EP4: Does THIS Explain Everything? The Housekeeper's Diary By Wendy Berry
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Shauna x Part 4 in my review of The Housekeeper’s Diary by Wendy Berry.
A book that was banned in Britain!
It gives us a very interesting insight into the relationship between the then Prince Charles and Princess Diana and also 7 years of Prince William and Prince Harry’s childhood. It is a rare first hand account.
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“ Diana was a loving mother, but she was not a good mother “ - LadyC
Don't most parents have flaws... Sadly for them they were just very public flaws in high pressure roles. And both were not well equipped to deal with their issues and trauma.
Exactly!
There’s different kinds of “not a good mother”. I’m sure all make mistakes. But the entitlement she flooded Harry with and the lack of discipline is disgusting. They all watched as he ran his bike over and over the toes of a man. She called him good king Harry … setting him up to be “difficult”. I do feel she and Charles created this monster. Had she lived Harry would still be mean and vindictive. He’d just blame her and Charles for his misfortune. I’m mean come on. This was a kid who couldn’t pass art. Dumb.
I think we all ( most people) do their best we can. If Princess Diana would have lived longer I think she would have become an even better mom ….
Lady C also mentioned that William inherited the best qualities of both parents, and Harry inherited the worst qualities of both parents. Imo she was spot on.
Instead of protecting and comcforting the children, Diana often searched comfort in her kids and changed the parent-children-dynamic. She did this to William and to Harry.
more to William as the older and by far the more intelligent of the two
I always thought she was unstable and very difficult ., though charming and with a genuine need to do some good.
Pretty much what I thought though I did not follow the drama being too busy with my own busy and complex life
Now I have spare time.
Not really a royal watcher.
In Tina Brown’s book ‘Diana Chronicles’ she made the point that she felt she had ‘lost William to HMTQ and Charles, but bragged that Harry is still my baby.’
Diana loved them but her own lack of love and healthy attention as a child gave her an over emotionalism that might have, given a chance, to even out as she got older.
Mostly to William.
William was a parentified child. That’s when the parent turns to a child, usually the oldest child, or a female child. This child has the weight of the world on them from an early age.
Diana was mentally unstable, always wanted to be the centre of attention. She called on journalists to give her exact locations so that they could follow and cover her. Sorry to say, Meghan is actually a version of Diana.
That marriage was a disaster. It's comforting that Charles has found his perfect partner.
Well, hadnt he already found camilla before Diana. Camilla wasnt available as she was married to someone else. Such a sad situation.
I have just read Lady C's book "The Real Diana". I always knew Diana had issues, but I didn't realise just how many 😳 Charles has been blamed for waaaaaay more than he should have been 😔
Agree and all these years later he is still getting attacked by it. People have put Diana on a pedestal like Harry, she was not perfect nobody is. It takes two people for a marriage to work. I remember media kept going at Charles about when will he get married and produce these heirs. I read that he wanted to marry Camilla but deemed not suitable, Diana was young and had no past was it kinda of arranged who knows but think he did love her in his way. She was vulnerable and came from a broken home this could have been her way of a safe house.
Totally agree with you - I too am listening again - along with Kitty Kelly's The Royals
Ms Kelly lays bare everything within her book. It was banned from our bookshelves for long enough - it's even on about audible now
Hoping I'll find the Housekeepers Diary in a secondhand book shop as it's definitely on my wish list 🎉
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@Loobylooto2 oooh, thanks for the book recommendation. I will have a look for that 😃
I’m NOT saying Diana is a narcissist like MeGain or a liar like her, however, as a former staunch supporter of Diana, since MeGain made the scene a lot has come out about Diana, in part due to H & M that puts Diana in a more human but much less admirable light. That backfired for the dastardly duo.
^THIS^
H&M have actually SULLIED her memory, and damaged her reputation.
When you spoke about Diana and her dresser and how she would berate her for an hour it made me think on how Harry and Meghan where described about the same thing with their team when they were still in the Royal Family. How they would call non stop their employees on the phone and scold them about their actions and questioning them about "what were you thinking?" Absolutely horrible really but apparently at least Harry had a precedent for that behavior
A friend of my mum's made a dress for Diana over the course of a few months in the 90s after she'd separated from Charles. They used to gossip over tea about the horrors of a visit to London to see Diana and I used to listen in to their chat! On the first visit all the staff were gathered together to witness Diana shouting horribly at a male member of staff who was visibly upset. Apparently it was awful. On the next visit Diana refused to come out of her room and locked herself in. 'Having one of her tantrums' the staff said. Apparently if things didn't go D's way she was prone to threatening to throw herself down the stairs or would cut herself or threaten to. 'Look what you've done, look what you've made me do'. The staff relationship seemed to have really soured and they were living with very difficult conditions and ready to complain to a newcomer. The gossip was that during the time you describe Charles gave up many of his friends to try and please D as she was jealous. He also at one point gave up a yellow Labrador dog as D was concerned Charles loved it more than her. But no matter what he did it was never enough. She was also paranoid and distrustful of psychiatric help which Charles tried to encourage. Also the more unkind gossip was that Diana chose her charity work in order to get maximum attention and press coverage whereas Charles often did more but did it more quietly. Too much attention was never enough for D was the feeling. I think the feeling was that you could try and try with her, but she would not, or could not be happy and always felt unloved. Very sad but also exhausting for those around her and that's why Charles gave up in the end. We did not use the word in those days but I think these days we might call her a narcissist. She certainly tried hard to control those around her it seems. I've often wondered if Harry 'married his mother' as they say. Or if he is his mother. Or both. H and M certainly love attention and feel very hard done by just like Diana.
