Dating Red Flags Get Craig's help personally: www.askcraig.n... There are many dating flags to be aware of when you are interested in someone. Coach Craig and Margaret talk about dating red flags.
Even If I am the best version of myself, even if I got my Ex back, I will watch you till the end. You have no idea how you made me stronger and helped me lot Coach. I can not imagine if I get proffesional help from you. Wish you best!
I just got back from date #2 with my ex, with whom I had done Grand gesture, and gotten blocked everywhere... We even kissed after the date... So guys, it seemed impossible this would happen before Christmas but it did and I binged on Coach Craig videos every day and will continue to do so cuz I never wanna go thru that again. Hopefully this miraculous turnaround inspires you all. Be ready when she comes calling and don't lose hope!
LordTails66 2 months... I broke no reaching out a few times..til it pushed her away too much... Then I had no choice. Don't let it get to that. Respect their wishes from the onset.
Alain.. great to hear that you got her back. Gives us all in similar situations a little hope.. best of luck to you! Any other details you might want to share? When you say you had no choice.. do you mean to reach out and break NC? It's been almost 2 months since a breakup for me, and Craig's vids along with stories in the replies like yours have provided great insights, education, and hope. Cheers!
randy sanchez I meant no choice because I had pushed til I was blocked. U don't want it to get to that point ..trust me... But if it does...miracles do happen. As Craig says, feelings change like the clouds in the sky. Best of luck to you :)
I dated a girl who broke up with her ex after he drove 12 hours to be with her and her family on their vacation. She didn't have the balls to call him on the phone and tell him before he drove all that way. Poor dude had a 12 hour drive by himself with a broken heart. So cold hearted.
It's SO true! You are who you hang out with. My ex loved playing yugioh and played competitively with his friends. And when we began dating he said he would quit playing competitively. My first thought was "wow that was so great of him he must really love me and want to move forward together." He was just going to play with friends. Towards the end of our relationship he said I "misinterpreted" what he told me in the beginning and actually meant he was just gonna play competitively in town. So in the end he broke up with me bc he said he wanted to keep playing competitively and is now going out of town and out of state to play yugioh. This guy is 25 but mentally 15. So yes. You are who you hang out with
Thanks Coach Craig! I've been watching your videos religiously and they've been instrumental in helping me gain perspective and start over after my breakup. Thought I should add a bit of relevant wise humor here, gleaned from a tv show I watch: "You know, it's funny: when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags."
Coach my situation is literally impossible she broke up with me and told me she was moving back home to stay with her family but I handled it well and told her if that's what's gonna make her happy I support it...haven't contacted her in two weeks she's leaving after the new year ..I caught her driving by my house to see if I was home lol but she's leaving it's over time to move on !!
So...my ex was really uncomfortable around the subject of exes. He didn't like talking about his past. I have no idea who any of his exes are and she showed no interest in mine. When I told him about trying to stay friends with an ex crush in our early days of dating, he said "that's why I don't think you can stay friends with exes - it's too easy to be reminded (why you liked them)". He also said that going to America for 5 months was 'the perfect distraction' the last time he was dumped (2 years before we met). He seemed to talk about exes as if he felt superior to them, not in a 'my crazy ex' kind of way, but in a "I've never met anyone like you" kind of way. I was his first serious girlfriend. I know everyone says this, but I REALLY can't see him reaching out. He's too self respecting. The only way we'd ever get talking again if of we accidentally bumped into one another. No way in hell would he ever text me, not even an indirect direct approach. It's been nearly 4 months... Thoughts, anyone?
a new video on a sunday night?? #blessed Nah but seriously. If there is anyone out there on the fence about getting a coaching with Craig, DO IT. It's so worth it. I did an email and I plan on doing a skype with him (as soon as im not lazy enough to redownload skype) he is so helpful and his advice is spot on. Dont squander the opportunity and FOLLOW his advice! It's worth it. Thanks again for the email coaching, Coach :) you'll hear from me again soon!
