Face your Decluttering Fears | You Can Do This!
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- On this episode, we start off by decluttering as we normally do in the basement! Then I start to discuss how I always feel a little anxious right before I start a basement decluttering video. That fear has lowered over time but it still exists. So I declutter scared anyway! And once I get started, the fear always disappears as I become more confident in my decluttering abilities!
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Love the story with the sewing machine. How cool to be able to give it to it's original owner's family member!
I got goose bumps when she told the story. 😢❤
That is so awesome! ❤ Very sweet. It was meant to be. What a gift to share it with a family member who holds special memories with it.
Yessss! I think it was divine timing for her to be in that group and find her Aunt’s Sewing Machine! I live in a small town so they knew it was us who bought her house!
I think the previous owners had issues with hoarding too, wasn't that right?
Me too ..
I just took a bag of clothes from my husband and daughter to Goodwill. A local charity was collecting tees so they got a bag, too. I gave craft items to another crafter. We don't have much space so things have to fit. Tina, Al's wife
Love Love Love my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️ You are doing so amazing big my friend 🦄💜🌟
Good news regards sewing machine!!!! You let it go when you ready. That's the best part. 🎉
Ive slowly been going through our attic. I just was able to get rid of 3 more bins of stuff and took them to donate
You have no reason to apologize. We have all done it. You got through it.
I understand that anxiety very well. Oftentimes it’s too strong to conquer and that’s why stuff gets put into bags and stuffed out of sight. I get the same panic too.
Also that pink polka dot bin...I'm so here for all the 80s vibes!
You're so kind to share your journey with us!!
What a great story about the sewing machine!
Lovely big space cleared this time!
I love it when the things get put in the area or bin with like things
You did a nice declutter ! 🙂
Ironically, I have no attachment to your Little pony collection or your drinking glasses from the 80's. However when I saw the case to your sewing machine I knew immediately what it was. I was so glad when you took off the cover and I saw the machine. Those heavy duty all metal vintage sewing machines have real value to the right people.
I Am A sewer, and I had a genuinely visceral reaction to the thought that you were going to let that machine go.
And then when you announced that someone was going to pick it up (and she had a sentimental attachment to it because it was her aunt's) immediately I felt as if a genuine wait had dropped from my shoulders. It just goes to show how hoarders develop attachments to their own possessions and just "stuff."😅
I searched for the right person to take my Mom's cast iron Singer sewing machine from the 40s. Found a pro seamstress/quilter who took it. They never break down, and are worth their considerable weight in gold.
Yessss! We create this emotional attachment as if it’s an extension of ourselves!! I am so incredibly happy it went to a family member!! I was so happy when she said it was her Aunts!!!! It was divine timing for sure!!
Your videos are always so motivating. You have chopped away and chopped away at the massive clutter and will soon be ready for the downsizing of what you are keeping because you will be ready for those more challenging decisions. Good luck and keep up the good work.
WOW! What an amazing story about the sewing machine!
Absolutely love it!
It gave me goosebumps. Was meant to be! ❤
Dealing with items from passed loved ones takes a bit of work for me. I recently donated an item. My first impulse was to rid of it. At the donation center it hurt my heart. Now I doubt my decision. So I know I have to sit and pray for clear vision to discern between those items I really truly do want in my life because of positive reasons and those items I keep because of those million reasons we hoarders have up our sleeve! Doubts and regrets are going to happen. But I don't want them keeping me from moving forward.....even if moving forward means feeling more regret, which it certainly will! This is life. But this life here is not my forever home, and this thought is what I have to hold onto during the difficult moments which lie between holding on and letting go. LOVE YA!!!!! Denise
If you have children they will appreciate you doing the decluttering instead of them. My mom only kept one small item from her mom and her sister. And she(70) is slowly decluttering her entire house and garage and only leavingstuff she needs for sure.
Just a quick tip for saving baby shoes - You might want to put each individual pair in a ziploc bag. I recently went through my childhood memory bin and my baby shoes (the bottoms) had disintegrated into a sand like material. Luckily, mine were in a ziploc bag because if not it would have gotten everywhere! You can even write on the bags about why that pair was sentimental (for ex. my coming home from the hospital outfit is all organized like this).
damp traps too... like from pill bottles -silica packs, and I also use white chalk... sealed in bags can still get musty if there's enough humidity already in them...all my totes and vacu save bags I add a couple of pieces of chalk min... If I have lavender I also add that too.