Fascinating insight! Thanks for sharing it. X
Thank you. Of course I don't know if any of this gossip was true and I'm sure there's two sides to every story but I was interested hearing it as a teen.Then Diana died and everyone really thought of her as a sort of saint. I went to see the flowers in London as I was working there myself then. Very sad. When people die young... well it's so tragic. Charles was probably not easy either I don't really know. But it's always made me a little sad the way he was vilified and made fun of over the years because even without that gossip I never liked to see one parent get on tv and trash the other parent the way Diana did, particularly when the other parent can't defend themselves. Certain types of people seem to be so good at making others look bad when actually when you look at their own behaviour you do wonder! Not very nice for her boys I thought at the time. I did actually read in some newspapers that Diana could be violent towards Charles if she was in a passion. I read she threw a heavy Bible at his head causing a bleeding wound on their honeymoon. Who knows if true? I suppose I always gave more credence to those stories than the average person because of what I'd heard, so it made me think she might be capable of it. But of course newspapers don't always tell the truth! And she's not here to defend herself. I also can't dismiss the wonderful work she did for AIDS victims. Truly a controversial cause and she stuck her neck out to bring the sufferers into the everyday man's consciousness. She may have been flawed and had her struggles but she really did make a difference. Truly a complex character.@@thevintageread
You’re right on the money they’re here. Very definitely married his mother in my opinion, as a former therapist.
I’ve always felt like he’s married his mother too. A very disturbing cycle he’s locked into.
Couldn’t agree more. Diana was no saint.
I wonder if stories about Diana's treatment of her young sons inspired Princess Catherine to focus on early childhood development.
Coming from a stable family with no doubt very happy memories of her own childhood, I’d say yes. Her heart must have ached to hear about William and Harry’s stories and by the looks of things, showed great compassion towards Harry.
Yes! I don’t think we are giving Catherine’s parents enough credit for the outstanding job they did creating a stable environment for their family, which is positively impacting Catherine and her family.
it seems Diana was a drama queen and arrested development like her second born. That is something she has in common with his wife.
Hazbeen has helped me understand Diana better and I can see that he is Diana's son. The apple didn't fall far from the tree.
@@lesgensdeprovenceontlaparo6531 watch the vintage book show review of a book called the housekeeper's diary and dscover the diana at home and away from the camera. Harry and his wife have a lot in common with her. She was damaged from her childhood, and she damaged Harry. She lived in a fantasy word. I recall an interview where she said she could've handled things differently.
The more that comes to light, the less respect I have for Diana in her close relationships. I realize that her childhood was hell and I believe she suffered from BPD, but no mother should expose her children to adult chaos. Her different personalities displayed in different situations reminds me of Harry’s wife.
Allegedly RACHEL RAGLAND have DIANA's book by Andrew Morton and she learned everything from that particular book as her diary on how to manipulate H...
I totally agree with your BPD analysis. With her background and behaviour as observed and described (street angel but house devil) it is highly likely.
Anyone who has had a BPD in his life knows what a total roller coaster, whip lash hell it can be. They are bottomless pits of neediness, drama, and they are exhausting. Viewing from the outside, we couldn’t understand how Charles could possibly prefer frumpy Camilla to the dazzling Diana. Of course, all we saw were the photos and fabulous jewels and clothes. But calm, steady Camilla must have seemed like a cool, refreshing island of calm in the turbulent, stormy sea that was Diana. Are only beautiful people deserving of companionship and love? I think we as a society are very shallow if we think so.
@MsKK909 you think society is shallow?! You just called Camilla frumpy 🤔🤨
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It was a comparison to make a point… The whole world was astonished! But obviously, I’m not getting credit from you for my supporting Chareles’ choice and for my having compassion and understanding for his placing more value on character than dazzle. And you also seemed to have totally missed my admiration for the triumph of substance and sanity over appearance. Now who is being shallow?
Diana's bulimia was the root cause of all her crying. She used to .lock herself into a bathroom and had huge crying jags while on honeymoon. It has an enormous impact on emotions. Yet she refused to cooperate with any of the therapists or to acknowledge that she had a problem and put all her bad feelings squarely at Charles's feet. At the time described in the book, she was already into her third affair.
