by himself or one of us. I think those were some of the best times of his life.
My kids were not invited to my nephew’s wedding. They were the only cousins not invited though they are the youngest. Ages 10, 5 and 4. For the record, I am all for child free if that’s what the bride and groom want. My kids had been to his siblings weddings and then were picked up by my in laws by 9 pm. So he even knew how my kids would be handled. Got to the wedding-tons of kids. Then my SISTER asked me why my kids weren’t there. 😂😂 I told her we were informed they weren’t having kids at the wedding. She was not impressed.
Charlotte you have been my favorite and really saved me. I spent three months in the hospital and was paralyzed from the waist down. It has taken two years to learn to walk again but you gave me the wonderful gift of laughing through it all. I truly think that you are a wonderful woman and what you do is amazing! So thank you so much for everything you do!!!
My sister had her grandmother-in-law at her wedding ceremony and reception and this sassy old lady stole the show! It was amazing watching her dance with her walker and have the biggest smile on her face the entire night! She could not have been more excited to be included and I know it meant the world to my brother-in-law and sister to see his nana so happy
Re: Grandma. I have been to many weddings where the old farts in the corner were the rowdiest group in the place. Get a few boilermakers in them and watch them have fun. At my brother's wedding we knew things were getting out of hand when my SIL's great uncles brought out their Boombas. If it is too loud for Grannie, whoever she came with can take her home and come back. Let Grannie make the choice.
Seriousl- Y’all youngins act like you invented alcohol! If grandma thinks she can handle it, she probably knows what she’s talking about. If it gets to be too much for her, she can leave. She’s a grown-up! I’m sure she knows how to get into a taxi cab and go to a hotel
My nan used to hold court at every family evening party. She'd leave after 3 hours or so, but she'd be the life and soul whilst she was there
Dude seriously, most old folks are complete gangsters. They do *not* give a flying fuck about *anything!* And guaranteed they've been through crazier things than your "banging" reception. 😂
I’m 62, but some of my in laws are OG’s! I’ve been to the Moose Lodge they all drink, Er socialize at, hang on to yer Wallet. They can and will out drink you and out play you, pool or poker. And it’s Fun, no explanations needed when I needed a break. They were all at our wedding, my husbands favorite aunt brought her squirt gun, just in case.
YESSS!
I had some friends of mine throw their own wedding. The bride was the one that paid for it cuz she was the bread winner in the family and the groom was a stay at home dad. Long story short she spent $300 on the wedding, including her dress and it was wonderful. They had it outside at a nature reserve in front of a gorgeous little pond and the dressing was semi casual. You could even wear jeans, as long as you had some form of blue and or whit on she didn't care. We even got to bring our 3 legged lad with us.( he got to dress up with a white bandana🐶!) I've been to a few wedding and theirs by far was the best. My point is that you don't have to break yourself to have the best day you and your partner will never forget. It was hands down the best wedding I've ever been to. Don't forget that's it's not just the bride's day. It is also the groom's day too! It about 2 people lucky enough to find each other in this cruel fucked up world that make life easier to traverse through together.❤
My first dog was our ring bearer
One of the best weddings I went to was a lot like that, in the garden of the church, they had asked a bunch of friends and family to make a dish and/or bring a stack of plates to the party in lieu of gifts, so we had a really nice buffet and it didn't cost them anything and everyone felt super connected, and the live music was a folk music choir that one of the bride's best friends was in. The bride was Danish and the groom Indian so the variety of the guests' clothes was beautiful. If I ever get married, the wedding will be something like that!
I find it kinda funny how those parents that basically funded their kid's whole life so far (house, uni, car, holidays) tell them only now that they want them to learn the value of things. Should have started to teach them that a little earlier maybe.
Better late than never. What do you need a second house for? A rental? It can wait
More to that story....
Actually, it was a good move on the parents part. That daughter would probably just ordered whatever she wanted, now she has to make choices. Not only whether to delay the second home to spend the money on the wedding, but to limit the wedding to how much has been saved for the second home. The parents know they do not need a second home, they have set her up for life, so they don't ever have to feel guilty about not paying for the wedding.
Yeah, like 10-15 years earlier...
I was honestly thinking the same thing. Better late than never I guess, but if you teach them young then they can better take care of themselves when they’re older.
