He’s sleeping with both of us! | Talks with Tony
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In this video I’m discussing a long distance relationship with a woman and her child’s father, but there is another woman in the picture who won’t get out the way.
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As women our biggest mistake is dropping our guards when a man is testing us... Stop looking for “anything” to drop your standards for love. The love for you will never require you to drop your standards /guards for a relationship to exist.
Amen Sis I agree 💯
Exactly, sis!
Yasss!
“A man will treat you based on how he see you treat yourself.” TG
💯 I will always remember this.
@@j-tenn226 same
Don't let a man tell you more than once he doesn't want you.
💯💯 Tell you and show you!
@@kml7785 Exactly!! I swear I don't know what kind men these women day that they're so willing to be disrespected by them ...Ain't no way (Aretha Franklin voice)
Guilty
Preach!
Shelf supply. A man puts you on the shelf then grabs the other toy to play with. Mmmm might be a Narcissist
“If you’re not called this the stuff that make you break your laptop “ 😂😂😂😂😩
So many of us are delusional because we really didn’t have male influence in our life or strong people with self worth and self love to show us better.
Exactly. Nobody showed us. I’m so glad Tony answers the calling.
So true agree 💯
Yup I think it’s from our parents not teaching us anything or some of us was raise into chaos so we think it’s normal
😂 "All of yall are living trashy!"
I cracked up
Same here 😂😂😂😂😂
"Stuck tryna get plucked looking like a duck in a truck" lol Tony lol! We needed that laugh. Great wisdom mixed with humor.
Ikr , lol 😂😂😂
Tony, your wisdom reminds me of my father/stepfather. Your delivery is that of my brothers. Because I know I'm older, you'd be the awesome big brother to my daughter (if I had one). Your realness is that of my two 30ish sons & their friends. Your experiences and learned lessons are validation that you're definitely called for this. Thank you sooo much.
Walk away sis. That’s it that’s all. Heal, grow, and love on yourself. It’s so much better to have your peace than to sacrifice that for a little bit of fake love.
There are some letters that shouldnt even get to Tony especially if you have watched more than 10 of Tony videos. I totally understand when he says you have to be called to this.
True
Facts !
As a female, Tony, I must admit that with a lotta these emails & Talks With Tony the females are generally the ones in the wrong. I say that bc a lotta females are allowing the behavior, disrespect, & also disrespecting themselves🥴
Go and love yourself! And don't ever put any man before your kids. Your child(ren) should come first and foremost. You made the choice to bring them into the world, so the least you could do is to give them the love and care every child deserves. We are all products of our parents. Nurture your kid(s) as you would like to have been raised..
That letter is filled with LOW SELF-ESTEEM!!!
I heard it said once before, "Stop collecting red flags"!
It's been my experience women are very resistant to receiving sound and wise correction/advice. Very often we've heard wise correction before but dismissed it because the person was a hater or jealous. Or so we thought because they said something that was unpopular.
I think I need to get back on my mentor. I am a single mother of four and I feel like I could be a safe space for women who are not as far along on their journey. She does not need that man to help her raise her child.
Ditto I'm also single mother of 4 and 1 has special needs I am on a journey of self love I feel I need to wait until my kids are grown to even consider dating again they are 9 and under so very young.. x
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿Please do so.
I learn something new from Tony Gaskins every time I watch a video. 🙌🏾
I'm confused. If he's not the father leave that fool alone. Even if he was the father leave him alone.
This is so sad, and embarrassing. And looping in a child with it makes it worse, poor example for him. I am a black woman, and it’s lifestyles like this that makes it frustrating to me to always hear us as a black community primarily blaming white ppl for our issues. Yes, racism is a thing, a very dangerous sad reality. I am not discrediting that at all. But we do have control of our life too. We have to take some accountability for the unnecessary drama we expose ourselves to. I’m happy Tony suggested life coaches, I hope she uses this.