For me de-cluttering is extra difficult because I’ve held onto things I’ve been waiting to do. Children done, single again, hoping for a house and have held onto furniture and craft things I love. But storage units are costly to maintain, until I ever get a home. I’m late 60’s.
Your waiting and holding on until you purchase a home. If I am permitted to say I would get rid of any storage units and hold on to a few good pieces of furniture and crafts. Enjoy your life now and don't stress about the future or getting a house. Please start enjoying everyday of your life
@@vvvv-h8m You may say so, and Thank you. My main difficulty lies in not being sure of who I am. I finally left a very malignant, covert narcissist husband of many years, and was raised by the same type of parent. So it’s a lot of forging healthy, new neurological pathways and learning how my brain works. Trying to de-hoard my apt before I’m asked to leave.
we did that as well tho stored for free at my mom's basement... its worth it to downsize more... if there are key pieces irreplaceable then for sure keep them.. if its the same furniture everyone owns then probably get rid of it.. min aim to downsize to a smaller unit.. if its several yrs for upsized home the fees may not make it worth it. things you keep pack them HIGH: pack n stack. fabrics/clothing.. .vacu save.
we also took a load every time we visited to sort through if there was anything to downsize... and when we went back.. brought the totes back to store, better organized and labeled.
I would film or take pics of everything then see what to get rid of...I found taking pics makes it easier to get rid of things, I also take pics of keeps esp if they are important.
I have a ton of hobbies and it can take me yrs to go back to them... so I downsized everything... fabrics ( still have a lot), paints, puzzles etc. I might keep a few items but for the most part... assessed everything I had. ex I might knit so I kept 2 large bolts of yarn. scrapbooking... kept all the stickers and embellishments I think I want to use.. I cut out or remove any ones I don't want.. donate or give to family.
If there are kids stuffs... see if your kids want them for their kids, keep a few favs toys or clothing. we are still hoping for kids.. so I don't really touch the nest egg to downsize those... I have checked them before, and got rid of some things- esp checking for things no longer recommended to use get destroyed etc ( made some cat toys out of positioners).
IF there are things you would want them to get when you die... give them now see if they want them. when my oma moved we go all that stuff and were able to enjoy them when she was still alive.
when we upsized here a few yrs ago I thought I was done w downsizing our stuff... but soon after some things I wanted for my future house... wasn't for THIS house.
plus this house was nearly turnkey w everything too so we had to downsize some things that came w the house which was extremely easy.
Congratulations on hitting 50 thousands
SO nice for her!
❤ that Strawberry 🍓 Shortcake lamp! All the sentimental feels!! ❤
What a wonderful happy ending to the sewing machine story!❤
You have come sooooo far!!!!!
Would love to see a video showing then and now 😊
Good job! That's wonderful about the sewing machine...It's a small world sometimes and that will make you feel really good about letting it go...
That is awesome about the sewing machine. I gave my mother's old black sewing machine 20 years ago and now wish I never had.
I think we all we really love to see the whole basement so we can really see your progress ❤❤
that is a really good sewing machine and will last forever (whoever has it). I know people who work on sewing machines that are 170 years old to make them work again.
That is a beautiful old sewingmachine too. Maybe you want to put it on display once you got your crafts corner. Just put it on a nice shelf to look at even if you're not using it. I'd understand that. I have a 100yr old beautiful sewingmachine that doesn't work well, but it's on display for that same reason. It doesn't have much resalevalue, but it's aesthetically pleasing. Edit. I didn't watch the video further but I saw you got another great option for it that doesn't give you a bad feeling to pass it on. Beautiful!
My Mom had a sewing machine just like that. Same color and all. As a matter of fact. It is sitting in my sisters house. We just can not get rid of it. The little table Dad got for her to sit it on. Also, has a lot of memories. Of my childhood. They are 6 kids in my family. 1 boy (oldest) 5 girls (i am the baby) 😂 60 years old. 😂 when we needed a hair cut. Dad would take the sewing machine off the table. Each one of us kids would take turns. Sitting on that table so Dad or Mom could cut our hair. Makes me tear up just thinking of those days. You are doing so good letting things go. I have got the memories in my heart. If my sister would one day decides to get rid of it. Really enjoyed the video. Sorry about my rambling.
