@@ColleahG Agreed. I talked to my therapist this week about how I can't relate to anyone I meet anymore. Most are superficial and self absorbed. I'm told I'm weird bc I have no social media (other than UA-cam) and I take great pride in that. I can't handle the level of narcissism and mediocrity on the other platforms
I remember being labeled weird by a lot of people. It wasn’t fun, but you know, I was always doing the right thing and being kind while everyone else was rowdy and were troublemakers.
Thank you from someone who is an exception to every rule. It's been a challenging life and I've never fit in. However, in facing this I've come to understand how people really are, how they work, and how they need a herd to belong to in order to function. I don't like this aspect of humanity and I'm done. I walk my own path, mostly alone, but there are a few who walk it with me, and I cherish them.
Hi, Marie. I have loved your videos since I was a teen trying to understand why I'd be treated a certain way. From a young age, my mind was set on making wise choices and setting my life up in a better way than I had seen it done before. Others around me were instead focused on being careless with life. I was actively seeking out help and sound advice, and found you. Thank you for your potent words of wisdom, both then and now! God bless you, Marie!
I agree..but now the tables have turned..I was once bullied by a circle of people in my social settings and now I am certainly the one whom they fear....
Don't accept other people's definition of you and don't internalise it. If someone says "you're weird" you can simply respond "you're entitled to your opinion but that's not who I am" and then get on with your life. If they persist reduce or eliminate contact with them. Why would someone say something so insulting and rude to begin with? Probably to throw you off balance, make you feel insecure and make you try harder for their approval - i.e. to control you and how you view yourself.
This is basically the playerbase of Destiny 2. They will run their fucking mouths claiming you are "playing weird" and STILL boot you on a whim even if you know what you're doing and have a good meta loadout.
I embrace being weird. When someone calls me weird, I say yep, that's me. I wear it like a badge of honor! I'm proud to be weird...lol I don’t care what others think about me. I would rather be weird than be like everyone else.
Probably because they have capabilities other people don’t have or their lifestyle is different. I now live in a small town and everybody has 5-7 kids and 3-4 dogs. I don’t and they find it weird. You won’t believe the long stares I get every single day.
You can try to fit in and be accepted by everyone and limit yourself to medicocre or just be yourself freely and be free from worrying about other peoples opinions of you. I know which I prefer. Getting to the point of never ever giving a fig what people say to you or about you is a worthy goal which will only add to your happiness in life. Your skin will gradually get thicker to the point where people's negative comments will only make you laugh which triggers some people even more and you will see the ugliness and misery behind their public mask. You will see that their criticism is just a reaction to your freedom and happiness because they have neither.
Thank you so much for your videos and channel over all, this is really a big comfort for me and helps me over all, i have been struggling, now binge watching your channel, just thank you so much 💜
People who have social issues might have autism or ADHD or anxiety disorders. I have always struggled with socialising and might come across as a bit of off. Because of my ADHD and autism and anxiety. It's best not to care what people think . It's best to understand that people are too interested in themselves. They might not care about other people's feelings. So don't take it personally if people are snobby and judgemental. I have learned when having conversations with people. Its best not to over share . People dont like people starting conversations talking about themselves. Or saying something that they are not interested in. A narcissistic person won't talk to people if they don't want to talk to someone. They might ignore the person. Or say i don't care or im not interested in that. Or they might say excuse me a lot to end the conversation. That's why i have learned to just keep it polite with people that im not friends with.
This happened to me for the first time in my life and I really don’t know how to handle it. I have moved to a small town. I live in an apartment and it seems like a few people here have never lived in an apartment. Let me tell you having a car here is a very big deal and I don’t own a car. I work from home and just do want all the car hassles. So I was carrying my bags of groceries today and a woman one of the tenants was at the door and opened the door and I said thank you. She said in front of a few other tenants, “ I thought you were my shopper!” Now there is nothing wrong with being a shopper or a delivery person but calling someone “my shopper” is rude in my book. I would say, oh sorry, I was waiting for a few shopping bags and mistook you with someone else or I would simply not say anything. I knew she wanted a reaction and I just didn’t react but I am wondering why would anyone talk like that?
I am with you! I hardly use my car…would like to ditch it completely. I walk everywhere, especially the grocery store. People have made similar comments. “Do you own a car?” That sort of thing…but most people are really nice, just saying how they see me walking all the time. The people who make those comments are probably jealous of your fitness routine and wish they had the discipline that you do. I would just wave and smile and walk away.
How do you deal with friends who refuse to teach you things because they always wanna be better and are lazy and always leave you on read but at school they are nice when they are around you and you have a trio friendship group with them and they Always leave you out
That has happened to me as well. I know this might sound cliche, but make new friends! You don’t have to ditch the ones you have, but get involved in sports, clubs, wherever your interests lie. That way you will meet new people and before you know it, those acquaintances will turn into friendships and your lazy old friends won’t even matter any more.