I am deeply shocked and upset by the bridezilla that didn’t want her fiancé’s grandmother at the wedding. I have lost all of my grandparents and would give anything to have them at my future wedding. This girl needs to recognize that this is now her grandmother too. Treat grandma with some respect.
I am a Limo driver; I have been hired to shuttle drive as well. Trust me the older quest generally leave early! They stay for the basic events, cake cutting etc. But they are long gone before the night gets wild!
I hate when women say things like “I am the bride after all” well it’s his wedding too, he’s the groom and you can’t have one without the other. Well in her case anyways. I would honestly leave her if I was him. Weddings are meant to join two families together, not tear them apart.
Yes! They act like that whole day is dedicated to them, like a holiday. There’s probably hundreds of other people who are getting married the same day as them! Ugh people like these drive me craaazyyyy!
Yeah, bridezillas act like they're marrying themselves. Um, hello! Come back down to earth, there's other people too.
When I get married I’ve decided the cake will be a three tire cake. A flavor we like, a flavor he likes, and a flavor I like. I want him to be apart of the planning because most men don’t get that from their SO.
@@nerdgeekcosplay909 Try to go for the tubeless tires. Those tubes can wreak havoc on Grandma's dentures and we'll not even discuss the troubles eating valve stems can cause.
@@frogworth1622 hahaha! It took me a second to understand this
Talk about "entitled". The last bride who was saving for their SECOND house didn't want to pay for the wedding. Good grief. My daughter and her husband informed us they were "eloping" and we gave them a nice check, waved goodby as they drove off and heaved a huge sigh of relief. Did I miss seeing my only daughter get married? Yes. However, the stress we avoided was a good trade off and they had the wedding they wanted, in a vineyard in California, barefoot and casual. We sent out announcements afterward. That was 11 years ago and 3 grandbabies ago. Guess it worked.
I find it difficult to take that one seriously. It just reads like a story that keeps heaping on the layers.
I couldn’t have cared less about how much money my parents spent on a wedding and I didn’t care much about it being a “perfect” day. My parents were there, I was in Mom’s gown from her wedding, Dad gave me away. My husband had on a new suit that didn’t match the groomsmen. It was all great!
I lost my husband fourteen years ago. It was our marriage that counted, not the wedding.
I would have been happy with our civil ceremony we had before our church wedding because it turned out my husband was too young to get married in our state. He had a birthday two days later but by the time we knew all the invitations were out already.
A memorable day for sure.!
@@juliamartin4141 Yes! Thats how it should be imo. Marriage is supposed to be about celebrating your relationship, the wedding is just one day! Sorry for your loss, at least it sounds like you genuinely loved each other if thats any conmfort.
If I was the parents of the last couple I would have said "Oh, but we did fund your wedding - just sell the house and car we bought you. That should be more then enought!"
I was thinking that they've already funded her wedding by sending her to college so she could get a good job, as well as buying her a house and car so she doesn't have to "waste" her pay on those things. Like, all her major expenses are already taken care of. Sure a second home would be nice but maybe that's a good reason not to have a huge expensive wedding.
The American obsession with everything and everyone matching at weddings is so bizarre and creepy to me as a non-American. It’s like some Children of the Corn shit. If you don’t love your friends’ and family’s unique personalities and consider their physical attributes and expressions as part of them, why not just hire actors?
So far, USA is the only country I've ever seen with these specific wedding traditions. In my country, you show up in whichever color you want, except black and white. Such a thing as MoH, bridesmaids, best man, groomsmen, are not part of our rites.
Every country has customs and societal expectations. We could point and laugh at whatever yours are but we don’t. People all around the world are different. Americans have unique culture just like you do. You’ve been told that we don’t-that we’re just bland and boring and have no culture. But it’s impossible not to have culture. That is the result of living with other people. We consider it rude to wear white, other cultures might consider something else rude that seems odd to us. Come down off your cultural high horse; you aren’t the only group in the universe.
How do you know these weirdos are American ? I'm American and have never known anyone to behave this way. I do believe Charlotte is Canadian and these stories are on social media so they can be from any country.
