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AMWDW "Lightning Bliss and the Fear of Not Being Needed"
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- Опубліковано 8 кві 2021
- Lightning Bliss struggles with a fear that one day her friends could no longer be interested in her company. That she could even be replaced. Turns out that DRWolf has struggled with those same fears...
Drawn/Edited by Lightning Bliss: / e1d2k
Thumbnail Artwork by Mythpony: www.deviantart...
I’ll admit this was a difficult session to write as well as record. But I personally want to thank Doc for encouraging me on the idea to do it as I felt it would help me to let go some negativity as well as shed some light on my work ethic and behavior. I do appreciate all the friendships I have and I’m even more grateful that I found friends that appreciate me for who I am as well as interests. And while I still get a little fearful, I like to think I’m moving forward with help from friends who are there for me. Big shout to all my closest friends. Thank you for putting up with a goofy rainbow fluff ball like me. Including the WolfBro :)
Bless u ❤️ hugs her
God Bless you
@@FrostTheHobidon I full heartily agree with you
You always have a friend in the darkness
TT^TT Blissy....can I give you a hug?
A very authentic showing of vulnerability. :)
I honestly felt that lighting bliss is almost like rarity in an episode (which I'm blanking on.) where she becomes overburdened with every little detail to the point of a complete burnout of the mind, body and soul. Same thing with applejack when she refused to ask for help with her fields. (Again, blanking on the episode.) but, in the end lighting bliss, from the bottom of my heart, take some time away from your sketch books, and drawing tablets and spend time with your family. Take a vacation, go for a walk or something.
Whenever you come back, make a schedule. Start a project, work a couple hours, take an hour or so break, return for an hour or two, eat, rest and repeat. It will still be there waiting for you.
hi munchie
Fear like that never truly goes away, all we can really do is not let it control your life.
I agree fear is object not a person and dont let that object control you but you control your life not fear...
@@samyhaf6286 eeyup
100% agreed.
So true
I agree but sometimes it gets really hard.
.....I really needed this video. I understand Lightning's pain of having a close friend ghost you.... The worst part is that I watched her replace me. I'm always the one who helps my friends, and deep down I've always known that a part of the reason for that is because I'm afraid of not helping them, because if I can't fix every problem they might abandon me...... or replace me.. It really hurts. This video came right after I had a breakdown about this..... I really wish I could give Lightning a hug. I really needed this video. Thank you Doc.
Same thing for me as well with my friends who where family to me and my some of my actually family.
Trump lost the election hahaha losers
@@brightmacsworld8353 that has nothing to do with what's being said so get out of here.
This one hits hard for me, I have has friends abandon me and decided I was no longer needed. This one really hits hard in the feels
Same.
Happened to me in 3rd grade.
A friend I had since kindergarten one day suddenly told me to leave him alone, shouted it right in my face in front of everyone in the school yard, actually, and we never made up.
More than 20 years later and, to this day I still have no idea why he stopped wanting to be friends.
It's been a while since the last Session with Blissums and I want to Hug her. You have years worth of talent, Lightning. Almost 8 years worth. Don't let it all strain on you now. Nice job, Doc.
I agree i want to hug her too
I never new Lightning was holding onto this fear, I really hope she’ll get better at some point
Fear is hard for anypony to control, but over time, and great, LOYAL friends it can and will be overcame
I hope so too.
Alright, another therapy visit vid this day just got a whole lot better!...but i somewhat understand how Blissy feels, for i sometimes worry that someday me and my friends will all just drift apart because of life and all that, but at the same time i realize that sometimes that's just how life works friends may come and go but friendship lasts forever!!!
I feel the same with my friends
Honestly, your fear is valid and relatable, blissy. I honestly have had that fear in the past, mainly about making friendships in the first place. I have been abandoned by friends in the past for just being me, and i've had people i thought were friends suddenly begin putting me down for no other reason than me having other things to do that were more important or pressing matters than having a call with them at that exact moment. Honestly, I know it's hard to let that fear go, especially when your group of friends in the past abandoned you. However, I have complete confidence that you don't have to worry about that as much and you will get through this fear at your own pace. It will take time, but you will learn to relax a bit more, and worry less about needing to work constantly to continue having these friends you have. Point is, i'm sure you will always be valued and cared for by your friends, and at least some of the brony community. Good luck, blissy.
