Andrew Tate #3 - (Manosphere Messiah) - Therapist Reacts
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- Опубліковано 14 вер 2022
- Dr Kirk reacts to Andrew Tate being interviewed by Chian on Stand Out TV.
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Andrew: The more you talk the worse.
Also Andrew: *cannot stfu*
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@Katie Halliday pointing out hypocrisy does not make you misandrist.
@Katie Halliday you know a big word! So cute
he is playing with her with words
@Katie Halliday no life x4 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I crack up thinking about how men are like "I need advice about women and what they like and want in relationships, I better ask a man who hates women!" 🤣
Well... to be fair, this is society's fault for segregating boys and girls so much.
I've met an absurd amount of both men and women who have had NO experience conversing with the other gender.
For that matter, I have barely any experience speaking with women myself, despite being a woman, because all of my interests were male dominated.
The irony is although he "hates women" he got a lot of them and they all loyal to him so he must be doing something right?
Facts lol 😂
In all seriousness, if you actually pay attention to women's actions, the advice you usually get doesn't match with who they date and partner with very frequently. I'd rather listen to Dr. Honda than just some random woman who isn't aware of her implicit biases and is incapable of giving useful advice
he has multiple women and he knows how to get girls
The amount of times he brings up the police is pretty telling and a massive red flag.
Makes his wee wee feel bigger to think of the PoWeR 🥴
Bruh u a whole red flag yourself
@@davidhernandez741 que?
@@davidhernandez741 My god. An incredible zinger. Intellectual titan over here.
@@jessicaflo5126 Que quieres
It seems like, for him, conversation is a battle. Not relating, but combat lol.
This!
its a "date" not an interview and the chick was a feminist thats why he has to debate
Yes!
@@jjrobledo it's a "date", "date" meaning a time where you're supposed to chill out and get to know a person that you may end up dating or having sex with. Not treat it as literally similar to being interrogated by the police. And, she's a feminist? Why? Because it seems like she thinks men and women should be equal? What a radical idea, if you're a 16 year old who's spent their entire lives watching incel/redpill UA-cam videos. Something tells me you may be quite literally 14 years old and regurgitating shit you heard on the internet. If so, I hope you grow out of it. If you're any older than 18, good luck mate, you're not getting laid any time soon.
Lol I agree! He has to “win”
Dear Dr. Honda,
Men keep saying there isn't a good role model for them to look up to... please consider making content geared towards men's issues. You are the best possible role model out there who already had a platform.
I thank you for your consideration.
Oh yes, there is a huge need for that!
He is already a role model by sharing his knowledge, his voice, opinion and his face on YT and other media platforms. One of the reasons I as a woman follow him is because Dr. Honda is a unicorn to me when it comes to healthy masculinity. Women also crave healthy male role models as much as men do.
It also has to do with men themselves and what they choose to consume .
@@ARS-fn6px yes but he seems to have more women following him than men.. and indeed this content should be seen by much more men :)
@@chagonzalez3712 thats mens choice, like I said... Like its the same when men complain that they cant show emotions because of "society" but society is you, me and them, and its mostly men who shame men for showing emotions since middle school , mostly women in their lives are the ones who beg and plead for emotional expression in men. A lot of men choose to live for each other instead of for themselves. Its their choice, women (and good men) can only lead by example, like dr Honda is doing.
And we women also should stop rewarding bad behavior, start raising the bar and stop coddling men. They are grown men, if they dont want to consume healthy content, dont want to go to therapy then its on them and them only and leave those men ALONE.
@@ARS-fn6px absolutely! People, in general, should stop rewarding bad behavior; both in themselves and other people.
But we don't have to dismiss or ban others we've deemed as not emotionally mature enough.
Yes men, in general, are terrible friends to each other. They shame each other for showing emotion. Women do their part in shaming them by being perpetual victims of men's emotional immaturity; often obsolving themselves of personal accountability in the toxic relationship cycle.
And you are one of many women I hear saying "leave men alone to learn their lesson" I understand, better than you can imagine, the thought process behind saying that and I agree to a point.
Individual women need to stay away from men who are toxic. They need to also look at themselves to recognize and change the things that attracts them to toxic men.
However, men en masse, need content specifically for them, which addresses their real issues and helps them learn to navigate this world in a healthier way. All they have now is Andrew Tate and the manosphere.
Dismissing that very real fact won't help anything.
For what it's worth, showing compassion doesn't mean you should acquiesce to bad behavior.
Andrew Tate is insecure person's idea what a confident person acts like.
Nailed it.
Well said!
So well said 👍🏻
Do you really think that a weak or insecure person could become a world champion boxer? I'm sure he has insecurities like most humans but to think he is a weak man is a coping mechanism.
Who cares. He became successful by doing it. Better than being a sad person pitying yourself
When women say they like assertive men they don't usually mean they want their boyfriend to bully them, Andrew.
Exactly!! This dude is a clown.
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Lol fr though!
It is pretty triggering as a woman hearing him speak like that to her, but your commentary makes it a comforting watch. Thank you for your sensitivity.
it's a dating show fam, he had to turn on a hyperbolic character for clicks. The girl made a tiktok after talking about how she's cool with him. y'all are taking this too emotionally 😂
Maybe you should just get out of your feelings
Aww your triggered from a youtube video.. wonder how you function in the real world
I agree with you that’s how I felt too.
