If you don't fix the problems you have right now you're going to have the same problems happen again and again where ever you go. And people are just people where ever you go.
I just somehow can’t build the courage to stand up for myself. It leads me to isolate from everyone. Idk what it is. I’m a perfectly capable 24 year old but I have had some learning disabilities like speech and processing things the way my peers would. It seemed so natural for others to speak what was on their mind to stand up against another person. But I just run away. It’s almost like I don’t feel worthy enough because I know I’ll fail anyways at what id try and get out in speech, so id just look even stupider and that’s when tears would happen
You can learn and overcome your limiting beliefs. Start feeding your spirit things that empower you internally like reading as much information on boundary setting and watching motivational content. Here's a couple of suggestions for books: Boundary Boss - by Terri Cole Earth Angel - by Doreen Virtue ( If you're spiritually minded) Anything by Marissa Peer Content: Lewis Howes Evan Carmichael Impact theory Women of impact Terri Cole Med Circle ( if you struggle with mental health) Louise L Hay or Hay house ( for self love, personal development and spiritual growth ) You can always look through my playlists to find anything of interest...plenty of inspiration amongst the random crap. You have to start rebuilding the way you see yourself, find ways to embrace rather than reject who you are. Wishing you the best of luck 🤗 xxx
Valid points all, but I would also argue that what's also happening to this hypothetical young woman is that she's not genuinely allowing herself to genuinely experience anything new. Changing your routines, your physical and cultural environments can help you out of a rut and give you the opportunity to observe yourself from a different perspective. It's absolutely true that you can't run away from yourself - I have tried and failed. However, the moment when you see a destination as a place you want to experience, as opposed to somewhere which isn't where you are, is the moment when you can start gaining perspective and shifting your thinking patterns. It might just put you on even footing with those inner demons.
I had to learn this lesson for myself. I travelled a lot thinking one day something would get better. All I really did was make my own issue more visible. In that regard, I'm the thankful. I'm happy I realized I had to work on myself and that the pain of life is normal. Thank you for the video. I appreciate it!
I have been following this channel for quite a longtime.. It helps me, but I still couldn't figure out what's wrong. I am 20, studying in the best university, I am quite talented, I don't have financial problems, I have everything I would want to have, I can surround myself with lots of friends, but I don't do it, I alienate myself, I choose to be quite lonely. I have an "okay" body but I hate it so much that I don't even take my shirt off when people around, not even mentioning dating.. People think that I am cool but I feel like loser next to them. I am usually depressed, not finding anything to be happy for.. I realised that I hate myself although I shouldn't. Then I think that some people don't have the opportunities that I have, I am aware of having everything one would wish for but I am still very sad, and this makes it even worse.. I cannot enjoy life, although it seems to be the "most enjoyable time" of my life.
i don’t want to run away from myself. i want to run away to find myself. i feel like ive lost myself because of everything bad that had happened and ive voiced to people how i feel but thy don’t care.
It’s a very common belief for someone to think that something is wrong with the people in a certain geographical area. That they just have to get away to somewhere new where the people will somehow be better and they will find s new partner a new life. But those people don’t realize that the problem Is internal.
How can you possibly say that without getting to know a particular person's life? Or how they've been brought up all this time? Yes, The problem could be internal but can we really speak for everyone else?
I feel like that. How is everyone happy? How is everyone not feeling meaningless? I don’t know what exactly facing fear has to do with feeling like there’s no point. I’m starting to take anti-depressants. Wondering if I should vlog on it
Positively Udo I know exactly what you mean... Even conversations with others felt meaningless to me. I've been reading on it and I'm still working on how to manage these thoughts. If vlogging is for you then go for it. I would certainly watch it. I'm thinking of teaching myself photography or atleast a little bit of film making to express myself and to cope. I hope you find happiness in what ever you do! 💞
Positively Udo Facing your fears will give you A LOT of confidence. I remember when I went to see a therapist for my social anxiety und we did all this stuff and I felt like a new human, like I could do ANYTHING. I mean.. I just faced some of my biggest fears (leaving the house and going grocery shopping for example lmao it's nothing big but to me it was the world) and knowing that I could overcome this is a fantastic feeling. I was also depressed at that time and she knew it (I've never told her but we made a test at the beginning) and we didn't do anything about my depression just my social anxiety. But at the end of the year.. I wasn't depressed anymore. Just by facing my fears.
