-- what's wrong with y'all why do you let your children do you like this??? Is this "love"?? That is so weird to me. The lack of disciplinary tactics, the lack of guidance, the lack of independence. Don't let your children do you like that. Ugh
99% of the time people who are given or gifted stuff have little to no respect for it because they didnt have to work for it. Human nature is to take advantage and make life as easy as possible with least amount of effort .
I was a single mom after divorce and about half way past the "shut the fu" she'd wake up next week. There is no way I'd have ever let my son or daughter talk to anyone like that, ever. Ridiculous and learned behavior from the time she was small.
I thought my kids hard work be responsible be respectful get an education and be a law abiding citizen be good to others help where possible. I was a strict parent however I also taught them taught them love kindness and compassion. I would have never allowed this behavior! Being a parent is hard work and you have to be consistent with the rules. Always a parent first and friend second. ❤ Now they’re adults and I’m proud of the humans they’ve become. ❤❤
I know! Both sides are complaining about the other and it’s like, just stop doing this! Mom, stop hiring them, kids, stop being beholden to mom! Brush your hands together and go about your life. But I don’t think this mom is going to do it. She seems to own her part but she looks sad when Dr phil tells her what she needs to do.
The truancy law needs to be amended. My son suffered from severe asthma. We had to take him to Jewish National in Denver, Colorado for a month. Our state of Alabama said there was nothing more they could do to help him. He was in the local hospital a lot and I got the truancy notice that he needed to go to court. At the time, he was in the hospital because of his asthma. I had to load him up, with oxygen and IV pole, in a wheelchair to go to court to show why he missed school! Thankfully, I had a good friend who was an attorney and he wrote an official letter attesting to the fact that my son was disabled and therefore exempt from truancy if it involved his asthma.
One statement,Dont pay for them.If you dont support them they will support themselves because they have no choice.This is 100% mothers fault.People need to start thinking smarter.
I think it's a bit of a stretch to say it's moms fault entirely. These two are adults and aren't stupid. They know right and wrong. I agree mom shouldn't be supporting them but at the same time, how do you walk away from your child? Its hard. It hurts. Its a sad situation all around.
Jobs you have to call them back and keep on them for a while to let them know you're serious about working. Just keep trying until they finally say there's no job here for you we don't want you then you can move on but there's no reason why you can't apply for several jobs at the same time. You can't wait around just for one job to see if you're going to get it and then move on to just another one job application
He is angry?! What a lazy slob! Youre living under her roof. Then move out to prove yourself! But you have nothing to prove actually!😂😂😂 Mother, they need to move out and take back your house! A 13 yr old bossing you around? If thats my daughter?! I make sure she knew her place! 💪
It’s the Moms fault. As long as she keeps supplying then why should they work? If they don’t have any more to go, let them go to a shelter! You as a mother or already too old to be putting up with this. You need to get them out and sell that house so you can live comfortably in your old age. When you die, do you think they are going to die with you?
I cook but i also have things that the kids (they're aged 11-19) can easily make for themselves if they don't like what I've cooked. I accept that people won't always like to eat what I cook but I will not be cooking seperate meals for them. These days that's seen as bad parenting apparently .
Don't be a short order cook. As soon as you prepare a different meal for kids, you have become their servant, not their parent. Get the kids to help make the meal and clean up. You are not running a restaurant and they're not paying you to.
I've watched a lot of Dr Phil, and real common inflection point in the family dysfunction and children misbehavior was divorce. Such a toxic thing that we allowed it become so common and easy.
Bank owned doesn’t necessarily mean foreclosed. If something is not paid off yet and you are making payments then the bank or finance company still owns it.
We had a neighbor like that. He lived with his mother who had a reverse mortgage. When she died, the bank took the house but the drug addicted son continued to live there and climb in and out through a window for months
I’m 27 and still live with my parents, when I turned 18, they told me that I can stay as long as I need to as long as I either go to university or get a job and help around the house/clean up after myself. I went to university, and once I finished, I started working, and I always pick up after myself and help around the house. Job finding is also harder for neurodivergents (I have Autism and ADHD) the pandemic made it harder to find a job, and one of my jobs went out of business, and it took me a year to find one. My parents understood how hard it is modern day to find work that’s autism friendly and with inflation making it harder to find my own place and cost of living being harder. I still put in the work to find a job and even used vocational rehab, and my parents still supported me because they saw that I was putting in the effort and trying, and I still helped around the house and cleaned up.