Matt-Man I've seen more expensive coaches. He's actually quite cheap considering the help he offers! If you can get the money you should do it. But his videos are just as good :)
So I binge watch Coach Craig. Last year I did an email coach with him. I have jumped between anxious and avoidant most of my life. Ive been anxious with the woman I call my ex. Coach Craig not only gives great advice, but from some of his personal stories, I feel my story is a bit similar in certain aspects to at least one of his own relationships. Ive been in therapy as well at home here in canada. My therapist is not just a therapist..and although she understands attachment (but isnt as well educated as Craig ) she is a behaviourlist. I got close to my ex after my email coaching with craig..but she was still wishy washy. We went on a date last march and she was touching me after she had some wine.. I didnt persue and didnt call and she said we should hang more. I SHOULDNT have talked to my parents because they said she was keeping me on the hook. I pushed her away.. I was confused how she could say she needed more time ( she wasnt dating and still hasnt in almost 2 years other than me) I started dating someone else for 4 months and my ex disappeared. Wouldnt even talk. I think. "I" pulled a momentarily avoidant kick. I was using this girl to mask my confision thinking I could get past the one who really meant everything to me. Fast forward. I stopped dating this girl in September.. And suddenly my ex who is is not dissmissive but was abandoned by her mom, and to make it worse when her mom left took her older half sister and left her with her grandparents.. Well we texted a bit. She is a nurse, and after 18 months asked if I still had a uniform she left behind. Within 12 hours I dropped off her outfit.. We talked.. We laughed.. I asked if I could drop off some gifts for her kids.. I showed up with my son Saturday past.. Her kids hugged me, she hugged me.. We stayed hours.. It was so comfortable.. She said I looked great, i had lost 40 lbs. In the short short period we chatted about us.. We agreed to forget the 18 months we both acted off. We werent ourself. She even said we never fought. She still said she is in a comfirtable place looking after her kids.. But she ended with that could change. All I said was im ok the way it is.. And ended by saying , who ever I date in the future will have big shoes to fill. She smiled and said 7 1/2? It was my way of saying youre the one, but.. Not the only one.. When I left.. She hugged me for 2 minutes..i whispered in her ear..it will be ok sweety.. We should do more in the new year together.. She agreed... I got home... She started following me on Instagram again.. Im staying quiet.. But she put on a meme.. I want to start over again..but thus time maybe loving myself a little more.. Im going to live my life.. My only hope is to let her know Im safe.. Thats it.. But there is not a doubt in my mind she cares.. But she has to process.. My words will not convince her.. My best action at this point.. Is no action.. Thanks craig.. I hope Im doing it right..
Poor guy. Sounds like Guillen Berre syndrome. My friend had the same thing. Serious stuff. He should have totally been putting all his attention on his health. She showed him exactly who she was. Love you guys btw! You have been my voice of reason and saviors in my difficult time of self acceptance and personal development ❤️
Is it possible to say that people who are so preoccupied with getting their own needs met by others, to the point where they are blind to others, in an essence describe narcissistic behavior. That narcissistic behaviors are not originally about inflicting pain or any malignant behavior as the online community sort of explain it. But that conflicts in these cases just simply arrive due to one's inability to differentiate oneself from one's environment? That is to say almost all pain in these kinds of dynamics actually just is collective damage... What do you think? Love your channel!
Man this dude needs to move on from this female. She left him to fend for himself when he was helplessly sick😒. Next! She's a soulless creature. My X did the same thing to me. Next.
Sir, I need suggestion My girlfriend blocked my contact and also blocked me on social sites . She want break up . But i don't She saya she never talk to me anymore and leave me . Now what should i dom Could you please tell me.?
Woman feeling and emotions is up and down. Give the space that she wants no chase. U Will see if she likes u really she will reach out no matter reason
I'm only at the 3rd minute but I just had to stop and comment: My ex got together with some sonovabich I thought was my best friend. Imagine how loyal he is for dropping a friend for a woman. Even if that woman was already my ex, it would still be a serious violation of the bro code, but she was still in a sexual relationship with me and he knew that. Now imagine how serious he is about her if he knows this about her. If that wasn't enough, I told her over a year ago that he had 2 affairs simultaneously and the women didn't know about eachother. I didn't think a year ago that they would get together, so why would I had made up stuff like that about him? Boy, is she in for some surprise? :D
Even If I am the best version of myself, even if I got my Ex back, I will watch you till the end.
You have no idea how you made me stronger and helped me lot Coach. I can not imagine if I get proffesional help from you. Wish you best!
I just got back from date #2 with my ex, with whom I had done Grand gesture, and gotten blocked everywhere... We even kissed after the date... So guys, it seemed impossible this would happen before Christmas but it did and I binged on Coach Craig videos every day and will continue to do so cuz I never wanna go thru that again. Hopefully this miraculous turnaround inspires you all. Be ready when she comes calling and don't lose hope!