You are doing so much progress and inspiring me so much to declutter everytime i watch your videos.
I just did my first declutter of baby clothes after 3 kids and I definitely had to work through that anxiety. Knowing that some of it is going to a foster baby helped a lot. I’m not sure I would have been able to get rid of as much if I hadn’t had some motivation from these videos. ❤
each eps you do... it looks so much better... don't ever forget how far you have come.
I do different cleaning styles... which leads to churching some piles... IF I just need it tidy I will dump things in containers, bags or totes ( sometimes shove into another rm to hide to deal w later.. esp things that fall on the floor- I try to avoid this as much as possible.
its easier on my back to have stuff in a tote to move around/off the floor.
It is definitely easier to clean each time around. when I was younger I used to deal w things one box or drawer at a time.. it seems w junk tossed in a container its easier to deal w that way. bigger houses, garages and basements makes us think we should keep more stuff.
sorted a few containers last/this week- a little recycling went, some stuff to the washer, some stuff to hand wash or put in the tool zone... most are keeps. there is ALWAYS something to get rid of or recycle ( ewaste, hazardous waste if applicable etc). things can get missed but I try to put donates, ewaste, recycling into certain spots.
Well done! Your success is so motivating.
You are doing so great and you are doing it quickly 😊❤️
Replaced a smoke detector and tossed the old. I had a good large tarp that was too heavy for me to use so put a free sign on it and it disappeared within the hour!
Great job, as always 😊
The only churning I want to do is to make butter!!!
Today is the first day of summer !! You are working hard. Relax well at the shore!!!
Great job
Fantastic job beautiful lady congratulations 💜💜🦄🦄
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No offense but my main sewing machine will never leave!
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My mom kept baby items and I can tell you, my sisters and I didn't want any of it. 🤷♀️
I think you may be sitting on a gold mine. I have been watching thrifting to resell videos and vintage items (80’s & 90’s) stuff, is selling for big bucks.
Maybe let more stuff go? It’s ok
I think it's finally time to start zoning the basement. Double check the play area is being mantained and then create that craft corner and work out corner and storage corner officially. It will help to move along your process. Best wishes. 💜. Remember a home is for PEOPLE , it is not a storage locker for STUFF.
Been decluttering our basement. One container at a time. Tomorrow it is two things to work through. Then clean that area. It is slowly making a difference. Congratulations on 50,000 subscribers. Shocked that it isn't over a million. You have really helped me keep going with decluttering. Thank you!
Thank you so much and I am so proud of you decluttering in your basement!!! I am cheering you on every step of the way 🎉🎉🎉
During covid I was home and went through all the 24 bins of items that belonged to my sons from clothing to toys to school items. Let me tell you that they only wanted their first baby shoes and nothing else. Sadly in that bin lots of items smelled of musty odor. Im surprised you have not mentioned this because the rubber of containers stank everything up. I'm glad you are going through the bins a second time around. What I though was treasure for my kids they simple tossed it out. Imagine keeping those bins for 35 years and once I cleared it out not one bin was left. And truthfully I kept always stressing about organizing those bins for so many years and all that stress was lifted off my shoulders when my sons said mom we don't want these if we ever have kids we will purchase NEW ITEMS. Not everything is valuable and worth holding on to. What is important is peace of mind
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us!! The only smells from the bins I had was when a few tubs got water in them & it turned moldy inside!! But the “regular” bins I haven’t noticed a strong odor…yetttt! lol
The cat is a valuable team player.
Thanks for the video
Thank you so much for addressing the disorder. So glad how you shared the process of initially letting go of the sewing machine and then addressing that you weren't quite ready and that this time you finally were absolutely ready to let go. You validated my feelings of when I am promoted to let go when I'm not quite ready. Thank you because there's still a possibility to overcome holding on and I absolutely loved that you gathered the likes with the likes to finally make a decision on what to keep i.e. baby stuff, etc... thank you
What a lovely episode today. You made a huge dent in the basement and got rid of loads of rubbish. I was also so pleased that the sewing machine had a home to go to, and I really think that is why you couldn't get rid of it before. Fantatsic work it is looking great in your basement. X
I’m trying to De-clutter my Bedroom. I LOVE my stuff so its difficult! Over 30 years of all sorts of beloved stuff. I have Charities collecting every 2-3 weeks, so things are leaving the premises. Also being thrown away.
