It is sad that people come into relationship with complex expectations and they are quick to quit in periods of discomforts. Not willing to work things out. Young people seem to enter into relationships with mindset of having a perfect mate. I wonder who is promoting this mindset. So sad and this the root cause of broken marriages, relationships and broken men and women.
Discomforts can sometimes be deep depression and deprivation so 🤷 Also not just young people, I have seen and known women to quit after 30 yrs marriage etc.
Thank you Michelle Obama. Those who don’t want to compromise, don’t get married and don’t get involved in relationships because you don’t want to adapt
People are ready to sacrifice their social life, sleep even health for a job. But for a spouse or for a child (which are the most important things btw) they have a hard time thinking of compromising or sacrificing!
Married 38 years and heading to 39 and beyond. We live All In/All In. All money in one account, no separate accounts. All chores shared or divided by who can do it best. Consequently, our lives haven't been distracted by more or less or fair or not. We were and are instead All In to move our family forward. I don't think we would have been as successful with these divisions. Just my alternate reality. Lived and true.
Marriage takes work and it's never 50%--50%. That's just silly, altogether. Stages of relationships are necessary. We shouldn't be at the same stage of maturity at year 10 as we were at year 5 or year 15 as we were at year 10. It's just reality and natural progression which occurs in solid, fulfilling relationships. Mature love is the very best love. People don't experience longevity in marriage without understanding there are natural stages of maturity involved in maintaining love over time. It's not all about "romantic love" which, unfortunately, is what most women are sold on but do not understand we must mature beyond the early stages of romantic love and embrace a growing, mature love which is sustaining over time for both spouses.
MICHELLE OBAMA 😍 She’s sharing such great wisdom! For the people who are commited to misunderstanding 🙄 she never said women have to slow their careers for their husbands, she just said that she did.
I think the important thing is to ask the partner: are you willing to support me in this dream? And not take for granted that the other person will assume the burden just because they are in a relationship or married, you know. It's like asking: do you want to be in this together? Because some dreams come after the relationship started, and if you're there with kids, it's like.... Ok, we hadn't talked about me raising kids alone full-time before having them... just having real conversations could save, or portrays the need to end, a relationship.
I also think that our system is set up to allow men to succeed where women have to sacrifice in their career to have kids. We need more collective support for families including daycare, maternity and paternity leave, and more care.
I think compromise is a very important word when it comes to marriage--a word that's always looked at mostly in a megative light, but really it isn't. It's okay to learn to compromise healthily in relationships so long as the communication between both partners is open, caring, and kind.
@@bloom4096 And most black women are misandristic and unmarried. And unfortunately statically speaking have the lowest marriage rates and highest divorce rates in America. So what’s your point? At the end of the day, Michelle Obama and Kevin Samuels gave the same message/ blueprint for black women.
The problem is when it's 70-30 one way. Continuously. That's why I'm tired of my "wife." I'm the 70 (in reality more like 75) and she's the 25-30. It's not worth it.
Marriage is not 50/50. BUT, one should NEVER feel that they are always giving more. I've been married 49 years. Sometimes I feel I give more, but other times I feel my husband is. Sadly, I did not get that feeling from the interview. :-(
@@kendrick8749We don’t know that, could have been a dream that developed later. It also really doesn’t help that culturally we’ve trained men to expect the woman to be the eternal, motherly giver once married. If that’s the case…it does raise the question of “Why get married?” to ambitious women.
@@kendrick8749this was before all of that though. In her book, she says he wasn't living up to his responsibilities in the early years of their marrige w/ the kids.
Anda, Obama dan George Bush bukanlah contoh pemimpin yang baik, jangan pernah memberi wejangan untuk orang lain, dikhawatirkan akan salah kaprah, kesalahan yang kalian buat bisa jadi menyebar. Hentikan ini!!!!
Michelle Obama is SO accurate. Too many people give up and don't put the work in. Marriages take work. The former First Lady is intelligent, wise, articulate, and so right!
