a little life update | vlogmas day 2
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Sharing some of my current thoughts, what I struggle with being on social media + life in general. Not sure if you can relate, but if you do please feel free to share (please) and most importantly, if you're not feeling your best for whatever reason, know you're not alone! Especially during this holiday season. love you xx
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You are, by far, the most transparent content creator I’ve come across. It’s extremely refreshing- you’re honesty and realness make you my fave, and I can totally appreciate your moral compass.. the fashion is an added bonus!
Christina, thank you so much for leaving such a sweet comment. I'm so happy the fashion is a bonus, because I feel like there is sooo much more to life and the content I want to share than just fashion. Thank you for watching- sending you my love!! xx
@@VivianeAudi life is short- I’ve learned that quickly through 2020. Celebrate it, absorb the moments and truly enjoy. All else will follow! Have a safe, happy and healthy holiday season my friend ✨
From what it sounds, you are having a lot of internal conflict regarding the ethics around being an influencer and consumerism. here are my suggestions:
-shift more towards promoting sustainable brands and small businesses. this way, viewers will be encouraged to spend money on brands that are actually doing the environment well while also supporting business owners' livelihoods. I think this will help to decrease the guilt of telling people to buy things because it will have more benefits.
-focus more on how you're helping your viewers by being honest about the imperfections of the job! give yourself more credit where credit is due.
-talk more about mental health awareness!
I keep commenting LOL but you’re not alone either with the patience and being at home at our age. It’s so so special but it’s hard and frustrating a lot of them time but that’s ok!
its so hard and so frustrating, but I also wouldn't trade it/ them for the world. need to pray for more patience though
And everything’s relative!!! You’re allowed to have your feelings
Courtney!! thank you for your comments, youre making me smile and laugh!! sending you a big hug
Thank you for being so authentic and real... social media really seems to take over these days and it makes some days definitely harder than others. This is so relatable.
tip for showing your family: maybe pick certain days of the week that you'll show them on your stories! that way it could even turn into like a family friday thing so that people know to expect it on certain day(s) and so that you can also set your boundary of when your family sweeps into your work life. and then that will also help you learn to be present/make memories on days when the camera is off :) love you viv. you've got this!
Thank you so much for sharing. Your issues are super relatable and I respect you so much for being so publicly vulnerable!
Hey Viv! I wonder if it would help to intentionally establish what you will share each week, and force yourself to put the phone down at other times. Such as, "Monday I will share my morning routine and walk, then that's it for Instagram stories. Tuesday I will vlog the Bachelorette. Wednesday I will share some products from 11 a.m. - noon. Thursday I will share myself doing a holiday activity." Then refuse to let yourself share insta-stories or posts at other times, even if something "insta-worthy" pops up! (Or schedule posts!) And as for replying to things, maybe you could set aside an established time each day, like 1-2 p.m., to reply to messages and comments, then that's it until tomorrow. It helps me to set a timer on my phone for an hour and work productively until it goes off, with the promise that I am truly "done" with that task when the timer goes off.
Another thing that has helped me (I am also drowning in work... first year teacher during a pandemic) is to try to re-frame my mindset at the end of the day. Instead of feeling guilty and anxious about everything I didn't accomplish that day, I try to be grateful and proud of myself for all the things I DID get done. A small shift in perspective, but it can be challenging as well as very rewarding!
Everyone gets anxious over something. One way I started dealing with it is journaling, I never thought it would work but it's like venting without being a burden to someone else. But honestly there needs to be more of these videos from more youtubers instead of just showing highlights, it's okay to not be okay.
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You know what people with jobs do? They take time off. 💕 Maybe you need to take a week or two to reset 🤗 sending you all the love and light 💕
Through out the video I know Its hard to control cry I understand everything what you going through I m not influencer but I related with some points I just give up social media because it's doesn't give me good vibe it's always life why other life is perfect they hang out they shop you don't and that not me to see myself like this really for me sometime it's gave that feeling every girls in IG are perfect and I don't love my self at that moment of time I take a Long break focus on what I like how to love yourself feeling good its not a easy process I can't say it's impossible you just have to start and really it will worth it.- love your vlogmas hope you have great day with your family @anjalisinghh05
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Hey girl! It seems like your struggling with purpose during a year where influencer-like things just don’t seem important. I’m a nurse in NJ. I think you’d benefit a lot from a per diem rn job. Even if you just did 1-2 shifts a month. You’d be contributing to something higher and as a bonus be making some extra money. I think it would help you gain that appreciation for the influencer side of your life while also making a difference in a different way. Something else that helps me too is I’ll take pictures and videos throughout the day if I’m doing something but I wait until the end of the day to look through and then I’ll post a few things. That way I grab a pic or two then put my phone away and continue to live in the moment. It’s helped me a lot to not feel like I’m living for Instagram. Best of luck in your journey xoxo.
