I’m not sure how I got to this channel but these stories have captured my heart and provoked my tears. I have no experience as a foster parent or as a foster child but I must say.... I can’t even begin to imagine the pain and fear you all must feel. My children are grown now and away at college but I’ve always saw myself being a foster parent at some point in my life. These children and those like your selves have been through so much turmoil and deserve to be in a loving home with kind people surrounding them who are willing to be emotionally generous and sincerely empathetic to any child(ren) that enter their home. I am so sorry for the atrocities you all have had to endure. I pray for you and for the families who receive you. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
9/21/16 the day I entered foster care, first to a group home, then 3/28/18 I came to the foster home in at now, soon I'll be moving to an independent living home until I age out foster care. And how you said "I live 2 lives" well that is really true. When I visit my mom once a week for 2 hours, that's an amazing time, I hang out with her and go places, if course a social worker supervises because of my mom not having license. My story isn't the only story as I can tell from looking on UA-cam. But I wanna make a difference in future foster kids lives, somehow. Maybe donate to homes, sponser some kid for christmas, little things. Just to help them. I don't want then to feel like their alone. Thank you for making this video.
I hated foster care, I still blame myself for being taken from my parents,I was only 4 when I was taken,I spent 10 years in the system, I was adopted at the age of 14, I never got to see my parents again,I'm still hurting,the trauma is still real I still blame myself
EllieEliOllie &mommy, it is just because I haven't really had time to fully understand why everything happened,and I still go through everything that had happened, it's not been a fun road,I'm 24 now,and I'm still fighting off the PTSD from so long ago,but it has gotten better with time and from the support of those who love me
I'd like to be a foster parent at some point and anything I can learn helps. What could your foster parents or caregivers done to make things easier for you. Besides obvious things like, being a decent human being and actually giving a crap and not just being in it for the money.
EllieEliOllie &mommy, I went through counselling for my issues, but due to the age I was, I developed PTSD from being so young,I have to live everyday with it,yes medicine does help me,I'm slowly working on talking about my past, I would say that the only reason I have been able to is because I had those who encouraged me to talk,but they didn't force me to,I'm now 24 years old, and still trying to make sense of my past
So far everything is accurate.... except, you should have left out the duffle bag part! No one in their right mind is going to give a foster kid a duffle bag. You may have put that in this story for dramatic purpose but it's a lie. Anyone with common sense would never introduce something like this to a foster child. This 13 year olds reaction was about right, now she has a pretty new bag and not a trash bag for when she is moved from foster home to foster home.
Juanita Beazley that is sometimes true about the garbage bag, I had it happen to me, I spent 10 years in the foster care system,so I do know it happens sometimes,I can't say that it happens to a lot of foster children,but I was one that it did,for the 10 years I spent in foster care,I was in about 12-13 different foster homes,but it was because I didn't know how to respond to what was happening around me
My reaction to this video and the duffle bag comes from experience. Crystal, you're probably right, not a lot of foster kids go through this! When their young and cute people think it's their duty to provide better things like duffle bags, hell, half of these kids show up at their doors in the middle of the night. God forbid we grow up, mom always saying she 's better, she's off drugs, she quit drinking or even "I swear I am not seeing that man anymore, you know the one who raped my kid repeatedly!!"..... EVERY time we were taken from homes where we never felt that pain we were thrust back with that vile woman who wouldn't know love if it bit her face off! Surprise surprise, she hadn't changed and off to a new home we went. 1st it was trash bags, then duffle bags. Then no one wanted a preteen/teenager and back to trash bags I went. Foster families only wanted cute little kids, so I joined the world of group homes.....That Grammer child (maiden name) or bed number 3 in room number 4. Then my 18th birthday rolled around.... I didn't get a gift or a cake, I got aged out of the system and left to fend for myself! So, I did what I had tried to do for 15 years. I knew no one wanted me so I did everything I could for people to except me, when I say people I mean men and when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING! I''m 48 and this feeling never ends.....