I am not sure where you got that idea, but the brony community is not on it's last threads. Those lies and acts of violence towards children that you speak of were isolated incidents, and were done by the very tiny amount of people that used mlp to attract kids. You seem to be looking at only the loud minority, and not the bronies that are still good after all the problems that people caused. Bronies are not anywhere near being done. Every group of bronies i'm part of on every one of my social medias are not anywhere near done. And while brony youtubers are posting less mlp stuff, it's only because the show is currently over, and we're waiting for G5. Or the ones that aren't waiting for G5 aren't posting mlp stuff as often bevause there isn't any new mlp stuff to post about. So, point is that the brony community is far from done. While it may be smaller since mlp:fim is over, that does not mean that the bronies and pegasisters that are still part of the community are going to give up. We learned too much about friendship and made too strong of a bond between each other to have it break so easily. I know the community will slowly shrink and eventually fade from the public eye, but there will always be the people that come together because of mlp and what it's done for us. This is not the end. This is just a new beginning, and a chance for more bronies to appear when G5 comes out. And maybe, just maybe, the people who become bronies through G5 will go back and watch G4 to see what they missed out on when they didn't now what they'd missed out on. It may seem like wishful thinking to some people, but i really believe that can happen, and the brony community will return, changed, and we will remember all the good times, and look forward to the new memories that are yet to come through the next generation.
@@ZapStrideGaming very well said i agree with you. Theres much ahead of us even stories that were never told. We are here and well continue to a new future.
Yaknow..Dr Wolf can actually be a therapist and if he is one keep up the work. Hell some of these videos have even helped me in certain times! I hope your work will be remembered for all of eternity. Stay strong and stay happy.
Thank you kindly for the encouraging words :) And I'm glad I could be of service to you.
@@DRWolf001 What about _you,_ Doc? Any fears?
@@samschmit7181 Go watch "Luna's Therapy Visit" :)
@@DRWolf001 I thought you were afraid of heights?
@@DRWolf001 Sorry, I meant "fears" as in "anything that scares you."
The reason why lightning bliss work hard...because now we know why she work hard and we value that work bliss we all have fears my fear is being alone and being left just so you know we value you lighting bliss always...we love you😊❤
The past can hurt a whole lot if we allow ourselves to continue thinking about it, but at the same time, those experiences gives us a very important choice to make. We can either let these loses define us or we can learn from it.
I will never get tired of the doc saying, "Tell me what's on your mind."
Those words with his voice? Ear candy.
Love your session vids, Doctor Wolf. Keep them coming!
Thank you kindly for the encouraging words :)
@@DRWolf001
And is Doc still alive to talk with G5 ponies?
This therapy session hit really close to home for me personally. After hearing Lightning's struggles of being ghosted and fearing about losing those who she cares the most about again, it reminded me of my own friendships over the years.
Growing up, I barely had any friends. When I eventually did find friends, I always was left in the wrong mindset that things would last. A grand majority of my friendships while growing up ended in me being ghosted, for reasons that were never made clear to me. Since then, I've barely been making any friends and even when I manage to make a few, they leave after only a short time. That's lead me to question what is the point of making friendships at all if they aren't going to last. Some day, I hope I could find a friend group of my own that would make me feel like I belong.
This AMWDW was the first in the series to get me crying, and it was well worth the wait. Thank you Doc for uploading this session, and Blissy, we value you and everything you've done for the community. You'll always be an inspiration to me.
What do you Republicans going to do senior chairs and just watch TV or be losers as you watch it Biden become your president subscribe to me if you think I'm sick
**hugs the bliss**
To lighting Bliss: That will never happen will always be needed for projects and fanfics, never quit what your doing your a wonderful person! Other than that keep at it with making videos!
To those in the same situation of abandonment,
in life you meet people that care for you, the only challenge is keeping those by your side after the fireworks are done. Some may hurt you or abandon you at your darkest moments, but it's how you react to those moments. You may try to get them back, but sometimes you cant rebuild the crumbled bridges. never give up hope in those situations, keep looking for the TRUE friends in the world. keep looking for that light in the dark.
keep looking and never give up,
RG
Man, this AMWDW went deep with Lighting Bliss' past and the fear of being left alone and forgotten without talking about the problem, or EVEN fix the misunderstanding since the others didn't want anything to do with her. Ungrateful those "people." At least Lighting Bliss has true friends who'll stick with her through and through. Go forward, Lighting Bliss.
Fear of being abandoned by people that you are close to, I can relate to it. People come, people leave, the true friends are ones that take the time to really get to understand you and stay along for the ride.
Ok, I cried in this session. It truly touched my heart and reminded me of what I kinda went through in the past. Just know that you are not alone Lightning Bliss. You have a great group of friends around you that support you and love you for all you do.
Trump lost the election to a landslide haha what are you Republicans going to do now? Be weak weak weak? To speak
gone through the same thing multiple times with a few friend groups. it always hurts.. i was the "glue" to my friends as well.. But Its not fair for them to say that cos its not your responsibility. True friends communicate and support your growth and achievements, most of all they want to see you happy.