Such brave and important conversations! we feel you, we hear you and are here to support you!!
ur feelings are totally valid! totally relate to being in a funk lately, but im sure things will get better soon! Thank u for sharing :) ig: abigailcollinss
hi, your first portion someone recently asked another influencer i follow (hbgoodie on insta) the question on how they separate their life with social media and she says she uses two phones, she just uses her old phone exclusively to post content and engage and then when its time for her to be with her family and friends, she keeps her normal phone with her for random photos/videos, etc. and it keeps her from scrolling and ignoring those around her and effectively blocking her time off when she is on insta. that is a good idea imo, and it could maybe work for you as well! best of luck, i love your content :)
Everything you feel is real & valid. It took me a long time to realize that (actually, I still have to remind myself). As a 27-year-old who lives at home too, I can def relate to your inner conflicts, especially regarding your career & setting boundaries with yourself & your family. Thank you for being so authentic & transparent-your videos are a breath of fresh air & help me (& I’m sure many, many others) realize that we’re not alone in this.
Couldn’t relate to this more. Thank you for sharing, helps wonders ❤️
OH MY GODD YESS!!!!!!
YES YES YES!!!!
I feel like this pandemic is really creating mental health issues from depression, ptsd, to anxiety
Thank you so much for sharing this! Would love to hear more about your inner thoughts like this and mindset/life tips since they are so interesting, well-spoken, and so relatable. Might be a good pivot or balance when you're not feeling outfits that aren't sweats or bathrobes. 😂 Hope you are feeling better! Sending love 🧡
You’re 100% not alone! I can so relate to so many of the points you covered! You’re so real and open and that’s one of the reasons I love following along on your journey! You’re so relatable and aside for sharing fashion tips you also provide so much great information on products and life in general! ❤️
Not that my opinion matters but I think you’re doing an incredible job and I can’t wait to see what else the future holds for you!! ❤️
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hi viv, just wanted to leave a comment and let you know that your feelings are valid and I for one am really happy that you chose to mention it and work through it via social media rather than kind of disappearing (which you're totally allowed to do too). your transparency on social media is actually such a good thing and I understand the consumerism side is definitely a lot for just one person to handle so I think if you need to take a break and just wait till the funk passes, by all means do it!!! you'll come back when you're ready and know that you got out of bed that day for YOURSELF only, not for social media. anyways hope that wasn't too boring to read haha I hope you're feeling better :)
You’re deffo not alone! I feel these ways everyday. 2020 is hard. Xx @kitronic
right?? like so heightened, they literally consume my brain more than not. but im glad to know im not alone and you definitely are not alone!! thank you for sharing
you are the most normal, real, understandable content creator ive seen on social media and this post took a weight off my shoulders. as a consumer i feel constantly confused by the unattainability of most influencers, but you are a breath of fresh air and thank you for this!
I feel like everyone has experienced the “rut” feeling this year and that’s okay, it’s been a hard year. You’re doing an amazing job!
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Like You said: YOU'RE NOT ALONE. Everyone is going through something, especially this year. I completely understand you even though I am not an influencer. I often don't give myself enough credit. I feel like I can do better and I bring myself down. Then I realize that I have so much (family, home, job) and I should appreciate it more. I should appreciate MYSELF more. Anyway, love you and I hope you will feel better :)
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I’m gonna dm you my thoughts, but really appreciated this video!! 😊 @_gracebeer
Thank you for being so transparent! I recently started watching you during this covid pandemic and I just wanted you to know you have been such a light to me every time I watch your videos
Just like people who have a “normal” 9-5... you are allowed to take days off. That’s necessary for anyone. Don’t feel bad to take a day without posting. We get it!!! My insta for the giveaway is @alexagracezupko
I appreciate you being so real with all your thoughts and emotions especially since most influencers only show the good. I feel this year has been hard for us all but it has also in a way shown us how thankful/grateful we should be for everything we have 💙
IG: its.yvonnne
everyone is here for you!! it’s nice that you are opening up because there’s definitely so many people feeling the same🤍
Hi Viviane! I want to say that you are very brave for even posting these struggles because although I am a viewer, I totally relate to wanting to be present and negative self talk and other things. I would recommend journaling and MEDITATION!! Meditating helps so much with being present, with dealing with thought process and creativity. It’s a skill that you can do everyday and gets better each time.
About the sales and outfit inspiration you do... could I request for you to start doing thrifted hauls and inspirations? It’s better for the environment and is affordable!
Moving your body is always helpful too! Walking, running, yoga.. all that.