Juanita Beazley ,I'm so sorry that you went through all that,it isn't easy,I still have a really hard time trying to fit in with people,or even getting people to accept me,and I never forgot what happened to me, I have developed PTSD from it, the system kept giving my parents a chance,they did it for 4 years before the system realized that my parents weren't going to change,it was the worst part of my life, I just can't get the memories out of my head,the memories affect me everyday,and I'm going on 25 this year, none of it is easy,but I feel your pain, I was ripped away from my parents when I was just 4 years old,was 14 when I was finally adopted,and have spent the last 10 years trying to understand why my birth father did what he did, and why my birth mother didn't stop it, I will be praying for you
I feel so bad for you. I am almost twice your age and I wish I could say it will get better. For you it might! For me I didn't even realize i had a problem until 10 years ago. I wanted to end my life because I felt as if I was unwanted, I wasn't loved and no one woulds except me.... before 10 years ago I thought that people wanted me and excepted me. They were men and you can guess what their acceptance felt like. I try to hard to make people like me. I go out of my way to help others, whether it's with money or deeds. The worst part is when I talk to someone about it and they say I should look deep inside and find the real me........ Seriously?! For 1, I have been running from "me" my whole life because it hadn't worked out so far and #2 No one wants "Me" so why would I want me? My advice to you isn't to find yourself..... that "self" you're hoping to find isn't the self you want nor need to be! There's a plan for you out there, maybe it is to turn these negative feelings you have about yourself into a positive or maybe God wants you to take in foster kids and never let them feel the "garbage bad effect!"
Juanita Beazley, I don't know what religion you are,but I do attend a online church,and when they knew what my past was,they still accepted me,it was the first time I ever truly feel accepted by others, I know that it will never get 100% better ever,at least not for me, I will never be 100% better, I battle a lot of mental health issues,but I want you to know,I accept everyone as they are,and that includes you,I know that we don't know each other,but I will promise you this, you are accepted by me
I hate this. It brings back so many memories.
I’m not sure how I got to this channel but these stories have captured my heart and provoked my tears. I have no experience as a foster parent or as a foster child but I must say.... I can’t even begin to imagine the pain and fear you all must feel. My children are grown now and away at college but I’ve always saw myself being a foster parent at some point in my life. These children and those like your selves have been through so much turmoil and deserve to be in a loving home with kind people surrounding them who are willing to be emotionally generous and sincerely empathetic to any child(ren) that enter their home. I am so sorry for the atrocities you all have had to endure. I pray for you and for the families who receive you. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
This all made me cry so far
This makes me so sad
9/21/16 the day I entered foster care, first to a group home, then 3/28/18 I came to the foster home in at now, soon I'll be moving to an independent living home until I age out foster care. And how you said "I live 2 lives" well that is really true. When I visit my mom once a week for 2 hours, that's an amazing time, I hang out with her and go places, if course a social worker supervises because of my mom not having license. My story isn't the only story as I can tell from looking on UA-cam. But I wanna make a difference in future foster kids lives, somehow. Maybe donate to homes, sponser some kid for christmas, little things. Just to help them. I don't want then to feel like their alone. Thank you for making this video.
love it its rly sad tho
God bless you
this not our fault at all
A BROKEN SYSTEM BY DESIGN
I hated foster care, I still blame myself for being taken from my parents,I was only 4 when I was taken,I spent 10 years in the system, I was adopted at the age of 14, I never got to see my parents again,I'm still hurting,the trauma is still real I still blame myself
Crystal Smith why do you blame yourself?
EllieEliOllie &mommy, it is just because I haven't really had time to fully understand why everything happened,and I still go through everything that had happened, it's not been a fun road,I'm 24 now,and I'm still fighting off the PTSD from so long ago,but it has gotten better with time and from the support of those who love me
I'd like to be a foster parent at some point and anything I can learn helps. What could your foster parents or caregivers done to make things easier for you. Besides obvious things like, being a decent human being and actually giving a crap and not just being in it for the money.
EllieEliOllie &mommy, I went through counselling for my issues, but due to the age I was, I developed PTSD from being so young,I have to live everyday with it,yes medicine does help me,I'm slowly working on talking about my past, I would say that the only reason I have been able to is because I had those who encouraged me to talk,but they didn't force me to,I'm now 24 years old, and still trying to make sense of my past
Wow only 10 comments now 11 😆
So sad
I’m so sorry I use to be a foster kid
YOU HAVE TO FIND METEORS THAT WILL TEACH YOU THE RIGHT WAS
It's mentors, not meteors. and Ways not was.....but it was a nice sentiment anyway!