@@ClipZ_Gaming_1 its funny but i wanted to point out that americans tend to think they are the centre of the universe.. for some reason 🤔 Backwards country if you ask me 😂 so far up religions ass their devolving but thats another story haha
So much for Diversity I guess
My husband and I had 5 people at our wedding. His mom, my mom and dad, my sister and she brought her boyfriend, which is fine their married now lol my parents handmade my bouquet, and bought a small cake. We got married on a tall hill where my husband worked overlooking all of Vegas. It was gorgeous, and meant so much to me. We went to dinner after, and just had a wonderful time at our house after drinking and listening to music. Wouldn’t trade it for the world🥰
Sounds lovely
What kind of person wants to “get drunk and let loose with my friends” at her wedding? You get pissed and fool around with your friends *before* the wedding. I think this bride has forgotten that there is no wedding without the GROOM.
We went out of our way to ensure my grandpa could attend our wedding and reception (mobility and health issues) and for family to take him home early if he got too tired. He passed away 3 weeks before the wedding, which broke my heart. We went ahead with it, because of out-of-country family flying in, but it was hard and I can't imagine choosing for him not to attend.
They're not even married yet and they're already being problematic.
Two things can happen in this case :
1. The marriage doesn't last.
2. The marriage doesn't happen at all.
I choose C - all of the above.
I agree good sir.
There's also 3. They're worth each other.
As soon as that fiance said she didn't want her husbands grandma there that's a pure sign that she's not going to prioritise family over her own needs. Someone like that isn't mature enough for the responsibilities of marriage
My grandma danced so hard so fell down at my wedding. (she was fine) She's now gone and it's one of my favorite memories. Grandmas totally have a right to party too...don't exclude them! 😎
I’m Mexican and my wedding had so much food that people took plates home!
I think if I was to ever get married, I'd be a "cheapzilla" Like for bridesmaids' dresses and stuff, I'd be like "Well, I'm going for a blue color theme. You have a blue dress you like, with shoes you have to go with that? Great, wear your dress and shoes. Doesn't matter what color blue, I love all blue colors" For food, big ass buffet. Different types of ethnic food with some meat and some veggie for everybody and it all costs the same no matter who shows or doesn't show. It may be a bit ghetto but if some stuck-up person doesn't like it than they should not have RSVP'd. I'm always of the mindset that the wedding shouldn't be that expensive because the money should be saved for the marriage. The wedding is only one day. The marriage is (or should be) forever. 🤷♀️
So much yes! Our bridesmaids hired their dresses, they wore whatever shoes they liked, I made the groomsmen's waistcoats. The reception was a cold buffet lunch (peak of summer), with no formal seating plan. Just sit where you like/eat what you like. Lots of good quality drinks flowing and we had a 5disc cd player on shuffle for music (it was the 90s). People told us it was the best wedding in ages and we were able to relax and enjoy the day.
I was best man at my best friend’s wedding in Stockholm and there was no colour theme or dress code. The bride and groom wore fancy things but everyone else just wore things they already had or chose themselves. The bride’s parents were wearing jeans but what was important was they were there. Everyone looked great and had a great time. It felt authentic not like some theatrical production.
I’m nowhere near getting married but I’m going down the inexpensive route too! I’m going on Amazon and finding a dress and sending my future bridesmaids a link. It won’t be anymore than $40 or $50. No need to spend lots of money on the little things.
never underestimate the older generation at weddings. they don't sit there and talk about George Formby (no disrespect George), discussing the war.
last wedding I went too, the older generations as in grandparents, great aunts and everyone over 60 were doing Jägerbombs and shots
it was a good wedding
A wedding when I was a bridesmaid, I was sitting with the brides and grooms parents, and just having a drink and talking. the couple had already left, and we were the last to leave. we still laugh about that
AGREED, and it seems like you're tempting fate by banning them. Like, they could go full poltergeist on you once they die and haunt you and your descendants for life.
Yeah, my mum's over 60 and she can out drink and out crude me
Old people at weeding are so fun!
My grandmother ( 60) and her sister (67- 70) all this before covid, At 9:pm they where drunk and dancing salsa and buggie on the table
@Nicky L i was talking more about my aunt 70 circa that year
Yep, I went to two family weddings in one year and all the old ladies were up dancing the Macarena and having a blast (1996 I think it was).