He knows what he is doing that's all i'll say
The reason he's trying to convince men they're worthless unless they're rich is because he's running an MLM (Pyramid Scheme) to "teach" young men how to make money and be wealthy.
U dont know what a pyramid scheme is lmfao
MLM a is pryramid scheme? you serious? or you don't know it?
He is selling a course with money making methods yes that info can be found on the internet for free but still. The affiliate program isnt available for everyone and only a certain percentage got it.
It's not MLM at all lmfao, it's just a single level affiliate marketting scheme. Every content creator has affiliate links. You don't know what pyramid schemes are
Men already know they're nothing unless they're rich. Women make that painfully obvious everyday. Women don't give a shit about men unless they're successful and have status. Tate isn't saying anything new. He's only saying stuff people refuse to talk about or acknowledge in society.
The irony of this guy is that his entire personality is geared towards being the type of man he thinks women want (by adjusting his behaviour, beliefs, etc), while simultaneously preaching how he "runs his life exactly how he wants." lol
Also while putting "females" down. I'm no arm candy but he disgusts me. Any beautiful self respecting women he would approach would feel disgusted with him.
My 17 yr old has gotten into Andrew Tate. I think my he likes the way he speaks, because he just talks in circles. He doesn’t hold himself accountable, sadly just like my ex. Luckily we are able to talk about his fondness of Tate and what that could mean about his fears and insecurities. I am weirdly grateful for this character because we’ve had an opportunity to explore toxic masculinity and personal strength.
Do you want your son to be a simp? You don't want him to be rich, strong, charismatic, get lots of girls?
@@realg7849 Women want men to be weak simps that are emasculated on a massive scale. Misandry is tolerated misogyny is not get with the program
@@realg7849 it's possible to want your son to not be a simp and also not be a meat head that only brings money to the table and absolutely nothing else. This guy isn't charismatic to high value women. Attracting a quality partner is more important than attracting as many "girls" as possible.
@@prittyugly86 How is he a meathead? Have ever actually heard him speak? You do realize that the footage in this video is from a "dating" show that's meant to be entertaining right? It's not a real date. It's entertainment.
If you REALLY want to hear Tate go watch his actual interviews. His dad was a borderline Chess grandmaster and had an extremely high IQ as does Tate. He is a very eloquent speaker and a master orator. Just because a dude is tall and muscular it doesn't mean he's stupid.
@@prittyugly86 Btw what is a "high value woman" ? In your own words please
sometimes the best thing to do is not engage, not get triggered, a simple nod, or raise of the eyebrows, no answer at all, a monotone “ok”, and walk away… He deserves nothing more
Absolutely agree!! You can’t with these people. Lol
Grey rocking is the way to go!
Then run….
I personally it’s ideal to leave with a clear and calm, “this has been a terrible time, I would be grateful to never meet you again”
And THEN walk away
Men like Andrew Tate make me angry and quite frankly, scared. I never want to cross paths with a guy like him. But listening to Dr. Honda break down the insecurities and logical inconsistencies of what spews from Tate's mouth makes him seem less scary and in fact really pathetic
I don't know, I still find his contempt for women scary.
I've always seen manosphere types as broken and in denial- to the point of being pathetic, but they're still an incredibly dangerous group of men. As a group, they have a large body count, including not only women but also random acts of mass violence.
He specifically moved to a poor Eastern European country so he could abuse women without consequence
@@millsykooksy4863 Didnt he say there is a smaller chance of allegations being believed without evidence if so then if i was him i would do the same women hate him around the world and men have been ruined for doing nothing countless times.
If you are correct that he actually said he went there so he could abuse women free of consequences then i apologize but i remember watching that clip and it being about false allegations. I wish people would dunk on Tate by using the truth and not just repeating BS they heard disregarding the truth completely
This is why we shouldn't ban people like Tate and others who say things we don't agree with. It's far more beneficial for us to look at these people, really listen to what they're saying and engage in a way that leads the discourse in a better direction.
Arguing with them, dismissing them and telling them to shut up is the same way they say men should treat women.. the situation calls for everyone to be better than that.
People like Andrew Tate only have as much power over you as you give them. Realizing they're incredibly insecure, hurt people should allow us to approach these people with compassion while we challenge them.
Men really do have a lot of issues which needs to be addressed. They deserve to be heard just like we deserve to be heard. If we show we can listen, hear them and be willing to look at how we contribute to the situation... we can stand on firm ground when calling on them to do the same.
I don't know about you, but I think the worst part about andrew tate and the manosphere is how hypocritical they are... it's something to think about.
Andrew Tate is a great example of how NOT to be a man (and dare I say, a human..).
Thank you for this! I will watch it attentively!
@Katie Halliday lol as you were 🙂
@Katie Halliday Been seeing the same "misandrist" post from you on other comments, Out of curiosity do you find Tate's personality acceptable? I don't know who you are but I hope you have safe and kind relationships to go home to because Tate's is not it, whether he was a man or woman..
@Katie Halliday please take care of yourself.
that not true.. must of the boys today are addicted to tiktok and video games. Andrew Tate is a kickboxer, businessman and great at talking, knows whats happening in politics, has experience and travelled all around the world.
@Katie Halliday so you're saying all the little boys and aggravated men that are following him like he's a "man" guru are autistic because they can't seem to understand he's just exaggerating? Might make sense.