@Sunflower-sz5kfDo you have ANY idea how difficult it is for even high functioning Autistic Adults to function in any job related setting? My son was given a full academic scholarship to the best Uni in our state, is a member of Mensa and is high functioning Autistic. He does fine financially by working remotely, but , at 22 lives at home. He has a few very good friends, and is continually learning to socialize. This for him means mimicking as he cannot feel the same as non Autistic people. We hope he may one day be able to live on his own, but we recognize that as of now he can’t. We have trusts set up for both of our children and plans in place for him if we pass. Do NOT speak on raising a differently abled child until you have, know or love one.
Our set up with our 22 yr old son is the same. He continuously works on improving his social skills as he truly wants to live on his own one day.However, we are beyond proud of his achievements and his amazing beautiful mind and soul. I’m very proud of you also.
My 13 year old Autistic and ADHD daughter isn't the cleanest, either. Kids don't like cleaning up, and some fight it more than others!! That's when you STEP UP and don't give in to demands, and take things away if they don't cooperate. Don't want to clean up the chips that fell on the floor? No more chips in the house. Disrespect and severe attitude? Buh bye phone, laptop, etc. Slam my doors? Buh bye, bedroom door! You're not going anywhere fun, nor are you getting "perks" and "treats" until you apologize AND correct your behavior. I treat my kids every Friday after school with their own junky snacks and favorite fast food items, but if you're disrespecting me or the teachers at school or your father...etc... then I'll just let the other child get their special treats while you watch. I've done it before, and will keep doing it. Oh! And I understand emotions are big, so sometimes screaming and throwing tantrums occur, but after you apologize and show a better attitude you can regain your media time and treats AFTER a list of chores done to MY standards. My daughter is 13 years old, my son is 9 years old. Both have been very, very difficult, but they are doing so well with consistency.
My daughter was the same way, she pushed me once and off to juvenile detention she went. I put her in therapy and she's doing so much better. You have to put in the work instead of giving up
That costs a fortune. They should just rent a tiny room somewhere from someone else and live in mess if they want. None of her business. If you want her to mind her own business don't take her money nor house. What about his parents? They're fine with this? Crazy.
Mother needs to stop any kind of money, put a stop to it. I would allow my daughter to be on the streets I’m sorry but if you’re running out of money. Stop, just stop. I would t give them a dime.
What is wrong these people?? My mom would give me 'the look' and that was the end of the discussion.
Stop giving them money. Sell the house and get a better life.
A really tall 2 yr old changed my life. Thank you ❤
You reap what you sow. That mom is a soft touch.
Where is the backbone for these parents?? Just say NO!
“Do, or do not. There is no try.” - Yoda.
-- what's wrong with y'all why do you let your children do you like this???
Is this "love"??
That is so weird to me.
The lack of disciplinary tactics, the lack of guidance, the lack of independence.
Don't let your children do you like that. Ugh
Foreclosues do not happen overnight but mom will be liable for any shortages caused by damages the daughter and boyfriend do to that house.
File eviction notice, in 30 days bye-bye!
Why did she move out of her home? Sell the house, then!
Tell me your mother is an enabler.Without telling me she is an enabler.
There is something definitely wrong with that mother......she needs to throw that entitled brat of a lazy daughter and that bf out !!!
This is pitiful to get on t.v and "air your dirty laundry" to the whole world. This is so fixable...😢
Ok.. And where is the part with solution of these problems?? 🧐
Even her daughters voice is lazy.😂😂😂😂
Sale the house..... that gives them a out date.
I am confused. If she downsized to an apartment why does she still have the house?
Wow, really! Why do these parents allow this??!??!