When I was 22, I canceled attending my friend's wedding the week before by purposely scheduling my wisdom teeth extraction the day before the wedding.
Hear me out 😂
I had been in a 3 year relationship where we were planning our future together. He broke my heart and strung me along for a while afterwards... so I constantly teetered between devastation and hope. Our mutual friend's wedding was coming up and I envisioned this scene where I come in looking fabulous + the wedding vibes would rekindle our relationship. Again, I was 22.
Then, two weeks before, I found out he had started dating someone new and was telling all his friends she was "the one". She was also going to be attending with him.
I expressed my reluctance to attend the wedding to my friend as I knew I wasn't ready to see him with someone else. She scolded me and said I better be there. But I was just so heart broken. Also worth noting, I wasn't in the bridal party so although we were friends, we weren't 'besties'.
Then, a few days later, my gums and jaw began to ache and the dentist said I needed all 4 wisdom teeth out. They could have scheduled it for the Monday after, but I insisted Friday was good.
Now that I'm older, I have zero regrets over not putting myself through that.
A friend of mine’s official wedding took place in her grandma’s hospital room so that her grandmother could see her get married. The following day, her grandmother passed away. I’ve seen grandparents dancing to the modern stuff and they are having a blast. It gives a grandparent/elderly relative a chance to be young again. Also, the memories that it gives them of their own wedding.
Anyone else remember when a wedding was making a commitment to the person you love, in front of family and friends? Unfortunately were some special people physically missing from our wedding, though I’m sure they were there in spirit. Stop being so egocentric about weddings, share that special time with those you love as you don't know how long you’ll have them. Weddings should be about celebrating love and not showing off.
Yup, for some people a wedding is a status symbol.
It amazes me every single time how this people were able to find a spouse to marry. Wow
They find someone equally as scummy as they are.
@@snooganslestat2030 Maybe, seems unrealistic that may be the case for all of them tho
Easier than nice people. They have no shame.
I know! And i cant even find a boyfriend! Rigged!
The grandma one would make me want to call off the wedding. That reveals a lot about the fiancé’s priorities and character, and not in a good way 😕
I’m so stunned at how petty people get over their wedding day. I was so chill at mine. All I cared about was getting married. I wanted a beautiful day, but mainly I just wanted to get married. I told my bridesmaids a color I was hoping they could wear, and let them all pick their own dress because I wanted them to be comfy. I couldn’t afford to pay for them to get their makeup done so I told them if they wanted to pay to get it done that was fine but I also told them they could do it themselves if they wanted and do whatever look they liked. Same with nails and hair. I bought their shoes and gifted them each a bracelet that was handmade for them. Two of my bridesmaids went to breakfast with me that morning, then we went to the church and got ready. I had hired an MUA to do my hair and makeup, but I couldn’t afford to pay her service for everyone, so my bridesmaids (who were more than fine doing their own hair and makeup) hung out and got ready in the same room as me. None of them knew each other but they all helped each other with hair and makeup. It was such a fun morning and is a memory I cherish. I truly loved just having them there with me. I also (being on a budget) made their bouquets myself with my MOH from artificial flowers we got at Joann’s. And they were beautiful. I can’t imagine asking a bridesmaid to pay for their bouquets. So tacky. Overall my wedding was beautiful but quite simple. Somethings really didn’t flow like I’d planned. But I didn’t care. I just wanted to marry the love of my life. The whole experience cost $6,000, which I thought was a ton but weddings are so expensive that it didn’t go as far as I’d hoped. And that was fine. I get wanting a beautiful day, but if you can’t afford it, don’t do it. Weddings are about celebrating love, not being so petty that you hurt feelings and alienate people.
My grandmother was invited to both our ceremony and reception. She was the last living grandparent on either side. She passed away less than a year later and this was the last time that she saw many of the family members that had flown in. I can't imagine not having her there.
Oh wow. I would never leave a child out from a wedding just because of her burn scars. Very good video Charlotte. Much love to you my sweet Canadian friend.
If grandma wanted petty revenge, she should invite the bride and groom over, and have someone keep an eye out for them. When they show up, have Slayer cranked up to 11, and be drinking mimosa out of a beer mug.