@@kj285 you don't seem to get real fears. We're talking childhood trauma, trauma from verbal abuse. Those to me don't count as fears on the normal scale. Those are small problems to me. Now healing old traumas is real pain. That's what I am dealing with.
Story of my life. I had a fight with my current bf and I am sleeping in my car right now. I want to run away. I get the message of the video, but I don't get HOW to face the fear or to deal with the problems within. I've tried, I used to write songs, I write morning pages, I do affirmations, I meditate, I work... I am at a loss, I don't know what to do.
This brought me to tears. I have felt for a long time that the solution to my problems would be to just get away from my environment and start a whole knew life. But this video made me realize that the people and environment is not the problem. It's me. If i don't fix me then then everything that I feel now will just follow me regardless of where I go.
Thank you, Alex! I needed this today. What a phenomenal concept. Makes me want to dive into my own head and heart to figure out what it is I’m afraid of.
At the end you talk about fears. We all have fears and insecurities How do attack those things so we learn and grow? I liked this video but for me I find myself needing an action plan
For me, I wrote down the fears that stood between me and where I wanted to be - then worked on tackling the fears. If it's the fear of being abandoned in a relationship, study the fear, know it well, then improve yourself to the point where it no longer shows up.
Great episode Alex, really deep stuff than a lot of people get into! On a side note...nice shots of Porto hope you've enjoyed it! I am from Porto and still live here ;)
I believe they saying if you see anything within you that you don't like, change, once you change within you will have the ability deal or keep your peace at all times because you have become what you desire and no one , anything, circumstances or situation can disturbed that.
Absolute bullshit. Running away is not running from yourself, running away is about trying to find the right people. What you suggest is basically try to fake yourself to fit into the group of people you're being surrounded. It's absolute nonsense. If I don't like partying and drinking, you suggest me to start drinking and partying because otherwise I would be running away from myself? You're saying that the problem is inner, so it means something is wrong with my personality. You can't change your personality, you are who you are. It's genetics. If I don't like small talk, I' ll never want to be around extroverts who never shut up. That's why I'll "run away" from myself to find the same people (introverts) like me who don't like trash talk and are more reserved.
First you need a self to run away from, but self is a fiction. From Buddha to critical cognitive neurology and philosophy, these trees are falling but you do not hear them. And no I am no promoting new age garbage just the ironic paradox of thinking and reflecting.
If you don't fix the problems you have right now you're going to have the same problems happen again and again where ever you go. And people are just people where ever you go.
Yes!
Felt inspired to do another "make you think" short film today. Let me know how you guys like it.
Love it
joseph choucair
Wow. Very well said man, wise words...
@@dawsac2335 thank you :)
This is beautiful
I need your advice on something very personal
Wherever you go there you are!
"You can't run away from yourself". Maybe not, but "denial", can be indefinite.
I just somehow can’t build the courage to stand up for myself. It leads me to isolate from everyone. Idk what it is. I’m a perfectly capable 24 year old but I have had some learning disabilities like speech and processing things the way my peers would.
It seemed so natural for others to speak what was on their mind to stand up against another person. But I just run away. It’s almost like I don’t feel worthy enough because I know I’ll fail anyways at what id try and get out in speech, so id just look even stupider and that’s when tears would happen
You can learn and overcome your limiting beliefs.
Start feeding your spirit things that empower you internally like reading as much information on boundary setting and watching motivational content.
Here's a couple of suggestions for books:
Boundary Boss - by Terri Cole
Earth Angel - by Doreen Virtue ( If you're spiritually minded)
Anything by Marissa Peer
Content:
Lewis Howes
Evan Carmichael
Impact theory
Women of impact
Terri Cole
Med Circle ( if you struggle with mental health)
Louise L Hay or Hay house ( for self love, personal development and spiritual growth )
You can always look through my playlists to find anything of interest...plenty of inspiration amongst the random crap.