Salute to Mrs. Obama for telling the absolute TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Micheal could say anything in y’all would agree in believe it smh 😒🙄🤦🏾♂️
It is sad that people come into relationship with complex expectations and they are quick to quit in periods of discomforts. Not willing to work things out. Young people seem to enter into
relationships with mindset of having a perfect mate. I wonder who is promoting this mindset. So sad and this the root cause of broken marriages, relationships and broken men and women.
Discomforts can sometimes be deep depression and deprivation so 🤷
Also not just young people, I have seen and known women to quit after 30 yrs marriage etc.
@@annabanzon313 God bless you. You are right 👍
Man I love this...I pray we can salvage our marriage.
Spot on: let’s hold an emergency think tank to figure out how to salvage their relationship. 😅
Thank you Michelle Obama. Those who don’t want to compromise, don’t get married and don’t get involved in relationships because you don’t want to adapt
People are ready to sacrifice their social life, sleep even health for a job. But for a spouse or for a child (which are the most important things btw) they have a hard time thinking of compromising or sacrificing!
Yes Thank you Michelle ❤
Yes Thank you Michelle ❤
I definitely needed to hear this.
Married 38 years and heading to 39 and beyond. We live All In/All In. All money in one account, no separate accounts. All chores shared or divided by who can do it best. Consequently, our lives haven't been distracted by more or less or fair or not. We were and are instead All In to move our family forward. I don't think we would have been as successful with these divisions. Just my alternate reality. Lived and true.
Marriage takes work and it's never 50%--50%. That's just silly, altogether. Stages of relationships are necessary. We shouldn't be at the same stage of maturity at year 10 as we were at year 5 or year 15 as we were at year 10. It's just reality and natural progression which occurs in solid, fulfilling relationships.
Mature love is the very best love. People don't experience longevity in marriage without understanding there are natural stages of maturity involved in maintaining love over time. It's not all about "romantic love" which, unfortunately, is what most women are sold on but do not understand we must mature beyond the early stages of romantic love and embrace a growing, mature love which is sustaining over time for both spouses.
Absolute
MICHELLE OBAMA 😍 She’s sharing such great wisdom! For the people who are commited to misunderstanding 🙄 she never said women have to slow their careers for their husbands, she just said that she did.
And she also said clearly that she did that because of how she wanted her family to look like
We all should hear that and that love is a verb.
Words of wisdom both newlyweds & older couples should heed.
I used to live down the street from her for 17 years on 71st & Euclid, used to see her at Italian Fiesta
I think the important thing is to ask the partner: are you willing to support me in this dream? And not take for granted that the other person will assume the burden just because they are in a relationship or married, you know. It's like asking: do you want to be in this together? Because some dreams come after the relationship started, and if you're there with kids, it's like.... Ok, we hadn't talked about me raising kids alone full-time before having them... just having real conversations could save, or portrays the need to end, a relationship.
Marriage is a life time commitment. It's few who made it to the end. I admire the late QE2. She set an example for the world to see.
I also think that our system is set up to allow men to succeed where women have to sacrifice in their career to have kids. We need more collective support for families including daycare, maternity and paternity leave, and more care.
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I think compromise is a very important word when it comes to marriage--a word that's always looked at mostly in a megative light, but really it isn't. It's okay to learn to compromise healthily in relationships so long as the communication between both partners is open, caring, and kind.
Thanks for the words of wisdom, Michelle ❤
They feel like wisdom to you what if it’s wrong would you admit it
Very mature arguments 👌
Love ain’t easy but nothing thats easy is worth it
Exactly what Kevin Samuels was trying to tell these modern women. I agree 100%.
Facts 💯 these boards gonna be cat lady’s.
a lot of people's brains shut down when his name is mentioned, you'd do better not saying his name
💯💯💯💯💯
Kevin Samuels was an unmarried misogynistic con artist 😂😂
@@bloom4096 And most black women are misandristic and unmarried. And unfortunately statically speaking have the lowest marriage rates and highest divorce rates in America. So what’s your point? At the end of the day, Michelle Obama and Kevin Samuels gave the same message/ blueprint for black women.
Good Lord. She told the truth.
You can't tell the truth to these people.
You can’t win!!! if you choose to stick through rough times ppl call you weak and complacent if you leave they say you gave up too easily
It's entirely UNNECESSARY how much I love this woman! Great advice.
