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- 3 Tips for Making Better Parenting Decisions As we push in to 2023, I will start doing more content like this; parenting tips, Q&A's etc, allowing us to talk a little more and give you guys some advice, tips, tricks for our perspectives and experiences. A lot of you have been asking for this for a while, and I have yet to feature it, so stay tuned for it.
This was off the cuff, as you can see, but pls leave ideas, questions, comments, and future episode suggestions below, and I'll get going on them.
Appreciate you guys being along the ride with us, and of course, I'll continue to document trips, and life and get ready for a whole lot of home content as we wrap up our project and begin future projects.
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newsflash!!! you have paid support to assist…huge difference! we have 1’chef, 2 drivers , 2 nannies, and 1’housekeeper and this is a huge huge help!! Many parents can’t afford the assistance you have or we have!
My older son just today informed me that 1 of the best things that I had ever done as a parent was, Besides Loving Him, was my honesty and having grace. We tend to forget these children we create are humans. They are honest and often show us parents grace as well. The 2's for me was a growing/learning season (me and child) each child different. They become more resilient at this stage. Try to embrace the seasons as they come. They go by very quickly. You guys are doing 👏🏾. Remember honesty and grace.❤️
Discipline is the hardest for everyone, we were all raised differently so it comes to making sure you have a balance of both styles because we’re all not right or wrong just different.❤
i look at a child crying as a form of communication baby’s and toddlers don’t have any other way of letting us know they’re needs if we remember this during the stressful times the child and parents will get through it just fine ❤
When a family is so blessed as yours how do you make sure your child understands how fortunate they are.
i mean you guys have a nanny for home and traveling....lol enough said
Dear Brendan Fallis, I admire your determination and intelligence! Congratulations for all your achievements, especially for being such a hard worker, good son, friend, brother, husband and a wonderful father!! Thank you always for inspiring us...
Love what Hannah said at the start of the video re the child living in your life, because they don’t know any different. Excellent.
I’m a parent of a 30 year old. Notice..I say parent because you’re never done with being a parent. That’s the great part about it. I sometimes need to remind my husband of that. They are always learning and we are always teaching whether the child is 3 or 30. I have always stressed to our son take time together as a couple away from the kids because you still need to have that closeness between each other because one day the child will grow up and go to college and then it’s you two again. The bond will be stronger than ever because you as a couple haven’t given up on each other or forgotten the love. We have been going strong for 32 years and I hope we have another 40 years to go. Hold onto each other and Preston because I’ll have to say it’s going to be the most craziest, fun, quick ride you will ever have and it’s so worth it!!!! 😊
So true! I lost my mom at 31 and I miss her so much, I still ned a mom,
i'm 34 weeks pregnant, and watching you two parent is very inspirational. I don't have many people I can muse off in this area, most people make it look hard and depressing, if i am honest! Please do a part two, would love to hear all of your tips and tricks. Preston is adorable btw.
Best Advice ever, Brendan lives your life and not the other way around, if you guys got that already you are geniuses! It took me a min to to figure that out but my daughters best memories are those where she was doing things that were part of the adults lives so to speak! Oh and I firmly believe there are no bad kids, only bad parents. As you say meltdowns happen, that doesn’t mean you have a ‘bad’ kid, it just means they may need a nap or maybe they are overwhelmed, who knows? It is your job to figure it out and fix it, not look around and worry about what other people think
This was so refreshing. Thanks for letting us in on one of your convos you two.
I love that you guys did this. It's so real and vulnerable and beautiful. Well done the both of you.
Someone who has three kids “find your own way” TOGETHER. It’s good to take advice from people but you have to find your own way!!!!
I appreciate you guys saying everything you say about parenting. My kids are older now and they always point out what I do wrong or right but ultimately I just remind them that mom did the best she could. And they just say your right and no one is perfect . At that point I get an amazing hug. So just do the best you can.