I definitely believe Diana had a lot to do with creating the monster that is Harry. Would it have been even worse had she not passed away? That being said - he’s an adult and needs to man up and change
Fully believe that if she had not died he would be one of those grown men who never marry because they have such a weirdly close relationship with their mothers.
People from broken families have issues often. You never really know what issues they develop but family feuds never do the children much good. The most remarkable thing in Wendy Berry's book is Paddy Whiteland (Servant) saying when Harry was only 2 or 3 "The earlier he gets rid of this one, the better". Diana's fate was sealed.
Goodness, Diana sounds very very manipulating with the tears and fussing, that's not to say that she wasn't in pain, but she was certainly trying to get her way, interesting that Harold has now fallen prey to a manipulating woman, (allegedly)
Maybe that’s where Harry learned how to treat staff. From his mom.
When Diana died my Mum said it would be interesting to see how history remembers her? At the time I had no idea what she meant and couldn’t understand why she was not a fan of such a beautiful woman with such a great wardrobe. I was younger and in that stage of life where cosmetics and fashion are very important. Now, looking back, I understand that Dianna, as wonderful as she was, was a very damaged woman who was very manipulative with the press. My Mum was hearing more of the other side of Diana that was not shown in the media. Now after years of being involved with people navigating divorce, I have to wonder how much the boys heard about how horrible their Father was? Perhaps Harry found a way to get his Mum’s attention if he agreed.
oh 100% Diana was smearing Charles to the kids. Based on everything I've heard of her and her own behaviour, I have no doubt she's be that vindictive. It was said that William had a challenging relationship with Charles, and I'm sure that was him as a teenager and pre-teen taking his mother's side in part because what she was filling his ears with... now that Diana is gone and William is grown and a father himself, I think he has a much clearer vision of who Charles is. Harry... well, that's another story...
You're right.
Waaaay too much. When Diana made her incredibly indiscrete tapes with her "speech therapist" , where she spoke openly about her initial sex life with Charles, her affair with Barry Mannakee, Harry was in the room! At one point, she shushes him!!!!
If Diana was showing her disdain for others in private, you can bet she would eventually do the same towards you when you were out of the room. Have nothing to do with people like that.
Yes, she was an expert on what we now call “Markling” isn’t she? Pattern here?
This brings to light the reason Harry is as broken as he is! why he chose Megain and likened her to Diana he seen some of the negative traits in his wife that his mother had and considers it as normal his mother and father have parental issues as he and Megain! THANK goodness William found Catherine who along with her family showed him that a family can be loving peaceful unit and a marriage could be filled with peacefulness and love not tears and animosity
Come on now, there ar lots of children who had a real difficult childhood, no one calls them 'broken'.
Yes!❤
@@suupkalvers2244I definitely was broken by my childhood, but I huddled down with a Bible & a tract that taught me how to pray & gave my life to the Lord Jesus at age 21. He healed me slowly, but surely❤❤❤
The family life at Highgrove sounds like absolute hell for all concerned. But frankly, Diana sounds like a psychological nightmare. Her expectations of marriage, and of Charles, were probably hopelessly unrealistic from the start due to her personality and childhood experiences, and he was never going to fulfil her ideals of perfection. She was clearly very manipulative, and not the saint of popular perception, and it is easy to imagine how H probably finds M's histrionics quite appealingly familiar.
I remember reading Diana was a fan of Barbara Cartands's romantic novels & other romance novels, as a teen, so she probably had no realistic expectations & was trying to escape her family as well..
You are right, I knew a Gentleman who was a friend of Queen Camillas family, he told me about it when he visited my boss in Texas
In addition to your thoughts on Harry (sitting on Diana's lap), a couple of things pop out for me. First, knowing the trauma the young Princes were subjected to by Diana might account for Princess Catherine's focus on children from birth to 5 years. (My snarky snippet - might also account for Catherine not being as "active" as some of the other royals...staying home to provide emotional and physical care for her children). Moving on, the second thing. I find it interesting Diana hated Balmora and guess who else does? Meghan simply reincarnated herself into Diana and frankly, I think she truly BELIEVES she is. Harry did but that may be waning.
Love this story!
Apparently C learned a lot behind the scenes and very happy that W prepares her well from everyone involved who are willing to help even Camilla... The Middleton really prepare their children well to adjust to everything...
She thought if Diana got away with that behavior she would as well
I feel for the toddlers who are tasked with comforting their adults during mental health issues and tantrums.
Because Diana worked in a setting with small children before she married Prince Charles there was an assumption that she would also be a good mother. I don't think she was as good as the public was led to believe. Diana had serious emotional issues. She had narcissistic traits that clashed with Prince Charles' narcissistic traits. She wanted attention at all times and did things out in public with Charles to pull attention to herself. She was emotionally immature. She bullied staff. As for letting her boys "grow up normal," given who they were, that was impossible, just another Diana PR puff piece. Harry has false memories of what he thinks took place. But there's no denying the negative impact when a small child watches his mother cry every day. Diana was good at being pitiful and eliciting sympathy. Love your videos and you have a great voice for telling the stories!