How long were you broken up though?
how long were you doing no contact?
LordTails66 2 months... I broke no reaching out a few times..til it pushed her away too much... Then I had no choice. Don't let it get to that. Respect their wishes from the onset.
Alain.. great to hear that you got her back. Gives us all in similar situations a little hope.. best of luck to you! Any other details you might want to share? When you say you had no choice.. do you mean to reach out and break NC? It's been almost 2 months since a breakup for me, and Craig's vids along with stories in the replies like yours have provided great insights, education, and hope. Cheers!
randy sanchez I meant no choice because I had pushed til I was blocked. U don't want it to get to that point ..trust me... But if it does...miracles do happen. As Craig says, feelings change like the clouds in the sky. Best of luck to you :)
I dated a girl who broke up with her ex after he drove 12 hours to be with her and her family on their vacation. She didn't have the balls to call him on the phone and tell him before he drove all that way. Poor dude had a 12 hour drive by himself with a broken heart. So cold hearted.
It's SO true! You are who you hang out with. My ex loved playing yugioh and played competitively with his friends. And when we began dating he said he would quit playing competitively. My first thought was "wow that was so great of him he must really love me and want to move forward together." He was just going to play with friends. Towards the end of our relationship he said I "misinterpreted" what he told me in the beginning and actually meant he was just gonna play competitively in town. So in the end he broke up with me bc he said he wanted to keep playing competitively and is now going out of town and out of state to play yugioh. This guy is 25 but mentally 15. So yes. You are who you hang out with
Thanks Coach Craig! I've been watching your videos religiously and they've been instrumental in helping me gain perspective and start over after my breakup. Thought I should add a bit of relevant wise humor here, gleaned from a tv show I watch:
"You know, it's funny: when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags."
Don't date gold diggers and users no matter how attractive they are!!
Coach my situation is literally impossible she broke up with me and told me she was moving back home to stay with her family but I handled it well and told her if that's what's gonna make her happy I support it...haven't contacted her in two weeks she's leaving after the new year ..I caught her driving by my house to see if I was home lol but she's leaving it's over time to move on !!
So...my ex was really uncomfortable around the subject of exes. He didn't like talking about his past. I have no idea who any of his exes are and she showed no interest in mine. When I told him about trying to stay friends with an ex crush in our early days of dating, he said "that's why I don't think you can stay friends with exes - it's too easy to be reminded (why you liked them)". He also said that going to America for 5 months was 'the perfect distraction' the last time he was dumped (2 years before we met). He seemed to talk about exes as if he felt superior to them, not in a 'my crazy ex' kind of way, but in a "I've never met anyone like you" kind of way. I was his first serious girlfriend.
I know everyone says this, but I REALLY can't see him reaching out. He's too self respecting. The only way we'd ever get talking again if of we accidentally bumped into one another. No way in hell would he ever text me, not even an indirect direct approach. It's been nearly 4 months...
Thoughts, anyone?
a new video on a sunday night?? #blessed
Nah but seriously. If there is anyone out there on the fence about getting a coaching with Craig, DO IT. It's so worth it. I did an email and I plan on doing a skype with him (as soon as im not lazy enough to redownload skype) he is so helpful and his advice is spot on. Dont squander the opportunity and FOLLOW his advice! It's worth it. Thanks again for the email coaching, Coach :) you'll hear from me again soon!
He's so expensive though :(
Matt-Man I've seen more expensive coaches. He's actually quite cheap considering the help he offers! If you can get the money you should do it. But his videos are just as good :)
Glad it helped! Btw you can download Skype to your phone. Works better than computer
No, I don't think he's that expensive considering that he keeps recording very frequently videos that you can review every time you feel the need to.
So I binge watch Coach Craig. Last year I did an email coach with him. I have jumped between anxious and avoidant most of my life. Ive been anxious with the woman I call my ex. Coach Craig not only gives great advice, but from some of his personal stories, I feel my story is a bit similar in certain aspects to at least one of his own relationships. Ive been in therapy as well at home here in canada. My therapist is not just a therapist..and although she understands attachment (but isnt as well educated as Craig ) she is a behaviourlist. I got close to my ex after my email coaching with craig..but she was still wishy washy. We went on a date last march and she was touching me after she had some wine.. I didnt persue and didnt call and she said we should hang more. I SHOULDNT have talked to my parents because they said she was keeping me on the hook. I pushed her away.. I was confused how she could say she needed more time ( she wasnt dating and still hasnt in almost 2 years other than me) I started dating someone else for 4 months and my ex disappeared. Wouldnt even talk. I think. "I" pulled a momentarily avoidant kick. I was using this girl to mask my confision thinking I could get past the one who really meant everything to me.