Dr. Honda is knocking it out of the park with this series. I've shared these with people in my circle who have experience with this in so many different ways. Women who are tired of dealing with the narratives of the masosphere, parents with middle school children are talking about Tate, and men who need a reminder to actually be respectful gentlemen again.
So that no man can ever have sex again? Open your eyes and look around! there is nothing modern women despise more than gentleman 😂
Y'all don't deserve good men anymore. Respect us
This is the perfect antidote to Tate’s nonsense. Thank you for thoughtfully dispelling the putrid garbage that spew’s out of this faux-confident chauvinist. I hope some of the vulnerable impressionable boys and young men who watch his indoctrination videos stumble across your channel!
Are you a good partner?
- The best.
Me: 😳
And yet... Here you are partner-less.. looking for love on a dating show 🙄
@@FisnikPodrimjahahahahahahahahaha
Girl: “What makes you the best partner?”
Andrew the incel: I don’t answer open ended questions (so I’ll bring up random facts on why u shouldn’t incriminate urself to the police)
Girl: “what type of man do you want to be?”
Andrew: Answers the open ended question (with a long winded response)
This dude is full of bs😂 great analysis 👍🏾 (it’s a joke Andrew isn’t an incel but a idiot nonetheless 😂)
They're not so random funnily enough, homie is an alleged sex trafficker that moved to Romania because of their lax laws around sexual assault and gender equality. He's talked to the cops a few times in his life.
Do you even understand the meaning of the word incel? It means somebody who can't get any women. Do you think Andrew Tate is unable to attract women?
@@henryclamore4791 Andrew is not likely an incel, but he is their current role model. Just like Jordan Peterson isn't actually a fascist incel- he's a happily married family man. But he was the fascist incels' guy for awhile.
@@Discordia5 You are wrong, most incels hate men like Tate because they see them as ripping off lonely desperate men, Tate is a PUA promoting the falsehood that unattractive men merely have to act like arrogant doucebags like him and thy will get women, when the truth is Tate owes his success to innate inborn features of his good looks and height.
Also incels hate and mock Jordan Peterson and hold him in utter contempt. I welcome the mainstream condemnation of both men and I identify as an incel.
It makes sense why men are called an incel as an insult shamed for not getting sex while women are shamed for being sluts atleast Tate is right about something lmao
7:05 "It requires him to sell himself to her" - nailed it!
You don't sell yourself to a bimbo
I’m a woman and I don’t want a man to control my life. I did date a couple people like this guy that didn’t care about My opinions even if it was about my own body..what to wear..”you can only wear that dress if I’m with you” you can’t have any man friends even if it’s from high school…you can’t be too friendly with roommates and neighbors…I should be able to look through your phone and messages whenever…if i want sex I can have it whenever….(since you’re my girlfriend, you should allow me access whenever and you can’t say no or I’ll punish you)
….all of that is highly stressful and demeaning to me as a woman. I can’t be with a man like that. Did for a year and a half and it totally messed with my head. Gave me anxiety and paranoia trying from make this person happy and convince him I was trustworthy.
My boyfriend started making me feel bad and saying I was too friendly and too pretty…..and he started treating me like crap because he was insecure about this..
But they say they love you 🙃
You’re right, not all woman want to be controlled and dominated. Woman aren’t objects!
Girl I'm so sorry you went through that. How awful. I always say no one who is secure tries to control anyone! They both don't make sense to go together in the same sentence. You were already parented once
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I love how Andrew is projecting his irl issues into that "date". Police, interrogation, innocent/guilty etc. I know just the things he is referring to!
I think he can't answer the questions "what makes me the best partner" because he can't think of an example. I doubt he's ever been in a serious relationship where he's been a good partner.
Or a serious relationship to start with. The way he spews vitriol reminds me of this virgin guy from 20 years ago, he never had a relationship and had never been kissed up to the age of 22. Also he was brainwashed by a work colleague to believe that all the women were easy and cheaters. That what Andrew Tate sounds like to me
I had my 11 year old watch this Tate Date because one of her classmates was saying some of this stuff in class. She cringed the whole time and now she knows some stuff about toxic influencers
Great mum, good on you!!! Your daughter obviously has a very secure and balanced role model.
I think maybe more children from 11 up should be shown this to see the red flags before they fall foul to predators like him.
Even your 11 year old girl reads right through Andrew, and he's out here giving advice for grown people. He's a fool. 11 is a great age to start warning your daughter about toxic boys and men. Some people are really letting their daughters out into the world believing that all boys are basically the same as them. There are some dangerous things that can happen if they're not taught about toxic masculinity and misogyny.
I'm doing the same with my 15 year old son.
You do know it's a show right? It's not a real date. It's entertainment. He's joking around with her. It's not REAL. You people are fucking DENSE!
If you really want to hear Tate, just search one of his numerous interviews. There's 5h one that dropped just last week and it's inarguably his best interview ever. There he gets to FULLY flesh out his ideas and POV and even addresses the numerous false allegations made against him
@@asunnywebb You do know that this isn't a real date right? It's a show for entertainment. It's not real. Go watch an actual Tate interview
I hope you continue to make these on Tate! It’s interesting to hear the psychology behind his misogyny.
@Katie Halliday Come up with a new comment, did you run out of brain cells?