One of the meaner things that Diana did was changing Nannie’s if she thought the boys were getting ‘too attached’. You should want MORE love in your children’s lives but it was a reminder of how ugly her father had let her and her brother be to THEIR Nannie’s and even her stepmother.
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Very good point…..hard on the children …..what mother would do that just because her children were happy with their nanny?
Just like they created the image of a fairytale princess with diana the press created the image of the loveable larrikin in the traitor keeping their dark sides hidden, because William and especially Catherine does not play their game they continue to bully her.
I don’t see narcissistic traits in Charles, really not at all.
I absolutely hated this awful woman. She was all about meme. I remember how papers were not about to write anything negative when she died. It literally stopped over night. Suddenly she became a saint.
Diana was hard work so sorry for Charles.
I’m loving this, what a find! After hearing about Diana crying like this, it certainly explains why Harry picked a wife who’s forever collapsing on the floor crying.
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Oh I say Now I'm sitting on the edge of my seat waiting patiently for the next chapter. So enjoying this book. Thanks Shauna for keeping us entertained
entertained, and reliably informed. which is quite something. bravo bellissima!
You are so welcome!
🌲❤🌳🌈💥😎🌳🌳💜💙@@thevintageread
@@acommentator4452As Royal authors have been shown to make untrue allegations and embellishments to sell books (the housekeeper is no different), I wouldn't necessarily call it reliably informed but Shauna's effort to try to pull info (regardless of its veracity) to provide a fair perspective via her book reports is certainly admirable and entertaining.
I like your asides and how you add to the story as it unfolded.
it is great literature showimg the many sides to a story we are familiar with over many decades.
We all had our own ithoughts on what was printed in the press.
What I thought was a bad match, doomed to failure as soon as Charles said "whatever love is,".
Diana knew it herself. The public wanted the marriage.
They fell in love with her though Charles hadn't.
Boy that staff endured a lot 😢
Sure did!
Knowing these details about Diana and Charles marriage based on staff perspective makes me think that I dont think that even without Camilla there, it would have worked out between Diana and Charles. Mostly because of their different personalities. While opposites sometimes do attract, I dont think it applies in their case. I think their differing personalities would have slowly corroded their marriage to the point where they would have eventually cheated on one another just to find some solace from their miserable marriage. I think divorce was the best thing for them, for the sake of their kids and their sanity.
It was Diana who committed adultery first. She put Charles through the ringer with her antics.
Sadly, the marriage was doomed from the start.
yes, it was never going to work. They were just too different and sadly one of their few similar traits was that they both had difficult childhoods and they both needed a supportive partner, but weren't really cut out to be that for each other. Charles' heart may have always belonged to Camilla, but he said he didn't stray until the marriage with Diana was already in shambles. He resumed the physical and romantic relationship as a way to seek happiness out of all the misery the marriage was causing them both. Diana also stepped out first, apparently, and with several men. I guess if she was miserable this was one way for her to feel desired and hopeful.
Thank goodness Charles had Camilla for support. I can't imagine what a nightmare his marriage to Diana was.
This makes so much sense. Harry picked up on Diana’s victimhood and traumatically bonded him to manipulative women. Enter meghan markle.
William took it to the place of trying to take care is his mother and take responsibility. Thank God he found a woman who is his equal, is kind, loving, and giving. And has no problem also taking care of him.
Well if D was a bully It's no wonder H thought M was so wonderful. 🤦🏻♀️
DIANA WAS A MASTER AT MANIPULATIONS!
I'm starting to dislike Diana intensely. I never thought in a million years I'd feel like this.
It has made me understand how troubled she was and how incredibly hard that was to navigate. Also I believe the marriage never should have happened and it made her even more ill and nearly destroyed both their lives. A really sad tale. However all the wonderful things she achieved still stand. X
@@thevintagereadI have read all of the bios on her and that is my exact conclusion. They were both damaged and were unable to provide the other anything that the other needed. The crown has Charles calling it a “grotesque misalliance” which is a perfect description IMHO.
Yes Diana’s star is losing its luster after hearing what went on behind the scenes. However, she was so young and lacked any guidance and support. How lonely she must have been!
@@kellimoore4488 Diana grew up with an absentee mother, who took off to Argentina after the divorce, when she needed mothering the most. Then she spent her growing up years in boarding school. I think Rachel Ragland probably had similar issues, with her mother gone during critical growing-up years, with her Dad trying to fill the void. I feel for him. My son's grew up fatherless, my family lived a good distance away so were not available and they had issues of their own, and I found it impossible to fill his shoes. Looked into Big Brother organization, but at the time, there were a few sexual abuse cases going on in that organization in my town, so scratch that idea. Thought about marrying again, but that opened another pandora's box, as few men came without children of their own, which would mean the few hours in a day I had for them would be even less because of step-children's needs, and trying to traverse and bridge values in a newly created blended family. So I did the best I could just single parenting. All-in-all, they have done well for themselves, regardless, finding their own mentors. Their networking is incredible. And I can't take credit for any of it.