Take the phone away give her nothing
Until she understands you are the boss
99% of the time people who are given or gifted stuff have little to no respect for it because they didnt have to work for it. Human nature is to take advantage and make life as easy as possible with least amount of effort .
How gross. Mom’s fault for letting them stay. I couldn’t live like this.
They are on drugs
My 13 year old would no way rule the house
Don't let the moms fool you. They get off on supporting their adult kids. It's a way to keep them close and under control.
I was a single mom after divorce and about half way past the "shut the fu" she'd wake up next week. There is no way I'd have ever let my son or daughter talk to anyone like that, ever. Ridiculous and learned behavior from the time she was small.
The mom enabling them is the problem! Stop paying for them...problem fixed!
Tuff love is the hardest thing, but it's necessary. Stop feeling guilty for being a single mother. You are only crippling your daughter.
and..... we're against sterilization????????????????????????????????
HOW ABOUT DONT DEMEAN THEM ?! THATS YOUR DAUGHTER !!!!
Parents are LAZY!!!!
I thought my kids hard work be responsible be respectful get an education and be a law abiding citizen be good to others help where possible.
I was a strict parent however I also taught them taught them love kindness and compassion. I would have never allowed this behavior! Being a parent is hard work and you have to be consistent with the rules. Always a parent first and friend second. ❤ Now they’re adults and I’m proud of the humans they’ve become. ❤❤
Be a Parents not there Friend .🤔😊
They came on Dr. Phil to get famous and make money, like many of them that goes on. Nothing change besides them being more financially supported
Anything you allow people to do, they will continue to do. This goes for society AND for your own family.
I just lost 15 minutes of my life that I wont get back...im getting old, i need those minutes
Where are the remedies to these 2 cases? 😢
The mom is completely done and she's trying to defend herself. Just stop helping them. I have an adult son doing the same to me and I'm done too.
If Andrew isn't a moocher, why isn't he paying rent?
But the mother is letting this happen so…
Don't let the door knob hit you... tough love is called for here. Sorry mom but this is on you.
"Train up a child in the way he should go,; and when he is old, he will not depart from it".
-Proverbs 22:6
(KJV)
THEN STOP SUPPORTING THEM - problem solved!
Brilliant 😂
Amen. Geesg
I know! Both sides are complaining about the other and it’s like, just stop doing this! Mom, stop hiring them, kids, stop being beholden to mom! Brush your hands together and go about your life. But I don’t think this mom is going to do it. She seems to own her part but she looks sad when Dr phil tells her what she needs to do.
No kidding. Ridiculous! It’s the mother’s fault because she allows and enables it.
They can try for food stamps and a friends house. Put the house up for sale or an eviction notice and stop paying their bills!
Mom's fault.
The truancy law needs to be amended. My son suffered from severe asthma. We had to take him to Jewish National in Denver, Colorado for a month. Our state of Alabama said there was nothing more they could do to help him. He was in the local hospital a lot and I got the truancy notice that he needed to go to court. At the time, he was in the hospital because of his asthma. I had to load him up, with oxygen and IV pole, in a wheelchair to go to court to show why he missed school! Thankfully, I had a good friend who was an attorney and he wrote an official letter attesting to the fact that my son was disabled and therefore exempt from truancy if it involved his asthma.
One statement,Dont pay for them.If you dont support them they will support themselves because they have no choice.This is 100% mothers fault.People need to start thinking smarter.
Umh what, the only time she asks her mom for things is if she works for it? 😒
Mom created THAT.
You created her. What did you expect.
Please help, we've tried Nothing, and we're fresh out of ideas
Anyone know where to see the full episode?
Are we supposed to be sympathetic to the mother for her pathetic daughter and boyfriend? Seriously? Outrageous
You teach people how to treat you.
I think it's a bit of a stretch to say it's moms fault entirely. These two are adults and aren't stupid. They know right and wrong. I agree mom shouldn't be supporting them but at the same time, how do you walk away from your child? Its hard. It hurts. Its a sad situation all around.
Why did the mum move out into an apartment whilst STILL paying for the house, don't make sense why didn't she just stay in her home.