Its so refreshing and encouraging to watch your helping others videos, and also seeing a group of friends who aren't shallow towards one another. My husband and I can relate to your story, especially with all the big changes that 2020 brought, makes me wonder how friendships outside of family last 😥
This one really hits too close to home for me. It was one of the AMWDW episodes that made me cry. Thank you Bliss for sharing and being brave enough to talk about this.
Well this is a surprise this just came out seconds ago 1
I find it hard to believe that bliss would ever do anything like that... she has done so much for others and has asked for so little. The joy she spreads through her work and art is all that she really asks for. She deserves better in life.
its possible those others were the problem
@@zeokingsilver very true I suppose.
Dr. Wolf, keep on making great videos with and without meaning 😁
Keep up the hard work doc. You are the heart of that nation. You dont need a super form. You already are one.
While others have that actual power of that super form, you are super on the inside.
You are so loved Lightning Bliss, you are very blessed with being an artist and animator as well as having an awesome group of friends IRL and in the Brony fandom. :)
Bless u doc and blissy
I almost wanna reach out and make friends but I've had abandonment issues with it so instead I'll just leave my love and support! You deserve to have friends! You're not hurting anybody by telling us what happened, in fact you made at least one person feel better about almost the same thing happening to them.
I don't know anything about you, and I already want to look up to you because you had the courage to go to a therapist you'd been with over the years and spill your heart out to him, and to us that spectate. Lightning Bliss, I'm going to look to YOU to feel inspired to press on. Thank you.
No one could EVER replace you, miss Bliss. You are special. 💖
Dear Lightning Bliss you can never be replaced. For you bring special happiness to your friend & fans. I’m so glad your in my life case I really enjoy your videos, voice, art work, and amazing talent. I wish you the best of luck on all your projects & problems. I love you as a loyal fan with all my heart. Take your time posting your videos. Keep up the good work. Have a wonderful day.
Life is hard
But we must always look on the Bright side and keep our sprits up
If we don’t, things could fall into dispar
Thankyou Doc for always being there for Blissy and helping everypony else even me in my hardest days HUG💖
Glad to be of service :)
I know I'm late to the party, but great job opening up Lightning Bliss. I can understand the fear of not being needed, and by extension, the fear of being in the way and making things worse. It makes it difficult to do anything because you feel like if you don't no one will need you and you get left behind, but if you do help it'll just make everything worse and then they'll hate you before leaving you in the dust. Its a terrifying thing to face and its even more terrifying thing to talk about because as a whole society looks down on those who seek help for things like this(when I say as a whole I'm referring to media and the loud people on the internet, yall here are wonderful humans and ponies{take your pick} who support each other) and tell them something like "Oh, just take some deep breathes you'll be fine." or, "Egh, its just all in your head ignore it and it'll go away." And that's not true. These kinds of things do need to be discussed (Preferably with someone you trust and/or a professional) and talked about. If anyone else here is struggling with this, please talk to someone. Even if its one of those call in therapist lines, It might not fix everything, but it'll help. Stay strong everyone and have a wonderful Christmas/Hearths Warming.
I can kinda get where you’re coming from, Bliss. When I was a kid, I always tried to make friends with other kids like me and most of them were just jerks or just didn’t like me for one reason or another. But I was just a kid, so I didn’t know how to tell which ones wanted to be friends or not. It wasn’t until high school when I actually found friends who I truly liked and it’s because we all had the same interests. We’ve had some laughs and we were just inseparable. But now that we’ve graduated, I haven’t really seen them since. Though I know that they have their own lives to deal with, but I can always remember the times we had together.
And Doc, thanks for uploading another session with you. It has been a long time without one, so this is definitely worth the wait. Looking forward to seeing more future videos with you guys.
Trump lost the election haha were you Republicans going to sit in your seats and or fight back til you get what you want
Doctor Wolf looks so cute in Blissy's artstyle. ^w^
*hugs you Lightning Bliss* I know this feeling, while not in similar fashion, I do know the sharp pain of fear when it comes to not being needed. But you shouldn't work yourself into the ground, or lose yourself, instead find those that make you happiest day to day, find other things you like doing and do them. Just be who you are, for a day, a week, all year round. Keep your friends close, and even closer too. We are ALL needed on this great big marble because no matter how big the world is, the connections we make do matter and that's the best feeling ever. Take care of yourself Lightning, you too Doc.
Wow hugs for lightning bliss 💓💓 the most inspiring UA-camr I have ever see 💞
2yrs later and I still tear up from this video. Still need to work on healing and adjusting, and learn to let go of the fear.