And if I can recommend an INCREDIBLE podcast, The Self Love Fix. It’s fantastic!
I hope you feel better :)
Thank you sharing! Your feelings are so so valid. I also live at home with my family during my 20s and it can be tough sometimes. One of my favorite self-care activities is rewatching my favorite childhood tv shows like Hannah Montana, Boy Meets World, etc. Always a nice escape from reality! 💗 Your content always leaves me feeling inspired :) love this self-care giveaway 🤍
IG: kristen_amendola
The most important thing you can do is to express your feelings whether they’re happy, sad, or angry. I think the hardest part is finding an outlet where you feel comfortable enough to do so. I think it’s super special that you shed light on the fact that influencers are normal people too. Like you said, we have a tendency to believe what we see especially when it comes to social media. I truly cherished you sharing with us ♥️
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Thank you for being so vulnerable and real with us Viv - it's something I really appreciate about you. I definitely struggle with being present so know that you're not alone!!
IG: emibaan
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. 2020 has been a very difficult year for all of us :( and I am sorry to hear about Lulu. Life has many difficult moments, but being present and spending time with the people you love is what truly brings joy. @Parysaqt lots of love xoxox
Oh Vivs, trust me I feel the same with college, with what I want in life, family... but as you say, and I’m telling you this too: You are not alone, Ik you might be feeling rolling into a mess, and overthinking everything (I do too so I got you ;) ) maybe controlling everything drives you the wrong way, remember this: you are doing what you are doing now, let it go, let it be, let it flow🌬🍃
When you are going to check someone’s life that you know might be affecting you, leave the phone on your closet, and go for a walk, or do something that comes from within you like: Hey today I wanna go to a place X that I don’t usually go, maybe sit there and admire the sky, the nature, and maybe some furry cute animal will find you or life will give you a kiss on your face with the wind. 🌬🌱You are loved, and you are here on earth being yourself and that’s the best you could be.
Also thank you for everything you do, you actually helped me find myself, and appreciate life around me, nature and my family, I didn’t know how to reconnect with my family and you helped me out with it, and I’m grateful to know you in a way. You care for others deeply, Bc you are human and you understand that life a real one it’s to share (directly or not, knowing the feeling that someone might be going through by hand) to really help. Don’t allow yourself to compare to others, you are a human, a good one I’m sure😌🌷 you are so true and that’s what we appreciate from you, that you don’t fake or obligate anyone, you provide the info, but always with the kindest heart saying if we can we do it, Bc you understand that as you and I all are humans, allowed to be imperfect, crazy, happy, sad, overwhelmed, free, unexplainably smiley, and that’s life, every little moment it’s a memory, you are not missing a thing, you are living, you are loved Vivs🥰🌾🌈☀️🍀💐☺️💖🦋
*Virtual Hugs* Good luck, and life it’s a wonderful thing, you are doing good, let it be✨🙌🏼💫🥰🌱
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I’m in the same position! Everything you said I can relate to so much! Just stuck in a rut between realizing what’s important to me and keeping relevant... it’s a weird feeling and hard to explain but everything you said feels so right! Thank you girl for being so vulnerable and relatable as always!! Xo IG:@bythebrooke
Hi Viviane!! First of all, great name. 💗 Secondly, just wanted to say how much I appreciate your transparency and how real this video is!! It definitely resonated with me, and I have also been working really hard on staying present while making a memory, instead of trying to document it with my phone. Thank you for sharing all this 💕💕 so much love.
IG: @vivientoumey
But why did this make me cry?!?! Even though I'm sorry you're also feeling this way I'm glad you posted this because I just had a similar vent with my friend this morning about these same types of feelings and it was good to let it out to her but also to watch your video and see it's all so much bigger than just the thoughts in my own head right now! You compare yourself to other bloggers/influencers but we (non-bloggers) compare ourselves to you guys so this video was just a whole wave of reassuring. Social media really is just a highlight reel! Taking your suggestion right now with cleaning my room and opening the window and adding Christmas music to the mix. Thanks a bunch for posting, Merry Christmas girl!! xxx
IG: @meg_mitch
Take some time off!!! Jobs outside of social media get way more PTO so that you stay grounded and charged. Wishing you happiness and health
I didn’t realize how much I needed this until I saw this video. Thank you for being vulnerable, and sharing your thoughts. Being your authentic self is what makes you who you are, and unique, and that’s why i follow you. I appreciate you, and want you to know you’re doing great and we are right there with you!
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One more thought... maybe instead of being frustrated by the lack of creative opportunity bc of covid (in regards to shopping & fashion), maybe see it as an opportunity to focus on, develop, & share other interests. Personally, I love your product placements, but I mainly follow you because I love your personality, your insight on the world, your family, etc. Maybe this could be a time to diversify your brand and branch out into projects related to sustainability, mental-health, self-care and love in your 20s, etc. What else do you want your platform to be?