Yeah that made no sense
I think she did it to get away from them she didn’t want to live with them all she had to do was put them out I don’t get it either
If you listened to the mom, she said the bank owns the house.
Is Mom getting alimony and child support 😏😏😏
You’re the adults, aren’t you. So ‘adult’!
Jobs you have to call them back and keep on them for a while to let them know you're serious about working. Just keep trying until they finally say there's no job here for you we don't want you then you can move on but there's no reason why you can't apply for several jobs at the same time. You can't wait around just for one job to see if you're going to get it and then move on to just another one job application
Where is the FATHER????
Why are they whining and complaining? The parents! They did this.
Hmmmm easy for you to say
Did and still doing the same thing.
Full episode, where can I find it😢anyone.......anyone-anyone 😅😅 come on!!!!
Wait, what? Mom lives in an apartment while the home she owns, she lets her daughter and boyfriend stay in? In what world does that make sense?
The bank owns the house.
Well -
You reap what you sow, as the saying goes.
She raised her
I parented through guilt as well when my son's father suddenly passed away when he was 7.
Dr. Phil! What happened next?😮 Please 🙏
He is angry?! What a lazy slob! Youre living under her roof. Then move out to prove yourself! But you have nothing to prove actually!😂😂😂
Mother, they need to move out and take back your house!
A 13 yr old bossing you around? If thats my daughter?! I make sure she knew her place! 💪
It’s the Moms fault. As long as she keeps supplying then why should they work? If they don’t have any more to go, let them go to a shelter! You as a mother or already too old to be putting up with this. You need to get them out and sell that house so you can live comfortably in your old age. When you die, do you think they are going to die with you?
The mom is a bully
What he meant to say at 0:24 is “Whatever the bleeeeeep that is!” But it’s daytime TV.
I remember when my mom would cook it was either you ate what she made you or you starve. That's it.
I cook but i also have things that the kids (they're aged 11-19) can easily make for themselves if they don't like what I've cooked. I accept that people won't always like to eat what I cook but I will not be cooking seperate meals for them. These days that's seen as bad parenting apparently .
Yeah, eat what I cook or make pb&j's
Right!! Money does not grow on trees whatever mama cooked EVERYBODY eating it. Or have sleep for dinner😂
Don't be a short order cook. As soon as you prepare a different meal for kids, you have become their servant, not their parent. Get the kids to help make the meal and clean up. You are not running a restaurant and they're not paying you to.
At our house we had to eat everything my mother made.
I've watched a lot of Dr Phil, and real common inflection point in the family dysfunction and children misbehavior was divorce. Such a toxic thing that we allowed it become so common and easy.
Indeed.
They can’t pay bills so how did they buy two very expensive breeds and proper vet care for these dogs‼️‼️‼️😱😱😱😱🤔🤔☠️☠️💩💩
Somebody has trouble with self reflection!
If the house is bank owned, why are they there?
Bank owned doesn’t necessarily mean foreclosed. If something is not paid off yet and you are making payments then the bank or finance company still owns it.
We had a neighbor like that. He lived with his mother who had a reverse mortgage. When she died, the bank took the house but the drug addicted son continued to live there and climb in and out through a window for months
@@StrawberryJam806The Mom said "living in the house I built for her"
I’m 27 and still live with my parents, when I turned 18, they told me that I can stay as long as I need to as long as I either go to university or get a job and help around the house/clean up after myself. I went to university, and once I finished, I started working, and I always pick up after myself and help around the house. Job finding is also harder for neurodivergents (I have Autism and ADHD) the pandemic made it harder to find a job, and one of my jobs went out of business, and it took me a year to find one. My parents understood how hard it is modern day to find work that’s autism friendly and with inflation making it harder to find my own place and cost of living being harder. I still put in the work to find a job and even used vocational rehab, and my parents still supported me because they saw that I was putting in the effort and trying, and I still helped around the house and cleaned up.
Good job honey! I am proud of you for being persistent, respectful, kind and loving towards your parents.
I rather keep mine home too but with the same rules
My daughter is 22, and has the same conditions you do. You're doing great, and are moving forward to the best of your abilities.