I totally agree..i was dating a guy & things got serious but one day he told me to not call his other phone
Which i text & call his other phone all the time but when he said that it didn’t sit right with i asked god to reveal the truth..i found out he had a Ex who was not a Ex he was still involved with & lived with her..i blocked him & let it go quick.
Lord have mercy! That was a message! This letter was a mess. She needs to just move along. This man is not the father of your son. He should’ve never been exposed to this person to begin with. Have some self love and respect for you and son. Please, just move along.
@@Rbar-s6q exactly just need to move on & love on thy self
This sounds terrible. Please move on sis, before he mess around and show violence to express he don’t care.
Bless Tony's heart. This letter (like so many others) really stressed him out🤦🏽♀️ but he provided great advice as Always.
I’m more concerned about the child more than anything
Exactly! Putting that poor baby through ALL types of disfunction. Then he's autistic on top of it. Why we can't do better atleast for the children? Smh this was sad but infuriating for me as well. She too old for this.
@@nataliet.3023 I understand my emotions was threw the roof listening to this but unfortunately it wasn’t surprising to hear because it’s too common in our community
I pray she actually see’s this. It’s time to get unstuck and move on sista! It’s better waiting for you and your son…
Yup you’re so right. Really have to dissect every single thing people say and do.
I’m praying for her too, faith is real and that’s what I also need to believe in more. Heavenly Father I pray that You continue to help Your children, in Jesus name 🙏🏾
I believe she's talking about 1 man and she's holding him to his word about staying an active father figure to her son. However, I think she needs to prepare herself for if and when he decides to change his mind. If she want him to stay in her son's life, she probably is gonna have to let go of romantic past and past agreements because he is indeed entitled to change it because he is not the father.
Oh this is an emotional roller coaster
God Bless you Tony. Your called to this bro. Definitely. 👼🏾
I love your existence Tony! I thank you for your raw truth!! You are necessary!
You telling the truth on all levels of this case.
Tony! I laughed so hard ! The way you read these letters! I always get the lesson, but it’s still funny !
"You listen to the man in the dark" Tony is funny 😂
🤣🤣🤣When Tony had to double back and read that line tho “Now that I’m Satisfied”……
TRASHY. Exactly, Tony.
Too much drama and ungodliness. 😵💫 I'd rather be alone.
Start listeninggg-uh! And not just watchinggg-uh!! Loooollllll
Wait a minute... so the son isn't her boyfriends biological child? Confused
Lord have mercy this letter was a mess
Ladies don't let a man tell you twice he don't want you. Move on. And that's not your son father. Please let him go and get yourself together
That was to much decoding, and yes we are in the right place. God bless you all.
Class in session am ready to learn thankyou, Mr Gaskins.
NOT ANYMORE. I LEFT 5 YEARS AGO NEVER LOOKED BACK 🤞👌✌️.
Stuck, plucked, duck, etc. 😂😂😂. But, factual.
Maybe the guy does not know he's not the biological father... 🤷🏽♀️
His word is everything ❤ b blessed yall 💓
Naw … she is the girlfriend. The BM has been the sidechick
She better get a backbone, if that Man is leaving your son w/that Lady ain’t no tellin what she’s doing to him. Chile Please stop hanging on to a fantasy…
tony bring doc evan back...lolololo
Be Blessed 😊
She’s trying to make this man want her and her son Oooweeee smh so sad 😞
If this woman knows her ex’a new gf..is making those kind of remarks on Twitter - why is she confused on how to co-parent w/a man who isn’t the child’s father. She is purposefully trying to figure out a way to insert herself into a dead situation - for no reason. Sister please just remove yourself from this situation. It’s ridiculous
THIS IS EVERY BIT OF THE SONG "TRIFLING GOOD FOR NOTHING TYPE OF SISTER/ BROTHER!" BOTH THESE SICKO'S NEED TO FIND GOD, THE NEAREST BIBLE, AND THE NEAREST BOTTLE OF HOLY OIL AND GET EMERSE! GOD PLEASE PROTECT THE MOTHER AND CHILD IN THIS UNFORTUNATE SITUATION!
