Now THAT is the most perfect example of what a therapist is and is supposed to be!. "I'm a Therapist. I don't give advice, I offer observations and I pose questions". What a brilliant scene.
Is it? Don't get me wrong, she's astute and awesome, but in my experience of therapy they certainly do offer suggestions of advice, because people aren't always equipped to answer the questions they pose on their own.
@@alittlebirdysaid No. A good therapist leads that person to finding that answer, they direct them towards it. People think they want suggestions or advice, but in truth they don't. They could easily get that from friends and family, and usually when they do, they reject it. True change has to come from the answers within the individual, because they are the ones that know themselves and their situation the best. Not from others.
@@drakenfist as someone who started school for therapy, we do offer advice and specifically treatments if needed. We want to actively help people. This is a tv show lol
@@drakenfist Effective advice can only happen when the client and therapist both have real insight and awareness, so the subject does have a role in determining outcome. But a big part of therapy is learning healthy, constructive techniques and strategies for dealing with the things you want to change. That's not something you can pluck out of your inner consciousness, or something loved ones are always capable of giving. That's what you want from an expert without an agenda. A therapist.
A character doesn't always have to be likeable for them to be a good character. Real people are not always likeable. All the characters on this show have flaws, some of them very unattractive flaws. But that's what makes them so real and relatable to us.
"Your mother and I are the same gender. We're the same race. I am probably around the same age as she was when your father died." I had chills when she said that line. There are moments in this story that remind you of how powerful this story is. This is one of those moments. She was able to piece together why Randall became the person he became in a matter of minutes.
I'm a training therapist and this is the best example of therapy I've ever seen in media. They do it perfectly. He is resistant to the idea of therapy thinking how can anyone see something I can't. He plays that out by guessing what she's thinking... Something basic surface and simple. And she uncovers the deeper more serious issue that he may never have seen on his own. And she asks the right questions so he can make his own decisions about what to do with that information. Love it. Very good therapy. I could dream of being that good one day.
"I don't need an exercise from an over-priced therapist in cheap shoes to prove it to me."... Casually pans out so that we can see her shoes and judge for ourselves🤣
I agree that Randall is annoying right now, but for him to heal from his trauma, he has to work through to root of it. Life is messy and This Is Us is messy too. On a lighter note, was thrilled as always to see William again. My favourite character on this amazing show.
@@NYD666 I mean life can always be rough and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to believe that families like this can indeed exist. The fact that you think that families like this is bullshit is a good sign as it probably means your life isn’t as messy as theirs.
@@micheleatlilacsrust5785 he drops her because she’s a white woman and he wouldn’t be able to express everything on his mind. She wouldn’t understand his feeling and he needs someone who does to help him process what he’s going through, it’s the only way he’ll be able to work on himself. He never said she was a bad therapist, just that he needed a different one. If he stayed with her, he’d only suppress the things in his mind like he did with his family. Stop being so ignorant and assuming he changed therapists just because she’s white
I'm glad that Randall is finally getting the help he needs. He needs to confront his problems and not sweep them under the rug because his life is beginning to spiral out of control. His mother is ill and he needs to address how losing his last surviving parent is forcing him to confront the fact that he can't control everything in his life. His desire for control and perfection is due to the fact he wants to belong. He has to prove his worth as a member of the Pearson family.
@@princessprsh7761 she hid from him that she saw and met his real birth father (William) which she never told him (not even her own husband) and I guess he still can't forget and forgive that he could've met his birth father and have a relationship with his father when he kept asking and trying to find him when he was young.
However, people are not remembering when William told Randall that he followed Rebecca, to her house and after thinking, he decided to leave without preseting himself to his son, Randall. I dont blame Rebecca, because William was a mess and she fought a Lot to stay with Randall
Randal is not perfect I'm glad he is finally getting to the root of his problem he is mad at his mom he is still mad he can't hide from his feelings anymore he is angry more angry than he realizes
Caralho eu sou preto e adotado por pais brancos, e eu fui em uma psicologa q era identica a minha mãe, e ela me disse algo parecido, esse personagem é muito bizarro pra mim, tirando o fato de q eu sou filho unico eu sinto q to vendo minha vida em uma série, so tenho 23 agr mas espero n estar igual a ele quando envelhecer
What are you doing, guys?! Those parallel universes were heartbreaking to see. On the other hand, I forget about hardships of my life because I'm too busy feeling sorry for the Piersons) That's a great show, thank you.
Bobby Slater great point about Kate. I think it’s why I always find it so hard to empathize with her. She seems to think that she is the only person in the world, and in her family in particular, who has insecurities and issues.
Not true. I had a very similar dynamic that I couldn't see and it took going to therapy to get to the root of it. Truth is, most issues people have can be traced back to the most foundational relationships we have: with our parents.
I am so over randall. I am really starting to dislike his character.. his arrogance when he said to the therapist “this family would fall apart without me” and her response was exactly what I thought “WOULD THEY?” He is so flawed and he doesn’t even realise it. And if I hear his story again about being left at the fire station I AM GOING TO LOSE IT 😩
When I think of it, they haven't even addressed this at all this Season. The fight between Kevin and Randall this recent episode was more about race than about what led to them fighting in the first place.