You have to start rebuilding the way you see yourself, find ways to embrace rather than reject who you are.
Wishing you the best of luck 🤗 xxx
Valid points all, but I would also argue that what's also happening to this hypothetical young woman is that she's not genuinely allowing herself to genuinely experience anything new. Changing your routines, your physical and cultural environments can help you out of a rut and give you the opportunity to observe yourself from a different perspective. It's absolutely true that you can't run away from yourself - I have tried and failed. However, the moment when you see a destination as a place you want to experience, as opposed to somewhere which isn't where you are, is the moment when you can start gaining perspective and shifting your thinking patterns. It might just put you on even footing with those inner demons.
What a lovely video. I do not feel like I want to run away from myself, but I do feel I want to run away from difficult people.
:-)
He he. I know you are right.
That opening quote is awesome
Agreed
I had to learn this lesson for myself. I travelled a lot thinking one day something would get better. All I really did was make my own issue more visible. In that regard, I'm the thankful. I'm happy I realized I had to work on myself and that the pain of life is normal. Thank you for the video. I appreciate it!
Wow. I relate so much to her story. I'm so grateful for this video!
I have been following this channel for quite a longtime.. It helps me, but I still couldn't figure out what's wrong.
I am 20, studying in the best university, I am quite talented, I don't have financial problems, I have everything I would want to have, I can surround myself with lots of friends, but I don't do it, I alienate myself, I choose to be quite lonely. I have an "okay" body but I hate it so much that I don't even take my shirt off when people around, not even mentioning dating.. People think that I am cool but I feel like loser next to them. I am usually depressed, not finding anything to be happy for.. I realised that I hate myself although I shouldn't. Then I think that some people don't have the opportunities that I have, I am aware of having everything one would wish for but I am still very sad, and this makes it even worse.. I cannot enjoy life, although it seems to be the "most enjoyable time" of my life.
i don’t want to run away from myself. i want to run away to find myself. i feel like ive lost myself because of everything bad that had happened and ive voiced to people how i feel but thy don’t care.
It’s a very common belief for someone to think that something is wrong with the people in a certain geographical area. That they just have to get away to somewhere new where the people will somehow be better and they will find s new partner a new life. But those people don’t realize that the problem
Is internal.
How can you possibly say that without getting to know a particular person's life? Or how they've been brought up all this time? Yes, The problem could be internal but can we really speak for everyone else?
I feel like that. How is everyone happy? How is everyone not feeling meaningless? I don’t know what exactly facing fear has to do with feeling like there’s no point. I’m starting to take anti-depressants. Wondering if I should vlog on it
Positively Udo I know exactly what you mean... Even conversations with others felt meaningless to me. I've been reading on it and I'm still working on how to manage these thoughts. If vlogging is for you then go for it. I would certainly watch it. I'm thinking of teaching myself photography or atleast a little bit of film making to express myself and to cope. I hope you find happiness in what ever you do! 💞
Positively Udo Facing your fears will give you A LOT of confidence. I remember when I went to see a therapist for my social anxiety und we did all this stuff and I felt like a new human, like I could do ANYTHING. I mean.. I just faced some of my biggest fears (leaving the house and going grocery shopping for example lmao it's nothing big but to me it was the world) and knowing that I could overcome this is a fantastic feeling. I was also depressed at that time and she knew it (I've never told her but we made a test at the beginning) and we didn't do anything about my depression just my social anxiety. But at the end of the year.. I wasn't depressed anymore. Just by facing my fears.
Vlog it!
@@kj285 you don't seem to get real fears. We're talking childhood trauma, trauma from verbal abuse. Those to me don't count as fears on the normal scale. Those are small problems to me. Now healing old traumas is real pain. That's what I am dealing with.
I’m so tired of running from myself.
Everywhere you go, there you are
This ain't McDonald's...
But I'm loving it!💯✔✔🔥
hahah
Hitting home big time
Straight for the heart
Dang bro... this was a good one man.
Thanks Immanuel
So grateful for another video!
Story of my life. I had a fight with my current bf and I am sleeping in my car right now. I want to run away. I get the message of the video, but I don't get HOW to face the fear or to deal with the problems within. I've tried, I used to write songs, I write morning pages, I do affirmations, I meditate, I work... I am at a loss, I don't know what to do.