@@kellimoore4488Maybe she rejected help?
Having had my share of abusive relationships, I always sucked it up around family. I think Diana was a bit stupid there.
I believe Diana made Charles get rid of his dog once they were married that was a real red light , i think Diana was a very troubled lady came from a very unsettled family
A psychiatrist called to give Diana some treatment, but Markle couldn't or wouldn't call for the same available help.
Interesting they got a psychiatrist in for her years before it was allegedly impossible for “someone else”.
Diana treated her stepmother horribly and now Harry is doing the same to his stepmother.
I heard that she pushed her stepmother down some stairs. i don't know if this is true.
@jaydee9124 Yes, she did, when in her teens.
When her father died, she and her brother ordered their stepmother, Raine ( daughter of Barbara Cartland) out of Althorpe.
Diana refused to let her put her belongings in suitcases because " they'd been paid for by the Earl"
Raine had to put everything in garbage bags and leave immediately.
After Diana's divorce and arguments with her own mother, Raine supported her, and they became friends.
She was also egged on by her sisters to slap her father, when he got married to Raine without telling them.
Diana was 28 years old when she shoved her 60 yr old step-mother down the stairs
@@DD-sc9bu Diana was lucky Raine didn’t die from that fall. Raines was an extremely forgiving woman
You're always smiling and cheerful. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Now I understand why Harry chose to be with Meghan. She's just like Mummy. How sad.
My word. It is emotional child abuse for years to both children. 😢
Cant wait for the next instalment xx
It’s terrible when children have to raise their parents instead of vice versa. It causes you to live in constant anxiety 24/7/365.
I agree. I can’t wait for the next chapter! You have me on the edge of my seat ❤. Thoroughly enjoying this book with you 👋🏻
I’ve always believed Diana was not the doting mother the world tries to paint her as. She left those boys with Charles for weeks on end while she holidayed. She confided her troubles to William and let both boys see her distress. And while Charles had one affair - she had many and some of them married men.
William is lucky he got himself through what she did. And Harry who makes all this noise about loving his mother is leaving her memory wide open to be well and truly tarnished.
Diana had Borderline Personality Disorder(BPD) & Harry inherited it.
Harry’s maternal grandfather (Diana’s Father) also had mental health issues. There is a theory that Harry had malnutrition affecting his limbic system as a result of his Mother’s bulimia nervosa. I’m am only thankful that Prince William is a sound leader and I look forward to seeing him and his wife become King and Queen one day.
Harry doesn't look quite right from his poor gestation. Something is "off" with him.
Yes. Both have fear of abandonment.
All or nothing thinking. Paranoia & perfection ideation of love. Never take responsibility. Perpetual victims. Splitting: idealization & demonization. An adult with toddler emotional development.@@bettystilt9887
What heartfelt and stunning insight you have, Shauna. I can picture that small 'dear boy' in sobbing Diana's arms, determined to one day 'slay the dragons' that caused her tears. Poor deeply disturbed man/boy, a hero in his own deluded dreams. Diana was clearly wrong, albeit mentally ill. Charles probably apologized to try and spare the boys these scenes. At least, he was concerned. I'm struck by this especially after watching your Q & A describing the plane story in Harry's book. I was so shocked by that. It was probably his imagination, too. But, the rage, revenge, and even terrorism expressed is chilling. My heart aches for King Charles, and the RF.
I don't think Charles was perfect, but Diana sounds like an absolute terror. That can't all be blamed on Charles being in love with Camilla. I pity her, but I pity Charles... in the end, William takes more after his responsible father and Harry like his damaged mother.
One note about Diana is that there were a few public instances of her randomly breaking out in fits of crying even before marrying into the family as well as on engagements. Also, important to note that while some household staff may have been closer to Charles, etc than others, he would not give detailed personal goings on to them (it's simply not done save Diana) and certainly not to any who would gossip to other household staff about it.
She was mentally unbalanced before she met or married Charles.
@@mrcury8014 the public fell in love with the charming Diana, while Charles had to live with the difficult reality, not a dream.
he probably did confide IN the housekeepers husband, because his mother and father weren"t available emotionaly.
He must have needed the therapy of gardening and the presence of a sympathetic ear. We all need to talk.
@@anne-no2ic The upper echelon does not overly confide in or familiarize with such staff. Charles WAS in actual therapy throughout his first marriage and had his own actual upper crust. It may sound snobbish but is how things operate for generations of a certain age.
Brilliantly Done! Loved this story especially the snippet about Diana trauma bonding with Harry!
Concerning the trauma as a toddler: Harry's allegedly been in therapy for 25 years. Is it possible for someone like Meghan to undo all that? Or did he just not learn anything from it?
I suppose that should be posited to a therapist, but I'm curious anyway.