Glad to see that you revisit these videos from time to time, just as I do :)
I want to give Blissy a hug. Hugs for Blissy💖💖💖.
Oh lighting bliss I totally understand you see when I first told some of my old high school friends that I was a furry some would say some very hurtful things and they would just abandon me because I was a furry. But some of them stuck by my side and encouraged me to go on into the fandom and I am very grateful for that and since being in both the mlp and furry fandom I have made so many friends. And I have enjoyed so many videos from Firebrand, Silver Quill, Dr. Wolf and you the great lighting bliss.
This was one heck of a emotional rollercoaster but in the end wholesome
It takes effort on both sides to make a friendship work. I'm sorry that they weren't willing to see your side and give you a second chance.
Trump lost the election haha what are you republicans going to do go to war or be weak weak weak weak weak
I wonder if any of those friends Blissy lost are still watching her. I wonder if they're gonna see this. Coz I feel this is something they need to hear. They pushed her to become someone great...only to turn around and dispise what she became...what THEY created...what THEY wanted. It baffles me how people can do stuff like that. It makes no sense.
Republicans lost the election hahaha
Wow, Bliss, I'm sorry you went through that, I actually relate completely. None-the-less You are an Awesome Alicorn, You got my support.
Sending happy vibes and huggles for bliss
Republicans lost the election
This video made me cry. I know how you feel lighting. I too get lost in keeping control of my writing while always wanting to help and be there for others. And Dr Wolf, the part when you said that people see your value when it feels like you can't see it, was a powerful statement to me. Keep up the great work you two! 💖
Only you are responsible for your happiness Blissy, what your previous friends said about you being the glue it’s only half true, they are the ones who failed to stay together due to their own merits, you are not responsible for their happiness, they encouraged you to pursue this path and then they vilify you for it.
You now have friends that will stand by you, we stand by you.❤️
This hits hard for me…friends that I’ve known for years doing a production for years…then was told that I was the problem…no matter what you do they do what they do and there’s sadly nothing much you can do if they decide to leave…it’s hard Lighting but I hope this doesn’t kill you deep down…it almost got me…but I had to find better by striving harder…I maybe another follower and it’s insane how much I can relate to you…thank you for standing higher little skittle corn…
I do feel really bad for Lightning Bliss! Good thing she did the right thing by talking to Dr Wolf! Very heartwarming and wonderful!
To be honest I have this fear too. I love the advice from Dr.Wolf, I have friends who have met me but then I feel like for someone who is working on my career dream I fear that my friends will go away or not wanna talk with me anymore because I am so busy. I do not like the fear of being alone. Yes, I want to have time for my friends but working on my life is actually an important one for me and future. In the end I do not want my friends to abandon me and they know that I am still here waiting to have another chat with them again.
This really hit me in so many ways. I can't say I have the same story, but I do know the fear of abandonment from others, and sadly of being used by them as well.
Still, thank you for your words, and for sharing.
Glad to be of service :)
i'm so sorry that Bliss went through that.
to be ghosted for so long and to be told that she was what kept her group of friends together...it feels wrong
that puts so much responsibility on her that shouldn't even have been a thing to begin with.
If the group were that dependent on Bliss, then as harsh as this may sound, that was a weak friendship that was going to dissolve soon, it's so unfair to pin the responsibility and blame on Bliss, especially with how she tried to still stay in contact with them.
I am happy that she found a group who care for her like you, silver, firebrand, and so man of the others.
I suppose...in some ways, Bliss was...perhaps meant to spend the amount of time with those friends, so that she would have the opportunity to meet all of you, her real friends and extended family and you've all been there with her, for her.
Bless you all Doc. Bless you all
Thank you for calming bliss I know change is hard but you need to take the bad with the good it’s part of life I lost friends over the years and it’s hard but you have so many friends bliss I am happy you have such supportive friends
There's aspects of this issue that I do relate to greatly. I haven't had anybody outright abandon me before. It was more just drifting apart over time in most cases. But I've spent a significant amount of time worrying that there will come a time where I end up being replaced. That there might come a day where my most precious friends and even my partners who both love me dearly don't need or want me around anymore and replace me with someone that can give them more. There are maybe one or two things I know for a fact I do relatively well, and there's been a fear in me for some time that, if those things ever change, then there go the only reasons people want me around.
only a true friend will be there for you, no mater what happens.
*Hugs blissy*
As a fan of you Blissy, I will never abandon nor unsubscribe to your chanmel if you are working hard in a video, Even if it takes to long, May you keep doing your thing and be more skilled on your talent
I think fear is really normal because we all fear something. But we also need to know and learn there are people out there willing to listen and help out.