Thank you !!
Welcome
This brought me to tears. I have felt for a long time that the solution to my problems would be to just get away from my environment and start a whole knew life. But this video made me realize that the people and environment is not the problem. It's me. If i don't fix me then then everything that I feel now will just follow me regardless of where I go.
changing your environment can help!
That girl sounds like my life.
Chanice Rich hey why did u stop making videos??
Yeah really why you stop making videos?
Haha, how come?
No matter what happens plz dont stop making videos. Cuz i watch them regularly. You are helping people a lot.
Haha thank you Teesha
Thank you, Alex! I needed this today. What a phenomenal concept. Makes me want to dive into my own head and heart to figure out what it is I’m afraid of.
yes!
at least she got to travell the world
hahah
Such a good message, it's all within us, it's internal not external! 👍😊
At the end you talk about fears. We all have fears and insecurities How do attack those things so we learn and grow? I liked this video but for me I find myself needing an action plan
For me, I wrote down the fears that stood between me and where I wanted to be - then worked on tackling the fears. If it's the fear of being abandoned in a relationship, study the fear, know it well, then improve yourself to the point where it no longer shows up.
@@ModernHealthMonk improve yourself how. Actions you took for example...
Thanks from Egypt
Great work as always, time for reflection. Greetings from Spain!
Thank you
Thank you so so much for this.
Great as always
Great episode Alex, really deep stuff than a lot of people get into!
On a side note...nice shots of Porto hope you've enjoyed it! I am from Porto and still live here ;)
Hahah beautiful spot!
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this story. Resonates on so many levels❤️
:-)
True
I feel the same way sometimes. (all the time)
You are great. Just wonderful. Thank you modernhealthmonk 🌞
:-)
Thats me, I'm tearing up so much!!!
This is soooo me!!!
Nice one...
I feel this but I don’t know what’s the solution exactly
Don't run anymore, is one idea
I believe they saying if you see anything within you that you don't like, change, once you change within you will have the ability deal or keep your peace at all times because you have become what you desire and no one , anything, circumstances or situation can disturbed that.
is it milan, italy?
Battaaaaaaa yes, it is
All over Italy and Portugal
Can't believe you were in the city I live in, some days before I discovered you. Man... probably could have known you.
Can I make a photo of 3:47 ?
Very nice.
Thanks William
I get we have fears but there is no plan or point to this without something to take action on.
I rest my case on the TLC tip.
3:50 You need to turn where your fears are! I didn't get this. Can anyone pls explain
RockME AllDeus Thanks
Absolute bullshit. Running away is not running from yourself, running away is about trying to find the right people. What you suggest is basically try to fake yourself to fit into the group of people you're being surrounded. It's absolute nonsense. If I don't like partying and drinking, you suggest me to start drinking and partying because otherwise I would be running away from myself? You're saying that the problem is inner, so it means something is wrong with my personality. You can't change your personality, you are who you are. It's genetics. If I don't like small talk, I' ll never want to be around extroverts who never shut up. That's why I'll "run away" from myself to find the same people (introverts) like me who don't like trash talk and are more reserved.
2:42 found you!
Adversity causes growth. Fundamental truth. When you're going through hard times try to see the growth potential
She found the solution in herself by going out there..
So beautiful Alex!!
What if you’re fearless without a specific fear causing it?
No one is fearless. We need fear, its completly natural. But you can act, even felling fear.
Have you written “the vanilla freakin Life” yet?
🙏🏻
Oh homie, I don't even know who I am
Is she your sister?
Yes that's my sister, but the story isn't based on her
ModernHealthMonk okay. You look similar.
👍👍👍👍👍👍
Sounds a lot like my mom
:(
Its a sad video !! Does she save herself or not ??? she never smile ... be your own Hero .. that’s what life teach me
❤❤❤❤
First you need a self to run away from, but self is a fiction. From Buddha to critical cognitive neurology and philosophy, these trees are falling but you do not hear them. And no I am no promoting new age garbage just the ironic paradox of thinking and reflecting.