The part that be confusing me is that they’re all so big on “making sure everyone match & has natural looking hair” as if their wedding isn’t only for a couple hours and people will literally have to go on about their regular life afterwards. Why should I make such a change to my appearance to satisfy you for a couple hours ?
You shouldn’t have to.
If a friend cannot except you for who you are, then they are not really a friend.
I wonder if it was the other way around, would they agree to such demands?
This exactly
I can't figure out why I'd want wedding photos where people don't look like themselves. I mean, twenty years from now, you'll look back and wonder who that blond women is. You'd remember immediately if it was your wife's college roommate, who always had that wild magenta hair (at least back then).
@@jeffreyclinard2002 This. If you have a friend who is known for having blue hair, why would you want a brunette version of her in your wedding photos? It's like people forget that photos are about MEMORIES, not just aesthetics.
The one where they didn’t invite the 15 yo daughter because of her burn scars has me crying non stop. Those people are disgusting and I would cut ties with them immediately.
For the first one: I am in the middle of planning and I don’t know about the invoice but it costs a lot of money, and I have worked so hard on personalizing table cards with each person’s name on them! Like hours and hours. If someone just didn’t show up without an explanation I’d honestly be devastated. My petty and pissed off side says yeah send them an invoice. The rest of me says it happens and I’ll just move on.
Charlotte is such a hustler, she creates so much content and I’m here for it 👌🏼
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@@CharlotteDobre hello :D
Because dad needs his boat! So whatch those ads
I’m inviting Charlotte to my wedding! But if she doesn’t show up I promise I won’t send an invoice 😂
I remember she was on a channel I used to watch and I was so disappointed she was leaving. Now I don't even watch whatever it was, and I'm always clicking on her videos for my bridezilla/petty people updates.
In Denmark, everyone pays for their own dumb wedding, and it has been this way since forever. You are an adult now, so leave your dear parents alone, they have already given you the world.
I must either be in a bad mood or am prone to violence lol. That bride who wanted her parents to pay while being spoiled all her life makes me want to hit her lol.
Yep, welcome to the real world, princess!
Where I'm from the parents pay some things but it's more symbolic. The father of the groom will take his son for a fitting and pay for the suit, the mother of the bride will pay for the dress (which is an evolution of giving her own dress, as that was done before). And the food is most often done by both families in-house. Everything else (the location if it's not on private familly grounds) the rings the honeymoon, bedding for the guests etc are paid by the couple.
I thought it was funny that her parents wanted her to learn the value of things...at the age of 30. Yeah, if you didn't teach her that as a child, it's a bit late for that.
Yeah, I’ve never heard of a danish bridezilla🤷♀️ Danmark er nu alligevel lidt mere nede på jorden, heldigvis.
I wish a woman would tell me my grandma couldn't come to "our" reception. We can cancel the whole day then.
I had a courthouse wedding because of Covid19, family only, and I had to insist to my grandma to come. Like, 10 people at max.
Ignore any woman who goes with the, "bride's way, bride's day" or "happy wife, happy life"... or anyone who tells you to get rid of a beloved pet if you want to marry them. if they can't compromise during the wedding, they'll never learn. You can also tell a lot about a woman by the engagement ring they chose. the more expensive they want the engagement ring, the more you should nope out of the whole wedding
I get that people have visions for their dream weddings but shouldn’t your dream wedding be centered on celebrating with those you love regardless of what they look like? I love these videos and I really do hope they serve as a check yourself for people 😂
That person whose parents paid for everything, is saving for a SECOND house and doesn't want to spend money on the wedding. When most people cannot afford one. I DO NOT feel bad for this person.
My youngest sister, whom hasn't spoken to me in 5 years, texted me out of the blue one day just so she could tell me I wasn't invited to her wedding. Like I was planning on going? Because apparently my father and I can't be trusted not to show up uninvited. I would say I'm happy for her, but, really just feel sorry for her fiance as he will now be the emotional abuse mule since dad and I won't let her abuse us.