@Katie Halliday no life x3 🌚🤣
@@Di-yx1mn you left like 7 comments on this page alone. No life times... 7 👍🏼
I hope he doesn't! I mean I hope he does because it's very insightful... but damn this guy's fan have no life or anything better to do or going for them... like... they're leaving 20+ comments and obviously not listening to the video if they are taking the time to just try and insult anyone thanking the good Dr/Professor. Oh they are jealous!!! Mr tate harps on status like crazy and we have a man here, the Dr what's up, of status speculating and they can't handle it lol.
@@prittyugly86 doesn’t have the same effect, brainless 🤕 nice try though
The question puts him in a vulnerable place because he doesn't actually have a good answer to it. For all his bluster he's not actually a good partner. I think he knows this and puts up defensiveness to distance himself from the question. He's feeling personally interrogated, for what is a pretty basic date question, hence the metaphor he's choosing.
I love how most everyone, not just Dr. Kirk, can read Andrew Tate like an open book. He really underestimates other humans, not just women.
You've nailed it! That's exactly what I thought. What is wrong with that question??? Unless he KNOWS he's a bad partner, he has no reason to avoid the question.
Loving you react to this series! It's cathartic hearing someone dismantling his sexism.
I love how Dr. Honda just sees right through this guy
It's interesting to look back on my life (very similar in upbringing to Tate), and think back to the way I used to think before actually talking to women and actually talking to enbi' peeps and realize that so much of it comes from insecurity. Thanks Dr. Honda for confirming a lot of those feelings I felt growing up as actually (weirdly enough) normal and understandable, but incorrect.
It just corroborates the way I started to feel when I opened my mind and (maybe more important) my heart.
Well done on your self growth ❤️❤️
What exactly do u disagree about all that he has said?
Congrats on managing to change, it must have been hard. I wish you a safe and beautiful healing journey 🦋
@@oninasrullah7757 watch the videos.
Thanks all 🥰
I wouldn't mind a guy who lives with his parents. Heck, might even be a good thing - i might get new parents within the same deal :D Also, funny people are very attractive! I don't get why incels come up with these theories in their own heads and then get mad at women for them 🙄
Yeah cost of living is so high these days… why not share the load with your family?
a guy who lives with his parents is considered as an incel
@@jjrobledo by whom? I know plenty of guys who lived with their parents after college until they had saved enough to move out - none are incels and all have dated or have long- term partners
While at the same time discounting 90% of women, then claiming women are shallow. The logic checks out
@@jjrobledo Incel doesn't make sense. I've been dating as a young adult for a while and Gen Z/Millenial men rarely have their own place. That makes sense to me and my friends since cost of living is so high and there's a general consensus that our generation is fucked in the housing market. It's just more realistic to live with parents as an older adult now.
I think the part that’s missing from this is that the reason Tate tried to avoid the question about what makes him a good boyfriend is that according to his own claims he’s convinced most of the women he’s “dated” to become cam girls and profited off of it. Now he’s allegedly being investigated on human trafficking charges. So, there’s not much he can say that won’t either contradict what he’s previously said to his fans or get him in trouble with the law
Oof, so when he was talking about the police it wasn't a figure of speech...
But I thought he went to church lol
Came to comment about the human trafficking investigation, wonder what Dr. Honda's commentary would be knowing that
@@kat4923 wow lol
Actually, the human trafficking case is unofficially closed as they don't have any ground to persue it further, but are trying to see if they can use the info they have to open a money laundering case which is why he refused to talk about his business. The guy is most likely a criminal, but his crimes against women are very exaggerated, his woman beater case was false as the woman admitted to lying, but the raid led to him fighting a case about the legality of his webcam business as it wasn't registered, he won and then ran to Romania , the sex trafficking case is about an American girl his brother brought to party who's BF called the embassy , Andrew was not there until the raid happened but the house is in his name so the case fell as such. It should be noted that every female he did a podcast with has come out to defend him and claim to consider him a friend.
Living at home is much more common ever since the cost of living went up. You can be a great person regardless of where you live. It's not that difficult. Or shouldn't be.
These videos are 25 minutes long and still feel way too short. This was so insightful! The part about how people make you feel is how they feel themselves was especially interesting to me.
Also Andrew Tate videos have always triggered me a lot. Even if people reacted to him, I never felt like they were outraged enough. With you it felt good to watch this eventhough you weren't outraged at all, because I felt seen somehow, because you explained why I was reacting to him the way I was reacting. Thank you so much!
I’ve always broken Tate down as an insecure manosphere person always. It’s awesome to hear a psychologist make the same analogies I use like when you reference slavery propaganda. It’s so crazy people really live by the things he says
I always assumed he came from lower class/ disadvantage, he has no manners and because he has a lot of money he sees himself above all the people with less money than himself. Educated people don't flaunt their wealth like that. Also he comes across as a very arrogant mysoginistic ignorant.
Just FYI Dr. K, think I'm speaking for most of us when I say that I wouldn't mind if your video was an hour or more long. Maybe your engagement analytics say differently, and if so that is fair enough, but on a topic as interesting as this is to me, I could to ya all day. Peace.
A confident man would take off his sunglasses inside. 🙄
@Katie Halliday I see that tongue in cheek sarcasm is lost on you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
@Katie Halliday No life x2 🤣🤣
@Katie Halliday wrronnnngggg
But thanks for assuming 😁 Still low on brain cells 😂
You so eloquently put into words what I have had swirling around in my head for weeks now. Nailed it Dr. Honda. Did I just send this video to all my friends who are Tate fans? Yes... yes I did. The BEST part is that his whole narrative revolves around "breaking free of the matrix" and living free of control and influence yet in the same breath says that women don't know what they want and subconsciously want a man to control them and that HE wants to be the one to control them. Those are two very conflicting ideas that he's mixing up and spitting out for MILLIONS of young men and boys to see. This is so dangerous it's crazy to me.