This really hits home for me...Bliss and Doc..you two I’ll say that you two inspire me to keep going with my creativities despite the hardships in my life...I’ve had an experience like this in the online roleplaying community...I met a couple people from tumblr and they invited me to join a server on discord...at first they were happy to have me..least I think..but things didn’t start to go down hill until I found myself getting..sidelined? If I should say? I would often see them plotting ideas, and doing fun rps and doing a lot of fun together...I’ll admit I was still learning to educate back then...but..there are things that..I don’t think excuse what they said and stuff..often times I would ask to plot ideas with them and...I remember one saying “sorry, I can’t keep a muse with you” those words while I didn’t tell them...it actually hurt and made me start to reconsider continuing rping and writing ocs..that maybe none if it was for me..that I’m not good enough to continue working on it. It didn’t get better when they started to ignore me often times....they would say things about my ocs that...while I’ll admit woke me up to try and do better but...also at the same time made me afraid and discouraged me...I tried to follow some advices...but I’m starting to think that while I was trying so hard...I didn’t see them slowly distance them from me...they also accused me of guilt tripping..and got angry with me when I tried to brief my concerns to them and even more pushed me away and stepped on my own feelings like it doesn’t bother them...they would also accuse me of somethings starting connections without permission Which I clearly did ask! I asked and it was approved! I didn’t fight back because at the time I was so deep in my own depression with this that it felt pointless...I felt alone..ignored...not good enough..i felt like a nuisance, I always saw them have so much fun and I wanted to have fun with them! I tried to be good in their eyes but...it wasn’t enough...one day out of the blue they kicked me out...I tried to get answers...until two of them told me to never message them again...until I changed...Ans that they were never my friends...they just tolerated me...that was..honestly when I hit a low point in my life...I wasn’t in a good mindset...I was too afraid to reach out and make new friends...scared that that’s what everyone saw me as..a nuisance..but...as one door closes...another door opens as one should say...I found new friends and now?..I can safely say that...I have changed for the better but also..I met better people that deserve my friendship..it’s been many years since this incident...and like bliss I do have fears that this will all repeat...that I will mess up and everyone will abandon me again...I still get that fear..that feeling that I’m never good enough.......but I can say that thanks to my new friends and thanks to the inspirational messages from Doc and Bliss...I keep going...and I keep working on my ocs and do my best to take care my myself so I can take care of my friends
Bliss your an inspiration to be because in a way I relate...I get how you feel with those fears...and I want you to know that you are loved...so deeply not just by us but by your friends as well like doc and your hubby Subzero!..I look up to you a lot, your art and stories are amazing! And it makes me wanna write my own
Doc you inspire me to do better for my self...you taught me that if I can’t take care of myself..I can’t take care of the people I love nor can I keep going with what I love doing...
With that said...thank you Doctor Wolf...and Thank you Lightning Bliss
Lots of best wishes to you and all your friends
Glad we could be of service :)
This does really hit hard. I had similar experiences with friends. So much so I always ask my new friends I make they won't leave me. It's hard to loose people for no reason, especially when it just comes out of the blue. So I can personally relate to this. But this video does make me feel better, because I did move on and made new friends. So keep it up, it's a lovely video.
I'm glad you have people checking in on you Bliss. That's so important. When people don't check on you it's easy to imagine.... that you could disappear without them really feeling any impact. Please remember to check in on people you care about. It means a lot.
Uhg i want to hug bliss now... poor rainbowpone... i know that feeling, to be abandon by "friends" after expiring the owen "usefullness" time after time. Now i have 2 naybe 3 friends i trust and i am Jalous about others who can make friends more easy.
Doc Wolf, friends like you are a blessing in this World. Keep always an eye on Blissy, will ya please?
from having bpd although not the same thing but similar experience its HARD that fear of abandonment did control my life always a constant battle some point will feel more freer eventually the more you keep fighting it the ones who stick by you now are your true friends
This one I can relate to. I had a hard time making friends in school when I was in middle school because it was either cause I was bullied because of how I talked or what I talked about. I did make a group of friends but just like Lightning Bliss they suddenly ghosted me all of a sudden. No I'm not gonna compare myself to her since I know her situation is different. Basically I kept thinking maybe it was because I kept talking about mlp too much when they thought it was for little girls and also talked about animals too much even though I like animals too. One of them was my childhood friend too so that kinda hurt. But now I've met new friends and talk with them daily and we each cheer each other up whenever one of us are feeling down.
All the HUGS FOR BLISSY
Empathy is a cold mother. fk listening to this hurt, it's never easy to walk away you always leave a piece of your self behind.