I really admire that you guys are able to listen and respect each other's perspectives because, its true! One is not more right than the other. I have also heard that certain parenting styles work better on other kids and not so much on other kids because they are all different and have different needs and personalities. It really is trial and error. Disclaimer: I am not a parent (Yet!) ☺
I'm like Brendan too, I always want to fix it quickly & i love being the safe haven. But I've learned along the way, that it makes them not take you seriously bc they know there's no boundaries with you & that you'll cave. Also their behavoral & emotional habits begins to be so different around you, almost like they revert backwards. I help raise my nephew with my mom & he acts very good with my mom. He listens & speaks clearly of what he wants, super independent, but when I'm there or when he's alone with me, he's very whiny, super super clingy & suddenly loses his independence, & looking back at those baby stages with him, I should've let go a bit.
Lovely discussion, great points; you guys are amazing parents, a fabulous couple - continue doing what you’re doing - loving, communicating, thriving & sharing, etc…❤
parenting is different for each family. Depends on your lifestyle and occupations, etc. Just do it your way and everything works out well ❤
You ‘re wonderful people and very privileged people with a lot of paid help raising your one child…so l don’t think u can advise other parents without coming across as deluded
Was gonna comment this exact thing. Millionaire parents have very different parenting styles than fixed income parents. They literally went to get couple massages while their kid was napping!!!
I don't think they were trying to advise anyone. They were answering a number of questions that we had put to them and were discussing their own experience and thoughts on it.
@@fionahislop2889 exactly. And their experience will be vastly different than the average person bc of their wealthy. They have access to nannies, the latest tech, therapist, and unlimited vacation etc, that make their experience not applicable to the broader public. It’s like taking financial advice from someone who was born into generational wealth. Doesn’t make sense even if they’re being “helpful”
@@fionahislop2889 Tips are small snippets of advice
I think most parents who “complain” and make comments about how hard it is are just looking for some companionship in their hard times and somebody to understand them. Not everybody,sadly, has the support they need form their partners or family and they feel often alone in their hard situations. Does it mean everybody will struggle the same? No!
Also many couples don’t really talk enough about their expectations and beliefs when it comes to children and raising them.
The “Just you wait” is the biggest misconception…HUGE. It is not true… it depends on raising and your own child’s personality … among other factors…how children turn out. Every child is not the same.
You all appear to be hardworking, healthy, affluent parents living normal but above average-mean lives and you seem to have the basic formula right. The balance can be universal. i.e a single mom of 2 living on a teacher's salary stills needs a healthy percentage of alone time, creative endeavors, travel etc.. The real power to influence/support people comes through sharing one's "testimony". Keep sharing as authentically as possible. I am a retired grandma living in middle America who thought she was watching a home renovation channel😂🤣 but I get a lot of inspiration from a couple of young "professional D.J's".
Great Q&A! I think it’s important to see other people’s experiences so that you know everything isn’t one dimensional. Although you two have resources that others don’t that help you have a healthier balance between parenthood and personal life it’s inspirational to see. It give you something to push towards in your own life when you see the possibilities.
❤❤❤the transparency
Well done guys. It's all a learning experience and like you say, there isn't a manual for any of this stuff we call life. I look back and i do think I would change the way I reacted to something or change the thing I said - but that was what happened then and it is so easy to look back and wish you done something differently. We all just have to do the best we can and hopefully learn and grow along the way.
My son is 24 now and I would give anything to have that 2 year old boy back again for just a few moments...... I was at university, working and raising a child by myself and I am constantly amazed at what a lovely, sensitive young man he is now inspite of all that was going on in his young life.
I am with you both.....there are consequences for everything in this life and it is so important that we show this to our children and not have them floundering as young adults. Real life is a trip!
Never miss an opportunity to tell your beautiful boy and each other that you love them. You are doing just fine :-)
Loved this video!!
Just more of this as well as what you guys already share.