What has the answer from them been?
You do realize that Tate is on a show right? Like, it's not real and he's just entertaining. You get that right?
@@PermanentHigh but if you add his discourse to his irl actions plus how done young men are actually influenced by his words ...
That makes me genuinely curious what they get from him. Man I can't even imagine it, to me I'm like why would anyone be interested in him?
Dear men, please understand, Tate isn't being supportive of you, he is literally digging a bigger hole for you. Just sit down for a moment and think about how he defines high value men....and then think about how many u fulfill...Does these definitions help you? Or does these make you feel inadequate? Do you really believe just by 'working hard' you will be able to fulfill all the necessary criteria? If not, how about start making your own definition of value and follow them. Things that you can achieve at the same time makes you a better, more happier and sincere person...Just try and think...and if you still think his advices are good for you, then atleast you would have a clearer idea of yourself and what you want.
Who are u telling this. Dont fool yourself. Those who support him don't just watch reaction videos. We watch the real videos and able to get the context of his message. It's not possible that u agree with someone's opinion completely, u take the good ones and leave the ones that don't resonate with u. Generally, he is man of honour. Yall don't have this same energy for misadrists that say f**ck men all the time. Cynthia G recently called for all black male foetus to be removed amongst other nonsensical comment made by Ladies. This shows how hypocrital you guys are.
@@oninasrullah7757 I am sorry, let me understand this very clearly, you read my ONE COMMENT addressed to men, then made the extrapolated assumption that I, as a person wound support misandrists..and based on that PURE ASSUMPTION, U call me a hypocrite? I have no idea who this Cynthia G person is...Infact, I am hearing her name for the first time...But to fit your story to a narrative u just willy nilly say I support misandrists? When have you seen me do it? Name one instance... Personally, I haven't ever come across misandrists but when I do, I will have 'the same energy with them' as I have here.... And secondly, did I ever condemn anyone supporting or liking Andrew Tate? I just said how he defines 'high value men' can make men who can't achieve them feel inadequate. Therefore, I asked them to think for THEMSELVES whether or not they want this...If they do, then fine. If you really think he is man of honour...fine...If you really think you can distinguish between his good and bad advices, good for you...But since you without a shame made this assumption about me that I support misandrists thereby I am a hypocrite, I am gonna do the same to you and say I don't think you possess the IQ to distinguish between good and bad.....
We listen to men for advice, not women. Only men understand men.
@@quinty26Bullshit.
I’m way to fed up with this kind of men. The last red piller I talked to degraded me, told me that he will abuse me, if we start dating. I told him I don’t want to talk to him anymore and he should leave me alone. Of course he was super Respectful…. Just kidding…. Of course he told me I’m a stupid women who overreacts and is ugly bla bla bla. I’m wondering why he is still single?
I think this dude has mastered dating in "theory" but has never had a "real" date with a human in his life!
The amount of mental gymnastics you clown do is crazy
Uhm…. I don’t think Tates mastered dating even in theory 🤷🏻♀️
He hasn’t even gotten to the concept of respecting your partner!!
I love your overanalyzation series of this video. I've watched a lot of commentary on Andrew Tate and you have brought up many points that others have not expressed.
Guys like this can really trigger me, but this guy doesn’t and I think it’s because his insecurity is so overt that it’s difficult for me to feel anything but just really bad for him.
I’m learning about this guy because of your first video- and at first I was appalled by his demeanor but the more I see him talk the more l find him laughable and I’m surprised that he even has a following. Thank you for explaining him to us, because I’m so confused by his notion of what women want, what men should be or why people believe him. And I am from a sexist machista country- and still there men don’t speak in that manner. He seems to me like a snl character from the 90s - maybe that’s why I can’t stop laughing at him.
He is like an SNL character, if they were to clown on the manosphere! 😂
You know how many men agree with him on so much stuff but wont say it themselves because they know what it brings
@@deathitself6985 Right. They have sense to know when to keep their mouth shut to avoid social scorn. Andrew doesn't seem to care that a vast majority of women find him unfit for society, let alone to date. It's a severe lack of self awareness and tact- issues most successful happy men don't seem to have a problem with. Dr. Kirk is a high value man in most women's eyes because of his high emotional intelligence and laid back style. Andrew looks ridiculous and say ridiculous things (out loud.) You can't bring Andrew Tate home to mom, any mom. That instantly disqualifys him from being a HVM in high value woman's eyes.
Is he trying to seem like some kind of a badass by mentioning police interrogations..? Because any dummy should know you don't answer the cops _anything._
His fans know that there are accusations that he was recently arrested and questioned on human trafficking charges, which he denies but the police confirmed happend
@@secret_badass 🤣 you really think he'd be free if he was a human trafficker what country would allow that only if you knew how sensitive that is in Romania worse he's a foreigner they wouldnt let him get away with that he has addressed this at least 8 times in 8 different podcasts
@@majorflacko835 why on earth would the police make it up? There also photos and video of the police at his house and him getting into a police van. Just because he’s not currently in jail does mean there wasn’t an investigation or that an investigation isn’t still ongoing. But yeah, you’re right. I should definitely just believe the one person who has the most gain by claiming it never happened and not any of the evidence to the contrary.