I can’t believe the hoard of brand new stuff! I’m gradually seeing some light… but only I can see the improvement. Still a very long way to go. Very traumatic.
Good idea putting stuff together and then going through again. SO MUCH STUFF I had bought 2 and 3 times over because I couldn’t find it when I needed it. Phew!!
I know the feel, I'm in my 30s and my parents just brought me ALLLL the stuff I owned as a child and teen to sort through. Now I see how much I've actually accumulated over the years and for some reason it's hard to throw things away that somehow have good memories attached to them. Even if you didn't see or need those items in a couple of decades. Weird, isn't it?
Great work! Yay that you were able to let the sewing machine go, and that you found a good home for it!🥳👏👏👏 Congratulations on 50 k subscribers!
Put the weights and other gym stuff in a tub as well, for if the basement is leaking again, also it will stay condensed because after hubby is done with the stuff he can put it back where it belongs easily. 😊
We just did a major declutter. We had a dumpster and threw out so much stuff. I took two loads to donate. Two big bags of towels I’m donating to the animal hospital. We did “churn” a few things for later. I had tubs full of fabric with all the intentions of using it. Most was donated. Still a lot to do, but we have breathing room now. We took a lot of photos to remember some things, but have no regrets of letting it go.
You are amazing!! Can’t wait to see a basement update! So much space cleared!! ❤
don't forget to label the bins Ms Heart, that is one of the best tools for organization you have.
I am so proud of you Ms Heart for clearing out another section of the basement. However, what I was most excited about and really please about for you, was that you acknowledged you intend to do a full Komari declutter of your all baby things one day. 🙌 I think if you allowed yourself to do that, it would be so freeing for you, especially if you allowed yourself to really let go and have that full emotional release. I am certain that when you get to that point everyone who has followed you from the beginning will be here cheering you on and supporting you in the comments and encouraging you to take that next step in your emotional growth and healing. 💛
Also, I was so please for you that the sewing machine found a new home with someone who will appreciate and look after it as much as you did. I can fully appreciate how much that will have eased your anxiety and helped encourage you moving forward.
I am so so so proud of you! You've come so far and I know admitting these things you've shuffled or kept when telling us you're getting rid of it is super hard to admit and share! But I think it's a big step! There are so many layers and layers and each layer gets harder but you're doing great!! ❤️
Congratulations on 50K subscribers🎉 so well deserved❤
I really hope you set up your own little crafting area in the basement and out that strawberry shortcake lamp!!!! It’s darling!!! ❤
I almost cried about the sewing machine. So special! ❤
I know, I actually did!! It was such divine timing for sure!!!
Doing great! It's fun to have a goal, but it's ok if it takes longer than a summer, we're here to join you as long as it takes!
You're doing so great! No way should you apologize for not letting the sewing machine go! I love the happy ending and how it went where it needed to go!
Congratulations for reaching 50k subscribers and 💝💖 I love the story about the sewing machine!🤗😘 G9d bless and cheers from Ontario Canada. 🍀🌷❤
the fact that you actually overcome the fear and face the clutter despite of it is such a big achievement!
i am really fond of your channel and journey, because you show 'real' cluttered spaces and talk about your true emotions, share your strategies to overcome your disorder and the deeper levels of its causes and you make decent progress every time.
Thank you so much my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️ Your encouraging message truly means the world to me 🦄🩷🌟
That sewing machine story is so amazing. What are those odds???
So glad you have found the "counterattack" to those "messy collaborators" Love your journey! Enjoy all your expressions ... but "tossy tossy" is still my favorite!
Putting the stuff ur hubby needs to go through in a bin altogether was a really good decision. Proud of ur recovery Ms Heart🎉🎉
Who still remembers Skylanders? I do still have a box of them .I used to collect them when I was little my .favorite one is hot dog
That's awesome that the sewing machine found it's rightful home❤❤Your timing was perfection!!!