Or, ya know what? Maybe this lack of creative opportunity could just be a chance for a bit of well-deserved downtime. You've definitely earned it!
FINALLY. Someone who gets it. First off great video *snaps to you for being so vulnerable I’m sure that wasn’t easy.* Every point you touched on is something I have felt or do feel even without social media being my job. Thank you for acknowledging the struggle between social media expectations vs reality. Secondly, please know your content is genuine. I really appreciate how you authentically show up in this space and I hope you continue to create only if it brings you joy. This video was dope and your thoughts/opinions are valid! Here to support you in ways you need it most!❤️
I can absolutely relate to this! My work has been stressful lately and it’s only going to get more stressful. It’s daunting and I’m feeling especially unmotivated because of it. It’s refreshing to hear you speak about how you’re feeling! Truly makes me feel better ♥️
IG: caitie_cunningham
thank you so much for being so transparent with your life from the highlights to the struggles. i think that's so important, especially coming from someone that does have a platform. IG: na_00011
You’re definitely not alone!! This year has been such a rollercoaster, it’s totally normal (that’s what I keep telling myself anyways) proud of you for sharing and it helps me to know I’m not alone in having these feelings either! Even when your not posting outfits everyday, you are still inspiring us all ❤️
IG: @morgin.Phillips
don’t apologize for your thoughts or fears! Thank you for this honesty and letting us in to a vulnerable place. i feel like people underestimate how much influencers/ youtubers/ bloggers really work to balance life with work like you mentioned. I appreciate you and all that you do and never feel like you can’t take a break ❤️☺️love these talks viv🥺insta: lisa_choochoo
first off, thank you for being so brave to share that! what you are feeling is 100% valid. Those things you talk about DO matter. Yes, you can put your problems into perspective with the world and feel they are small "silly" things, but anything that makes you feel down is relevant because it's relevant to YOU!! I have found during the last 8 months that although there are different levels of loss (a cancelled soccer season versus the loss of a family member), those losses are all equally valid because of how they make you feel! I have found a happy medium in my mind where I acknowledge that others are dealing with what seems like harder issues, but what I am going through is no less than. For you, your role as an influencer and person in society is no less than either. I hope you find peace soon and know you have a whole lot of people rooting for you and your happiness! Instagram: @jolieeep Email: @jolieprice719@gmail.com
I totally relate about the whole shopping thing. I love clothes and shopping but I also feel like what’s the point? Do I really need all this new stuff? I actually contemplated deleting social media because if it wasn’t for that I wouldn’t be tempted to shop so much. That’s 90 percent of my shopping. And I don’t even have money to shop. Lol I should be working harder to pay off medical bills. But I bought a couple pairs of Abercrombie jeans you posted about and the AE half zip. Ugh I need to learn some self control. I feel bad that I can’t keep up with the ig influencers which is so unrealistic because you all can afford to shop and it’s a part of your job. I have to remind myself that they shop way more than the average person and I shouldn’t compare myself to them. Oh and on a side note, I understand what you’re going through with your gma, I work with elderly people for a living and most of them have dementia. It’s really hard on their families. I’m sorry you’re family is dealing with that. ❤️
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Love these talks. It reaffirms that we are not alone. You’re right, social media can be an illusion and it’s okay to call that out sometimes. Meditating has helped me, it could help you too! Check out Gabby Bernstein - I discovered her through Oprah and she is amazing. IG: whatisadora
Awh I love this so much. So well said Viv!!! All so relatable! I am active in social media as well and have a family- totally relate to everything being viewable/shareable!! One thing you could do, is maybe set aside one day a week that you dedicate to being unplugged and just with your family. Then when you know that day is coming up, you finish what’s necessary the days prior and keep that day sacred!! Every full time job needs a weekend!!! So much love for you!! 💕
this is so relatable and THANK YOU for sharing!! I often feel anxious and stressed when it comes to social media and have been in such a funk for a few months now. your honesty and realness is so refreshing and very rare in the social media world (although i do think influencers/bloggers are starting to open up more which is amazing!) it's such a great reminder that i am not alone with my feelings
IG: @yasmineyekta
I love how transparent and real you are to the social media world! You’re so inspiring and I appreciate how you are so open and honest with your followers. Keep doing you. You are the coolest. Ever.
I love how transparent you are, I don't think I've come across any influencers/content creators that express themselves the way you do. Don't ever change! I feel so much of what you said (our jobs are different but the whole comparing and being too much in our heads is something I heavily relate to. Thanks so much for sharing, sending big hugs! I've been looking for a good book so the one for the give away seems awesome! If you haven't read The War of Art by Steven Pressfield I highly recommend, it's helped me a lot when going through some struggles and it's an easy read!