Poor Lighting Bliss... but also good for her for growing, learning, and learning more about life's intentional ways.
This video honestly did made my heart sink and lift up with emotion. And I'm sure with othera too. I totally understand how it feels to think we are not needed or good enough for anyone.
There are days where I wish someone would check up on me or know that they care.
At the end of the day, we all just need someone to remind us once in awhile that we matter. We all matter, for THAT matter.
I'm sure Lightning Bliss appreciates the words of encouragement :)
@@DRWolf001 I mean hey! It's good to be helping! ^^
These videos are so beautiful XD thank you,
Glad to be of service :)
Dear Lightning Bliss
I was ghosted too
I was replaced too
I fear of recieving the same pain again
My dear...... look at how your friends deal with you loosing yourself in you work. When you turned inward you past circle went away without a word. Your current circle beckons to you with open arms to come back. In the past those around you would take all you would give. Now those around you welcome your efforts but will only let you give so much. You are no longer the glue, but a piece of the puzzle; each holding the others together. Without you the group would remain, but would not be whole. And I dare say that without the others you would continue on but would not be whole yourself. Continue to support and allow yourself to be supported.
If I was Lightnings friend I would be there for her no matter what no one deserves to be unhappy except the ones who hurt their friends
The first step to solving a problem, is accepting a problem exists.
Sometimes the only ones who see the problem are those who know the problem, so stepping up and pointing it out to others can be hard or challanging.
But then... Its not enough to know a problem, ans it may not be enough to see the problem, because even then there are things you cant do alone. So there you stand torn between two choices, one is to try your best and futilely try to solve it alone, hurting yourself in the long run... or you admit weakness and bring the burden of this problem to the attention of others.
The second option sounds best right? It means your not hurt... but it also meant admitting you had faults and needed help... admitting weakness. Its hard.... so hard sometimes. To bring your problems to someone else, who sometimes just fixes it without any trouble at all... which might make you feel even worse...
I've had similar experience to Mrs. Bliss. I've had friends that I thought cared for me a lot and interacted with frequently suddenly ghost me. Few ever gave a reason but one person did. She said I was nothing but a clingy brat that annoyed her to no end. That hurt me more than I can convey in words. I shut down for about a month after that and contemplated who I was as a person. Even now I talk to few people because I see myself as a nuisance that wastes other people's time.
been through similar things
This is something I've delt with this too and it's honestly the hardest thing I've ever felt. It made me feel worthless and I felt like no one would ever need me again. I felt like I wasn't good anything and that people would rather go to others for things then me. Then I made new friends who loved what I did and it made so happy because I felt like I had value again. They tell me that my stories are great and that they get joy from reading my stories. Now I know what I want to do with my life and it's all thx to them.
I can't believe that there is someone out there who has the exact same fear. Lightning Bliss I also experienced what you did, and it does hurt so much. Lightning Bliss I want to give you a big hug so much cause I understand that dreaded pain. I work hard for my friendships and then lose them for unknown reason. It's comforting to know that I am not alone on this, so thank you Dr. Wolf and Lightning Bliss for making this. Because you have reached out to a friend who needed to hear this. Thank you, thank you. 😢❤️
You will never be replaced lighting your one of my all time favorite brony UA-camrs and coming from me one of your fans a big hug to you from me you rock lighting
I had the same fear at one point in my life
*is patiently waiting for Doctor Wolf to do a video on the new comfirmed characters for MLP G5 movie Princess Pipp Petals and her sibling and sister Zipp Storm*
Different people have different personalities, which depends on the varying lives they have lived. You say you're prepared, yet you are not prepared for the unexpected turn, nor the outcome of the events, all because of how random the world works. You sometimes think that all you can do is just wait and hope for the best, or that you are destined to be alone and it is your fate set in stone. However, you still can make a change, to the world and yourself. It's not too late to make an attempt. You're the only one capable of determining your fate and destiny. Yes, you can hold onto the past, but don't hold on to a lot of it because in the end that will be the reason you are being held back in your extraordinary life and talents.
If you make new friends, technically you're building up a family. I'm sure they will be devastated if you were to put a halt to your path and completely stop your talents from pouring out. Make sure to not only continue the path that you have taken, but to also hold your friends, your family close, because in the end it doesn't last forever, and no doubt you will be eternally depressed and miserable if your life ends with isolation even following you to the grave.
I hope you find this comment/message useful to those who feel like they hold no value to this world. God speed us all.
I loved this session and I’m proud of you Blissy. I noticed in the session you guys mentioned the anime Fruits Basket. I would love to see Doc, or Blissy, or both of you make a video talking about fruits basket. I think it’s amazing, and I would love to have more people talk about it.