@@secret_badass he was effectively swatted stop making lies he said theres no investigation this man has no charges oin any country stop proporting nonsense you obviously dont research no investigation no charges no bail nothing it was someone who called the police lying please stop all this you should be ashamed
@@secret_badass romania government is much more strict than the west government in term of Human trafficking especially if you are a foreigner
is accusation is enough for you to condemn someone ?
are you one of amber heard fan that accusing johny depp then believed her?
As the mother of a boy, I think about these toxic cultural influences every day! My little boy is currently 2 years old, on the precipice of discovering his gender and being exposed to all the ridiculous gendered conditioning that goes along with it. 😭
So you'd rather be exposed to people telling him it's okay to cut his dick off n take hormone blockers?
you thinking about this is good! It's not fun to think about or combat, but it is better than ignoring it or, worse, embracing it.
I hope your boy has a good father, because boys need a father figure more than anything. moms cant do it as good as dads do, when it comes to daughters then yes they need moms. Of course kids need both parents mom and dad but fathers figure is very important for a boy as same goes for girls like there are things and questions mothers (women) are better at like helping a girl when those days in a month starts you know? Dad can help too but never will be as good as women and comfortable. same goes for boys there are moments in boys life where he needs a man to help him go through
I pray your son doesn’t fall into the lgbt propaganda
PREACH its not Andrew Tate that scares me but the boys who think he has a point
Same here! Met so many of his toxic fans 😱😱😱
Dude, it's like 1% of women left that are worth a damn. Sorry. Y'all gotta do better
Red pill/reactionary dudes would love to label someone like Dr Honda as a "bugman" even though he's an example of someone much, much healthier than them
@Katie Halliday it could be a fake profile. Some people do that to ruin reputations.
@Katie Halliday Who cares? Wtf even is that, and how do you know it's actually him? lmao
@Katie Halliday but you’re missing literal brains 🧠
Would someone mind explaining what a “bug man” is, because all I can picture is some grotesque man-insect hybrid.
I mean based on work I've done in mental health and policy and with disenfranchised groups I DO agree with him about the police LOL - BUT... police are a system of power and the fact that someone would see a date as the same as police is super weird. And I do think that he's extremely immature, extremely insecure, and just insufferable. He's many words that start with "i" apparently to me haha, except interesting.
This is definitely a date I'd cut short out of boredom. I don't find him good looking enough (or bright enough) to waste my time riddling him this or riddling him that. Also, any dude who acts like exploratory questions on a coffee date should be preceded by a reading of his Miranda rights is probably too paranoid and self-conscious to be good in bed.
Thanks so much for breaking down these ideas Dr Honda - you’re so easy to understand/follow. It’s so helpful.
19:32 “underneath this bravado” you pulled back the curtain in the Wizard of Oz…😂❤💡
For the next anniversary marathon episode, maybe Umberto should do a segment as Andrew Tate wearing sunglasses.
These are very important videos. Thank you Dr Kirk ! Your clarity of thinking and skill with communication is phenomenal. The indoctrination via figures like people like Andrew Tate who are really deeply hurt or calculating for fame. Social media has a dark side
The way he belittles and berates her for sharing anything he doesn’t agree with shows how someone who enters in a relationship with him will likely soon not voice their own thoughts, feelings and opinions because it is always met with a negative reaction. He also does it in such a way that gives him space to gaslight her if she ever tried to reflect this process to him. He just wants a quiet woman who will meet his physical needs, he seems incapable of emotional depth and healthy relationship dynamics from what I’ve seen of him
He’s just been really wounded as a child. I feel sorry for him. He can’t be happy. He constantly seems to have to prove and assert himself. It must be hard work emotionally.
Tate comes across as so blatantly overcompensating for his insecurities. I'm amazed that anyone would look up to him when he seems so immature
Thank you Kirk as always! Great topic to be discussing👍🏼
Dr Kirk your level of insight, compassion and understanding is both fascinating AND a wonderful example to us all, thank you thank you thank you for this series!!! 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
It's sad that men look up to him. Men are already lonely and this will make them even more lonely
Thank you for this. It is very interesting to watch
Unfortunately, the part where he is openly sniggering at her is surprisingly familiar to me. I must’ve had a similar encounter, or even series of encounters as a young person. It kind of throws one into the position of trying to curry favor, especially as a people-pleaser.
Nowadays I’d be asking him to elaborate on his encounters with the police, yes, on the first date. Then warn friends about him.
Knowing his history with the Romanian police adds a lot more depth to what he’s really saying here 😳
What was his history with the Romanian police? X
He denies it, the the Romanian police say he was raided and detained on charges of human trafficking.
He’s publicly said that how he earned his money was convincing women he dated to become cam girls on a platform he hosted. So, you can see why the police might get the idea that he might be forcing women into doing things they didn’t actually want to do
@@secret_badass Oh wow that's crazy stuff! Reading that I'm sure there were some ladies who didn't really want to do it but felt that he had the money and their insecurities made them go through with it to make him like them more.
you and those in the comment if you don't know much about the romania or andrews case better you presenting evidence first than accusing someone or a nation
History of not being convicted right?
Question: if telling guys that their worth isn't decided by these harmful messages and they don't have to be these things doesn't resonate with them, what can we do to help them? Is there a way that we can actually reach people like this?