Excellent inspecting, Miss Pepper!!!😻
Your videos are so useful, thank you
Thanks again for explaining all the emotions and reminding us all that it’s ok to feel this when we go through our own stuff. You got rid of so much so quickly too, you are doing amazing 🤩 I’ve my friend coming for another hour this week to help me go through another section of the room I’m decluttering. I love the happy ending with the sewing machine 👏 Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐈
Don’t forget to label EVERY bin on 2 sides!
Such a great job!!!
Homeless shelters often Welcome and need random craft stuff for kids' programs, (along with clothes, shoes, etc., of course). I know that you are plugged into many contribution centers.
I’m not a hoarder but when decluttering, I ask myself a few questions. If it were to blow up would I try to replace it the next day? If no, it’s gone. I also try to remember that if I were to pass, my child or family would have to go through all my belongings. I don’t want that pressure on them. I try to stay a minimalist! I hope this helps some with similar mindset!
Love that that sewing machine got back to a familymember. And Great job at facing your fears!!!
In Ireland, there is a service where you can turn the shoes in iron. It's a kind of material they put in the shoes to coat them in iron and you can put it in display in the house.
When I was a kid, 65 years ago, I remember a pair of bookends made with my brother's baby shoes, preserved in bronze. 😊. It was amazing - you could see every little crease and scuff in the leather.
I’m not a tossy tossy. I’m a sell, and donate gal
Yay congrats on 50000 subs
Good job on this tossy tossy, by th eway!💜
Wonderful that the family member came to get the antique sewing machine...see your instinct played a role in getting the machine back to its former family ! I use the Hefty stand up clear storage bags to sort my hoard of items. The Hefty Bags have a self seal at the top and handles. I can instantly see what I have in those storage bags which have handles too. Pepper the cat is emotional support and inspector at the same time. ❤
Honestly that first part can easily lead to a slippery slope of holding onto things until they can go to their "perfect forever home", while decluttering is often anything but perfect.
Yay!! ❤
I'm not a hoarder but I have anxiety about letting go of sentimental items way more anxiety than the other methods seem to help with. I don't always feel relief when I declutter I can get frozen.
. Your emotional decluttering method helps me.
This video helped me to know you have those fears as you film yourself.
its ok to keep some sentimental items.. if there are things you had good memories of but might be ok w getting rid of, and the things you are going to keep too... take pics of them...at our old house I got rid of some things that were sentimental... it helped keeping the memory w a pic... and I do that for the keeps too. esp bc disasters happen.
Thanks for your amazing vulnerability and truthfulness. So helpful. You are the only person i really follow each week and look forward to each segment. So congratulations on reaching 50 thousand describers!!! I agree you should have more as you are a rare find of honesty and Gods grace❤ blessings and care from NZ.
Oh, the sewing machine story is beautiful. I have my mom's old sewing machine from college and it is turquoise as well. I still ask her for help with sewing but those old machines are unbeatable!
You really inspire me. I had a friend help in my basement. We donated big stuff and burned a bunch of trash. Now, it’s one tote or box a day…
You will find your sons will want very little, more than likely, when they are older to keep anything you've saved for them. Maybe it's a good idea for them to go through their bins now and start the declutter. This way, you don't need to clutter up more space. Just an idea.
Great job! You are making wonderful progress!
Congratulations on the 50K plus subscribers! Well done.❤
Hello from Germany, hi Miss Heart and miouw pepper 😻🎉❤, you can be so proud of you
That’s so lovely the sewing machine went back to a family member. Hopefully the guilt of holding on to it longer has gone now cos you obviously did that for a reason without realising it. 💖
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You are doing great! ❤❤❤❤❤
I think in the future you could rent a massive storage and restore the basement with lots of storage with closed doors for the boxes, plus hubby corner, plus kids play/videogame/homeschool/kids office, plus craft area for you to record your videos. Then slowly you could declutter the storage by subjects and bring it back to the house, and get professional labels for the boxes. You could pair with an architect who is a youtuber too. Then you could start helping people with their decluttering too.
Great job!!!
🥳🎉💥💞 Congrats to 50k 🦄🌌
Love it
Does ur husband go through his stuff?