Fast forward. I stopped dating this girl in September.. And suddenly my ex who is is not dissmissive but was abandoned by her mom, and to make it worse when her mom left took her older half sister and left her with her grandparents.. Well we texted a bit. She is a nurse, and after 18 months asked if I still had a uniform she left behind. Within 12 hours I dropped off her outfit.. We talked.. We laughed.. I asked if I could drop off some gifts for her kids.. I showed up with my son Saturday past.. Her kids hugged me, she hugged me.. We stayed hours.. It was so comfortable.. She said I looked great, i had lost 40 lbs. In the short short period we chatted about us.. We agreed to forget the 18 months we both acted off. We werent ourself. She even said we never fought. She still said she is in a comfirtable place looking after her kids.. But she ended with that could change. All I said was im ok the way it is.. And ended by saying , who ever I date in the future will have big shoes to fill. She smiled and said 7 1/2? It was my way of saying youre the one, but.. Not the only one.. When I left.. She hugged me for 2 minutes..i whispered in her ear..it will be ok sweety.. We should do more in the new year together.. She agreed...
I got home... She started following me on Instagram again.. Im staying quiet.. But she put on a meme.. I want to start over again..but thus time maybe loving myself a little more.. Im going to live my life.. My only hope is to let her know Im safe.. Thats it.. But there is not a doubt in my mind she cares.. But she has to process.. My words will not convince her.. My best action at this point.. Is no action.. Thanks craig.. I hope Im doing it right..
I love this story. I wish you the best of luck.
Other one words... Yup, ok, yes...2 word ... I'm here . Others more than sure.
Poor guy. Sounds like Guillen Berre syndrome. My friend had the same thing. Serious stuff. He should have totally been putting all his attention on his health. She showed him exactly who she was. Love you guys btw! You have been my voice of reason and saviors in my difficult time of self acceptance and personal development ❤️
Also stay away from self-described "fiercely independent" and "free spirit"...
Is it possible to say that people who are so preoccupied with getting their own needs met by others, to the point where they are blind to others, in an essence describe narcissistic behavior. That narcissistic behaviors are not originally about inflicting pain or any malignant behavior as the online community sort of explain it. But that conflicts in these cases just simply arrive due to one's inability to differentiate oneself from one's environment? That is to say almost all pain in these kinds of dynamics actually just is collective damage...
What do you think?
Love your channel!
Just curious. How long should you date before becoming exclusive?
P C 21 months
Charletta Ramono 😂nice
P C since the day before your first date you ve been already exclusive#sorry#not sorry🤗 looool
Whenever it feels right. Tho I feel the 3 month mark is a good point any longer and what are you hanging around for really?
Forget the girl in the email, you deserve better.
Craig why are you so good at coaching like your the best
Man this dude needs to move on from this female. She left him to fend for himself when he was helplessly sick😒. Next! She's a soulless creature. My X did the same thing to me. Next.
Sir,
I need suggestion
My girlfriend blocked my contact and also blocked me on social sites . She want break up . But i don't
She saya she never talk to me anymore and leave me .
Now what should i dom
Could you please tell me.?
i'll try sir,
but sir
i don't want to lose her.
Woman feeling and emotions is up and down. Give the space that she wants no chase. U Will see if she likes u really she will reach out no matter reason
I'm only at the 3rd minute but I just had to stop and comment:
My ex got together with some sonovabich I thought was my best friend. Imagine how loyal he is for dropping a friend for a woman. Even if that woman was already my ex, it would still be a serious violation of the bro code, but she was still in a sexual relationship with me and he knew that. Now imagine how serious he is about her if he knows this about her. If that wasn't enough, I told her over a year ago that he had 2 affairs simultaneously and the women didn't know about eachother. I didn't think a year ago that they would get together, so why would I had made up stuff like that about him?
Boy, is she in for some surprise? :D
Definitely a Ukrainian or Russian woman in that email
How are you? Fine.-)
This girl was just awful and he was weak