IG: Noelle_vera
Viviane, thank you so much for being so transparent with your feelings and sharing with us! You're definitely not alone with your struggle. Earlier this year, I started sharing a lot of beauty and fashion content, but at some point, really started questioning why I was sharing. I felt very caught up in the Instagram machine, where people are encouraged to post pretty photos, sell things, push consumerism, while followers blindly follow and buy. It felt especially wrong in a year, like you said, where saving should be encouraged and focus should be put on non-material things. I think the self-realization you're having and questioning the ethics of posting are things that not many people on the platform are thinking about. If anything, it really sets you apart from other content creators.
You also bring up feeling unmotivated to post. What you may also be experiencing is burnout. You stated content creation as your job and feel obligated to show up every day. However, traditional office jobs have weekends, holidays, vacation days, sick days--built in times for people to take a mental break. It's truly ok to need time off from your job, however long it may be. Your mental health should always be prioritized!
(IG @laviedeteresa)
thank you for being real. i feel the exact same way, but always remember YOU ARE ENOUGH. practicing being present is so important right now, i have had that struggle with always trying to capture memories. definitely trying to live with intention but also, it’s OKAY to take lots of pictures.. i love looking back at all the pictures and memories, but i stopped posting them i keep them to myself and print them out.. i deleted all my social media and it’s really helped with that comparison mindset. i know you can’t do that, but maybe set app limits so you can make time for yourself everyday because that’s sooo important. you are doing great, it’s normal to have those struggles, thank you so much for showing this real side of you! i’m a new subscriber and love to see your content!💖💖💖
My favorite content creator, thank you so much for being so transparent with us! You're not alone and your feelings are normal because what you're thinking is so morally significant. I think you're doing an amazing job but everyone needs a break! Give yourself some boundaries and show what you can without overstepping those boundaries. Start with something like 2 days off per week, where you give yourself family and personal time. Pray for patience, you got this beautiful! Sending my love
It’s been a tough year. It’s good your speaking about it with your audience and talking to friends/family as well. I appreciate your honesty in regards to feeling weird with recommending products / things to buy during Black Friday sales. I saw a lot of influencers promote hard during this time but I never felt that from you Viv! You have a genuine aura and you can tell you have pure intentions when it comes to recommending products. Loving your vlogmas videos btw ❤️ Lulu is just the cutest! X
IG katietelford1
I really appreciate your honesty. You have always been transparent and something I admire about you. This year has been so difficult and it's nice to see an influencer share all sides of their life. Keep sharing and being your authentic self. I would love to win the giveaway! I recently graduated from nursing school and I'm studying to take the NCLEX, so I'm in need of major self care! Ig: ronniegubelman
Hey Virgo sister! If I could like this video 7000 times I would! I can def relate with how you have been feeling lately. I too try to remind myself that social media isn’t real and try not to be so hard on myself // struggle to stay motivated to create content. I’ve never really journaled before but I feel like it could really help. :) Thank you sm for sharing and being so open about everything. Ig: @ambeeleanlikeachola
Love you so much. Thank you 🙏 for sharing your feelings with us. You do an amazing job you should be proud of what you do and don’t burn 🔥 out. Life is to be lived and enjoyed so always have that in your mind. XxxX
Thank you so much for sharing this Viviane. I don't work in social media but I totally understand your feelings about needing to disconnect. What helps me is finding hobbies that force me to put down my phone -- reading, doing yoga, or painting. I often struggle to turn off my phone, but always feel better when I do. Thank you for being so candid! insta: @charleysaltz
This is so refreshing to hear! We appreciate it more than you know. It's funny because I watch your stories each day (making your bed, eating with the fam, etc.) and I think in my head "wow, she's got it ALL together, better than me" but in reality you're feeling the same way I am! This year has been so hard for so many people so don't forget that. You're not alone in this feelings!! When you're speaking of your job, it reminds me of my life too as a teacher. I have to show up with a fresh, happy, energetic face for the kids and it's hard during this pandemic for sure. Another thing I related to was being hard on yourself recently but a quote that's helped me has been "remember that once you dreamed of being where you are now." So we're doing well with all things considered! Thanks again for this Viv ❤️
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Your honesty/vulnerability is so refreshing from your viewers' perspective and I hope it's refreshing for you too, I'm sending such a big hug your way! Consumerism is tough as it is and I'm sure it's even harder for you given your career...since you talked about how getting the perspectives of others is helpful I figured I'd chime in. What if, instead of showing people things to buy, you focus on what they already have? Maybe...how you have your closet set up to create an easy outfit, how you organize your shoes/drawers/bags/etc. As far as being present goes, boy do I feel ya there. I absolutely adore seeing your family but just remember that your job doesn't require that you show us that part of your world. When I'm having a hard time being present I try the five senses practice (5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can feel, 1 thing you can taste). I find that this practice can be pretty grounding and it helps me be where I am and gets me a little less out of my head.