Thank you Dr Wolf and lightning for talking about this topic and I’ve definitely learned something from this video that I too don’t have to push myself too hard as well To hold things together As long as we have the right people helping us along the way it’s always worth the while And lightning I just want to say You’re definitely lucky to have friends like Dr Wolf and the others You never have to worry about losing that friendship with them Your friendship with them will last forever.
I get kicked out of every friend group I make, and I have no idea why! But I’m acutely aware that it’s something I’m doing, I just have no idea what.
So being abandoned is something I understand.
I think I want to have a moment with Dr. Wolf, especially about my anxiety about death and letting others down
It would be awesome if I had a chance to talk to him. I've always needed someone to talk to but no one ever wants ta listen.
It is relatable that experience. It may or may not be entirely irrational but it's something that I've always carried with me the belief that everyone in the world secretly hates me behind my back whether I know them or not. So the fear of being Ghosted like that is one I can directly relate to, the people I know and like and love all might suddenly turn on me for no reason at least not one I understand. I am somewhat older and wiser than I once was and that fear does not hurt me anything like it did when I was younger. That if I did become ghosted by some of my friends, maybe even all but one of them, It would hurt, but it wouldn't break me.
I am not a creative person outside of a few bits of story I write from time to time and I am certainly a natural introvert, but the friends I've had for getting on for 20 years have helped build me up as a person, and if I had to start over finding new friends, I could. The lessons I've learned would help me. But for a natural extrovert, I would imagine having all of that ripped away is soo much harder. With the Pandemic, I know I have at least one friend who is an extrovert who is going out of their mind with the lockdown here in the UK and would be more than happy to break the rules just for some social interaction. How he would cope if the community ghosted him, I don't know.
Wow I'm litterly crying I felt this heavy situation before I become a new UA-camr some people ghosted me without any of them telling me I always get paranoid when I checked their profiles to see if they still friended me even it's VERY hard to forget memories I had with them when I roleplay, chatting, calling that all those things together I don't get why people do such things I always think "what did I do wrong? " I always thinking is it the way I behave is it the way that I talk with those people trying to make friends with? They just unfriended me for some other reason this is so related of one my most BIGGEST fears that people think of me that I'm disgusted or weird I just glad I still have my friends from my childhood and my high school years this video almost broke me down to tears
*gives a blanket with coffee & chocolate chip cookies* here... You look like you need it
I know how bliss feels when ever my friends go the movies they never asked me if I would go with them to this day it still hurts me because these are the people grow up with and now I'm not sure if I can call them friends anymore because I feel they really don't need me anymore
The butterfly does not know how beautiful its wings are.
Excellent video as always.
This video actually hit me a bit hard actually since I could relate due to multiple instances in my life.
High school groups just breaking up as soon as you all go your separate ways, you suddenly learning your friends actually thought you were an annoyance or that they didn't want to be around you when you succeeded.
The one that still sticks with me the most where I wish I was able to prevent and speak up was with me and my fiances old friend group. It mainly consisted of my fiances friends but we all got along.
Turns out they knew each other while they were really young and been through so much. They treated all of us like family which I never really had in a group before. I tried my best to show my appreciation and slowly break out of my shell.
When their significant others got into the mix it kinda complicated things for the others. Idk why even to this day. I was chill with both being in the group. One who ill call Karen (not a joke just a random name I picked out), she and I had a mild misunderstanding at one point when we got introduced but I don't really hold grudges over petty stuff so I gave her a chance. We and our boyfriends at the time had a double date and we got along swiftly about fandoms. As we hung out a bit more I thought we were getting along. Turns out Karen believed I still held a grudge while in reality I never did and she just held it as an excuse for not wanting to be around me.
When the other significant other of one of the members of the group came in, that's where tensions started happening. I'll call her Rocky. Me and Rocky are currently still great friends to this day don't worry.
Due to a lot of family drama, Rocky and her boyfriend weren't really accepted into the group to hang out as much as we normally did. While I understood at certain points, I hated the fact that the group wasn't giving Rocky a chance. They judged her based off her boyfriends previous girlfriend.
Rocky was very shy when she first came around but I was the only one (my fiance wasn't part of the hate group but he was hesitant) who reached out and got to know her. Turns out she was and still is a big nerd like me.
So I decided to try to have all the girls hang out during girls days and stuff. We had our own group chat and I thought we all were getting along pretty well. I even told Karen she didn't have to hang out with us all the time and we won't force friendship or anything. She came with us out of her own free will. We got to the point where we trusted each other with personal stuff. I literally was the only girl in the group with a car and I took us out to places (we did get lost a couple times but we got home and to the destination safely).