Awesome video ❤ Thanks for this message 🙏
This woman is soooo inspiring ❤️❤️
Ok bot
You mean Micheal 🤦🏾♂️😂🤣
Well said 👏🏿
Don't agree with her politics but I agree with her relationship advice
Her politics is decency and dignity. That's something you'll find short supply of on the other side. Just an observation. Not starting a fight here.
What about her politics?
Well said💪🏾
This is good!
No marriage is 50/50 that's not a bad thing. It just means that you want to make your spouse happy.
Your job is not to make a person happy. Your responsibility is to stay kind and nice.
The problem is when it's 70-30 one way. Continuously. That's why I'm tired of my "wife." I'm the 70 (in reality more like 75) and she's the 25-30. It's not worth it.
@@tresfielder3148again, when you stick it out look at the duration
I love her!
You mean him 🤦🏾♂️😂🤣
so glad she said this.
Nice going Michael
100% true.
Michelle is the real deal.
Marriage is not 50/50. BUT, one should NEVER feel that they are always giving more. I've been married 49 years. Sometimes I feel I give more, but other times I feel my husband is.
Sadly, I did not get that feeling from the interview. :-(
Yes, notice she said she felt that she was the 70 and he was the 30, at times. She never said he was the 70, at times. Telling...
@@tresfielder3148you have to factor that this man was running the entire country and she was well aware of the ramifications
@@kendrick8749We don’t know that, could have been a dream that developed later.
It also really doesn’t help that culturally we’ve trained men to expect the woman to be the eternal, motherly giver once married.
If that’s the case…it does raise the question of “Why get married?” to ambitious women.
@@kendrick8749this was before all of that though. In her book, she says he wasn't living up to his responsibilities in the early years of their marrige w/ the kids.
Modern women cannot handle this 😮
It’s a roller coaster for sure!!!
Mike on marriage. true or not it is still funny
Thank You Michelle Obama and Your Family for the love of God and this Country 🇺🇸
VERY WISE!
That is, unfortunately, truth. While some marriages are bound to fail, others are not, but it takes work to make makenit work.
GOTTA LOVE MICHELLE OBAMA- SHES SUCH A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, INSIDE AND OUT ❤
Right!! So true!
It is not 50 50
I Love USA American Best Women Michelle Obama and Family 🇺🇸
God bless American
But in Africa she preached exactly the 50-50 to a lot of young women. Hence we ended up with millions of baby daddies and baby mamas 😂😂😂😂
Great talk
Thank you for this massage ❤
Um but shes married to obama so.............respectfully, she has never been married to my hubby lets say for example!
Anda, Obama dan George Bush bukanlah contoh pemimpin yang baik, jangan pernah memberi wejangan untuk orang lain, dikhawatirkan akan salah kaprah, kesalahan yang kalian buat bisa jadi menyebar. Hentikan ini!!!!
That is not the topic discussed here. I agree with you, but we also have to agree Michelle is very wise regarding marriage.
Marriage ain't for me then lol. I refuse to spend on anyone.
That’s what she’s saying. This generation is all about self this and self that. They are afraid of any challenges or discomfort
selfish...Then whats your purpose in life ?
And here it is smh. You honestly couldn't make this up.
@@sempijjarecord7298 There’s more to life than getting married?
Amen 🇺🇸🌙⛪ God bless American !!
Love this
Michelle Obama is SO accurate. Too many people give up and don't put the work in. Marriages take work. The former First Lady is intelligent, wise, articulate, and so right!
Barry is a player we get it.
Lady Obama - absolutně skvělá dáma !
Obama and Michael
🤢🤮
It’s a man, baby!
NPR is just propaganda anymore
Michael Obama, the man in drag.
Yeah, we know who wears the pants in your marriage.
Michelle deserves better than Barack
Wow thats easy there
What’s WRONG with the interviewer’s voice and dialect. Sounds phony (Caucasian). 😂👩🏽🦱🇺🇸
Marriage isn’t.
Possibly the only intelligent thing she’s ever said.
She’s really aging bad
She is so amazing
BIG MIKE