Honesty is always best for parental advice or in life. I'm a mum of two toddlers and have found most advice we have gotten wasn't helpful because it wasn't honest. I am lucky that me and my husband try like yourselves to communicate through it all even when we don't agree on some things we always hear each other out and respect each others view. Too many people want to seem like they are "perfect" parents, but I'd rather our kids know we wake up every day and put in the effort to be the best parents for them, as we possibly can be, with challenging moments you learn more about yourself and your kids and can be better for each other. I have learnt more from our kids on how to parent them than I have from any other source.
Thanks for sharing. Have a safe and happy holidays.
Nothing is perfect but you guys are truly blessed and are doing a great job with parenting and your marriage is beautiful. Everyday will not be sunshine. Sometimes rain which makes you stronger. God Bless.
The best gift any parent can give their child is to allow their child to witness their parents loving each other faithfully,honestly,respectfully ,purely .I loved the Scorpio analogy and how you realized you should break patterns .So many comments to be made for this video .I will sum it up with Classy !!🔥❤️Btw the apt is 😍 Happy belated birthday!!🎉🎉
Great job guys! You’ll are doing doing the best you can, with the blank slate given. Continue growing in love and respect for each other. Little P is the luckiest baby to have you as parents 😊
One of my biggest peeves about people giving unsolicited opinions and advice how to raise kids and parenting. People are so rude and invasive. People from all walks of life have been raised differently. I think you guys are doing great with Preston giving everything he needs and raising him the way you both see fit as his parents.
Does it bother you that Preston seems to gravitate more towards your husband than you? Or does it just seem that way in your videos but in real life it’s not so?
Maybe its natural for him to gravitate toward the same sex parent. Or maybe in the videos B is the most active and kids love activity. Jus guessing.🤔🤔🤔🥰🥰🥰
Toddlers change who which caregiver they gravitate more towards all the time my son has flipped between me and my husband several times already
Preston knows....
She’s spoken on how she struggled with accepting the moments that P prefers time with B. But they both said that P has those same moments with Hannah it just feels more when it’s happening lol.
Been watching your vids for some years. You two feel like real fam to me now😊❤ I really like this one.
Could not agree moreee with the annoying “you just wait..” comments from people. It gave me so much anxiety when I was pregnant of what was to come. I feel like I relate to you guys so much as parents in a sense that you both continue to do what you love and being parents have only just pushed you to continue to be better versions of you! ❤
As a new mother, I needed to hear this. ❤️
How different would your parenting journey be if you didn't have the family's wealth and help to support you?
I wish they would be honest about where they get all their money. Acting like they get it from dj’ing and small scale influencer buisnesses haha
@@alexnico7715 SAME. like its awesome for them
nothing to be ashamed about....
You lot are so lame with the family wealth shit. These guys are so open about the range of ways they make money. Short of showing us their actual bank account, I don’t know what you want. The consistently talk about, their very wide investment portfolio, their product businesses, subscription businesses, artist management, real estate. Dude they are so open about having multiple business lines and sources of income, here you are mouthing of about family wealth. Brandon parents are consistently featured on the channel, and they are clearly comfortable, but does that look like the kind of “family wealth” that is funding their lifestyle, clearly not. And because you read somewhere that Hannah family is very wealthy, you have decided that what, Hannah’s father is funding their life?? Dude they bloody rent their house in Amagansett out every summer for extra income, but here you are mouthing of about them living of “family wealth” Shut up please.
When Hannah said “Preston lives our life.” I was happy she said that, because I wondered how having a baby would change the lifestyle you two lived. I thought you’d nut up having to put your world on hold to be with your kid 24/7, but luckily you have a nanny who can go with you and your not apart from your child. I remember the videos when you were trying to get pregnant and how upsetting it was and I loved the video where Hannah had to start giving herself shots but the pharmacy was closed and you found someone to go and get you the medicine. That was amazing. I agree it’s not cool to have people tell you how Preston is going to be, just wait and see. As he gets older he’ll be different than he is now, you’ll all be adapting and you’ll figure out what’s best for you. All the videos I’ve seen Preston is always well behaved, yeah he has melt downs, frustrated, but that’s because he isn’t talking enough to say what’s going on, but he will soon enough. You guys are great parents, keep doing what your doing.