Should I try avoid them and slowly leave them and move on when I messaged them about how I felt they completely ignored it in addition to that left me on read and pretended nothing happened the next day in addition to that made jokes with me then left me again
Okayy I got called strange last year & weird straight to my face a few minutes ago. my coworker asked me when was the last time I had a boyfriend cause I don’t seem like the type someone would want only if they wanna have sex. He’s 23& married I’m 23 & currently single . Also he told me he’s just telling the truth & he can tell that nobody ever told me the truth before. It hurts my feelings what do I do?
He is clearly trying to bring you down, to push your buttons…get a rise out of you. Could he be a jealous co-worker? Not sure what the motive is here, but stay away! Keep conversations with him short and only work-related (as you are likely doing already) because word is probably getting out that he is trouble.
Dear Marie, what to do if you have a good friend you know for a while, but something feels off and you cannot pinpoint what it is. It almost feels like this person has two personalities and is both insecure and full of theirself. Also I began to question many things this person tells me, since they have been lying to their partner quite many times even about minor things. Am I overthinking it, or is it rightful to feel this way? I really like this person as a friend, but some things are not adding up.
Listen to your gut feeling. Would they open up to you? I would say something like, “You don’t seem like yourself. Is everything OK?” Even if they say they are fine, it could be, the next time you see this person, they start sharing with you, because they know you are willing to listen.
If someone says you're weird or different take that as a compliment. Most of society is stupid and boring.
Agreed 💯
Yes!! Most of society truly has lost common sense, common courtesy, and many of the simple things that make for a well-rounded individual!
@@ColleahG Agreed. I talked to my therapist this week about how I can't relate to anyone I meet anymore. Most are superficial and self absorbed. I'm told I'm weird bc I have no social media (other than UA-cam) and I take great pride in that. I can't handle the level of narcissism and mediocrity on the other platforms
@nylotus what's so weird about not having social media as its a load of crud in my view!
I'm both of those things and a weirdo so can't blame others 😂
I would rather be weird than normal.
💜👍💜
Cuz baby the world ain't round its square
I remember being labeled weird by a lot of people. It wasn’t fun, but you know, I was always doing the right thing and being kind while everyone else was rowdy and were troublemakers.
Thank you from someone who is an exception to every rule. It's been a challenging life and I've never fit in. However, in facing this I've come to understand how people really are, how they work, and how they need a herd to belong to in order to function. I don't like this aspect of humanity and I'm done. I walk my own path, mostly alone, but there are a few who walk it with me, and I cherish them.
Hi, Marie. I have loved your videos since I was a teen trying to understand why I'd be treated a certain way. From a young age, my mind was set on making wise choices and setting my life up in a better way than I had seen it done before. Others around me were instead focused on being careless with life. I was actively seeking out help and sound advice, and found you.
Thank you for your potent words of wisdom, both then and now!
God bless you, Marie!
I've always been different. In my younger years I got bullied because of it.
I agree..but now the tables have turned..I was once bullied by a circle of people in my social settings and now I am certainly the one whom they fear....
Just accept yourself as you are. Dont care. You can't change peoples opinions of you
Years ago i got called weird because i was going out alone to pubs and on day trips!
It won't hurt as bad once you get into your 40s!! ha ha You will embrace your "weirdness" because it is what makes you memorable!
The true friends will appreciate the weird and crazy sides of you, and you won't even worry too much about how you come across.
Remember the saying “Everybody is somebody’s weirdo.”💕
Don't accept other people's definition of you and don't internalise it. If someone says "you're weird" you can simply respond "you're entitled to your opinion but that's not who I am" and then get on with your life. If they persist reduce or eliminate contact with them. Why would someone say something so insulting and rude to begin with? Probably to throw you off balance, make you feel insecure and make you try harder for their approval - i.e. to control you and how you view yourself.
This is basically the playerbase of Destiny 2. They will run their fucking mouths claiming you are "playing weird" and STILL boot you on a whim even if you know what you're doing and have a good meta loadout.
Exactly!
I embrace being weird. When someone calls me weird, I say yep, that's me. I wear it like a badge of honor! I'm proud to be weird...lol
I don’t care what others think about me. I would rather be weird than be like everyone else.
I’ve been watching your videos for years now and find them extremely helpful and educational. Thank you 🙏🏾
I embrace the label
Probably because they have capabilities other people don’t have or their lifestyle is different. I now live in a small town and everybody has 5-7 kids and 3-4 dogs. I don’t and they find it weird. You won’t believe the long stares I get every single day.