I think teaching appropriate social skills with women and each other helps. I'm convinced kids need dating skills lessons in school - at least as far as being respectful and how consent works.
I am just fascinated listening to you. You hit the nail on the head sir. 👏🏻🍀
He's so violent with woman, he's so typical in my heart from abusive insecure partners or misogynistic men...thank good this girl is too smart and saw every flag waving 🤦♂️🙅♂️🏳🚩🚨🚨🚨run beautiful lady he is dangerous...I've met men like that before ...it's a fast talking control establish and belittle ...
10:35 any defense lawyer will tell you, you don't answer the police even when you're innocent because what you say can and will be used against you, never for you.
These ppl living in a bubble..far removed for actuality….
Okay but this woman
1. is not an officer
2. is on a date
3. was asked a non-incriminating question.
@@avapilsen lol it wasn’t a date it’s set up to give exposure to different ppl…on the platforms
@@hyuugafan2 still 1 and 2 are valid points
@@avapilsen the question is: a very innocent man, would he just answer the police? And she says yes, if he's innocent. That's what I'm responding to
Consistently loving your videos, thank youuu
It’s so refreshing watching your videos and how poignantly you speak about this issue and community. I tried to watch the interview and read through the comments and it was very disheartening. They all seemed to be reinforcing his “gotcha” speech where a conversation is just a way to slam and shame the person you’re speaking to. So thank you for clarify and teaching.
I just researched who this guy is and it looks like he has recently been permanently banned from social media platforms, along with a police raid that I haven't looked into yet, according to headlines.
Not sure what is true or false yet.
I think everybody missed the point that this wasn't a date for Andrew. The whole thing is marketing for his brand. He used to work as a salesman and he seems highly skilled at it. A part of this is an act to get more customers for his "Hustler's University" product. He's selling a lifestyle that certain men want.
He's SO SCARED AND INSECURE. After 30 minutes, all of a sudden he doesn't answer open ended questions 🤣🤣🤣🤣 More like: word salad, I know I'm not a good partner so let me distract her
Yesss !!!!
Thanks! That series of andrew Tate is so good! I am working hard to see and transform myself to not only believe every men is this way.. well I knew it.. but weirdly I attract not so ok guys so this is great to hear from you.. !! I take it in!
I'm hurt by the claim that men only look for beautiful women. I'm neither ugly nor very beautiful - it's not about that. It's that I work so much to be successful. Not because I have to but because it's what makes me happy. But I feel like men don't care about that part of me at all. They are only after the most beautiful woman. I put it very black and white to make a point. I also have other values. I intrinsically care for a better world. I have really good ideas. So I am working on my ideal self not only on a social status level but on an intellectual level and I have the biggest heart. But it doesn't seem to matter. You just skipping that part feels like you agree with Andre Tate on that, Dr. Honda. That makes me even more worried.
I just thought, would a dating site without photos ever work?? That would be an interesting experiment.
I thought it was very interesting that Dr H didn't pick up on this at all. He constantly disregards the pressures that Andrew's beliefs put on women while pointing out the injustice of the pressures it puts on men. Andrew seems to say attractive women have it the best by far, then 'high value' men, then 'weak men' and leaves out any mention of other women, while trying to point to the injustice men face and how easy women have it. It's hilarious. But I felt a bit unvouched for in these videos.
@@qwr742 Starting at 5:20 in reaction video #2 he starts talking about how both genders are under pressure, and at 5:40 he starts talking about how you could say women are even under more pressure than men to have perfect bodies, teeth, faces, skin, everything.
And to Lara, I feel your pain, but you have to be careful not to fall into the same mindset that some men have. Saying all men only care about is beauty would be like me saying the only thing women care about is money. Sure, there are some men out there that only care about beauty, and some women that only care about money, but we can't think everyone from a particular gender feels a certain way. There are a lot of beautiful women out there that are very ugly on the inside, and for me, that ugly inside makes me want nothing to do with them.
@@qwr742 I agree. Thank you for your response. Maybe Dr. Honda just hasn't got the time to stop at every point of the videos he's commenting and just picks the parts that he is "triggered" by the most. I'm sure he would have a really good answer to our concerns if he could respond.
@@laragollan9453i mean you look pretty cute to me I'll date you
I really appreciate you covering this topic. I think it is good for the men at risk of falling into the manosphere to hear the flaws of it from another man.
The problem are the mixed messages we are educated by. In school we learn to be „successful“ means to have material stuff, luxury. But we aren‘t told it this way, it‘s more subtle, a bit more hidden. Look at what people we value as successful..
On the other hand we are taught to be fair, empathic, humble etc. and these two goals don‘t go very well together.
I wouldn’t call it mixed messages it’s more like not understanding that two things can exist at the same time.
Amazing content! You've earned a new subscriber
I'm quite happy to notice how I'm shifting more and more into the "it's just ridiculous" reaction with these kind of people and seeing them as an insecure teenager who's just rambling instead of feeling as triggered like I used to feel. Shows me that I really progressed in healing old wounds and traumas. I also don't feel any impulse anymore to try and reason with some people and try to show them how distorted their views are because it's usually fruitless and I can spend my time in much more pleasant ways than interacting with them and I don't need to put myself through this. Let them swim in their own toxic soup, I have no desire to be dragged in.