Right on the money you said it exactly Hannah, meltdowns happen, we as adults can even have them. I have two kids {29 & 19} Neither one-of them had a terrible twos threes or fours. Preston is the cutest Bean. Parent accordingly and those things don't occur ✨
Loved this sharing of your thoughts, guys. And at the end of the day it's all about the common sense and love that you guys have for one another. Sending all positive vibes and love to you, Hannah and little P!
This was a great conversation, I love the realness and rawness of your answers. Parenting is such a rollercoaster, it’s a wild, fun, confusing ride that is so rewarding, but can ware you the hell out if you let it consume you. Thank you for sharing. Please do more of these. Question: how do you build a solid support system?
I think every parent will parent as they see fit anyway. But getting educated and reading helps so much more and exactly what Brendan says try to be present in your children’s lives. I always do something special raising my son we went to dinner once a week and he learned manners out in public as he grew up. How to open a door for a lady was important to me and how to treat women is so very important.
You do you!!. One can by one's mistakes. We all learn as you go along.
Always a pleasure to see you two, now three in this form.
I lived in Lyon France for 10 year's and when Hannah said " the baby lives in our life not us living in his" I think that is much more a French why of life then an American why they run wild bringing them here and there .
Forget about what other people have to say about your personal life as a family.
Hannah I believe you lived a much more of an international life.
Love you guy's! ♥
I’ve enjoyed watching your podcasts and how you are with Preston. I think your doing a great job
wished I had such vlogs at my time. But sooooooooooooooo grateful that the younger generation do! Love this....enormously!😁😁😍😍😍😍😁😁😍😍
Love the convo in this video, so insightful! My question would be whats something you are excited to do with Preston as he gets older and/or something you want to make sure you dont do that was present in your/your siblings childhood?
Please speak more about travel with a baby…
And do you think having multiple kids would change your lifestyle?
This was amazing and really interesting thank you for sharing. You guys are doing an great job at being parents.
you both are an inspiration and such a lovely family always enjoy you vlogs,and videos
Loved this content and it's fun getting to watch P grow up. I've raised 4 kids and found that the teen years were my favorite with all of them. I can verify that the "just you wait" until they are teens line is BS.
Preston is a very blessed little guy to have you two as parents!
For many this Q may sound absurd given Preston’s age, but NYC parents know all too well that planning for your child’s education starts early. What are your thoughts on P’s education? Public vs Private? Bi-lingual immersion school etc?
I mean this is cute and all but you guys live so far from reality with a full time nanny.
Stickers books a reward, my grandson is 3 he puts things away once he knows he's gonna get a gold sticker, end of week, a treat sticker, book, tv limited and ipad 2 half hours through a day, what you feed into their brain has a big effect on them...that old saying Patience Patience and rule NO1, is if a tiff is brewing between you the parent, go to a different room out of earshot!!! hey theres no manual...your doing fab!!
Excellent Info! Thanks for sharing ✨🎈❤️
Fun content. 2 Questions: what’s the best thing you’ve done with Pmon that is free or cheap? And what’s the best thing u’ve done with Pmon that costs bank!!! Mazel tov 👍🏽
How did you find travelling and the schedule. We recently took a family vacation up the coast and had a major derail on our routine. We might be turning a corner 4 months later, but I guess my question is more a logistical one. We through caution to the win, but I definitely wouldn’t advise that. 👀🙄 cause it derailed us for 4 months. Thoughts?
I was hoping someone would tell you this as i AM NOT COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR SHOW and I come back to see how little "P" is doing.So here it is: crying is his only communication, a cry from the bed could be I'm scare, I woke up and heard a noise, or I had a bad dream, whatever, all he needs is a warm hug from Mom or Dad, a reassurance my parents are there, that's all, or he could be wet and cold..Same as when you take him out and he cries, just give him a hug..You both mention "your Joy" together, not once did the words "joy" and Preston appear in your talk. It feels like he is a problem to solve, not a loving presence in your life you want to share as a family. I am sorry for you both and hope these talks help you both grow up and look at this little human as a "joy"..I also think it is "brave" of you both to put this request for answers out to your subscribers.