Sólo sad
Non of it is your falt
wat wat ubaot kopu Ison your right it's not her fault I hate when this happens it's so sad now 12 comments
wat wat ubaot kopu Ison yes
So far everything is accurate.... except, you should have left out the duffle bag part! No one in their right mind is going to give a foster kid a duffle bag. You may have put that in this story for dramatic purpose but it's a lie. Anyone with common sense would never introduce something like this to a foster child. This 13 year olds reaction was about right, now she has a pretty new bag and not a trash bag for when she is moved from foster home to foster home.
Juanita Beazley that is sometimes true about the garbage bag, I had it happen to me, I spent 10 years in the foster care system,so I do know it happens sometimes,I can't say that it happens to a lot of foster children,but I was one that it did,for the 10 years I spent in foster care,I was in about 12-13 different foster homes,but it was because I didn't know how to respond to what was happening around me
My reaction to this video and the duffle bag comes from experience. Crystal, you're probably right, not a lot of foster kids go through this! When their young and cute people think it's their duty to provide better things like duffle bags, hell, half of these kids show up at their doors in the middle of the night. God forbid we grow up, mom always saying she 's better, she's off drugs, she quit drinking or even "I swear I am not seeing that man anymore, you know the one who raped my kid repeatedly!!"..... EVERY time we were taken from homes where we never felt that pain we were thrust back with that vile woman who wouldn't know love if it bit her face off! Surprise surprise, she hadn't changed and off to a new home we went. 1st it was trash bags, then duffle bags. Then no one wanted a preteen/teenager and back to trash bags I went. Foster families only wanted cute little kids, so I joined the world of group homes.....That Grammer child (maiden name) or bed number 3 in room number 4.
Then my 18th birthday rolled around.... I didn't get a gift or a cake, I got aged out of the system and left to fend for myself! So, I did what I had tried to do for 15 years. I knew no one wanted me so I did everything I could for people to except me, when I say people I mean men and when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING!
I''m 48 and this feeling never ends.....
Juanita Beazley ,I'm so sorry that you went through all that,it isn't easy,I still have a really hard time trying to fit in with people,or even getting people to accept me,and I never forgot what happened to me, I have developed PTSD from it, the system kept giving my parents a chance,they did it for 4 years before the system realized that my parents weren't going to change,it was the worst part of my life, I just can't get the memories out of my head,the memories affect me everyday,and I'm going on 25 this year, none of it is easy,but I feel your pain, I was ripped away from my parents when I was just 4 years old,was 14 when I was finally adopted,and have spent the last 10 years trying to understand why my birth father did what he did, and why my birth mother didn't stop it, I will be praying for you
I feel so bad for you. I am almost twice your age and I wish I could say it will get better. For you it might! For me I didn't even realize i had a problem until 10 years ago. I wanted to end my life because I felt as if I was unwanted, I wasn't loved and no one woulds except me.... before 10 years ago I thought that people wanted me and excepted me. They were men and you can guess what their acceptance felt like. I try to hard to make people like me. I go out of my way to help others, whether it's with money or deeds. The worst part is when I talk to someone about it and they say I should look deep inside and find the real me........ Seriously?! For 1, I have been running from "me" my whole life because it hadn't worked out so far and #2 No one wants "Me" so why would I want me?
My advice to you isn't to find yourself..... that "self" you're hoping to find isn't the self you want nor need to be! There's a plan for you out there, maybe it is to turn these negative feelings you have about yourself into a positive or maybe God wants you to take in foster kids and never let them feel the "garbage bad effect!"
Juanita Beazley, I don't know what religion you are,but I do attend a online church,and when they knew what my past was,they still accepted me,it was the first time I ever truly feel accepted by others, I know that it will never get 100% better ever,at least not for me, I will never be 100% better, I battle a lot of mental health issues,but I want you to know,I accept everyone as they are,and that includes you,I know that we don't know each other,but I will promise you this, you are accepted by me