I feel you!!! Only in my case it is my older brother and sister. Admittedly I was a A-1 screw up in my teens. After my mom passed away as a kid I kinda went hog wild. Drinking and getting stoned daily. My mom was a control freak and extremely judgmental. And my dad was a really kind hearted guy. He tried as he may to stop my bad behavior. But realized I wasn’t going to quit until I was ready and forcing treatment would lead to nothing but my anger and resentment. And me possibly going in on harder drugs. So he just let it go and instead just gave me unconditional love. He refused to hand out money. And I knew it was futile to even ask. But when I went clean at 20 years old he let me do it at home. And my sister and brother both told him it was a sham. And that in a month or less I would be back at it. That was 24 years ago. And I haven’t smoked or drank since. But they are still waiting on the other shoe to drop and me fall back into my old habits. I saw my brother at Walmart cashing a check. And he actually said that I was dead to him. And he got out of line just to avoid having to be near me. The weird thing is I never did them wrong. I was good enough to babysit for them and give my sisters kids rides to school. But I wasn’t invited to her second wedding and they returned my wedding invitation. But showed up for the free bar and food.
@@maryallison0509 you should put that on reddit. "Still showed up for the free booze and food" like WTF!
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They actually snuck in like food thieves. And they each went in different directions. One to the bar and the other to the buffet. I was doing the rounds of visiting with his family. And my husband busted my brother with 4 drinks. And then saw my sister with 2 heaping plates of food. And he escorted them out. I looked up as he was walking them out. I never found him HOTTER in my life. That was the sexiest. Then I ever saw. Lol and no I probably wont post it on reddit. To be honest I wouldn't have a clue how too.
I vote for letting the grandma be at the wedding. She's a treasure. I will never get to have my grams at a potential wedding. She passed in 2020. Damn she was a blast too she did Jell-O shots, drank Mountain Dew and was all about Doritos. You can't get much cooler than that in your 90s. Also drank Crown Royal. So don't leave out the grams!
my nannas have passed too. miss them all the time. but I feel them with me quite often. It was great to have great relationships with them and I was honoured to have them at my wedding. I even toasted my two sets of grandparents at the wedding. Glad you had fun with your grams too.
NEVER mix business with pleasure. By normalising invoices, you would make weddings into business-events, not celebratory ones. Even those who intend to show up (such as myself) would decline bc a celebration should not include a business tactic to minimise monetary loss or increase monetary gains.
Yes, it's seriously bad juju.
When we got married I was so fixated on getting married, I only cared to whom, I wasn’t bothered what anyone looked like, how old or how much fun everyone was having, the day was about me and my hubby, and sharing our day with the people we love, the best man ended up wearing tracksuit bottoms and a t-shirt cause he didn’t know how to iron (bless him) for a church wedding it was quite hilarious but hubby and me was just glad he attended 😀
with my best friend planning her wedding, these videos make me so glad i have such a down to earth inner circle lmao. she's getting married on her family's property in a $40 value village wedding dress with me, her sister, and our other friend as bridesmaids and i couldn't be happier for her. it'll be the perfect day because she'll be marrying her love surrounded by family and friends, not because she'll spend too much and hyperfixate on every little detail.
When my husband and i got married we paid for everything and never even asked anyone to contribute. My MIL absolutely hated my father and vice versa, we invited them both anyway and told them that if they could not be civil to each other at our wedding then don't come. They both came and avoided each other the whole wedding and reception, neither caused a scene and all was fine. We had the reception at the same place as the wedding as we thought it was annoying to attend a wedding and then have to travel elsewhere for the reception. We kept it small (30 guests) I kept the bridal party to dress color (which the brides maids chose) style was up to them, grooms man wore black and had ties colored the same as the dresses - we did not what them to have to buy clothing they would never wear again as who has the disposable money to buy clothing they would only wear once. We paid per head for 30 people and whilst we had a couple of 'no shows' due to reasons (I did not bother to find out), we also had a couple of extras show up and so it worked out at pretty much 30 people so all was good as far as we were concerned. A fun day/night was had by all and after 27 years of living in sin (as my MIL put it) we were officially a couple, our adult daughters loved that they got to see us married and be my bridesmaids along with my bff. TBH if it was not for the legal aspects of being married we definitely would not have bothered, in our own eyes we were married already but it has made life easier with an official document. As the bride my main goal was to have all of our friends and family show up to celebrate our day with us and for it to be as stress free for everyone as i could make it - i hate drama.
Goal was accomplished and a happy fun time was had by one and all.