I luv you guys, Preston has 2 cool parents; I had really cool parents too!! and I think you're both doing a great job at parenting. Also I agree that the husband & wife relationship is the first bond; and it shouldn't be neglected when they have children. I love they way you two are always on the same page about life in general, thanks for sharing; God Bless Y'all
You guys, this is SO COOL. When I was considering having a child, my boyfriend and I sat down and TALKED about this stuff. We tried to consider it with open hearts and minds. I told him, 'If we have a boy or girl, I ask that you do the dishes sometimes, for example. Because kids respond to what we do, not what we say. And I don't want a boy OR girl getting the idea that there is no partnership in this home between us.' Then, we talked about if one of us died...and we were alone. We are both big travelers and we got the Lonely Planet Guide to Traveling with Children, which was basically advising: SLOW DOWN and it is possible...HA. And we talked about strapping a kid on our tummies and going to India and Turkey, Mexico and Greece. We were working musicians without medical coverage so we talked about that. We wanted to stay in music and we wanted to be content with our lives because that is something a child FEELS from the people around them. I said, we have to be a strong couple. The child needs a foundation that is basically US. So the child is the spoke in the wheel. We are the center. He was super honest. And, oh my god, to be consistent! SO HARD. I was super honest. In the end, we did not have a baby. It was the best decision I ever made. We are not together now and I am single and free and I live in Europe...I have a full life and no regrets. What I know is this: Parenting is the most important work. And, I was not up to it. So I did not do it. Thank you for the share. Take care. Steph
Hannah can you share dating clothing fashion?
1what to wear for a date?
2how to style fashion can you do a video? please
3 styling tips for going out?
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Any tips on traveling with a baby? And what to do about their schedule on vacation? Traveling for the first time with a 9 month old and don’t even know where to begin
This is an excellent conversation Merry Holidays
Brendan you and Hannah should write a book for you couples using these examples. I like the fact that you recognize that your mother spoke to your mother a certain way and you don't want to project this behavior onto Hannah. A lot of men don't recognize this, nor women recognize how to speak to their spouse.
Brendan speaks so softly
my fav vloggers 💕
Thanks, mom and dad.💏👨👩👦
💞✨A great video, with supportive, fab tips.
I’m sorry I missed the live, chat.🥰
Really gd video. I love watching yall. I'm currently preggers with baby 3
And agree with many of your sentiments and practice many of them with my 2 boys. 2 and 4 yrs old lol.
I can also vouch for how quickly date nights can be overlooked or just spending some time with you husband. So we try to be very purposely with that. Having a village around you if you can is super important and obviously routine with your children. A
Life is not always perfect. Life has challenges Rollercoaster of life.
i have been married 52 years and raised 3 children and still in love , survived the tough times and truly embraced the best times. Remember your relationship and son is your own. no one else.
One suggestion. Be consistent in discipline and in sync Culturally moms of color don't take no mess and love their babies.
This is for Hannah (not about parenting). I see that you also vlog in some of Brendan’s videos but, when I went to your UA-cam channel I don’t see any recent vlogs. Do you have another channel? 🙂
What do you think about Preston is nature and nurture?! I always wonder which bits are which with my daughter!
Really loved this!!
Oh my god left her speak!
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This was fun! My daughter is a similar age, 2 and 3 mo. How do you manage the other person's parenting style when it differs from your own? Do you sometimes call it out, or accept that you do things differently and keep quiet even though you might want to suggest they parent differently?
How do you travel with Preston? Do you take the nanny along?
Once your at your destination, do you guys take turns doing an activity?
Love y’all ❤
Im sure most people know that all kids and every family is different. No one intended to annoy you or try to force their parenting skills on you guys. We were just trying to show we cared.