A big part of it is who you go to therapy, look at the recorded 'therapy' session he did that turned out to be with a retired GP. Charles could have had him in with someone good as a child, even then they can only work with what they are given and how honest the person is being. Harry doesn't seem to have any insight into how he contributes to any situation, therefore is bringing a very biased version of events to therapy if he even brings it up in the first place.
Now as an adult he could be seeing anyone and as he is a big proponent of psychedelic therapy, unless he is seeing someone who is part of a research study on it he is seeing someone who is using it off label and probably not as intended for best therapeutic results
@amandamandamands
Thank you! Interesting.
I know nothing about therapy, but I DO know the use of microdosing is becoming prevalent on the West Coast & can be "prescribed" by just about anyone. Same with marijuana & Harry's been a heavy toker since he was barely a teenager.
Some therapists act as "yes men" rather than providing any actual medical help. If he's seeing one of those, they would just be agreeing that he was horribly mistreated (much like the recorded session, as the other poster noted).
Never underestimate the manipulations of a borderline/narcissist! They can undo 50 years in mere 6 months...
@@flyonthewall8122 Just quickly read a couple of studies on that, seems the ones that give the positive results are ones where people know that they have been given the microdose and the control know that they haven't. The couple of studies that are truly randomised so that no one in it knows if they got the drug or the placebo it didn't show any real difference and a lot of it could be put down to the placebo effect that they expect to feel the things so they are. They are speculating that you need a higher dose to actually feel the things.
The dose and way that it was being trialed to help with PTSD is different to this microdosing which seems to be being used as a general mood enhancer and antianxiety medication alternative.
Will be interesting to see if it is something that really does help or is like the way that a cigarette smoker says that smoking calms them but physiologically it is actually doing the opposite (and then there is all the harmful stuff in it too)
interesting.. the loyalty of the staff was lost because of the inablity of the King (person with authority at the time although he was prince) to recognise and respect the needs of his staff for workplace safety from Diana's obnoxiousness. Mind you - i think if he was (as I'm suspecting ) the victim of a Naricissistic abuser, he would have been struggling to hold onto his own sanity. He wouldn't have wanted to run to mummy. the staff wouldn't have wanted to escalate their problems because they would fear losing their jobs. Diana was actually a very unpleasant person .. i suspect Harry has married his mummy after all. its just this one is not protected by the palace because she was too arrogant to let the palace protect her. She wanted celebrity. Diana became a celebrity because of her RF role.
Intriguing. Looking forward to your next video. What a doomed marriage between Diana and Charles!
“Getting rid of that one”. I wonder if that’s why MM called Harry “That One”?
"This one"
@@anastesia3127now I understand where HG Tudor came up with the moniker “TOW”.
@@anastesia3127 True. I stand corrected.
Diana behaved impeccably when being viewed by the public and was her real self at home...I always wondered why no one from the rich country set had dated Diana, after all she was nice looking and from a rather well off family. Did potential suitors know about her flighty, spiteful behaviour?
That’s a good question! 🤔
The fact that she was 19 when she got engaged (and "came of age" in the late 1970s/80s - a very different time in the aristocratic realm than now) probably has a great deal to do with this "lack" of dating around.
Pre-Charles Diana vandalizing James Gilbey's Alfa Romeo with eggs & flour, for example, because he'd stood her up for a date? She was an adult who put sticky tape on car locks, rang doorbells & phones repeatedly in the night
@@DD-sc9bu wow! I never heard that ! Crazy!
Yes, I recall the incident with an ex lover, very dishy art dealer, married etc.. he finished with Diana and she called his home 300 times ! Calls were traced back directly to her. Police were involved, but the charges went away..lol.. vindictive or what ?
Maybe Meghan is Diana 2.0 to an extent we didn't imagine? Was the bad behavior of the two the reason H thought they were alike?
Meggy cosplaying Diana to keep arry on line - that's all.
Yes meghan is Diana 2.0 but without Diana's redemption qualities.
Meghan have 0 redemption quality.
Thank you for taking us through this highly entertaining book..enjoying it very much ❣️👏🏻👏🏻
Glad you enjoy it!
Harry is very much his mother’s son.
This is brilliant
Love this book!
So, I am guessing that according to this book Mrs Henry Mountbatten Windsor is more like her deceased MIL when it came to the self absorbed drama. 🤔
Well, you didn't disappoint Shauna. Another cracking chapter. I'm sure chapter 6 will be just as interesting. I really don't know what to make of Diana. She was certainly beautiful, but wasn't my favourite of the Royals.
Yes. The newspapers at the time helped her to spread lies about Charles and members of the RF. She made sure from😮 the get go to befriend paparazzi and journalists. Whenever she read something negative, she immediately jumped on the phone complaining and telling them her narrative which was in the news papers the following day, negating the truth in the previous articles. Diana had some very bad traits which the public was never privy to. She for instance knew that Princess Margaret had visited Aids patients for years without fanfare because she actually repected their privacy. So Diana decided to upstage her, tagging her paps and journalists along to create huge headlines. Only one of the reasons why princess Margaret loathed Diana. There was a book published before Andrew Nortons, book which gave an objective picture, not the skewed view, which was clearly written to put Charles in the worst possible light. Before her death, she admitted to falsehoods, regretting that she did it.