When she mentioned going to small claims court over a wedding reception invoice I imagined the music for The People's Court playing.
BUH da DUM!
I thought Hot Bench - those 3 would certainly give Bridzilla hell
I was at a Chinese wedding like 6 years ago and maaaannnn I had a lot of fun with the great-grandma of the groom! She was dancing and vibing with all of us, more than younger people I gotta say.
Regarding the story with no-show guests, it's not always about the money, it can be about the guest count too. My fiance and I are only having 40 guests attend our wedding, and it has been difficult to whittle the total guest count down to 40 without making anyone important feel left out. So if we had two guests simply not show up, that would be annoying because we could have invited someone else in their place.
Grandmother story: so, when I got married my grandma was in her 90s. I LOVED having her at the event. I had to drag her into the photos (she was self conscious and it took a lot of convincing to get her to participate). She flat refused the reception because “those are for young folks” so we had a special cake and punch reception right after the ceremony at the church where we cut the wedding cake and folks could mingle while we did photos. My grandma loved it! Later we took the leftover cake to the dinner reception and had the party. She was thrilled that we included her so much and it’s a precious memory for me.💕
You are doing a service to humanity, Charlotte. You call out the entitlement of the bridezillas and groomzillas. On behalf of humanity, thank you.
About the RSVP for no shows, for me, I think it would depend on the reason they didn’t come as to how upset I was. However at my daughters wedding, which we all pitched in for as money was tight for all of us, the grooms own sister her husband and children didn’t bother to turn up! We never found out why and it was five places paid for. It was a bit upsetting as they had to leave out people they wanted there due to funds. Still, I wouldn’t send an invoice. At the end of the day, it says more about them than you.
My exhusband’s aunt, uncle, four teenage kids and two of the kids bf/gfs they insisted be invited with guest didn’t show to our wedding with same day notice. It was an entire round table lol. I invited all of my older brothers friends and their spouses to sit at their table 🤷🏻♀️ The aunt and uncle didn’t even send a gift but big whoops, they were rude or broke (I mean just come and don’t give a gift, or give a tiny gift) but what can you do. Lots of shit went wrong that day including my mom dying a few weeks before, but it was a great party.
My grandmother insisted that I invited a bunch of extended family members to the wedding that I didn’t even know. None of them showed and I had a whole empty table 🤦🏼♀️ they sent me $20 as an “I’m sorry we didn’t show” 😂 it is what it is.
It’s your wedding; you invite who YOU want there.
@@downhomesunset I’m gonna disagree with you a bit there. It’s not just YOUR day. If it was, you’d go to court and have a dinner, not a wedding. You do need to consider your family, your family also might be a bunch of dicks 🤷🏻♀️ but that’s life, and you should roll with it
My take is - if you spend your honeymoon fretting about who showed, then you are doing it wrong.
I can't imagine getting married and not inviting my grandparents no matter their age.
My husband's grandma (the last living on both sides until recently) was brought to our wedding, i was so touched to have her with us even for a short while (she had Alzheimer's).
1:12 working in hospitality I know that many restaurants will charge you a no-show fee so not showing up to a wedding party is a d*** move
At the Italian weddings I attended as a child, it was always the grannies who got down and boogied til the wee small hours
My brother got maried relatively late in life and our grandmother attended, she partied with us until 2 am. Grandmas are the best, besides, if she didn't enjoy it or got too tired she'd have gone home. Respect your damn elders!
@Leonie I could not agree with you more! Especially now that I am one. I can get shitfaced and not give a fuck!
That couple was really “who’s gonna know? They’re not gonna know” oh, they’re gonna know.
My great grandmother went to a lot of weddings and receptions in her 80s and 90s. She never drank, but she still had fun, she danced with guests, watched people, ate dinners, even stood in groups to try and catch the bouquet. She did catch it once, and people kept asking if she would marry her male friend. She and they had fun with it. Older people can be really fun at receptions. That one bride who wanted to exclude her future husband's grandma, I hope she changed her mind and let grandma come to both wedding and reception. I have a feeling that marriage didn't last long.
That bride who didn't want the 15 yr old with burn scars at her wedding and the one that didn't want her "friend" with different hair due to cancer at her wedding had better watch out for what's coming around. You get back what you put out there.