Lol @ I didn't used to be a fashion consultant. 😄
This was a tough video 😩🙏🙏🙏🙏 blessings to everyone
Never put A kid through that
Mr.gaskins. , you are telling the truth @ the whole truth...blessings @ favor to you @ yours ..🙏
In a rut 😂😂
God Bless you Toni🌹🙏🏾
Manglish 😆
Take notes!
real talk
That man..well boy, doesn't want you, the child, the girl not even himself.
😱 Not his biological Dad, wait what!!!!!!!! 😳 The Silly women/men of the Bible All have this Destructive, Lustful spirit upon them. Sadly most don’t Care….as long as they get what they want! 💯✅🥰🌺
U got her koothie Juice 🧃 too girl !! Ur not the wife baby mama nothing HES out or the state LOL. Stop pushing it. U can’t do this Once the relationship is done is done. He told U he wants to move On w his life He told U over and over BYE
I know everyone is different but I think that is nasty of a man to do that and use woman like they don't matter and a woman to allow that is horrible. Have some respect for your body and yourself and value your self.
Also if you have man who ain't faithful to one woman let him go. It's not going to work out
I completely agree that these super plumped up lips look ridiculous. Let us all embrace the particular beauty we each were graced with.
He’s living w his girlfriend if he wanted U he would have U and ur son with him U wouldn’t have to leave state move here move there he doesn’t wanna pay
What’s the meaning of man in the dark ?
his way of saying kevin samuels without saying it lol
@@Rossi.K Thanks 😊
AMEN AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@ 16:31 😁
If the son isn’t biologically his she don’t have to let him see him. Move on sis!!
Sis have a problem..all that and that's not his son..so why you want him around. Sis sound like she like her drama.This man is lost, mad girls. Let the man go, he's done sis. Like ain't your child enough to handle? Focus on you and your child. He doesn't owe you this if it's not his. If anything get your baby dad to step up. That drama would be better to take on. What a mixup. Be blessed.
lmao sorry its just ghetto thanks for sharing T
🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😩 “Never let a man tell you TWICE, he don’t want you.” Please learn this, ladies!!
Amen!
I grew up with my grandmother telling me that. I took it to heart!!
Its a difference between fighting for someone who love you and fighting for someone to love you. Self love is a long process that involve sacrifice, work, and discipline. Its have to be a lifestyle.
Thank you for the lip comment. Some of these "k" people look crazzzzzzy! As for the Autistic child, keep the child away from him. The boys are quick to bond with any male who shows interest.
FACTS!🗣💯
Many people break their own hearts by loving a fantasy not the person that stands before them.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏽
True
He’s not the childs father, so what you fighting and get played for?? 🤦🏾♀️
Geesh....the things women accept 😥
I thought I heard that wrong. It’s not even his son!??! I’m sorry that’s jst pure nonsense. Smh
She's lucky this is not her child's biological father. So many women wish to cut bonds with the baby daddy but cannot due obvious reasons. Its a blessing to be able to start fresh!!!
Girl ..so True
You are so right about that 😬
As women...we go through so much and accept some horrible things to feel a snippet of love and acceptance .....we must love ourselves 🙏
💯
Yes love yourself enough to move on!! ✌🏽
@@LesA_09 IKR...geesh...its sad
Yesss a snippet of love and yet we as women will accept all the disrespect for it. A lack of love for ourselves. You are correct we must love ourselves.
@@mikas2609 grl IKR...u either WIN or u LEARN....smh
She have a soul tie, until she gets that delivered that spirit is not leaving, When a Man tell you "To move on"Please oblige him and become nonexistent!!!
She’s using her son to stay in touch with the guy, which is an act of desperation! She needs to come to reality, move on WITH HER SON and go get herself together; especially seeing that her son is a special needs child. SMH.
It took a minute, but I am completely convinced that this is 100% a servant of God. Hallelujah! It’s amazing how He is so great that he uses His children as vessels and sends His message and Holy word through them in layman’s terms. He is speaking through Tony in a language we understand and giving us the empowerment that many of us should have gotten from our fathers. Amazing.