Hey Viv, I’ve been following you basically from when you started doing ig as a job. When I followed you, you DM’d me to thank me for the follow and ever since then I’ve loved your content! I feel like I speak for a lot of people when I say although I find your family very sweet and entertaining in stories etc, I follow you for YOUR content about fashion and beauty. If you never showed your family again I would still follow you and still love your content just as much. So if you feel the need to separate that part of your life from your job for the sake of your mental well being I say go for it! Or just tell yourself that after 5 PM you’ll enjoy the time with your family rather than filming it. I also know exactly how you feel about living at home, I’m going to be 26 in the spring and I NEVER thought I would be living with my parents. I just want an apartment in the city where I can see friends all the time and have a normal relationship lol, so I get it!! But just know you are not alone, so many of us are in the same boat and the majority of us have no idea what we’re doing!! Everything is for a season so try to enjoy it while it lasts, because I know soon enough I will be moving out and I’ll never get this time with my parents and siblings again. Love hearing your thoughts about everything and I hope you start to feel more like yourself again soon❤️❤️❤️
love your openness🤍🤍 thanks for the encouragement!
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I am so sorry that you're going through this right now! It's definitely been coming in waves for me. I haven't been able to see my parents since January due to COVID and it's been really hard. Me and my boyfriend are also taking this very seriously and not seeing our friends so it's been hard seeing other people not taking it seriously and being out and having fun while I am stuck inside. Hopefully 2021 will be better for all of us! Instagram: melihorchata
I think to not recognize these feelings would be more alarming than ignoring them in a year so crazy as 2020. Thank you for using your voice to better the online space, even in times of doubt! I’ve been trying to be more forgiving of myself but it’ll always be a little rollercoaster and that’s okay. You’re doing great things even when you’re not trying to. Talks like these really help so many ❤️ IG: @tierneymcgil
You are so incredibly relatable, honest and just authentic.I have personally found value in your suggestions (the UO jacket! needed a warm jacket for winter and the sixty stax earrings are amazing quality) i dont feel like the need to buy everything you suggest, people have personal responsibility and should discern their financial choices. i love how you preface it with "you dont need to buy this" thank you for your vulnerability babe!
maybe this seems fairly obvious or you have tried it but from what it sounds like i think you could really benefit from setting specific times for your job. that means from 9-5 monday-friday (or whatever times you feel will benefit you most but 9-5 would probably give you some stability) those are the hours that you plan outfits, film, edit, take pictures, vlog, etc. this way you can separate from work life and home life AND are able to have time to make memories that you don’t feel obligated to film/ capture. maybe you can even try not to go on your phone those hours, although that might take some adjusting to ;)
regarding black friday and encouraging people to buy DO NOT WORRY people are capable of making their own decisions. i promise that by promoting sales or items you truly love you are not forcing anyone to but anything! i personally love your instagram stories with sales and things you are loving even if i don’t buy them, it’s like window shopping!!