In the past I was a big supporter of Diana until I grew older and finally saw my own hypocrisy. I really do appreciate others who see that she was a human, Just like Charles and Camilla.
The destruction of mental illness has long reaching effects. I suffer from BPD resulting from basically having a narcissistic mother, a loving father, and at an early age, went through the turmoil of parents divorcing. I understand Diana’s actions because I am guilty of them myself with my own family. It’s very sad that either of us suffer from this. I don’t know if Diana was ever actually diagnosed with BPD, but it certainly sounds like she suffered from it. I regret my resulting actions after the fact, and throughout my life I have tried to change my behavior which in my early years I totally didn’t understand, but it seems to arise no matter what I do. It’s an inner struggle constantly. I, too, had a bad relationship with my children’s father and I, too, raised two little boys. I noticed the same behavior in Diana that I suffered myself as I watched her story play out in the press. I still have to sympathize with her. I don’t condone either of our actions, but I totally understand. ❤️Our boys even became the same kind of men, my oldest taking great care in taking the reins he was destined for while my youngest has serious struggles. Neither Diana nor I asked for the lives we were given in many ways and neither of us were prepared to live them. ❤
I actually say a lot of that in the next video!
Loving this! Great insight into their lives.
I'm thoroughly enjoying this.
I thoroughly enjoy your interpretation of this book. I checked and its a bit pricey for me. I would rather have nice flowers for the money as well as listen to you give us the great story telling. Have a lovely Christmas season and a joyous New Year! Thank you from Florida.
Please keep doing these. I’m hooked
What a disaster Diana was a lot at fault similar personality as Harry
I'm reading the book, and I didn't pick up on Diana putting Harry on her lap. Yes, that explains a lot. Great job!
Awesome! Thank you!
I hope this book that was written years ago . I hope it now makes people realise that there was never a Saint Diana . She had many problems and put Charles through a lot. I think you are right maybe this is why Henry has it in for his dad . Has blamed it on to him seeing mummy upset.
Loving these snippets of the book!
Shauna, thank you so much for these amazing insights into Charles and Diana’s marriage. My late much loved mother couldn’t stand Diana, she always said she was a manipulative little madam. I would defend her saying she had a difficult childhood but mum wouldn’t budge. Mum was a very perceptive woman.
3:05 Yes, absolutely spot on Shauna. 👏 Harry remembers that undoubtedly felt the distress. And since we know Diana would rely on William as a sort of confidante and would 'vent' to him, both boys were traumatized in different ways. It's always sad to see the older sibling(s) remember more and have a different opinion of their parents than the younger sibling(s). This book is very interesting! 📖
P.S. Random question Shauna, what is the set of books right behind you? They burgundy and black books? I can't for the life of me zoom in enough to read it clearly. Hahah
Using William as a confidant is truly the worst to do to your child. Even when they’re older. They’re always your child and their mom. They don’t want to hear anything.
Encyclopedia?
@@jillruben8924 definitely Jill. It makes me feel for him because he had so much weight on his shoulders as future King and then to be told about your mother's love life and frustrations with family & friends, by your own mother (😲🙅♀️😣) is a heck of a thing I can only imagine. 😔
@@carolbaughan8768 ohh yeah, that's probably it!
@@OsloTimeNot only that. He also had to deal with a younger brother who always got into trouble and had the same histrionic disorder as his mother. I think Vatherine and her family hepled him a lot to overcome that pain
Loving this. Please keep reading 😊
I'm so enjoying your sharing of this book. ☺ To be honest, Diana comes across as an OTT dramatic nightmare to be around unless you were someone she wanted to hold a fond image of her. She sounds always demanding, manipulative and sometimes cruel. And an immature, spoiling &/or self-absorbed mother. Fair take or not hard-core Diana fans would NOT like this book!
I had to wait up i could wait till morning ❤😂😂😂😂
I've really been enjoying your reports on The Housekeeper's Diary! 🎉 Thank you. 😘
This makes so much sense. Thank you. However, as a grown man he has the ability to find people to truly help him.
Diana was definately flawed with mental health issues. And yes her younger son has married a woman who reminds him of his mother .. through the eyes of a small child her behaviours are amplified .. hence She of the Hobbit feet.
She obviously loved her sons,but turned the eldest into her confidant and the youngest inherited the weaknesses of both parents ..amplified of course. .. many oportunities missed ..imo .. She had the same need for approval on a world scale . .. in this case we are seeing the sins of the mother and father revisited on the child ..
Not the father,Prince Charles never criticised Dianna to her sons
Looking forward to the next chapter.