I have Polycystic Ovarian syndrome and I have been told that I will struggle with infertility. Lately, my moods have been up and down along with some really bad symptoms I won’t bore you with. During the fertility journey with Preston for both of you, what methods of communication worked the best?
Start eating yucca and sweet potatoes
@@yashmunjames-filipczak2621 thank you so much💜
Hannah, you said Preston is stubborn. May I suggest you rethink that label? Stubborn has negative connotations and I’m sure its frustrating, but it may be more constructive to see his stubbornness more as persistence, which is a positive. As both you and Brendan know, it takes persistence, grit, tenacity and endurance to make it in this world. Foster that in him from an early age. You are so right, though, distraction is the best tool to redirect him to something more appropriate. Maybe try negotiating? That is another skill that will help him in the future. You guys are doing a great job!!!
You guys are doing great.
I love y’all ❤
Thx you for sharing ❤🌟🤩
The terrible two is so not true. They are developing and learning more those first year than ever later on in life. They are getting independent and creating them selfs as person. It can result in melt downs, but it's also something that is very needed for a childs development.
He’s 2 now. Any talk of a brother or sister?
Oh my god, I can’t believe you are both Scorpios, I am and I can’t imagine my partner being a Scorpio lol! Although he is a Gemini so go figure
Good video, deep and sweet❤
I really love you gays ♥️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
HI Brendan and beautiful Hannah 😍
1 would you like to adopt more kids and from what country?
2 Hannah can you do a video twice a week about your fitness journey? please
3 can you do couple dance challenge hannah pick the music?
4 if you had to go back to school what would you study?
Love you!
Crying is a pre-verbal child's method of communication. Children do not cry for no reason.
How are you teaching and exposing Preston to his Black heritage?
Def check out RIE parenting you speak of not having an education to lean on for help. Their practice is rooted much more in mindset and philosophy than specific recommendations. Seeing your kid as a whole human ready and knowing how to learn from brith is very powerful to come to understand. I know it's pretty obvious but it would have been nice to hear from you how lucky and privileged you are to be able to have a nanny and hire help whenever it is needed. Much easier to put into practice your advice when that is easy todo and yes its obvious to you to that that isn't easy for most parents to afford
TRYING TO TELL FIRST TIMERS ABOUT CHILD REARING AND EVEN THE COUPLES LIFE/LIFESTYLE....THAT HAS BEEN SOMETHING LATELY! PEOPLE ARE NOT AROUND (ALL THE TIME) TO PUSH STUFF. CAN IT BE SPACE (FOR FUN) WHERE THESE TYPES OF SPEAKING INTO ANOTHER'S LIFE ISN'T SO PERSONAL. I CAN SEE FOR MYSELF WHO EACH ONE OF You ARE. BUT EVEN FROM OTHERS (YOU'LL) You TELL HOW THOSE IN YOUR (COMMENTS) REACT: AND You RELAY, PERHAPS HOW SOME FEEL THE SAME AS You....THAT'S HUGE! A LOT! IN CONCLUSION, I COULDN'T AND DON'T HAVE A CHILD(REN). RELATIONSHIP I'M NOT OFFICIALLY IN, AND I JUST TURNED 55 (SCORPIO)...BEFORE IT ALL, I'M A WOMAN OF GOD!!! GOOD, DECENCY, LOVING, PROPER UNIONS, SOUND RELATIONSHIPS, HEARTFELT ATMOSPHERE AND ENVIRONMENT SETS THE STANDARDS!!!✌️🌹🕊️❤️
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I can see that you both love Preston but you left him for 10 days to go skiing in the Alps and I couldn’t get past that.
Doing that is well beyond making sure you’re living your life and not Preston’s. It’s selfish and adolescent. He needed you.
I noticed that for sometime after that he was always afraid that you would disappear on him….predictably so. It was in my opinion incredibly insensitive to him and his reality.( and having your Mother there, the one he didn’t know at all was not an answer.)
Good conversation 👌🏾 One thing for sure, Preston is a G 💯🤎