lastly regarding family and living at home, i am in exactly the same boat as you! my grandpa had dementia and sadly passed away this year from covid. so now i am living with my grandma (who can’t see or hear very well), my mom , my dad, and my brother. sometimes i want to rip my hair out BUT i think the way you are handling things is perfect!! getting away by going on walks or drives is awesome and helps to get a breath of fresh air when we really need it. in time we won’t be living at home so it’s important to make the most of the time we do have, and i think we see that especially with everything going on this year! i wish you the best and truly appreciate you opening up because i know it’s scary with how the internet is full of criticism. lots to look forward to, we all got this ❤️ @rachelschermann
Hey girl! First off I don't want you to think I am only writing this because I want to win the giveaway because for me this means more. I TOTALLY understand & can relate to everything you are saying. It's so easy to see people on social media..or just in life in general & think that they have it all together. Hence why I try to not pick up my phone as much & have been in my own world recently, because it does get overwhelming. Just know that you are human.. we all are & it is okay to feel & go through those ups & downs. The downs in life ( at least this is what I believe) are what help you grow & learn. Boundaries are definitely important & it is so important to be present in your own life. Maybe try to set 2 days a week where you only pick up your phone to answer texts & not post anything.. & if you want to post.. maybe just like a " hi good morning have a great day " & an inspirational quote & then that's it. I know that this is your job but everyone is entitled to time for themselves ( or so I think ). Just because you are an influencer doesn't mean you aren't entitled to those days too. I know it might seem like you are letting followers down or not keeping up with others but if people really love you & your content they will tune in no matter what :). As far as other influencers posting everyday.. that's fine.. you are not here to compete with them you are here to be your own authentic beautiful self! Just do you! I hope that these words help. Like I said I was in a funk recently too & I really had to reflect, journal, & basically get into my own head to really listen to what my heart & body wanted & figure out what I could do to make things better. You are doing great & you are not alone. Just know that you are awesome & so is your content & you have inspired so many of us! Where do you think I got all my planner vibes from?! 🤗. Thank you for being you! You've got this! Here is my Instagram: Misssweetiepie ( I would love to just be your friend in general 🤣😊) & my email is ajadilo@yahoo.com Have a wonderful holiday season ❤ 🎄🎁
I have NEVER related to anything more. We have the same thoughts. This pandemic has destroyed and and all good habits I feel I had and now I have 0 motivation to get back to a healthy routine. My mind is in constant struggle. Thank you for being so honest! ❣️
not me crying over here bc how relatable!! I just graduated college in May and still trying to find a job and feeling so low and hopeless.. manifesting better days ahead!! @jules_burford
I love how transparent and real you are with your followers. It always feels like you’re just talking to us like we’re your close friends, you’re truly a genuine person viv!! ❤️
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Wow! More relatable now than ever. Hitting the wall with class work as a full time college student and full time healthcare worker. I definitely needed this to help me out of a mental funk as well. You are very inspiring Viviane! Love your content ❤️
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Thanks Viv for this relatable message. 2020 has definitely brought more lows than highs but I honestly think that this is “the pause we all needed to restart”. Hope the moments you take for you help in getting your motivation back. Wishing you the best always.
I love your videos so much and your content and wj=hat you share. You inspire me so much! @_graceswanson
Thanks so much for uploading this and being so honest with us !! I think we’ve all been feeling a little like this lately with the current situation (covid) and also the change in the weather making us stay stuck inside 😔I understand where you’re coming from for the videos , but don’t feel like you’re forcing us to buy anything, we absolutely love your videos and if we buy things it’s because we love your style !! Yes I’ve been guilty of buying many of the clothes you recommended but I feel so good in those pieces and received compliments about them 💗 Also, we love how you show your family, but yes it is super important to personally take in those moments and fully enjoy them. I think if you’re feeling that way, maybe try to set times during the day where you don’t look at your phone or that you don’t pick up the camera 😊 Maybe also show more of you, tips, tricks etc if you feel like you are making too many fashion or family videos . Just know I’ll be watching anything you put out because honestly I feel like I can relate to you a lot and they make me so happy ✨ @cathcampanelli
I completely agree with you!!! This year has been full of highs and lows for pretty much all of us. I’m sorry you’re going through this tough time, but just know you’re not alone with it. 🖤✨
I've been taking one day a week where I don't go on any social media platforms at all. It's really cathartic and forces me to focus on the present. Also, it takes a lot to be vulnerable and admit you're having a rough time. Thanks for always being open :)
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Oh bullshit! U got this. U make great content and it’s not even a subject I normally watch. I watch science stuff and history. But u are on the ground floor of your own empire
Remember that sometimes less is more and time off is an important part of being productive. Over consuming can actually hurt creativity. Joseph Gordon Levitt has a Ted Talk about it. Work has tough times no matter what you do. Life is a roller coaster. You got this ♥️
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. That is worth way more than a pair of shoes or a "happy" vlog you put out for us. Just knowing you're human and real and that you struggle just like the rest of us. Hang in there. IG:allytabs
I've been following your clothing hauls on instagram and use your beauty routines pretty religiously but I have never been to your UA-cam channel and I'm so so so happy I stopped by. This was an incredibly open and inspirational video and something I needed to hear today, so thank you
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You are beautiful! I enjoy your videos so much and your personality really shines through. I think that what you are going through happens to an extent in almost all fields. Thank you for being so honest. God bless :)
First off thank you for being so open and honest. You are nothing but real and authentic and I appreciate that so much. Have all been there for sure. I have felt that “rut” feeling quite often. I’m 27 back in school for nursing and living at home. I am so grateful for my family and having their support but it’s not easy. I dream of being like other people living on my own, creating my own life, being able to support myself, etc but that’s not my reality. I get so consumed with social media and what other are doing in their lives that I let my own pass me by. I’ve been trying to be more in the present with myself because I deserve that. I tell myself everyday that I am making strides to my ultimate goal and picture myself achieving all that I want in life. Listening to Jay Shetty’s Think Like a Monk book on the way to school and on walks has really helped me. I just wanted to let you know that we are always here for you and any feelings you do have are valid and real so don’t ever feel like your feelings are not as bad as anyone else’s. ♥️
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Hi Viv, I absolutely love your content, all your beautiful outfits, product recommendations, and especially those inspirational morning walks. You've literally been the only thing to get me out of my house some days, and I really appreciate that. Thank you for sharing what you are going through, I've just recently moved back home from college because of covid, so I'm doing online school, while also working from home so I can totally relate to some of your struggles. Ever since you have brought up your attention to being present in moments a while ago on your Instagram, you have made me become more self-aware and grateful for my surroundings. I've really been trying to take more time for myself, time with my mom, and my dogs, and less time on my phone. Being inside can be draining and unmotivating, but it can also be something beautiful that we need to value and not take for granted. I don't know that I'll ever be able to spend this much time with those closest to me after the pandemic, and I have really been trying to remind myself of that when I feel down. Again, thank you so much for your honesty. Instagram can be a place where I feel really bad about myself, but you always seem to be a light on the app. Thank you!