Fascinating details that proivide explanatory info. Thank you so much for this. Used book looks fairly expensive.
Out of print now x
Look forward to these highgrove videos. Thank you!
This is great. I want to read the book❤
Awful, disgraceful behaviour on Diana’s part - utterly selfish and manipulative
Charles does inspire tremendous loyalty from his Staff, and he treats them with respect. The Spencer family breakdown had alot to do with Diana's fragility. Everyday I appreciate Catherine and the Middletons more and more. Harry should've looked at Pippa as a potential partner, though he'd probably have messed it up.
I agree - Diana's emotions would have been transferred to him (sitting on her knee) as she cried. I'm sure she didn't intend to hurt him - but that would have a pretty deep impact on him. On the other hand - he is NOW an an adult - and has had enough 'therapy' that he should be able to now behave like an adult. He needs to find the courage to escape from his wife's grip - IMO.
I don't agree with what Harry has done but having had a traumatic childhood myself, I can understand Harry's anger. It took me until my late 40's early 50's to make peace with everything.
I love the way you tell the story. Thanks and Im looking forward to the next installment!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Such an interesting book! Looking forward to the next installment.
Glad you enjoyed it!
So Meagain must have read this book too then, hence the cry by the entrance, etc. A way to control him & manipulate him.
Such a sly, evil thing to do.
Just love these interesting book reviews from you❤❤❤❤
Always will love Diana but she did cause trauma to those boys.
I can't wait! What a remarkable book
I because skeptical of the poor Diana when she said that prince William was passing tissues under the door because she was crying. Looking at that huge palace I have to wonder how good of a mother was Diana, that she couldn't hide her personal drama from the kids, or from the public. The time she was in front of the cameras looking very dramatically to the ceiling, that was over acting for the 8th row's sake! Ridiculous.
Prince William grew up balance, he had more of his grandmother's stoicism Harry was seriously damaged and more like her. Trauma in childhood is devastating.
Thoroughly enjoying this book.
Great review. 🌟
Ok, hold up!!! I have Jack Russells. They are absolutely the smartest dogs! They are the easiest dogs to potty train I've ever had. Right now I have Lily, my 2 yo Jack Russell. She's probably the smartest dog I've ever owned. She knows me better than I know myself! She loves me unconditionally. I literally believe she would die for me. I also have a 5 month old Australian shepherd, and while she's also extremely intelligent, she's a stubborn little brat (well, not little bc she's 50# and full-grown she was supposed to be 40# 😒), and she's still not completely potty trained and has accidents quite often. She also pretends she can't hear me bc we also have a deaf pitbull. She's learned the pit gets away with more bc she's deaf 😂
😂🤣 If it’s your loved pet you don’t mind potty training them! I imagine an employee would resent the additional work! However being a dog lover I would have found it an added bonus! 💗
I can't help but think about random times I have acted out as an adult. It's certainly not common for me but I sure don't want a book written chronicling those events!
Enjoying this very much Shauna. Keep going please ☺️☺️😇
I’m so enjoying this book ❤
I am a sucker for a childlike face. I find it so hard to believe someone with such a lovely face could be so cruel. Ergo Meghan and Dianna are a conundrum to me. As is even a utube interview with a young mother who’d murdered someone after torturing them. She came across as a lovely young woman with an angelic face, so sweet BUT with no remorse. It’s so hard to put together what we know by evidence about these people and the innocent faces they show to us eg the Tom Bradbury interview with Markle.
I still think MM is in a WHOLE different category (universe?) of cruel, ruthless, and nasty. I think Diana acted out in bad ways being a traumatized tormented soul, but still had truly good qualities.
@@hanginlaundry360 I agree with you but I see no redeeming qualities in Meghan at all. Sometimes she seems quite scary, I wonder how the children will turn out. I believe Archie is their child because he has Meghan’s lazy eye but I don’t think she carried him. Lily I’m not sure but I don’t believe she was pregnant with either one of them. Harry always seemed to love children but I think they may keep him so doped up, who knows how much time he spends with the children at this point. A match made in hell in my opinion!
Goes to show, never judge a book by the cover.
Diana was not particularly popular with the general public at the time she died.
Why has Meghan isolated harry from all his British friends. He has no one now except her and doria, living in a foreign country.
I just love this book and you’re reading of the chapters. I’m really getting a clearer picture of the family dynamics. Thank you !
I'm so glad! Next instalment Jan 1st 2024 x
Did C n D argue every time ? I kinda feel badly that Diana isn’t alive to perhaps defend herself…. Thx for another review!!! Remind us when you go off on holiday so we can watch a older video to keep your numbers up❤
Don’t worry it gets balanced out in the next few chapters! 😂
Checking out your books behind you as always! I’m an American and Nancy Wake is one of my heroes!
I wonder if Meghan also read the book - maybe that is why she was on the floor crying after the bridesmaids episode as well as other times where Harry found her crying.
I wonder if M got down on the floor when she heard H coming. It wouldn’t surprise me.