@Sunflower-sz5kfDo you have ANY idea how difficult it is for even high functioning Autistic Adults to function in any job related setting? My son was given a full academic scholarship to the best Uni in our state, is a member of Mensa and is high functioning Autistic. He does fine financially by working remotely, but , at 22 lives at home. He has a few very good friends, and is continually learning to socialize. This for him means mimicking as he cannot feel the same as non Autistic people. We hope he may one day be able to live on his own, but we recognize that as of now he can’t. We have trusts set up for both of our children and plans in place for him if we pass. Do NOT speak on raising a differently abled child until you have, know or love one.
Our set up with our 22 yr old son is the same. He continuously works on improving his social skills as he truly wants to live on his own one day.However, we are beyond proud of his achievements and his amazing beautiful mind and soul. I’m very proud of you also.
Mom, that's your fault you're enabling her !!! and now you're on Doctor Phil's whining 😢
Yep
Seriously???. Why isn't her overweight boyfriend going out, and getting a job, is my question????.
@@yvonneerrend8217 Why should he when his MIL goes out of her own house and gives it to her daughter and him? Crazy.
torally moms fault.
Haha I hate the way he walks
My 13 year old Autistic and ADHD daughter isn't the cleanest, either. Kids don't like cleaning up, and some fight it more than others!! That's when you STEP UP and don't give in to demands, and take things away if they don't cooperate. Don't want to clean up the chips that fell on the floor? No more chips in the house. Disrespect and severe attitude? Buh bye phone, laptop, etc. Slam my doors? Buh bye, bedroom door! You're not going anywhere fun, nor are you getting "perks" and "treats" until you apologize AND correct your behavior. I treat my kids every Friday after school with their own junky snacks and favorite fast food items, but if you're disrespecting me or the teachers at school or your father...etc... then I'll just let the other child get their special treats while you watch. I've done it before, and will keep doing it. Oh! And I understand emotions are big, so sometimes screaming and throwing tantrums occur, but after you apologize and show a better attitude you can regain your media time and treats AFTER a list of chores done to MY standards. My daughter is 13 years old, my son is 9 years old. Both have been very, very difficult, but they are doing so well with consistency.
Hey mom its ur fault
So, what was the point of mom downsizing??? Now, she's paying bills for TWO residences??
If you don’t want to be called a moucher or a loser or a free loader, prove ‘em wrong, DO something!
The main problem is the parents. End of story
My daughter was the same way, she pushed me once and off to juvenile detention she went. I put her in therapy and she's doing so much better. You have to put in the work instead of giving up
Exactly, giving kids expensive stuff is no substitute for Actual Parenting!
Mom’s fault and I don’t like the kids either and DUHHHH you don’t “work” for the mom. These people are dumb
I just can’t feel sorry for these parents
6:13 he's angry with her mom?? If your not a mooch pay the damn bills
That costs a fortune. They should just rent a tiny room somewhere from someone else and live in mess if they want. None of her business. If you want her to mind her own business don't take her money nor house. What about his parents? They're fine with this? Crazy.
The word NO is the answer….
Parents are the problem!
Parenting from guilt and immaturity = monster kids
You Gave it to her make here work
Her 😅
You paid for another home you spoiled here didn't make here pay it
Her her!!!!!!!
If you’re paying their bills you’re stupid .
The mother is at fault as much as her daughter and the moocher boyfriend. Now the mother wants Dr. Phil to solve what she is fully responsible for.
How could somebody do that your mother let your and your spouse in and you both live like parasites
There prolly on drugs why there so isolated
She should marry my son.
Mom sell the house
Mother needs to stop any kind of money, put a stop to it. I would allow my daughter to be on the streets I’m sorry but if you’re running out of money. Stop, just stop. I would t give them a dime.
So this is easy...STOP!
I’m sorry but it completely turns me off that you think that house is awful, do you have kids? If you don’t want them there stop paying for them
The parents of the 13 year old hold the purse strings. STOP spending, let her throw a fit and go without.
I can't even watch this episode, I can tell already this mom is pathetic it's her fault!