Both me and Rocky thought everything was fine. Turns out Karen still hated my guts and wanted to cause drama one day.
Long story short she fabricated stories saying how horrible I was and told the whole group. Well first she left the girls chat and didn't answer me or Rockys texts for a whole week. We were worried so my fiance texted her and she spilled her sob story. How she felt forced into the friendship and how I still held a grudge (mind you was 3 years ago from that time) and how she hated that I favoritzed Rocky.
She blocked me on social media without letting me talk to her and long story short, the group stuck by her since her boyfriend was the "alpha of the group". If the group made a decision, they asked him first. At the time my fiance kinda was taking the leadership role (due to him being the cause of everyone hanging out most of the time. Like parties and going out. He was the only one besides me with a car.). But my fiance tried to clear things up (we had chats and everything to prove everything wrong. 4 people against 1) but Karen's boyfriend just broke things off with me and Noah. Didn't want to hear anything. He'd believe his girlfriend over anyone else in the group. It was painfully clear she was making stuff up.
The shock of everything happening at once as fast as it did and me not able to explain things still kinda gets to me. My fiances mom knows or believes it can be mended but my fiance and Karen's boyfriend are very stubborn. A wise person told all of us not to let a girl or guy get in between a great friendship or fight over petty stuff. But it happened.
Personally I still hold the belief the group will get back together in the next five years but me, Rocky and our significant others know that Karen won't be forgiven so easily. Not to sound threatening. No the rest of the group didn't know half of what was going on and we have no ill towards them. Even Karen's boyfriend I can forgive but if I'm gonna be in the same group as Karen, rules on communication need to be set.
No more lies and we talk civillaly through our quarrels with one another. Not just yelling to be louder than the other person.
At the time I felt lonely as hell when I realized the group wasn't coming back together. Luckily I've had the support of my fiance and Rocky. She didn't blame me for anything and thanked me for giving her a chance. We are still great friends to this day and I have ro regrets defending her from the group at the time. They missed out on one of the kindest and best people around.
This hits me on so many levels. I lost so many friends over drifting away or they not wanting to be friends anymore 🥺😭🥺
I think I'm just now beginning to understand the lesson of 'return of harmony'. The thing is, sometimes friends do drift apart, and change is inevitable, BUT that doesn't mean you have to stop being friends. If you don't do stuff together, you can still be friends. If you live on opposite sides of the world with no way to contact each other, you can still be friends. What counts is putting forth the effort to part ways amicably, or to be able to put forth the effort to stay together no matter what; because friendship can be more important than anything else. (Of course this doesn't mean you stay in abusive relationships cuz that's not friendship, that's just being used) Most importantly, you can't depend on someone else to maintain your friendship; it's unfair to them and in order to maintain a true friendship, it needs to go both ways.
Blissy, much as I hate to speak ill of anyone, your friends failed you. If they couldn't be bothered to maintain their ties with you, the very least they could have done is make sure that you all parted ways amicably. Of course, we're all still learning how to be good to each other. I hope one day you can work it out with them.
Im sorry that happened to you lightning.
man i do understand how bliss feels about this cuz i've been in that place before.
Ill send my hugs and love to bliss for this. hope she will cheer up soon.
similiar
Ahaha...shit that went straight to the heart with the feelings..
I have gone through some things like this Bliss so i understand how you feel
that was deep
poor blissy
You gave good advice on this very serious topic.
to be honest... this is the most relatable moment with Doctor Wolf I have seen.... back during high school I always did my best to make friends since I didn't have any social media during the time, no Facebook, no Twitter, no Instagram, heck even no MySpace. I always talked to all my friends before school, during lunch and even during class if lucky. And when I got my first laptop during the Christmas of my Senior year, I instantly signed up for Facebook to try and be one of the cool kids and I added all my school friends. Manage a few small time conversations with them, until... after graduation. After I graduated from high school i did converse with some but then... I got either ghosted or straight up ignored... even some of my closest friends during high school stopped talking to me. and it kinda happened as well when I first started my channel (still not a good channel but getting somewhat better) I made a good amount of friends but one accident later it felt like everyone was against me. Making memes bout the accident and it really hurted my feelings, more than they thought. but luckily nowadays I have good UA-cam pals who understand my feelings and talk calmly to me when I go crazy a bit, and I have made more friends who understand me and actually ask me if I am ok. I am still upset for the friends who have abandoned me but I am happy to have new friends who truly understand me and have given me support, even when I am struggling (either with real life or on UA-cam). So I can relate with Lightning Bliss a bit, but I understood how she felt.
Lots of hugs to Blissy.
Ditto.