Yeah, I feel like earlier in the series they presented Kevin as the bad sibling and Randall as the innocent one but this season has switched the roles!
Traumatic experiences can have long lasting effects that you may not even realize. Has Randall been annoying? Yes. However, what we are seeing is him facing his past traumas that he may not have even realized that he was holding on to. When you're in therapy and you start to get to the root of your problem, it's not a pretty process. A lot of ugliness can come out.
Taniqua Alexander I get what you’re saying about therapy and letting things go but it’s not just that it’s more like he’s acting like he’s the center of the world and that he’s better than everyone else in his life. And his anxiety is giving me anxiety and I find it quite amazing how could a fictional character affect a person that much!
Now THAT is the most perfect example of what a therapist is and is supposed to be!. "I'm a Therapist. I don't give advice, I offer observations and I pose questions". What a brilliant scene.
Is it? Don't get me wrong, she's astute and awesome, but in my experience of therapy they certainly do offer suggestions of advice, because people aren't always equipped to answer the questions they pose on their own.
@@alittlebirdysaid No. A good therapist leads that person to finding that answer, they direct them towards it. People think they want suggestions or advice, but in truth they don't. They could easily get that from friends and family, and usually when they do, they reject it.
True change has to come from the answers within the individual, because they are the ones that know themselves and their situation the best. Not from others.
@@drakenfist as someone who started school for therapy, we do offer advice and specifically treatments if needed. We want to actively help people. This is a tv show lol
@@drakenfist Effective advice can only happen when the client and therapist both have real insight and awareness, so the subject does have a role in determining outcome. But a big part of therapy is learning healthy, constructive techniques and strategies for dealing with the things you want to change. That's not something you can pluck out of your inner consciousness, or something loved ones are always capable of giving. That's what you want from an expert without an agenda. A therapist.
Exactly. That's the huge difference between a Counselor or a Coach and a good Therapist. I'm a Psychologist.
A character doesn't always have to be likeable for them to be a good character. Real people are not always likeable. All the characters on this show have flaws, some of them very unattractive flaws. But that's what makes them so real and relatable to us.
"Your mother and I are the same gender. We're the same race. I am probably around the same age as she was when your father died." I had chills when she said that line. There are moments in this story that remind you of how powerful this story is. This is one of those moments. She was able to piece together why Randall became the person he became in a matter of minutes.
In a discreet way, she is telling Randall about his issues. I think she is excellent!
I'm a training therapist and this is the best example of therapy I've ever seen in media. They do it perfectly. He is resistant to the idea of therapy thinking how can anyone see something I can't. He plays that out by guessing what she's thinking... Something basic surface and simple. And she uncovers the deeper more serious issue that he may never have seen on his own. And she asks the right questions so he can make his own decisions about what to do with that information. Love it. Very good therapy. I could dream of being that good one day.
"I don't need an exercise from an over-priced therapist in cheap shoes to prove it to me."... Casually pans out so that we can see her shoes and judge for ourselves🤣
Shady...🌳🤭
Lol, really nice observation, I didn't realise the shot's purpose until you said it😆
Rude, Randall!
“That’s why yo shoes raggedy”
“That’s why yo daddy dead”
I agree that Randall is annoying right now, but for him to heal from his trauma, he has to work through to root of it. Life is messy and This Is Us is messy too. On a lighter note, was thrilled as always to see William again. My favourite character on this amazing show.
No, life is crappy; but this is us is garbage that should be thrown in the incinerator. Who's life is this bullshitty?
@@NYD666 If you don't think people in the real world have lives like the characters on this show then you obviously know nothing about the real world.
@@NYD666 I mean life can always be rough and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to believe that families like this can indeed exist. The fact that you think that families like this is bullshit is a good sign as it probably means your life isn’t as messy as theirs.
Damn where I can book that therapist?? She has some skills for sure.
And needs her own show
@Adel A But he drops her anyway. Ridiculous.
@@micheleatlilacsrust5785 he drops her because she’s a white woman and he wouldn’t be able to express everything on his mind. She wouldn’t understand his feeling and he needs someone who does to help him process what he’s going through, it’s the only way he’ll be able to work on himself. He never said she was a bad therapist, just that he needed a different one. If he stayed with her, he’d only suppress the things in his mind like he did with his family. Stop being so ignorant and assuming he changed therapists just because she’s white
@@joemarks8548 LOL good one!!! .
@@SuperAbid0001 well said
I'm glad that Randall is finally getting the help he needs. He needs to confront his problems and not sweep them under the rug because his life is beginning to spiral out of control. His mother is ill and he needs to address how losing his last surviving parent is forcing him to confront the fact that he can't control everything in his life. His desire for control and perfection is due to the fact he wants to belong. He has to prove his worth as a member of the Pearson family.
It is a heavy duty to forgive the betrayal of a parent, but it is so much harder when that parent is getting close to fade from your life.