So is this point of view for ALL women or just the women he finds physically attractive? He keeps saying “Hot” women. 🧐
“Another thing to think about in terms of what’s going on inside of someone is the way that they make you feel. If they belittle you, if they make you feel small, they probably feel small on the inside. If they make you feel stupid, they probably feel stupid. If they make you feel unattractive, they probably feel unattractive on the inside.”
100%. Projective identification helps me to understand this dynamic as a therapist. Clients project intolerable feelings onto others through their interactions. This was a huge insight in my training.
Tate sounds like he read a few wattpad/romance novels and thought he could act like the male lead but completely missed the point that makes the bad guy/villain atractive and lovable.
Looks
he's SO emotionally and socially DEAF. SHES LITERALLY TELLING HIM WHAT SHE LIKES AND HE CONSTANTLY DENIES HER REALITY
He doesn't care, as he's assuming he knows better than her
Have you actually watched Chian? She's the stereotype of "women don't know what they want". In one episode with Castillo she says it's a red flag he doesn't involve his mother's opinion the relationship. With Ed, she said it was a red flag he did and that he is a mamas boy. Same question.
It's a lack of self control to have sex on the first date. But it's liberating for a woman to have a body count of +50 😂
It’s also rude to insinuate people only live with their parents bc their life is a wreck. There’s infinite reasons a person might live at home
Like rent is expensive as hell. And I cant afford law school and an apartment at the same time.
You can almost " smell"the fear in Andrew
gosh thanks for this.
Love your "yammering and yammering" as you call it 😁
Dr Honda, if you aren't triggered by him yet, wait until you get to the part where he says he thinks women are men's property
New shirt idea: "Quote unquote 'Back That Up'"
I’d love to see her reaction when she gets to see and hear his side of this. Scary stuff.
All of this talk of police and prisons from Tate makes me giggle now. I hope they keep you locked up for a long time Tatey
Was this filmed before or after his legal troubles began? The timeline could very much inform his statement about an innocent man not speaking to the police.
What difference does it make?
@@AlissaSss23 a very obvious one?
I just had a thought: who would I ask for help if stuff got really serious? Like if I faced a threat from bad people that don’t understand pretty words? And what kind of man should I be to be able to deal with such threats? Does it matter if I can fight, shoot and perform extreme driving because I was insecure my whole life if I still actually have those skills?
It’s very pleasant to call such men insecure until stuff gets serious.
I came to a conclusion that it is ok to feel weak and insecure if you really are because it’s just an adequate representation of the world around you. It’s better to see this and have the drive to become stronger than hide the head in the sand and stay weak while feeling secure until it’s too late.
why won't he take those damn sunglasses off, sitting at a table talking to another person, so rude
He has retina eye damage
There is value to the analysis. The more interesting conversation is there one we’ll never hear - it is 40 years later for this individual and they will either have become a bit stranger or have had an epiphany about the nuances in life.
Man I love your attitude Doc. I feel so much better having listened to you talk about Andrew, so thank you. I have had an attitude shift as these red pill men trigger me even though I am very much attracted big strong men (well was when I was young) but not a domineering man.
Dr. Honda’s hair looks so cute!
Your analyses on these clips are so fucking brilliant. Everything you say is exactly right.
I think it was interesting that you brought up that listening to him isn’t triggering to you because you’ve maybe felt similar things that he is saying before or at least that you’ve heard people say it. I think that might be something that many men seem to relate too when it comes to him. If you look at the reactions on people online when it comes to him being deplatformed, it seems the majority of men say that it’s a free speak issue and don’t find it a problem what he was advocating for, while the majority of women find it appalling and dangerous, but overall incredibly hard to listen to. I think a lot of men find “some of his points true” and agree with him more than they’d like to admit so it scares them personally seeing him punished for it. He perfectly embodies the kind of guy I try desperately to stay away from, and hearing him talk over and belittle is definitely hard to listen too. I think you come from the perspective of having helped men like him before while many of us find it absolutely impossible to reason with him, mostly because he doesn’t think we deserve to be listened too, but also because hearing things that deep down are true scare him, especially from a woman, only makes him dig an even deeper hole so he doesn’t have to face himself.
2:30 - 6:50
The things you said about boys, masculinity, society, the reason why manosphere is so popular - this would be a great tiktok! Condense it a bit, and I think it could become viral
5:50
Thank you! This is an amazing point that is so obvious yet so many seem to ignore in favor of a brute force “quick fix”.
Merely “canceling”/deplatforming Tate and people like him doesn’t solve the underlying problem that spawned his movement. Instead it just kicks the can down the road, and worst of all, it more deeply entrenches the idea that he and his ilk are in the right and society is just afraid of the truth.
What’s worse is that there are so many people who aren’t just reacting with knee jerk “make the bad man go away” sentiment.
So many people actually believe brute force canceling to be the best option for addressing the issue instead of the uncomfortable but necessary investigation as to what spawned all of this.
Perfect commentary
I'd say he's being evasive because he knows he isn't actually a good partner and is only interested in appearing to be in order to get what HE wants. He can't deliver substance or a be genuine partner and he knows that... It's also projection, using a cop/criminal dynamic reveals how he sees dating, a fundamentally adversarial relationship with an imbalance of power. He can either be the cop or the criminal and there's no other possibility in his mind.
"Where love reigns there is no will to power." And when it doesn't, all your left with is these ego based power games. He's really showing is hand as incapable of actually engaging emotionally, which is the whole point of relationships. So his inferiority is motivating him to be really grandiose as a smokescreen.