You can try to fit in and be accepted by everyone and limit yourself to medicocre or just be yourself freely and be free from worrying about other peoples opinions of you. I know which I prefer. Getting to the point of never ever giving a fig what people say to you or about you is a worthy goal which will only add to your happiness in life. Your skin will gradually get thicker to the point where people's negative comments will only make you laugh which triggers some people even more and you will see the ugliness and misery behind their public mask. You will see that their criticism is just a reaction to your freedom and happiness because they have neither.
Great point Marie! I only been called strange once (to my face) and that person was indeed a bad 🍏
Nothing wrong with being quirky and different. I am more comfortable around.them because I consider myself different also.
Thank you so much for your videos and channel over all, this is really a big comfort for me and helps me over all, i have been struggling, now binge watching your channel, just thank you so much 💜
Hello Marie, happy Tuesday! Thanks for you awesome advice. Have a wonderful great day ahead, beautiful friend! 😊❤🌹☀💪
Normal is overrated anyway!
People who have social issues might have autism or ADHD or anxiety disorders. I have always struggled with socialising and might come across as a bit of off. Because of my ADHD and autism and anxiety. It's best not to care what people think . It's best to understand that people are too interested in themselves. They might not care about other people's feelings. So don't take it personally if people are snobby and judgemental. I have learned when having conversations with people. Its best not to over share . People dont like people starting conversations talking about themselves. Or saying something that they are not interested in. A narcissistic person won't talk to people if they don't want to talk to someone. They might ignore the person. Or say i don't care or im not interested in that. Or they might say excuse me a lot to end the conversation. That's why i have learned to just keep it polite with people that im not friends with.
I only get called weird because I have a resting face or look serious
This happened to me for the first time in my life and I really don’t know how to handle it. I have moved to a small town. I live in an apartment and it seems like a few people here have never lived in an apartment. Let me tell you having a car here is a very big deal and I don’t own a car. I work from home and just do want all the car hassles. So I was carrying my bags of groceries today and a woman one of the tenants was at the door and opened the door and I said thank you. She said in front of a few other tenants, “ I thought you were my shopper!” Now there is nothing wrong with being a shopper or a delivery person but calling someone “my shopper” is rude in my book. I would say, oh sorry, I was waiting for a few shopping bags and mistook you with someone else or I would simply not say anything. I knew she wanted a reaction and I just didn’t react but I am wondering why would anyone talk like that?
I am with you! I hardly use my car…would like to ditch it completely. I walk everywhere, especially the grocery store. People have made similar comments. “Do you own a car?” That sort of thing…but most people are really nice, just saying how they see me walking all the time. The people who make those comments are probably jealous of your fitness routine and wish they had the discipline that you do. I would just wave and smile and walk away.
Thank you so much! 😊❤️
How do you deal with friends who refuse to teach you things because they always wanna be better and are lazy and always leave you on read but at school they are nice when they are around you and you have a trio friendship group with them and they Always leave you out
That has happened to me as well. I know this might sound cliche, but make new friends! You don’t have to ditch the ones you have, but get involved in sports, clubs, wherever your interests lie. That way you will meet new people and before you know it, those acquaintances will turn into friendships and your lazy old friends won’t even matter any more.
Should I try avoid them and slowly leave them and move on when I messaged them about how I felt they completely ignored it in addition to that left me on read and pretended nothing happened the next day in addition to that made jokes with me then left me again
@@mariedubuque so I don't know what to do
Okayy I got called strange last year & weird straight to my face a few minutes ago. my coworker asked me when was the last time I had a boyfriend cause I don’t seem like the type someone would want only if they wanna have sex. He’s 23& married I’m 23 & currently single . Also he told me he’s just telling the truth & he can tell that nobody ever told me the truth before. It hurts my feelings what do I do?
He is clearly trying to bring you down, to push your buttons…get a rise out of you. Could he be a jealous co-worker? Not sure what the motive is here, but stay away! Keep conversations with him short and only work-related (as you are likely doing already) because word is probably getting out that he is trouble.
I thought weird was kind of cool these days.
Dear Marie, what to do if you have a good friend you know for a while, but something feels off and you cannot pinpoint what it is. It almost feels like this person has two personalities and is both insecure and full of theirself. Also I began to question many things this person tells me, since they have been lying to their partner quite many times even about minor things. Am I overthinking it, or is it rightful to feel this way? I really like this person as a friend, but some things are not adding up.
Listen to your gut feeling. Would they open up to you? I would say something like, “You don’t seem like yourself. Is everything OK?” Even if they say they are fine, it could be, the next time you see this person, they start sharing with you, because they know you are willing to listen.
@@mariedubuque Thank you for your answer Marie, I will give it a shot :)
What's weird anyway?
I've always been different. In my younger years I got bullied because of it.
💯 % Embrace who you are. It breaks my heart when I see people copy and impersonate someone else, because they don’t know or like who they are :(