She's a good damn therapist
Randall, my all time fav character.
omg lmao "you know how many black men that can choose any therapist they want choose me?" so good.
Im so glad that there bringing up again that Rebecca lied to him. What she did was horrible and huge and not just easily forgotten.
... or forgiven.
@@jbscott612003 what did Rebecca lie about ? I'm sorry I don't watch the show . Just random UA-cam clips
@@princessprsh7761 she hid from him that she saw and met his real birth father (William) which she never told him (not even her own husband) and I guess he still can't forget and forgive that he could've met his birth father and have a relationship with his father when he kept asking and trying to find him when he was young.
So true I agree ,
@@darbloopeto7600 oh thank you .
However, people are not remembering when William told Randall that he followed Rebecca, to her house and after thinking, he decided to leave without preseting himself to his son, Randall. I dont blame Rebecca, because William was a mess and she fought a Lot to stay with Randall
Curious also that he referred to his mom as Rebecca.
"I dont't need an exercise from some overpriced therapist and CHEAP SHOSES to prove it to me".
Ugh, that's so bad...
Relinquish V He is so entitled
@@elsavillarreal7952 Agreed. He looks like an idiot because she had his number from the start.
@@micheleatlilacsrust5785 ...welcome to therapy? Where sick people go to get better...
@@maleehamahmood1286 ?????????????
Thank you; he was raised better than that.
Randal is not perfect I'm glad he is finally getting to the root of his problem he is mad at his mom he is still mad he can't hide from his feelings anymore he is angry more angry than he realizes
No one is 100% perfect. Randall is a very decent man, who loves his family deeply. He has moments when he is a bit arrogant.
People Need a THERAPIST LIKE THIS. It's so sad that therapist like this DON'T EXIST, the World really needs them.
Have loved her since Grease 2. ;)
Brilliant
Oh dear Randall !!!!!! Poor you !!!!!!
Is that Marcy Runkle?😂
Caralho eu sou preto e adotado por pais brancos, e eu fui em uma psicologa q era identica a minha mãe, e ela me disse algo parecido, esse personagem é muito bizarro pra mim, tirando o fato de q eu sou filho unico eu sinto q to vendo minha vida em uma série, so tenho 23 agr mas espero n estar igual a ele quando envelhecer
This show was sooooooooooooooooooooooo good
What are you doing, guys?! Those parallel universes were heartbreaking to see. On the other hand, I forget about hardships of my life because I'm too busy feeling sorry for the Piersons) That's a great show, thank you.
What is this show going to do in season 5
Yes and season 6
I asked the same question
Bobby Slater great point about Kate. I think it’s why I always find it so hard to empathize with her. She seems to think that she is the only person in the world, and in her family in particular, who has insecurities and issues.
Deeeeep!!!!!!
What's the truth about William?
Is this how useful therapy can be?
I am thinking about getting it, but I've never taken it, so the inertia still exists.
This type and level of therapist is one in a million.
Not true. I had a very similar dynamic that I couldn't see and it took going to therapy to get to the root of it. Truth is, most issues people have can be traced back to the most foundational relationships we have: with our parents.
I hope the therapist has a reoccurring role in the next season.
Randall is legitimately pissing me off
Totally agree whith you
Oh I want to just smack him!
Oh i want him gone already
you and everyone who agree with you are shallow minded.
He’s in the wrong right now but I still love him
So Randell daughter was avoiding the Randell show
I am so over randall. I am really starting to dislike his character.. his arrogance when he said to the therapist “this family would fall apart without me” and her response was exactly what I thought “WOULD THEY?” He is so flawed and he doesn’t even realise it. And if I hear his story again about being left at the fire station I AM GOING TO LOSE IT 😩
When I think of it, they haven't even addressed this at all this Season. The fight between Kevin and Randall this recent episode was more about race than about what led to them fighting in the first place.
I am glad someone points out that Randall does not walk on water.
This was Randall at his worst.......he wasn't likable in these episodes. He was rude.
I can’t believe I’m saying this but I’m so over Randall !!!
Enas Abu Ewaida yeah, this episode made me not like him...for the writers to do that, you know they are genius!
Yeah, I feel like earlier in the series they presented Kevin as the bad sibling and Randall as the innocent one but this season has switched the roles!
Traumatic experiences can have long lasting effects that you may not even realize. Has Randall been annoying? Yes. However, what we are seeing is him facing his past traumas that he may not have even realized that he was holding on to. When you're in therapy and you start to get to the root of your problem, it's not a pretty process. A lot of ugliness can come out.
He is a bit much.
Taniqua Alexander I get what you’re saying about therapy and letting things go but it’s not just that it’s more like he’s acting like he’s the center of the world and that he’s better than everyone else in his life.
And his anxiety is giving me anxiety and I find it quite amazing how could a fictional character affect a person that much!
Wyd MARCY!??
Randall is just too much these days. I really dislike him! Lmao
He has been through so much he needs to let before this gets more worse
He needs to let go before this gets worse
he makes everything about himself, he doesn't cares what Rebecca wants he just don't want to feel guilty when she dies just because he stay silent