p.s. I've been really wanting to try Kopari so my insta is rosalynnededmon if I happen to win the giveaway!
Viv I admire you so much for this and relate to you so hard core. Thank you for sharing ♥️ take the time you need and know that this too shall pass and in a couple of days you’ll look back and feel like you conquered this mountain 🥰 IG: kaitlynshow xoxo
You’re a sweet soul. We are all trying in this world. You’re doing your best. I can’t relate to your social media presence and your job but I understand completely. Also, maybe try to pencil in times and days during the week that you won’t film with your family? Or you can plan it monthly? It may work if you are list person. Staycations (weekends or one night) every few months might also be a nice stress reliever to get out of your full house. Just a few ideas..wish you luck!
Its so crazy, if been following you for a couple of weeks now on Instagram and I feel the exact same way as you say in the first minutes of the vlog. This evening (it’s now evening for me) I felt the urge to look up your UA-cam account and I didn’t know why but maybe the universe was telling me I needed to hear this☺️ Thank you for sharing your feelings, I already feel a lot better because of you🥰
Really love this! Can definitely relate to what your saying. I think balance is the key, having some boundaries with your work/life might help. Also just stay true to yourself. Yes it’s a job but you are you for a reason. Remain true to yourself and do what feels right to you.
So appreciative of you sharing the deeper parts of your life aside from the highlight reels on social media. I’ve also learned that my feelings are just as validated as anyone else’s and that we are only humans. You are seen & heard Viv. Love you ♥️
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I love this video! This video was super relatable and real :) insta:@juliaseitzfilms
Thank you so much for sharing. Not a typical vlogmas video but this year is not a typical vlogmas! @cassiesummo
Hey Viv! Thank you so much for sharing, that took a lot of strength and courage. I'm going to pretend you're my friend for a sec and tell you what I would tell a close friend -- everything you said is completely valid and you're already on the right path to getting through this rough patch. I would honestly suggest considering therapy as well! You don't have to be in the absolute worst crisis ever to talk to someone, sometimes it's nice to just let out your thoughts to someone who has to bias or relationship to your daily life. I think it would be really beneficial to you, I'm a huge proponent of it. Obviously you wouldn't have to share it on here or anything, but I think having that space to let out and process your thoughts and get some professional feedback would be super beneficial. Sending love xoxoxox
I love how real this video is. I'm sure that it is hard to be vulnerable and this transparent online, and I'm proud of you for sharing. Myself and I'm sure many others can relate to what you are struggling with right now. Sending you light & clarity. xo ig:reennnaa
Could not relate any harder to this video. I keep telling myself that December is a joyful time and I should be happy and excited but I just cannot get there. Taking it day by day and staying off Insta as much as I can. Thank you for sharing your thoughts & emotions. It feels comforting to know that other people are experiencing this as well.
Viv! You are such an inspiration for me!!! I can really relate through what you are living! This year has been hard on a lot of people! I feel like I’m not enough a lot of the time. It’s hard for me to realize what I have done and be proud of myself... By sharing your own thoughts you are allowing me to take a break and look back. I really like the fact that you make us feel like we are not alone! You are amazing and you should be proud of what you are becoming ❤️
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I relate to you so much and I love how real and raw you are in every video you post. I seriously have fallen in love with your content since I first discovered you, and you have never changed!!! I hope you feel better
just in case nobody's said it to you recently, i'm proud of you, viv. i'm proud of you for having these realizations and awareness, and acknowledging that there are changes you want to make for *you*. it's okay that you don't have the answers right now, because you're currently taking steps in the right direction. i hope today you feel a bit more grounded and clear, and if you don't, tomorrow's a new day!