Edit: bless you Tony G. for being a servant of God and blessing your people with your words and giving your time and dedication for free. If I were able, I would purchase whatever you’re selling! Grateful that I am able to watch. Since I’ve been looking at your videos daily, I am changing. It’s reinforcing the values and integrity that are already in me but have been stifled. Very empowering. Bless you
Tony: “ u must be from the hood”
Me:” yup this sounds a lillllll ghetto 🙈” I’m sorry 🙈😅
VERY!🤣🤣🤣
You trying to get plucked & stuck now u looking like a duck .. we cannot get this from no where else .. raw honest commentary.. thank you Tony!
She sounds crazy once you say all this out loud, there is nothing to hold on to here, so I don't understand the confusion. leave and move on and do some healing sis
Thank you Tony for reading this email. It really helped me to see myself in a different way . I pray for the lady in the email because I was” HER “ I feel her pain in this letter but I also hear the msg from Tony . Even though it stung a little bit even after healing . But I thank you Tony for this video today . You are saving souls God bless you
Lord have mercy. This is truly spiritual warfare. Tony is spot on with his analysis of this situation.I pray this lady remove herself and son from this man. She is definitely opening up her son to danger. Don’t walk,run and run 🏃🏾♀️ fast my dear.
I cant believe she trust her son around a man like him, let alone that other woman.
@@AndreiFantastic This is what I was thinking and didn’t expect to see it in the comments. She’s probably the one subconsciously looking for a father figure.
@@AndreiFantastic I know plenty of women with kids and they always looking for a step daddy and most end up getting knocked up again by a dead beat, I think if you have kids you should focus on your kids and wait till a man come to you and take your time
I sure did cuss at the 16:29 mark. I KNOW I’m not called to this 😂🤣😂🤣. No judgement sister, I know that I was just as delusional in other areas of relationships. Get the knowledge and grow from it 👍🏾
Nah I’m judging with righteous judgement bc this is pure stupidity😂😂😂
@Tony Gaskins 34:00 I’m shook. Thanks for that. I realized that a long time ago that black men are rough. I am mostly black and my father was mean. So god damn abusive. The lord took him and sadly most of my problems went with him, black men are some of the meanest I’ve encountered personally. Black men have a lot of problems. Damn Tony 43:17 that’s so true funny and messed up
Did the writer just give a open confession🤔...I'm curious does the "father" know he's not the biological father?...Things that make you go hmmm
Girl, one child and you're not out here living your best life? Go find out what happiness means to you and next time you look up you will be healed from this situation.
TG you should speak like this more because you stepped on a lot of toes in these comments. That's what's wrong with a lot of these women they use to being lied to. Like the saying goes, "Don't let a man tell you he don't want you twice" a lot of people needed to hear the manglish part. Keep those coming!
Looord of MERCY...Tony Gaskins is sooo hilarious 🤣🤣I'm enjoying this video on my 1hr lunch break. I thank you for sharing and learning us something. God bless you and your family.🙌🏾👑👏🏾💃🏾🤎
Read about the strange woman in the Bible Proverbs 7! Tony is on it
Stories like this make me appreciate my singleness that much more 😬 thanks Uncle Tony for always sharing your wisdom. 🥰
She’s 31 …. Do not waste your 30s at all stop ✋ n this man
The manglish! Dr Evan! 🤣
That was a lot! TG deserves an award for this unravelling and response!!!
She play games too. That’s why she left that tidbit out about him not being the father til the end.
PREACH Sir Gaskins and thank you for teaching us all - you are truly appreciated. I’m sure you’ve helped this young lady but so many others too. Praying we all choose to grow.
Girlfriend is delusional 🥺
She sent that to the right person Tony says 😂
So this ain’t the man’s child? Why is she holding on to him so bad for the child tf? she want to be the perfect family. He obviously don’t want to be there he even told her he wanted to move on but she didn’t let him. Girlll let him leave that ain’t even his child!!